In this week’s episode, Emily Merrell and Lexie Smith are joined by executive functioning coach Corie Wightlin. Corie, Em, and Lex discuss overcoming overwhelm in life and business and taming your inner critic. Corie shares tangible practices to improve executive functioning that listeners can implement immediately and reveals how neurodiversity relates to coaching much more than you might think.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
Find Corie Wightlin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wightlincoachingservices/?hl=en
Explore her website: https://wightlincoachingservices.com/about-corie
Follow Em & Lex on Instagram at @readysetcoachprogram
Learn more about the Ready Set Coach Program at Readysetcoachprogram.com
Learn more about Six Degrees Society and THEPRBAR inc.
In this week’s episode, Emily Merrell and Lexie Smith are joined by executive functioning coach Corie Wightlin. Corie, Em, and Lex discuss overcoming overwhelm in life and business and taming your inner critic. Corie shares tangible practices to improve executive functioning that listeners can implement immediately and reveals how neurodiversity relates to coaching much more than you might think.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
Find Corie Wightlin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wightlincoachingservices/?hl=en
Explore her website: https://wightlincoachingservices.com/about-corie
Follow Em & Lex on Instagram at @readysetcoachprogram
Learn more about the Ready Set Coach Program at Readysetcoachprogram.com
Learn more about Six Degrees Society and THEPRBAR inc.
Lexie Smith
Hey, Lex. Hi m hi Cory. I Barbie. Guys, we have the best person ever with us today and you are so blessed to have her in your earbuds or on your screen if you're watching on YouTube.
Lexie Smith
We dressed up for all of you today. We have a cashmere cardigan over workout tops. So that looks like I'm trying. Cory is rocking probably her child's hoodie.
Corie Wightlin
It's mine but
Lexie Smith
I felt like he borrowed stuff and Lexi's wearing
Corie Wightlin
already branded. Okay, on brand
Lexie Smith
legs. I think we should make Ready Set coach pajamas. So then we could roll straight and they could be the ones that the pockets and the really soft ones. And then we could just roll straight from bed into work and it's no big deal because we're still Brandon.
Corie Wightlin
Totally agree. Would you buy it Cory 1,000,000% idea validated so next step we have another shout out to Alexandria who is our print on demand coach and specialist girl if you are listening, feel free to DJ line. Yes. Yeah,
Lexie Smith
I love I'm like What else can we wear bathing suits? Oh my gosh, like Baywatch style bathing suits.
Corie Wightlin
Oh, well. Okay.
Corie Wightlin
I think I might send one out but maybe a cute cover up.
Corie Wightlin
I was gonna say I'm with you Cory. I'm like I don't know if I'm gonna get excels towels.
Lexie Smith
How about that?
Corie Wightlin
Towels? Towels 100 person
Lexie Smith
Oh hat we should do hat slacks. We have a hat designed
Corie Wightlin
that we do we do when we so we have an offer called this is the sprint right? The sprint? Yes. No. Yes. The sprint conditioning camp conditioning camp. Thank you. Shooting camp and our clients who go through conditioning camp get to choose from three different swag items. Sorry, Cory. It's too hard to coordinate the choosing with a cohort. But okay, shouldn't have revealed this. Well, we'll drop the link for y'all in case you want to buy it to us.
Lexie Smith
I love it. Well, so basically, we decided our whole new shop that we're going to add on our website. So thank you, Cory. That was so helpful.
Corie Wightlin
Yeah, I'm glad I could be of help with the merch.
Corie Wightlin
The merch so guys, you know us. We're cool. But you know who's cooler? Cory? Cory. Tell everyone. Where do you live and who are you?
Corie Wightlin
I live in San Diego, California. I used to say sunny San Diego. But we haven't seen the sun since like, October. I think we live now in the Pacific Northwest. And I am lots of things but I am a parent to three kiddos who are a senior an eighth grader and a fifth grader. I have been married to my husband for over 20 years. So you might be thinking, wow, she got married at 12. You are right. At and no, just kidding. And I also am an executive functioning coach. And so I help neurodiverse people figure out all the things that will help them live more balanced, calm, happier, fulfilled, existences, whatever that looks like for them. So I help families I help teens I help college kids, I help adults. And I'm moving into also advocacy work for people as they navigate schools and businesses as neurodiverse individuals.
Corie Wightlin
Wait, Emily, I have to do the transition before we have a question because she teed it up and then on you I know you're depleted. But guys, okay, so here's the transition patrician of the day. So before this call, Emily was on another call. And it gave me really, really bad anxiety because she like leaves me hanging all the time. And she actually joins the meeting on time where I'm like an early bird right? So I have I don't know if I have like a form of ADHD or I don't know it really gets my blood boiling. But so my point being is There might be an element of that. That relates to product. Stress Management, which as an executive functioning Coach, I know you help people with right, Corey, maybe I should have done this before your intro.
Corie Wightlin
Yeah, but no, I like it. Yeah, yeah, I can help you manage your stress as you're waiting. And it says like host is in another meeting and you're like feel your heart rate starts to go up and you get a little sweaty. And you're just like you go to that catastrophic thinking like she's never going to join. I'm going to be in this house waiting room forever. I live here now. Yes. So
Lexie Smith
this is going to be like a couples therapy session is basically what we've decided. Because I've never abandoned Lexi before. I've always shown are you going to have I don't know. Is there a time that you want to bring to quarry that I've abandoned you?
Corie Wightlin
Well, no. Okay. Generally speaking? No. If I can't think of a specific example, I should probably let that go. Right. Okay. Very big of me. Continue.
Lexie Smith
Anyhow. So it's, it's funny, we do have that we definitely have two different sides of managing things. So when you think about what Lex feels when she's waiting, I like to bang out my calls. Otherwise, I will take naps in between each call, or I'll have all let each call go 30 minutes over. So I can't create those like extra times, because then I'll be like, Well, I'm too honest of an aide kind of person, where they'll keep talking and be like, do you five more minutes, and I'll bake? Yeah, I do. And then there I am. So now I'm talking for 45 minutes instead of 30 minutes. So that's why I'm like, I'm so sorry, I gotta run. I have a podcast I have to record and then it can get off the call.
Corie Wightlin
Perfect. And let's say that makes you feel anxious.
Corie Wightlin
Yes. Because we have this podcast recording. I was like, I would love to check in with Emily for two minutes before Cory gets here. So we're can like confer on what we're going to talk about. Right? So I guess it depends on the scenario. If it's just me and M co working session, she can come on time, fine. But in things that like events that we're hosting, or public facing things or our coaching programs, we have time blocked time before group coaching at this point, we've learned She's allowed me to do that. But besides our couple problems, okay, what I wanted to get at, let's take a step back, because when I met you, Cory, the concept of executive functioning was new to me. I was like, oh, like CEOs functioning well. Right? That's what comes to mind. So can we start there? Let's educate our listeners a little bit, or remind them, they already know what this is.
Corie Wightlin
Yes, and I'm gonna get in a little bit into the brain, because as you guys know, I love the brain too. So executive functioning, are the set of skills that allow us basically to live in a community to thrive in a society to be social creatures, right? And they live in the prefrontal cortex. So that is, like from your eyelids, or your eyebrows up to the middle of your head right here. And why that is important is because do you guys know when the prefrontal cortex is fully developed?
Lexie Smith
Seven.
Corie Wightlin
Good. 2725.
Corie Wightlin
Yeah, late 20s 20s. And for neurodiverse, folks, it can, it can fluctuate. So it's really important to remember that for a big chunk of our lives, that part of our brain, I say, is under construction. Right. So those of you with littles, right when your kiddo is losing their mind in the middle of target, because you are not going to buy the popcorn that's, you know, on the wall, or whatever. That is because their prefrontal cortex is not developed, yet, they're doing something that is completely appropriate. So it's also helpful to remember that, and what this prefrontal cortex allows us to do is it allows us to problem solve, it allows us to think critically, it allows us to have impulse control, it allows us to navigate and figure out what's going to be in our working memory and what's going to be in our long term memory. It allows us to communicate well with others. And it allows us to prioritize and organize and use time management. So it's really, really, really essential to all of the things that our society thinks is really important for successful people. Right. And another thing that's interesting when I when I talk about executive functioning, especially with parents, since you both are parents, is think about, you know, even your schooling, what schools require of kids in elementary school, middle school, high school and even college in terms of executive functioning. And then think about where our brains are developed at that time. We want a lot from the people in our world, especially the young people and young adults. So executive functioning is something that if you have a challenge with it starting young, it can really set you up for this failure feedback loop, where you're constantly being told, You're not good enough, or you're not smart enough, which has nothing to do with intelligence, or you don't try hard enough or you're lazy, or, you know, you're not living up to your potential. So it can really set folks up for like a lifetime of this negative self talk this negative self image. And that is why a lot of adults come to me and the first thing we have to dismantle is the stress and the self talk. And that inner critic that is telling them, they're not good enough, because the skills didn't come easy to them. And it has nothing to do with what kind of person they are, or what kind of Intel like I said, Not intelligence, work ethic, none of that has to do with it. It's literally how our brains are developing and our brains are forming.
Lexie Smith
It reminds me a lot of when we were younger, there was like the fast track and then the the slower track. And people I don't know if you guys had this in your school, but it was like, Oh, you're in slow math. And that doesn't mean that that person's not smart. It just means that they're processing or the way that they're, it takes them a little longer to complete Math or it takes them longer to digest a problem or digest a situation. So Cory, I love how you explained executive functioning, because like Lexie said, I feel like it was definitely a new concept to us. And when you hear a word or when you hear a phrase or something, I feel like it's everywhere. Now that we know about executive functioning, I don't know if this is your, in your world, too lacks, but I swear, everyone's like, Oh, her executive functioning skills could be improved. Or I clearly have ADHD and no executive functioning. And I'm like, did all of a sudden we all got like an updated version of Webster's dictionary and our brain.
Corie Wightlin
Is that what happened? Right? Well, the other word actually, I hear that. Cory, I'd love for you to dissect to neurodivergent. Emily, you have personal background and connected to that word. When I met you, Cory, by definition, that was a new term for me. Now that I know that word everywhere,
Lexie Smith
everywhere and also lacks, even though I have a personal connection to it. When my when my sister described neuro diverse or neuro diverse person. I was like, What are you talking about? And she's like, didn't you know, this person is neuro diverse. And I was like, No, I didn't. I didn't. It wasn't it wasn't something that clicked. And now yes, to your point, I feel like neurodivergent, ADHD, executive functioning kind of are like these three little blocks that hang out together.
Corie Wightlin
So what does that narrative urgency? Corey, can you give us you know, is it the same thing as executive functioning? Does it have a different definition just for those who may be like m&a at one point where I'm familiar?
Corie Wightlin
Yeah. So I like what I've just said, where they like, hang out together. They're buddies, right? So you can have executive dysfunction and not be neurodiverse. You can be neurodiverse and not necessarily have executive dysfunction challenges. Most folks that are neurodiverse do struggle with some executive functioning, some struggle with all the executive functioning, some have pockets, right. So neurodiverse, kind of in like a cliffnotes version is means that the brain processes, stores and relays information differently than a neurotypical brain. So processing speed or process, the way processing happens, social cues, being able to organize thoughts and being able to organize thoughts and store them and then also retrieve them being able to make sense of stimuli around us. So some of the you know, the big, the big terms that people are familiar with that fall under this umbrella are ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, anxiety, dyslexia, those are all those all fall under the umbrella of neurodiversity.
Corie Wightlin
Pardon? Just someone with an anxiety disorder, it's considered neurodiverse. Yes, so I'm neurodiverse Yes.
Corie Wightlin
Lexi, welcome to The Club.
Lexie Smith
She's She's executive li functioning. Lex how can people find out how to work with us?
Corie Wightlin
Super simple. Go to ReadySet coach program.com You can show notes.
Corie Wightlin
A lot of folks you know in the world and nothing is wrong with this have anxiety like or like it's appearance anxiety times. But if for those of us, Lexi, we're in this together that have generalized anxiety disorder. Yes, it is considered a neurodiversity. It is the way that our brains process information differently and make sense of it in our bodies. Right, which is why someone with generalized anxiety disorder is triggered in a different way. It's why our brains ruminate on things. It's why we get into fight and flight really fast, because our brains are processing stimuli in a different way than neuro typical people.
Lexie Smith
Cory was that always the case with ADHD add anxiety was that always grouped under neuro divergent neurodiverse urgency?
Corie Wightlin
You know what I actually don't know. Like, if you look at the like DSM, like when that kind of clicked over. So I can't speak to that exactly for a long time. And the other thing to know is that within your look, your Alexei, Lexi's, like, we just like I am calling you after this, we're going to have a coffee we're going to breathe together
Corie Wightlin
goes into anxiety disorder on podcast.
Corie Wightlin
But the other thing to know is that under this umbrella, I think of it as this like Venn diagram, but not a two circle Venn diagram, they're all overlapping. So oftentimes, people not all the time that have anxiety, also have ADHD, or have ADHD also have dyslexia. And the thing to remember what makes neurodiversity different than like a learning disability is it has nothing to do with, like IQ, or how you can learn or intelligence, it really is a medical diagnosis. So people that are neurodiverse that are going into schools, or into businesses qualify for accommodations under ADEA. So in schools and workplaces, it's considered a medical diagnosis. Dyslexia is a little bit different, because it also falls under learning disorder. So I want to give that little caveat, but and also autism, because usually there's other things going on as well. But if if you show up to a situation to a school, with a strict ADHD diagnosis, or ADHD and anxiety diagnosis, you'll qualify for MediCal accommodations, which aren't learning accommodations.
Corie Wightlin
Does that make sense? Yeah, it does to me. And, you know, besides this, me trying to like process I'm changing right now, something else that I wanted to kind of bring up is a lot of the components that you have the words, the feelings that you've identified and explaining these broader definitions. We do to your point, like anxiety, experience a lot and a lot of coaches experience, we actually invited you to speak even though you were in our cohort, we also invited to speak to our recent cohort, because it's so your skill set and what you teach is so so, so relevant to those in the coaching space and those entrepreneurs. So I'd love for us to be able to talk through some of your best tips. Emily, do you want to tee her up with our first question?
Lexie Smith
I do. So one of the biggest challenges that we see time and time again, is the inner critic creeping up and taking over. So this negative self talk where people feel impostor syndrome, or they, they feel like they've done all the work and no one's shown up, and they want to burn it all down and crawl into a hole. So do you have any advice on taming the inner critic?
Corie Wightlin
Oh, girl, like you guys know, you know that, like, my inner critic is like a whole symphony. It's an orchestra that follows me around. Beautiful one. It depends on the day. So I think the first thing to recognize is exactly that we're not alone in that every single human on the planet has an inner critic. And also to know that the inner critic is actually there to keep us safe. And as crazy as that sounds, the inner critic is there to make sure that we don't take any risks that might hurt us or do anything dangerous. And it goes way back to when we had to, like live in caves. And everything we did was dangerous. Right? And so we are being we are still getting that same response in a time where we live in homes and we have all of the safety things around us that keep us as safe as possible. But we still respond to stressors like their life threatening, right and Lexie, we are also the products of the most anxious people. The ones that that that responded the fastest with that inner critic. Whoa, don't do that. That would be dumb. Why are you always making stupid choices you should stay in the cave and be safe. They were the ones that went on to have families, the ones that were like, I don't care
Corie Wightlin
the fist
Lexie Smith
because he and
Corie Wightlin
Emily's Emily was very lucky to be born because, guys,
Corie Wightlin
right a saber toothed Tiger.
Lexie Smith
I was Teddy bear, I trained the bear to be my friend.
Corie Wightlin
Exactly. We were shaking in the in the
Corie Wightlin
caves like we lived.
Corie Wightlin
So the point to saying that is you're not alone. And it's a natural thing. So the first thing to do is to bring awareness to that inner critic to really think about what is it that it's saying to you, and write it down, write down all those things. It's saying even if it feels difficult, breathe, if you need to take a breath, take a break, walk, but write it all down and then go through with a non judgmental and curious eye that is the big thing, non judgmental and curious. And look at each thing you wrote down and ask yourself a couple of questions. The first one is, is it true? Is what you wrote down? Truth? Can you prove it? Right? So look at it with with a like a scientific eye? The second thing is to ask is it helpful? If your friend or loved one was going through the same thing and saying that to themselves? Would you say wow, that was really helpful, good job? Or would you say, Oh, that was really unkind. And then the last thing to ask yourself, is, where is it coming from? Why is it showing up there? Is it because of fear? Is it because of anxiety? Is it because it's a story? Somebody told you in the past that you keep repeating. And looking at that, and and literally eliminating the things that are untruthful unhelpful, or from past stories, and then what I always invite people to do is, is write down the actual truth. It doesn't even have to be emotional, it can you it can be neutral, right? It doesn't have to be because some people feel uncomfortable with mantras that are like, yeah, Rock on, you're amazing. Go, go go like that doesn't feel authentic to them, right. So write down something that feels authentic, and truthful and helpful. And put it on a sticky note and put it on your computer, put it on your mirror, put it on wherever you need to remind yourself, and then start paying attention to the difference in your physical sensations. And then your emotions and how you act. Right. That is the cycle there. What you what you do next, when you start to tell yourself that more truthful, helpful thought rather than those untruthful helpful thoughts.
Lexie Smith
Do you like these like taking rigorous notes right now? Do you think this is jumping off of this? And also going back to anxiety earlier? Do you think someone can tame their inner critic and rewire their brain to not feel anxiety? Or is that something that you will always be living
Corie Wightlin
with? Both so yes, and no. So what what neurological research shows like through fMRI studies is that your brain creates gray matter and creates new neurological connections, the more you practice it, so it's like going to gym for your brain. So the more you bring awareness and practice, to that reframe to that change of the easier it is for your brain to go there, someone that has true anxiety disorder, is always going to have anxiety, they're never going to be able to cure themselves. That's how the brain works. But what we can do is we can build in a set of thought systems that help strengthen the brain so that we don't go there so quickly. And what's really cool is the amygdala is the one that puts us in fight, flight or freeze. And what we see now is that the more people practice this self compassion, the self love this reframe, the amygdala actually starts to shrink, so it becomes less reactive. So there's scientific research that shows when we do this, and it's not just like, you know, if you're gonna run a marathon and you've never run before you it's not like tomorrow you're gonna wake up and run the 26 miles and be breathless, and like, you know, wear the little silver blanket and be awesome. It's it takes time and it you have to build up and it takes practice. And just like with anything else, it's not like linear, you're not going to, there's going to be dips and valleys, but the key is being as consistent as possible. The other thing that I love to do is I love to name my inner critic. put a face with it. So I have clients little really draw their inner critic. Like maybe it's a person like mine, I always say mine is this mean girl from seventh grade and I can picture her and I won't say her name in case she's by chance listening to this podcast, but I picture her. And when she says these things to me, it's so easy for me to say, hey, like, that's really unkind and that's unhelpful. And actually, what you're saying isn't truthful, because I can picture some people like Tableau monsters, you know, so, picturing your inner critic also makes it a little less scary. It's like the monster under the bed that you can't see versus
Corie Wightlin
something that's right in front of you. Then um, you have a book that I know you've suggested a lot of her clients read it I feel like along the same lines, isn't it like you're also alter ego? What is the alter
Lexie Smith
ego effect? Basically, high level like Beyonce doesn't go on stage as Beyonce she goes on stages saw Sasha Fierce, and like having that other and I feel that so much when I'm speaking in front of audiences, like I find it funny, I find it funny that I feel like so anxious and I get overwhelmed. But then when I get up there, it's not me that's up there. It's like, this version of me takes over and like my heart is beating at a normal pace and I'm having fun with it. But like normal version of Emily is freaking out at the idea of speaking in front of 90 people and holding space and getting people to quiet down so yeah, I like that idea of the monster and identifying the monster.
Corie Wightlin
And then you're even though you're Sasha Fierce is the one talking to that monster, right? Your inner Sasha Fierce is like, Hey, I'm not gonna let you talk to Emily. Like
Lexie Smith
Amelia can be a real biatch sometimes.
Corie Wightlin
Oh, you know the other word. I feel like this has been a big word. Keywords, keyword. Episode Episode. Yeah. When if you don't resonate with the word anxiety, I feel like some people might get defensive around that. One word that I have heard. I think every single client I have ever worked into every human I've ever met resonates with is overwhelmed. Yeah. So and I think there's a lot of relation there. But do you have just some high level tips on how people coaches, whether they're feeling overwhelmed with to do lists, they're feeling overwhelmed in their business, they're feeling overwhelmed in their personal lives, how we can rein it in, rein it in and move on or feel less overwhelmed.
Corie Wightlin
Yeah, so I mean, that's, it's like, very, those are all very, like, you know, situations specific, but I think, you know, for one, if you're feeling overwhelmed with emotion, like you're feeling all the things, the first thing to do is to notice it, name, the emotion. So Dr. Dan Siegel, who's a neuro psychologist out of UCLA says, name it to tame it. Right? If we don't even know what we're thinking or feeling, then we can't address it. So I equate it to being at the beach. And like, if you try to, like stand in these big waves, and either ignore them, or try to push them away, you're gonna get toppled, you're gonna get sand in your seat, it's gonna be really uncomfortable. But if you can address them, and be on your surfboard, or your boogie board, or whatever you'd like to do, then you can surf them and go in and out. Right? So naming entertainment is the first thing that that I always think to do. The second thing is to check in with your body. What's going on? Is your heart racing. Is your stomach hurt? Do your fingers and toes feel tingly? Are you really sweaty, because our body sensations are the first alert that something is wrong. So when that amygdala is triggered, it sends through our nervous system, that fight flight, right, we're gonna have to fight or we're gonna have to get the heck out of here. So we better like start pumping that blood, we better start cooling our body down, we better start tensing our muscles in case we need to like punch something. So it literally sends a signal to our body to get ready to fight or run. So if we can pay attention to that, and take even 10 seconds, to breathe, to pay attention and to breathe into that place to remind ourselves that we are in a safe place that we're not in danger of deaths. Another thing is if we can bring our senses to attention, the senses are located in the back of our brain, which is really far away from the amygdala. So if we can only engage our senses, it literally our amygdala could not be triggered at the same time. So there's 543215 Things you feel for things you write for things you hear three things you can smell two things you can touch. And one thing you can taste, you can mix those around if you don't like that order. But that is I mean, that is your classic thing that psychologists tell people to do when they're having a panic attack, because it brings you back. So those are kind of some tangible things to do. In terms of overwhelmed with like a list, the first thing to do is to figure out what works for you for organizing that. Right. So I was just talking to a mom and a daughter yesterday, and this girl cannot turn in assignments, she's having a really hard time missing assignments everywhere. And her mom's like, I have bought her 25 planners, she won't use them. And the girls like I can't do a planner. Well you think about the executive function goes into a planner, right? You'll be at school and all those different classes, take it out, look at the board, decipher what you're supposed to write down, write it down in the right place with the right I mean, right go on and on and on. So figuring out what works for you and not relying on this idea that there's a one size fits all. So for instance, what works for me is I actually use a computer program that is made for executive dysfunction. And that is what helps me my daughter, all my kids are also neurodiverse you guys know that but people listening might so we are like we live in a house of like, diversity like systems everywhere. My oldest daughter uses different colored sticky notes. So when she's feeling overwhelmed, she we have trained her brain to spend about half an hour with her sticky notes. And her Walden looks like this beautiful rainbow. But it's different classes. It's what she needs for college applications. It's what she needs for ballet, it's what she needs for work. And that helps her right, my middle daughter needs a big calendar. And she needs she still needs my help. Because remember, her brain is under construction. She's 14. So So we sit down with the big calendar, and we calendar out everything she needs for the month. And we have it somewhere where she can see it. And once a week, we have a check in. How's the calendar? Great. Do we need to add anything? Let's look on Canvas. So those are for kiddos, obviously, but figuring out what works for you. And knowing that you can try different things. And that's okay. It's okay to give yourself grace. If something doesn't work for you, that just means it doesn't work for your brain. And there's there's a million other things that you can try. But I do think that that overwhelm of things to do. What ends up happening is we get into task paralysis, then we're just like, Okay, I can't do any of it. I'm just gonna sit here and freeze and not do any. And that's your brain fight flight or freeze, right? There's too much. So play dead. But if you can, if you can figure out one step at a time. And there's no right or wrong, right? Some people the easiest task first, some people the hardest task first. But it's really taking the time to find a system of strategies that work for you.
Lexie Smith
Does that. But I love all of those suggestions and those ideas and also knowing that it's not like a one size fits all solution for everyone. While Trello might work for me, written writing that down might work better for you or the cup might work better for lax. It's funny, my dog is shaking next to us too. And I'm like, What's it's about the thunderstorm and I'm like fight flight.
Corie Wightlin
or freeze she is it dog freaking out right next to me.
Lexie Smith
Oh, yeah. I know. It's like, I feel I feel like she's gonna give herself a heart attack from the trembles. But I think I think that's such a great lesson to take away, Cory, that for the individual that's feeling that's listening to this and being like, oh my god, everyone says X, Y and Z works for me. And then it didn't work for me to know that to go back to the drawing board to seek out help and to find a solution that is custom to you. Because there's many solutions out there. And that isn't a one size fits all thing. So on that note, how can people learn more about you your services and working with you?
Corie Wightlin
Yeah, so I you can find me at White Lin coaching services.com Or at wightlink coaching services on LinkedIn. I do offer a free 30 minute connection call and so if anything on here resonated with you, or if you want to problem solve your system, or want to talk more about what neurodiversity is or have questions I would love to hop on a call with anybody. Especially if you listen to em and Lex because I'm a huge fan girl love them. This is like the coolest thing ever to
Lexie Smith
Cory It's 100,000% on reference to you daily. Don't worry. It is Hi We have a cool example though. I think Cory found us through our podcast. Yep. So this is a fun full circle moment. Cory one last question about working with you, is there a specific type of person that should be reaching out or everyone and anyone.
Corie Wightlin
Um, so you know, my specialty, or what I feel most called to is, if you do find yourself as a neurodiverse person, whether you're self diagnosed or diagnosed, officially by a doctor, I feel like as a neurodiverse person, myself, raising neurodiverse, kiddos, also all of my obsession with the brain, those are the folks that I feel like I can relate to the most. But if you're a parent of a neurodiverse kid, and you need support that way, I'm also that's also a place that I land where I can support you as a parent and with your kiddos. So I think if the if this, the neurodiversity side of this talk resonated with you definitely, definitely reach out. But I also work with folks that are just you know, need some support with executive functioning, for whatever reason, trauma life change. So if that's if that's where you find yourself, please reach out. Also,
Corie Wightlin
you guys just got a small Inkling in taste of the genius that Corey is we could not recommend her any more highly. I've actually even hired Corey to teach me how to help other clients through overwhelm, because it's not something that I feel is my zone of genius. So she's an incredible human, she brilliant, we're going to include the links to all the things in the show notes, Cory, last thing you get to give the homework for the episode before we sign off. Oh, my gosh,
Corie Wightlin
I gotta bring it that is so exciting. Okay, I think the homework is, next time you're noticing your inner critic. Spend some time whether it's notes in your phone in your journal on a scrap piece of paper, writing down what that inner critic is saying to you. And spending five minutes figuring out what is truthful, what is helpful, and what is kind and what what you really can say to yourself and make a plan for that next time and write it on a sticky note and put it on your computer or your window or your wherever it is that you'll see it sat Okay, homework
Corie Wightlin
was brilliant. We're going to do it. Um, well, I'm going to do it at least maybe you don't need to, but I'm going to do it. I'm gonna do it. It's fine to me.
Lexie Smith
Like C will then put it into a clip. Click up and finish it beautifully.
Corie Wightlin
I love it. Well, Cory,
Lexie Smith
thank you for joining today's ReadySet
Corie Wightlin
pod podcast.
Lexie Smith
We'll see you the next time. Bye y'all.
Corie Wightlin
Bye. Bye.
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