LET US BECOME SHARPER/TNS PODCAST
LET US BECOME SHARPER/TNS PODCAST
Up Front Or Up In Flames: Dating Truths, Red Flags, And Real Talk; I’m Single Till I’m Not.
Ever feel like you’re speaking love to someone who only knows being “put up with”? We crack open that tension with a raw look at loved versus tolerated and how that gap warps the way we talk, listen, and set expectations. From missed shows and winter chaos to cookies and care, we start with gratitude and use it to jump straight into the hard stuff: intimacy, honesty, and the hazards of half-truths on the modern dating scene.
We dig into the moments that spark conflict—phones going dark on holidays, no-ring marriages, and the slippery phrase “I’m single till I’m not.” One of us argues for being up front without over-disclosing; the other calls out the myth that people will actually tell the whole truth. In between are the practical questions: What does intimacy look like when safety and agency come first? How much do you owe a new person about your situation? When do “assume I’m dating” and “don’t assume anything” collide? We don’t tidy it up; we show you the trade-offs and ask you to choose the language you want to live in.
We also spotlight the Hospitality Program, a community-level practice that treats recognition as part of compensation. The goal is to replace quiet tolerance with active appreciation—raffle exchanges, affirmations, and visible support for the folks who grind daily without applause. That thread ties straight back to relationships: when people feel seen, they communicate differently. When they’re merely tolerated, they armor up, and honesty becomes a luxury.
If a fact could get someone hurt—physically or emotionally—say it early. That’s the line we test, debate, and push. Come for the real talk and stay for the split verdict that invites you into the conversation. Tap play, then tell us: are both sides obligated to be up front, and how much detail is fair? Subscribe, share with a friend, and drop your take in the comments—we’re reading every one.
Welcome back, and I wanna just start off by giving my apologies. I want to apologize to you guys for I wanna uh apologize to you. Make sure your mic on I want to make sure that uh okay, perfect. I want you to hear this. I want to apologize to you guys for missing a couple podcasts. We've been we missed quite a few because we've been uh busy, we've been working on some things, but coming into a fresh new year, we'll be back on schedule. But we've been working on some things, and it's been a polar vortex, it's been very cold, and people have obligations that they had to keep up with, including myself. So I will always like to show courtesy. Apology for that. As we've received courtesy here tonight with all these free cookies, these Christmas cookies. This is like amazing here, and a gift bag. So we'd like to show. I'm not the type, I'm gonna show the gift bag. So we got walked in the door, tears the season, and Christmas cookies on the napkin. I know y'all can't see that, but you'll see them there. Yep. So we just want to add those items, you know, very, very select items that we just walked in the door to. We'd like to thank Jamie. Thank the studio for uh providing us with these gifts. So back to back to business here, back to business talk turkey. I want to give my apologies to you for not not appearing for some time. But me and Delena is back. We back, we back, and we're back together again. Her birthday is tomorrow. So happy birthday in advance, Delana. Take these birthday wishes.
SPEAKER_03:Thank you, thank you.
SPEAKER_01:No problem. We got the birthday wishes, we got the apology, and we got the Christmas gifts out the way. Now let's get back. Welcome to another episode of the Let Us B Let Us Become Sharper slash TNS Podcast, Thursday Night Society. Welcome back to Let Us Become Sharper. We want to get right to a great program and a great topic for you. So the other day I was having a conversation with a few people, and and not just at one time throughout the day. And sometimes, have you ever noticed in your life when you feel like do women have mojo? Do we? Yes, I'm just asking, I've never heard mojo being referred to to the women. Y'all got mojo or whatever, whatever it's called. Well, you know, with the men for show, it's called mojo. Some days you just feel like your mojo is off. Yes, and you know, people aren't talking or behaving as expected, expectedly. They, you know, you're not getting the reaction that you feel you should get from conversations or from ex, whatever it could be. So I'm I'm going throughout my day and I'm talking to people, and it's like nobody's comprehending what I'm saying, like they're not understanding what I'm talking about. Like, are you talking to yourself? Yeah, is my mojo off or what's going on? I'm I'm trying to figure it out, and I and I thought about it. I said, Man, you know, the perspective that I'm speaking from is one who got someone who loves me. People love me, I'm loved. And this is a touchy subject because you know, we're talking about love, it's a tricky subject. And the way that in the context of which I was speaking was from a perspective and from a standpoint of love. And when I when I finally made it home and recapped my day, I said, wow, CJ, you was talking to people who was tolerated. There's a difference between being loved and being tolerated. A lot of you dudes, a lot of you, a lot of you ladies out there are being tolerated. People put up with you. You're tolerated, you're not loved. There's a lot of people that are loved. We got loved versus tolerated. I am loved. I got somebody love me. And and when I speak and when I and when I my when I act, everything is is is stem from that platform of love. So when I'm talking as a loved person to people who are simply tolerated, they don't understand what I'm talking about because they we don't talk the same language. So I guess they we could count that in a category of love languages, or we could just put that in a cut in a category of you, you you just not on my level, different levels, you know, different different adjustments. We ain't saying the same thing. We we're not speaking the same language because I'm speaking the language of one who is loved, and you're receiving and your receptor is one of who of one who's who's tolerated. See, somebody put up with you. So these are two facets of life that I had to sit down and become sharper on because I'm not used to talking and don't nobody understand what I'm saying.
SPEAKER_03:I mean, it was that many people that are being tolerated the whole day, but then I whole day of people that are not loved.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I went I go through a whole day of people that's tolerated, especially when I go out and about. See, when I'm running in my immediate circles, my my my groups, you know, my my my circles, people know what I'm talking about because these people loving me, you know. I'm you know, I'm loving. So it's not it's not that complicated, but when you're talking to somebody who just tolerated, they can't understand love.
SPEAKER_03:That's sad, and they can't, and they also can't digest it when it's being fused into a for conversation and a form of communication because they don't even realize they're being tolerated, they think they're being loved, they're being tolerated. No, they don't realize that's what I'm saying. They think they're being loved, but in actuality, they're just being tolerated.
SPEAKER_01:I hope that they're blessed enough to have discernment to learn the difference from having from being loved versus being tolerated. The hospitality program has been striking. People out there have been seeing the hospitality program. Have you been uh are you down with CJ's hospitality program? Please support CJ's hospitality program. It is the union meets beautiful unison, the union being the hard labor force and the representation for all of the good things that one does. We get out here every day in a grind. We get out here every day and work hard, and we find ourselves not even paying attention to the fact that we haven't even received the full recognition for the work that we've done. Because you just keep moving, right? You keep moving, right? Bills keep coming, right? Responsibilities keep coming, right? Life keeps life, right? And as you go, sometimes it's you're overlooked. And the hospitality program steps in and says, no, we we recognize everybody. We sit down in high counsel and we make sure that that aspect of compensation is available for you. Meeting in the middle, the mid. We have a middle, a midday where we present to you positive affirmations of beautiful unison. This is a serious, serious entity that's that's coming into a new season. And I really would like for you guys to support that. That's the next level of the barber industry, it's the next level of said industry and self-employment. We're talking about the Thursday Night Society Raffle Exchange. So that happened in Thursday. TNS Raffle Exchange that's happening this Thursday at 7 p.m. You you know, you want to support that as well, and we got a few prizes. We'll put those up on the actually on my IG, or we'll put on my Facebook too. I'll get uh at SweetCarl Mr CJ, or we put you at CJ the Clipper Man, and you can see how the uh TNS Raffle Exchange works. Support the Thursday night society because we real, real powerful. Now, we got a topic coming in the polar vortex. Got a topic for you. I'm about to warm you up. I'm about to warm this game up. I got a topic for you. We have me and people on the panel that wanted to come in tonight. They couldn't make it just because the fact it was cold, tires blowing out, the slipping and sliding out there on the freeway. Everybody drive safely. We got a topic coming in for y'all tonight. Now, Delena, the wonderful the wonderful Delena. In life, we encounter people who are interesting, we encounter people who we want to date, we have people who we want to be with, such as girlfriends, boyfriends, relationships, significant others. Some people simply say they're on the dating scene. Are you dating?
SPEAKER_03:Yes.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. You're on the dating scene? Are you just dating?
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I would say I'm on the dating scene.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, you're on the dating scene.
SPEAKER_03:Just kind of getting back into it.
SPEAKER_01:All right. So here that this playing right into the topic. When you are on a dating scene, or when you are in scenarios where, you know, your uh intimacy, what does intimacy mean?
SPEAKER_03:In a dating scene?
SPEAKER_01:What does it mean in general?
SPEAKER_03:Intimacy is somebody asked me that. I couldn't answer it's a closeness and and a feeling. I I think it's being comfortable with somebody where you can be vulnerable with that person.
SPEAKER_01:I want y'all to put in the comments what y'all think intimacy is. Just write it right now.
SPEAKER_03:And you can do little things, you know. Just little small things, little things that they like.
SPEAKER_00:Help me out. Put in the comments because I don't know what intimacy means. I want to see what that means, what that word means.
SPEAKER_01:Anyway, so we yeah, you got you when you in those scenarios, right? So somehow, somehow, when we in these scenario, when we find ourselves in these scenarios, of course, you know I'm not in them. Um they they sometimes go away, away. Sometimes these scenarios go left because one person tells the other person, here it comes, y'all can y'all can all finish it from me. All you had to do was be up front with me. The old fashioned, all you had to do was be up front with me. That's the old faithful, the old fashioned, all you had to do was be up front with me, and all you had to do was tell me. The question is, Delena, do both parties have the obligation to be up front.
SPEAKER_03:I'm gonna say yes. Now, yeah, clarify that. This is a tricky one, it is a tricky one because the thing is what one party's gonna one party, okay. We just gonna say this from my perspective. So that's a perspective I want. Yeah, I'm gonna say I need you to be up front with me now. Am I gonna be up front with you to a certain extent? No, no, I'm being honest.
SPEAKER_01:You say we can shut this show down right now. I ain't playing about it. Should yes, yes, will it happen?
SPEAKER_03:No, so how can you I feel it should, but it's it's it's not gonna happen.
SPEAKER_01:So, how can you ever expect someone to be up front with you? Is that a double standard?
SPEAKER_03:It depends on what you're being upfront about.
SPEAKER_01:No, I'm talking about I got a I got a wife. Yes, I need to know that. I got I got a I got a girlfriend already.
SPEAKER_03:Those are things that they would need to know because but why?
SPEAKER_01:Why would I have to tell you because you're not telling me about everybody that you're dating?
SPEAKER_03:If I'm married, I'd be like, I have a husband.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, yeah, right.
SPEAKER_03:Oh, I got a man at home.
SPEAKER_01:So so are you obligated to be up front?
SPEAKER_03:About that, yes. I I would say yes, and that just if it because the other person has to make the decision, is that what they want to deal with?
SPEAKER_01:Man, yeah, it's a lot of lies being told.
SPEAKER_03:That's that's not a lie, because you say you married, and if I decide that I'm still gonna date you, that's a decision I've now made. But are knowing what I'm getting into, but that wife pop up while y'all out at Buffalo Wild Wings, but in return, and you have no idea, like you ain't have to lie about you, you know. Make let me make that decision for me.
SPEAKER_01:But in return, are you telling me about the dudes that you dating is not me? Are you telling me? Oh no, no, okay, because you were just talking about to a certain extent, you ain't telling me dating.
SPEAKER_03:Yes, I'm talking about marriage or in a relationship. If you just dating other people, you're not obligated to tell me that.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, but it happens every day, it happens. People get caught out on dates every day. B I'm sitting here with you. I'm not telling you that I'm dating her, I'm not telling you that I'm going around with her.
SPEAKER_02:But you that's what I'm saying, and then that's different, but you're not in a relationship.
SPEAKER_03:Oh yeah, you just be afraid with me, but you're not in a relationship, or you're not married.
SPEAKER_01:But the majority, the majority of things that are like the majority of drama that goes down, goes down between those who are not married. This is a sad American fact. But if you check the statistics, the drama, the the when it when it finally plays out, it goes down between those who are not married, it goes down between oh, baby daddy still be coming through. Oh, I still got baby mama, I still be creeping back over here. Oh, you're really dating. No, that is not. I didn't say necessarily dating, I just said be up front.
SPEAKER_03:That you still mess around with your baby daddy.
SPEAKER_01:There you go. So are you gonna be up front that you still creeping over there?
SPEAKER_03:Because if there's a possibility that this fool pops up, then I'm gonna maybe need to tell you that so that you're prepared or make the decision that you still want to do this.
SPEAKER_01:Don't have me get popped up on because you're not being up front. Because once again, once again, when we're in that scenario and you get approached, or you find out that I'm doing something unsightly, such as, and it's between two people that's not married, such as I tell you I'm going to work, but on that day, I don't go to work. Yo homegirl, homegirl, girl, see me out holding hands on a date with another chick. Now, here you come, Tom Bossam. All you had to do was be a friend.
SPEAKER_03:That if you're dating other people, you are dating other people.
SPEAKER_01:Oh, so you so you think so you think you got it like that?
SPEAKER_03:I mean, if you date other people, you are. I mean, I said this the other day. I'm single till I'm not. What does that mean? And you might what does that mean? I'm not in a relationship, I'm not married, therefore I'm single. So if I'm single, I can date who I please. Until until what? Until I'm not single, until one of them make me not single. So don't play about me.
SPEAKER_01:So are you agreeing that both parties need to be up front? Yeah and they I just need to know.
SPEAKER_03:Yes. Will it happen?
SPEAKER_01:So, do you believe in it? And both parties being up front.
SPEAKER_03:Well, initially I did say I don't know if I would be, but in that aspect, I'm always up front.
SPEAKER_01:So I want to get you off the fence. Do you believe in it, yes or no?
SPEAKER_03:Yes.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. So that that that sounds like a that sounds like an unstable yes, but a yes, nonetheless, you believe yes, as far as being up front about another person or someone else that could be in the picture when we possibly become whatever it is that we're become or becoming. In my mind, I thought about this because the thing about it is this scenario keeps springing up. You keep seeing so many, so many uh episodes play out with people who was not up front. So when it's drama, people say, You could have just told me, you could have just talked to me about it, you didn't have to lie.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, and I and I get it. I the reason I say yes, it's because I've seen so many situations where it has turned dangerous.
SPEAKER_01:It's gonna get dangerous. Listen, I I hear you being politically correct. And people have lost their lives. You're being politically correct, but what I'm saying is two people who are not married and emotions get involved, it is discovered that the other person has other people that they're dealing with, which should already be assumed. But we ain't talking about assumption, we're talking about I've discovered that this is what you're doing. Now the ramifications pop off. Something went down behind this. Should both parties have been up front by saying, Listen, you know, okay, all right, I got a girl, all right, I got a woman. You know, cell phones start turning off after a certain hour, you start disappearing off into the middle of the night, can't catch up with this cat, then he pop out early and he can talk to something, then he can't talk. Okay, those are red flags, by the way. These are red flags, but people love red flags. I know it's like a carnival. People love red flags, red flag make the world go round, but the whole time, while I'm turning my phone off and disappearing on certain days, and on Valentine's Day, I'm not to be seen. You know, on Sweetie's Day and Valentine's Day, I'm not to be seen. I'm not even seeing you, and yeah, and I'm telling you some whatever I'm telling you. But the but the truth is with me not being up front, I'm really with her. Okay, so if I say we well, all you had to do was be up front, but who was you with while you was texting me? You probably texting me on the passenger side with somebody in the car.
unknown:Huh?
SPEAKER_02:Am I becoming shopper? You probably texted me on the passenger side of your other. Date. So I asked you again. I put you okay.
SPEAKER_03:I'm gonna be I'm I'm gonna be even more up front about this. Yeah. So a couple weeks ago, I I went out. You was on the passenger side with another dude, and you text another dude to tell her ask where he was. So I was out and uh it was a guy I I ran into. I I met him a couple years ago. And he was married. I didn't, yeah, I didn't talk to him then though. I I I when I realized he was married, I I was like, I'm good, I'm good. So this has been two years. Okay, and it was a hey, how you doing kind of thing. Like, oh, okay. So he's trying to talk to me. Now, mind you, he asked me, Am I married? Because I wear my grandmother's ring on usually on my ring finger. So I'm like, I told him, I said, no, I just wear my grandmother's ring on my ring finger. And then he's showing me his hand that doesn't have a ring on it. So I'm to assume that he's not married.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, stop right there. Oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. At that moment, is he obligated to be up front?
SPEAKER_03:Yes. Because you asked me, was I married? And then you offered up your hand to show me that you're not.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, now at that moment, that he's obligated to be up front. Yes. Are you obligated to tell him, well, this is what I'm doing? I'm not married because I wear this ring, grandmother's ring on the ring finger, but I am, but I am dating two men, one on the east and one on the west. Are you obligated to offer?
SPEAKER_03:I say I'm dating. He ain't got to know the who and the when and how many.
SPEAKER_01:You got to know he got a wife.
SPEAKER_03:And I just he got to know I'm dating. I'm single.
SPEAKER_01:He's not, but he only got one wife. So how many men are you dating?
SPEAKER_03:But he is not single.
SPEAKER_01:Neither are you. If you date two men, one on the east and one west.
SPEAKER_03:But but the kicker is my homegirl knows him. And she's like, he's still married.
SPEAKER_01:See, there we go. But what does it matter? Because you weren't up front about who you was dating. What does it matter? You were not up front about your dates.
SPEAKER_03:He asked me. I said I wasn't married. I didn't he didn't ask me because I'm dating anybody.
SPEAKER_01:See, that's why I was leery of your answer. Your answer should have been a no, because you're not offering up enough. He's what see you want me to offer up everything. Like no, no, I want you to be up front. So if you tell me that you're dating, okay, yeah, and I catch and I catch you out at at ADV's with a young with a with a with a with a bow, as they would say, some shoulders, sport coat, or whoever. Okay, I I gotta you was up front on me. I gotta go out on and you know, I can't I can't trip about this. But then I go out again a week later at the movie theater, and I see you in there with another sport coat.
SPEAKER_03:Hey, I said I was a dating. I see how I was dating one person. Oh man, dating is dating. Oh man, date them all.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, so I see I see that the deception, it's not deceiving. The deception and lies is not coming together. Deceiving dating, yeah. Well, this is the this this is why we become sharper. Everybody out there, I want to know should both parties be up front about their situation, whether they be married, whether they be dating, boyfriend and girlfriend, or baby mama, baby daddy, d spinning the block. Should both parties be up front so nobody gets hurt? Y'all comment about that. I want to know what you think about that. Delena is sitting here giving me a whole bunch of fluff.
SPEAKER_03:I ain't gave no fluff. I'm honest.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, does he you tell you want to know about his marital status, but you're not telling I gave him my marital status? Yeah, all right. See, that's he that's playing.
SPEAKER_03:That's not now you're playing because I didn't lie, he lied. I ain't lying.
SPEAKER_01:Don't you know? I want to I want to just say this. I want to be clear, but I want to become sharper. Don't you know that with that wife, although he's married, he'll catch you out at a movie with a guy?
SPEAKER_03:Oh, he'll still be mad.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, shrimp. I know and trip, and we got up in that movie theater.
SPEAKER_01:You need to be up front with your dealings with these men if I say I'm dating. Uh no, that they go to base. If I say who you talking to?
SPEAKER_03:If I say I'm dating, I'm dating. I didn't know that I had to say I'm dating this guy and I'm dating this guy. Maybe this one might take me out for dinner. I don't know. But if I'm dating, you might see me out with somebody. There's a possibility, and that's why I would tell you I'm dating, baby.
SPEAKER_01:Baby, listen to me. I want you to hear me. At the end of the day, I'm doing this to try to stop people from getting hurt. I don't want nobody to get hurt. Me either. I don't want, and I'm not just I'm talking about physical hurt. I don't want the emotional hurt to continue with these types of scenarios. This is why we're becoming sharp. These types of scenarios is what gets people hurt, and right now you're not sounding as if you're trying to guard people from being hurt. It sounds like you still playing with this game. I'm not because I said I'm dating, I'm dating, and that's and that's it. So that means and that's it. So that means if I catch you out, or or or if you tell me give if I if I go do my research, you know, I'm gonna do my research on who you're dating. Really, y'all do that? Let me tell you something. I see we needed to have this kind of we needed to have this. You don't understand that people jump out of bushes every day. I mean, I need to know if you dating black Bart. I need to know who this dating who this is before I put myself into a scenario where I'm not safe. It's the old banana in the tailpipe. Oh, come over here, come on over here. Oh, them guys down there on the corner, they ain't gonna do nothing. And they done killed two weeks ago. I have to do my own research before I start playing around with you. You're gonna tell me just what you want me to know. I have to do if I don't research for myself, guess what? Guess the old the old fashioned state. That's on you. You know, y'all love that that's on you. Oh, you didn't do your own research, that's on you. Now I always do my research. I'm never pulling up and I don't know who you're dating. Because you for sure gonna know who my wife is.
SPEAKER_03:Absolutely, guaranteed, absolutely. Yeah, but you ain't gonna know about the other yeah uh-huh 25 wives.
SPEAKER_01:Or the other one, the other three wives. Since we're not being up front, I'm gonna conceal my love.
SPEAKER_03:You know about the wife, is I'd be worried about who is it anybody else's side.
SPEAKER_01:Right there. So we so uh I'm gonna so what I'm gonna do is I'm by default, because it's two of us here this evening, by default, I'm gonna go with no. You do you are not obligated because now what we're doing is we're asking people to set out the truth.
SPEAKER_00:And I don't think nobody's about to do it. Don't sound like y'all gonna do it.
SPEAKER_01:Sounds like we're gonna give homogenized versions of the truth. Sounds like we're gonna give, sounds like we're gonna give different brands of truth, and that ain't that's not getting that's not becoming sharper at all. So, what we're gonna do is we're gonna get a yes for the later this evening, and we're gonna put a no for CJ. No, we are not obligated to be up front because we're not because when we can call ourselves being up front, we're not really being up front, no way. How about that? I'm gonna shut, I'm just gonna shut it down. So our supporters out there. We got we need our supporters, we need y'all to come on and you know support us with this with this podcast and something we've been doing. We're getting very, very, very, very good views, very, very good ratings on it, but we got to keep the ball bouncing. We thank you. We we appreciate you all. Cash is verified. Any cash coming in or any cash going out, it's verified. We thank you from the bottom of our hearts. To Nina and Shay, we give a special hello shout out to them.
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SPEAKER_01:Miss Y'all. That's that's right. They'll be back soon. You know, just get they're just getting some things together. They business women, so they are very, very busy, but they'll be back. Here we are, like I said before, the TNS Thursday Night Society, the raffle exchange. How that works is you know, if you if and when you support, you know, we got we got an array of prizes, and it's even cash. We got so many things that we that we're gonna set out for you that's available to you to win. But in case in the case that you don't win the big prizes, you always retain in the ticket, retaining that ticket because we have the Thursday night society events and that you're privy to with your support. So we like to just put that out there. That's something I wanted to put out there for y'all. Yeah, so we're going back to everybody chime in on this one. Is it is it uh please do should you be obligated? Is it an obligation for both parties to be up front? Not just marriages, not just related anything that we're doing that once we get involved, let me let me simplify whatever it is that's gonna get somebody's head cracked. Should we put that out there first before we start dealing with one another? Are we obligated to tell you I'm dating the whole west side? And so I'm just giving you it's and bits and pieces, and then come to find out you catch me out somewhere, or come to find out I catch you. Uh, yeah, you are. Are we obligated to tell the other person or be upfront about what we're doing on both sides of the fence? Y'all chime in on that one. That's interesting. I like that. I want to get that out the way. That is just something that I wanted to get out the way, and you know, that because that was blocking the way of a lot of other topics that I want to present. But that one right there was just something I had to speak on because of so much of that going on. People saying, All you had to do was tell me the truth, all you had to do was be up front, making it sound so simple.
SPEAKER_03:All you had to do was all you if you do it before there's feelings involved.
SPEAKER_01:That's the thing. Those feelings get involved way faster than you think. You didn't have to lie to me. All you had to do was tell me the truth. I would and let me make my own decision. What's that?
SPEAKER_02:What's that y'all wanna be saying? Yeah, yes. Talk that talk that current talk that what you be talking, talk that what you be talking. You ain't say you ain't saying none of your statements that y'all be saying. Yeah, I did say that.
SPEAKER_01:Let me make my own decision.
SPEAKER_03:I did say, let me make my own decision, let me decide what I want to do. Oh, I I I stand by this.
SPEAKER_01:Let me decide what I want to do. Yes, do I want to get into that situation? Yes. Okay, so what about the situation that you in? Are you gonna tell me about that situation so I can decide if I want to be in that situation? Are you gonna just tell me a fragment of the situation and then make let me base my decision based on that? Come to find out you got five other situations.
SPEAKER_03:See, here we go again with the details. Why they gotta be details?
SPEAKER_01:If I say I'm dating, not allowing me to have the decision if I want to be in five situations.
SPEAKER_03:If I tell you I'm dating you, you just just assume just assume it's five. I'm I'm I'm not saying it's five.
SPEAKER_01:I'm just assume it's are you hearing yourself?
SPEAKER_03:I am I am you really hearing yourself? This is the thing. Like, if you just start talking to somebody and you say you should assume that if they're not in a relationship or married, that they are dating.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, I do first of all, first of all, what you're trying to do is you're trying to play me because there's no such thing as upfront and assumptions. That that's a that's a is a uh oxymoron. What kind of level is that redundancy? Whatever. What level is that on where we're talking about being up front and assuming? I said those two don't even go assume those two don't even go together.
SPEAKER_03:I said, I assume, but that does not mean I don't have to be up front.
SPEAKER_01:But you but you know, you know what the acronym with assumptions make. So we're not about to go there on the air. You we're not assuming anything, so that's where being up front comes in.
SPEAKER_03:That's what being up front means. So you won't be assuming. I am dating. How many? It depends on that time and that time frame.
SPEAKER_01:No, no, no, no, no. I'm on a mock, I'm on a mock interview right now. I'm on a mock interview right now. I'm I'm dating.
SPEAKER_03:Okay, so this is how many you say you're dating. That means you could be talking to you could just start talking to somebody five minutes ago.
SPEAKER_01:Listen, ask me how many girlfriends I got. Just ask me. Do it.
SPEAKER_03:How many girlfriends do you have?
SPEAKER_01:30. Do you want to do you want to be a part of this? Do you still you still want me? No. You have a nice life, then 30. That's how many girlfriends I got. That do you do you want to be down? Yes, yeah. Y'all still want to be down? Do you want to be down? All right. Well, we're gonna get up, we're gonna roll on out of here, man. We have this is this right here. We we got a yes for Delana, we got a no for me. So that confirms and establishes the show. She's gonna say, yes, one should be obligated to be up front, but don't give detail. So she's still putting her woman spin on it. I'm saying, you know what? Why keep playing? You're not gonna be up front. So why would I even try to be up front? Let's just I'm just gonna tell you what I want you to know. You're gonna tell me what you want me to know, and then we just gonna go. And if somebody gets toe out the frame, hey, not my problem, huh? How about that? So we out of here. We're gonna roll. No, we're gonna do still gonna do a photo shoot. We got some things we gotta take care of. So everybody out there who enjoys our show and who's been watching us, liking us on the on the internet, on YouTube. Continue to do so. We're gonna continue to come with this content. I know we've been moving a little slow here lately, but we're gonna pick up the pace, guaranteed, and we out of here, man. To the next be safe out there, you know. I would say be safe out there, but also stay dangerous. Always keep your head on the swivel. Be safe out there, though, because it's really we are living in times where it's just really, really getting stupid out there. So we gotta just be part of a big part of it is just being aware. So be safe, yeah, just being aware and paying attention. So be safe out there. Keep your head on swivel and keep your head on swivel until the next time, let us become sharper.