Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Strap yourself in for lots of kinky and open dialogue from a Woman who has experience with Pro-Domming and the BDSM Lifestyle. Her live-in chaste sissy sub joins in on some of the open discussions involving kink, chastity, BDSM and what it means to be a good Domme and sub.
Are you are drawn to BDSM & wondered why? Do the dynamics in a D/s relationship, intrigue you? Do you feel the submissive cravings, but cannot express that in your current relationship, or as a single person? Or, are you a female dominant and want to explore that powerful side of yourself? Does the concept of control & mental power exchange, wet your intellectual interest? Maybe you are currently in the BDSM scene and fighting to find joy. Do you have a D/s relationship but need to understand how to successfully satisfy your partner? I have the answers and many stories to share.
It is high time that I share My enriching journey, as a proud Female Dominant. I have been a Lifestyle Domme, for 10+ years & have met 100s of submissives. These, have served Me, looked up to Me & TAUGHT ME so many things about the human mind & its willingness to obey. In those thrilling years, I have learnt the delicate balance between a submissive mind and his/her body and the role I play. My knowledge + personal stories are rich with secrets, for submissives & Dommes.
I specialize in chastity, Femdom, crossdressers, humiliation play, emasculation and have experience in ABDL/DL, E-stimulation, urethral sounds, the mind games that make a Sadist so powerful and the vast Dungeon tools + tricks, that make up a High Protocol, BDSM Dungeon. Consent & physical safety will be discussed. The psychological and mental health aspects of BDSM will be discussed.
BDSM scratches so many mental itches & there are always reasons for those cravings. There will be cautionary tales, that you can learn from. There will also be much to realize, from the beauty that overflows, within the BDSM Community.
I will take your hand in Mine & we will navigate through the problems, questions & curiosities. Even if your day-to-day is vanilla, you deserve to explore your desires.
Maybe you want to understand someone who lives in the BDSM world or unearth your own curiosity? When you harness your creativity & mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. This is discussed, in Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”. In Chapter 11, “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation” he says, “The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. “ Yes, this info-gem, is in a “get rich” book!
If you do not have a Mentor, Goddess, Domme or Queen, you have found One now! Let Me be your Teacher, disciplinarian, mentor and queen! If you learn anything from My stories and knowledge, know that what I say, is about loving yourself and that you can do anything. My purpose is to take the misunderstanding OUT of BDSM and those who enjoy fetishes that others may not understand. I want submissives and Dommes, to succeed with ease and pleasure.
BDSM is becoming more mainstream. People are realizing their sexual potential, beyond simple sex. Power Exchange in relationships is such a satisfying way to engage. Any variety of D/s relationships can provide stimulation that surpasses Society's idea of how it should look or be. You will learn with Me, as I take you through the journeys of the mind and soul of the submissives that I control/led and what methods I use, to become the best Domme, that I can be.
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Thank you for tuning in to Diaries of a Dom, plus questions answered with me, chastity Queen. So I hope you're having a fantastic day today. I certainly am, and before I begin my episode, please do check out my link tree backward slash chastityqueen. Or you can go on to my podcast here for all of my affiliate information and social media platforms. So, by all means, go to FetLife and add me as a friend, and if you enjoy ABDL, you can go to my mummy, celeste, and see me there. I'm quite popular on both profiles, so do go and visit me, and if you're into chastity, you know which one to choose. And if you are into the other ABDL, that can also include chastity. So your choice yes or both. So, speaking of chastity, don't forget, if you need a device, go to lockedinlustcom and you can use my promo code for 15% off, and that is stackable, and I do know that right now there are some discounts on the site. So, by all means, use my promo code and get additional percentages off of your purchases. So do that today, if you can. Thank you again for joining me today. I want to talk a little bit about the thing that turns my crank the most, and that is chastity? Yes, so I hope that you have a device, and if you don't, you must get one. If you do have and many of my listeners do then make sure it's on for me and lock it for me.
Speaker 1:One of my first relationships within the BDSM world, and that was an exciting time for me because I was starting to explore many different sides of myself and of others and learning a lot about the different facets that are involved in being in that community, in that world of BDSM. It's a constant display of new things, exciting visuals, and for me, chastity was extremely intriguing. It was a completely different concept from what I was raised in and the only thing that I was aware of at the time, before BDSM was I guess you could call it regular vanilla sex, and that was it. So chastity was such an exciting concept for me that when I met my first sissy and they showed me their chastity device, it was thrilling to see a man's cock put into its own prison. That's what I want to talk about today, about the things that make chastity exhilarating to me the thrill of seeing a man's cock all tied up or locked up in metal or resin or plastic or leather and seeing that lock tightly clicking shut.
Speaker 1:Nothing could be better. And you might wonder, well, why is that Queen? Why and you might wonder well, why is that Queen? Why? It's a power exchange. I take your manhood, your masculinity, your ability to exert your dominance and I cage it, I restrain it, I deny it, I put it in its place, submissive, a slave to my pleasure. Yours is last.
Speaker 1:What could be better for a woman who identifies as a female dominant, who is searching for slaves and submissives to look up at her and look up to her as their superior? It's easy for me. I have one slave I like to tie up. I love to bind him up as he is locked in chastity, tease him, deny him, whip him into an absolute frenzy.
Speaker 1:Do you experience that when you're locked up in chastity? Do you experience that feeling of desire that is untouchable? There's nothing you can do. And if you've promised to stay chaste for me now, why would you disobey? The only thing that would come between your obedience and the potential to disobey would be your own weak cravings to touch yourself. And when and if you unlocked after you fulfilled your lusty desires, there would be a sense of disappointment. I can guarantee you that. And how would you admit that to me? Would you admit that to me? And when you told me what would be your punishment? I'll tell you. You can risk a lot by disobeying a queen so much. You could risk losing her trust in you, losing her trust in you, losing her faith in you.
Speaker 1:You know, I see potential in those men that lock up. I see potential in you. I see the ability to restrain yourself to harness the horny. Harness the horny to keep it in check. And I know it's not easy. But you must continue. You must push yourself because there is an awakening that happens when you go beyond what you think is even possible. But you must set goals and when you achieve the goal you must try to surpass that goal. For me and for yourself. You see, of course, primarily it's going to be about wanting to make me happy. That will be your driving force. But there is a sense of satisfaction when you can reach a goal and achieve more. I mean, isn't that the key to success in life, really? So how can that be any different in your pants?
Speaker 1:So many men walk around and you can tell they're habitual masturbators. I mean, I can tell it's embarrassing to consider that a woman could look at you and know that you just masturbated. Well, I can, I see it. I see the men. I can I see it. I see the men.
Speaker 1:The majority of men have no restraint and I'll tell you, it becomes somewhat boring. There's only so much of the same porn you can look at. There's only so much time wasted sitting on the toilet jerking yourself off or in the shower. Really, what's the purpose? You say, oh, stress relief, or I just like to do it, it's a habit. That's fine. I mean, you can let your body lead you like it has control of you, like it has a leash around your cock. It has control of you, like it has a leash around your cock and your body dictates what you do. But what about your mind? Isn't it time to harness that and take control? I certainly do. I certainly take control of my own body 100% and because of that I can take control of yours, and I will and I do, and I don't have to convince you that this is good for you. You know that I'm right.
Speaker 1:And if you've never locked up before, I tell you you don't know what you're missing. Your level of horniness hasn't even reached its peak until you try chastity. You don't even know what is in store for your body when you begin this journey. Initially it'll be experimentation, curiosity. Maybe you want to enhance your experience with your partner, your desire to play, to try something new, to maybe give the control over to your partner. But I'm telling you, when you do, and even when it's self-imposed chastity and you follow me and you start to experiment with your body and you start to experiment with its limits, you realize it is infinite. Seriously, you can reach higher and higher and higher only if you push yourself to those levels. Continue pushing. I want you to try, I want you to embrace it.
Speaker 1:Most of the men that are trepidatious about it, the minute they put that cage on, they realize that they can harness a different part of their mind, a different part of their mind, different side. They go from being in full control to having no control. Their alpha turns into sub and suddenly the desire to please a woman or their partner, any gender, doubles, triples, just from being denied, restrained, feeling that cage on your cock, walking around in public. Nobody knows you have it on, but you can feel it and you know what it represents and I know what it represents. You know we need to live a little in life.
Speaker 1:I go out and I observe people. Maybe I'll go to a coffee shop and do some writing or some art and I sit and I look up from my laptop and I observe the people around me. And I observe the women. I observe the men. I'm seeing more and more keys around the necks of women. I'm seeing more men following behind their partner looking submissive. It's a clue for me.
Speaker 1:I often say to myself I wonder if they're wearing chastity. Many times I know that they're wearing chastity. You can just tell. Many times I know that they're wearing chastity, you can just tell. These men look more alive, also much more moldable, and for me as a femdom, that's a turn-on. You know, I suppose I'm somewhat of a predator sexually and for me the the hunt is to find a man who I can control, and it's even more challenging when it's one that is an alpha man and surprisingly enough, the men that have the courage to try it often are alpha.
Speaker 1:I'm not saying that submissive men don't want to give it a go. Of course they do. They're a little bit more trepidatious at moments. At times it takes a little bit more trepidatious at moments. At times it takes a little nudging, but when you tell an alpha man that he needs to push himself sexually for you and that will be a turn-on for you, he's so quick to sign up. Really, we need to tap into different sides of our minds and if you're submissive, you can push yourself further.
Speaker 1:If that is what you love to be or that is what you have become, maybe you've already taken the journey from being more alpha in life to realizing you need downtime, you need to relent, to give in, to let your mind have a break from the weight of the world on your shoulders. I mean, hey, let's be honest, society expects a lot from the male gender. It's not fair, really it isn't. But history completely repeats itself, doesn't it? It really does. So time to say to yourself look, fuck it. I might be 100% alpha in my day-to-day life, but it's time to see how the other side lives and you can chalk it up to play. You can just say, hey, I'm just playing. You know I'm an experimentalist.
Speaker 1:When I first started into BDSM, that was the way for me to open up doors. I told myself oh, I'm just experimenting. That was like unlocking the most amazing options for me Experimentation, being an exhibitionist or watching others opens doors. Watching others opens doors. Be open-minded, that's what opens doors. So when I first experienced chastity with my sissy my first sissy I was quickly hooked.
Speaker 1:And the minute I saw it, the minute I experienced it and the minute we started to play, I could feel the difference in the harnessed drive that that sissy had for me. It absolutely went up a notch, maybe five notches. I could see the difference. I could feel the difference in the craving through denial and he's not able to get what he wants. The satisfaction is overwhelming. For a femdom, it was for me, and it hasn't stopped. For a femdom, it was for me and it hasn't stopped.
Speaker 1:I don't even need a cock. Maybe that's a shock that I don't need a cock, but you know what? I don't apologize for that and it doesn't mean that I don't desire it. It means that I don't need it. There are other ways that I can be pleased and for me it's psychological. I'd rather tie you up, I'd rather spank you. I'd rather tease and deny you. I'd rather dress you up, tease and deny you. I'd rather dress you up for my amusement. I'd rather hold the keys or hold the combination to the little lockbox. You have those keys in. It's the power exchange that I enjoy, and, at the end of the day, isn't that what sex is about? That I enjoy, and, at the end of the day, isn't that what sex is about? It's about who's going to dominate and who's going to submit. Right, I don't want to submit, I want to dominate, and I know that there are many of men willing to submit to me. The more the better. So, enjoy your cage, put it on, push your limits. Thank you for listening. Bye for now. Thank you.