Golf, Cigars, Scotch: Balancing Life as a Modern Dad

What happens when fathers create spaces to be vulnerable, accountable, and authentic with each other? In this special Monday edition of Let Us Become Sharper/TNS Podcast, Dr. Corey Holmes joins us to discuss his book "Golf, Cigars, and Scotch: Balancing Fatherhood, Friendship, and Fine Living," offering profound insights into modern fatherhood and male community-building.

The conversation begins with a touching moment as CJ displays artwork gifted by Dr. Holmes' father twenty years prior—a testament to the enduring connections that shape our lives. Dr. Holmes, a former educator at NYU and Howard University with experience in national security and foreign policy, shares how becoming a father in his 40s led him to document their global adventures as his son experiences different cultures and perspectives.

We explore the brilliance of Dr. Holmes' "putter approach" to parenting—the idea that gentle guidance often achieves what force cannot. Just as a golfer uses different clubs for different situations, fathers must know when to apply discipline and when a softer touch is needed. Dr. Holmes credits his own father's strict intervention during his rebellious high school years as life-saving, showing how accountability shapes character.

Perhaps most compelling is the discussion of how shared experiences over scotch and cigars create safe spaces where men can be vulnerable without judgment. As Dr. Holmes beautifully puts it, over scotch "bad things become less staining and turn actually honorable"—creating environments where mistakes become learning opportunities rather than sources of shame. These gatherings in Santo Domingo, where Dr. Holmes currently lives, provide not just relaxation but essential community for navigating life's challenges.

Whether you're a father seeking balance, a son reflecting on fatherhood's impact, or simply someone who appreciates authentic conversation about life's complexities, this episode offers wisdom, humor, and perspective on living well while raising the next generation. Pick up Dr. Holmes' book wherever fine literature is sold, and join us for this remarkable journey through fatherhood, friendship, and finding joy in life's finer moments.

Chapters

• 0:00 Special Edition Introduction
• 2:56 Meet Dr. Corey Holmes
• 9:04 The Book's Origin Story
• 17:13 Father's Impact: Discipline and Structure
• 27:26 The Gentle Approach: The Putter
• 34:53 Scotch & Vulnerability Among Men
• 39:13 Cigar Culture and Community