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Marriage Dynamics Explored: Prenups, Joint Accounts, and the Balancing Act of Love and Money
Ever wondered if love can truly coexist with financial pragmatism in modern relationships? We tackle the sometimes contentious topic of prenuptial agreements, exploring their value in protecting assets without stifling romance. Drawing from celebrity headlines and everyday tales, we weigh the emotional and financial stakes involved. This episode sets the stage for an honest conversation about navigating the marriage of love and money, where individual empires meet shared dreams.
The financial dynamics within relationships are as varied as the couples themselves. We discuss the different approaches partners take, from maintaining separate finances to embracing the "what's mine is ours" mentality. Our lively discussion underscores the importance of transparency, shared responsibilities, and the benefits of joint accounts. We also touch on the lighter side of relationships, sharing humorous stories that illustrate the everyday challenges and joys of marital life, emphasizing communication and mutual support.
Marriage planning can be both a thrilling and daunting journey. We explore societal pressures, societal expectations around engagement rings, and the heartfelt significance behind these symbols of commitment. Our conversation meanders through laugh-out-loud moments, ranging from quirky neighbor requests to the excitement of potential wedding venues. Whether it's considering life insurance or debating the merits of prenups, we aim to inspire listeners to embrace both the challenges and the joys of building a life together with trust and love as the foundation.
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Speaker 1:So you know, we was out talking today and we was talking about a couple things like prenups and adding your spouses to your bank account, so insurance, you know, joint accounts, how y'all feel about this stuff. Talking about a couple things like prenups and adding your spouses to your bank account, so insurance, you know, joint accounts, how y'all feel about this stuff, you know, especially the prenups, though I definitely want to hear this one, because prenups, you know, that's like a touchy subject, people scared of what somebody might say over someone. How I feel about it and me personally, I don't have a problem with a prenup. So if I built an empire and my empire was mine, I built from the ground up and then someone's coming in, then yeah, I definitely want a prenup because I felt as though the empire should be the family and especially I have kids. I want the empire to go to my children.
Speaker 1:Now we built an empire together. There's no reason for a prenup, but I'm not scared of a prenup. It's just like if I ran across someone really, really rich. Of course they want to protect their investment. Hey, sign this, I get it. Nothing to be upset about.
Speaker 2:I think I'm having internet issues.
Speaker 1:Oh, no, not again. I mean, I can see you.
Speaker 2:I can see and hear you I know, but I'm only hearing every other word you're saying oh Lord, have mercy.
Speaker 1:Oh oh no, we can't Look, we gotta stop having issues. But, like I said, you know, with prenups, you know some people they are for it, some people are against it. But again, if you built an empire, and that empire you built from the ground up, and now someone wants to come in, yeah of course sign that prenup.
Speaker 1:No, it's just like having spouses and you know, if somebody has spouses then, um, yeah, have a joint account. I see her pre-owned agreement. Yes, joint accounts for bills and savings only insurance. Yes, yeah, I agree with you with all that. Because here's the thing if, let's say, I didn't have the job to have insurance because I wasn't getting enough hours, if my spouse has it, I will hope my spouse will want me to be on her insurance so I have some type of health insurance. Still, having a little audio issues over there, no, go ahead. No, okay, so I would definitely want my spouse and vice versa, if my spouse didn't have insurance, then of course they're going to be on my insurance Because, again, if they get sick, I don't have no hospital money. Trust me, I know what it's like to be sick because I was hospitalized before and when that $13,000 bill came in and my insurance paid all of it, I was happy with that.
Speaker 1:But you get some people just really iffy, especially with bank accounts like joint accounts. And, like I said, I agree with her. You know, if we have an account, that's for our bills and everything, that's fine. You can have your own separate account because, hey, everybody wants to have their little play money. Everybody wants to have a little spending money. I have a problem that we have an account just for these bills. Hey, we're good, right.
Speaker 2:What do you think? I'm not signing a prenup. Why not? Because I wouldn't. Ain't nobody, unless you just really got it like that. Ain't no sense of us signing a prenup, and I'm talking about me.
Speaker 1:Okay, I get it. It but, like I said, prenups, like I say it's if, like I say, if I built something from the ground up, then yeah, I want to protect that investment. But if we built something together, then there's no reason for a prenup because we built it together. Because, guess what? Now we're 50, 50 partners, we invested, that's our invested interest. So you know, like I said, prenups, they're touchy. All right, let me take you back to the Eddie Murphy days. No raw and stuff like that. Maybe you say Johnny Carson, and he was like we're $300 million, right, he gets married. He gets married. Now he gets divorced. The wife, now she's $150 million richer, but she came in with nothing. She didn't come in with $300 million, so why should she be awarded $150 million?
Speaker 2:Because she's a spouse. But that's celebrity status. I'm talking about.
Speaker 1:regular people Talk about regular people Talk about regular people, okay, but what I'm saying is you built an empire, right, you built an empire, you have an established business or whatever, and why should your spouse be? Just because he met you and then he's married you, why should he be afforded to it?
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying. That's on a whole nother level. I'm saying if I meet somebody today and we both got regular jobs, why are we signing pre-dose?
Speaker 1:I agree with you, but I'm putting it in the sense of if you have something that you built from the ground up and you built this from the ground up because you're trying to do your family legacy right that's your family's legacy. Why should they be afforded to it?
Speaker 2:I get that, but what I'm saying is that's on a whole nother level. If you're just a regular person, you marrying the nurse, y'all signing a prenup, no, no, no, no. But what I'm saying is is that I, I touched?
Speaker 1:on. That is like outside in the pre-noot no, no, no. But what I'm saying is that I touched on that. It's like why should I, if I brought it in? Marriage has to become up for some. Marriage has to become, yeah, has to come up for some it is. But if, like I said, if I built something from the ground up and I got a successful business let's say I have a successful candy store right, put that from the ground up, it's successful candy store then again that's a family business. So I want that to stay with my family. So of course I'm protecting that for them because I want that family to keep going for them, not necessarily for me.
Speaker 1:Now, if we got married and then we did something, then that's ours because we built it together. So it's no reason for a prenup, but just a regular joe. If I met, like you said, a nurse or a doctor or something like that, there's no reason for a prenup. Oh yeah, retirement pensions do count because, again, now you get married, spouses are entitled to the retirement pension. They are no way to protect that because I think he and merlin, if you're married over 10 years, I think they're entitled to it. If you're married over 10 years, I believe. I'm not sure what it is in Texas, but here you're entitled. So what's your position on the joint account? I don't have a problem with that one.
Speaker 2:If we're together and married but dating, no Right, if we married, I get it. Joint accounts marriage yes.
Speaker 1:Okay, so if your spouse didn't have insurance and you did, you recover your spouse, though, right?
Speaker 1:of course okay, I ain't listening. I I guess that's not always a guarantee these days. I'm just saying because you get some people out here like, oh what, you on your own, yeah, and that's just truly sad Because, remember, if this is your spouse, this is you're supposed to be the person that you take care of. So that means I'm supposed to have your back, you're supposed to have my back. And if I can't even count on you just for helping out with accounts or even insurance, what else do I have to count on for you? Correct? So I just don't understand why they would say, hey, no, this person can't do this, this person can't do that.
Speaker 1:Again, I don't have a problem with joint accounts. I haven't been married before, so I had to join the account Again. It takes care of the bills, right, you're going to have your separate accounts for. For, like I said, you got your play money, I got my play money, right, but it doesn't interfere with the bill money. That's what it joined accounts for. It's supposed to take care of the household things. Hey, mortgages in there, okay, gas and electric is in there. Bam, you know everything together. But in our modern day society, then you know, it's always, oh, the man's supposed to take care of everything. I heard, I heard remember old girl was talking about the guy I guess she was married to talking about well, my money is my money and his money is our money. Wait, what the hell? How does that work?
Speaker 1:which means a young lady. Um, that young lady? I have to find that video, but it was a young lady. She was saying that her husband fell on for hard times. She was like he knew up front what it is when he came to see me. So he fell on hard times. He asked me for some money. I wanted my money back. That's your husband. What do you mean? You want your money back. I thought the vows was better or worse, rich or poorer, sickness, health or death for you part.
Speaker 2:So why should I have to pay my spouse back? I don't know. I ain't never been married, so I don't know how it works.
Speaker 1:I'm just saying but why should I have to pay my spouse back If I fell on hard times and I'm on my worst time right then why should I have to pay you back? Because if you fell, then you would expect me to hold you down. So I'm just expecting the same thing in return so I can get myself back on my feet. But if I do not have that, then why? Why are we together? Like I said, the young lady was really adamant. Oh, he knew what this was. Up front Again, my money is my money and his money is our money. Wait, no, that's selfish. That's selfish. That is selfish, yeah, selfish people, yeah. But if he knew this up front front, then why did he even agree to marry her? If he knew this up front? Because if I know this up front, I'm not gonna marry you because you're a selfish person, right, you know?
Speaker 1:The thing of it is is that partnership, which a lot of people don't seem to know what it is out here these days. It's a partnership. You work together. You don't never work separate. If you are together, you pretty much are one. When you're married, you definitely are one and you have to walk down that road each other together, and when you don't, it's a problem, because y'all supposed to be thinking on the same wavelength, but apparently someone's thinking differently, and that's when you start having the problems. Oh well, I didn't think I would have to do this, or why do I have to do this? Well, why are you questioning me? Because, again, this is. This was the deal. We already said what it was going to be.
Speaker 1:And now all of a sudden it's a problem. So, and that's why I think some relationships falter, because, again, y'all not on the same page, with the same wavelength, one person's thinking one thing and one person's thinking another thing is just saying, hey, look, listen, I'm looking for someone to take care of me, plain and simple. I ain't your guy, I'm not your guy, sorry, not your guy. Hey, I'm looking for someone to be equal with me. We can do things together. This and that walks in the park. You know we can. You know everything. Okay, I might be a little bit more susceptible to that, because now we're talking the same, we're talking the same land, hello, yeah, so we're talking the same thing because, again, it's supposed to be a partnership. But if I can't even count on you to add me to a bank account, right. Or just add me to your insurance, or wait, wait, wait, I'll give you one even better.
Speaker 1:Hey let's say your car broke down, right. Let's say, hey, my car broke down, blah, blah, blah. This and that. Wait a minute, I'm your partner, right? So I'm supposed to be able to help you out and help lift you up. I got that. Don't even worry about it. You know, if I can't do it, guess who's going to teach me YouTube University? Because YouTube teach anything these days. They'll teach you to fix any damn thing. So you go on YouTube, hey, it'll tell you how to strip an engine now, how to change brakes, how to change oil, whatever's wrong with that car. You can pretty much fix it yourself and you can save yourself a whole bunch of money. All right, youtube university will teach you anything.
Speaker 1:So again, being your partner, you know you're supposed to have each other's back. But, as we see, a lot of people don't, and it's a problem. A lot of people don't. A lot of people don't, and it's a problem, a lot of people don't. And then some people sit up on their hands and say, oh, you know, I got my partners back, I got this back, and you really don't. You really don't. You just want to be heard at the time, but you really don't have their back. Having that back is like hey, if something happens, I can call you and I know you'll be there but you should know if a person is using you from the beginning, wouldn't you?
Speaker 2:or? In a situation for the coin or to be taken care of. Hey, lovely.
Speaker 1:Hey, lovely, yeah, okay, here's the thing you should know. But remember, people send their representatives right Forever, though I'll tell you everything. I'll tell you everything you want to need up front and then I'll show you the real person later. Because if a person cannot hold you down the way they hold you down, then why are they there? Why are they there Right? If I can't even count on you to help with the bills right, to help fix something? I got a flat tire. If I don't know how to change a flat tire, I'm going to need some help, or I may not have the strength to do it, right. So I'm going to call my partner. Hey, I'm broke down on the side of the road. You think you can come back. I'm on my way. No ifs, nays and buts. If not, guess what? Call AAA, we'll get them there.
Speaker 1:That's having your partners back. That's that's having your partners back for the case of again having spouses, having someone. That's again, they're supposed to hold you down the way I will hold them now, and if they're not returning the favor, that's a problem, and if you accepting that, that's a problem. So I'm just saying. I'm just saying yeah, you know well, sometimes you have to protect yourself from yourself seriously, amen, sometimes you have to protect yourself from yourself. But again, sometimes we get roped into things. We really get roped into things and then we're so far in it that we can't see out of it because they done painted this picture so good that we just can't see through it and it's like this person's not good for me. And sometimes it takes a person from the outside right to look and say, hey, this is a messed up situation, what you doing. You don't see this. So you just had to hey, look, I know that's your partner. But hey, let me tell you what I see. I see a, b, c, d and d. Right, this is what I see. I'm not trying to mess up your relationship, but hey, take a step back and look at this and say, hey, is this person really truly for me? Just take a step back, lynn. What's going on? So take a step back, look at it and let's say it's this person. Then you start weighing your pros and your cons. Hey, does this person truly have my back? Hey, does this person help out with this? Hey, every time I call this person, they've never really been there. I've been through that, I've been through that and what I just explained.
Speaker 1:My boy pulled me out of a situation and he said hey, man, let me talk to you. And he started breaking down things for me. He said hey. He said let me. He said I just. He said listen, I just want to. I'm gonna point out some things. And he said if I'm wrong, I'm wrong. So he started just naming simple stuff. He said hey, when's the last time we hung out? Said we haven't okay. He said when's the last time you seen your family in baltimore?
Speaker 1:well damn I haven't, he's all right. When's the last time you've been roller skating? Damn, I really haven't been. He said. That's my point exactly. He said I think she's controlling you and she's not doing anything to help you. Everything right now is a selfish thing. Everything right now is a selfish thing. Right, she wants all the stuff, but she don't want you to reap any benefit of it. Wasn't for me, person, wasn't for me. So I took a step back, like he asked. I said you know something, I respect your opinion. Let me take a step back and look at this. I took a step back. I looked at it. I said damn, he know something. I respect your opinion. Let me take a step back and look at this. I took a step back. I looked at it. I said damn, he's right, he's right. And when I took that step back, I said okay. Then I started changing the program. Once I changed the program, we started having all kinds of problems.
Speaker 2:Hmm, started going at it.
Speaker 1:Now, now she lost her job right Now she lost her job. Now, if I said I'm your partner, I got your back right. So that's what I did. Yeah, so that's what I did. I took that step back and I was like you lost your job. They closed down on you, bam, I got us. Don't worry about it, Because that's what a partner Does. But in the process she was screwing me over Because she was trying to control the whole narrative, even with the whole we should be married. And we've been talking less than Eight months. Oh, we should be married. And we've been talking less than eight months. Oh, we should be married by now. What, who, who does that?
Speaker 2:it's not a timeline, time limit on marriage, marriage when y'all ready right it was.
Speaker 1:It was to the point that, like, like I said, it said oh, I want control of this, I want control of this, I want control of this, I want control of this. No, it don't work like that. It don't work like that. And if you're like this, now what if I put? A ring on your finger how you going to act then.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:How you going gonna act then. Right, how you gonna act then. Because then that all becomes now oh, I need to be on your bank accounts, oh, I need to be on this, oh, I need to be on that, I need to be on your life insurance. Yeah, let me get you up out of here, because I know you got some good life this year trying to get some benefits that's it.
Speaker 1:But the thing with it is is that my point is is that, okay, I was holding her down, but she wasn't holding me down the same way I was holding her, because it was a control issue right, I'm just getting here but it sounds like someone who would take all your stuff, like your retirement, if it don't work out.
Speaker 1:Yes, it would, they would. But the whole thing is is that we're just talking about, hey, if you have a spouse, why don't you add them to your bank account or your life insurance policy or not holding that person down the way they will hold you? Now, you know they want all the benefits, but they don't want to do anything to earn the benefits, they just want everything. It's a handout. So give me, give me, give me, give me, give me. And we talked about prenups a little bit too, and I was just talking about now. Tree was just saying and we both agree on this is, basically, if it's just me and a doctor or an earth, there's no reason for a prenup. But if you built an empire from the ground up and you want to protect that empire, yeah, I want a prenup and let's see, hello, hello, yeah.
Speaker 1:So my thing of it is is, again, if that person is not holding you down, the way you're holding that person down, that person don't need to be there. Yeah, deuces, chuck the deuces, goodbye, hey, yeah, chuck the deuces, hey, hey, listen, you can chime in too. Like I said, you know, it's just. It's so sad that some people do get married and some people may not be ready for marriage and some people really don't take those vows really seriously. You know, because again it says for better or for worse. Why am I selfish to my spouse? Again it says for better or for worse.
Speaker 2:Why am I selfish to my spouse? What if someone wants you to stay home? Vice versa, male or female, and they work and you just get a monthly allowance? You have to take care of the house, take care of the kids, do the cooking, do the cleaning. That person pays the bills and gives you an allowance. Would you do that?
Speaker 1:wait a minute. She said she liked the sound of that. You like the sound of?
Speaker 2:that you would stay home, cook clean, wash the dishes. You like the sound of that. You would stay home I cook clean, wash the dishes, do everything and let that person pay all the bills, or you get you a monthly allowance.
Speaker 1:Or they get a monthly allowance and then the man just takes care of everything.
Speaker 2:You know, I said vice versa, the man or the woman me personally, me personally.
Speaker 1:I just can't stay home. I couldn't do it. Not me, I couldn't stay home. I'm just too active. I like being on the go. I just couldn't stay home. I just couldn't take care of the kids. These walls would drive me nuts eventually. I couldn't do home. I just couldn't take care of the kids. These walls would drive me nuts. Eventually I couldn't do it. But what if she?
Speaker 2:wants to stay home and you work and pay an allowance.
Speaker 1:Only problem I have with that is that if something, especially in the line of work that I'm in, if something happens to me, then who's going to suffice this house? That's the problem that I have with that, Because if I was just giving you a monthly allowance and you was taking everything, you know, your monthly allowance, you taking care of the house or whatever but if I fall for any reason, then how are we going to save this house? How are we going to still have a roof over?
Speaker 2:us. I would be open to trying it, meaning I take care if the person and everything is done.
Speaker 1:That's the only problem I have with that.
Speaker 2:What if you are taking care of everything, but when you come home, nothing is done? Then what? Oh, it's gonna be a problem.
Speaker 2:It's gonna be a problem what happens, you're you're paying everything and you get home the food's not cooked, the kids is running wild, the clothes is dirty. You know, when it was a conversation had at the beginning hey, you stay here, you do this, you do that, but the needs are not getting met. So do you just say nope, go to work, or do you have a conversation again? You know, if you have a conversation with that person again and they still don't make the changes, then what?
Speaker 1:Again. If you had this from the beginning, okay, you had the conversation from the beginning. Okay, just like she was saying, had the conversation Like, hey, you know what's going on, is there something going on? Just sit down, say are you going through something? Whatever? You know the house not clean, the clothes not washed, this and that I mean you got all day. You know, fatal attractions on for my man. I get you like the shows, but hey, this stuff has to be done. I'm out here busting my butt for us and no food on the table, whatever. Okay, I'll be fair, have the conversation right. But if it happens again, okay, this is unacceptable.
Speaker 1:So now I'm going to give you some newspapers, because apparently you need to get out the house. Then you got to go to work Yep, got to go to work. Got to go to work yup, gotta go to work, gotta go to work. Now, if you're looking at the paper talking about the job situation looks sad, right, then you're really not trying because everyone's hiring these days. Everyone's hiring. Someone needs somebody to do something. But you know you have your job force out here that feels those some jobs are beneath them. I don't feel any jobs beneath me If it's giving me a steady paycheck and some benefits.
Speaker 2:I'm good. I have another scenario. What if you both are working, paying all the bills you know, however, you all agree to pay the bills and your wife or husband wants to move their parents in, or another family member. Would that be an issue? Would that be a conversation? Or, you know, somebody gets sick and you have to take care of your mother-in-law, instead of putting her in a nursing home or whatever. She wants to take care of her mother-in-law. How does that work?
Speaker 1:So you know, I'm big on family. I am, I'm very big on family and I was very big when my parents was here. So the whole thing of um, if I could care for my parents, I would. So I wouldn't. I would not be opposed to an in-law if she was sickly and we could take care of her and save money of, you know, having her with us versus putting her someplace where we got to dish out money. If we can give her care or maybe bring someone in just to just to save some money, I'm very big with that. Now, as far as the parents, but if it's a regular family member and they're not sick or anything, I'm not. No, you better find someplace to go.
Speaker 1:Because, as we know. You know, all family ain't good good family. We know that you got some goddamn moochers out here. So as far as the parents, I, I I agree with the parents. I I agree with that whatsoever, because when my mom and dad was here, loved them and you know, if there's anything I could do for them to help them, and if it's my spouse and this is my mother or father-in-law and we could give them care to save us money, then fine, but if it's other people, fuck that shit.
Speaker 2:I just figure, even if you do help somebody, I just figure, you know, if you know they've been there six months to a year and still are not trying to bust a move, then I feel like it's a conversation needs to be had, because at this point you grown, we grown, we need our space. You need your space. Like what, what, what's going on? Like it's not that hard to sustain somewhere to live if you got employment.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. But you see the thing that is.
Speaker 2:Breaking relationships, having people to mooch off you. You know what I'm saying. That's it. You don't want to be rude, you don't want to be mean to people, but at the end of the day, it is what it is.
Speaker 1:Oh, no, it'd be a nice. No, you have 30 and 25 of them gone. I'm just saying you know. So again, people will use you, and they do it all the time. People will use you, they will use you, but in this day and time, people need help. But I would say set a time limit. Yeah, absolutely, yeah, absolutely. You have to set a time limit, because if you don't, it's a problem, it's a problem and don't make it comfortable.
Speaker 2:No, absolutely not. If it gets uncomfortable, they'll not leave.
Speaker 1:Nope, Because once they get comfortable, it's on and popping. It's on and popping. So let's see, Let me see I've done this and it lasted four years. It broke my heart to tell them they had to go. And you know, sometimes it happens, that does happen. I made it very comfortable. Sometimes it happens. Sometimes we have too good of a heart. Seriously, Sometimes having too good of a heart gets us in trouble. It gets us in trouble because we look at okay, I want to help you, I want you know they had the best for you and whatever, Like I said, and it doesn't even have to be family, it could be friends, you know, but they, they screw you over the most. You know somebody that I thought was my friend, but when they come live with you it's a totally different story. When they come live with you, hey, we good apart, but us together, oh hell no, especially women, two women Mm-mm.
Speaker 1:Because y'all have two different living standards, not home girls.
Speaker 2:I just feel, like all women, unless you're in a relationship married or dating you need to be into. I can't live with my mama. She got to be there and I got to go be over here, right.
Speaker 1:Absolutely. Yeah, I agree with you. It's just certain people are like we are going to clash, we're going to fight like the Hatfields and McCoys and I agree with you with this comment. Sometimes that deliverance hand does get us in trouble. It gets us in big trouble and then the person wants to treat you nasty the one that you helped out. They want to treat you nasty. They want to make it seem like you were the problem all along. Well, I was trying to treat you nasty. They want to give you make it seem like that you were the problem all along.
Speaker 2:Well, I was trying to help you get your ass up out of here I have a family member mad at me to this day because I helped, helped well, guess what?
Speaker 1:tell them drink a coke and a smile, that's all.
Speaker 2:I'm saying damn it.
Speaker 1:I miss so much. I have people in my office that wouldn't leave. Don't worry, don't worry. I had even one said she would kill me. Oh my god that's terrible, that is terrible. But you see, this is this is why we say we can't help everybody. You cannot, we can't help everybody. So I just got to the point of just saying a universal thing. The answer is no, no matter what. It is no. The. The answer is fucking no, no, it's no all the time.
Speaker 2:Well, I mean, my whole thing is, I don't know if I would just up and say, no, I'll help anybody. But you could tell if somebody trying to use you or not, because it'll show you know what I'm saying You're not talking to me, you're upset, you're not trying, you ain't helping, you're not doing anything. Like you just hear bumming, and that's the issue. Like a person that really, really want the help is not going to be a bum. They're going to help, they're going to get up every day, they're going to go to work, they're going to contribute somehow around the house. Even ask you hey, I know I've been staying. You need a couple of dollars on the lights. Y'all need me for some groceries, something.
Speaker 1:Thank you If a person brings some type of benefit.
Speaker 2:Yeah, bring some type of benefit. Put your hand out and you running my electricity sky high.
Speaker 1:Point, case, point, case, point, case. Okay, so good friend of mine and um in-law right, staying with him and you know the in-law is like pretty much like living rent free, almost you know give a little bit of money here, you know, but not enough to say, hey, I really appreciate what you did. I say it's time to go. It's time to go, angela. Hey, it's time to go, because if you're not here and you're just a hindrance and you know that, okay, I got this is cushy, I got this. You're not contributing nothing but what I have to pay. I'm giving you this little bit of money. That should suffice. You're not contributing in the house, you're not cleaning the house. Hell, you won't even bring the mail in the house. That's a problem. But you went and brought a new car. That's a problem. That's a problem.
Speaker 2:That's a problem Using at its finest, users at its finest.
Speaker 1:Yes Again, if you're my spouse.
Speaker 2:I'm going to hold you down, but I wouldn't necessarily say I would never help anybody. I'm not ever going to down, but I wouldn't necessarily say I would never help anybody. I'm not ever going to say that because I've been in a predicament where I've needed help before. So I'll never say I'm not going to help. But know the difference in between help and using Mm-hmm.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, yeahhmm, absolutely Okay. All right, I got what you're saying, but the people that I'm going to help is the people that's always been here with me, riding with me, just like I rode with them. That's my philosophy now is I'm going to help them because they helped me. They roll with me, I roll with them. We've been thick as thieves. They the ones I help. If it's somebody else rent, nah, no, you got to figure it out. You have to figure it out. So, and we got plenty of people that we know and that we sometimes probably have ignored. That's really really tight with us, right, that's probably may have went through something, just didn't say anything, right? But this moocher over here that knows, hey, man, I can get in here, this is the easy one for me and then just keep mooching off of you. You're laying on the couch every day, right. You're eating up all the snacks. You're running up the bill had that done. Right, just home all day long. Why aren't you working?
Speaker 2:We're also entering into hobo season. This is going to get cold people going to start begging. People going to date you because it's cold outside, people going to pretend to love you because it's cold outside. We have to be aware, we have to know all the hobo sexual signs, all the hobo sexual, to know all the homosexual signs, all the homosexual signs, yeah, all the signs we need to be aware of because it's about to be cold. Don't let that Negro move in until what. March, april, april he back outside.
Speaker 1:Back in them streets. Back in them streets, nope.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so again, hold your sign up. Hold your sign steady. No hobos no hobos, no hobos, as much as I work.
Speaker 1:Someone chilling at my house while I bust my butt just don't sit right in my spirit. I totally agree with you, because if I'm going out here every day, in the hot, in the cold, in the rain, in the sleet, no matter the weather conditions, I'm going out this house and you just here chilling all day on your phone Nah, that's a problem. That's a problem.
Speaker 2:Eating up all the Kool-Aid. Drinking up all the Kool-Aid and eating up all the food yeah you gotta go.
Speaker 1:I'm telling you, I did this family. I hated it every day. Yes, I know how you feel because I've been through the same thing, the same exact thing. Now, when mom was still here mom, you know, whenever she come down I told her. I said, mom, you'll never have to work again, never, never. I said this is your house. I said I just occupy space. This is your house. I said I just occupy space here. This is your house.
Speaker 1:Let me tell you one thing about mom. You know what she would do. When I wake up in the morning, this house was rocking. She had this house. She was cooking. I was like that's what I'm talking about. So I was like, okay, that's cool, but mom took care of everything. But mom, that's moms. She don't have to work. She paid her dues. It's time for me to help pay her. Pay her for it for taking care of me. So I don't have a problem with parents, I don't. But I have a problem with other people trying to mooch off of you good evening, to be honest. I can't have a problem with other people trying to mooch off of you Good evening. To be honest, I can't have a joint account, no matter what the circumstances are. Man, your opinion, but I disagree with it. That's just me. I disagree Because, again, joint accounts help out. Again, you can have your separate account for a joint account for your spouse, so y'all can help pay spouse.
Speaker 2:If you're my husband, so y'all can help pay everything If you're my and I get it. You got your little coin in your account. I got my little play money in my account. But to sustain this house we need a joint account. So we need a joint account when the money is going. You know, everybody going to have their rainy day money, bus shopping money, nail feet, toe money, but that's just if you're married Now boyfriend, girlfriend, girlfriend.
Speaker 1:No, we talking spouse. If this is your spouse, then yes, you will have a joint account, because that's what that account's for. It's supposed to take care of the house, it's supposed to take care of the bills. You know great, you can be opposed to it, that's fine and that that's your prerogative, not knocking it. I'm just saying if I, if it's my spouse, we're gonna have a joint account again. We're gonna have our separate accounts because, again, you need your play money, I need my play money, but we know the house and the bills come first. Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2:That's just insane. Though not to want to have an account, a joint account, married, that's insane to me. Why wouldn't you?
Speaker 1:great because because, hey, some people are selfish with money. Plain simple. Some people are they're selfish with money. No, my money is my money, like maybe I said the old girl earlier what I was talking about. She said her money is her money and his money is their money.
Speaker 1:Man, get the hell out of here, yeah, so yeah, we're gonna have to have a joint account if we're married, I mean you're yeah, let's see, guaranteed you both, uh deposit amounts of dollars for mortgage house bills, so I don't have to go back looking for any when it's time to pay that bill. Greta, I definitely appreciate that comment, because that's what it is it's supposed to take care of the household. Again, you can have your separate money, right. You can have your separate accounts, but that account is for us, for our household. I agree with Greta, absolutely. I agree with Greta too, and that's what it's for. It's for that, it's for the household, that's what it's for. You gotta have some place to live, right? So what are you gonna do if there isn't a joint account? If you're still in here, greg, you said you can't. You say you can't have a joint account. I'm saying this is your spouse, right? Then what are you going to do as far as the house?
Speaker 2:there's going to be Everywhere bill's gonna be everywhere?
Speaker 1:yeah, it probably will be, because that account is for the house. Like bam mortgage is paid, bam gas and electric is paid, bam water bill is paid. Yeah, everything's paid. Okay, we good. So guess what? Hey, this is a free check right here. I got a little bit of money, you got a little bit of money, let's see trees said everywhere yeah, well, don't know what needs to be paid.
Speaker 1:But here's the thing. You know, you have some people that's never really been in the realm of a marriage, so they don't understand what it takes the realm of a marriage.
Speaker 2:So they don't understand what it takes, or what it takes to suffice it or maintain it. Well, not even true, because I've never been married and I got that much sense to know yeah, since I got enough when I'm saying this is that, being married, you need a joint account.
Speaker 1:So but what I'm saying is no right, I agree, but what I'm saying is this if you never think on a this is us, as we're one then how can you understand the?
Speaker 2:concept. That's what you're already messing up at. It ain't gonna work from there, because if you can't trust me as your wife or spouse enough to share an account with me, how are we sharing a relationship? How are we sharing a marriage? How are we living in the same house together? You don't even trust me see here it is.
Speaker 1:Joining counts is not for nails or boys. Night out, dip into it and then it's on, absolutely, because that account is only for the household. If you don't have it, you don't have it. Plain and simple. I can agree with that. My first marriage, but I'm still learning. Okay, that's it At least you're.
Speaker 2:Least you still learned.
Speaker 1:At least you're willing to still learn, willing to learn, right, some people aren't Kudos for that? Yeah, some people aren't. And when they're not willing to listen, that's when they start going into debt, right, that's when they start missing payments, bills not being paid, and et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. I've never been married either, and I understand the importance of sustaining the relationship with teamwork on maintaining our lifestyles, aka the household, absolutely, because, guess what? Guess what the most important thing is, regardless of anything A roof over your head.
Speaker 2:Who said that teamwork?
Speaker 1:makes the dream work.
Speaker 2:I think somebody said that Teamwork makes the dream work?
Speaker 1:Yep, absolutely so. Again, my grandmother told me this when I was younger. She said you know, no one will ever know if your water's off, your lights are off, the gas is off, she said. But everybody know if you get put out, everyone know that. So it's just you, just you know. A lot of people just oppose, oppose the things you know. I challenge you to take a step back and look at something differently. A lot of men and a lot of women out here are looking for handouts. They are, they're looking for handouts. I'm looking for somebody to take care of me. It's just like you say, it's hobo season, right, and a lot of people are selfish.
Speaker 2:Instead of working with each other, so many people are working against each other and you can never have anything if you want to be a selfish individual. There's no I in team.
Speaker 1:If we together, we together yep, I've been doing it forever. If I had a teammate to help share the workload I would not have. I wouldn't know how to act. Let me see. He said, like y'all heard me on, that one Sure will Never heard that saying until now. Me too, tracy, like I said, everyone, I know Everybody, I know that. But if you're handling your business, you ain know Everybody will know that. But if you're handling your business, you ain't got to worry about that. But, like I said, and your spouse, if you're holding your spouse down the way they're holding you down, you're not going to have a problem. But again, you got so many people out here that wants a handout or just want to be taken care of. Like I said, it just pains me to see a lot of women out here taking care of men. I'm like he can't work saying that's me.
Speaker 2:I I've been by myself for so long to where you know it's. It's hard for me to allow people to, even you know when, like, if, like, if, even if I'm dating somebody and they spend more than one night, I'd be like what the hell is going on. Why are they still here?
Speaker 2:Like I'm trying to work for these days. But I've been by myself for so long to where I'm trying to understand the fact of letting people in, because I'm just so used to being by myself. So it's not pride, it is hard. You know what I'm saying? It's hard for me to let people in and I'm trying to let that guard down about myself Because I'm telling y'all dating is rough Okay. Because I'm telling y'all dating is rough. Okay, dating is rough. And it's hard to let people in because I'm just to the point of my life. I'm just like, hmm, I half believe anything people tell me these days, like I always go in situations like this, but I'm trying to do better with that.
Speaker 1:This ninja here.
Speaker 2:I'm just like what do you believe?
Speaker 1:Wait, I got you, I got you.
Speaker 2:Hey, he talking that bull, I got you you got to let somebody in, you got to, you know, believe somebody, and I'm trying to let my guard down and cross that street. But that's just me. It's hard for me to let anybody do anything for me other than my parents or people that really really know me. But you know it. It's just hard and like I'm, I done, stepped out here to date and I've been on a date already, you, you know. But it's just, it's weird, like having to call somebody every day, having to text, like I feel like I'm it's another job. I'm just like, and I'm bad with phones because for the last seven years I never constantly had to really text, nobody call, nobody, check on nobody. It was just always me and my friends or whatever.
Speaker 2:So now I'm in a situation to where I'm trying to date and I'll go all day without texting the person. They'll be like oh yeah, I heard from you today. I'm like, damn, and I was talking to somebody that fast. I'm just trying to be better, I'm a work in progress. So, I'm just trying to be better, I'm a work in progress. Like I say, it's just hard right now For me. I just be ready for people to go. I be ready for people to go. You get a good 24 to 48 hours before I'm like I'm tired and I'm trying to get better with that.
Speaker 1:I think I'd have been by myself, Tracy. I agree with you right here. Tracy, I agree with that. I think I'd have been by myself.
Speaker 2:Hey, tracy, tracy, I agree with you right here. Tracy, I agree with you. Woo, blackbird, I am so serious Like I'll go all He'll text me or call me and I'll go all day and I'll be like, damn, I'll text him Like, but it's just training yourself to do. It's like riding a bike. You got to start somewhere, you got to get out there every day and pedal, and pedal until you get good at pedaling again. But dating is horrible. I hate dating. Like can we just go jump the broom and get married? I hate dating. Like I hate to date. It's too much, it's too much, oh my God.
Speaker 1:It takes time. It's too much, oh my God.
Speaker 2:It takes time, it does.
Speaker 1:It takes time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'm just not comfortable with dating. I'm trying because I do want a husband. I do want a boyfriend, but every time I go on a date I'm just like this shit weird. It's like an interview. They ask me a thousand questions and I'm just like this shit weird. It's like an interview. They ask me a thousand questions and I'm just like this shit is crazy. I'm dating in my 40s. This is crazy.
Speaker 1:It is bad. This is horrible Welcome to the club, been missing for three weeks.
Speaker 2:But I did have a great date. It was cool. Well, that's good, that's good.
Speaker 1:As long as the date was good, as long as y'all was vibing, it's great.
Speaker 2:It was cute. I actually blushed once or twice, but it was cute, I actually blushed once or twice, but it was cute.
Speaker 1:Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 2:That's definitely a plus.
Speaker 1:Well, that's good, that's good, you can get somebody you can vibe with, gel with, and then hey, hey, just go from there he's the same sign as me.
Speaker 2:He's an Aquarius and I'm terrified of that. Why I'm Aquarius? Because I know you. I'm stereotyping well, I can't go. He planned a date for Sunday, but I'm going home this weekend, so oh my god, I take that he's tall enough this time oh yeah, well, I'm still taller than him. But yeah, he's right, we about the same height okay.
Speaker 1:Question is are you going? Okay, I'm going home. So I'm gonna have to tell him tonight I'm gonna need a brain check yeah, he said oh my goodness, hilarious, hilarious, listen, and that's what it's all about is meet somebody to match. Oh my goodness, hilarious, hilarious, listen, that's what it's all about. Meet somebody to match you. Not only just match you, but just mesh with you. Period, because it's just hard just to even have a simple conversation these days and date you ain't lying.
Speaker 2:The thing is with the date that I went on, it was cool, it was a vibe. He picked a place, I picked it, it was cool. I'm going to say that it was a vibe, I don't know. I don't know what time I'm coming back Sunday. I was thinking that I could still probably go on my date, but I'm going to be tired. I go on a date with him next week.
Speaker 1:Just a rain check this week.
Speaker 2:You want to know what the cutest thing was? After I left the date he called me and he said guess what? I said what we forgot to take a picture, and men do not like taking pictures. So I thought that was cute.
Speaker 1:Let me see. Good evening from Texas. My girlfriend is moving in with me next month. I'm 44, never had a girl live with me before, so don't add her to my account until we are married. I'm gonna query us if that matters. We're we're saying all right. We're saying we are saying pretty much, yeah, if you're married it should be a joint account at the time since you're not married, because anything can happen in that relationship, then just keep separate, keep separate accounts for the time being, but once you get married, by all means have a joint account. Right, and good luck with that. Let's see, don't do it, chris. Wait a minute now.
Speaker 2:Don't do it, Chris. I'm always nervous about the moving in part. I don't know if I can live with nobody again.
Speaker 1:Well, yeah, no deal. Why no deal? I want to hear this one.
Speaker 2:No, don't put her on your joint account until you get married.
Speaker 1:She's going to steal all your money.
Speaker 2:She's going to take all your coins and be gone.
Speaker 1:Absolutely wait until you marry her. Yeah, don't, don't have no joint account, not yet. Not not a live-in person. This has to be somebody. Y'all took vows for that. Y'all are one. Two bedroom two bath apartment, so we have some space, if that helps.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I mean, I'm talking about me. I don't think I'm ready to live with nobody. I'm going to be about 75. Oh my.
Speaker 1:God Pushing you in a wheelchair, that's what it is.
Speaker 2:Push me, baby, push me. I'm just talking, I'm just talking. I'm talking. I need some help with these bills. I need some help with these bills.
Speaker 1:Need some help with them. Bills. Like I said, need some help with these bills. Need some help with them bills. Let's see, like I said, you know, but hey, at the reach you're going. Hey, you just never know what's going to happen. But, like I said, you get it when you get married, whenever it happens.
Speaker 2:As long as a baby ain not attached to any relationship, I'm good If they want babies. That's what we got to do.
Speaker 1:That's it, deal breaker. That goes back to the deal breaker. I'm out.
Speaker 2:I'm out.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I'm done. I'm done with the kid, so I get it so.
Speaker 2:I get it. My mental state is not for little kids oh, I agree with you, I totally agree.
Speaker 1:like you have what? Nah, I'm good, see you later. They gotta be adults, they have to be adults. I can't deal with it, especially the new generation of kids. Yeah, absolutely no babies. No, I'd be in jail so fast. Prison, you'd be in jail.
Speaker 2:Prison, not jail, prison, fed, whatever you get for knocking the shit out of a kid.
Speaker 1:That'll be me the Bernie Mac special. He said I'll F your kid up. He said I'm a dickhead. He said knock and I'll knock on his head. I told you I took a hammer and knocked the fuck out of him.
Speaker 2:I fight little key kids oh my god, hilarious and knock the fuck out of them. I fight little kids oh my God, Hilarious With me. I feel like marriage is most definitely going to happen for a joint bank account Insurance Anything. I'm adding you to my life. You better add something to my hand. That's how I feel.
Speaker 1:Oh damn, better add something to the hand, huh, okay.
Speaker 2:You want me to add you to my stuff. You're going to add something on my finger. No finger, no stuff.
Speaker 1:But again, that goes to the point we said earlier if this is my spouse yes, absolutely my spouse should have some type of insurance. Even if they don't, they should have some type of health insurance or life insurance or anything like that. You're my spouse, you should have that.
Speaker 2:But if they don't, that's a problem Most definitely some life insurance, in case I gotta take you out.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, absolutely. At this point I might have too much to lose to be half-stepping. I need a ring, I need a ring.
Speaker 2:Put the life insurance in your daughter's name until you get a wife. I need a ring. A ring. Put the life insurance in your daughter's name until you get a wife. No, girlfriend.
Speaker 1:What about life insurance Between my daughter and my girlfriend if we get married? Well, if you get married, yes. If you get married, yes, yeah, definitely. I mean, if you have kids, split it up between the kids in the spot.
Speaker 2:She's going to kill you If you put in her night now you're dead, and I learned that from fatal attraction and for my man so, yeah, just take your time with the whole thing.
Speaker 1:But if you have daughters or something like that, take care of your kids. Chris trying to get robbed with the whole thing, but if you have daughters or something like that, take care of your kids.
Speaker 2:Chris trying to get robbed, chris, where you live at.
Speaker 1:Because I need to move where you live. Well, he down there in the good state of Texas.
Speaker 2:Oh shit, never mind, I'll pass.
Speaker 1:I was about to spit that tea on my mom.
Speaker 2:I bet it ain't Houston. Chris, what part of Texas I guarantee my last quarter it ain't Houston. I knew it. I knew it wasn't.
Speaker 1:Houston, san Antonio.
Speaker 2:These Negroes want you to take care of them in Houston, so I knew he wasn't in Houston. He's trying to take care of the girls.
Speaker 1:Go ahead and put everything because that's what it sounds like he wanted to do, right man Antonio.
Speaker 2:I'm in the wrong city.
Speaker 1:You're in the wrong city.
Speaker 2:I'm packing up and I'm moving to Beverly tomorrow Beverly.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, chris, are you military, because I know Lackland's down there.
Speaker 2:Chris he ready military Cause I know Lackland's down there. Chris, are he ready? He talking about putting on the insurance.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Let me look for some apartments.
Speaker 1:right now I'm asking because I know Lackland's down there. I know Lackland, he gotta be military. I'm asking because I know Lackland's down there.
Speaker 2:I know Lackland because I was Air Force at one time nah, he gotta be military talking about taking care of a woman, because they don't talk like that in Houston Texas they don't talk like that in Houston they wanna move in.
Speaker 1:They don't talk like that in.
Speaker 2:Houston oh my goodness, they want to move in. Yeah, a veteran.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's why I'm scared. Everyone knows how much our life insurance is worth. Okay, thank you for your service. I appreciate you. Army vet here and Air Force vet Two tours in Iraq, 03-04.
Speaker 2:I'm just saying you know that ain't in Houston. Y'all know this.
Speaker 1:I said gotta be military. My man got to be military. Yeah, so I get it, I get it, I totally get it. Hey, tell them you busy right now.
Speaker 2:Tell them you busy right now this lady just text I'm off topic y'all. This lady just text me, do I got some corn?
Speaker 1:you should say Walmart, dude.
Speaker 2:But, this lady just texted me do I got some corn.
Speaker 1:You should say Walmart, dude.
Speaker 2:I'm trying to tell you I'm just saying you're way at Walmart, dude Baby. That's why I see that's another thing. We're going to go back to begging. That's why you can't get to know your neighbors either, because these folks are asking me for corn eggs.
Speaker 1:Ugh, right, that's what we did. I just spit out my smoke.
Speaker 2:I don't have people to ask me for a lot of things, but I ain't never had nobody ask me for some corn corn not the corn, though they want a can of corn or they want a cob, which?
Speaker 1:one which one you want. No, I ain't got it which one you know? Walmart's right down the street. I'm just saying you know, if you go you might catch a mifty close she better go to the Dollar Tree. Nah, nah. You are the dollar and the tree, see, that's why she came to you.
Speaker 2:This lady said I'm going, y'all, it's time for me to go to bed. This lady said I'm going, she better go to bed. This lady said come on, she better do that Crackhead. She live in up the street.
Speaker 1:Oh, my God, you know that's how we was back in the day. It was the neighbor got it. Yeah, that's back in the day, not today. That was back in the day, but it ain't today. Don't call and ask me for a plate and bring my Tupperware, maybe I'll give you $15.
Speaker 2:Don't you know that bill you left over here? I gave that bill to him.
Speaker 1:Oh, really, you gave my bill to him.
Speaker 2:What in the world was I going to do with it? Drink it.
Speaker 1:Wait till I got back. You're a basketball. You could have said I got a dollar or something. She could have said something she didn't say nothing, nothing at all.
Speaker 2:If her dude can walk up to that store every day and get a beer, he can walk down there and get her a can of corn.
Speaker 1:Unbelievable.
Speaker 2:Unbelievable. She might as to get a grocery bag and come over here and go shopping.
Speaker 1:If I give her some corn? Oh, absolutely, hey, hey, yeah, uh, do you have some spinach? Um, I I smells you cooked something over here. Can I have some of that? Uh, peach cobbler. You went to donald letty's yeah, can I have some of that? Peach cobbler you went to Donaletti's yeah, can I get some of that?
Speaker 2:You're going to be wanting some gas out of my car in a minute.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, absolutely. They'll probably suck that out. They'll cipher it out, your gas tank.
Speaker 2:I hope not. They ain't going to get much. My car stay on E.
Speaker 1:Where you been at, bro. Where you been at, bro. Where you been at, yes, oh my goodness, ridiculous back to the top.
Speaker 2:That just threw me off y'all. I ain't never had nobody ask me for no corn. I have to share that with y'all. You know that's a first for me, and I'm 44 years old. I ain't never had nobody ask me for no corn the corn.
Speaker 1:That's what she cooked that lady says some corn okay we all off topic, y'all yeah, we were off topic, where we even leave off yeah, we were off topic, where we even leave off, chris, don't do it yeah, chris, chris, chris, chris you a veteran, you a fellow veteran just like I am.
Speaker 2:Chris, whenever you get time, go watch fatal attraction. For my man you ain't gonna do it. It's plenty of military men get killed on that show yeah, chris.
Speaker 1:What I would say is just be careful. How long have y'all been talking, chris? Watch your back yeah, because when you start moving in, you know stuff like that. You want to make sure this is your person. So I tell you.
Speaker 2:I tell you you ain't talking, damien. You almost had to move her in too.
Speaker 1:Hey, listen, listen, we all make mistakes.
Speaker 2:Me too, one after one, almost three years, oh okay.
Speaker 1:Well, why you ain't there?
Speaker 2:by then, chris, what is the ring, chris? Are y'all engaged?
Speaker 1:he said. He said earlier he was thinking about um marion.
Speaker 2:He said it earlier, he did he said earlier he was thinking about marriage let me go back. I ain't see that. About marriage Let me go back. I ain't see that. My girlfriend is moving in with me on Florida when you saw married. Don't add her to my account until we are married, was his question.
Speaker 1:That's close enough, Chris.
Speaker 2:when are the wedding bells and when are we invited?
Speaker 1:Yeah, when we invite it. Yeah, that's what I'm saying. I'm waiting to propose in person on my knee and a nice resort or something. Do you have a timetable? I'm most definitely in the wrong city. Yeah, do you have a timetable? Yeah, because uh, uh, I'm just saying we trying to be there yeah hey, we trying to be there. I want to witness all this.
Speaker 2:I need a good old military man. I need to be at the wedding. Look at the groomsmen the groomsmen, mm.
Speaker 1:Mm. Okay, chris April. Oh okay, mm.
Speaker 2:Mm, mm, mm. Okay, chris.
Speaker 1:April. Oh, okay, okay, okay, all right, okay, yeah, congratulations, Chris. Yeah, go for it. Yeah, chris, I got to give you some applause, he said either Vegas or Atlanta City, chris. If it's either one, I'll be there. Atlanta City is close to me, vegas is close too, but guess what we can get there, so definitely let me know.
Speaker 2:I'm moving to San Antonio.
Speaker 1:You need to move, and that's what she says. So, chris, keep us updated on this. We definitely are excited for you, but, like I said, at least somebody's getting a raise. Dc Vegas I want to come too. I'm telling you we all coming, Chris. Whichever one you pick, let us know we're going to be there.
Speaker 2:I don't know about him, I'm going to be there for real.
Speaker 1:I know I'm going to be there, me too. Everybody wants to come. Hey, chris, we are genuinely happy. For real. I know I'm going to be there, me too. Everybody wants to come. Hey, chris, we are genuinely happy for you.
Speaker 2:Chris, I need some benefits.
Speaker 1:I need benefits. Oh, my God.
Speaker 2:Here for the benefits.
Speaker 1:Chris, let me apologize for her. Please. I treat y'all both to the buffet and the spa. Hey, I'm good. I'm good with it. Give me the spa, boo. Oh man they're going to leave me. At least I'm here. Yeah, I can jump in the car and get the vagueness with the quitness. That's it. What's that sign, chris? Definitely, definitely, definitely. No love, just benefits.
Speaker 2:Love and benefits, love, comfort benefits. I got benefits. So if you love me, you me, you gonna want some of my benefits, ain't you?
Speaker 1:that's it. Oh lord, my bad for saying girl earlier. I'm smoking. Oh lord, oh listen. Chris happy for you, bro, happy for you, but please, please, let me know when you're going to do this. We will come. I want to be there to bear witness. It's okay, but no. Well, hey, listen, hey, hey, listen, hey. We got one, our first person about to get married from the show. That's what I'm talking about congratulations.
Speaker 2:I guess Eddie and Angie didn't make it.
Speaker 1:Angie was in here earlier she came in earlier. I'm not sure if she's still listening.
Speaker 2:I know I said the wedding yes. Congrats, chris.
Speaker 1:Yeah, congratulations.
Speaker 2:I'm going to be next though.
Speaker 1:Absolutely, absolutely. Since you're in Texas, chris, go to Vegas, go to Vegas, go to Vegas, go to Vegas. Thanks, just trying to do things right. My brother got divorced twice and I saw his pain, so, trying to do things right, didn't think I'd be 44, but oh well, it's all good. It's all good, it's all good, chris, I'm going to be.
Speaker 2:all right, I'm going to be by 80. I'm going to be an old bride. I'm going to be about 80.
Speaker 1:You ain't going to be true. No more, you're going to be a stump.
Speaker 2:Don't listen to him. Do not listen to him, marry that lady?
Speaker 1:Hey, listen, y'all been talking for three years. You feel it. Chris, you got my support. I'm going to be an old brat. You got my support, Chris.
Speaker 2:I'm lying, I ain't going to be no old brat, but that's what it feel like.
Speaker 1:Oh my goodness, I'm going to be 80 and he gonna be 112, and you know what I'm gonna do.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna have some cook.
Speaker 1:You can't throw rice anymore, so I'm gonna cook the rice. There you go.
Speaker 2:Marry us in the coffin, just throw the dirt on us.
Speaker 1:when we say just throw the dirt, I'm going to have some speakers on there while you're going down Of you saying exactly that.
Speaker 2:Just throw the dirt on my wife's wrist.
Speaker 1:I'm going to at least make sure the limo picks you up and take you to the airport and the hotel. And we appreciate that, we appreciate that, we definitely appreciate it.
Speaker 2:So tree stump, oh my goodness how you got COVID, why you talking. Oh god, y'all funny, hilarious this I hope you got COVID.
Speaker 1:Why you talking? Oh God, y'all funny, hilarious, hilarious.
Speaker 2:But all y'all gonna be waiting for my 80-year-old wedding.
Speaker 1:Mm. Yeah, Like, hey, like the 600-pound life is my 80-year-old wedding. Hey, I get it.
Speaker 2:I ain't mad at you, I'll be there. Nah, I ain't claiming that I'm gonna be married in the next six months.
Speaker 1:Oh shit, next six months, mm-mm, mm, hey chat, hey chat, hey chat, I got you, hey chat, I got you, I got you chat. That sound like some bullshit.
Speaker 2:Now, if I get married in six months, then you all be looking stupid.
Speaker 1:Hey, don't be doing nothing to prove me wrong.
Speaker 2:Let's go.
Speaker 1:I'm all for it. If you do guess who's going to be there, this guy Be right there, I'll be taking all the pudding. Let me see COVID ain't nothing, no more.
Speaker 2:How you going to rain on my parade, how you know I'm getting a husband this year. I only got one month to give One month. I only got one month to give one month.
Speaker 1:Yeah, your clock is ticking down, your clock ticking down.
Speaker 2:I'm just playing y'all. I'm just out here having fun. I'm claiming a husband, though, but not in no month yep, absolutely a robot hilarious, not in no month.
Speaker 1:Yep, absolutely A robot Hilarious.
Speaker 2:It is.
Speaker 1:Listen, listen.
Speaker 2:When I pop up, when I pop up with that ring on my finger, don't you?
Speaker 1:outside I'm like she told herself Uh-oh, I told y'all she keeping receipts.
Speaker 2:I'm going, she told us so. Uh, oh, she keeping receipts. I'm gonna say at 9, 10, on November the 13th y'all thought I would play Eddie. You just put your your flower girl outfit on and get ready to throw them petals. That's what you do right, right, absolutely be the flower girl let's see desperate enough to do a mail order bride yes.
Speaker 1:I had a friend offer to go to Vietnam and bring me a wife damn oh wow, it's a ring.
Speaker 2:Years ago I had a friend offer to go to.
Speaker 1:Vietnam and bring me a wife. Damn oh wow.
Speaker 2:It's a ring.
Speaker 1:First, 2025. Oh got married this month. She divorced on the first. New year, new me See ya.
Speaker 2:You a hater. I'm claiming it. Thank you, Christina. Thank you, lovely. Tell them good. Tell them you a hater. Nah, I ain't never been desperate enough to order nobody offline. Thank you, Christina. Thank you, lovely. Tell them good. Tell them I hate them. Nah, I ain't never been desperate enough to order nobody offline. There's enough crazy people. What's?
Speaker 1:up, sir. Yeah, so Can you order rich people.
Speaker 2:Can you order somebody rich?
Speaker 1:Let me see, do you want? Some onion rings.
Speaker 2:Uh-uh, we going to, uh, we're going to zale.
Speaker 1:every kiss belongs from zales, whatever they say no, I think, as every kiss begins with k. I think that's where that case, jeweler, I'm just saying we go to the stairs out, lordle Lord.
Speaker 2:No, don't you done? Bought enough rings, you know.
Speaker 1:No, she wants a diamond ring, diamond ring.
Speaker 2:Tell her you saw love ring. Post it again, sis, post the ring for Eddie.
Speaker 1:Wait a minute, I got it right here. Bam, there it is there it go, yeah oh my goodness, y'all are too fun tonight, as always who else?
Speaker 2:who else is getting engaged and married other than?
Speaker 1:me and Chris.
Speaker 2:Me and Chris getting married. Who else I?
Speaker 1:hope you do find a husband. Hell, I'll help you find one.
Speaker 2:Hell. No, I'll need your help. I'm good In my Eddie voice. I'm good. Does the ring size matter? You know what? For me, as long as it comes from the heart and you meant it and it was love, I don't care what it is. What's the rule on how much you spend on an engagement ring versus a wedding ring? As long as you give me a ring, that's all that matters.
Speaker 1:Listen, as long as what you buy and it came from the heart, it shouldn't matter. It shouldn't matter at all.
Speaker 2:Amen brother, as long as the ring came with some love attached to it, that's it. It shouldn't matter.
Speaker 1:Just make sure my nails done, it's in your pocket and heart matters, that's it, just make sure my nails done.
Speaker 2:That's your only job. Before you propose, you better make sure my nails done. Just make sure my nails done. That's your only job. Before you propose, you better make sure my nails. You put a ring on some rusty fingers. We gonna have a problem.
Speaker 1:Like here Go, get a man in a penny and then, as soon as you get it, I'll be on the knee. Here you go.
Speaker 2:Here you go.
Speaker 1:Yeah, here you go.
Speaker 2:It's just your heart.
Speaker 1:Whatever your heart told you to buy me buy and that's what it is right there, that's what it is.
Speaker 2:All right, give me a one Don't get on your knees with some rusty.
Speaker 1:And all these buy now, pay later options out there you can buy a size ring. Yeah, they have a lot that you can pay later. But shoot, I don't like that pay later option.
Speaker 2:Let me just pay up front. I ain't got to worry about paying for it later. Did y'all see that viral post on Facebook where the man went to Walmart and bought the girl an engagement ring and she told him no, because he came from Walmart. Did y'all see that? Did y'all see?
Speaker 1:that, nah, I didn't see it. I didn't see it at all.
Speaker 2:Don't go into debt for a ring, the man proposed for Walmart.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:The man bought a ring from Walmart and proposed, and she told him no, because it came from Walmart. That's probably all that man could afford at the moment.
Speaker 1:I'm just saying which bank and insurance company should I trust. Once I'm married, I know exactly what I'm signing up for. Let me see. Let me see, bank you military, usaa, you're a veteran, always go with USAA. And as far as insurance company, what life insurance? Uh, aig, they're pretty good, so cheap for the streets. So it's a ring. At least a carrot, though, please. At least a carrot, okay, at least a carrot. Okay, I got you.
Speaker 2:At least a carrot, okay, at least a carrot okay, I got you at least I mean, I just feel like if a man is serious about you and he know what you like and he's going to, if a man is serious about you and he ready to marry you and he knows what you like, he's going to get you what you like. If is in the best, I don't think no man just going to put any ring on your finger, oh, okay, well, I want to marry you. So I'm going to go to the bubble gum machine, I'm going to get this ring.
Speaker 2:A man that love and care for you is going to be thoughtful and it's going to be for you, because we women we don't throw a thousand hits on rings. Come look at this. I like this, I like that, I like. So they gonna know. So, a man that loves you, he's going to see, okay, she keep hitting about this ring right here, so I'm gonna try to give her what she wants. That's a man that cares and and listening to she won't. That's a man that cares and and listening to what you like. But you know I don't know. But that's just if he cared for you, you know and you know you've been hitting around to a one carry ring.
Speaker 1:He get you a half a care. He wasn't listening?
Speaker 2:nope, Not at all. If y'all coins ain't coinage in and you just want to be married baby, you better take that Walmart ring and wait.
Speaker 1:Hey Vegas, here we come Vegas, here we come baby.
Speaker 2:But I do want a wedding, though I've never been married, so I want a wedding. Amen, yep, absolutely married, so I want a wedding.
Speaker 1:Amen, yep, absolutely. God with his pockets can afford.
Speaker 2:What if he goes to the pawn shop?
Speaker 1:Let me see King Flea Market rings shine bright like a diamond.
Speaker 2:What if he goes to the pawn shop and gets you a?
Speaker 1:ring Again. Why should it matter?
Speaker 2:What if he buys from a crackhead?
Speaker 1:Now, that might be a little bit different. That might be a little bit different. That's a little bit different Woo.
Speaker 2:Pawn shop ain't bad, a little bit different. That's a little bit different. The moral of this story is prenups. How many of y'all assigned a prenup? Put your hands in on the thing. How many would you? How many uh of y'all would do a prenup, would you? How many uh of y'all would do a prenup? Put a hand sign in the thing if you will put a thumbs up and put a thumb down if you don't thumbs up if you do a prenup, thumb down.
Speaker 1:If you want, I'm doing the thumbs down. I don't know where is it. See, I would for sure, absolutely I'll do a prenup, I do a prenup nope, then you need to say yeah, why pre-nope?
Speaker 2:oh are we talking about now? You ain't rich. Now we talking about today. Would you sign a prenup today if you was in a relationship? Nope, nope, I ain't signing. No pre-roll, you ain't gonna go hit the lottery tomorrow and then I be looking stupid. Nope oh yeah no, we got three kids, okay. Next question would you add your spouse to your banking account? No, we got three kids, okay. Next question Would you add your spouse to your bank account? Joint account Thumbs up or down. Do you believe in joint bank accounts?
Speaker 1:Yeah, absolutely, if it's my spouse. Yes, sir, let me see. I paid 18 years child support and gave 49 and a half percent of my paycheck for my daughter, but no prenup okay what you gave us the middle finger for.
Speaker 2:Yeah, join the cast.
Speaker 1:Okay, join the cast.
Speaker 2:So the next question is would you add your partner to your insurance, or would you let them take life insurance out on you?
Speaker 1:Spouse or partner.
Speaker 2:Partner. Would you allow your partner to take life insurance out on you Not married?
Speaker 1:Not my partner. Not, no, hell, no, no, not my partner. My spouse, yes.
Speaker 2:Partner If you were dating, dating not married would you allow your girlfriend or boyfriend to take a life insurance policy out on you? Not wife, not husband, boyfriend, girlfriend. Dating not wife, not husband, boyfriend girlfriend dating, yep, but nah Dating hell.
Speaker 1:Nah, appreciate it. Yeah, uh-huh, I did oh Interesting. I'm his beneficiary already, okay, okay, partner. No, I'm his beneficiary already, okay, okay, partner, no spouse. Yes, might try to kill me for that policy.
Speaker 2:Yeah, absolutely another question would you um co-sign for a boyfriend or girlfriend car house anything cosign? Would you post that? No, if your boyfriend said you were cosign on my car, would you not? Marriage, not husband, not wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, godwife, boyfriend, girlfriend? And if you do, how long do you have to date before you cosign? I think you're not worth more dead than alive.
Speaker 1:Oh, we know, Trust me, I'm in the same boat. I know I'm worth more dead than alive.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I ain't cosigning on shit, on no hell with that what I said no ring, no benefits that's it no ring. Couple years, let's see. Okay, would you all move out of state, relocate for a relationship? I would, I would too, I would, I would, I would, I would. If you're married and your husband or wife say let's move to Alaska, would you go Because your spouse asked you to, or would you be like hell? No, I ain't moving.
Speaker 1:Not Alaska.
Speaker 2:Not Alaska. Well, I just used it as a cut. That's how I moved to Houston. Everybody moved to Houston for their booze. Oh yeah, I'll move. I'll definitely move. I'm going to definitely move. Your city has to be equal or greater to where I live. Now I can't live in Houston and you try to get me to move to Nutbush Tennessee. No Nutbush.
Speaker 1:Tennessee, no Hell, no. Delaware to Texas, then Texas to Colorado, now back to Texas. Hey man, you've been on the move just like. I have. I've been on the move too.
Speaker 2:You can't get me to move. It has to be equal or greater value to where I live. It can't be no hick towns. It can't be no population of 2,000. None of that. You got to have more than five grocery stores. You got to have no, hilarious, hilarious. What.
Speaker 1:Oh my goodness, I'm going to start winding this down because I'm going to have to hit the bed. I got to get up early, you think I do too yeah. We got to get up early. We're going to start winding this thing down. Congratulations, chris. Congratulations. Please keep us in mind. Would you see me moving to Philly if you were my girl, philly?
Speaker 2:Yeah, philadelphia is big. I'm talking about little bitty places like Nutbush, tennessee, them places. Thank you, sam. Oh, I want to send a. I want to give a big old thank you to Sam, because she's been hitting me up every week asking me why y'all ain't out. Y'all going live tonight, y'all going live. So I want to give you a big old hug for that. She's been every week, she's been looking for me.
Speaker 2:So and I have a disclaimer I go to school and I work, so I be exhausted y'all. I'm getting my bachelor's in criminal justice and it's wearing me thin, so and I started my new semester two weeks ago and it is a it's a writing class and I'm not good with writing classes and stuff. So I want to say thank you, girly. I love you because you have been inboxing me and waiting for the show and we appreciate your love, everybody's love and support. But I just wanted to give her her flowers because she has been reaching out to me for the last two weeks wanting to watch the show and I really do appreciate you for that. So, virtual hug.
Speaker 1:I was just about to say that. I was just about to tell Tree that, but I told her earlier.
Speaker 2:I hate writing papers. I was on there today I literally before I logged on, I just had finished writing another paper. So yeah, keep me in your prayers. I still got a long way to go. I'm trying to stay motivated and encouraged and some days it's just hard. But God is good and thank you all for motivating me and understood that I had to not attend, like do the podcast for a few weeks.
Speaker 1:But and and you know, and it's like life, life happens, life is lifing, that's all it is. Life is lifing, that's all it is. Life is lifing, you know, just sometimes, you know, school gets in the way, work gets in the way, and it happens. But hey, we appreciate each and every last one of y'all. We're glad we can come on here and we can have the engagement. That's why we always tell you to share it out to your page whenever we're on a live stream, because we want to get as many people to come in as possible, because we want to help everyone. We want everybody's opinion. I never say mine is right, tree never says hers is right. We just voice our opinion. We love hearing from y'all also because, guess what, this is our show. I keep saying it, this is our show, never ours. Our show, this is our time to shine.
Speaker 2:Wednesday night and I'm most going to um reach out to you because this criminal justice course ain't no joke, not a joke, but we gonna get it done, we're gonna. We gonna get it done yep pray for me.
Speaker 2:You got this, yeah, but I just I just wanted to send um tell saying that, like I really do appreciate the encouragement and you wanted to send a little tell saying that I really do appreciate the encouragement and you wanting to be a part of this show, it means a lot. I just wanted to give her her flowers real fast, okay.
Speaker 1:It is. It definitely is. We appreciate each and every last one of you. Next live stream we try to aim for Wednesdays, I guess, 8 o'clock, central, 9, east Coast. That's we try to aim for Wednesdays, I guess, 8 o'clock, central, 9, east Coast. That's what we try to aim for. As far as the show, that'll be the next show, if Tree is not busy with school, if she is, I will put something out on the page Say, hey, she's busy with school, we'll just pick up next week or we just try to jump in. I always carry portable podcast equipment with me so I can set up any place.
Speaker 2:I will try my best to be here on Wednesdays. Like I say, I started a new semester, so the first week was rough. The second week was rough. I'm finally getting adapted to it. I'm not good with the writing essays and papers. It's stressful, but God is good, I'm not even going to complain.
Speaker 1:All the time.
Speaker 2:Whatever, it's food I enjoyed y'all. If you have any more topics, please feel free to email us inbox text. Whatever you need to do, and we will most definitely discuss your topic, Cause we'd be needing some topics.
Speaker 1:That's it we do, because we'll come talk about it. We're not scared to talk about it, yeah we're going to talk about it. As long as it's not political we will talk. Yeah, no politics and no religion.
Speaker 2:Good night Beverly.
Speaker 1:Yes, good night.
Speaker 2:I'm going to get logged off. I got to pack y'all. I got an early morning flight in the morning. I'm going home to see my father and family.
Speaker 1:Yep, I'm out of here tomorrow morning too. Cancun, here I come See y'all later. Good night everyone. We'll see you next week. Bye.
