Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Strap yourself in for lots of kinky and open dialogue from a Woman who has experience with Pro-Domming and the BDSM Lifestyle. Her live-in chaste sissy sub joins in on some of the open discussions involving kink, chastity, BDSM and what it means to be a good Domme and sub.
Are you are drawn to BDSM & wondered why? Do the dynamics in a D/s relationship, intrigue you? Do you feel the submissive cravings, but cannot express that in your current relationship, or as a single person? Or, are you a female dominant and want to explore that powerful side of yourself? Does the concept of control & mental power exchange, wet your intellectual interest? Maybe you are currently in the BDSM scene and fighting to find joy. Do you have a D/s relationship but need to understand how to successfully satisfy your partner? I have the answers and many stories to share.
It is high time that I share My enriching journey, as a proud Female Dominant. I have been a Lifestyle Domme, for 10+ years & have met 100s of submissives. These, have served Me, looked up to Me & TAUGHT ME so many things about the human mind & its willingness to obey. In those thrilling years, I have learnt the delicate balance between a submissive mind and his/her body and the role I play. My knowledge + personal stories are rich with secrets, for submissives & Dommes.
I specialize in chastity, Femdom, crossdressers, humiliation play, emasculation and have experience in ABDL/DL, E-stimulation, urethral sounds, the mind games that make a Sadist so powerful and the vast Dungeon tools + tricks, that make up a High Protocol, BDSM Dungeon. Consent & physical safety will be discussed. The psychological and mental health aspects of BDSM will be discussed.
BDSM scratches so many mental itches & there are always reasons for those cravings. There will be cautionary tales, that you can learn from. There will also be much to realize, from the beauty that overflows, within the BDSM Community.
I will take your hand in Mine & we will navigate through the problems, questions & curiosities. Even if your day-to-day is vanilla, you deserve to explore your desires.
Maybe you want to understand someone who lives in the BDSM world or unearth your own curiosity? When you harness your creativity & mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. This is discussed, in Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”. In Chapter 11, “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation” he says, “The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. “ Yes, this info-gem, is in a “get rich” book!
If you do not have a Mentor, Goddess, Domme or Queen, you have found One now! Let Me be your Teacher, disciplinarian, mentor and queen! If you learn anything from My stories and knowledge, know that what I say, is about loving yourself and that you can do anything. My purpose is to take the misunderstanding OUT of BDSM and those who enjoy fetishes that others may not understand. I want submissives and Dommes, to succeed with ease and pleasure.
BDSM is becoming more mainstream. People are realizing their sexual potential, beyond simple sex. Power Exchange in relationships is such a satisfying way to engage. Any variety of D/s relationships can provide stimulation that surpasses Society's idea of how it should look or be. You will learn with Me, as I take you through the journeys of the mind and soul of the submissives that I control/led and what methods I use, to become the best Domme, that I can be.
There is no limit, to success. As I said, in the beginning, if you can harness your creativity and mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. Enjoy and rate the episodes, if you have a moment. Sincerely, Chastity Queen "Chastity is freedom!"
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Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
A Dream Estate for Crossdressers: The Queen's Vision for a Liberating Sanctuary
Dreams have power, especially when they've been nurtured for over fifteen years. Join Chastity Queen as she unveils her most cherished vision – creating a countryside Femdom Manor where crossdressers and submissives can escape societal expectations and truly be themselves.
The dream unfolds with remarkable detail: a sprawling country estate with separate wings for the Queen and her sissy slaves, weekend retreats for professionals seeking liberation from their structured lives, and a renovated barn transformed into an elite dungeon space. Every aspect has been thoughtfully considered, from color-coded maid uniforms to privacy contracts, from specialized play areas to grand meals.
What makes this vision particularly fascinating is its historical foundation. Chastity Queen draws additional inspiration from Casa Susanna, a groundbreaking 1950s-60s retreat that provided safe haven for crossdressers during an intensely conformist era. Recently featured in an art exhibition, this historical precedent proves that such sanctuaries aren't merely fantasies – they've existed before and fulfilled profound human needs.
The emotional core of this episode emerges as Chastity Queen reflects on the painful contrast between her liberated mindset and her financial limitations. COVID-19 devastated her previous Kink house and savings, leaving her dream seemingly out of reach. Yet her passion remains undimmed as she articulates why such spaces matter: they celebrate diversity, creativity, and open-mindedness in a world increasingly hostile to gender diversity and sexual freedom.
This isn't just about personal pleasure – it's about creating essential sanctuaries where people can explore their authentic selves without judgment. Whether you identify with alternative lifestyles or simply believe in freedom of expression, this episode challenges you to imagine a more accepting world. Connect with Chastity Queen at chastityqueen1@gmail.com if you're inspired to help transform this vision from dream to reality.
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Speaker 1:So today I want to share with you one of my personal dreams. I talked about this with somebody the other day and they said that would be an amazing experience. They said that would be an amazing experience, so I decided it's probably best if I share that with my followers and my fans. This dream is something that I have thought of, dreamt of for a very long time, I would say. As I began my journey as a dom over 15 years ago, it was already in the forefront of my mind, and the dream I have still remains very strong in me. And what my dream is is to have a location, a private location, preferably outside of city limits, in the country, where I have a house and I have a wing, and the one wing is my queen wing and the other wing would be my sissy slave wing. Now, the purpose of having this home would be so that men who have a busy Monday to Friday can come and visit and I would host meals and I would have my live-in slaves, who are there 24-7, assist in preparing for these weekend events. And I would preferably have them weekend events and I would preferably have them pretty much every weekend, maybe minus one or two a year just to unwind myself and take in some solitude, depending, you know, depending. I would have to depend on a lot of things, but that would be my, be my dream, and I would have a head maid, basically a head sissy maid or a head slave who would be sissies, that would be in the house and that would be regularly reported to me before my evening in my room. So there would be many different rules and I would have some very specific bedtimes, chores and expectations of my slaves and sissies and my head maid would be definitely in charge of enforcing that, of enforcing that the rules would be very clear. Contracts would be signed before a sissy came in to be a full-time live-in slave and if they did not abide by the rules of the house then they would be given some notice and they would be moving out. They would be given some notice and they would be moving out. I would expect that the vetting process would be quite astringent and I would be very particular about who would enter in as a 24-7 live-in slave. There probably would only be a small handful. There probably would only be a small handful, and the remainder of visitors would be on weekends, long weekends. Some might join during the week on a specific day or event, and I would also hold parties.
Speaker 1:So, on the property, my vision is some sort of a barn or a cottage that would be suitable for BDSM events, maybe a makeshift barn that has been turned into a dungeon space with various stalls, and so when I say stalls, I would say taking the existing animal stalls and, of course, renovating completely, but keeping some of those in place for caged slavery, for different types of fetishes, different scenes, different needs. Scenes, different needs, and for those who want to be playing in pony play or in puppy play, it would be suitable for that. I would have an area for ABDLs as well and it would be a lot softer, of course, padded and comfy and cribs and the whole nine yards basically, and those would be extremely elite parties and, of course, I would be the main dom of this property and I would be in charge, so everybody would be reporting to me. If I want privacy and I do not want to engage, my wing would be exactly that very private, and I could enjoy some of the slaves that will provide me my sexual needs, my physical pampering, my cooking. They could do my pleasure needs would be met, basically, and so the sissies would be there to facilitate their desire to be dressed as sissies, but they would be there as maids as well, and there would be an expectation of uniforms being ironed crisp and clean. There would be a specific uniform expected. I would have color coding for each of the sissies, and this would enable us to keep all of the uniforms organized and in their right place for the right sissy. So that is something that I would negotiate with each and every individual.
Speaker 1:So you know what is the quandary for me. This has been a dream of mine for a long time, and at one point I had a home that I rented. It was relatively private, but it was not on the outskirts of town, it was just a little bit too close for comfort. So I was able to have a dungeon and have one person in at a time. My live-in slave bunny was there with me, but to turn that into my full-on sissy estate was very unrealistic. It truly was. You know, it's difficult when you incorporate a lot of people within one home and there can be people rubbing each other the wrong way, rubbing each other the wrong way. Everybody needs a certain amount of privacy, of relaxation, and you don't want to be like sardines in a can, basically.
Speaker 1:And so my vision is of a place that is facilitating, you know, a room for each of my sissy maids and slaves, as well as a suite for the queen, and then on the property, it would be the event space. So that is my vision. And you know, my kink house was wonderful, don't get me wrong. I loved it and I could host parties. I did have a few small parties. They were wonderful and quite successful, but I always had to worry about, you know, the next door neighbors and about the level of the music and the level of this and what they might see, what they might question, and that's something that, to me, is not a plus.
Speaker 1:I really do need privacy and I tell you, the men that would come to my dream manor, my estate, my sissy manor, will require privacy. There's no doubt about it, and I want to respect that. I want to facilitate the absolute freedom of coming to visit me, the queen, and the only way that that can be done is by having a space that is somewhat removed from city limits. So I'm sure it makes sense, as you listen to this, why I think this way. You know, I love an area where we can all be laying out in the sun completely naked. Completely naked or I'm dressed in a bathing suit and a nice little sunrobe and all of my slaves only have collars and cuffs and they're laying on a towel on the grass. So those types of scenarios for me are exhilarating to think about. I want that. This is my dream. I can't imagine anything better in my life than to have that experience be something that's long-term term. And you know, a few years ago and I had my desire for this fantasy, basically since before, something happened and it really blew me away. I don't know if any of you went to take a look at this exhibit or knew about it, or maybe you haven't heard of this, but there was an exhibit at the Art Gallery of Ontario and it was from December 23rd 2023 to June 16th 2024. And it was called Casa Susana. You can look it up online here, but I'll give you a little exhibition overview so you can see what I saw. And it took my breath away because I thought that is my dream. It's actually been lived out. It's actually been lived out and it just made me want it even more. So I'll read this to you.
Speaker 1:From the mid-1950s to the late 1960s, a network of crossdressers found refuge in the Catskills region of New York State. Susanna with her wife Marie created safe spaces at two modest resorts for guests to freely crossdress en femme. At a time of strictly defined gender roles, guests use photography to build their femme identities and their network. These snapshots candid, playful and at times staged, blending family and fashion photography conventions have since come to be known collectively as the Casa Susana Photographs. Casa Susana brings together for the first time three collections of photographs created by this network of crossdressers, from the AGO's holdings, from the personal collection of artist Cindy Sherman and from the collection of Betsy Wohlheim. Seen together, these 250 images provide insight into this historically significant crossdressing scene, allowing us to develop an understanding of this world and its connection to the lives of trans and cross-dressing people today. These affirming photographs circulated among cross-dressers by mail as well as in pages of Transvestia, a community magazine, copies of which will also be on view, copies of which will also be on view. The exhibition is accompanied by an illustrated publication that brings together recent research, an expansive selection of photographs and pages of transvestia, adding another important account of the ways photographs have served to build queer communities. Co-published by Editions Textual, it includes essays by co-curators, french photo historian Isabelle Bonnet and AGO curator of photography, sophie Hackett, as well as noted American scholar of trans history, susan Stryker. Casa Susana is co-produced by the Art Gallery of Ontario and the Reconte d'Arlais.
Speaker 1:I don't do very well with accents sometimes, so apologies in advance. You know when you research this and if you're a cross-dresser, I want to say you know the one person that was involved in the exhibit. He was talking or I should say they were talking about cross-dressers and how. The misconception is that all cross-dressers are gay. Being gay is not an issue. Many crossdressers are not.
Speaker 1:They just enjoy connecting with their feminine side, or they enjoy pleasing a femdom and dressing up to please her. Or maybe it is a specific kind of humiliation or emasculation that the man connects with and he feels exhilarated and turned on by. It could be sensation play because of the fabrics and the colors. And you know, I think that creative people are not afraid of pushing the limits of society, pushing their own limits, pushing the limits of gender roles. And these men who do it I absolutely adore, I cannot say it enough, I love them. They're so much fun and it doesn't detract from their masculinity at all, it just enhances who they are. It gives them another dimension that is just so erotic and sexy.
Speaker 1:I mean, that's coming from me, a femdom, you know, a queen, a chastity queen. You know, a mistress, a goddess, all of that. So maybe that's not a shock. A goddess, all of that. So maybe that's not a shock. But you know, for me to have a place like that and to see it explode with joy and freedom of expression would be life altering for me. And you know, as all of you know, I've come from a background where I had to leave a very strict religious upbringing and I could be quite well off at this point. In my big family they don't have worries that way. And if I hadn't turned my back on the terrible, hateful concepts of that religion, if I hadn't turned my back on it, if I had just closed my ears and just accepted it as my family heritage you know tradition then I could be quite wealthy right now. I mean so much so that I could have my own house. And yet I don't my own house and yet I don't.
Speaker 1:So, you know, covid began and my kink house, which I was going to expand over into the outskirts of town. I was going to take everything over there and continue. Covid smashed those dreams. I couldn't have people in to do sessions. It was an absolute disaster. All of my savings were gone, everything was gone. I had to pay my rent still through all of COVID. You know, I had a few of my slaves that assisted me, you know, in chunks here and there, but really, at the end of the day I was left with nothing. And I'm quite grateful for those ones that helped me, because I'd be in debt as well if I didn't have them. So I appreciate it.
Speaker 1:But when I finally had to give my two months notice on that house, I felt that my dreams could never be realized. I moved back in to another home, you know, combined with family, and now I have, you know, my little office here and I have my podcast and I'm on my own. As far as my domination. I do online domination, but I don't have a space, let alone my, my dream, you know. So that's where I'm at.
Speaker 1:I don't know how I will ever get to a place financially where I can have that dream realized. And you know, I know, for some people finances are not an issue. And you know, I know, for some people finances are not an issue, but they're restricted in their minds, you know, maybe in their sexuality, in their abilities to be free. And for me, my mind is open, my mind is free, I'm not restricted. I live a transparently amazing life, a transparently amazing life, but I can't back it up with the finances to bring that dream into reality. And so, hey, if you're out there and you want to help me, send me an email, chastityqueen1 at gmailcom, and that dream could definitely become a reality. I want that.
Speaker 1:I want to have a place where you know men who travel a lot for business and are maybe single or they have a very structured life, need to just go and let their hair down, you know, or put some hair on, put a nice pretty wig on and dress up, and you know, I'd have a box at the front or some you know very specific lockers where you put your man clothes away. That's it, man clothes away, and you go to your room. Or you go to the dressing room, where there's many options, you know, and you pick something to wear and you relax and we have some wine and we talk and we interact with each other and you know there will be no expectations as far as sexuality and you won't have to worry about, you know, is someone going to come on to me and you know everybody's going to have their sexual preference and maybe you'll have a necklace that states that, like you know, different color means a different thing. So you know, if you're bisexual and you're interested in play, then you could wear green and orange, you know. Or if you are just there to relax, it could be yellow or red. If you are just there to relax, it could be yellow or red, and if you are there to explore, it could be purple. Or, you know, if you're gay and you want to play, it's you know, it's another color. So you know all of these things I am thinking about, I've thought about I would have some rules.
Speaker 1:Of course, the first time you come in, I'd have to sit down with you and go through the contract or send you the contract so you could see if you you know are in agreement, and if you are, then you pay your deposit, come on over and you're served. You know, I'll have sissies to cook. I will have sissies to clean. I will have sissies to cook. I will have sissies to clean. I will have sissies to take care of me. There will be a rotation, of course. There will be parties, there will be dances, there will be serious conversations you know roundtable conversations and there will be outdoor fun and bonfires and swimming. You know, if I have a pool, that would be ideal Hot tubs, it's like a resort for the mind where you could just be free.
Speaker 1:And there would be definitely a privacy contract. So everything and anybody who comes into my kink house would be expected to maintain the privacy of not only themselves but others, and there would be penalties if that was infringed upon, so including getting sued, but that's only fair right. There would be reasons for dismissal as well, and anybody that lives in the home with me would have to provide as well. They would have to put their two cents in per se, more than two cents to keep the house flourishing and running very smoothly. You know, I really don't think it's so out there. I think that when you get a property and you have a number of people that are all contributing, I think that could run quite smoothly. There would be definitely a boardroom where I would have conversations with anybody who did not get along, you know, sort of like a board and uh, that that would be done. Maybe a den, maybe I'd I'd have a den. Okay, you two, you're going to meet me in the den at uh 3.30 and we have to have a serious conversation, have a serious conversation. So and my word goes right, because I am the queen and I would be in charge of making these decisions that are not only ethical but fair and that suit everybody. So that's been my dream, I suppose, sort of a Casa Susana type arrangement.
Speaker 1:And you know I love photography. I would be taking photos, I would be setting up areas for that, you know, for posed photos, I would be wanting things pretty creative, artistic. I love to paint, I would probably paint. I love to cook, I would cook, I would cook. And usually I think what we would do is on a Sunday, so before everybody had to go back to their day-to-day, you know, humdrum job, sunday, we'd have a you know, late afternoon meal, really nice meal, and sit around the table dressed up and talk about the weekend, and, oh goodness it just to me it sounds like a bit of heaven. It really does. You know, if I vet some other doms and I feel safe, every now and then I could have a guest dom attending to spend the weekend with me in my quarters and assist me with the slaves and sissies who are not only visiting but who live in the house, and that is really my, my dream.
Speaker 1:So I I'm really hoping that at some point this can go from dream to reality. So, as I said, email me chastityqueen1 at gmailcom, but I would not want any strings attached. If I have somebody offering to sponsor me, I would definitely not. They would obviously get a permanent place within that structure, within that home. They really would as my sponsor. So, yeah, reach out, but regardless of what happens, I just want to say that is something that I believe this world needs right now. We need to have respite from oh my goodness, society is just absolutely insane right now. Especially ridiculous.
Speaker 1:The ideas are about people that are trans, people that cross-dress, people that are libertine. You know, live free. I don't get it. We're not hurting anybody. You know we do this in our private time and then, when we are trans, we're transitioning to another gender. I mean, that's not anything to do with sex, that just has everything to do with gender. You know, and really, whether you be male to female or female to male, I mean, who are you hurting, my God? But can you imagine if you knew you had a place in Canada? You can come visit with Chastity Queen and with open arms, like welcomed open arms.
Speaker 1:I am a loving, kind soul. Art, as would all of the guests in my home, and they would not be allowed to enter my home unless they agreed to everything, the ethics, the openness of everything under the sun. That is LGTBQ2S+. Really, you know, we are artists, we are creative, we think outside of the box. I find that we are more intelligent because we are not close-minded, we are not single-minded, we are open, and this, this is what the world needs. It doesn't threaten anything, nothing, absolutely nothing. It makes our planet diverse, beautiful.
Speaker 1:So I wanted to share with you my dream and I hope and I pray, even though I pray to a different kind of God. I pray to the universe, I pray to the goddesses, I pray to love, I pray to beauty, I pray to acceptance and I pray that one day this dream of mine will be realized and I can take you all under my wings like a beautiful, comforting mother goose and give you a place to be so. Thank you for listening, and have a wonderful day. Remember you have an ally in me and I love you. Bye for now, thank you.