Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
Strap yourself in for lots of kinky and open dialogue from a Woman who has experience with Pro-Domming and the BDSM Lifestyle. Her live-in chaste sissy sub joins in on some of the open discussions involving kink, chastity, BDSM and what it means to be a good Domme and sub.
Are you are drawn to BDSM & wondered why? Do the dynamics in a D/s relationship, intrigue you? Do you feel the submissive cravings, but cannot express that in your current relationship, or as a single person? Or, are you a female dominant and want to explore that powerful side of yourself? Does the concept of control & mental power exchange, wet your intellectual interest? Maybe you are currently in the BDSM scene and fighting to find joy. Do you have a D/s relationship but need to understand how to successfully satisfy your partner? I have the answers and many stories to share.
It is high time that I share My enriching journey, as a proud Female Dominant. I have been a Lifestyle Domme, for 10+ years & have met 100s of submissives. These, have served Me, looked up to Me & TAUGHT ME so many things about the human mind & its willingness to obey. In those thrilling years, I have learnt the delicate balance between a submissive mind and his/her body and the role I play. My knowledge + personal stories are rich with secrets, for submissives & Dommes.
I specialize in chastity, Femdom, crossdressers, humiliation play, emasculation and have experience in ABDL/DL, E-stimulation, urethral sounds, the mind games that make a Sadist so powerful and the vast Dungeon tools + tricks, that make up a High Protocol, BDSM Dungeon. Consent & physical safety will be discussed. The psychological and mental health aspects of BDSM will be discussed.
BDSM scratches so many mental itches & there are always reasons for those cravings. There will be cautionary tales, that you can learn from. There will also be much to realize, from the beauty that overflows, within the BDSM Community.
I will take your hand in Mine & we will navigate through the problems, questions & curiosities. Even if your day-to-day is vanilla, you deserve to explore your desires.
Maybe you want to understand someone who lives in the BDSM world or unearth your own curiosity? When you harness your creativity & mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. This is discussed, in Napoleon Hill’s book “Think and Grow Rich”. In Chapter 11, “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation” he says, “The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance. “ Yes, this info-gem, is in a “get rich” book!
If you do not have a Mentor, Goddess, Domme or Queen, you have found One now! Let Me be your Teacher, disciplinarian, mentor and queen! If you learn anything from My stories and knowledge, know that what I say, is about loving yourself and that you can do anything. My purpose is to take the misunderstanding OUT of BDSM and those who enjoy fetishes that others may not understand. I want submissives and Dommes, to succeed with ease and pleasure.
BDSM is becoming more mainstream. People are realizing their sexual potential, beyond simple sex. Power Exchange in relationships is such a satisfying way to engage. Any variety of D/s relationships can provide stimulation that surpasses Society's idea of how it should look or be. You will learn with Me, as I take you through the journeys of the mind and soul of the submissives that I control/led and what methods I use, to become the best Domme, that I can be.
There is no limit, to success. As I said, in the beginning, if you can harness your creativity and mental release in the bedroom, you will succeed in many other areas of your life. Enjoy and rate the episodes, if you have a moment. Sincerely, Chastity Queen "Chastity is freedom!"
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Diaries of a Domme + Questions Answered, by Chastity Queen
When You Hand Me The Key, Your Mind Opens
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CHASTITY HYPNOSIS, TASKS + DISCUSSION
Support the show & get subscriber-only content.What if the key to freedom is the moment you hand it over? I go straight to the core of Femdom leadership and explain how chastity turns raw impulse into disciplined devotion. This is not about deprivation; it is about structure, identity, and a new kind of power that travels with you under a suit, a skirt, or a pair of heels.
We unpack the ten reasons chastity works, from quieting mental noise to expanding space for play, service, and honest communication. You will hear how distance dynamics can feel deeply real with the right rituals—timed lockboxes, frozen keys, numbered seals, and daily check-ins—and why belief, not proximity, is what binds the agreement. We challenge the social script that demands conformity, arguing for balance: keep your life intact while giving your submission a clear container. Consent sits at the centre, transforming fantasy into a clear yes that builds trust over time.
From culture clashes to family expectations, we explore how shedding shame can make you safer for others and truer to yourself. Chastity becomes a portal to variety: feminization, domestic service, impact play, and worship that honours the woman in charge. Long-term locks, grit, and loving discipline can improve your focus, manners, and follow-through while turning desire into a practice you’re proud of. If you are ready to trade random release for meaningful service, this conversation gives you the language, the tools, and the spark to begin.
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SPEAKER_00:So what am I in your mind? I know what I am.
SPEAKER_01:I am a femme dom, a female dominant, female superior. I engage in female-led relationships, and I own many cocks that are caged. Yes, being a femdom is not a service to you, but it's about you serving me. In a post recently I discussed something regarding femdom and chastity, and I want to maybe review it. I don't know if you've seen it on Fet Life, but I said this is the year to up your chastity commitment, and I am your femdom and chastity queen to guide you through it. I will push you harder than any other. I have embraced chastity for a number of reasons. Listen carefully to what I say next, okay, as I list those things off. Open your mind.
SPEAKER_00:Number one Females rule.
SPEAKER_01:Number two, men are weak. Number three, men need structure. Four I provide that structure. Five, I show you freedom in chastity. Six Femdom is the future. Seven, I lead you in strength. Eight, with me you learn. Nine Feminization is hot. And ten servitude is sexy. And then I tell everybody to get on board, I'm looking at you. Let's do this. So chastity really is the entry point to your true submission. The reason I say this is quite pointed in that I have experience.
SPEAKER_00:I've dealt with many different fetishes. Many.
SPEAKER_01:Every single fetish that I have engaged in or facilitated with a submissive was enhanced exponentially when they were placed in chastity under my command and control. And that is the powerful moment of change when the mind flips a switch and you realize that I hold the key, and you are here to serve and to obey. I am not here to serve you. I am not here to play with your fetish for your enjoyment. No, no, no. Not even for a minute. I use chastity so that you know without a shadow of a doubt that I am in charge, and you are here to obey and serve. So remember that. Repeat it in your mind often. I am here to obey and serve. I am here to obey and serve. Say it multiple times per day. And remember that chastity is freedom. Chastity allows a man to open up his mind to other things, to pleasing me, to drop that masculine facade that he has to wear throughout the day, every day of his life, when he was born with those genitals. All societal expectations go out the window. And hey, you can put on your day clothes and go be a man, do your job, appear to conform to what society expects of you. Be tough, be gritty, make money. But under those clothes should be a chastity cage because I am in charge. You submit to me, you don't own me. I don't serve you, you serve me, whether you are dressed like a man and you're doing your manly things or not. Maybe you're home, you've dropped off all of your manly clothes, your suit, your tie, and you're in a pretty pair of panties and some high heels, and you have your cage affixed to your body for me. Whether I have a key or not. I really want to point that strongly at you. Whether I have a key or not. I want to drive that point in deeply within your psyche. You know, I have a lot that say, oh, I don't want to do online DOM, I don't want to be caged unless she has the keys, it doesn't feel real, it doesn't feel authentic. Well then it's just a game for you. See, it wouldn't matter if we were at the other ends of the earth. You know who I am. I am chastity queen. And it does not take too much creativity to make that real. Whether there's a distance or there's not. And sure, I lock some physically, and I know that that's what you want. You want me to lock you physically. And as I move forward, I'm going to give people the opportunity to see me in settings where that can happen. And maybe you have to travel to see me. Or maybe I'm traveling to a specific city, and I decide I'm going to meet a few of you to do a caging there. There are so many possibilities, but the key is, and it's funny that I use that word key. The key is that you realize that I am a femdom. I am a deity, and people don't need to touch God to believe in him, to worship him with their whole heart, soul, and mind, and nothing is different than your worship of me, a goddess, a femdom. And you get to see that I exist. You're fortunate. I'm not a illustrator's rendition of Chastity Queen. No, one step further. You see my image. You can worship it. You can make it your lock screen, like some of them do, some of my slaves. You can kiss that screen. You can message me. You can remain caged. These are tangible things that we can share together. So if you have boundaries or walls set up in your mind where you feel as if you cannot serve somebody who isn't right beside you, then you have no faith. Absolutely no faith in the process. And this process is about belief. You believe in my existence. You know that I exist. I've been online and I've been in the community for far too long to seem as if I'm not flesh and blood. But in the same sense, I'm more than flesh and blood. I am an energy. I'm a witch. Yes. And I am a queen. And as soon as you accept that and drop those walls, you can finally feel that freedom within. And express it outwardly too. It's incredible.
SPEAKER_00:Society has so many rules, don't they?
SPEAKER_01:Oh, you can't do this, or you can't do that, or you're this gender, and you can't present as this if you're that. And do you know what I say? Fuck it all. Fuck them. Because you are what you want to be. And you can be more than one. That's the exciting part of this discussion. When you look at your family dynamic, the relatives from the past, and how they lived their life, and how society expected them to live their life. It's interesting. There seems to be this invisible requirement to be acceptable, to be good enough, to be successful. And those things aren't terrible. I mean, they're not egregious sins, that's for sure. But who are we getting the acceptance from? It should be coming from within first. We should accept ourselves first. When we look outside of ourselves for recognition and for reassurance, in the process of doing that, we lose ourselves. And as you become an adult and you start to do things the way you think that they are supposed to be done, you might be quite good at getting the house, finding the family, having the children, being a parent. Maybe you're good at all of those things. That's fantastic. But how are you raising the next generation to live? How are you living? Are you living sort of embarrassed about certain inclinations? Are you enjoying yourself? Are you having fun? Are you playing outside of that societal script? Who's running the show? Is it you?
SPEAKER_00:Or is it expectations?
SPEAKER_01:You have to ask yourself, who whose expectations are those? I'm not saying to ditch your family. I'm not saying to ditch your life, to degrade any of your achievements. Of course not. Those are achievements. And if you're doing things according to what society has laid out for you and you're achieving that, then congratulations. You've achieved that level of life. But what I have to ask is what's next. You really don't owe anybody anything except for being true to yourself. And when you're true to yourself, it has an impact on others. And maybe that self doesn't seem hmm normal.
SPEAKER_00:Right?
SPEAKER_01:Or average. But who wants to be normal or average, really? I definitely fall out of that definition in life. My whole upbringing was about being good and normal. Okay, so maybe I'm reflecting my own feelings onto you right now. But that's a learning for all of us, isn't it? And that's something that I've been able to break free from. So I understand what happens when you get to the other side. And I still have a lot to learn. So I'm not saying I know it all because I don't. I still need to learn more about who I am and who I can be for others. Because it's not just a selfish path that we undertake where, you know, we have to be our authentic selves and no one else can tell us what to do. This is not what I'm trying to get at. What I'm trying to say is there has to be some balance, some freedom. We have to break out of our prison. And is it so bad? Are we committing crimes? Am I being a criminal for wanting to cage men up? That's silly, really. When you think about it. I mean, at the end of the day, the men that are caging up for me are consenting adults, and they're choosing to do so. I can't force a cage on some man. I can't start chasing men down the street with a cage in one hand and a, you know, ball of rope in the other so that I can tie them up and pull their pants down and throw a cage on them and snap the lock shut and keep the keys or throw them down the sewage drain. It's an exciting fantasy. It's not reality. So there's balance in this new freedom that we can find. And in taking on the role of a slave, it might be way out of your comfort zone. It may be out of society's comfort zone. But at the end of the day, society's not in charge of your joy, in charge of your heart. And we could have big philosophical discussions about, you know, the details of that and maybe how I'm wrong. But at the end of the day, who are you with?
SPEAKER_00:Right? Are you happy? And if not, how can you be happier?
SPEAKER_01:And no, as I said, you don't have to throw away your life to find more joy. Now add in a little fun. Maybe you can only be a slave when you're at home on your off hours. That's fine. You can still have a slave mind, right? And there's a lot of relief in that. For me, there's a lot of joy in being in control of men because I was raised to be subservient to the masculine, to the leaders who were men in the religion that I was raised in and fourth generation. So I have ghosts of the past that tell me what I should be and what I am not. And then you question yourself: should I have been that way? Should I have carried on the line of behavior that I was brought into? It's generational. Hard to break that. But it didn't serve the next generation, you see. When you open up your mind and your life, you open up your mind and life to others, maybe to your children, to your friends, to your family, you become a safe place to fall for them. Not a judge or a jury. So yes, you can accept the fact that you enjoy being in service to a feminine woman, a female dominant. You can choose to change the way that you behave in life to capture the joy.
SPEAKER_00:Flip the script. And that doesn't mean that's just who you are.
SPEAKER_01:That's it. You can be more than one. I have many different sides to myself. And when I'm feeling stressed out, maybe I turn to the female dominant side to maintain some control. So that I don't feel that strain for whatever reason, you know, in that moment of time. And it fixes things for me. Maybe I want to dress up like a clown just to have a little fun. Maybe I become sadistic because I have a partner that's willing to give in to that. It's a yin and yang in life, right? You can play within both. Maybe you're more yin than yang. I don't know. That's fine too. We can talk about so much when it comes to how we choose to step through this world. But I will say this about chastity, because I know it very well. When you hand over the thing that represents masculinity, which is your cock, and I take control of it, there is so much room to play. So many different fetishes, so many things that we can experiment with. It's fun. Sometimes when we grow up, we lose that spark, that fun, experimentation. It's time to change it. It's time to tap into the fun. It's time to tap into servitude, to slavery, to worship. I talked to somebody last night who said he knew when he was younger that he wanted to serve females. He believed in femdom at a young age. He knew it to his core. And in his culture, I will tell you this it's not accepted. And to this day, he still feels the strength within the desire. And he cannot stop it. So we can choose to dabble in different personalities, but there are certain things that are just within us, too. And we can choose to ignore it because it's not culturally acceptable or part of our circle of, you know, our roots or whatever the case might be, societal circles, whatever. Or we can just embrace it and drop the fear and drop the shame and realize that there's strength in servitude. There is grit and love in chastity. When I say grit, I'm saying it is not easy to be locked up. You know, I've just locked up three this week alone, all of them over a year. Yeah. And there's going to be more. And you see, it's something that they beg me to offer to them. They want to be locked, it's not something I force. You know, it would be kind of funny if I did, uh, thinking back to what I said earlier. But um this is a thrill when you're doing something that goes against the grain. So embrace it. Give me your key. Give me the power even if I can't have your key. Lock it up, put it in a mini lockbox, use the combination lock, whatever the case might be, freeze the keys, put it in a timed alarm system, alarm box. Do what it takes because I know that as a femdom, my goal is to make a man better. It's not just to restrict, it's to improve upon. And it's also to honor those women that you look up to, that you respect, that you revere, that you worship. And when you do that, it's an act of obeisance and love, just as when I take a key or I choose to lock somebody for a period of time is a loving act on my part. So I just wanted to chit-chat about that a bit and remind you that uh I want you locked. This year's going to be different than any other year. And this goes well beyond October or no nut November or Dickless December or jerk-free January. It goes beyond that. It's about learning to become something in addition to who you already are, which gives you so many more facets to your personality. Yes, variety is the spice of life, my darling slaves. So I'm handing you that spice, and it's called chastity. Thank you for listening. Don't forget to go to Locked in Lust, purchase a chastity cage using my promo code ChastityQen, all caps, all one word, for 15% off your device or any other item on their website at lockedinlust.com. Help me keep my podcast going. So thank you so much. Bye for now.