How come your life keeps happening the way it does?
How come your world doesn't look the way you want your world to look? How come you feel like you're not in control of your own life, of your own world?
Well, there are a lot of reasons, none of which put you in the position of being a victim.
So, what are the different reasons that things don't look the way you say you want them to?
Well, if you're a man, you have 65,000 thoughts, 65,000 thoughts every single day. Ah, but the key is, 95% of those thoughts are happening in your subconscious mind.
Your subconscious mind, not your conscious mind, that makes your world be the way it is.
So those 65,000 thoughts, 95% of them, that's 61,750.
That leaves a man with only 3,250 new thoughts a day.
And if you're a woman, you have 80,000 thoughts a day.
And when you lose that 95%, which comes out to be 76,000 thoughts going over and over and over, playing in your subconscious mind, that leaves you with just 4,000 thoughts.
a day that are new, that can come into your awareness that you can choose to act on.
Now, what I hear people saying is they put out to the Universe what they want. And they have this whole belief in the lessons that they thought the law of attraction was teaching. But it's what you're saying, what you're feeling, what you're acting on that makes the difference of how your world is going to look.
People say that they want to live a certain life. They want ABC in that order to happen in their life. But it doesn't happen unless you number one, say it in your heart. You got to mean it.
You got to put emotions to it. The Universe isn't going to understand or take a communication that's just, oh, "This is what I want."
And people put out a whole list. Like, really? Yeah, really.
A lot of people just do that.
So the first thing you got to know is you got to be clear.
Most people have these vague wants, these vague wishes, these vague desires.
Be very, very specific so that you have the clarity of the direction you want to go. And when you have the clarity, be sure it's coming from your heart. not up here in your mind.
Your mind isn't even you. It's your ego mind struggling to stay alive, to keep control of you. It's your Commentator that's keeping you from actually being present with me. It's jabbering about everything I'm saying.
You know, you haven't been listening to me. You listen to that little Commentator yackety-yackety in your head.
You want to come from your heart so you bypass that Commentator who isn't you at all. And when you're coming from your heart, well, it's something you really and truly desire to make real in your life.
But desiring isn't enough. You got to take action.
Well, how do you know what kind of action to take? Well, first of all, there's a whole list of behaviors that the type of person you say you want to become does - a whole list of action steps that kind of person takes.
If you're not willing to take the steps, to do the work to get yourself there, well, of course, you're not going to get anywhere close to arriving at that goal.
So, I've been recommending for about 30 years - I remember, it was probably 30 years ago, people were saying if you want to attract a romantic partner, write a list of everything about your partner.
What does this person look like? Some people get detail, what color hair, what color eyes, how tall, what does their body structure look like? What do they do for work? What are their likes? What are their dislikes?
Well, you can go ahead and make that list. Oh, then they go on to another step and they say, make sure half your dresser drawers are empty so the person can come in. Park your car on one side of the garage so there's room for the other car to come in.
Well, what I've been saying for 30 years is make the list of how this person is, how they're being in the world. And you know you attract who you are.
You become everything on your list.
And then the person who fulfills on your list, is something like you, they're going to come in to your world. You don't have to go looking for them.
When the timing is right, it's called Divine Timing because the Universe knows what, when for you. The Universe never does anything to you. It does everything for you.
Now, there was an episode I did a while back about forgiving because I believe, I don't just believe, I know, forgiving
means for giving love.
Make a list of everyone who's ever hurt you. They weren't hurting you. They were coming into your life to present a barrier, a challenge, so that you get to grow, to become, to step in a direction you never had any intention of going. It wouldn't have occurred to you.
But to overcome the situation you find yourself in, you get to overcome the situation. That person seemed to have been thrust upon you.
See, the Universe doesn't give you what you want. The Universe delivers the situation to you that you need in the moment that's right for you to deal with it, that's right for you to grow through it, and it all happens in perfect timing, not your timing, but in timing that is optimal for you.
No, your ego mind doesn't know what that timing is. The Universe always knows. Your Spirit always knows.
So the thing you have to do, well, the thing you can choose to do, is become someone you've never been before,
so that you can think thoughts you've never thought before, which then allows you to take actions you've never taken before.
And what does that do? It lets you have something you've never had before.
So the formula is Be Do Have.
On the topic of Divine Timing...
The Universe knows what's best for you at the right time for you. You might have your heart set on a particular job or a particular place to live, or a particular place you want to go on vacation, and it just doesn't fit. It works against you, so it can't happen for you.
Always remember to ask, when you're putting out your request,
"This or something better."
Let me give you an example from my own life.
I wanted a car which turned out to be my dream car, the best car I've ever owned in my life. I love it. I wanted a certain model, certain color, certain doodads on it. And when I went to get it after having seen it, I couldn't find it in the color that I wanted. I couldn't find the upholstery color that I wanted.
I went for miles and miles around to four different dealerships, and nobody had my car looking like I wanted it to look.
So I didn't get it right then, because I don't like to settle for things.
A year later, I was in a different place in my life, and I went to the original dealership, right, where I had seen my car the year before. And there it was. My car, my model, the color of the upholstery, everything exactly the way I wanted.
And my whole life had changed, and it was the right time for me. I couldn't have known the year before it wasn't the right time,
but I made the decision not to settle because I trusted the Universe to provide what was in my highest and best interest.
So when something doesn't work out for you, it's because out of your awareness, there's a better choice that the Universe is waiting to present to you in the right moment.
I'm Reverend Ali Bierman, and I'm really, really glad that you joined us here today for Let's Get Metaphysical:
Connecting Heart and Mind. And what I'm showing you, or leading you to, is realizing it's all the invisible forces,
it's your subconscious mind that's driving your behavior.
Here's an example. I was going to a dentist that I'd never been to before in a city I'd never been to before. And it was the other day. And I'm riding along the road and riding along the road, and thinking, gee, I know there's a Trader Joe's off one of these exits. I'm not sure which one it is, but I know it's in this town, and I see exit after exit had another name for that same town. So I thought, well, I'll look it up after I've been to the dentist on my way home.
Only I didn't have to do that because the Universe took me down the road to the dentist I'd never been to before, and guess what I passed by? I passed by a Trader Joe's.
So after visiting the dentist on my way back home, I didn't have to go out of my way. I didn't have to guess.
I find that I don't very often have to guess how to go, or where to go. Have you ever put in GPS directions to someplace?
Only they didn't work, like the road that it says is there - it stops. It doesn't get where the map says it goes.
Focus on the feelings inside because those feelings are connecting you to your Spirit, which is connecting you to the Universe, which is always guiding you to what's in your highest, and your best interest at the time.
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