Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Strap yourself in for lots of kinky and open dialogue from a Woman who has experience with Pro-Domming and the BDSM Lifestyle. Her live-in chaste sissy sub joins in on some of the open discussions involving kink, chastity, BDSM and what it means to be a good Domme and sub.
Are you are drawn to BDSM & wondered why? Do the dynamics in a D/s relationship, intrigue you? Do you feel the submissive cravings, but cannot express that in your current relationship, or as a single person? Or, are you a female dominant and want to explore that powerful side of yourself? Does the concept of control & mental power exchange, wet your intellectual interest? Maybe you are currently in the BDSM scene and fighting to find joy. Do you have a D/s relationship but need to understand how to successfully satisfy your partner? I have the answers and many stories to share.
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I specialize in chastity, Femdom, crossdressers, humiliation play, emasculation and have experience in ABDL/DL, E-stimulation, urethral sounds, the mind games that make a Sadist so powerful and the vast Dungeon tools + tricks, that make up a High Protocol, BDSM Dungeon. Consent & physical safety will be discussed. The psychological and mental health aspects of BDSM will be discussed.
BDSM scratches so many mental itches & there are always reasons for those cravings. There will be cautionary tales, that you can learn from. There will also be much to realize, from the beauty that overflows, within the BDSM Community.
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Maybe you want to understand someone who lives in the BDSM world or unearth your own curiosity? When you harness your creativity & mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. This is discussed, in Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”. In Chapter 11, “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation” he says, “The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. “ Yes, this info-gem, is in a “get rich” book!
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BDSM is becoming more mainstream. People are realizing their sexual potential, beyond simple sex. Power Exchange in relationships is such a satisfying way to engage. Any variety of D/s relationships can provide stimulation that surpasses Society's idea of how it should look or be. You will learn with Me, as I take you through the journeys of the mind and soul of the submissives that I control/led and what methods I use, to become the best Domme, that I can be.
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Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Panties, Cages, and the Escape from Masculine Expectations
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Support the show & get subscriber-only content.Freedom lies beyond the boundaries of our assigned gender roles. As your guide on this journey, I delve into the psychological experience of male feminization paired with chastity—a practice that offers men temporary liberation from the weight of masculine expectations.
From our first breath, society places us in boxes. For those assigned male, this means a lifetime of pressure to embody strength, stoicism, and dominance. What happens when these men find safe spaces to set down this burden? Through my years as a Pro and lifestyle Domme, I've witnessed the transformative power of feminization. It's not merely about clothing or accessories, but a spiritual shift that allows men to access parts of themselves society has taught them to suppress.
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Thank you for tuning in. It's Chastity Queen of Diaries of a Dom, plus questions answered. So today, my darling, I want to talk to you about the headspace of feminization with chastity feminization with chastity. Before I get started, for sure, definitely go and follow me and send me a friend request on FetLife. Under chastity-queen.
Speaker 1:I do have a new group that I'm forming and a new society that will blossom out of that. So if you would like to join my crown and cage secret society group on FetLife, by all means do so. I'm going to be taking it from a verbal situation, a group situation on FetLife, into a real life situation where you will get to interact with me, meet with me, but it's going to take a little bit of vetting and that's what I'm currently in that process of doing is watching, waiting and planning. So as I do that, I expect to see more people joining and then I can start to plan further as I carry on. I'm excited about it. You can also follow me on Mommy Celeste if you enjoy AB or DL. I do have that definite side to me. In general, I'm a dom, so I fall under many different categories, including mommy dom. Oh yes, if I can control you, I will, no matter what your fetish is, and it's super, super fun for me. So please do join me on either Mommy Celeste or my Chastity Queen, or one or the other, whichever you prefer. No judgment here, not with me. You can also go to Locked in Lust and purchase a Vice device that rhymes and anything else on the website for 15% off using my promo code CHASTITYQUEEN. All caps, all one word, and when you do that it's stackable. And when you do that it's stackable. So if there are any other discounts happening, you should be able to get the additional 15% off, and if there are any issues, just go to Locked in Lust and send them a quick message.
Speaker 1:So today I just want to talk about something that I am dwelling on quite a bit the past, I don't know month. I'm thinking a lot about the reasons for my entry into domination and also feminization. Feminization and why it's so multi-layered but so crucial in a lot of men's lives, especially with so many stigmas about men dressing in feminine clothing. Oftentimes you'll see, even on a movie, a man being caught dressing up in his wife's outfits, or maybe you know a butler or somebody at a hotel that works there being caught dressed up in heels and pantyhose in one of the hotel rooms and everybody kind of chuckles. But I'd like to wipe away all of the stigma and shame involved in this and I want to get to the crux of what it is, and it's quite simple.
Speaker 1:I've been doing this for a long time. I dressed men up professionally and spanked them and teased them and caged them and denied them and they loved it of manhood and working in their position, maybe in construction or a corporate job, maybe military I had a lot of military men and then suddenly be pushed into that man headspace which I believe begins as soon as a man is born. You pop out of your mother and, if you have a little penis, suddenly all of these expectations fall upon you and you're given a baseball and you know, or a baseball bat and a little catcher's mitt, and you're wearing blue and you've got a little blue bonnet. I mean you're not going to come out of your mother's womb and instantly be handed a baseball bat. But you know what I'm saying? There's these societal norms and it's hey, it's okay. If you want to embrace it and you identify that way, that's great More power to you as a man.
Speaker 1:But what I found is, men would come to me and they wanted to dress up and I had all sorts of fun things boobs and high heels in man sizes, and dresses and wigs and makeup, etc. Etc. You know, oh, hold on, I forgot one very important item and a cage. Because chastity really does serve to remove that penis out of the equation Just for an hour, a couple hours. You know, it really helps you to embrace that flatness between your legs that women walk around every day with and enjoy. Unless you're a woman who wants a dick, you know, and that's all good as well, I will admit, woman who wants a dick, you know, and that's all good as well. I will admit, I do like to wear a strap on to exert some dominance. So there we are.
Speaker 1:But no, you know, getting dressed up, I dress them up, I have a cage on them. I have them do a little modeling poses for me, maybe a little dancing, little strip tease for me. Tease and deny them, call them a girl, treat them like a girl, finger them, play with them, deny them sex, you know, in the penetrative form, and for an hour, maybe two hours. It's a sense of freedom for them. They've jumped into another skin, so to speak. They've stripped off that masculine skin and they've jumped into something that I've put on them and they enjoy it, the freedom of it. They enjoy pleasing me, entertaining me, and when they are In the feminine head space there's a freedom of mind.
Speaker 1:And maybe you have dressed and maybe you haven't dressed, maybe you are simply into chastity, and hey, that's fine. If that's all you want to do, I accept it. But if you've tried on a pair of panties you know silky ones or lacy, tiny little panties, maybe a thong that simple step is freedom. And it sounds strange because it's just a pair of panties. But it's not just a pair of panties. It's a different headspace, it's a different mindset and it's an escape. It's absolutely an escape to freedom. I can speak for myself anyway. There are a lot of freedoms in being feminine and in being able to tap into that femininity and that softer side where men aren't given the opportunity to do that as much as I'd like to see.
Speaker 1:I love to imagine men going into a softer place and giving over control to the feminine divine which is me, or maybe your wife, girlfriend, partner, dom, whatever the case may be. And it's freeing, it's relieving. There's no expectations, the weight is lifted off of your shoulders. I can honestly say that when I would have a session with a man who had a lot of responsibilities in life, he would come in, strip down naked, be collared, be cuffed, come to my chair, sit on the floor as I sat in the chair, and he would tell me about his life. Often you know the pressure, the stress. He came to me for relaxation, for something new, to jump into a different side of his mind. And you know, as I talked to him I learned that being a man is not easy. I mean, living is not easy. Okay, let's be frank. But there are certain things that men face that are a challenge.
Speaker 1:And as a female, I don't just look at all of the feminine and female reasons why my life is so difficult and why men should bow to me. No, I'm not single-minded like that. I'm sorry. How can you be balanced if you only see your side of things? So I learned a lot from men what they feel inside, what they don't verbalize. They verbalized it with me and when I got to a point where the session began and I dressed them up and I started to play with them, everything changed. I could see that weighted blanket completely fall from them.
Speaker 1:And even now, when I, as a lifestyle dom, interact and dress a man, it's not only what I see, but it's what I feel. I can feel a change in them, I can feel calm, I feel joy and, of course, I feel relief. And then I feel happiness because I get to take over where they left off, and they leave off everything when they step in front of me. They do. I'm in charge, I'm in control, and this is what I do.
Speaker 1:And it's more than just putting on a little dress or high heels on a man. Anybody can do that, seriously, if you're open-minded, seriously, if you're open-minded, you can do it. But it has to be more than that. So if you're a dom listening, a female dom, what they're doing with you is sacred. They're giving you something, they're letting the walls down, they're trusting you, you're keeping their secrets, even if those secrets are maybe a fraction of their life. It's that special. So sure, I can dress a man up, but I like to dig deeper. I like to look at the big picture and see what he's doing and what he's becoming. When I'm with him in that moment, and when I'm with him in that moment and I feminize him, he becomes a woman. It's a spiritual transformation. Sure, it's erotic and exciting to do it for both, but there is a deeper level to this and it's a freedom freedom of mind, body, spirit. When you capture that emotion, that feeling, that existence, at that time it's mind-blowing, really.
Speaker 1:I've had men cry, not because they want to be a girl 24-7, but because they can't believe that they embody the thing that they love the most, which is the feminine side. You know, they love strong female power figures. They love it, they serve, they worship, you know. I do want to say one thing A lot of people have this misconception about those who are actually going through the full transformation, or maybe partial transformation, into the female. And while there are lots of trans individuals who choose to be with the opposite gender of what they transform into, which turns into a heterosexual relationship, there are many of the male to females who are lesbian. So think about it, think about those dynamics, think about what a man will do to become what he wants to be, which is not only feminine but complete lesbian, right. And then there's all sorts of variations in between. It's not one or the other. Life just is not black and white. Seriously, it's not.
Speaker 1:While you have some men dressing up for shits and giggles, you know, maybe they do it just on Halloween, just for a laugh, and they maybe like a little bit of humor, or they enjoy a little bit of humiliation. Some men enjoy wearing panties instead of men's briefs because they love the feeling it's a sensation play instead of men's briefs because they love the feeling it's a sensation play. Some men enjoy being close to women, and being close means wearing their clothing. There's more reasons, so many more. Some want to dress up so that they can go and experience different sexual experiences that being dressed as a man will not provide. That's okay too. It's all okay. But what I really want to emphasize is this Feminization is freedom of mind.
Speaker 1:Period. It's freedom of mind, no matter what combination you are in particular, or maybe you've never dressed before and you're curious, try it. It's not going to immediately turn you into something that you don't want to be. No, you are in charge of your experience. Remember that.
Speaker 1:Hey, a female dominant like me, I might take charge and turn you into a woman and you want me to force something upon you, but you still have to make the decision to come to me and have me change you. So essentially you wanted it to begin with, right? If you need me to facilitate and to help you along and be a guide and a trainer, a tutor, I'm there, 100%. You know, last night I got a message on my text and it was a picture of one of my good friends dressed as a sissy no face, just the bottom, black and white Heels, nylons, the works, sitting pretty. I mean, what a great thing for me to see before I go to sleep. Honestly, it makes me happy. And I'll tell you, he's extremely dominant too. He loves to dominate his partner, he's good at it, he's switchy. You know, have some fun in life. Life is so short. Experiment, just once. Try it, come on, you know you want to.
Speaker 1:And chastity just makes the experience, as I said earlier, all that much more feminine, right. If you want to get into a feminine headspace, lock up Now. That being said, chastity isn't all about feminization. So there are, as I said, you know there's different ways to go about things based upon who you are and what you want. You're the curator of your situation.
Speaker 1:Don't freak out if you know that some men wear chastity and they get feminized. You're not going to just immediately catch something like it's contagious, like feminization is contagious, and as soon as you cross dress, then you're going to want to transform and you're going to want to get the surgery and all that. And hey, you might, but a lot of times, whatever, you are the captain of your experience, right, and I'm here to be your female dominant cheerleader. So I hope you enjoyed this. Free your mind, put on some panties today, maybe a dress, maybe go to a store and buy some nylons you know for your partner, maybe go to a store and buy some nylons you know for your partner and then put them on at home for yourself. So thank you for listening and I will be talking to you again. Bye for now, thank you.