Endings and New Begininngs: Episode 387

When life pushes you into an ending you didn’t want, it can feel easier to stay put than to step into the unknown. I’m Robin Black, and I’m back with an honest reflection on new beginnings, the fear that comes with change, and why our minds often treat uncertainty like a threat. If you’ve been clinging to what’s familiar even though it hurts, this conversation is for you. 

I unpack how we can “see” some futures clearly but struggle to imagine the ones God is building behind the scenes. That gap creates anxiety, overthinking, and a kind of pre-emptive quitting where we deny ourselves growth before we even try. We also talk about spiritual warfare in everyday language: the lies that twist your reality, pull you into self-doubt, and lead to self-sabotage. I share why I believe discernment matters, especially when choosing relationships, jobs, and the people you trust with your heart. 

One of my favorite images here is the train that can’t steer itself. A train reaches its destination by staying on the tracks, and I see God’s guidance the same way when the path curves. We also get real about isolation, busyness, and why quiet can feel scary, yet become the place where healing begins. I close with a reminder about daily bread, repeated prayer, and bringing your struggles to God without shame, ending with the Lord’s Prayer. 

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Transcript

Returning And Choosing New Beginnings

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Welcome back, listeners. I'm Robin Black, and this is It's All About Healing Podcast. Guys, I'm so glad to be back. I know it's been a while since I've been on air, but we all have to take a break sometimes and just kind of reflect on things that we've been through and what's going on, where we want to go. And today I want to speak about new beginnings. How sometimes we often tend to run away from new beginnings because we're so afraid of our endings, whether it's a relationship, a friendship, a job, you know, a college, when it's the ending that we don't want to feel. We don't want to experience that ending because we know it's not going to be great. We know our feelings are involved. We've already been at a place for a long time or in a relationship for a long time. And that ending is going to be too hurtful. It's going to be too heavy. And sometimes thinking so much about a new beginning, it's something that our imagination can't put together because it's unknown. And when that space is unknown, if you say, for instance, if we when we're talking about a job, you say, hey, this is what I really want to be when I grow up. And I want to be, I don't know, an obstetrician, right? An OBGYN, a doctor who delivers babies. That's something that I can picture just by turning the TV on. I see doctors delivering babies, you know, I can turn on anything and just see it. So then I can then put myself in that same picture and I can picture myself doing that. I can see it. I can visualize it. However, a new beginning that's unknown, you have nothing to visualize because you can't put it together. So it's scary. That's the fear that's kicking in. That fear automatically makes you assume that a new beginning or an ending will be negative, but you can't assume without trying. That's like I'm just gonna deny it before I even try it. You have to try to move forward with faith and not by sight. A lot of times when God conceals the next step, he does that for a reason because he doesn't want us to try to make it happen. The one thing that I will say, I know the enemy is out to kill, steal, and destroy. But the easy stealing is the easy part. Because even though the enemy can get you financially, those things can be replaced. But you also have to remember that you won't be you won't be buried with the things that you can purchase, right? But the one thing that I feel that we have to focus on is our eternal souls. And when the enemy lies to us and he manipulates us, and then he begins to change our reality. And once your reality changes, you're leaning on that false reality, meaning that's gonna automatically lead you astray. It's gonna lead you astray from what God has for you, especially if he's leading you toward this is gonna be a negative outcome. What I'm wanting is not gonna have. I'm never gonna accomplish this. Right? We start to self-sabotage. We start to go inward and think I'm not good enough for this, or this isn't gonna be how I thought it was gonna be. I'm comfortable here, so why not just stay with what I know? And a lot of times that's where we're we find comfort. We find comfort in what we already know because we're so afraid of moving forward with an unknown outcome. But why? Why are we so afraid? And we always assume, or we tend to assume, that the outcome is going to be negative. When there's endings, you know, if you have a relationship, how do you know that it won't be able to end on good terms? But sometimes you can't really focus too much on how an ending will turn out because all endings may be painful, right? Sometimes you just have to kind of accept that and say, well, it's inevitable that pain's gonna be there regardless. However, I know what's best for me. We have to be able to focus on ourselves first. Because if we aren't comfortable with ourselves, if we don't fully understand ourselves, how can we ever expect someone else to? There's always gonna be those arguments, there's always gonna be, oh, this seems unfair, this isn't right, this is what you do. That constant fight and arguing is gonna always be there in a relationship if you aren't fully comfortable with yourself. So sometimes endings have to happen. Those endings have to be there, and we have to kind of embrace the unknown of endings and just go ahead and leap with faith that this new beginning, this new beginning is unknown and maybe scary, but it's definitely worth it because I know the one who lives in me is greater than he, right? I know he's gonna give me the strength that I need no matter what, where I'm going, no matter what I'm doing, I know that he will never leave me. And the way I look at it is when moving forward, you think about a train. It's impossible to steer a train, right? Trains can't make turns. You say, well, how does a train get from one destination to another if it can't make turns? Because the train, without a steering wheel, it leans on the tracks to direct it where it needs to go. The tracks are able to navigate the train when it's trying to get there, right? Whether it's turning, whether it's going this way, it's gonna be a slight curve, wherever it goes. It has to have those tracks. And that's what God is to us. God, he's our tracks. When they say Jesus take the wheel, that's literally what it means. I can't steer this train, meaning myself. I can't steer myself without you. God, he's our tracks. He's the one that's gonna lead us. God, I can't do this without you. Just as Hebrews 12, 2 says, I place my life in your hands, write my story according to your perfect will. That's something that we're gonna have to go to God for every single day. I can't make these decisions on my own. I have to constantly ask God for more spiritual discernment. God, make sure that I'm not being vulnerable with the wrong person, with the wrong job, with whatever. I have you, we can't wear our hearts on our sleeves, but we can lean on God to help us, especially when we're in need. Because there's never gonna be a time that we're not gonna need him. It doesn't matter where you're going, what you're doing, you will always have to have God right there with you. He's the one who gives us peace, peace in the midst of a storm. And we're gonna come across so many storms. There are some storms that are gonna seem calm and silent, but they only seem calm and silent sometimes because God is with us. No matter how hard times get, it makes it easier. He puts our minds at ease even when we're in the midst of a hard time. Because we say, I don't know how he's gonna do it, I don't know when he's gonna do it. But I do know that he's gonna get me out of this. No matter how afraid I am of what's gonna end and what's beginning, I know that God's with me. And some may say, well, there's I have fear of isolation, right? Everyone is given assignment, whether it's an assignment from God and an assignment from the devil. Everyone's given that assignment. And sometimes when we we often internalize and we live in our heads so much, sometimes we can lose track of reality, right? We tend to disassociate ourselves from reality because fear it keeps us cluttered, and meaning our minds cluttered. Some may say, Well, I want to just constantly keep myself busy. That way I don't have time to think. But it's God who promotes isolation because he knows when we're isolated, that's the best time to speak to him. But it's the enemy that says, Oh, well, that's fearful. I don't, I don't want to be in isolation. I don't want to be alone. Because if I'm alone, I'm gonna be alone with my thoughts. But that's the best time. That's the best time to be alone, is when God has you alone. When we try to overly occupy our minds by doing things, it's because we're running from something. And I know it's hard to have to sit with, let me take time to sit with what I'm running from. It's a hard pill to swallow, to admit and to take that accountability of, yeah, I am running. But what exactly is it that I'm running from? What is what exactly is it that I'm afraid of? God help me. Guide me, God. I can't do this on my own. I can't figure this out on my own. That's why we need God, because those are answers that we can't, those are questions to answers that we can't, we can't answer. We can't figure it out without Him. That's the whole reason why we go through the things that we go through. Because if we didn't go through anything, we will have no reason to reach out. We will have no reason to just say, God, what do I do now? That's why it's every single day. He is our daily bread. You can't sit with the same loaf of bread for a year, two years, three years, right? The bread's gonna mold. That's the same way with God. We can't just pray once or twice a year and just be like, I'll talk to God when I get to him. He's our daily bread, and we have to go to him every day. I don't care if it's two times a day, once a day, it just however many times you want. And I don't care if it's the same prayer. You'll have so many people that say, Hey, you know, but when you pray to God, you've already been blessed, right? God has already answered that prayer. Correct. However, you go to God the way that you see fit. God will never get tired of you praying to him for one. I don't care if it is the same prayer. God is the one who strengthens us. And if he sees that something is troubling you, you keep praying to him about it. Don't allow what any social media says they say, well, you keep praying to God, you keep praying to God about the same thing, he's gonna just move on, and this and that, all this negativity that the enemy wants to just put in your mind. It's not true. It's not true at all. God understands that we struggle and he wants us to come to him with our struggles, and he's okay with it. No matter however you see fit to go to God, that's how you go to God every single time that you pray. And I just want to end us with the Lord's Prayer. Our Father art in heaven, hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil. For thine is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever and ever. Amen. Stay blessed.