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Leading the Way: Gender Dynamics, Trust, and Building Stronger Relationships
Can a woman truly follow when a man leads? That's the provocative question we explore in this episode, as we delve into the dynamics of leadership and gender roles within relationships. With Angela sharing her insights, personal experiences, and a fresh perspective, we challenge the notion that being a man automatically grants one the mantle of leadership. Instead, we highlight the importance of action, responsibility, and the qualities that truly make someone worthy of being followed, such as providing, protecting, and being reliable.
As we navigate the struggles and expectations of modern relationships, we turn the spotlight on trust and the evolving gender roles. The conversation candidly addresses the stereotype that women attract what they embody and the tough balance many women face in nurturing and providing. We emphasize the need for mutual support, where feeling valued goes beyond mere financial contributions, and relationships thrive on genuine partnership and mutual respect. Through diverse opinions and personal stories, we explore how high standards, self-respect, and communication play vital roles in fostering healthy relationships.
Throughout this episode, we also touch on the emotional intricacies of relationships and the impact of past traumas. From understanding communication to the significance of small gestures, we dissect the complexities of modern dating and the need for balanced contributions from both partners. Reflecting on traditional versus non-traditional roles, we encourage listeners to consider how personal growth, healing, and emotional awareness can lead to stronger, more supportive partnerships. Join us for a thought-provoking journey into the world of relationship dynamics, where diverse perspectives and personal anecdotes guide our discussion on building better connections.
The Power of the Power, of the Power of the Power of Good evening. Good evening world, good evening. Everyone. Guess who it is back on this lovely Wednesday. It's your crew here at the DK and Tree podcast. You got Tree over there and you got DK over here. We are in the house. We are in the house. Wait a minute. We getting the shade already. I'm sitting here waiting y'all. Wait a minute, angela, don't be giving us the shade already. Right? Damon's fault, what? Oh, and you know something? Nope, nope, we just gonna keep. We gonna keep talking.
TREE:I have no technical problems this week. It's his fault.
D.K.:Oh, it's my fault. Okay, it's my fault. Welcome in, welcome in. It's good to see you again, Angela, and again we still have to talk. So our topic Welcome. It is good to see you again, Angela, and again we still have to talk. So our topic spicy, spicy topic today is can a woman follow why man leads? I want to hear from y'all, from this one, I want to hear from y'all. Yeah, Interesting Because and my wait, wait, she said. I've been literally been waiting all week. I had a good time last week. Yes, we do.
TREE:Yeah, thanks for coming back.
D.K.:Yeah, thanks for coming back. Absolutely. So since, since Angela's the first one in, come on, angela, I tell you what would even better, instead of you just commenting, we can send you a link. Would you like to come in here, because we, we definitely want to hear people's stuff on the air about this. Now I can say this. I can say this Do women want a man to lead?
D.K.:In a lot of cases, yeah, they do, because the simple fact that the problem that we run across is that a lot of the men are timid these days. They're very timid. They're not assertive. Woman wants to be assured that this, a man's going to protect them. A man can, you know, have their back and you want to be hating somebody that, hey, I'm not going to be able to run over top of you, so, okay, so that's that's what they want. Even it doesn't matter what type of job they have, it doesn't matter what their profession is. They just want someone to say, hey, I want you to love me. You can lead this household. I got us, but I just want to leave this household. Okay, if a man leaves, probably a woman will be submissive and follow his lead. I agree with that. I agree with that. So we got to send Angela a link. Wait a minute, let me see.
TREE:Just because you're a man or a male doesn't always mean that you're worthy to be followed. You're not supposed to follow all the men, just that man, your man, that's providing, providing, taking care and loving you and doing, you know, taking care of business.
D.K.:That's what we following behind right, right, okay, she's on your friends list. You're gonna have to send her. If you look down the way it says invite, hit that, hit messenger and then send her a and that way she can come on in. Okay, because I can't do it from mine. So again, yeah, if a man is confident in himself and it's basically it's the confidence, because the woman looks for that in a man the confidence. Is he sure of himself? Does he have himself together? Like, okay, yeah, yeah, I can get behind him, I can stand behind him.
D.K.:But I don't think a lot of women out here will stand behind someone that's saying, okay, I'm getting myself together. Well, if you're not together, then how are you going to lead this household? Or how are you going to lead this relationship or whatever. So you get a lot like, and it's on both sides. You get a lot of people just broken and they don't. They just don't know how to lead. And you got some people who just just don't know how to lead. They was like I'll follow anything you say, but I can't lead this, or they're scared to make a decision. Man, she came in fast, but she came in fast.
D.K.:I was waiting, man man, but she came in fast boy.
TREE:Hello, hello, hello, hey, good evening.
ANGELA:Hello. So I'm speaking from experience as a woman that has been married. I had two kids nine years apart, very, very young. I was 21 when I met him, 20, 21, 22. When I met him, I had our first daughter, um, at 22, almost 23, and a very, very fast relationship.
ANGELA:And you know, when those hormones again, this is kind of speaking on last week when the hormones are in play, you don't really pay attention to certain things. You don't pay attention to oh, what's his family like? How does he treat his mother? How does he treat his family? What is that dynamic like? Are that equally yoked up? You really don't realize that until you start like hindsight Hindsight is 2020, right?
ANGELA:So, with all that being said, a lot of men come from situations where they really don't know how to lead because they never seen leadership. Right, they think, oh, we heard a couple people spew out some bible verses and you need to be submissive. The problem is is you're not leading, you're not being a man, you're not traditional, you're not a provider, a protector, you're not someone that I can rely on. Us being women, are nurturers, and when we have to turn into from a nurturer into being the head of the household, it becomes problematic, then you can't trust the person that you want to lead, because you do go into the situation like my man, my man, my man. But then they it's always something they always want to be built up they always, you know, need these additional things and any additional time and and they're not steady, and the woman is left feeling like now I got to have the weight of everything on my shoulders. It's not a partnership anymore. You fall out of love with that eventually, and so I think that women want a person that we can say, and I and I not.
ANGELA:I don't want to use the word envy. We do somewhat envy, though, when we do see women who have someone that is a provider, a protector, someone they can be soft with. They can just be the woman and they can go to their man and ask their man. They don't have a problem with them, they don't have a problem catering to him because he's doing everything that he's supposed to. But there's a couple of us that got some bad apples, and so at my big old age it's very, very hard, because I've had to be in survival mode for so long after the divorce, having the two kids, raising them on my own sole custody after being married to this man, and so now I've been doing all this stuff by myself. It's when I look at men now I'm like well, what can you do for me? I had to do all this stuff by myself and I've already done it.
ANGELA:I got a kid through college, I got a 14-year-old, I built a career. I have everything I want. What can you do for me? And a lot of times these guys are still not the ones that I'm running into or I'm attracting. They are still not the ones that I'm running into or I'm attracting, they're just I wouldn't, I wouldn't trust them with nothing oh, wow let alone the lead, right, right.
ANGELA:And then when I, when you come across the way that I like for me, I come across pretty strong. I've been told that, but I'm not gonna dumb myself down now. If you want to put me in a position where I'm like, oh, I feel safe around you, I could be, I could I will naturally soften up, but until then you finna, get this thug.
D.K.:Wait, not the thug.
ANGELA:You, finna, get this thug, because that's what I had to do. I had, I had to do what I had to do, but I would love to feel, you know, soft and be able to just, you know, turn my brain off like that. You see, those memes turn my brain off. I don't want to think. Let him do it, you know. Let, let me trust that he knows the directions on where we're gonna go and I ain't got to pull out my phone, he got it. Let I don't have to worry about sliding him my credit card under the table because he got it. You know, I have, I have yet to meet, and maybe it's what I'm attracting, maybe what, it's what I don't know, but what comes to me. I have yet to meet a man that I could trust fully, like that I agree.
D.K.:You know, I want to touch on a point that that you said and we kind of touched on it last week. And what I was saying with this is that when you were saying that, hey, I want someone that I can trust, that has my back thick and thin. And we touched on this a little bit last week where I was saying, like with the men today, the men today, they're not really taught these morals and values like we were taught back growing up. So with the morals and values, like I said, something as simple as opening a car door or opening the door period, open the door period, something as simple as that. So if you can't even do something as simple as that, how can I trust you for anything else? Like, like you said, sliding your car under the table. Car under the table for that you are what you attract to yourself. I'm a disagree. Me too, I'm a disagree with that.
ANGELA:I think that's a cop out. I think that a lot of men and I notice it's men that say this to women and they always say it to women that are single. But I have a career. I've been in my job for 18 years. My oldest daughter is an engineer for Boeing. I got her through college. My family and I got her through college. I have a 14 year old who's doing great. I have a disability. Now I've done all this with a disability.
ANGELA:Tria tell you, I'm she, we and her and I've been following each other for quite some time. I did all this with a disability, raise my kids sole custody. I didn't ask for this. I was married to my husband, to their father. I have one Cause. You know they'll try to throw that. Well, you know you got multiple baby daddies. I have one, just one, and that was my husband Right. So all the things that men will throw at you I've already know. The fact of the matter is is I was thrown in a situation where we women are a lot of times thrown in situations where we have to be both Right. So what men will do will say well, you know you are what you attract. Well, shit, I'm a strong, goddamn man. Can I get one?
D.K.:I get it and again, it's okay. It's the personality of what you're saying. I'm a strong, I have a strong personality, so I need someone to meet me at that personality or even exceed that personality. Yeah, wait, wait, wait. Let me say this point when someone comes in again, they have to be that person to say hey, I'm going to reassure you that I got you. I have to reassure you because you're in the mindset. Right now it's like I don't think anybody can. That's the way your program. Right now I don't think anyone can.
D.K.:So someone has to come in and it's just like it's the chipping away. You have this wall up. And it's just like it's the chipping away. You have this wall up. So now I have to chip at that wall, say, hey, I got you. Hey, I got you. I have to beat this in you. Hey, I got you. What are you worried about? Hey, I got this. Don't worry about anything If I say I got your back, I got your back 100%, no matter what it is. If you had a bad day at work, guess what?
D.K.:we riding, okay, right, ski masses and trump you gotta worry about right right if, if you are going through something, that's not your problem, it's our problem, right, right, and vice versa. But you just have to know that someone has your back a hundred percent. Yes, someone say, hey, you know something, what's going on with this? I'll take care of this, don't worry about it. And it's just a reassurance. If you're walking around with negative energy, you attract negative energy. Hey man, I'm going to disagree with you again, and here's the reason why I'm going to disagree with this statement. They want a reward for raising their kids. Yeah, let me see, I felt, felt that. Let's see, it's just funny how women want a reward for raising their kids.
ANGELA:oh, no no, oh, let me let me let me step in on that so we can be very, very clear. Nobody wants a reward for doing what we're supposed to do, however, women. As a married woman who's now divorced, I had two daughters nine years apart by my husband and at the end of the day, when he divorced me, he divorced the kids. So, yes, I am going to take my stripes and my badges for doing that as well. No one's going to take that away from me, and I think we have to stop doing that, because a lot of these men are not helping to raise their kids. Cutting a check is not doing that, but that's.
ANGELA:That's a whole, nother subject in itself. What we're saying is women have been put in positions where they've had to be both. They've had to be a woman and they've had to be the man in the situation, and it it toughens women up. Let's. We have to be realistic with that. And so we're just. We're just trying to find a place where we can just say, like you said earlier, where can we just be soft? I don't need nothing from you, I don't want you, you don't have to pay my bills, you don't have. I got all that's covered. But if we step out for a night? Can't? Can you just be a gentleman? That's it, that's it. Can you just can? Can you not tell me oh well, you know I'm not spending no money. Because I'm not spending no money, I know you gotta eat too boo.
TREE:You keep on saying like it's just food love like it's a thousand other things other than food. If they tripping about a meal like I, just, they're not even creative.
ANGELA:They're not even creative. They don't. The first thing you hear let's go to dinner and a movie. Sweetheart, show me something better. You know what? Show me something that I've never done. Listen to my conversation and see what I like. I've never been to a gun range. You, hey, let's go to a gun range. I'm gonna be scared as hell, but you're showing me something new.
TREE:You get what I'm saying to the zoo, for a thousand years, I guess, guess, I got to pay for myself.
D.K.:Here's another one which you just said. Perfect point, you just pointed out Listening to your partner. If you listen, if you're interested in someone, you're going to listen to them and you're going to pick up on things. Hey, I've never done this. Hey, I've never done that. Oh, really Okay. Yeah, okay, you're listening to. Okay. Here's something as simple watching them get dressed and what they put on certain eye shadow, certain earrings what color? Are they right little?
TREE:stuff my grandmother always says.
ANGELA:She said, a man has a mama or a grandmother or an, and she, he knows what she needed when he walked in the door. He knows exactly what you need as a. She said a man has a mama or a grandmother or an aunt and he knows what she needed when he walked in the door. He knows exactly what you need as a woman. If I have a car, you know I need gas. Do I need you to pay for the gas? No, but it would be nice just the gesture of you saying, hey, I'm gonna go take your car around the corner, go put some gas and some oil in it and go wash the car down.
ANGELA:It's little stuff like that. It doesn't take a lot. Women, we really don't need a lot. A lot of us are covering our own stuff, but a lot of I'm noticing that some of these men have lost that. You know, and I'm old school. Like I said, I like to be catered to. I also noticed that a lot of men they're like well, I want to be treated too, and it's like oh you, you feminine to me.
D.K.:We're not traditional women, you're all women in the same box wait, wait, wait, wait so wait man you say you want a traditional man, so okay, but y'all aren't traditional women. You can't, you can't group. Everybody is the same. That's just like me stereotyping, saying all women are bad. All women do this all women do that I don't stereotype anybody, because everybody's situation is different. Everyone's situation is different because of what angela may went through, somebody else didn't go through what I went through. You didn't go through what tree may have went through.
D.K.:Angela didn't go through. It's Everybody's different, with their own unique traits, but this is what I'm saying with this is that it's not all, but some of today's men are not really men. They're not. What I've noticed out here is this is that this is a very entitled culture that we're in right now. They expect for everything to be handed to them, given to them, and nobody wants to work for anything on both sides on both sides. Yes, it's an entitled culture.
D.K.:So I saw this video today and, um, it was a young lady talking about she was married to a dude. I sent it to you tree. I don't know if you saw it, but she was married to a dude. And this sent it to you Tree. I don't know if you saw it, but she was married to a dude and this is what she said. This is the first problem that I had. She said yeah, I told him up front how it was. My money is my money. The guy lost his job and she had to pay the bill.
D.K.:She said my money is my money, but his money is our money. Huh, our money? Wait a minute. If we're in this together, nobody's money should be separate.
TREE:It's all our money. It's all our money, so why for his friend?
D.K.:yes, left him for his friend and slept with the friend, the best friend, but yet she was like y'all giving me shade because of this. Well, first of all, if you got that type of attitude, then you shouldn't have been married in the first place, because it's not a partnership, because the man fell down on a hard time and you supposed to pick it up together. I got your message, angel, also. So the man has to pick that up, you know, and if this is my partner, my partner's supposed to pick up the slack too To help me out Until, at least, I get back up. But the way she put it was no, he knew this in the beginning and this is the way it should be. I don't understand. I don't understand.
D.K.:Now, eddie, I'm back to you. He was like traditional, but again, you know it's, that's a two-fold street, because, again, a lot of this culture out here is entitled. They don't want to work, they don't want, they expect you to hand them everything, angela, that's no problem, let me say, because most of the men now raised by single females. So you are creating those type of men. Well, well, eddie, well, I, I, I'm gonna answer this one. I'm gonna answer this one, eddie you said what happened to the volume.
TREE:Can you hear us? Yeah, let me see, can you hear us?
D.K.:What the volume's here. I myself am never going to. Let me see, most men just want to add yeah, I think they can hear us because they're still commenting.
TREE:Okay.
D.K.:Where are the men? Yeah, they can still hear us. So, eddie, let me get back to you. Let me get back to you. Let me get back to you. I was raised by my grandmother, eddie. I was raised by my grandmother Single woman. I don't have that type of mentality that's out here today. So I'm just saying it's not everybody. So if you're grouping everyone in the same category, that's, that's a problem.
D.K.:Let's see, let me see, I have to find myself. Most men. Let's see, let's see where the men at. Let me see, hey bro, let's see, I can hear, okay, they can hear us All. Right. Hey Patrice, let's see, I can't, okay, I can't hear. Restart your cheap phone. Yeah, restart your cheap phone. Even the men with both parents still on some bs.
TREE:See, there you go I ran into a guy who said his parents had been married over 40, almost 50 something years and he was full of shit Like I'm like. None of it rubbed off on. You did it. I had a guy to inbox me. He didn't say hello. The first question he asked me is how many baby daddies you get? I said, excuse me.
D.K.:Is that the way to start off a conversation?
TREE:Yeah, how many baby daddies you get?
D.K.:Is that the way to not hello? Not how you doing? Hey, your pictures are beautiful. You have a beautiful smile. No, hey, how many baby daddies you got.
TREE:How many baby daddies you got. Now, if you were to reverse the question and say, well, what's your body count now? I guess he would have been upset right how many mammy head. But I'm trying to be nice, he just got drunk I'm just saying, I'm just saying it's, it's a twofold.
D.K.:So I mean, women want a man. It doesn't matter where that woman works, how powerful this woman may be in that world. She wants somebody that's confident in himself, to know what he's about and say, hey, I can handle us. No ifs, no ands, no buts. Uh, but why don't I? I?
TREE:have a question for the women in the comment. How many women in the comment section would follow their man if he's properly leading, or who wouldn't? Who don't believe in it? Who don't believe in it.
D.K.:Hey, we're going to send Eddie, send him a link. Come on in here, because hey, listen.
REDD:Yeah, to send Eddie.
D.K.:Send him a link, come on in here Because, hey, listen, yeah, send Eddie a link.
TREE:We want to hear your POV.
D.K.:Yeah, yeah, absolutely I would. I want to try it, uh-huh.
ANGELA:I want to try it.
D.K.:Yeah, I will follow if he's probably leading, that's it. So let's see she's on negative energy now talking about I don't want to hear Listen. That's why this is a free platform. Come on in here and state your opinion. We will send you a link.
D.K.:I will follow my husband, especially if I trust who he follows. Thank you, thank you. Let's see Driving. It don't make no difference, you got a holder on your phone. I believe a man who takes care of the house and leaves properly will come home to a clean house, clothes and a hot meal. Absolutely, hey, wait a minute, I'm referring back to Angela for that one In a heartbeat. Yeah, because here's the thing If the man's taking care of his home, his responsibilities and his household, yes, absolutely so. Here's the thing.
TREE:So what kind of man wouldn't you all follow? What kind of man wouldn't you all follow like? What kind of man, what kind of man wouldn't you let lead you like? What are the negativity, part of not following behind a man, following a man or your husband?
D.K.:I used to follow my ex-husband until he stopped leading.
TREE:Okay, so again, two-fold, let me see man with no job, not bringing in any income, not I do right now.
D.K.:God is leading him and I'm following hey tree hi, sis, how you doing yeah.
D.K.:So the thing with this is, again, it all starts in the beginning. No, okay, no vision for the relationship. Let's see someone with no short-term or long-term goals stay still, staying with his parents or making back. Oh, oh, let me, let me, let me, let me jump on this one, let me jump on this one. So I heard about a situation right, and god was like he's like 50 years old, still living with his mom, and he's about to get married. I was like, wait, what? Who is it? Something that? A cheat man? Yeah, an unstable man? Yep, absolutely so, eddie. So he still don't want to come in here. He don't mind driving.
D.K.:You got to hold on that phone still don't want to come in here. You talking about you driving, you got to hold on that phone. Because, again, I want to give you equal opportunity to state your opinion. I don't want anybody to think this is one-sided, it's not one-sided, it's definitely. Anybody can come in here and state their opinion and if anybody wants a link, we'll send you a link to come in here to state your opinion. Because, again, I don't want anybody to think this is one side. It's not one side. I'm just talking off what I see, tree's talking off what she sees, and everybody else in the comments is talking off what they see. So again, send Nathaniel a link, okay. So again, we just ask it.
D.K.:Because, again, these women out here, they want someone to be supportive of them and leave. They just want, they want a supportive man. They don't want, they don't want somebody. They have to build up. They want somebody to hey, you already here, we can do this together. Hey, let's keep going.
D.K.:But a lot of our men out here are intimidated by these women with these powerful jobs, because they feel as though, because men have egos, they do, men have egos. And they feel as though, oh, she got this. Then what can I say no, you are tapping into the wrong part of her. You need to tap into that soft side of her because that's what she wants. She doesn't want to be hard all the time and Angelina even said that she wants to be say hey look, I want to be soft, I want to let my hair down, I want to put on that dress my high heels, and you know, just like my man, johnny Gilsey, she wants all that. But us men we don't do that. We don't give them that comfort or security. For that we got to do better, plain and simple.
TREE:It's not letting me send it, damon for some reason it's giving me an error. It's not Mm-mm, it's giving me an error, it is I don't know why it worked perfectly me. An error it is. I don't know why. It worked perfectly the first time.
D.K.:Let me see if I can do this.
TREE:It may send it to YouTube. You cannot talk.
D.K.:Yeah, it may send it to YouTube, I think. Yeah, it sent it the link sent out to YouTube, alright, anybody on YouTube if you're listening on YouTube? I sent it. The link sent sent out to youtube, all right, anybody on youtube if you're listening on youtube? I sent out a link. You can come in on that link if you want to come into the show and you can state your facts, how you feel, even if you've been through something like that, your experiences. Again, this is an open show. Um, let me see nathanieliel. See, he's one of your friends.
TREE:I'm trying to send her. It keeps giving me an error?
D.K.:Yeah, it does. Mm-hmm, it worked the first time I don't know why I did it this time. Nah yeah, because he's on your friends list. I can't send to him.
TREE:That's not a man.
D.K.:That's a whole woman. Oh okay, my bad, my bad, my bad this can call you a man my bad, that's on me.
D.K.:So again, like I said, women they want to feel protected. They want it like hey, my man got me, I ain't got to worry about nothing, even something as simple as, like you say, the gas in the car or the maintenance on the car. That's what. I'm very crafty with my hands. Guess what I can fix a car. I can break a car down, that's it. Something wrong with the car? I got the car. Guess what Something wrong with the car? I got the car. Guess what Something wrong in the house? I got the house, I got everything.
D.K.:So that's what we need to do as far as With our women. We have to show them hey, we got your back. And then, for the simple fact that Women have walls up, we have to chip those walls down. But you see, a lot of people, a lot of men, are not patient. They're not. I want what I want right now, instead of taking your time and saying, hey, okay, guess what? I ain't got no more time. We can do this, we can do this together. Come on, I got you. Cause, again, it takes time, everything takes time. No one's gonna fully trust somebody right off the break. It takes time and if you got time, you go ahead and do.
EDDY:It okay, we got someone in hello, hello, hey, can you all hear me?
TREE:it wouldn't let me let you in for nothing. Well, I added to YouTube. I wanted to you too.
EDDY:I wanted to tune in on the you know, following a man. So what, eddie? What he say, women, single mothers, are raising men like this. I'm gonna agree and disagree because, as a single mother, there are only so many things you can teach your young son. I am a mother of two sons, but if you're a mother who never experienced a man leading in a relationship with your mother, you're not going to know how to teach your child to lead as well. Me, I have older couples family that I look up to. So my children, my boys. I have older couples family that I look up to. So my children, my boys especially.
EDDY:You open the door for women. You walk to the left side of them or the street side. You know you. You walk in a house, you ask them how they doing. Today it's a lot of men that can't even speak, respectively, when they walk in or speak to a woman. You know it's just like. How can I expect you to leave me when every day you text me WYD, you text me ABCs? I'm not going to respond because that's childish. You can't hold a conversation and listen to the conversation we're having and I'm tell you my likes or dislikes, or like Tree said the other day, you know my schedule, so why are you asking me what I'm doing? It should be. How is work today? Have you had lunch? Let me get you a snack.
EDDY:But at the end of the day, these men, they come up to a female. They want a relationship. That's what they telling you. To get you in, to get the woman, because they know this is a strong woman. I know she want a man. I'm going to tell her she's fine, I'm going to take care of her. You know I'm a feeder, I'm a gas lighter. I'm a gas lighter all this.
EDDY:But then, when it comes, should to do. Or what are you going to do for me? When I ask a man, what are you going to do for me? I'm asking because time is valuable, time is precious. I have three children, I'm a single mother, I work, I go to school, I have children's extracurricular activities. So when I'm asking you, what are you going to do for me, I'm not asking for monetary value. I'm asking what are you going to do to relieve some of my stress off of my plate? You going to send me to a spa day? You going to take me out? Hey, beautiful. You know, I had.
EDDY:A guy literally came up to me. He was like you're so pretty. I was like, thank you. The next day he brought me a single rose. He was like I just want.
EDDY:I'm not looking for that, I'm looking for a relationship. It's oh you, bougie, oh you stuck up, oh this and that. Why would I sit here and play games when I have real life goals going on? What am I going to invite you into my world if you sleeping at your mama house on her couch? You might have a job and everything, but why are you, 41 years old, 35 years old, still staying with your parents?
EDDY:I know times are hard and everything. Don't get me wrong. The economy is down right now, but at such a big age you should be established in some shape, form or fashion. And the reason I say that is because I done been knocked down so many times and the only person to pick me up was God and myself. I ain't have no man come pick me up and put me in a better position, none of that. But at the same time, my children's father. I didn't have to work with him, but I worked because I wanted to. I needed something to do with myself, but I still maintained a clean household, kids fed, bathed some. Some days I would cook two meals because we got to eat dinner and then he need lunch for work.
EDDY:But then it's the same thing with these women. You have women out here with the most minimum standards $40 and a Burger King four for four, bag McDonald's four for four, wendy's that when a man approaches a real woman, they feel like, oh, she's, bougie, her standards are too high, or this and that. And it's not that, it's just I am at a peaceful place in my life. So what can you do to obtain that peace? Because if you coming in dim in my light or you insecure because you're talking to a beautiful woman or female, but you're so insecure you weren't that insecure to approach me. Don't be that insecure to keep me.
EDDY:Somebody said once men realize that and stop faulting these women for being single mothers. Eddie, no, we don't want a cookie, we don't want a cracker, we don't want none of tree caramel cake, because we a single mama, baby. What we want is just the respect and the recognition as a strong woman doing her job out here and don't have time for nobody coming through and belittling us right at the end of the day, because you mean you portray everything. I think was that Angela who was just on here. You know she didn't know that man. 18, 20 years she's married to him and then, after divorce, like she said, he divorced me and his kids. Because men can put on a facade for so long, a facade for so long, but then when things get real, they want to run away. So, with that being said, a real woman will submit to submit to a man who knows how to properly lead, but at the end of the day, it's not a somebody said in the comment.
TREE:Somebody said in the comments you said nothing about what you bring to the table I put it up on our tree said it again tree.
EDDY:I'm gonna put my ears on somebody said I can't see the comments.
D.K.:You said nothing about what you bring to the table. That was the comment.
EDDY:Oh, what I bring to the table. So what I'm going to bring? I'm going to bring peace, I'm going to bring stability, I'm going to bring support. I'm going to bring growth. Teamwork makes the dream work. When you work together, you grow together and at the end of the day, people fail to realize. Yes, after 30 days, people change. After five years people change, but the ultimate thing is to grow and glow together.
ANGELA:You have to learn to accept that person and get through with them, through whatever struggles they might bring.
EDDY:But I'm going to bring encouragement, I'm going to bring love, I'm going to bring guidance, I'm going to be a woman and I'm going to bring the respect that comes with it. But if you out here being a disrespectful man, you got me looking like boo boo to fool. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. And it ain't no third time.
D.K.:No, ma'am, yep, it won't be a third strike. Let's see A lot of women are the tables, the chairs in the house and the vibe, the love, everything, everything you just said. Red spot on dead on um. Only thing I'm gonna say with that is that it's just like what you said, if a man knows how to come in. But again, see the way you are. Again, it's just why I talked about this wall, the women, because they're doing so much, they have this wall up.
D.K.:So when someone's coming and they're telling you what you want to hear, now you're like I'm the filter. No, I don't want to just hear it, you have to show me. And if you don't show me, then how do I know that this is for real? And a lot of men out here, like you said, gaslighting, they do, they gaslight. Oh, I'm going to say what you want to hear. I'm going to do just a bare minimum to get you in and suck you in. And then, when I got you in, I got you, and then you're like well, wait a minute, where'd this come from? You said this and you're doing completely the opposite. And now I've been sucked into this abyss that now I've been really deep in and I can't get myself out of it because I'm stuck with you somewhat. A lot of men are jealous of women.
EDDY:But I want to say honestly us women you know you have a man telling you that and it's something you want to hear, you've been longing to hear. Yes, we might ignore them red flags and guess what we do? We don't jump on the ride because we just listened to everything they said and I showed it. But at the same time, men need to be upfront with what they want from a woman in the beginning, right, don't come on strong man, you know this gentleman everything. But then, two weeks later, it's like, oh, you ain't got time for me.
D.K.:Yeah.
EDDY:You completely changed Because you're't got time for me exactly, you're completely changed, you're completely changed because you're not getting what you wanted when you wanted it right. Right, I was in, I would say, social media. The world today has a lot of influence on relationships.
TREE:It does and nothing is paced. Everything is Like you want to move in the first week. You want to sleep with me the first day. You're like you don't even know my middle name, like nobody wants to get to know each other anymore. Nothing is real, nothing is genuine, everything is fake. Favorite color favorite food, anything, and you know once the motive has been completed of what they're here for is over.
D.K.:Yeah, that's it, absolutely, absolutely. I see a lot of people are tuning in on X. You can comment if you're on X. I see a lot of people tuning in Everybody else. If you can share this out to your page, we want everybody to interact with this.
TREE:A lot of them are so badly by the boy they date when a man come in and they try to leave so she won't let him give him a chance to show leadership yeah, and that's true, because some us men out here we done damaged these women, I mean, have damaged them.
D.K.:And when someone else comes along, I'm like, why are you acting like that? Why are you acting like this? Because I'm moving differently than what that person did. So now you think something is wrong, like, no, nothing's wrong, this is just the way I'm moving. What's wrong? And my whole thing is okay. Hey, listen, what's wrong? What's bothering you? What happened in your past that you're acting like that?
D.K.:Because, remember, you're going to pay attention to your partner. You're going to pay attention to them. You're going to understand their mood swings, you're going to know when something's wrong. You're going to know when they're upset. You're going to know when they're happy, because they may be happy at this one time and then the next time they are not happy. That was a complete mood change. What I'm like? That was a complete mood change. What happened? Come on, let's sit down, matter of fact, let's go for a walk, let's go someplace, let you get this all out. But your mood has changed. What can I do to help change your mood back to what it was? What has happened? It's because of all the damage and the trauma that, whoever that previous person has done to him, and the mass energy. Yeah, I had a man tell me that he didn't choose me because I wasn't moving fast enough. He found out his wife cheated on him. The person he chose over me, mm.
EDDY:Mm.
D.K.:All right, eddie, let's see. They damaged themselves because they have a choice who damage themselves.
EDDY:Can I respond?
EDDY:to Eddie go ahead, eddie women are not damaging themselves because they have the choice. It's you men, putting on this massage in the beginning and then change, or then you also. You might not be that man that puts on the massage in the beginning, but you have some men who have never experienced a real woman and when they get a real woman they become insecure and scared and they walk away from the situation because they don't believe it's real, because it's a real woman doing womanly things and trying to be submissive to the leading man. But when a man has never had that, it scares them away. But when a man has, never had that.
D.K.:It scares him as well. Yeah, and again we talked about this last week too about, again, women that has everything going for themselves. They got maybe a very, very good job where they are like very dominant. Men are intimidated by that. A lot of men are intimidated by that, and I don't understand why they're intimidated, because this is still a woman. She still wants to be nurtured, she still wants to be loved, she still wants to know that, hey, you are my strength, I need you. She wants to know that. So my thing of this is where did we get to the point of that? That is bad because of what they do for work. So what, I don't care. If she's a CEO, a billionaire, it doesn't make no difference. She's still a woman and she still wants to be loved.
EDDY:Men are emotionally attached. They're unattached with their own emotions and a lot of issues in relationships stems from the man not being emotionally supportive, as you just stated. You know, a person might be fine and then one day their whole mood swing might change and instead of asking what's wrong or what can I do to fix it, they don't do that and it's an argument. So instead of seeing where the issue relies, which is emotional support, because I have my days and I'm like that, Instead of saying hey, you're awfully quiet today. What's wrong, love? What's going on? You get upset and cause an argument because I'm quiet. Instead of saying, hey, are you good today? Are you? Is your mental OK today? What's going on with you? They don't do that. They're so emotionally detached and a lot of them have mother issues because their mother didn't love them properly as a mother growing up and so they don't know how to love a woman or how to be loved, and and that's why I shared the simple fact that, okay, I was raised by my grandmother.
D.K.:let me tell you something that she used to do when I was a kid and I didn't understand it, but when I I got older, it made sense. So, saturday mornings, little kid, what I want to do, I want to watch cartoons. I want to stay in the house, watch cartoons. What she do? She gets up. Oh, we go to the supermarket at nine o'clock in the morning and she walks up and down every aisle. We're in there till about one o'clock in the afternoon. I don't miss all the morning cartoons. So you know, I'm upset, I'm mad. But let me tell you what she used to do. So, front door she says hey, open the front door. I said open the door for me. At this time I didn't realize what was going on. Get to the car. She said open the car door for me. Okay, so I open the car door for me. Okay, so I opened the car door. We get to the grocery market. Hey, open the door for me. She was grooming me for when I grew up. I didn't understand all that stuff when I was a kid, but she was grooming me for the person I was going to be today.
D.K.:So now what I do. I open doors, right, I open doors for my partner. I open car doors. I will walk you out in the morning at 3 o'clock you got to be to work at 4 o'clock in the morning. You have to leave this house at 3 o'clock. Guess who's going out there with you Me. That car's already going to be started by the time you get out there. That car's going to be warm if it's cold. And I'm not going back into the house until that car goes around the corner. I can't see it anymore, but best you also?
TREE:have groomed me for that you also have to blame a lot of these women, because they don't step up and allow men to be men anymore. They want to be so independent to where if a man want to be a gentleman, he'll hold the door for him. They won't say thank you, pump your gas. They won't appreciate that. It's like a lack of appreciative on both sides, like that's why a lot of them don't do it anymore. Because a lot of women don't appreciate the little things. You have to appreciate the little things that god do for them to continue to keep doing it like for me.
TREE:When I'm dating, I like gentlemen anyway. So if you, if you come off, not a gentleman you're not, you're not going to last too long with me anyway. So you don't have a choice but to be a gentleman dating me. I, I, I'm not going to accept anything less. So you know, a lot of women don't allow a man to be a gentleman. They want to come in and be oh, I'm independent, I don't need a man to do this, I don't need a man to do that, I do.
D.K.:I need a man to do everything for me, and I get it. You do have the super independent women out here. Oh, I don't need a man for this, I don't need a man for that. And sometimes that works on the psyche of some men, especially when you want to talk to someone Point in case, point in case you can have a very, very attractive woman out here. I mean very attractive, pretty, or whatever. You speak to them oh, what are you speaking to me for? That just made you instantly ugly because of your personality, because your personality just made you just look bad how many men go out through the day holding doors giving compliments, like?
TREE:I saw a woman, um, a tiktoker or she's a social media person I've seen it on um instagram and she said she was in target and this guy walks up to her in target and was like you, you are beautiful, I want to take you, you know, out for drinks. She said. I looked at the man and when he reached his hand out to shake her hand and she didn't shake her, she was like um, it's COVID. And he was like okay, I get you, it is COVID. And then he said you're a beautiful woman. Can I take you out, uh, for drinks? She was like uh, who he think he is walking up to me and target? And they they was in the comment lighting her up they were like how, how was the man supposed to approach you? That was what that's what he?
TREE:was supposed to do. He thought you was an attractive woman and he asked to take you out. And but that's why men don't do it anymore. Because of women like that, you know they don't approach us anymore because they don't want the old fashioned. You know, let me take you out, or I found you attractive. Can I have your number? Like she went off on that man simply from being a gentleman. And that's why a lot of men stop being gentlemen, because a lot of women don't allow them to be gentlemen anymore, don't allow them to be respectful anymore If they're not talking about they behind or calling them the B word or the whore, or you know they don't allow them to be respectful anymore If they're not talking about their behind or calling them the B word or the whore, or you know they don't like that, they don't like that type of stuff anymore.
D.K.:And that just baffles me. That's what it seemed like to me.
D.K.:That baffles me. Because, again, again, if you want someone to courtship you and vice versa, then why are you treating somebody like trash Just for just speaking or anything? So why are you treating someone like trash? Right, you shouldn't treat anyone like that at all. And that's on both sides of the fence.
D.K.:You know everybody always want to talk about oh, your trauma, this, your trauma, that, okay, but when? When do you look past the trauma and say, hey, I'm going to help you, let's heal together. I know I've been through some things, but I know you've been through some things too. Let's heal together. Let's help each other. Because, guess what, my opinion isn't always right, but maybe you see it from your eyes and see something that I don't see. So now you're helping me, just like I'm helping you, and it's vice versa. I may see something like, hey, I see you doing it this way, but hey, why don't you try it this way to see if that works out better for you? Because, again, in relationships you have to make your partner better. Sometimes you got to save them from themselves.
TREE:Or I mean if you, if your intentions on dating come healed, already heal yourself before you come trying. I have to do that for myself. I had to go heal myself in order for me to be able to be a better me for somebody else. I can't come into a relationship with drama or not healed or still crying over the last relationship or still dealing with. You know the abuse the last person did to me. You got to go, step to the side, go heal yourself and then jump back in the dating pool, because if you jumping in the dating pool not already healed you just, you know, you just bring in more fire to the situation.
TREE:Like you, gotta heal your own self first, like shouldn't nobody have to heal you, you should already go heal yourself. Heal yourself.
D.K.:Yes, and and look at yourself, take accountability and grow. Absolutely yes.
TREE:A lot of men move while being hurt as well as women.
TREE:Great, and that's another thing. We as women and men do not take accountability. You know, I'm not going to lie. I tell guys from the jump. I've been single a little bit, so getting into the dating swing for me is new to me, like talking to somebody all the time, remembering the text all the time. You know that's a process for me. That's something I have to build myself back up to doing because I've been out of the game for so long. Not saying that I do not want to do it, it's a process, like it's not. It's not. I have had dudes mad at me because I ain't gonna lie. If I get comfortable in my bed, I'm falling asleep. It is no time. It could be 6 o'clock, it could be 10 o'clock, it could be 2 o'clock in the morning. Whenever I'm comfortable, I just fall asleep, tiffy.
D.K.:I see you on Instagram. I see your comment. I agree Heal yourself, stop expecting your partner to fix yourself. Hurt people, hurt people, tiffy.
TREE:I see your comment but you just have to come already healed, like if you're not healed it's not gonna work. You gotta go heal yourself. Get some counseling, go talk to god, go to a prayer closet, get on your knees, do something. But just do something in a situation because healing is important. I had to learn that for myself, like I had to go find my own healing before I wanted to start dating because I didn't want to come back into the dating scene bitter. I didn't want it because of my last relationship or whatever. I didn't want to come thinking that all men ain't shit. I didn't want to come thinking that nothing negative. I'm coming back into the dating pool with nothing but positive vibes, all men ain't shit. I didn't want to come thinking that Nothing negative. I'm coming back into the dating pool with nothing but positive vibes Until negative come and then we're going to dismiss it. Hey, lynn.
D.K.:Lynn, here you go, being late again to the party. Lynn, we got to talk.
TREE:She made it this time. She made it this time.
D.K.:You can abuse what the last station did If I went off on relationships in my past.
TREE:I wouldn't date nobody, nobody. I wouldn't give nobody another chance, it would simply be off of. I ain't doing that, no more. I ain't dating men, no more. I'm not doing it.
D.K.:I get it. See, if we always use what happened in the past and our parent relationships, all of us would be single Because it's like, oh, this person screwed me over, forget them, I'm gone. But you can't. You just have to heal, move from it and then just keep it going. And you have to learn from your mistakes also Because, again, no one's perfect, no one's perfect. I made my fair share of mistakes. I made my fair share of mistakes and you just have to learn from those mistakes and just keep it moving Right. Like I said, we got one week to make a move and I'm done. Okay, yeah, okay, because you're letting your attention to be known. Hey, look what it is. What is it going to be if not? Okay?
TREE:and why are we waiting weeks on top of weeks to go out on a date? That's what.
D.K.:That's what irritates me see, that's why I love angels. See that I cheat back also. You match energy. Huh hey, tiffy off Instagram said damn Angela.
TREE:I just get gone Like the first signs of BS gone. You won't hear from me, no more.
D.K.:Gone. Yeah, like I said, we again it's a twofold. But men, we have to just, really just pay attention to your partner, even if you're trying to get no. Pay attention to them because they're going to give you signs of what they like, what's wrong in relationships Like yes, pay attention to your partner because they're going to.
D.K.:they're going to tell you what I'm telling you. You're just going to see things like, hey, why did you do that today? You've never done that before. What's wrong? Or if they're really having a bad day, I love this one, Just give them a Snickers. You're not yourself. I'm going to give you a Snickers.
TREE:And, for instance, like if I'm in a relationship and we've been dating six months plus and I scoot my butt on you at night and ain't no initiative behind it, that's a problem for me, because you know, you supposed to know what them clues is by now.
D.K.:Yeah, yeah, yeah. You both know those who that if you scoot and I'm scooting too, we scooting together, baby, it's on and popping. I match energy and when I'm done and feel fulfilled, I'm moseying along. Angela, angela, angela, I told you we gotta have a talk.
TREE:I don't match energy. I just be like this peace out, I'm gone toodaloo, but yeah it's the clue. You supposed to know everything about me if I'm walking around not saying nothing to you all day and you don't ask me what's wrong? That's a problem? Yeah, if I'm cooking you breakfast, lunch and dinner every day and I don't do it today, something wrong?
D.K.:See, that's our toxic trait I'm petty. Hey, you're super petty.
TREE:We can be petty, but I'll pass the tic-tac back. I'll be gone. I'm at the tree be gone stage. Tree be gone, pew gone. I don't stick around no more. I used to. I used to stick around. I used to write the paragraph text. I used to sit by the phone waiting. None of them. I don't do, none of that.
D.K.:And I understand God ain't through with none of us, yet I do none of it, hey, and I understand god ain't through none of us yet I, I get it, I get it, none of us. But again, as a whole, we all have to do better with ourselves. Again, like I say, if you're paying attention to your partner, you, you know what's right, what's wrong. If their mood changes like all right, hey, what's wrong. If their mood changes like all right, hey, what's wrong. Because when you left out this door this morning, you was peachy. You came back in here and you was Mr Krabs of SpongeBob. Nah, we got to fix it. What's the problem? Come here, yeah, what's going on?
TREE:I'm going to tell y'all how attentive he is, because I wasn't in a good mood earlier today.
D.K.:I was just about to bring that up. I was just about to bring that up, go ahead.
TREE:I was in a horrible mood earlier today and when he answered the phone he said what's wrong with you? Cause he know me. He been knowing me for years, so he knows when I'm in a good mood and he knows when I'm not. I wasn't even on the phone. All I said was hello, that's it, and he knew I wasn't in a good mood.
D.K.:So, in typical tree fashion, I said what's wrong? Nothing, I said what's wrong. I said what's wrong. I said, because you don't sound yourself, what's wrong? Nothing. All right, we ain't playing these games. You won't tell me what's wrong. So finally she told me what was bothering her, this and that. And I said to her look, don't be letting that stuff bother you. You good, but she just needed her time to get over it. And she did her time. And what did I do? In true fashion. I called back later and she sounded better. I said all right, there we go.
TREE:He knew off the bat it was something wrong with me. You know what I'm saying. So that's the part of getting to know somebody. And he ain't even my man. So I expect for my man to be on point with me when I'm not in the best of mood. He knew right when he heard my voice I wasn't in a good mood. So, it's a little thing, even with women like we're guilty too. We're guilty too.
D.K.:Yes, having a safe base is important to express yourself, but again, that all falls on your partner because, just like Red said earlier, are you still in here, red? I hope you are, because I'm a point back to something that she said when we're comfortable, we're going to let you know everything. When we're safe, we're going to let you know everything. She was right on point of everything she was saying. I'm like, yeah, because we paying attention to our partner. Negative energy attracts negative energy right, absolutely right.
TREE:That's why you can't come in a situation with negative energy. You have to be positive. And you know, relationships aren't peaches and cream. We all know that you're gonna have some arguments, you're gonna have some disagreements, you're gonna have some fights, all of that. But at the end, make it right, make it better.
TREE:You're going to have some disagreements you're going to have some fights, all of that, but at the end of the day, make it right, make it better. You know, absolutely that's one thing I've learned with myself. I've learned to not always have negative energy. Come with positive energy more and leave the negative, because it just it ain't gonna do no good in no way right, absolutely, and even even into just the speaking hey, how are you today?
D.K.:and be like why are you speaking to me? Come on now, why, what? What's all that for? I think I know when my wife was not in a great mood, but I don't know when to stop to give her a minute, when she's not in a good space. So it sometimes hey, if.
D.K.:If they're telling you, hey, nothing's wrong, nothing's wrong, say well, listen that this, say hey, listen, I know this is not your normal self, but take a couple minutes. If you need some time, need some space to digress, go get that time and space. But guess what, I'm right here. I'm right here after that space, I'm right here so we can get to the problem of what's going on. You know it's just y'all learning each other and it's just your partner. You know it's just y'all learning each other and it's just your partner. You know you just have to say hey. You have to reassure them that no matter what you're going through, I'm here. I don't care if you close the door, you cry, you scream, you do whatever you need to do to get this out of you, but as soon as you open that door, I'm right here and we're going to get through this together. So right, that was good, best open that door.
TREE:I'm right here and we're going to get through this together. Right, that was good Bestie.
D.K.:That's just what I do. I'm just saying if that's what they need, if they need that space and sometimes they do sometimes you don't want to talk about it right now, and I get that. I totally get that. Sometimes you need't want to talk about it right now, and I get that. I totally get that. Sometimes you need a minute to digress.
D.K.:You may have had the worst day in the world, the worst day in the world, and you just want to come home and you just want. You know, I just want, I just want to go in my room, I just want to close the door. I don't want to talk to nobody. I just need about 45 minutes to get this off of me and then, once that 45 minutes is up, hey, I can talk about this, because with that time, everything is still fresh. Everything that happened is still fresh.
D.K.:You're still trying to process everything through your brain and it's not adding up. Right now, the math ain't mapping, so you just need that time to see where the math maps and then, when you come back, say, hey, let me let you know what happened to me today, and that's it. Some people just need that little bit of time and space. But we have to assure our partners that, hey, when you come down, guess who here me and guess who ain't leaving. Until I know what's wrong me, I'm gonna be here. I'm going to be here. So you need that minute, yeah. If you need that minute, yeah, you got it. So that makes you feel better.
TREE:But what if they don't want to open up?
D.K.:Then they had. You just have to reassure them. Hey, I know something's wrong and I'm here for you. You just have to reassure them. You have to reassure them, I'm here for you. You just have to reassure them. You have to reassure them, I'm here for you. I'm not your enemy, I'm not here to hurt you, I'm here with you. You just sometimes they need to hear it multiple times because sometimes it don't sink in, sometimes it just doesn't sink in. Sometimes they have to hear it multiple times. And if you see them say hey, I'm still here, I'm not going anywhere, I got you, I got your back. I know something's wrong. You may not want to talk about it now, but guess what, when you do, I'm here.
D.K.:And when they want to talk about it, we just have to make ourselves available, no matter what you're doing. Say doing, say hey. If you say, hey, look, listen, give me 10 minutes, I'm gonna call you right back, give me five minutes, I'm gonna call you right back. But then say hey, come on, this is your time, go ahead and spill it to me, because sometimes our partners are not good of talking in person, sometimes they just want to talk over a phone, you know. So, wherever they're comfortable. We just want to talk over the phone. So, whenever they're comfortable, we just have to make them comfortable with that space, saying hey, I got you and also ask you want my opinion or do just what? You want me to listen? We'll be willing to do both. That's it, because sometimes they just want you to listen. They don't want an opinion. I had to learn that one too. Sometimes they don't want an opinion, say, hey, I'm here for you. I'm here for you. Come on, let's sit down. Matter of fact, let's go get something to eat and a drink, because sometimes just getting them out of the environment helps them also.
D.K.:Being petty and single is the new vibe, I guess. No, really, let me see. I would say yes if he's leading in, uh, the right way. Jojo, how are you? Yeah, so, absolutely. It's just we got to give them a safe space. That's it. And sometimes it takes longer than others. It does. It's. It takes longer than others with some people, because some people are so damaged they don't. When they feel something is right, they're going to question it. I don't think this is right. No, I don't think this is what this is. This may be an illusion. This may be gaslighting. This may be something, and it really doesn't. It's like hey, I got you, hey, I'm here, but if you pay attention to your partner, you'll know all that. That's the big thing. You got to pay attention. Yep, you got to pay attention. You got to pay attention. Yep, you got to pay attention, you got to pay attention. And that's my three cents.
TREE:That was more like ten.
D.K.:Oh, it's ten. Damn, I was trying to cut it down, I was trying to cut it down. I was trying to cut it down. It was a lot of cents. But Lynn Lynn, I got you. Lynn Lynn, I got you. You know, I got you. But we still gotta talk. And, angela, we gotta talk too. That was my two roadies.
TREE:He made it this time yeah, absolutely we appreciate it. I will most definitely follow if he's leading properly. Now, if you're leading me to the hellhole, I'm going to have to jump off the meat wagon.
D.K.:Deuces, I'm out. At the end of the day, if a man is handling business, a woman will automatically fall in line. We want our man to be our man. Plain and simple, plain and simple, plain and simple.
TREE:To be men or whatever role you're in in a relationship. Just be that person. I just feel like dating is just the hardest thing. I take my hat off to you married couples, because getting down an aisle for me seemed to be the hardest thing in America.
D.K.:But when it happens, guess who's going to be there.
TREE:A wedding Huh.
D.K.:But when it happens, guess who's going to be there? This guy.
TREE:I can't get a date. I get asked out on a date all the time. It's the foolishness that come with these dates that I'm not about to be a part of, so I don't partake in them.
D.K.:So I get it, I get it, I get it.
TREE:Yeah, trust me, I get it and then you know what else is, what else is really big with dating for me. A lot of guys don't like me because I don't drink or smoke or do drugs. That's a big deal.
D.K.:I didn't know that was, I didn't know that was a deal breaker until I started back dating wow you have to do a show about that oh yeah, we definitely might do one about that one is that a deal breaker for y'all?
TREE:a person that doesn't drink or smoke or do drugs?
D.K.:No, that's not a deal breaker.
TREE:They say I'm lame, they think I'm boring. I'm fine.
D.K.:I just don't partake In that. Wait a minute Also, men, have your passports and eat more than burgers and chicken strips, please. I think we talked about that last week, about people having their passports Uh-oh, uh-oh.
EDDY:I got my passport.
D.K.:Let's see.
TREE:Let me go get my passport. I don't smoke I think that's a deal breaker in dating, like I think that a lot of guys don't like me because I don't partake. Should I partake y'all?
D.K.:No, if you never did it, then no, I'm going to answer that question for you. No, I got called. L7 because I don't drink or smoke.
TREE:I don't get it.
D.K.:They can't understand that you can just be a vibe without being high or smoke. I don't get it. They can't understand that you can just be a vibe without being high or drunk, and that's so true.
TREE:Absolutely. I had a guy to ask me to the bar. He was like you want to meet me at the bar? I said yeah, but I don't drink. And I was like, but I'm sure they sell like mocktails or something version. He was like what we look like sitting at the bar with you not even drinking. I said, didn't? I just say I could order a mocktail. Yeah, you give me ginger ale. What is you talking about? Women, start bad cooking. I cook all the time. We cook. Y'all just eating at the wrong house that's it.
D.K.:Be you and never change who you are to satisfy the other person absolutely. Next, that's right whatever it's cool me if a female don't smoke or drink ex-boyfriend.
TREE:He changed up on me. What are you talking about?
D.K.:bingo last, mr Ray eating at the wrong house yeah, they eat at the wrong house eating at the wrong house you eat at the wrong house. Eddie With me. Right, you know Eddie getting a business tonight. I can't save him. He's getting a business boy.
TREE:You better start eating at them grown women's house and leave them little bitty plates alone.
D.K.:Eddie, wait a minute. Who said it earlier? Was it Angela or was it Red talking about the McDonald's or the Burger King? I think it was Red. That's like yeah, mcdonald's, burger King, nah, we good, we good.
TREE:Y'all don't want cooked meals. That's the problem. You don't want cooked meals. That's the problem. You don't want cooked meals. Y'all don't want that.
D.K.:I'm not getting the business. Okay, I'm not getting the business. Now. I love me a home-cooked meal. Don't get me wrong, brother, man can eat. Okay, I can eat. I love me a good home-cooked meal. You cook a home-cooked meal. You't get me wrong, brother, man can eat. Okay, I can eat. I love me a good home cooked meal. You cook a home cooked meal. You good with me, okay?
EDDY:I am good.
TREE:What about the men that cook? Y'all can't cook for us. What do you mean that they cook? Why we got to do all the cooking.
D.K.:Hey, I'll be the first to tell you I'm more of a griller than a cooker. I'll grill you anything.
TREE:I'll grill you anything you grill and I'll cook the sides. How about?
D.K.:that there we go and I can swipe.
TREE:Why y'all always talking about the women that they cook when the men at that cook. What y'all gonna do when the men at that cook? What are men at that cook? What y'all gonna do? What are men at that cook?
D.K.:The women like to come home to a nice meal. I love a man that cooks, oh my God. And so again, like I said, I'm more of a griller.
TREE:I'm not really a cooker.
D.K.:Let's see, I can cook my food myself.
TREE:We ain't talking, see. You see, eddie, you know what you something else, because you want to sit up and talk about the women that cook. We ain't talking about you cooking for yourself. We said we're the men that cook for the women.
EDDY:Unless you a woman.
TREE:Ain't no more of them, bingo ain't no more of them.
D.K.:Man, can y'all take out the trash?
TREE:no, you take out the trash.
D.K.:I wouldn't let my woman take out the trash until a man get.
TREE:when a man around do trash, I wouldn't let my woman take out the trash Until a man get it. When a man around do trash.
D.K.:I wouldn't let my woman take out the trash.
TREE:I go to the grocery store I buy the groceries. We need a day off from cooking.
D.K.:Can y'all fix y'all cars?
TREE:You don't even fix your car, you take it to the shop.
D.K.:Hey bro, I do mine in the driveway, sorry.
TREE:I got AAA and the mechanic you can pay the AAA bill if you want to, and the mechanic they're right.
D.K.:I got AAA and the mechanic on deck, I pay for it.
TREE:YouTube is free YouTube is free.
D.K.:I bring my car to the dealership. Listen, the greatest thing I experienced, I tell you. And let me go back to this. Where is it? Youtube is free. Youtube is free because this taught me a lot of things about fixing the car.
TREE:What happened to the men that used to get your manicures and your pedicures and your hair done? Where them, men at?
D.K.:Yeah, where them men at yeah, where them men at that.
TREE:You ain't gotta give up the coon cane for the poon cane for when them men that just cash, app you some money and say, hey, go get your nails done. I see you like to get your nails done. Go get your nails done. Today, them the men we cook for Eddie.
D.K.:Yeah for the, just because it's just because.
TREE:We cook for the, just because men All our clothes fall off for the, just because men.
D.K.:They long gone been gone.
ANGELA:Not all now.
EDDY:Not all now Not all now.
TREE:A lot of Margot, a lot of Margot, but not all of them 1965.
D.K.:Put you into the car oh.
TREE:Them, the men we cook for, the men that don't have to ask you. Pay attention to you, yeah go to the phone buy you a dress and lay it on the bed and say, put it on, let's go on.
D.K.:A date them, the men we cook for the ones that smell good and take a shower. Take a shower, ooh. Take a shower, ooh. Y'all ruin y'all ruin all them men with these bad attitudes okay, tony come on, come on, tony, I want to hear your opinion. I want to hear your opinion on that one. I need more than a home-cooked meal.
TREE:Yeah here we go.
D.K.:I said the same thing, here we go. Oh yeah, hey, come on.
TREE:It's always going to be a man with a comment like that Attitudes Y'all give us the attitudes that we have. I had a whole dude inbox me and said where your baby daddy what I was supposed to jump up, get excited, Like that's where the attitudes come from.
D.K.:The attitudes come from the stupid question that y'all ask half the time. I'm still waiting for Tony. Hey, like hey, come on. Come on, Tony, when you at. You said, they ruined y'all ruin all these men with bad attitudes. So is that all? Is that all that does it? I just want to know.
TREE:Well, I'm trying to answer Eddie's question. Eddie said so it's about material stuff. It is not about material things, but what I'm saying is you asked about women that cook meals for men and I said a man that does pay attention to a woman details what we have going on, what we like, them are the men we cater to and we cook for. That's what I'm saying. It's never about material things, because I can tell you right now, everything I got, a man ain't did it, renata did it, and I'm going to say my real name I did it. A man is a bonus in my life because these bills gonna get paid, I'm still gonna be cute, my hair gonna be done, my nails gonna stay done, these feet gonna stay done. I'm gonna stay on point without a man. A man is a bonus to me.
D.K.:Yep, so again, again what he left.
TREE:I'm just saying I don't need a man. But a man would be greatly appreciated in my life right now. And if I have my own life set up to where I don't need a man, guess how beautiful it's going to be when a man come around. It's going to be beautiful On and popping.
D.K.:Okay, here we go, me, me, me. What's going on to do for that good man?
TREE:I'm going to tell you what we're going to do. I'm going to show you what I'm going to do Once you come around and show me you're worthy enough for me to show you how to treat a good man. I could tell you all day, but stick around to see how we treat a good man. It don't just happen overnight. It don't happen overnight, alright.
D.K.:Okay, alright, where you at, you know me Instigating. I'm instigating when you at.
TREE:I can't tell you what I'm going to do for a good man, but stick around, I'm going to show you.
D.K.:If we do our part, then guess what to do for a good man. But stick around, I'm sure I'm going to show you. If we do our part, then guess what.
EDDY:They're going to do their part. Amen, amen, let the church say amen, amen, amen.
D.K.:Whatever you do, please don't ask Tree to buy a drink at the club.
TREE:Don't drink. You ain't got to worry about that. Amen. It sounds good because it is good.
D.K.:I'm just saying, if you pay attention, I mean it is what it is.
TREE:If a woman is holding herself together without a man, imagine how beautiful it is going to be with two of y'all doing it together. If a woman has her own everything and all she's lacking is a man, how can you go wrong from there? I'm listening from there.
D.K.:You can, you cannot, you can't, you can't, not at all the way a situation can flop.
TREE:If you meet a woman that ain't got nothing struggling, need you for everything? If a woman come in the door and don't need you for nothing, absolutely, absolutely, absolutely nothing but the little things that she required for you to date her which, as a man, you should already know how to come through the door doing I mean, what's the problem? What is our problem, Especially us 40 plus adults on the line? What's the problem If a woman has all her I'm speaking to the Eddies and the JATs and the Tonys, I'm speaking to y'all the men on this line. If a woman comes with everything everything a job, her own place, her own car, career, kids taken care of if we 40 plus half of us don't even have kids at the house, how can she not be an upgrade to your life?
D.K.:I'm waiting for this answer.
TREE:I'm speaking on being a woman. How can I hinder your life coming in healed? I'm coming in healed with a job, with my own car career. I go to school. I don't ask nobody for nothing. I like to look nice. What's the problem? Where you going wrong at?
D.K.:We're still waiting for an answer.
TREE:I'm still waiting on the negative. All the Eddies and the JATs and the Tonys where y'all at?
D.K.:oh that's every woman's story.
TREE:Eddie is dismissed. Wait a minute. What's your story? What's yours I?
D.K.:got you for that one, Eddie. That was some bulls**t. I got you.
TREE:All women don't have that story. If you feel like that's every woman's story, you the problem. You need to go get healed. Eddie, you need some healing in your life if you think that's every woman's story Healing, healing.
D.K.:Eddie, just here for the comments with this. Yeah, oh, he said cinema link cinema link send him one eddie with the crap anyway way, stuff isn't together. Nobody, uh-oh, add him. Uh-oh, I'm here. Yeah, come on, eddie. I'm waiting for this one.
TREE:He's not letting me add nobody for some reason I don't know what. I don't know why he's not letting me add nobody, no more. Send him a damn link. We need ads on this live. Hold on, we're going to figure this one out.
D.K.:Come on, you got to send my link. I can't do it, it's not working. You hit the invite right. Invite Hit messenger when you hit invite.
TREE:I do. I know how to do it. It's just giving me an error when I try to. I'm putting his name in.
D.K.:What are we talking about? So the topic is is can a woman follow while man leads? That's our topic today. It ain't uh, it ain't meant for Eddie. It ain't meant for him to come in here.
TREE:Eddie, what's your Gmail? I can send it to your Gmail, I think.
D.K.:Just got done with my show, Okay, yeah, yeah. So we talking about you know, can a woman follow a man lead? You're on YouTube. If you want to come in here you can say your opinion also. I sent the link out to YouTube.
TREE:Ask Eddie, what his Eddie? What's your Gmail?
D.K.:I love help. I do too much in relationships. If I get half of what I bring to the table, then we will grow together. All right, I got a comment off Instagram. The problem is not too many of women around there. A lot of women looking for the man to do everything when it's about be them pulling together.
TREE:Give Eddie the number. What happened to the number? Oh, never mind.
D.K.:He gave me the email. You got it.
TREE:Okay, I'm about to have my phone in he just put it up there. King Hill. What does that say, king Hill? What?
D.K.:Let's see Kinghill77 at Gmail, at Gmail, and that's not a shit and a man. Women don't use discernments. Ty, where you been at, ty, because I've been looking for you.
ANGELA:There's a sense of stability to consider for a woman to feel comfortable to follow Is that fair.
D.K.:Oh, tj, I see we're going to wait for Eddie to come in here. Yeah, angela been waiting for this one. I think Angela might want another link. Angela might want another link to come here? Send me a link.
TREE:Angie, don't shoot off.
D.K.:Mm-mm. Everybody has equal opportunity to say their opinion.
TREE:Nah, I'm gonna let a little boogie live while we waiting on him to join, I sent him the link, so we just waiting.
D.K.:We're just waiting yeah, we waiting for him to come in because again.
TREE:Mr Tony disappeared on us yeah, where tony go at answer my question.
D.K.:Hmm him wasn't scared was he?
TREE:him wasn't scared, was he?
D.K.:mm-hmm and tj. If you're still listening, hey, you can come in and say your opinion too. We've all, we've all done, been through some things, so we can invalidate and damn. That sound like some shots being fired in here.
TREE:Oh yes, lynn, the men are running. We done ran them off, lynn. Even they don't even want to join. Oh my God. Hello, have mercy. Hopefully. I think I fit to the right. I don't know why it's not letting me add anymore, dear Angie, but it's not doing. Hold on, I got a private chat over here. Oh, okay, that was earlier today.
D.K.:Yeah, can't invalidate him. That actually is not a shot. It just means his feelings are valid. Okay, running from what? Hey, listen, we waiting for you to come in here. I'm waiting, is you coming? Or not what was said that ran them off.
TREE:A whole bunch of stuff they didn't want to listen to.
D.K.:Oh man, a lot of stuff they didn't want to hear.
TREE:And we're trying to wait for him to come in, because he got a lot to say. He needs to say that we want to listen.
D.K.:Oh, yeah, again, I want to give people equal opportunity to say their opinions on the matter. I don't want anybody to feel as though it was one sided, because it's not one sided. I will give, we will send you a link out to come into the show, but if you camera shy, we got a phone number for you, calling here too. I believe that some of the women have spoiled these men and don't allow them to be men. Okay, I can get with that one. Let me say this one I can get with that because you get. Alright, the woman's out here and they're out here working and the man ain't doing nothing, but he's driving her car, right, he's taking her to work, he's sitting on, he's a truck driver.
D.K.:Yeah, he's sitting on um, he's a truck. Yeah, he's sitting on um, you know, on her couch eating up her food, running up her electric, and she's out here paying all the bills. Next, though not yeah, no, yeah, or you know no license.
TREE:License suspended they got into it yesterday, they was outside oh really Three hours Wow. And she's basically saying he made it.
D.K.:He made it Okay.
ANGELA:Come on in here.
D.K.:Come on in here, come on Come in here.
TREE:We got to listen, y'all, yeah.
REDD:The floor is yours. I'm saying y'all, Now I'm going to ask the question Now. The question has been going so long. Let me get some light in the hotel room. Yeah, yeah, Put some light. Yeah, I'm trying to get some light in the hotel room.
TREE:Hold on, know them hoes, tell yeah.
REDD:Now I'm saying y'all it won't excuse you for what y'all don't do. What is y'all Go ahead. I'm just saying y'all it won't excuse me for what y'all don't do. What is y'all? I'm just saying when I was making comments, I'm making general comments, but y'all, when y'all make a comment, it's like every man Say what.
D.K.:No, we don't say every man. No, we didn't say that, we didn't say that we didn't say that. We didn't say that In the same category.
REDD:I'm not talking about y'all. I got to go ahead and go ahead. It's always a man bashing. Go ahead, go ahead. Who is man bashing Go?
TREE:ahead. Who is man bashing? Go ahead, who is man bashing.
D.K.:No, it's just your comments that you were making. Just rub some people like no, no, so you have the floor to explain yourself.
REDD:That's still my opinion, just like she got hers.
TREE:That's still my opinion on how I look at things though, but we said who is y'all you putting all women in the same box? That's what y'all doing. No, we did not. We never said all men. When did I ever say all men?
REDD:I'm not saying C-Dell, I'm talking about when I say something you think I'm talking directly to you. I'm talking to people in the channel and all that.
TREE:I'm not talking. You're going to speak on something in general. Speak on the Pacific, Don't say all women.
REDD:Y'all can jump around, but okay, all right, go ahead, run it, run it, let's throw it fresh, let's throw it fresh, Go ahead.
D.K.:I'm listening, okay. Okay, all right, I'll jump this one off. Can you lead a woman? Yes, I can lead one. Okay, you can lead a woman. So if she has some past trauma, are you willing to help her? It depends on what that trauma is. Okay, what would be a deal breaker?
REDD:I'm just saying it depends on when I meet that person. As I get to know them, can I deal with that? That's on the independent team. You can't say every person that got trauma, you go deal with them. Once you get to know them and date them, you will know whether I want to put up with this or I don't.
D.K.:I get it, but what I'm saying is is this everybody has trauma. Whether it be a man or a woman, it doesn't matter. Somebody goes through something, but what would be a deal breaker for you to deal with, helping her get through the trauma? What would be a deal breaker for you to not deal with?
REDD:helping her get through the trauma. What would be a deal breaker? Oh, ok, I got what you're saying. Now somebody don't want to get through it. I was making excuses. Well, he did me this, so I've been through that. Like no, you want to stay on that soapbox? I've been a single woman, a single mama, for 15 years. Ok, it's a bunch of single women out here. There's a million single women out here. So what make you so special? That's what you always want to stand on. Well, he left me with the kids. Okay, you ain't the first woman to get left with kids. All of that choices. If he was Miss Trinia, you could have been left. Okay, it would have been rough at first, but if you so unhappy, why you let?
TREE:somebody just drag you down like that. But what about the single men that say the same thing?
REDD:That's what I'm saying. I'm just speaking in general. That's what I'm saying. With women like to stand on that soapbox, for why raise my kids by myself? Everybody have a choice. I don't care what you say. If you're in a bad relationship and you want to leave, you can leave. Yes, it's going to be rough.
D.K.:I agree with that. Okay, we get that, but there's also men out here that has been single parents.
REDD:That's what I'm saying.
D.K.:Listen to what I'm saying. Listen to what. I'm saying I'm one of them, right when I had to raise a daughter. That's not easy Raising a girl and I'm a guy because I can't teach her how to be a woman.
REDD:I respect that, but you don't see me getting no platform. Well, I raised this kid by myself. I want a woman to come in and do this. A woman got to come in and do that. You just raised your kid. You don't use that as no crutch, eddie.
D.K.:No, what I'm saying is that's not everybody that does that.
REDD:I'm not saying that's everybody, but I'm just saying most women, when that stuff ain't going their way, that's the soapbox they want to stand on.
TREE:So, eddie? Somebody said how many kids do you have? None. Somebody said what does that have to do with women following a?
REDD:man's lead. What you mean, that's what the comments said how they come in. I'm not said that.
TREE:That's what the comments mean Well, how they comment. I'm not understanding.
REDD:they comment Somebody said why is you yelling the hard talk? You know the hard talk Tree. Don't try me like that, I know that's what I was like Shit.
TREE:Somebody said so he's clueless.
REDD:See, that's what I'm talking about. I'm clueless. See, that's what I'm talking about. I'm clueless because I won't get on her platform or on her. She think a man should move.
TREE:Okay, I'm just giving you the questions. That's in the comments. I'm giving you my answer. Somebody said how you so passionate and ain't even raised the child.
REDD:What that got to do with raising the child by me leading and all that. What the hell they done with it. I'm responsible. I ain't want to just lay up with nobody and have no children. I want a family, but now that's a problem. So what's the issue now? I've been married before.
TREE:Somebody said no, you're clueless about kids and how to raise them.
REDD:Hold on. What does that lead have to do with having kids Apparently? I'm doing something right. I ain't just got kids just laying up anywhere.
TREE:Somebody said I thought the topic was leadership.
REDD:She the one talking about kids. What do kids have to do with leadership? That's what I'm saying. She the one bringing up kids, eddie, what's your?
TREE:thought on leadership. What you mean, Like on the topic. What's your thoughts on the topic? Are you a man that wants to lead, or or?
REDD:what? Yes, I'm a man, yeah, I'm a traditional man. I want to lead my family. Okay, if I have the family, Okay, so leading them?
D.K.:All right. You say you want to lead your family. Okay, give us an example of what you do.
REDD:I'm going to try to better my family. If she ain't got nothing going on, I'm going to try to put her in a better position. Okay, so we can have some. I don't want to be the only one bringing home something. I'm not saying that she got to pay something, but I don't want nobody just sitting at the house. She got to have some type of something going on, whether she in school or her own business. You know what I'm saying. I'm supporting that. So she got to have something going on. But when I'm a lead, I'm a better us, I'm a better our situation.
TREE:Okay, okay, so wait a minute, or you're open to a woman to show you how she wants to be handled or lead, led. No, somebody said are you leading now? No, I'm single. He's single ladies and ready to lead no, I'm good I don't want all that drama, like she just said. Hold on. You're contradicting yourself. You're contradicting yourself.
REDD:Why is it drama? Where is that in the Bible? You know we want to go back to the Bible thing. I didn't say anything about that. I ain't saying you. I'm not talking to you in general, I'm talking to people in the comments too.
TREE:Somebody said wrong answer.
D.K.:I said wrong answer.
REDD:See, that's what I'm talking about. They want stuff to go their way. They want their daddy, but they don't want somebody to marry them. You know what I'm saying? Like I don't understand that I'm not your daddy. You want me to pay all the bills to do all this so you can run around and do what you want to do.
TREE:And we have another question. Somebody said why are you open to that, open to what he says, open to what Somebody said it doesn't take a relationship to be a leader. And then she said a man can lead, but it's about a woman too.
REDD:See, that's what I'm talking about. I ain't never said nothing what a woman couldn't do. They trying to make it a gender thing of me against them. I'm not going to a relationship where it's me against you. If you're not trying to get on a board and we build together, you're not the one for me. You always tell me well, you did this and I did that, I don't need that. And a lot of females like that.
D.K.:Now, okay, I'm not discrediting your answer, because there are some women out here that are like that. I sent a clip to Tree today about something that happened and we both was like that's crazy. So yeah, they are out here.
REDD:I get it, but what I'm saying is this yeah, because I ain't going to get on your card. Yeah, I ain't. No, simp, I'm not just going to go behind you just because you cute and all that. There's plenty of beautiful women out here.
TREE:Okay, we got another question. Somebody said I hear you, Eddie Beal, together. Then somebody else said right, but I ask a question Would you be open to letting a woman show you how she wants to be led while letting you lead?
REDD:No, go back to when your grandma, and all of them With your grandma, when those households were married 15-some years. Who led the house?
TREE:The granddad or your grandmama. The granddaddy ran the house, basically Okay. When it comes to dads, you are taking over the responsibility from our fathers. That's why fathers give their daughters away, so technically. You don't let Ty loose up in here.
D.K.:Is it? Y'all don't let Ty loose up in here. Hey Ty, that's my crew coming through. Yeah, that's my crew coming through?
TREE:Yeah, I mean everybody has their own way of leading or wanting to be led. So that's why everybody's situation is unique, because everybody's situation is different. So you know, women don't show a man how to lead her. That's crazy. See, that's what I'm talking about. Yeah, grandma ran the house, granddaddy paid the bills. You are correct, nicole.
D.K.:Yes, absolutely that's correct.
REDD:Well, hold on hold on All women are the same, so you can't treat all women the same. Hold on. When grandma ran the house who had the final decision, though, even though she ran the house if something needed to be done who she went to. Let me ask daddy first. If daddy said okay, then it's okay.
D.K.:Let me see. So you can't treat all women the same. The leading will look differently in every relationship. Yeah, that's true. And facts, nicole. So again, truth and facts, nicole. So again, I think whether you're having a problem is that you're probably they're saying that you don't, you're not really listening, you're just listening to attack and not listening. I'm just saying that's victim again.
REDD:Like they can't take it. I'm not saying they're playing victim.
D.K.:From what I'm getting from the conversations and the comments, it's you're answering to respond instead of saying hey, let me listen to actually what they're saying.
TREE:Hold on, let me ask Eddie this. So, Eddie, so you're not a traditional type of person.
REDD:Why you say that.
TREE:I'm asking a question. Are you? No, are you a traditional or are you just a? I told you I like tradition. No, I'm asking. It's a question. Are you a traditional?
REDD:I guess I'm more traditional.
TREE:Do you like tradition or are you non-traditional?
REDD:I like tradition.
TREE:Okay, because I kind of got to go with the flow type.
REDD:Okay, so that's your opinion though.
TREE:I mean, we all got our own opinions.
REDD:I'm not saying you're wrong, I just said that's your opinion.
TREE:That's just what it sounds like to me. Eddie don't want a relationship. Some of the women in the comments want a relationship. It's like oil and water Oil and water. Are you open or just sitting? I didn't say I don't want a relationship. Are you open or are you just setting your ways?
REDD:No, I'm open, but I ain't finna put up no BS open, but I ain't finna put up no BS, just like y'all know what y'all want. I know what I want. Okay, what do you want? We ain't finna get into all that.
TREE:It's a conversation. Why not you talking about all this?
REDD:I want a traditional woman. That's what I want.
TREE:How you ain't acting like it. Why I'm not? Because with your responses like how you answering the questions, it don't sound like it, so he wants to be tolerated. He just want to be tolerated.
REDD:They want to be tolerated. See, that's what I'm talking about.
D.K.:They're giving off the energy because of the way you responded. That's what it is.
REDD:See, that's what I'm talking about. You always make excuses for them. It's all good, though.
D.K.:I ain't making no excuses for anybody.
TREE:It's like Eddie see only one way. How is he a traditional man? What it say? I can't see that.
D.K.:Autistic mindset.
REDD:Okay.
TREE:Every woman comes with something, so you can't say you don't want any BS, but then y'all say y'all don't want no BS.
REDD:Make that make sense.
TREE:Oh, I don't tolerate BS, so I'm just going to say that for myself. I can't speak for nobody else. I don't tolerate BS, so I'm just going to say that for myself. I can't speak for nobody else. I don't deal with bullshit, no more.
REDD:So that makes sense, then. But y'all can come with luggage, but if a man come with luggage it's a problem. That's not true, no.
TREE:I don't want to come with baggage. I don't want to come with no baggage. I want to come healed. I want to come healed, I want to come. I don't want to come with baggage. That's just me. A woman will submit naturally when properly led. Amen, nicole, that's true. A lot of women get twisted too, though.
D.K.:She's twisted too, though.
TREE:Severely. Eddie, you know what you want and we know what we want. Eddie wants his type of woman woman and there's someone for everybody yep, it is come luggage and a passport, not baggage that's it. That's it to sum it up. Well, eddie, yeah, I mean, that's it to sum it up.
REDD:Well, Eddie yeah.
TREE:I mean Eddie, say he traditional y'all.
REDD:There you go with that. I didn't say that, I just said it. I know you're saying it on the slide.
TREE:I swear I'm not being a shady tree. I swear I'm not being a shady tree. You say you like tradition and we gonna leave it right there. I mean, everyone's coming with something. It's up to you if you want to deal with it or not. Somebody said bye then.
REDD:Bye then.
D.K.:Traditional what.
REDD:Don't do my friend y'all, but y'all want a man to come here and pay all the bills and be the leader of the household and take care of everything. But what I'm saying? You want to be traditional, right, but then I said I want a traditional home and that's a problem. But y'all just said y'all want somebody to come in and take care of everything you say. You want somebody to make sure your nails did, your hair did.
TREE:Yeah, eddie wants to go with the flow. Woman, is that what you want, eddie?
REDD:I'm like we ain't coming. We don't know what that one is.
D.K.:I'm going to let you have that. There's no comments in here.
TREE:I didn't know that that was in the comments.
REDD:He's in the comments.
TREE:I'm reading the comments.
REDD:I know, but I know who made them comment, so it's all good.
D.K.:What's your definition of traditional?
REDD:What's your definition of traditional, whatever they say in the dictionary?
TREE:What is your definition? You ain't the dictionary.
REDD:Yes, I am. No, you're not. Whatever I say, that person is going to have something to go against her, because what she went through, she's going to put that on, put that energy out on everybody, like she said earlier. When he cheated, I cheated Like what you getting out of that? What you just leave.
D.K.:Listen, everyone has their faults.
REDD:Some people match energy.
ANGELA:Listen, I have matched energy before. Everyone has their faults. Some people match energy. Listen, I have matched energy before.
D.K.:Everyone has their faults.
TREE:Well, I don't match energies anymore. I get gone. Everybody has their faults. I don't have time for the energy.
D.K.:Oh, we said that we want to be catered to and taken care of.
TREE:We can't possibly be women who can provide for ourselves well, he's speaking on something I said earlier in the podcast. When did I say a woman can't do nothing for herself? When did I say that didn't I give him the benefit of the doubt? Why he mad at me, eddie? Why you mad at Angie?
REDD:Yeah, why you mad at Angie? I'm just responding to her comments, so I'm mad. When she responds, it's all good, but when I respond, I'm mad, eddie's not mad y'all.
TREE:I personally know Eddie, he is not.
D.K.:He ain't mad mad y'all, he's just doing something that says the same and does not change why am I catching body shots?
REDD:body shots. I'm not coming at her, I'm just responding to what she's saying. So I can't respond to her without okay.
TREE:I told him I give she's going to give you a virtual hug, Eddie.
REDD:No, I'm good.
TREE:What does that mean?
D.K.:A whole, lot of shade in here.
TREE:Why are you being mean?
REDD:I can't win with you Tree, I can't I can't win with you, why I can't win with? You she was going to give you Tree.
EDDY:I can't Eddie, I can't win with you.
TREE:Oh no, I can't win with you, Tree. She was going to give you a hug You're talking about.
D.K.:You're good Everybody can give you a hug. Eddie is a pressure cooker.
TREE:Everybody can Look. Let me give my own self a hug. I need a hug right now. Eddie, give me the hug, I'll take it. I'll take it.
D.K.:I just ignored it.
TREE:I'll take it, Eddie, stop being like Like what Tree?
REDD:Tree. You know I'm a good-hearted person, man.
TREE:He's actually a sweetheart. We don't agree with a lot of things. We don't agree with a lot of things. I don't agree with a lot of stuff he say and he don't agree with a lot of stuff I say. But that's what friends are for, they're not going to agree.
D.K.:Hey, tell them wave the white flag. He'll never win this conversation.
TREE:I gotta get back to work. Y'all have a good night.
EDDY:Bye Eddie.
D.K.:Bye, bye. Here's the thing. Why am I the only one getting a dress? And the whole group done, told him he's nuts. Let me tell you why. I think I can figure this one out. You're going to read the room with this one. You're going to read the room with this one, angela, he likes you.
REDD:No, I'm good. I'm a grown man. No, I'm good. I'm good. I'm just voicing my opinion. I don't agree with what they're saying and I ain't putting them on the soapbox now. It's an issue with me.
TREE:No, we don't have an issue with you, eddie, nobody has an issue with you. You're a good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good good.
REDD:I can't win for you, man. I'm just trying to watch our podcast. You know what I'm saying. I try to make sure I tune in on the road.
TREE:I appreciate you, brother, and I really do appreciate you.
D.K.:You know, ain't nothing but love and we was happy that you came on.
TREE:You know ain't nothing but love between us, eddie. That's my brother for real. Eddie, I can't get no love back you good still you know I got much love for you Tree.
REDD:You know we go a long way. I'm just trying to make sure.
TREE:I want you here every week.
REDD:I try to make sure, if I can be here, I'm here absolutely we appreciate every last one of you that come in here. Yeah.
D.K.:But I'm going to get out of here.
REDD:You and me are the target right now, because I don't agree with you.
TREE:Hey, that's life. Nobody's going to agree with everything you say.
REDD:You know me, I like being solo. You know that. Yeah, oh, I know.
TREE:But I thank you for coming out.
REDD:Oh yeah. Much love to both of y'all.
D.K.:Man, I ain't never met you hey don't worry, when I come down there, we'll meet. We'll meet. The same way I am on the screen is the same way I'll be in person.
REDD:I got you, bro, I got you.
D.K.:That's it.
TREE:All right, Eddie.
D.K.:We'll see you. Oh's it All right, eddie, all right. Oh my God Hilarious, let's see Teddy and Sing with a New Vibe, remember.
TREE:Teddy and Sing with a New Vibe. Remember, do I need to make a song? Do I need to make a song for that one this week?
D.K.:A group ball, teddy and Sing with a New Vibe make a song for that one.
TREE:This week I wrote a group ball. Thank you, thank you.
D.K.:Listen, we have been here for almost two hours on this show. Y'all have made this show amazing, amazing For everybody that came in. We appreciate you, thank you, and we are coming back next week with something. Angela actually gave us a good topic. She's like, hey, y'all need to have a single show. So, listen, we take suggestions, like we do always. You can always leave us. If you got a tree, you can text her, you can text me, or you can leave something on the podcast page. Yeah, you are late, bro. You late A lot.
D.K.:Yeah, you missed the whole thing. It was off the chain to hit night. But again, we appreciate each and every last one of you. We actually had a high turnout tonight as far as viewers. We appreciate it. That's all because of you, all because of you coming in here. Next Wednesday we're going to be back in here, since Tree said it was my fault that we were late and I'll take it as my fault. Yeah, yeah, I look forward to this. I do too, oh yeah.
TREE:The vibes you all bring positive vibes. I love it. I love it.
D.K.:Angela, I went and saw you, saw Esha too. So you know we got to talk, told you we got to talk.
TREE:Look, Eddie is actually here every week. He's on every show. He's every week he's every week. We're going to make sure Eddie comes back. Eddie did a good job tonight. Alright, eddie did a good job tonight.
D.K.:All right.
TREE:And I thank you all for coming as well, and I've been seeing the same people here every week and we appreciate y'all.
D.K.:Y'all just don't know we appreciate you.
TREE:I'd like to hug everybody. Personally, I really would.
D.K.:Yep, I don't know how my big old little B's don't know. But hey, yes, I'm not going to be on the bees, no more. But hey, yes, we love every last one of you. Again, we appreciate you.
TREE:I'm going to go add Eddie. Oh Lord, I will make you love me.
D.K.:Good luck, sis. Good luck.
TREE:Good luck with that good luck. Oh my goodness you came in at the end of the show at the end of the show. I like that picture.
D.K.:You look cute yeah, so next Wednesday we will be back. We'll have another hot topic again. All your interaction is always appreciated and again, just like this week, you can come into the show again. If you camera shy, we got a phone number for you too. We can plug you right in that way if you don't want to show your face if you're here it matters.
TREE:We are not a biased show everybody can say. Only thing we don't speak about is what Bestie Religion and politics.
D.K.:So if you say anything about religion and politics, we're going to boot you out of here. Yes, we don't talk about those. You want to be a stepdaddy.
TREE:Y'all are me, y'all are a man. Angela, is this going to be our first DK and Tree wedding? Is this going to be our first DK and Tree wedding?
D.K.:Right, hey, listen, I will be the. I will, hey, listen, I will be the reverend.
TREE:I got the reverend this one, Eddie, tonight was not biased.
D.K.:No this wasn't biased. It wasn't biased. It was not biased. It would be biased if I wouldn't have allowed you to come in here or if I wouldn't have allowed them to come in here, that's when it's biased.
TREE:We wanted to hear what you had to say, Eddie, and you did that. You did that.
D.K.:Yep, that's it.
TREE:The only thing that's biased is you didn't accept Miss Angie's hug. That was the only biased thing that happened tonight.
D.K.:Yeah, hey, angie, break them down. Break them down, angie.
TREE:Oh, you got a wedding singer, okay.
D.K.:Oh yeah, yeah, we're putting this together.
TREE:I'll sing it to y'all.
D.K.:So next week, this is what we got to do. We got to get them on the show together.
TREE:Oh my God, Are we ready? Oh.
D.K.:PJ. You missed the whole show. You're going to have to go back and watch this one, pj. Salty about the non. Salty about the non is something that a hug.
TREE:Hugs are free and innocent Hugs are free and innocent Hugs are free and innocent.
D.K.:I appreciate you. Yeah, I changed the whole room around Me too.
TREE:Charisma, me too. I just want to eat at the wedding. I want to eat and I do want to get cute and dressed up. That's all. That's all I want to do.
D.K.:Absolutely, I'm going to have a suit on, I'm going to have my best suit on and I'm going. You know something? Hey, angela did say one week, right, we're going to dress up.
TREE:next week we're going to dress up? Yeah, so next week.
D.K.:Oh, next week we got a wedding coming on.
TREE:Yeah, we got a wedding next Saturday. Next Wednesday is the wedding, you all.
D.K.:Oh yeah, we're going to marry y'all next week. Eddie is getting married on the DK Entry podcast next week. Oh yeah, I can't wait for that. I can do the electric slide. I can have my dress on.
TREE:I can have ring bells, eddie, you have one week to ring shop. Sis, what size ring you wear? Yep, we got a ring girl, she going to do the electric slide yep, next Wednesday.
D.K.:Hey listen, I'm all here for it and don't be trying to skip out, eddie, you ain't leaving nobody at the altar.
TREE:I'm on the road, eddie. You were on the road today, but you pulled over you sure did.
D.K.:You got done work. It's going to be a wedding here next week. Can't wait. I'm excited about this.
TREE:I got my Cowboys jersey.
D.K.:I can't wait for this one. It's on and popping.
REDD:I got five pedals and shots.
D.K.:Hey, you said shots. Tequila, tequila, I love it. I'll see you next week.
TREE:You got a passport too.
D.K.:So we good, we're good. So listen, we appreciate each and every last one of you. We will be here next week because it sounds like it's a wedding. It sounds like it's a wedding next week.
TREE:Somebody's getting married.
D.K.:We appreciate it, Angela. I'm allergic to weddings and shellfish.
TREE:I just know the shellfish. I ain't heard about the wedding. Good night, Patrice. Good night, patrice, and thank you for the shirt Patrice what would I do without your smart mouth? Is that what you gonna say? That's the song. What would I do without your smart mouth?
D.K.:that's a great song. I'm all for, it all for it, patrice.
TREE:Before we received his shirt, he said thank you, song, I'm all for it, all for it. Listen, we're signing. We received his shirt. He said thank you.
D.K.:Yeah, oh, she said that, yes, yes, all right, we're tuning out. We will see y'all next week. Wait a minute, let's see what would I do without my small smile drawing me in and kicking me out. You got my hair spinning. No kidding, I can't pin you down, good night Good night.
TREE:Did he just make that up?
D.K.:He did Okay this is the last thing I'm going to say, and then we are signing out. Nobody, bring no diddy oil. All right, that's it for me. I'm out tonight.
TREE:Bye, y'all See ya.
