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Being Aloud
Hello! My name is Bee Bishay-- an Egyptian writer who is desperately trying to carve out room for more authentic, off-scripted conversations. Despite a society that places a subtle (though very heavy) expectation on all of us to follow the same path, life has shown me--the very hard way--that things don't always go as planned. In fact, I've learned that though we may spend days and nights clearly mapping out the details of our futures, our lives *rarely ever* unfold as expected. And as harsh of a smack on our human pride as it is, the fact is that we don't really have very much control at all.So why do we insist on shaming ourselves when life doesn't go as we'd expected? Why is it so hard for us to embrace the stickiness of our frail humanity? These are the questions I attempt to explore throughout the Being Aloud podcast--a place where we're not afraid to be our messy, imperfect, un-linear human selves, out loud!
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Divorce Part 1: Deciding to Leave
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Exclusive access to premium content!On the 24th of November 2021 (one year ago 2 days from today, if you’re listening on release day), i left my marriage home and went back to live with my parents. I officially began the divorce process in April of 2022, and now, one year later, i am officially a divorcé (although, i have my reservations against the word–the title–the box ‘Divorcé’).
But here i am, a year later and having finally gained enough perspective to talk about this topic with you. Because since my own experience with this very unique kind of loss, my eyes have been opened to see that i am far from being the only one. Divorce has been the only option for so many people who have had to silence their voices to avoid the added pressure of social stigma, at a time when their hearts were already broken and reeling enough. Countless individuals have found themselves in this same impossible situation, and have had to hide their faces and cover their stories to avoid shame in order to maintain a place in society.
But divorce is much bigger than society. Much more profoundly individual and life-changing (not to mention absolutely traumatizing).
I realize i’ve been given a voice, and i would like to dedicate the next three episodes of the Being Aloud podcast to the topic of divorce, in the hopes that maybe someone will see that they don’t need to suffer alone, and that the rights to their divorce story are only theirs. I want to discuss this topic also because i really needed this conversation when it felt as though i was drowning in a raging sea all by myself. I needed someone to come at me from the future with language my broken heart could actually understand.
Disclaimer: I will NOT be sharing the details of my divorce story.
So in today's episode, we discuss:
- The original definition of the word "quit" and how that can change our perception of the difficult choice
- A fundamental pillar of lasting marriages: both people's willingness to set their egos aside and become selfless for the other person
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