Nervous System Regulation & Relationships: How Healing Your Inner State Transforms Connection and Manifestation

What if the key to healthier relationships, deeper intimacy, and aligned manifestation begins with understanding your nervous system?

In this powerful episode of Spiritual Spotlight, relationship coach and psychotherapist Tannaz shares how nervous system regulation shapes everything—from how we connect with others to how we experience conflict, growth, and self-worth.

Drawing from her background in psychotherapy, conflict resolution, and law, Tannaz introduces the concept of “lifequakes”—those disruptive moments that shake our world and ultimately become portals for healing and transformation. As she explains, “the wound is where the light enters you.”

You’ll learn:

• How nervous system regulation impacts relationships and manifestation
• The six types of intimacy most people overlook—and why one person can’t meet them all
• Simple 60-second nervous system regulation techniques for daily life
• Why reclaiming your authentic self requires releasing others’ projections
• How to build communities and relationships where you feel safe, seen, and understood

This conversation bridges science and spirituality, offering practical tools and soulful insight for anyone seeking deeper alignment, emotional regulation, and meaningful connection in a fast-paced, hyper-connected world.

✨ Learn more and access Tannaz’s free nervous system tools at minutesongrowth.com

Chapters

• 1:38 Meeting Tanaz: Relationship Coach & Psychotherapist
• 2:17 Lifequakes: When Pain Becomes Transformation
• 5:04 From Conflict Resolution to Relationship Coaching
• 6:34 Healthy Connections: Removing the Sticky Notes
• 8:57 Six Types of Intimacy Explained
• 13:56 Mindfulness and Nervous System Regulation
• 20:13 Creating Healthy Platonic Relationships
• 28:59 Finding Your Tribe: Final Advice
• 37:06 Episode Closing

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:50

Hello everyone, welcome to our Spiritual Spotlight Series. Today I'm joined by Tanaz. She is a certified relationship coach and registered psychotherapist, specializing in relationships both with oneself and with others. With an academic background in conflict resolution, law and counseling psychotherapy, she blends neuroscience, psychology, spirituality and mindfulness to help individuals regulate their nervous system and build healthy, secure connections. Thank you so much for coming on Spiritual Spotlight Series. I'm really happy you're here.

Speaker 2: 1:17

Thank you, Rachel, for having me on. I'm excited to be here.

Speaker 1: 1:20

We're excited. What initially sparked your personal journey into spiritual growth and inner healing?

Speaker 2: 1:29

Okay, so I grew up in a very spiritual household. My mom was extremely spiritual, but I didn't really get into it until I had my first major lifequake. And I like to refer to it as a lifequake. It's because it turned my whole life upside down. I was around 20. And I mean, I knew a little bit about the spiritual world and the manifestation world, and my mom had given me the secret when I was 16.

Speaker 2: 1:58

So I had a little bit of insight, but not that much, and I'm glad I didn't, because I think it's a topic that you need to have a little bit of emotional maturity for and capacity for. And so I was around 20 and my mom gave me a Dr Wayne Dyer book and that kind of really started the journey for me. I loved to read. I eat books for hobby, so I really got into it and just did more and more research. And then I had another lifequake at 29. And I think it was the perfect opportunity to practice all that I had learned and all that I was teaching also and to really navigate that lifequake with grace and with more ease and trust.

Speaker 1: 2:48

So tell us a little bit more about lifequakes and how that blends into your you know, being a psychotherapist and your spiritual journey and working with your clients, Because I really like that term lifequake. Tell us a little bit more about that.

Speaker 2: 3:04

So lifequake the best way to describe it is a beautiful poem by Rumi, which he says the wound is where the light enters you. And so a lifequake is really when life shatters you into a million pieces and everything that you thought was you know a certain way turns upside down. You know it could be being uprooted from your home, from your country. It could be a devastating heartbreak, it could be a health crisis, anything that really shifts your perspective and experience of life and shatters you, and through that shattering really becomes an opportunity for healing light to enter you and to birth a more aware version of self.

Speaker 1: 4:02

I like that healing light. So what inspired you to transition from conflict resolution law to relationship coaching and psychotherapy? That's a big jump. Maybe not.

Speaker 2: 4:16

So I was conditioned to be an attorney. I grew up in a Persian household where you can be a doctor, an attorney or an engineer, and so I was great at public speaking. My parents just assumed I was meant to be an attorney, and for the longest time it really did resonate with me, until it didn't until I realized I don't like to be on this side of conflict. How do we even get here? We're traditionally tribal people. We thrive in communities, we thrive with others. How are we losing that innate part of us that is meant to be with others?

Speaker 2: 4:54

And so at that time it was around 2017, someone brought up I had a book club, and someone brought up the idea of coaching, and I had no idea what they meant by it. But I know enough at that point. I knew enough that the universe speaks to us through other people, and I never take people's suggestions lightly. So I looked into it. I then niched down on relationships, and I've been doing it for eight years, and around three years ago, I decided I need to go back to school, get my third postgraduate degree, but this time in counseling, psychotherapy so I can have more tools at my disposal to help people release the unprocessed emotions from their past so that they can move forward.

Speaker 1: 5:36

Oh, I like that. So how do you define a healthy, secure connection in both self-relationships and interpersonal dynamics?

Speaker 2: 5:46

So when an interpersonal dynamics, I think it's 50% inner work and then 50% relational skills, relational skills that we just weren't taught growing up. Most of us weren't taught growing up and most of us didn't have modeled to us growing up. We weren't taught in school how to fight fair, how to enhance intimacy in different categories, how to communicate, how to not shut down, how to speak our needs in a non-critical, non-defensive way. These are all tools, these are all skills. It's like a muscle that hasn't been strengthened. So that's what I realized with friendships, with coworkers, with family members, romantic relationships.

Speaker 2: 6:25

But with self, I realized that I love to use the analogy of you're brought into this world. There's this beautiful golden painting that it's emanating light, and then, throughout the years, people put different, like sticky notes on it, those yellow tags based on their perceptions of you, their limitations, their own limitations that they're now projecting onto you how they see you. And after a while, that beautiful painting is fully covered with these sticky notes. And then that's when we wake up and we're like who am I? That inner light, that excitement, that joy, that childlike energy that you know we saw being brought up in the Bible by Jesus, and like this, this energy, of curiosity, playfulness. It suddenly goes away and we become so serious, we become so rigid and closed off and our walls go up and we fear vulnerability. And now you know, vulnerability is a weakness. All of this comes up when that painting is fully covered, and so having a healthy, safe, secure relationship with self is slowly removing these little sticky notes and going back home to self.

Speaker 1: 7:48

Oh, I love, I love how you put that Cause. When you're right, when the canvas is full, how can you bring it anymore? That's so interesting. So one of the things that you talk about is the importance of intimacy. Can you make us walk? Can you maybe just walk us through the six types and how they contribute to deeper, healthier relationships.

Speaker 2: 8:09

Yes, of course I love them, because when we think of intimacy, we usually think of like sex.

Speaker 1: 8:16

Right, yes, right. I was like I'm curious to know this myself.

Speaker 2: 8:22

And so I want to expand that definition to include other types. So let's break down the six. The first is sexual, which is sexual intimacy, sexual physical touch, and the second so I need to make a little hashtag for the open up the parentheses for this In monogamous relationships, you're only getting it from your partner. In non-monogamous relationships, there might be multiple people filling that tank. Then we have physical, which is non-sexual touch, people filling that tank. Then we have physical, which is non-sexual touch, so holding hands, cuddling, hugging, kissing and you can get that from your coworkers. You can hug your coworkers. You can get that from your family, if they're safe. You can get that from your friends, your partner. Then we have emotional intimacy people who you feel safe expressing your emotions with, without fear of judgment and rejection and shame. Then we have intellectual intimacy people who intellectually stimulate us. So right now we are filling that tank for one another, having these intellectual stimulating conversations. Then we have spiritual intimacy, so it's not only spirituality and religion, but also our beliefs, our values. And, lastly, experiential intimacy, so people we experience life with. We might our hobbies, travel, check out new restaurants, go to the movies, and so I want you to visualize yourself as a car with these six fuel tanks in you and ask yourself who is filling which tank in my life, because it's a lot to expect your partner to be the only one who's filling these tanks all the time.

Speaker 2: 10:01

And this is a shift we're seeing. It's a new phenomenon in relationships and Dr Esther Perel talks a lot about this how, in the past, our partner was the provider, so, as women, the men would provide. They were the financial providers and that was it. That was their, that's what we expected from them. But now that expectation has expanded. We, we now want someone who provides, we and who's also emotionally there for us, who's our best friend, who's our confidant, who's our lover.

Speaker 2: 10:27

So so many different expectations, additional expectations, and that can feel overwhelming. Because what if someone expected us to be that for them 24-7? Because sometimes life happens right we get sick, there's a death in our family, work gets really overwhelming and we just don't have the capacity for it. And this is when we lean into community. So, going through our list, asking ourselves for emotional, for example, for me, yes, my partner, but also my mom, my brother, my two best friends in the state, so it's like okay, if one person can't fill it, I can get that need met somewhere else. It takes the pressure off of all the relationships that we have in our life and we're becoming an advocate for our needs, which is really important too.

Speaker 1: 11:11

I really like how you put that. Like imagine that there's these six fuel tanks and who's filling what, and also taking off the expectation that one person is going to fulfill every single need of that. Like when you're saying that, I was like, wow, that's not fair to put that kind of pressure on someone and it's also not fair for myself to think that someone else is going to fill all those tanks when some of this I need to have fulfilled within myself and my connection to source and whatnot. And I really like how you put that. That's because I'm just thinking, as you're saying, I was like, oh yeah, that person does that and that person does that and it's and it makes me feel like a more well balanced emotional individual in society that it's like it's okay to have other people fulfill other needs.

Speaker 2: 11:59

Yeah, yeah, a hundred percent, you know. And also, first of all, it's great because we get to take inventory of our life and be like okay, what's the purpose for this person in our life, or are they just taking up space for no reason?

Speaker 1: 12:13

Which then can get overwhelming.

Speaker 2: 12:16

But also reflecting on self. Which tanks do I fill for the people in our lives, which then brings us into the energy of reciprocity, which is the energy we were always engaging in with the universe right? This, this lovely co-creation energy. It's the same in our dynamics. If we don't give to people the same way they give to us, it's an unbalanced dynamic. It will create resentment. If there's no gratitude and no reciprocity, those dynamics fall apart. So it helps us be more accountable for self as well.

Speaker 1: 12:53

Absolutely, because, as you're saying this, I'm thinking about like there's a term that I'm becoming more and more familiar with, with polite fiction and people that, yeah, you're the best thing ever and we're going to do this, and it's like, but it's not reciprocated and it's just it leaves this emotional void and it's like, no, maybe just they're not meant to fill that tank and maybe they're just not meant to be part of my life. Yeah, yeah, yes. Well, that mindfulness. I think that's also something that's important in your work. What role does mindfulness play in your therapeutic and coaching practice?

Speaker 2: 13:28

Yes, I'll take it a step further and I'll say nervous system regulation.

Speaker 1: 13:33

Yes, love that.

Speaker 2: 13:35

Is the foundation of everything, in my opinion. It's the foundation of our relationship with source. It's our foundation relationship with art of conscious manifestation, which I talk a lot about in my upcoming book, which is literally all about this. It's out for publishing, so that's into the universe. But and also in our relationships, and I'll tell you why. So let's look at it from a relational standpoint. And this is for you know, the people who are listening are very logical, science driven and they're like you know, tell me the science behind it.

Speaker 2: 14:09

So when we are stressed, when we are triggered, when we are in conflict, the prefrontal cortex, so the rational part of our mind, it goes offline, it goes offline and the amygdala, which is the fear center, takes over. What does this mean? It means it's harder to think clearly, to listen attentively, to communicate effectively, and so we kind of get. It's like we're talking but no one's really understanding the other person, no one's processing it, and guess what, we're going to have the same conflict again next week. So, from a relational standpoint, if we don't realize that nervous system regulation is the foundation, we're not going to be able to have proactive conversations. There's no effective communication present. So that's how it impacts the relationship Impacts the self.

Speaker 2: 14:56

When I am dysregulated, I am acting from a place of fear. I'm not really tapped into this grounded energy, this energy of safety. I'm in survival mode. I'm in fight or flight. Again, I'm not making rational, good, grounded decisions for self. So I put myself in fear, in the cycle of fear, in the cycle of danger, which then you know, we can bring someone to talk all about the biology of it and how that manifests in disease, which is dis-ease, right. So again, that manifests mind-body connection. And then also with source and with manifestation, we tend to manifest that which our internal nervous system has capacity to receive. If I'm not manifesting something in my physical realm, there is a part of my nervous system that feels dysregulated with the idea of having that, because it's unfamiliar for us. So it's like, yes, I want a million dollars, let's say hypothetically, but do you feel safe receiving a million dollars? If that element of safety is not there, that internal dysregulation will stand in the way of that physical manifestation.

Speaker 1: 16:22

So let me ask you this when you're talking about manifestation and I love this topic and I love that you have a book coming out about all of this, which is amazing, congratulations. You know, I do firmly believe that if you're not grounded into your body and into this physical reality, it's going to be very difficult for you to bring things to this energetic realm and bring the things that you have. So how do you help people in your your sessions and maybe in your group coaching and all the things that you do in your podcast sessions and maybe in your group coaching and all the things that you do in your podcast? How do you help them to get back into the body and to really feel into themselves and balance this nervous system? We have a lot going on. You know what I mean Like, how do you help your clients with that?

Speaker 2: 17:07

I mean, we start small, we start very small. We start with the breath. It's the cheapest, freest, like, most accessible tool at our disposal and a lot of the times, most people aren't breathing. It's shallow breaths, it's fast breaths, and so just sitting with the breath for 60 seconds, allowing yourself to inhale deeply and to exhale slowly. So the slower the exhale, the more we're going to tap into the parasympathetic. The faster the exhale, the faster we go into the sympathetic, which is the fight or flight, which isn't necessarily bad, by the way. If you want to go to the gym, you really don't want to be in the very Zen mode, you want to be hyped up. So I want to take away that notion of one is bad and the other one is good. Everything has its own time and place, but when we want to. So I really believe that when we have a desire, it's meant to be manifested through us, hence why the desire exists. I don't wake up every morning and think, oh, I want to go to the space, but maybe Elon Musk does, and that's his desire. He's manifest, being manifested through him. So, first of all, honoring the sacredness of that desire and then bringing yourself to the present moment. How can we do that? Through the breath? We can do it through our five senses. I, you know, I tell people this. There's so much content out there on like an hour morning routine and meditating for 60 minutes, and then it's. You know, the mind is created for survival, it's created for comfort. If you're not used to that, it's going to say no and find a million and one excuses not to do it.

Speaker 2: 18:47

So start small. It's like we're camouflaging ourselves into the nervous system. We'll start with maybe having a warm cup of tea and I'll ask the client tell me how that feels. What do you smell? Sense of touch, taste? Or can you push your toes into the ground? Something as simple as that.

Speaker 2: 19:11

Can you now visualize thick tree roots coming out of the sole of your feet and going deep into earth? Visualize yourself going deeper and deeper, so deep that you're now glued to the ground and you can't move, even if you wanted to move. Or something as simple as activating the vagus nerve. And we can do that by taking ice cubes, rubbing it on our wrist or rubbing it on the back of our neck, having a warm, sorry, cold ice glass of water. Or using our tongue so humming, doing like R's with our tongue singing, venting, screaming in a pillow, so many different ways. But the whole point is, when we engage our senses, we bring our attention to the here and now and we start to cultivate safety in the here and now instead of ruminating about the past or worrying about the future.

Speaker 1: 20:05

Oh, I love that so much and it's interesting that people, when they're tapped into their spiritual side and their intuitive nature, when they're listening to themselves, the soul will guide you to what you know. What kind of healing do I need to do? Do I need to sing? Do I need to go outside? Do I need to journal? Do I need to just pause? Like you know, this morning, I know I was a little hyped up so I was like screamy singing in my car because I'm like I have to let this energy go, you know, and like activate it. So I I really I love that. You're like just take it small, bite size. It's like it is hard to commit. We have a hard time with committing and finishing out something. Sometimes it's like I'm going to do this 17 million step inner process and then you're like I did it for a week, I'm good. Why do we have a hard time with consistency? I want to ask you that.

Speaker 2: 21:03

Because it's so much outside of our familiar comfort zone. Right. So the brain it takes time, repetition, to build new neural pathways. It's great that we can build it, which goes against everything we knew. Not. We knew everything our parents knew, like in the 1960s. Prior to that they would say the mind is fixed, and so we would.

Speaker 2: 21:17

I grew up in a household. My parents be like oh my God, this person's 50, they're never going to change, and that was their belief system. Right, that the mind is fixed. Now we know the mind isn't fixed. We can change it, but we need to give it time, there needs to be repetition, there needs to be small changes. So it's like, let's say, a hair tie we want to slowly increase its elasticity. The more we pull it, that we pull it, it changes its shape and its form. So that's why and that's why we got to start small and I love that you brought it up of, like the soul knows, we just need to ask it Like, what do you need right now? Ask that question Like, hey, like, sometimes I'm like down I'll ask myself Taz, what do you need right now? And then my husband be like you know, if there was a camera in this house. It'd be like this girl is just talking to herself all the time.

Speaker 1: 22:10

But that's how it's supposed to be Like.

Speaker 2: 22:11

what do you need right now? Do you need an ice cream? Do you need us to sit down? Do you need to breathe? Giving yourself space to ask that question? So the soul, can you know?

Speaker 1: 22:24

guide you towards the needs of the body? No, absolutely. I think that it's so important just to even if you can do a 20-second practice, checking in with your body and just asking your soul, like what do I need? Something as simple as that and feeling into it, and then the messages will come and that also will hone into strengthening your intuitive system. You know so. Then you are getting those intuitive hits. So tell us a little bit more about like essential skills for building healthier and more secure platonic relationships. I think that's such an important thing that you coach on and tell us a little bit more about that.

Speaker 2: 23:03

Yes. Well, I think it's so important to learn these skills because, again, we're traditionally tribal people. We thrive in supportive communities. Right now we have this illusion of connectivity because of the internet, but more and more we are experiencing the like. We are seeing the side effects of the loneliness epidemic that we are in, and we are in one.

Speaker 1: 23:25

We are in one 100% agree with you. 100% agree with you.

Speaker 2: 23:29

Yes, and so we need to. We need to go back to the way things were. That's why we have sayings like it takes a village to raise a child, because it really does. You need to have that support system. You know we're meant to like.

Speaker 2: 23:42

If you look at stories of how things were in the past, there was a concern and someone bringing that concern to the community, and everyone would sit around in a circle and allow that person to express themselves and they would come in and they would each support that person in one way or another, in the best way they could with their skills. And so how do we go back to that? And I think there's so many elements to that. One is letting go of this illusion of connectivity because of social media and say, okay, how can I actually make an effort to show up physically in someone else's presence so our body can learn to co-regulate with others? I think if we're not around a lot of people and we saw this during COVID we lose those skills of co-regulation and then so when something goes wrong, when we're with someone, there's so much internal turmoil and we don't know how to offer that support and receive that support from someone else. So, being in physical, close proximity to safe people is so important. The second is learning to accept that multiple realities can coexist, or learning to accept that multiple realities can coexist.

Speaker 2: 24:55

My experience can coexist along Rachel's experience, even if they're fundamentally different experiences. It doesn't. You know me. Validating your experience doesn't take away from mine, it doesn't negate mine. But we've learned that it's only my way. And so we're in this like sensitive era of no one can express their truth. I mean, there's a way to say things. We can be soft, we can be kind, we don't need to be nasty, we don't need to be critical. But can I create space where, let's say, my political views and your political views can coexist and it doesn't make you a bad person, it doesn't make me a bad person and we can still love each other and honor one another's sacredness? I think that is so important. I'm seeing again social media is playing a big role into that disconnect and that dividedness and separating us when we're meant to be more united.

Speaker 1: 25:52

I really, really, really, really resonate with what you just said and in my personal life I run a doctor's office and it is so true that we can have different realities but still validate the experience, but be kind with one another, because I'm not sure if you're witnessing this and where you are, but there's a lot of very angry people and it's it's hard to navigate as a person and be like wow, it's hard not to take it personally and it's hard to be empathetic and compassionate and be kind when there's a lot of people that come out and just want to hammer you down and it's. I'm hoping you know with you know with the skills that you're teaching others and you know with these kinds of things, that we can kind of swing the pendulum back to the being kind, because right now it doesn't feel like a lot of people are yeah, no, that is so true.

Speaker 2: 26:56

Um, I mean, I'm I'm seeing this divisiveness and like in canada as well, and how people are, um, it's me versus you. There's so much me versus you energy, and that can really again take us away from that energy of unity that is meant to be. It's like. It's like I like to think of humanity as this mirror that got shattered into 7 billion pieces. There is a part of each of us in one another, if we can lean into it, if it feels safe enough to lean into it, and I think so, cultivating that safety is so, so important and also, you know, realizing that if I want my friend to be a certain way, am I willing to be the same for them. Right, if I tell my clients when they're like, oh, I want to have like a partner, I'm like okay, tell me what you want in that partner, I'll say I want him to have be X, y and Z. And then the next question is are you X, y and Z? And they're like well, a little bit here and a little bit there, but are we willing to show up the same way that we want others to show up for us, and are we willing to be mindful of the words that we use in that dynamic.

Speaker 2: 28:14

So, as you were sharing that, like you know, at the office, and the importance of being kind, I thought of a very beautiful spiritual story. It's based out of the Talmud and it is like this person is here's a piece of gossip, right, and he goes and he tells his teacher, his spiritual teacher oh my God, like you won't believe what I heard. And the teacher goes like no, no, don't tell me stop. And he's like no, no, no, listen, I didn't do anything bad. I didn't start this rumor, I just heard it and I want to share it with you. And the spiritual teacher says let me bring the pillow. And he's like but it's going to create such a mess, I'm like. He's like, it's okay, do it. So he pierces the pillow and the feathers go all over Some go north, some go east, some go south and he says look at the feathers of this pillow.

Speaker 2: 29:07

When words come out of our mouth, we don't know where it's going to go and how it's going to land. So we need to be really conscious of what is coming out of our mouth. Is it kind, is it true, is it necessary? And because, again, it's not in our control that I can say something. And you know that game where you, we say things to each other and then the final last person is like right, something completely different? Chinese whispers, it's the same thing. So really being mindful of is what I'm saying kind. Is it true? Is it necessary? If not, can I restrict myself and pause?

Speaker 1: 29:46

Oh, these are wonderful reminders. I love this so much. I want to talk a little bit about your podcast. So your podcast minutes on growth emphasizes actionable strategies Can you maybe share of? I'm sure all of your episodes are standout stories, but maybe a standout episode or a story that particularly moved you or transformed you Oof?

Speaker 2: 30:23

You know, I have so many different types of episodes on spirituality, on conscious entrepreneurship, on relationships, and so many wonderful guests who because sometimes our attention span is really short and small and because our window of tolerance, because we have so much going on and that those people were, you know, in the streets trying to trigger us. So there's a lot of short episodes on there, but also some really like, I would say. For example, I just had Elizabeth Earnshaw, who is a wonderful marriage and family counselor, and she just had this book out, till Stress Do Us Part, and it's all about, like, how stress impacts couples, the external stress and the mental load in relationships. So you know, I loved that one. I had Sahara Rose, who's, you know, a very well-known spiritual teacher, new York Times bestselling author, and so we talked about finding your dharma, your purpose and how, when you fast forward, you look back and everything adds up and in retrospect it makes sense. But how can we have that certainty when we're going through life, to know that this is part of the process? And this is a capitalistic belief that I've been studying over the past decade or so it's that everything is happening for us, for our highest good, and everything is coming from the creator, to have certainty. So when, even the when the wildest things happen to us, there's this internal programming that I've embedded into my subconscious mind to pause and say what a pleasure.

Speaker 2: 32:01

And to give you an example, on Saturday I my lower back. It just I have a lower disc inflammation that comes every couple of years and I came and I haven't been able to walk or to really move beyond the position that I'm in right now. And there was a moment where I was like I cried because past trauma came up. The last time this happened to me I was bedridden for six months, so it was past trauma. And then I immediately stopped myself. I said, listen, pause, what a pleasure. This happened. Maybe I'm meant to be working less, moving less. And there's another Kabbalistic belief of every illness is giving birth to new energy coming to the surface. So I was like something is birthing through me, something major. If it's breaking my back, it's major. So sit with the pain, let the pain again. The wound is where the light enters you. So, yeah, a lot of these. I don't know, I just totally went off track.

Speaker 1: 33:04

No, no, no. I really love how you just put that, because you honored your body, you're honored yourself and you took it as an opportunity for digging in a little bit more. Rather than going into victim mindset, you went into unempowered mindset, and there's a lot of tools that you utilize to kind of pull you out of that moment. And that's beautiful, like that's really cool. I'm like, yes, writing this down Like, no, it's because there are moments I do feel like spirit will slow us down and they'll say, okay, you're not getting this, so let's, let's take a beat here. You know, oh, I love that so much. Before I ask you the last question, if anyone is interested in learning more about you or your podcast, what is the best place for them to go to?

Speaker 2: 33:49

So my website minutes on growthcom on social media I'm also minutesongrowth. I love creating content on practical tools. I love to simplify. I'm a teacher archetype. I love to simplify complex concepts. So I try my best, whether it's with spiritual concept or psychology concepts, to really make it digestible and easy to remember. And the podcast is also Minutes on Growth. I have an upcoming women's retreat in Tuscany in August, if anyone wants to be in that space and really have an opportunity to embody all the lessons in real time. And yeah, that's pretty much it. Oh, and I also have a free ebook with 11 tools for nervous system regulation. I'll give you the link.

Speaker 1: 34:38

I'll make sure to put it in the show notes.

Speaker 2: 34:39

Yeah, because it's such a great resource, to go through it and be like okay, because it's not a one size fits all. Your nervous system toolbox is going to look different than mine and we got to honor that uniqueness. So it's trial and error go through the list, see what you resonate with, see what helps you and then stick with that.

Speaker 1: 34:58

I love that. And for someone that's listening right now, who might just be beginning their healing or spiritual journey, what's one practical piece of advice or simple step they can take today to begin to align their mind, body and spirit?

Speaker 2: 35:13

Take inventory of the people who are in your life and ask yourself do I feel safe in their presence? And if the answer is no, find that tribe. Build that tribe if you have to. I know, during COVID, for example, I was deeply craving community to discuss Persian poetry with and none of my friends were into it, so I just went on meetupcom. I created a group and for the next two years that was COVID. We met every week and it grew bigger and bigger and bigger and it was such a beautiful community. So there's the bad parts of social media, but there's also the good parts of social media and the internet. So find your tribe. Allow yourself to feel seen, heard and understood. It makes the world of a difference in your self-esteem, in your sense of self-worth and the way you show up in every area of your life. Everyone wants to feel seen, heard and valued and understood and we can't do that in unsafe environments. Everything starts with safety.

Speaker 1: 36:19

Oh, I love how you just put that. Out of the 250 plus interviews that I have done, that's the first time that has come up for a piece of advice, so that is amazing. I want to thank you. I have chills. I'm not even kidding you, I have chills. I want to thank you, tanaz chills, I'm not even kidding you, I have chills. I want to thank you so much for coming on the Spiritual Spotlight Series. This truly has been amazing to connect with you today. Thank you so much.

Speaker 2: 36:42

Thank you, Rachel.