Have you ever tried to rush through the healing process in a desperate attempt to escape pain and suffering? What if there's immense value in embracing the waiting, the pain, and the lessons that come with it?
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There are seasons in life that call about healing and transformation and processing and all of that, and those things cannot be rushed.
Speaker 1:What's up everybody? Welcome to Donations. I'm your host, donovan, and I just want to say I hope you're continuing to put one foot in front of the other and holding your head up high. If anyone's got this, it's you. I have recently been through it. To say that I had been squished between a rock and a hard place over the past couple of months would be an understatement. Luckily, the days are brighter now. There's maybe a little bit of residual baggage I'm still sorting through, but if you feel like you've been carrying around some of that weight too lately, my heart goes out to you tenfold. My goal, if anything, with what we do here at Donations is to not tell you I have all the answers. It's only to let you know that I'm right there with you.
Speaker 1:At one point over the past couple of months I caught myself thinking about one of the last times I found myself in a hard time and I took some time to dive into that time and place from a couple of years back for the sole purpose of figuring out what I did at that time, to get through it. And once I kind of found some key points that felt like comfort in an uncomfortable time, I then focused on okay, how long did it take me? How long did it take me to get through it and to get to a good place again? And so I settled on one specific month that all the troubles of that time and place had started. And then I thought over to the earliest month that I could remember, following those troubles, that I could finally say I was out from all the wreckage. Okay, so that took me about four months. After four months I was feeling a whole lot better and living a better life. I took that and ran with it. So, with all that I had been facing over the past couple of months, at this point in my life I just had to give it four months and then I would be good. Thinking about that, I realized it wasn't the longest amount of time and everything would be okay. Now I'm sure you know where this is going. It doesn't really work that way. Lucky for me, I've been through some shit before. It wasn't my first rodeo and at this point in my life I've got a couple of lessons in my back pocket.
Speaker 1:There are seasons in life that call about healing and transformation and processing and all of that, and those things cannot be rushed, and I know in my heart of hearts that however long it took me to get through a tough time in the past isn't always going to correlate to how long it will take me to get through a tough time now. Yeah, that's partly because of growth and wisdom and experience and being comfortable with rejection and all the things that come with getting older. But in the grand scheme of processing and getting to a better place, whether it be physically, mentally or spiritually, we need to allow it to take however long it wants to take. There's no guarantee to where we'll be in four months. Hell, there's not even a guarantee to where we'll be tomorrow. So to put a deadline on something like healing is just putting unnecessary pressure on yourself and what is likely already a very heavy time Only when you find yourself working through things like hurt or grief or the questioning of your identity or the kinds of things that have the potential to change your approach or outlook in life moving forward. If you're feeling any of that right now, or if you feel like something's been knocking at your door for a while, and if you find yourself trying to rush through it all to get to somewhere where the view is nicer, or if you find yourself peeking through the blinds waiting for whoever is doing the knocking to stop and walk away, remember that the healed version of you that lies on the other end of that hurt or that grief or whatever it is you need to process is far better off having learned the weight in waiting for that season to pass rather than rushing through it or acting as if it doesn't exist.
Speaker 1:Sometimes we'll try to rush through the things we need to process or even act as if they're not happening or never mattered to us at all. We'll try any distraction we can, but trust that our bodies still feel all of those uncomfortable feelings our mind doesn't want to deal with, and that's why some people, I think, are perpetually angry or frustrated all the time, or overly sensitive or quick-tempered, or just a bomb waiting to go off for no obvious reason. And yeah, maybe if we try just running away from the uncomfortable shit, we'll eventually begin to move forward at some capacity. Right, but all that uncomfortable stuff that we didn't deal with will always be there right at our heels, no matter where we go, waiting on our door at the most inconvenient of times. There is beauty in every season, yes, even the dark and trying ones, and there are lessons to learn there.
Speaker 1:And, trust me, I know all too well how uncomfortable it is to face the things that cause the wars that go on inside of us. And, yes, I know how much easier it is to simply just give it time, because, yes, time heals all wounds, but without taking the time to armor up and join the front lines of those wars to learn the lessons were meant to learn then, those wounds that should have healed with time, yeah, they might have stopped bleeding and probably scabbed over and there's hardly any pain anymore. But any wrong turn or wrong step and will very easily scrape that scab right off and the bleeding will start again, and we all know how painful that can be. Needless to say, I had to forget about the idea of four months. I had to promise myself I wouldn't try to distract myself from the pain or find some way around it, regardless of how uncomfortable and daunting it might seem. It was time to settle in and I share that with you today, to remind you to be patient with yourself.
Speaker 1:Don't rush your healing, regardless of the time it takes. Don't ignore the knocking at the door. Don't force any season in your life to look or feel a certain way, or don't try to push it aside or don't try to act like it doesn't exist. Just allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. I'm right there with you.
Speaker 1:It's not going to be easy. It takes guts, but nothing worth having ever came easy right. There's a better version of us standing on the other side of all that we need to process, all that we need to heal in a brand new season of life waiting to embrace us. If you've made it to the end of today's episode, I want to give you a big thanks for listening, and I also want to give you a quick reminder about Pod Inbox that's P-O-D-I-N-B-O-Xcom slash donations, which is a website where you can submit an audio message asking a question, providing some insight of your own, giving your point of view on the kind of things we talk about here at donations or, honestly, anything you want, and you can be featured in a future episode. So do me a favor and check that out and, as always, until the next one, be careful.