265. How to Forgive When You Can't Forget | Letting Go of Unforgiveness

The Catholic Coaching Podcast

The Catholic Coaching Podcast
265. How to Forgive When You Can't Forget | Letting Go of Unforgiveness
Oct 08, 2025 Season 3 Episode 265
Erin and Matt Ingold

How do you forgive when everything in you wants to hold on?

In this episode, Matt and Erin close out our series on anger and sorrow in the wake of Charlie Kirk’s assassination by tackling forgiveness—what it is, what it isn’t, and how to choose it when it feels impossible. Drawing on Scripture, Aquinas, coaching experience, and neuroscience, we show why unforgiveness keeps you in bondage (and in brain “threat mode”) while forgiveness frees the heart, sharpens the mind, and breaks cycles of violence.

In this episode you’ll learn:
•  The real definition of forgiveness (act of the will, not a feeling)
•  Why forgiving does not mean condoning, forgetting, or instant     
   reconciliation
•  How forgiveness calms stress circuits and restores clarity/self-control
•  10 common lies that block forgiveness—and the truth that breaks them
•  A simple 3-step path: Name the offense → Process with Jesus → Choose 
   to forgive (again if needed)

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