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Money or Memories? What Really Matters When We Lose Someone
Free audio post-production BioPhoniccom. All right, good evening, good evening everyone. Where is everybody at? Hey, it's good to see everybody and I just came on because you know when I have something to talk about, I come and talk about it. It's your boy, damon, and I'm here with the dk entry podcast. Ah yeah, story time, as always, as always.
Speaker 1:So what I'm going to talk about is like family deaths, and, um, it just wanted to touch on that. You know, just losing a loved one. Now, in instance, you know, when you have a patriarch of the family, you know that's somebody just held the family together, held, you know, everybody together, no matter if there's any differences between you and your family members or whatever. This between you and your family members or whatever, this one person just held everything together for you. Then, when that person passes away, it's like the family just falls apart for whatever reason. Then they start bickering, they start fussing with each other, they start having problems, and mainly the whole thing is about money, and it's just. It seems like that just drives a wedge in the family because this one person went away. Oh no, now everybody feels, though, I'm entitled to everything, or oh no, this money is mine, or whatever. Let me explain something to you. For someone that's lost both their parents, that money means nothing to me. My parents, life, meant everything to me. So that bit of money or anything like that, no, I I'm not prefer to have. I prefer to have my loved one here. But, um, what I want to touch on is losing a spouse. And you know of something that I saw and just kind of disturbed me. Someone lost their spouse and you know the person that and I get it. They're upset and whatever.
Speaker 1:But here's the problem that I had was is that you know you say you was reaching out to the family for help. Now you reached out to the family for help, but yet in turn they're coming to you saying, hey, well, what do you need? What do you need? And then you're not reciprocating what you need. You keep saying that, hey, I have to do everything by myself. Oh, no one's trying to help me. And I'm like, okay, what do you need? Families reached out, hey, what do you need? This and that. But instead of you saying what you need and this is always the big one you go to social media. You go to social media. No one's helping me, no one's doing this, I'm doing all this by myself, I don't have this, I don't have that. But the family's in turn saying hey, we are here for you, what do you need? So, again, the communication is not being reciprocated back of what you need. Then you put on a little spectacle and trying to say, oh, I'm doing all this by myself, no one's trying to help me. And the family's like what are you talking about? We've been reaching out to you, but you won't communicate back with us. So you're making all the arrangements, you're not sitting up here, you're not communicating anything back and forth.
Speaker 1:But the bigger issue was this Um, so when someone again person lost their spouse, and how are you just going to cut people out of things? And when I mean cut people out of things, I mean cut people out of things. You didn't mention parents, you didn't mention brothers, sisters, you didn't mention anything. It seemed like everything was just about you. And that wasn't the case with this person that I'm talking about. This person was energetic, full of life, selfless, and when I tell you you get your shirt off his back, he would get your shirt off his back, but in turn, cutting the family out of things, and I mean cutting them out of things not communicating with the family, about things that you're doing, things you want to do and whatever. And then there was a couple other things that was in there, also about you know what he was doing, final resting place, resting place, stuff like that Nothing's being communicated. But it seems like I just wanted all the spotlight on me and that was it.
Speaker 1:And I, in my opinion this is my opinion, my opinion only I just thought that was very selfish and inconsiderate, because of the simple fact that, again, it just wasn't about you and your family. That person had family members too. That person had of a family that he took care of. That was, people were cut out of it, cut completely out of it, and I mean not even mentioned no pictures in the slideshows, none of the sort. And you know, it just saddened me because, simple fact that, like wow, can you really be that selfish? I mean, this person had a life way before he came with you and you telling me you cut, you cut that out, even including his family members. You cut them out, didn't even mention the parents. That's it that that really bothered me because of the simple fact that, again, you know, this man had his hand in a lot. This man has done a lot, and for you to cut out what he's done, to just make it about you, I just thought that was selfish and inconsiderate.
Speaker 1:And again, this is my opinion, me only, I'm only talking, I'm not talking for anyone else, I'm talking about me, from what I saw of the situation and, like I said, it was really really sad. And I see, ron, it was really really sad and I see, ron, it's really sad. My uncle was not mentioned in his wife's obituary, okay, so I'm gonna harp on one thing, ron. So, um, there was a poem written by his daughter, right, and it was on the obituary, right, but the picture above it was not of his daughter, it was of her daughter.
Speaker 1:Again, I just had a problem. And then they're trying to say, hey, this was a mistake with the funeral home. The funeral home did that mistake. Now, they only do what you tell them to do, they only do what you tell them to do. So you know, my thing with this is that that whole thing, it's just it really saddened me because I'm like, this is really really sad and, like I said, to cut family members out, to cut, you know, any of us stepchildren that he may have took care of it. I just thought it was wrong and, considering I just thought that they made it about their self and you know he's not here, he's not going to be able to say anything, and he just made it out of his self. They should have had me make the obituary.
Speaker 1:Hey, yeah, probably, but um, like I said, it's just, it just really sad me, it really really sad me for someone to me again to be that selfish. How can you just cut a whole family out of it? I'm talking about brothers, sisters, you know, nieces, nephews, or whatever. It was just like, hey, my family gonna be on here, but I ain't worried about nobody else. I mean, like I said, pictures of the slide show, not in pictures of the parents, not pictures of the brothers, the sisters, it's. It was just really really sad. And you know, like I said, it's really it's. It was just a sad situation. And, like I said, it just really really sad me to see there are people out here like that, there are people out here that are that selfish and inconsiderate of someone else that you're just going to completely cut somebody's family out of it or whatever. And when I tell you, I could see the animosity and the anger that was in that place, I just like, ooh, I just hope we just make it out of here.
Speaker 1:And you know, ceremony was nice, homegoing service was nice, um, homegrown service was nice and, like I said, and props to the fayetteville police department. Um, they actually gave him a last ride around the city because he used to work for them. So props to the fayetteville um police department for giving him a last ride around the city. Uh, much appreciated to them for that. Um. But, like I said, it was just to them for that. Um, but, like I said, it was just just.
Speaker 1:It just sad me to see that it's someone. It was sad, you know it. Like I said, it was a whole bunch of stuff and it was like, oh, he didn't have this, he didn't have that, and I'm like I know that's not true, I know it's not true a lot of things I'm just restraining back from saying. But, like I said, just from what I saw off the base of it, it really saddened me as someone Because, again, we never want to lose our loved one. We all know we have to go home one day, but for the simple fact that when we do go, the person that's supposed to be representing us. We will hope they represent us in a right and correct way, but not be in a way that they're not representing us at all.
Speaker 1:And, like I said, it was just, truly, truly sad to me and truly, truly, it truly made me upset, because the simple fact that when you see it and you be like, wow, they are really people out here in the world like this and they'll, they'll do that to you and I had to go see my father for you to act like this, yeah, and it's just, you know, it's just a sad situation and a lot of beer, a lot of bridges were burnt during this whole situation, a lot of bridges. So I just wanted to, um, come on here and, like I said, just talk about that for a second. And you know, it's just. You know. Thank you, auntie. You know it's, it's, it's just truly, truly sad that you have to go through that, go for something like that. That's, it's not cool. It's not cool, though. It is not cool for someone to act like that, especially when someone passed away.
Speaker 1:And you get these families, like I said, they bicker when someone passes away and the biggest thing they will be bickering. Oh, I know they had money, want my cousin's money. Or if they had a house, oh no, the house should have been mine. And everybody just bickers when someone passes away instead of just sticking together. If that family member was still here, they would say that they don't want you bickering, or anything like that. You know? Yeah, appreciate you, pj. Um, I'll call you pj, I'll fill you in.
Speaker 1:But, um, like I said, there's. You know, we shouldn't be bickering, especially when a loved one passes away. You know that's not the time to be bickering, that's not the time to be putting up there and sitting up there and blaming people pointing fingers and and yeah, yeah, I saw your post. I saw your post. I'm a um, yeah, like I said, we'll, we'll talk, but, um, it's not the time to be going through anything of the sort of bickering. That's the time everybody needs to stick together. But, like I said, someone passes away, the first thing they think about is dollar signs and that's really really sad. That's really really sad and, like I said, it's sad me to watch that whole thing unfold. Especially you cut a whole family out of something. That's just just truly, truly sad. And, like I said, I'm speaking for me, and me only. I'm only speaking from what I saw. I'm not speaking for anyone else but me. I'm not speaking for anyone else but me. So again, it's like I said, we shouldn't be bickering, arguing or fighting when a loved one passes away. We got to stick together, because if we don't stick together, then how are we all going to stand up for each other?
Speaker 1:People act weird. For weddings and funerals, yeah, they do. Yeah, they are selfish. And when I tell you selfish, I mean this. This was just all out selfish for me and it. It just makes no sense. It's truly, truly sad. I wish it could have. The outcome could have been better. It just wasn't, it just wasn't.
Speaker 1:And now, even after this, it's like you know, anytime your own children come to you and says why are you not talking? Why are you being so secretive? Why are you not trying to tell us what's going on? That's a problem. Your own children is coming to tell you that that's a problem. Your own children, it's coming to tell you that that's a problem. So, but that's. I just wanted to come on here and speak of that because, again, that that bothered me and it took me a couple days to actually just process that. And then, you know, come on here and just share my feelings about it because, again, that's not cool, that's not cool. That's not cool Again, if you lose your loved one, family's supposed to stick together.
Speaker 1:You know, anybody that's close to you is supposed to stick together, but we don't, we don't, and it's truly sad, but we really need to. So, anyone that may have tuned in, I appreciate your comments and I've seen you off Instagram, I see you here on the book and any other place. You may have been listening. But, um, again, if you lose a loved one, please stick with your family. Don't be selfish, don't? Money is not everything compared to a human life, and that's the sad thing. It's like if feels, though, they're going to get cut out of something or whatever. So I start tripping, or they start tripping, or oh, no, I that that policy was in my name and uh, uh, it's, it's, it's terrible and it's sad and we need to change it.
Speaker 1:But again, I just came on here to share my two cent about that. But, again, I just came on here to share my two cents about that. But, like I said, rest in peace to my boy. You know, awesome guy and everything. If anybody's seen what I posted on my Facebook page. That's my man. That's my man and he served his country well. I thank him for his service, served Fayetteville well. Thank him for that. And man was very well in the community also and his fraternity showed up for him big time and shout out to Phi Beta Sigma Because they came out full force to represent him and, like I said, it was just really really good, showing how much support that he had. And you know if you hear my voice, brother, brother, rest in peace. We got it from here.
Speaker 1:Thank you all for tuning in. I'm gonna sign out, um, you know, you know what season's coming up, so we'll talk about that, but I just wanted to, um, jump on here about that. I appreciate each and every one of you that always tunes into me, listens to me, comments. I appreciate you all. You know we're going to jump back on here. We're going to jump back on the lighter note because football season starting back up and any other fun things that you know really like to come on here and talk about. So again, I'm turning off. I appreciate you and every one of you that have may have. Uh, came on, listen, ryan, appreciate you from instagram and uh, hey, we signed out, hey, football season coming, yeah, go Ravens.
