If You Had To Choose, Would You Pick Comfort Or Fire?

What if you had to choose between a partner who keeps you steady and a partner who keeps you spellbound? We take that question to the mat with a raw, uncut conversation shaped by years behind the barber chair, where real life and real talk collide. From the craft of a clean lineup without spray to the messy business of love, we examine why our culture often favors a homogenized version of life and what gets lost when we sand off the edges.

The spark is a story that sticks: a client who skydives for fun, gets injured hiking, is nursed back to health by his partner, and then gets dumped once he recovers. That twist pushes us to draw a hard line—well-being or romance. Delena stakes out care as the deeper proof of love: show up when it counts, handle the life stuff, ask if I’ve eaten, and stand beside me in the hard hours. T opts for romance, owning his self-sufficiency and insisting on a partner who keeps him curious, lit, and fully engaged. CJ wrestles with both sides and lands on romance, arguing that joy, energy, and intimacy are the point of the ride; logistics matter, but they aren’t the destination.

Along the way, we unpack what “raw” really means: choosing skill over shortcuts, risk over pretense, and truth over tidy narratives. The barbershop becomes the metaphor—either the hands are trained or the hairline is painted. The same applies to love: either the care is active and consistent or the spark is a weekend costume. We don’t let these blur. We ask you to make the choice you’ve been avoiding and to own it without apology.

If this hits a nerve, you’re our people. Tap play, pick your pill—well-being or romance—and tell us why. If the conversation sharpened you, follow, share with a friend who lives “raw,” and drop a review so more folks can join the debate.

Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:17

All right. So we're gonna start off today. Welcome back to Let Us Become Sharper slash Thursday Night Society Podcast. Now we're coming into a new year. We're going for 2026. And we're going all the way to 2027 with this one. This is a new podcast, and we have a an array of we got a new style for this year coming in. We got an array of guests that we're gonna bring in, and we have a myriad of topics that we're gonna explore while we're here on the podcast. So how's everybody doing? I want everybody to introduce themselves.

SPEAKER_04 1:00

Happy New Year, everybody. It is the wonderful Delena.

Hosts, Vibe, And Brand Roll Call

Products, Support, And Community Plans

SPEAKER_02 1:04

Delena is wonderful, and we got my roll dog, my closest road dog. He thought that he was gonna pull up to the show and observe. Listen, man, and just sit back and watch the show. It don't work like that. It don't work like that. When you've been rolling for for many years, we're gonna put us, we're gonna slam a pair of headphones on you and get you on and get you on a microphone and get the opinions and the consensus of what you think. This is my brother T. T in the building. We got T T is here now. So we uh we're just enjoying ourselves. You can see we we're festive and we're ready to roll. So you know, let us become sharper. That's the credo, that's the brand that we established. Uh, we got the CJ Yeti. I pulled my Yeti mom Freddy out. I've been show, I've been showing these, I've been showing these on the internet. My Yetis, my my products, the cups, the lighters. I've been showing these products and on the on the internet, trying to get people to understand that we had the product line is now established, moving forward with the lighters, the cups, the yetis. We got a few more. We're gonna add the candles. There's a few more items that we're gonna add to just solidify and round out the letters become sharper brand. So please support that. We coming in with with a with a few. I gotta, you know, I didn't tell anybody the topic tonight because I barely knew it. Just being honest. When we do these shows, probably gonna go left and yeah. When we do when we do these shows, you gotta remember. I hope that you understand the organic element to the show that we do. We don't sit, listen, this is everyday life. You busy, I'm busy. So sometimes we might not get the topic established. Some days we I get a chance to text it, but today we didn't. So we're gonna go for a little ride. I was working on something earlier that I want that I want to discuss really, really important. I got a story that goes along with it. And we're gonna see um see how everybody feels about it. So yeah, I was uh coming in earlier. I was thinking about I was thinking about the problems that I've been having back and forth with my relationships. And I ain't just talking about no intimate relationship. My a lot of my a lot of my friends would we would consider what co-workers, co-workers, people in the workspace. Sometimes in life, have I asked y'all, I'm gonna ask y'all honestly, openly. Have y'all ever had a time in y'all life where y'all felt misunderstood? Yes, okay. Okay, okay, go, go, go, okay, roll, roll, roll. All right, okay, that was that that was that was a piece of cake right there. Okay, so we ain't got no confusion on that one. I work hard to be understood because you know that's as you that's a common uh factor that we have. I see it. Being misunderstood, and a lot of the times when I'm misunderstood, what I'm thinking is does it do you now? I'm gonna ask you this. Do you feel that it has a lot to do with your upbringing? How did how is your personality shaped?

SPEAKER_04 3:57

It is shaped by your upbringing. Yeah, I know it's shaped by it, and people have a perception of you because of it, also.

SPEAKER_02 4:05

Yeah, what you think about that team?

SPEAKER_00 4:08

I mean, yeah, you know, growing up, it's like uh you know, I'm black and German, so yes, you already mad different, son. In Hollywood Park.

Feeling Misunderstood And Upbringing

SPEAKER_02 4:19

That's why I put you. It's no way that I was there's no way that I was gonna let you come here and not get on the mic, knowing what I wasn't gonna speak about being black and German, but come on, man, you you getting on this microphone for sure. So, yeah, so so you know, the and and of course, you know, I have my own idios secrecies as well. So I was thinking about the the the different aspects, you know, just of myself, of why I'm misunderstood in so many ways, and I figured it out a little bit. I figured a little bit out, you know. I did, I figured a little bit out. People love to deal with the homogenized version of life. For example, you got women, no dispatch to my woman, I love my woman, but you got women that tell a guy, hey, you know, you got a good guy, and I've seen too many, you know, being a barber 30 years. I've seen this too many times. You got a good guy, he pays a lot of bills, paying bills, paying on bills, paying bills, providing, taking care of a household, taking care of kids. Sometimes in some cases, the key is not even his. Let's just let's just keep it a buck. Let's keep it a buck. Dudes be out here really, really, really riding a die. And and and on the flip side of that coin, we got a lot of women out here that that take care and babysit these grown men, tucking these grown men and feeding them ravioli, letting them use the car, letting them use the car, the car, letting them lay up, live up. So you got so many different scenarios of homogenized lifestyles, and then after all of that hard work, the person that you are pacifying, or the person that you're caring about the most, run out and go with somebody who ain't doing nothing for them.

SPEAKER_01 6:19

Little musty, funky little thing, the dusty got little dusty, right?

Raw Versus Homogenized Living

The Barber’s Craft: Skill Or Spray

SPEAKER_02 6:23

They always run back to old dusty. So you got men out here catch their woman up with an old dusty who ain't paying nothing. Why is that? And why is CJ so misunderstood? Why is it that I put down so much work and and and heart and integrity in the game, and people be like, What did he say? What are you talking about? Where are you coming from? I had a guy ask me, Why did you design those cups? Why did you design those lighters? I said, Man, we gotta the game gotta go on. The game gotta move on. I said, in my genre, in my level of work, everybody using a cup and a lighter. The barbershop, there's so many cups and lighters, the cups alone asked me why did I design that? I said, I'm well, my name resonates in the industry, and yeah, I knew there was a need, supply, and demand is why I made that. But back to what I was saying about the homogenized life, I figured out that people don't understand me because I came up and I always liked it raw. No, you know, no, no, don't get it twisted, but I always liked it raw. I like it raw, yeah. Yeah, they made a record, you know. I like it raw. I think that people want the raw, and they don't understand me because I was raised on the raw. Everybody who was raised on the raw. How many of us was raised on the raw? I wasn't raised on the homogenized. I wasn't raised like that. So sometimes when I'm speaking or or through my actions, you won't understand my moves because I was raised on the raw. So now a big thing in the barber shop was I'm gonna touch this and just leave it be now. A lot of guys is with the spray paint. Now they take the spray paint and they and they paint the boot polish, the beige, how you call it, they put a lot of spray paint. I get it, no respect to them. But I was raised on the raw when you had to know how to line. You have to know how to you have to have the actual skill. So when I'm talking that type of land or coming from that perspective, they may not know what I'm talking about in my relationships, in my dealers, and my friendships, it's all raw, you know. I mean, we don't want we don't want no cut on the tequilas. A lot of guys with lemonade and the we going straight tequila, no mix, no mix, no cut. We going raw.

SPEAKER_04 8:58

Well, you are definitely a no-chaser, no chaser.

SPEAKER_02 9:01

We're going straight up, lace, no chase. Not for those who do, you know, they don't disrespect, but I'm just saying get the get the mindset of what I'm saying. Some women that these dudes be out here doing, you know, they be they be working hard and taking care, but they they just don't, they just not raw like my man in the basement.

SPEAKER_04 9:27

Something is missing, it'd be it'd be something missing. Yeah, it's always something missing.

SPEAKER_00 9:32

It's the time aspect of you, yeah. Yeah, that nigga.

SPEAKER_02 9:36

No, no, I edit it.

SPEAKER_00 9:38

Okay, that's wrong.

SPEAKER_02 9:41

I might keep that one in just that one.

SPEAKER_00 9:44

But you know, they got time, they don't have nothing to do, they ain't got no job, they live in the basement, they're living on mama, or they live with their girl, that's how they work and they ain't got nothing, yeah.

The Hiker’s Story And A Breakup

Framing The Dilemma: Care Or Chemistry

SPEAKER_02 9:52

So they so all they got is the raw, yeah. All they got is yeah, so it's me. This is it, yeah. So I I feel I butt head so much with in conversations. This is really frustrating to me because I'm just so raw, and there's no homogenized aspect to CJ. So I wanted to put that out there. Just starting off with the show, I like to just give a little understanding and get some understanding, but today I give a little understanding about all you homogenized people out there that don't understand the real and the raw. So here we come in with I just want to say support the support the uh program, hospitality CJ's hospitality program where union meets beautiful meets beautiful unison, union meets beautiful unison. We got a union of morality that we have uh created that's going to be very, very uh paramount moving forward in the future, future business endeavor about the hospitality program. And we have it's nothing like the handcrafted aspect when you can create and when you can demonstrate fairness for all of your hard work and for what you really deserve in life, and you can handcraft it and show the beautiful unison to a particular people. That's a great thing. Don't forget Thursday night either for the Thursday night raffle exchange. I got a ball of Vouve Cleco on ice right now, and I got and I got a giphy. We go and I got some cash. So them the three we're putting up for this uh Thursday night. So we're doing this at 7 p.m. We got names in the in the drawer, but we're gonna put some more in there to get it to get the pot a little bit bigger, and then we're gonna pass the them prize out, and as you know, retain your tickets because we got an event at an undisclosed location. So the topic I'm gonna bring in tonight. This is what I was thinking about. The topic comes with a little tail, but I'm gonna tell you that they do it come with a tail. So, you know, 30 years in the barber game. I got a client, he's a mountain hiker, he's a biker and a mountain hiker. And he didn't skydive before, so he's a thrill seeker. So this particular client right here comes in the barbershop, he shows his videos of when he skydived. He did he didn't make it to enough skydives where he could skydive by himself yet. But you know, you got to skydive, you got to jump with somebody. So you got to get the hours in. So when he in the airplane, and they they got a little camera set up there for you. So when he in the airplane, before he jumped, he pointed at his line up, like see. I'm like, bro, bro. So everybody just see, bro. This is the like just these dudes are serious, man. He's he pointed at his hair like this line and then dove out. You know, he had to dive out the airplane skydiving. This time he did a mountain hiking and he fail. He fail. He fell, he failed like no, he like failed. Broke bones, yeah. He failed and on the mountain hiking, you know, out of all of the things he did out of the out of the skydiving. That'd be the one that got him. The mountain hiking is the one that got him, and he he he had his harnesses and everything together, however, that process goes, but he failed. He fell bad, and he was in a relationship with his with his uh they weren't married, but that was uh they've been together for some time. So she the one helped him nurse him back to health, got him back right, you know. When he got fully recovered, well, recovered enough to go back to normal life. She broke up with him. She broke up with him, she put him down. Yeah, this really had to be ride with me, ride with me. She broke up with him.

SPEAKER_04 13:34

I'm with you.

SPEAKER_02 13:35

So he his whole thing, mind you, a skydiver, a mountain climber, all this, all this wild stuff that he do, he couldn't fathom the fact of something just in everyday life. What she break up with me for, see?

SPEAKER_00 13:49

You don't know, yeah.

Delena Chooses Well-Being

SPEAKER_02 13:50

And I'm like, look, I'm like, look, you know, people, but she she sat there and she nursed me back to health, made sure all my you know, my meds and everything. All my meds and everything I had to do, you know, the process loving them. As soon as he got back well, she breaks up with him. So the topic that I ask you today, would you rather have somebody who loves you and cares about your well-being? Or would you rather have somebody who loves you and cares about you romantically? We're gonna name this one well-being versus romance. Which one would you rather have? Somebody who cares about your well-being, your do you have this, you have that, uh but your wants and needs, but not there for you romantically. There for you, but not there, homogenized, not really, not really raw with because that's pretty much what he was. Or would you rather have somebody who's romantically all your romantic fantasies, all your romantic needs are are fulfilled, but they don't care about your well-being. You come home, you don't got dinner cooked, you fall off a cliff, they'll help you, but not really helping. Which one? Which one would you prefer? Yeah, I throw these topics out there. These topics be crazy.

SPEAKER_04 15:13

You need a minute, you want me to.

SPEAKER_02 15:14

I never that's that's a horrible right there. Yeah, get your thing together. Well-being, you care about your well-being. You got your plate, you got it, you know. You got your if if you you know, take you know, this is old school, but got your bath water, you know. This is old school, or on the new school, you got everything that you need. I care about your well-being. I my priority is your well-being, but they slipping romantically, they slipping, okay. Or would you like a romantically inclined relationship, but they slipping on your well-being? Which one you want to take, Delana? The wonderful Delana.

SPEAKER_04 15:50

So it's gonna be a little caveat to this year. Come on with it, come on with it. What we hear from? So I would say someone who cares about my well-being. Because at the end of the day, all that romantic stuff will die out. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Well, wait a minute. It could die out, the well-being could the well-being could die out. It could fizzle a little bit. No, hold on. When someone cares about whether, like, homegirl took care of him. Like, if something happened to me, I I would want somebody who would help take care of me because I've had it happen, unfortunately, where I've had to have someone take care of me. Yes, and somebody who consider like takes care of my well-being and cares about have I eaten? Have I you gotten enough sleep? Yeah, are you okay? Are you straight?

SPEAKER_02 16:45

Are you straight?

SPEAKER_04 16:46

Yes, but not but not that romantic. I mean, I can work with it.

SPEAKER_02 16:51

I can work with Elena. Are you sure? You're working with somebody who's not there romantically. Flowers, candies, I love you, baby. You so pretty. You're not hearing none of this, but you got but you got everything, you know. So your insurance, I got I got your insurance, and your insurance is as already.

SPEAKER_04 17:07

Well, your well-being can be a lot of different things, like paperwork, paperwork. Some of that stuff is romantic, like you know, coming home.

SPEAKER_02 17:13

Ain't nothing romantic about no paper.

SPEAKER_04 17:15

Coming home to a kitchen clean for a woman. Ain't nothing romantic about that for a woman, ain't nothing romantic about that.

SPEAKER_02 17:21

I don't care who you are.

SPEAKER_04 17:22

Sure, chores, chores is a heck of is is a heck of a foreplay.

SPEAKER_02 17:26

Now you trying to blur, now you're trying to blur the lines to make chores and yeah, um, we ain't talking we talking about romantically, yes, candles lit, all that, all of that, but he don't care, besides, but he don't care. Okay, but you got one that's romantic that don't care about your well being.

SPEAKER_04 17:42

Yeah, that's what I'm saying, but he don't care. That's what I'm saying. Like, he don't care about me. Anything happened to me, he don't care. He cares, he just don't execute. He's not gonna do nothing. Oh, you in the hospital? Oh, you you hungry? Oh, oh, I ate on my way home. Like things like that. That's that's very inconsiderate. I don't I don't want nobody like that.

T Chooses Romance

SPEAKER_02 18:00

But it's inconsiderate to have me laying up in a in a hospital room, no flowers in there, no balloons, and I'm just in the hospital room. But everything, but I'm straight though, but you make sure all the business is taken care of, take care of, but I'm just in a dry room, and then the guy next to me, if I'm in a room with somebody else, whole family got whole family in there, got flowers, everything in there. His girl comes in there, kiss him on the forehead, romantic.

SPEAKER_04 18:21

She don't care that much. That's the thing, she don't care about his well-being that much to even come and visit. Man, the people who care about your well-being, those are the ones that would be there visiting. Those are the ones that'll be there for a year.

SPEAKER_02 18:33

We got you, we got you leaning toward you caring about well-being over romance. Yes, is that what you're telling me?

SPEAKER_04 18:40

Yes, because I mean you make me choose these things, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 18:43

Well, that's the only way that's the only way you become sharper. You know, it ain't no such thing as halfway pregnant. Either the line is a straight line, or it's whatever high bad works, it's been so long for me. What is it? The minus that I don't know. Well, whatever it is, it's only one answer to the question. So you're gonna say that you you would prefer to have somebody who cares about your well-being over romance. Yes, okay, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm with that. I I respect that. Your answer is your opinion. Your your opinion is your opinion, your answer is your answer. Okay, so we got we got you pegged for well-being.

SPEAKER_00 19:25

So you're taking the well-being part, right?

SPEAKER_04 19:28

Uh-huh.

SPEAKER_00 19:28

So that means you can go celibate for the rest of your life.

SPEAKER_04 19:31

I ain't nobody say nothing about me, celibate. That's they say they said romantic.

SPEAKER_00 19:35

No, romantic involves sex.

SPEAKER_04 19:37

No, it don't.

SPEAKER_00 19:38

Yes, it does. A romance sex is definitely part of romance.

SPEAKER_04 19:41

It may be part of it, but it sex you can you can have sex without romance.

SPEAKER_00 19:45

That's easy but the wrong, but the romance part.

SPEAKER_02 19:47

So when so when I'm at the shop, I get guys that come in that I get guys that come in there and they're complaining about they not getting getting none at home. But they have Have a home, yeah. You know, you have a home, you have a home, but they're not getting they're not getting no romance in the home. So that kind of puts in perspective what I'm talking about when I say, would you rather have well-being or would you rather have romance? One of the two. So you you chose well-being.

SPEAKER_04 20:22

Yeah, I told I chose well-being because you know, actually, sometimes that well-being can roll into romance. No, I'm not saying no, you try here. You go again, but it can. I didn't it can.

CJ Weighs The Tradeoffs

SPEAKER_02 20:34

The topic was the topic wasn't supposed, but I'm just saying it can't. Yeah, but the topic wasn't can romance roll. That was that wasn't the question. So let's let's get you, let's get you verified. You are choosing one of the two, left or right, you're choosing well-being over romance tea. Now let's get to it. You know, we've been down for years. Of the two, of well-being, caring about you, basically, brass tax. We got everything, we got the paperwork sign. We got okay. This is paid. You have this, you know, and oh we we forgot that. Oh no, we didn't. We have it right there. You got all of this set up, but you don't have you're lacking romance. You're going home, you know, big old lions t-shirt on, big old lions joggers, with the bonnet on, but you with a bonnet on, but you got everything, but you got everything with the face, sticky bonnet, but you got everything set up. Which of the or you go home and it's just this fiasco swinging from ceilings, swinging from uh ceiling fans.

SPEAKER_04 21:40

But that's more fetish, but we work romance.

SPEAKER_02 21:43

No, whatever romance is in your mind. But uh, but you already well, first of all, you're exempt because you already said you want well-being. So, what you talking about romance from? So at the end of the day, no, just stop. So just stop, just stop. She don't like that. She don't like that.

SPEAKER_03 21:56

Just stop. No, you already chose now. You trying to come back in to the no no no no, you ain't read.

SPEAKER_02 22:03

I'm choosing you out. I'm commentating, and you're different, you're out, you're out. Don't worry about it, you're out of there. Don't worry about that. You're out, you're done. Never. So, yeah, you're done. So we choosing well-being or romance. Which one you're gonna choose, bro?

SPEAKER_00 22:22

I'm gonna get it to how I live, type person. So I'm going with the romance. You you got you gotta keep me sparked, you gotta keep having my attention. I love that romantic stuff.

SPEAKER_04 22:32

Okay, so so what happens?

SPEAKER_00 22:36

Now I'm absolutely that is I'm self-sufficient, I can cook, clean, I know to build stuff, I know I take care of bills, I know I do everything. So that type of tip, and I'm pretty healthy. Always I maintain my health.

SPEAKER_02 22:50

So, what you're saying is all I really need you for. What what else do I have you for other than romance?

SPEAKER_00 22:57

I'm picking that.

SPEAKER_02 22:58

You picking romance, you picking romance.

SPEAKER_00 23:00

Okay, okay, then you gotta keep my gotta keep. I don't care about them bills, you gotta keep me stimulated, you gotta keep me, you gotta keep my attention. You can't keep my attention.

SPEAKER_02 23:10

I uh isn't so he said he got everything under control. I ain't worried about all of that. I got that covered. What I need you to do, yeah, is keep me stimulated, keep me around.

SPEAKER_00 23:21

Oh man, this is all we until what you mean, till until something happens. Ain't nothing gonna happen. I don't I don't put that negative energy on.

SPEAKER_04 23:30

Well, I won't say that something will happen, but I mean it's I never think like that.

SPEAKER_00 23:35

I never broke a bone. I don't usually guess that I'm a healthy individual, I work out still, I run, I play basketball. I'm taking care of myself.

SPEAKER_04 23:46

Yeah, I I speak from more of a personal aspect, just as you do.

Life’s Purpose: Joy Or Logistics

SPEAKER_02 23:50

Yeah, but yeah, so it's I see the perspective from which you speak, but you know, all what what all things considered, what is it that you really want? I mean, life happens, right? But what is it that you would prefer if you had one wish, like that record, or one wish that was Ray J made that record. If all you had was one wish, what would the wish fulfillment of that wish be? Would it be to have someone who got well-being or somebody who got the romance for you? You chose well-being, T that chose romance. So now we now we cooking with propane here tonight on this evening. We let's get it. It's going in. So that's a this is an excellent topic that I wanted to explore. Something that I was thinking about when I was thinking about what you keep you making noises over here. What's going on? What's on your mind?

SPEAKER_00 24:45

You making too many letters.

SPEAKER_02 24:46

We got we got room, we got room, we got room. We said, Well, we got room for you. What's going on over here?

SPEAKER_04 24:54

I because it it that they're so close to each other, to be honest with you. Which is that okay. No, they are. I'm not, I'm not, I'm not changing. I'm still not changing my answer. Let's be clear. I'm not changing my answer.

SPEAKER_02 25:08

I I didn't say nobody changing answer. What's close together? What are you talking about?

SPEAKER_04 25:11

Your well-being in maybe romance, you know, it may lead to you know, someone taking care of you. That is maybe your your your love language, you know, a sign of affection. That may be what you're looking for, and that may turn into romance to you, even though it's just you're taking care of your well-being. That's not what we're looking for. A definite answer. I know. I guess you're gonna give a definite answer. You got one, you got one choice and choosing, and I'm not saying nothing wrong with choosing romance. I mean, it's a hard choice to be honest with you, but that's like choosing dusty over the other one. Which one is really better? You don't know, you don't know the answer to that question. Yeah, I'm not choosing Dusty. Ever. That's why I chose well-being. I'm never gonna choose Dusty over my well-being.

SPEAKER_02 26:05

But what if Dusty got a romance package? So I'll go. So not so you know, but you know, if he's dusty, he can't he don't even classify for romance either. That's dusty, too. Don't nobody want no dusty romance.

SPEAKER_04 26:19

That the dusty one, that's the one who got all the time in the world. Oh, he he could be romantic. He he could be, but he could be romantic.

SPEAKER_02 26:26

But I'm talking about I'm talking about a sophisticated level of romance, which you deserve. Now we we're talking about something that's that's that's uh that's above that's above board, something that you would like for yourself. Now that's what that's what I'm speaking of. Now, which one do you choose? And it's red or green pill. Stop trying to take half of this one and then say, you know, this one can turn to this one. No, which one but you already answered? So well-being for you, yes, uh romance for you, because he says that he states that he's self-sufficient, he knows how to pay bills, he knows how to cook. I assume, yes, he knows how to cook, he know how to cook clean, he knows how to do all these things. So, why would I ever need anything past that other than you being romantic? All right, that's a good one. So, what which one would you prefer along the lines of well-being or romance for me? So, I was thinking about this earlier. This is how this is how I landed here.

Audience Challenge And Real-World Stakes

SPEAKER_04 27:28

The answer are never, it's never gonna be what you think. Well, you know, I'll be I'll be going.

Gratitude, Growth, And Next Season

SPEAKER_02 27:38

I'll be good all the time. I'll be going on these, I'll be going on these topics, you know, for me. Because when I was younger, so let's let's do the back story. When I was younger, I I used to try to strive for romance. I too am one who is self-sufficient. I don't I I know how to do, I know how to survive. Put it like that. I I know how to survive. You'll see me tomorrow. But here lately, I've been watching and I've been studying the concept of well-being. Who cares? Who has your best interests in mind and heart? Who has your best interests and in mind? Who top of mind, right? And I'm saying, man, my romance ain't what it used to be. And I'm really mad about that, but can I really complain? If my romance isn't what I feel it should be, can I really complain if my well-being is a priority? That that really that really baffled me. That really that really put my mind to the test because that romance is important for a man. Because what else I got you for? That's like having a singing frog. And I present and I go to present the singing frog, and the frog don't sing at me looking stupid. I what else do I have you for? The romantic element is what I have you for. That has to be fulfilled. But what if it's not fulfilled? What if the romantic side of the relationship is void, but your well-being is stellar? How do how do I how do I live this way? How do I live without romance? If I have romance, how do I live without well-being? This is tough. This this is I told you. This is this is great. This is grimy and gritty. So of the two, which one would I prefer? Of the two, sadly, sadly, I would prefer romance, and I'll tell you why. Yes, this is true that we you have someone who cares about your well-being, and you have someone who will make sure that your game is tight, right? But you only get one go round in this life, and life is about happiness and enjoyment. Life is not about a whole bunch of X's and O's and prescriptions and payments. These are the realities of life. But the goal of life and the core of life, and the objective is life, is to have fun, have a ball, have a ball, baby, have fun one-on-one, no balls, or two-on-one, or two on one, or three on one?

SPEAKER_03 30:51

I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 30:52

Okay, how many women decide to get down? Of course, you know that ain't my life.

unknown 30:58

Big mama, that ain't my life.

SPEAKER_02 30:59

It ain't my life. Hold on now, y'all. That's not my life now. For real now, but I'm saying though, what is life without enjoyment? So, you so concerned about my well-being that you forgot to enjoy life with me. I can't see myself living that way. There must be a romantic element for me to honestly say that I enjoyed myself. Entertainment, RB, music, flowers, candy, these things have to take place. Now, if you yank away the foundation and that's all we have, that's called a risk. But you taking the risk anyway with well-being, you can have somebody care about you and be caring about somebody else just a little bit less. They still can be well-being in for you, and then well, it's like having somebody romantic about you.

SPEAKER_04 31:51

Well, at least I'm getting my romance and romantic about somebody with somebody else.

SPEAKER_02 31:56

Well, at least I'm getting romantic romance. I look at it like Jenny and Forrest Gump. Jenny was romancing everybody, but forest wasn't worried about force as long as forest was getting easy.

SPEAKER_03 32:11

What happened to this? What happened, Jenny? What just happened? For Jenny, I'm dizzy now.

SPEAKER_02 32:20

I was like, Forrest, your man is tripping. Yes, as long as he and he and he knew openly, he he just he knew he knew he he wasn't no lane to this. You knew what's going on, but as long as I get my portion, he was good, I'm straight. And I think that's I think that's where I'm at moving forward. And like I say, I you know, I'm happy to have someone who cares about my well-being, a whole world of people that care about my well-being. But if I had to just choose between the two, honestly, I would have to choose a romantically inclined scenario. So we got two for romance, one for well-being, but all three actually considering well-being. We still gave examples of how we're gonna be well. You know, you chose well-being flat out. He's saying that I'm gonna my well-being gonna maintain be maintained by me, and I'm saying I'm not foregoing my well-being, but I would love to have some romance.

SPEAKER_04 33:23

I mean, I would love to have some romance. I'm not changing my answer, just just to be clear again. But who wouldn't? But I think it's more important in what I prefer. Exactly. We you gotta it's more important to me.

SPEAKER_02 33:36

So you picked well being, and that's from just experience. That's just your answer. Your answer, how you came to how you landed on that answer is your your answer, your preference. But I I would choose romance, and it's from experience. I've been, you know, I've been hey, I gotta have some romance, I gotta have it. I gotta have somebody who who bought that life, I gotta have somebody who crazy like that about that life, somebody who got who like it raw, right? And yep, and then and then if we gotta do it for the back of doors, and if it's happening with the uh and if it's happening with the lights out, burning cash. So to uh to our supporters, our cash is verified. We're coming in, you know. We like I say we we're picking up steam, we're getting a lot of viewers, a lot a lot more views, a lot more support, a lot more attention to the show. We need more all cash is verified. Any cash coming in or any cash going out is verified. Respect my show. We're trying to get to a level with this podcast where it becomes well, we're worried about the well-being of the podcast, but also giving you the romance that you need. So, this is a this is a two-fold. We don't make a choice with the actual show, we're giving you both, we're giving you well-being and the romance aspect and the and the passion and all the the true opinions that we that we state here on the show. So, we thank you for all the support to my personal supporters. Ben, to to the ones who just support CJ personally. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. My personal support system is amazing by coming in for me in a way where words can't describe the way that the advocate taken care of, they've been taking care of me. So I I want to just openly say thank you and I appreciate you from the bottom of my heart. Yeah, here we are again: romance or well-being. Everybody out there, when you hear this one, decide which one you would rather have. You got a red pill and you got a blue pill. Which one is you gonna take? The one for well-being. She got my back, she cares about me, but she dry. She dry, or he dry. He cares about me, but he dry. Or would you or would you like this and but or this romantic thing, but business ain't never getting handled? I ain't never, I ain't never straight.

SPEAKER_04 36:04

Like, oh, we supposed to be, I was supposed to be the cardo.

SPEAKER_02 36:07

I I ain't straight.

SPEAKER_04 36:08

Insurance ain't go through. You at you at the hospital at the doctor's office trying to see the doctor. Like, baby, you ain't got no insurance.

SPEAKER_03 36:19

Come on, come on, you guys. Come on, you know you're bold. Come on, you bold, you're not straight. Next person, please. You that straight up to the side, son.

SPEAKER_02 36:27

We got a vendor machine out there with a little vurnace in it. Can warm it up, warm vernace for you. You look toxic. You're a little toxic because you're not straight. You're not straight, you're not straight up. You're not straight. Got too much or two half here for you. But you got somebody hanging from the shed to live for you. But when you go home, it's going down. You're getting grapefruited.

SPEAKER_03 36:50

Oops. Oops. My bad. Oh, yeah.

Stay Safe, Stay Dangerous, Final Sign-Off

SPEAKER_02 36:57

I guess y'all not getting grapefruited out there. Oh well. Well, okay. We try that. Yeah, we we explored a very interesting topic. The volves a very interesting topic this evening. I'm glad that we had the opportunity to do so. We're gonna keep it, we're gonna keep the heat up for you. We'll keep it coming. I got I gotta plethora, I gotta be in topic. I gotta, you know, we we go down the list. I don't know how many I got, becoming sharper, right? You know, just getting sharper and sharper. And we're gonna bring in some more guests coming into the next segments of the podcast. The next we you know, we go by seasons. So the next season of the podcast coming in for this season, we're gonna have some guests come in and really uh we're gonna give some of them the topics too, the guests. So we're gonna come in and do this with you. We're glad that we had this opportunity to be with you this evening. We got T special guests come in. My brother came sat in with us. He thought he was gonna sit over there and just watch. Yeah, no, you're gonna be on observe, no. Yeah, you would you're observing, you're observing observing. Yeah, would you rather observe or would you rather be a part of the podcast? I'm a part of it now. You're part of it now, you're alive in the live in the flesh. So, yeah, we're gonna do it like that to everybody out there. Smoke this topic over, stay safe out there. I want you to stay safe, but also stay dangerous. You gotta do a uh twofold now because you get you're being safe, but you all gotta be dangerous enough where they know not to not to try to challenge your safety. So we really live in some times, you know, stay on your agenda, have your agenda for yourself. And if you don't have an agenda for yourself, somebody definitely give you one. So you want to make sure you got your own plan, your own agenda, your own, your own business. You know, even if you're working a job, you still got a business that's called minding your business. So we're gonna roll like that. We're gonna get out of here, we're gonna do a little photo shoot and hang out, see what our next move is gonna be since we're hanging. And until the next time, let us become shopper. Peace.