Are Funny People More Attractive?

In this Episode, Josh and Arika talk about the connection between being funny and how other people like it. Can you change the course of a date by being funny?

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Hey everybody! Hey! Hi, welcome back to Yeah Whatever. I forgot the name of our podcast. Oh my gosh. But I'm not gonna say it. I'm not gonna say why we No, no, Do not. Oh my god. Nope. You had to even say that. I'm not gonna say it. You even said that though. I'm not gonna say it. It's a step program, okay? You don't say it and then eventually I'll forget about... saying the thing that no one wants me to talk about. Is it a 12 step program? It's a 11 step program actually. The last step is actually a mystery. I don't know what's going to happen. Yeah, I'm just going to walk into like a dark room. I'm sorry, but I'm so glad we got to do this podcast before you go to work. I feel like. Well, actually, no, we're not always doing a podcast right before I'm leaving. no, but it seems it seems like it like please. Like I'm just begging you to do a podcast. No, you're not begging. I'm actually thinking about replacing you with a I. So you have not begged me once. Speaking of a high, which Erica will be replaced very soon with a I. I am not replaceable. So I know you forgot to.  Hold the mic  it is directional so you can go like this. No, it's because  it's Oh, it's the same thing.  Oh, okay. Yeah, it's the same thing. There we go. We can hear you now.  Oh my gosh  You just got over being told to  Earn or having a cold. mean, yeah as I just like  yeah, you just caught all over my bare naked mic Thank you in bare naked you hold on. Let me open this You're not pernaked. Never mind. Yeah  By the way, I am completely naked right now  You can't tell  but in the last podcast was the Oscars, which I was you know head to toe  Dripped out and now I just went the opposite. I'm not wearing any pants. You know what I've noticed.  Sorry  Okay, you  sorry yeah Not that many people are very funny  No, I don't think so Yeah, I just like I just like okay. I'm not trying to like like hype us up, but I'm gonna hype us up for a minute. Yeah, like We're like immediately laughing like a lot and like maybe we think we're funny. That's the problem Yeah, but that's no but that's also the problem with them is that like it takes it's not only about being funny yourself it's also about having a sense of humor and like You know like that is the other day. There was this guy was like I said something I was just Like  I can't remember like what it was like  he was like, he said something like.   He was like,  oh  It was something I'm just gonna come up with  a You gotta like edit this No, it's gold. It was like it was like he said something like  Like  I have to  I have to remember  to  put the  the Pelican on or something.  And then he's like, mean, I have to remember to turn the Peloton on.  And then I'm like,  oh, you also have to remember to turn the Pelican on. And like, I don't know. Like, that was a terrible example. Like literally I just made that up. But like the entire restaurant just started bursting laughing. was something like, no, shut up.  That's like my ex I always used to say he always used to say and then everyone died laughing  every time he told a joke  I'd always laugh  Then I did die laughing  No, but the the it was just like that's not exactly what it was I just trying to come up with something on the fly but it was like along those lines where I like, know, just stupid  Abstract to be able to play with words and stuff. You're really good at improv I feel. He just was like  He like chuckled and he kept going with his story. He's like, so the blah blah blah. And I was just like, are you robot? What the? Like, how does that not funny to you? And maybe it's just maybe I'm just not funny to some people. But like, there are some people that are like very, very, very like subjectively funny to everyone. And like they find me funny. Right. So it's like. What is wrong with these robot people? No, there's a lot of robot people around. I don't know why.  They're the same ones who are married already. It's just easy for them. They're just secure attachment style robot people. I mean, and they just go about life being boring and they get married and they get everything they want. Sorry, I'm better. It's OK. I'm 34.  I'm not 34.  And I'm hilarious. Dang it. I'm so funny and I'm so sexy.   As we clip through the glass ceiling  So  Screeching you know what screeching does not screeching does not help  the ceiling. Oh  my gosh  It looks like a cardiac arrest on my computer  Anyway, yeah, no, there's a lot of boring people out there. I don't know how they have make friends or they meet someone and get married. They must. I don't know how they make love. I actually don't know how to how they make love. You know, they're probably like, it's probably terrible. This a satisfaction. Yes. God. But harder. I like that.  I like that. I don't like that. Right there. don't like that. No, not there. No,  no,  no.  I have a headache.  I'm too sweaty. Let's stop now.  It's getting hot. Not  that hot.  I need to cool down. OK, go.  You don't know how they make wet. You know, I think funny people think that the world is just a funny place because that's their point of view like us. Like we can.  You know, we can be sad and   Oh, that's great.  So anyway purple hat guys purple hat guys. No, it's called purple hat.  Oh  Oh guys, purple hat guys. Okay.  So guys look it up purple head. This this  podcast is sponsored by purple hat  guys  Working on the people we believe on the people So anyway, I think 50 % of people are not funny. So We should be blessed that we have a sense of humor because it is a sense that people are not born with But it comes at a cost I mean you could be the weird one in the group right like if you actually have a friend group That's more stable and like Erica that was out of pocket or like read the room and we're just like I just made one joke about  the brown man  Like you used to do like like I remember you used to call me Indian sometimes and my dad was like  like was a little  taken back.  Especially Indie, like when I would say Indie, like that was like a play on the Indian nickname we had as well as like how much you love Indiana Jones, because you love that too, and so I just, I don't know, I just came up with all these little nicknames for you back in the day, and now I feel like they're canceled. Oh, don't worry about it, racist. But I can just not say them anymore, sorry. Racist. I never meant them in a bad way. Anyway, you are funny.  Yeah, you are funny. I don't know why people  think that.  funny people are sometimes cringe, but I like it makes. Well, sometimes it's a little seasoning on range. Sometimes there's a little cringe because I mean, not every joke is going to land. You you can go too far? You're like having too much of a good time.  Actually, yes,  I recently started experimenting with that. I feel like since I've been  coming out of my little cocoon that I was in for, you know, a few years, I have a little T-Rex. I've been getting get my T-Rex. My little cocoon. This is my. These are my wings like struggling to get out of the cocoon. wings that you can't, yeah. Okay, you have to. And so ever since I've been kind of hatching, I've gotten, I've been playing with being more and more funny. And sometimes I just go like all the way where like, it's nothing offensive. It's not offensive. It's too far as in like, no one knows what I'm talking about anymore. Oh, I see. That's a that's a wall I recently learned I can hit sometimes where like maybe you like remember like that movie thing we did where we just kept going about like, yeah, when Robin Williams, yes, you know, Wrangled the Shark or whatever. Yeah, we just kept going on and on something like that. You can hear that podcast here on. whatever. But like the, don't know, I could take something like that too far, like just being like, you know.  By the way, like sharks are  rapidly going extinct. Like, I don't know, like I could just say something that to me is funny  and then somebody else is just like, That's hilarious.   Thought we're doing the movie thing It's almost like the joke gets lost cuz it's like you're in one type of joking and then I go to a different one and then it doesn't make sense Do you think that how do you test that like on dates with friends when you're shooting?  Okay,  you never would do that on date like hey guess what the sharks are dying I you know I've done I've done a little bit of self-entertainment on dates like that if you're bored and yeah a little bit oh wow and it's not just bored but just more like I'm just so like desensitized. Right. So I'll just say things that I think are funny.  Right. No. Just to have fun. Yeah. Yeah. I do that at work all the time, but I try not to go over. Sometimes I'm like, oh my gosh, is that guy's going to like complain?  Yeah. Got to watch that when you're bored. But  yeah, no, I agree. Oh, yeah. I do that at work, too. You make fun of people. Yeah. Oh, yeah. At the bar.  Oh, that's nice. Yeah. OK. So enough about me.  How about you? What about your sense of humor? Are you like, considered funny among your friends? I know to me, I told you you're terribly boring. Yeah,  to me, I'm usually the funniest in my small little circle.  It's when I grow, the circle grows like I go to a party or something.  It could be a hit or miss. Like, I could say a joke, it could miss terribly. No one would laugh. And then I would get self-conscious and I'm like, okay, time to start doing something else, like  play pickle.   Play Jim Runny or something like that. So  Or start drinking massively in massive copious amounts  And then I'm funny  But  yeah, no, it's weird  There's always this line where you think you're funny and then everyone  suddenly  doesn't think you're I  don't know what line that is, but I do entertain myself sometimes  I feel like I'm the most funny when I don't think about it  And when I'm put into a position, when I'm put into a situation, I tend to be funny  where  I do a lot of dry humor.  So I don't do like I don't like set up a joke and then tell it. I just kind of say things  back when I was a junior high. I was known for shock humor, which I don't really do anymore because that's I mean,  what's shocking to a junior hire is like, you know,  Not really shocking to adults, but to shock adults you have to really go far out nowadays. So right. I don't really do anything like that anymore. What was like? What's an example of something you might have said?  I don't know said, but like I would just like do like like OK in the classroom, right? Like OK Josh, you win one point for the classroom like point assessment like good job. Go up to the board and like write a draw thing so I would do that, but I would do that with a permanent marker. You know like that kind of stuff and I was just like like and I instead of like putting it back I would just like toss it behind toss the marker behind my shoulder and like everyone would be like, my gosh, he's a genius. He's a comedic genius. So like Things things like that doesn't really fly. You're gonna tell like people just like what a jerk. Yeah Yeah, like adults think you're a jerk. Yes, gosh. Why would you do that? Like now she has to clean that whiteboard up, but in junior high I was Yeah, pretty funny. I would like grab a bunch of pencils, just break them in half and then put the  only the erasers back  and I keep all of  the rest of that. People thought that was hilarious. That's funny. It's also really douchey, like you said. No, yeah, it's it's very like jerk, jerky, shocking humor.  And it just doesn't fly outside of junior high. I feel like it's like that's like perfect. Junior high boy humor. Yeah. It's like that's like textbook. It's like walk up to a you know your group of friends like what if it's like what if a holes and then just knock someone's drink  And then they're like, oh, that's so funny Yes  Doesn't fly I feel like  I know some people that never grew out of that. No.  Yeah, there's a lot of people that  at work There's a lot of shock humor and I'm like, oh my gosh, you can't say that there's guests around, you know There's like, you know,  I don't know why I can't I can't actually say it on the podcast, but they would say a lot of shocking things.  Oh, spicy. What? Just resetting this here.  Oh, I thought you were on a dating app as in the middle of our podcast. I'm not that aggressive. Then you said, oh, spicy. I am not that aggressive. Geez. I'm sorry.  But I'm glad that you entertain yourself on dates, at least. Yeah, I do.  Yeah, someone has to.   I'm guessing those days don't last long or actually maybe they do Have you ever had a date where you actually opened up and they opened up more and you're like, oh you're actually interesting This is great. Let's  I Open your shell your little shell that was closed  Yeah, I have like I'm not gonna lie. I have no problem like making a date interesting or fun. That sounds really arrogant But like I yeah, I have no problem. I'm very good at asking questions The most beautiful the most funny the most talented 30 some year old. Thank you for remembering everything I told you about myself.  I mean, you say it daily  and you have it written in the mirror.  And then I go up to your door and I say it to you. actually have posters in your bedroom. I am I'm the most beautiful. am the most funny. have to say posters in my bedroom of myself.  Well, there was that one ballerina poster. I don't know what happened to you when you were a kid. Which we really have to post somewhere. Yeah, there's also the Shabari one, but that one had to get taken down first Oh, I'm sorry, I'm innocent You might want to cut that part out for yourself there. I'm thinking about Japanese restaurants. I don't Know no no no no no no no no no no no no no no No, you don't go to a Shabari restaurant. My is off the charts again. Yeah, a bit.  Can you actually scream in a heartbeat?  I'm gonna see it on the thing. What do you mean?  Okay, brace yourselves. Someone's gonna have a heart attack. Okay.  No, that's not a heartbeat. Oh, I thought you meant to scream.  No,  okay. No, never mind.  That was funny. In a heartbeat.  I sound like a monkey. Yeah, you do a little bit sound like a monkey.  Okay. So anyways, what were we talking about? We're the funniest people on the planet.  As you can see,  we don't I don't think we have to tell you know, say tell you guys proved you guys how funny we are. We kind of just proved that in last 10 minutes.  Has any have you ever gotten in trouble with your humor? Like were you were you this way in school?  Um, there's been a couple times where people say I can't say   I might have to dolphin that out.  Yeah, dolphin. I don't know if I don't see. don't know what PC culture is. I just dolphin it. Yeah, just yeah.  Some people say I can't say that, but I'm like, OK, you guys like you out of everyone. I was born in the  90s and everyone says that  and we all know that we're not actually talking about  people  because like my brother  like does have  serious, you know, mental,  I  guess, retardation or. whatever you want to call it. you have like the most...  Yeah, like I'm not... It's because there's like a compartmentalization thing, you know? It's just like, you just don't like... Just like Michael Scott would say, my icon.  I wouldn't actually call a **** person or whatever he said. Yeah. You know, you're not... It's not meant in that way. So  I don't know, like...  I guess you have to think about it, like maybe extrapolate it. is this something that,  is there something that  is  sad or unfortunate about me that I would be upset if people used  as a way of identifying someone  being a certain way, right? Like maybe my,  I don't know, my, like, I'm like white or something. Like if they said, oh, that paper's like, like an Erica level of whiteness or something. don't know, like I would, would, I don't think I would find it offensive. I think I would find it like, uh. I don't know. You know what I mean? Pale as a white. Whatever. This is a horrible example, but I just think that like it just depends on your like your intention. If you're trying to degrade people or if you're trying to degrade a person. Yeah, I think PC culture has gotten a little bit out of hand, but I do see a rebound in recent years fighting against like it's almost like post PC culture fight back. People still say dumb. People still say dumb. lame.  Yeah. And both of those things are talking about like people that either can't speak or walk. Right. So,  you know, I just think like. Or like, are you deaf? You know, you know, people say that. Right.  And then  Patrick on Spongebob for like many years,  he sounds dumb and he is dumb. I still say gay. I don't care. Yeah, like oh, that's gay. guys can burn me at the stake for that. I'm still gonna say it. I love gay people. I am like the biggest advocate for LGBT, LGBTQ plus alphabet community. But like I am  so I  there's just I'm a 90s kid. Like I'm just like, that's gay.  Something when something is  stupid to me or lame or deaf or dumb,  whatever.  I sometimes I say I'm like, that's gay. Wow. So many dolphins out there.  So many dolphins out there.  Yeah, no, I feel like  I'll be the first to look at a guy wearing a dress and makeup and be like work it Queen like I love it I love that like I love it. I'm all for them But then like if something is  if somebody  poops in my cereal, I'm gonna be like you're gay  And it doesn't make any sense it's just it's just a word it's just a word. Yeah, okay Yeah, no, I feel like just like our  every generation has their words, right? It's how really hard to like  Yeah, just talk about anything else. Like my grandpa, I'm gonna dolphin this up, but he used to say like, I love  people. And I'm just like, grandpa, can't say it. I'm pretty sure. But you know, you knew what he meant, right?  Like the it's like, you're supposed to say black. And to him, black is more aggressive than  because it's like a shade.  Black is like black, black, black. You know, it's literally black and white. That's interesting. I used to think it was actually the proper way to say it. Well,  no,  I think it's because a lot of like official signs that say like this water fountain is for  people, you know, and this was  a science for white people. That's really intense. Yeah. So  so they they they fix that word with like a negative like, my gosh, I don't want to relive like the drinking fountain, you know. Yeah. So yeah, I didn't even think about that. You know, I mean, my grandpa didn't think about that either.  And I've never heard him say anything bad against black people. He really like black people.  He just has words that describe them and I'm like grandpa you can't like you can't say that and you can't really teach 80 year old new tricks, right? So he's just gonna do what he wants. But um, Yeah. No, he wasn't racist racist at all It's just how we view the world. Can you turn can you teach a 34 year old new tricks? Maybe I don't know 34. I think you're pretty set in your ways at like 34 35. So like the humor that you learn, experience, things that you laugh at or get offended by, I think are pretty solid. So yeah, I get offended by certain things that most, like some people do not get offended by. And I don't think that's gonna change, But yeah, I'm still gonna say the N-word and I don't care if people think that's Oh my God. Oh my God. I'm kidding.  Speaking of that.  Oh my gosh. What my there's an offshoot on that. There's an offshoot on that really fast I'm gonna leave you guys with this beautiful little treasure little treasure chest right before I'm gonna go to work. Oh boy on the n-word  So, okay  My brother as I just mentioned has pretty severe autism He's like mentally kind of like eight years old forever, and he doesn't really understand  a lot of social things.  He  understands a little bit.  Yeah, he's very polite. He says, please and thank you and stuff like that. Yeah. Yeah. So anyways,  however,  he's like 30. He's like 31 years old and he's like six foot two  and he's pretty athletic. So just picture just picture an eight year old that likes to ask for  Legos every Christmas  and has. you know, eight year old handwriting and stuff. Picture that in a six foot two, thirty four, thirty one year old body. And now picture him angry, OK? Oh, boy. So  my brother likes to go out to the playground and listen to his music. He's not sheltered to. He listens to. No, he's not sheltered. He watches TV. Right. And he learns certain words he learns from some from certain movies. He learns words he learns. He understands. This is a curse word and this is something people say when they're angry. Right. And so this is what I have to do. And so maybe one time or 20. Oh, boy. My brother was at, you know, at the playground where where, you know, my dad lives. There's a playground that has  a  a huge semicircle brick wall around it, around one half of the playground that kind of makes it like a little small  echo.  Uh, a little bit of a chamber, yeah. And that faces the field and all of this is surrounded by tons  of homes. Right. And sometimes I don't know why my brother goes out there and he listens to his music and he stems, which is something that autistic people do.  I'm not saying I don't know why he does this part. I know why he does that. It's he's autistic. So he jumps around and he talks. He relays conversations out loud. He's he's just talking. He's like replaying events or something. And so anyways, sometimes,  sometimes my brother for some reason gets upset and he starts  saying things that he heard from movies,  which includes,  you're going to blur that out.  You're going to blur that out. Okay. He'll say that. And,  but, the thing is he doesn't know how to say the word. He misunderstood the word. So he thinks it's. OK, like a cigar. Yeah. So he'll be out at the playground and he'll be like, you know, and my dad and I are hey, right. And like the neighbors are probably freaking out. Like, who is this six foot two right guy with headphones on yelling you? Right at the playground, but we never corrected him because we don't want him to know the real word and like Yeah, it's just something he does sometimes like when he's upset and he doesn't he's he's autistic. He doesn't even understand like right  Racism, know, like he's just not at least at least for his type of autism Like he just isn't like that. It's not right He just he just heard something in a movie and understood that this is what people do when they're angry. Exactly. Yeah Now he screams it at the playground in the middle of tons of houses and people. That might. Yeah, I can see how that would be shocking and might be a problem. It's a little bit of a problem. But it is it is a little funny, I guess. It's kind of hilarious because he doesn't know. He doesn't know the context. Yeah. So that's my little that's my little comedy gym for you guys. Just. Whenever you're upset about anything, just picture my 31 year old autistic brother yelling, f**k you at the playground of a massive amount of, in the center of a massive amount of homes. And he's probably teaching other little kids too. It's like, oh wow, look at him. tell you when you're older. I'm sorry, guys. I had a half of a Celsius during the course of this podcast. And now I need to leave. Yeah. Well, thank you so much for being part of the podcast, though, if we work. Yeah. You are so welcome. And you know what? You're lucky. I have a challenge for you today. Try to make five people laugh. OK, yeah, I think I can do that. Yeah. It doesn't have to be like a ha ha ha. It's just got to be like a nice one. Yeah. Kind of a thing. So five people have, I think you can do it in like 30 minutes, but yeah. Thank you. Yeah, because you are funny. Thank you, you're so sweet. I've been told I'm funny in like a quirky way, because like my friend was like, she like, I don't know, the other day she was like,  like we're meeting at the pool hall or whatever, and she's like,  she's like, are you here?  And she like kept texting me and I like wasn't answering. And I was like.  Finally, I just text her back. was like, yes, on the phone with Botox. And she just was like. On the phone with Botox. She was just like, the f***? And I walked in, all the girls were just like, Erica, what are you doing? Like, what are you talking about? I was like, I'm scheduling my thing. I bought, there was a deal and I had to buy it. And so it's just like, I think I'm just like, it's, that's like my kind of humor is like, I'm more just like quirky. Yeah. And then you kind of go into different accents randomly and yeah. Honestly, girls are.  Sometimes not very funny unless you like dig dive deep inside  right and you're like, okay You have a sense of humor, right? But you are surface level funny. Like you don't care what people think which is  They're like people actually like that so Thank you. She described me that same friend described me. They were like we were talking about like each other's character strengths  Oh, is that what you guys do isn't that so cute? That's yeah very empowering of you.  We were sitting at the jacuzzi talking about like what? we noticed in each other were like that is a strength of ours.  And  one of them that Jessica told me, she was like, you're a hot girl, but like, you don't know it. And she's like, or no,  then she was like, no, you know it, but like, you don't act like it. Right. Like you just act like a boy.  I was like, thank you. Thank you. I think.  Thank you.  I love that. Yeah. Never let that go.  Thank you. OK, bye. OK, bye, Erica.  Have good day at work.  And to all you guys, thank you so much for tuning in to Yeah Whatever.  We hope to release this podcast once every three or four months.  We are right on schedule.  If you think  you are funny and but you're a little shy  Don't don't be shy. Just kind of  let it out Let your light shine bright and it's okay if you're a goofball because honestly who could use a little more goofballs in this world Anyway, see you next time  guys