How I Accidentally Became an ADHD Expert

In this episode, I’m sharing the surprising full-circle journey that led me to realize I had been creating tools to support my ADHD long before I was ever diagnosed.

What started as a personal struggle with procrastination, self-trust, and feeling like a “high-achieving hot mess” eventually became the foundation for frameworks that helped me transform my life, grow a 7-figure business, and support countless women in doing the same.

I’m opening up about the grief, relief, and revelations that followed my ADHD diagnosis, and how looking back helped me see that the tools I created years ago were actually helping me work with my brain all along.

I’m also sharing a major announcement: I’m building Attentii, an AI-powered pocket coach for women with ADHD and procrastination tendencies. This new solution is designed to help women not only get things done but also break free from shame spirals, rebuild self-trust, and create lasting transformation.

If you’ve ever looked successful on paper while secretly feeling like you’re barely holding things together, this episode will speak directly to you.

In This Episode, We Talk About:

• Why I call myself an “accidental ADHD expert.”
• The hidden struggle of being a high-achieving woman with ADHD
• How procrastination, snoozing, and broken self-trust were shaping my life
• The life-changing moment after my mother’s passing that pushed me to change everything
• Why affirmations alone did not work for me
• How “I can do hard things” became the belief that transformed my identity
• The origin of my signature framework, the Action Belief Process
• The tools I created to help myself move through procrastination and resistance
• How those tools helped me build a multi-7-figure business before my ADHD diagnosis
• Why stopping snoozing changed the trajectory of my life and career
• The grief and affirmation that came with finally receiving an ADHD diagnosis
• My vision for Attentii, an AI-powered companion for women with ADHD and hot mess tendencies
• Details about the upcoming No Snooze Challenge

Join the No Snooze Challenge:

I’m hosting a free 5-day No Snooze Challenge to help women stop snoozing, rebuild self-trust, and start creating new beliefs through action.

Starts: March 16
Length: 5 days
Format: Daily reminders + 15-minute morning Zoom sessions

Sign up at: attentii.com/challenge

Key Takeaway:

Your struggle does not erase your brilliance. The very tools you’ve built to survive may also hold the blueprint for your next level of purpose.

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Transcript

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I am an accidental a DHD expert, and you might be thinking, what, Dr. Kimmi, what are you talking about? I'm gonna make the case for that today, and I'm gonna explain to you and kind of share how I sort of accidentally created kind of a new lane for myself in the best way possible. I'm gonna be sharing with you some new things that I am working and just kind of taking you along for the journey. So let's, let's go ahead and get started. Welcome to another episode of the DCS podcast. Now. A couple of weeks ago, I walked you all through my journey of becoming diagnosed with A DHD, how I also was very much hiding specifically from my marketing because of the rejection sensitivity dysphoria that comes along with A DHD that really goes hand in hand with A DHD. How I did not have awareness of that at all until I spent some time really looking back and reflecting on the past three years of my business. And so I actually, in this episode, wanna go back a little bit further, I wanna go back to 2018 and I wanna walk through what I created for myself to treat my A DHD before I actually knew I had a DHD. So the crazy part of this entire journey over the past. Like two months, three months at this point is that I am having so many new revelations and so much new awareness every single day. Every single day feels like, oh my gosh, like I never knew this about myself. This is brand new. Like just all of the things, right? But when I really stopped to think about it, I've actually been treating my A DHD for years. I just didn't know I had it. I didn't have the language for it. I didn't know that it was A-D-H-D-I was treating. So those of you who have been here for a while know that I, my very first coaching niche was procrastination, I was a procrastination coach. I would've called myself a purpose coach, but really I was a procrastination coach and. It was because I was sharing the frameworks and the tools that I developed over the years to overcome my own procrastination, and that is because I have a DHD and I did not know. And so really when I, what I wanna walk you through is how I changed my life way back then, all the way back in 2018. And just kind of walk you through the journey of all of the, the, the tools I've developed over the years to treat my A DHD brain that have helped me to make over seven figures in my company in the past three years. With undiagnosed and untreated A DHD. So the tools and the IP that I've developed really, really do work. because I didn't even understand like biochemically what was going on with me. I just knew something needed to change. And so I implemented changes, they worked, and then I taught these changes to my clients. And something that, I'm really proud of is even in DCS, we have a huge component of the work that we do that is related to this, So a huge component of the work that we do. Is overcoming your own brain's, story about itself, overcoming the scripts that you've created for yourself. dealing with procrastination, dealing with imposter syndrome, dealing with that, that desire to delay and to put things off because we don't wanna look bad or feel bad. Like that's a huge part of what I teach inside of DCS. And so be between the procrastination coaching that I started in 2020 and DCS I've helped dozens and dozens of women really break through their procrastination and, you know, with regard to DCS launch incredible, amazing businesses, which is really, really exciting. And so I wanted to talk through some of how I developed some of this ip, like how I developed. These tools and strategies that I've created, and they all really come from my lived experience. They all come from, just who I am as a person, what I have overcome, what I've been able to work through. And I just wanna say really quick, me talking through all the different things that I've accomplished does not at all negate the fact that I have been struggling. Okay? I have been struggling with not having the diagnosis, not understanding what was happening with my brain. Like it has been a struggle. I have lived life on heart mode. Most people don't have to develop whole tools to trick their brain into doing stuff, So, like, even just me, Having these tools is a testament to how much I've struggled, so I am in no way, shape or form romanticizing the struggle aspect. It has been hard. It is exceedingly hard to be a high achieving woman with a DHD, and you don't know you have it. It is hard. You spend, and I'll talk about this in a little bit, but you spend so much time beating yourself up. You spend so much time just feeling like you're a failure, feeling like you are just not good enough. You spend so much time just being and feeling like you're deficient, like there's something wrong. There has to be something wrong with me because everyone else has figured this out. Why haven't I been able to figure this out? And so this is in no way, shape, or form me romanticizing the struggle. Go back and listen to the episode two weeks ago if you aren't as familiar with the struggle, that I'm talking about, because it has definitely, definitely been that. And it's been, it's been very, very, extremely, extremely challenging. but I do want to sit with the truth that the results I created are a testament of the amazing, tools that I started developing back in 2018. And so, yeah, let's get into it. I'm just gonna start by talking through my story. So I was a hot mess, y'all. I was a hot mess. Now I was a high achiever. So I guess, you know, I was a high achieving hot mess, but I was a hot mess nonetheless. So I always said that I was board certified in pediatrics and in procrastination. I struggled with getting basic tasks done every day. I struggled with waking up in the morning. I would procrastinate on waking up in the morning. I would snooze my alarm at least six times every single day, or I would just set six alarms. so I struggled with procrastination. I couldn't get my, like I said, my tasks done, my billing, my notes. They were always behind. I felt like a failure every single day. I would wake up in the morning and just be like, well, today's gonna be another horrible day. Like, I just sort of set that expectation for myself. Hey y'all. I just wanna say real quick, if you hear a humming sound. In the background it is because I am freezing. This is like a little bit of an aside, but I am freezing. I go, I am pretty sure I'm in perimenopause, which is why this whole, A-D-H-D-A-D-H-D, you know, diagnosis became unearthed. I am in perimenopause, but instead of hot flashes, did you know that you can have cold flashes? No one, no one told me. No one told me. I get wicked cold flashes, not hot flashes. I will just suddenly be shivering. I live in south Florida, it is like 80 degrees outside, I'm freezing in my office and I'm in a sweatsuit, so I'm gonna have to turn on my space heater. So that I can make it through this episode or else I'm not gonna make it through this episode. So if you hear a low hum in the background, hopefully, my editor can edit that out. But if she can't and you hear that low hum, I just wanna say that that's what, that's what's going on. so please excuse me.'cause I turned it off because I was trying to maintain good audio quality, but nah, it's, it's just not gonna work. I won't be able to make it. So it is back on and the heater is currently blowing on my feet, and now I feel like I can actually move through the rest of, of this podcast. So, and then of course, because I have A-D-H-D-I forgot what I was saying. What was I saying? I don't know. But I couldn't get basic tasks done pretty much like that's, that's what was going on in my life and every day felt like I was failing every day, felt like I was putting out. Fires that I had created. Like I created the fire and then I had to put it out and I created the fire every single morning, right? Because again, I'm snoozing my alarm procrastinating on getting up. I am making a promise to myself that I'm gonna wake up at six or six 30 or whatever time it was. And then I would essentially, break that promise to myself every day. And that would really set the tone for the entire day. And there's a reason I'm talking about this Soo aspect, but that would really set the tone for the entire day because the whole rest of the day I'm looking at myself like, you are just putting out fires that you created from before, right? So I never felt like I could get ahead on things. And again, on paper, I looked great. On the surface, everything looked incredible. I looked like a success. I am a wife, I'm a mom, I am a physician. I'm working in an academic medical center that's prestigious. I'm working as a hospitalist. I have really great, teaching evaluations, like all of the things, but I felt like a failure every single day. So I was a high achieving hot mess, like I said. And so all of that really came to a head and went from bad to worse in 2016. So in 2016, I was pregnant with my, with my daughter. and we were excited. It was definitely a pregnancy that we were hoping for. At the same time, at the same time, I was already behind on my life and feeling like a failure. And then this sort of just. Perpetuated it, so now I'm a hormonal, high achieving hot mess. And then, I'll go through this part rather quickly'cause many of you have heard this story, but some of you may have not. So, I essentially had to deal with one of the most challenging things I've ever dealt with in my life. And that is my mother becoming ill in 2016. And it really came out of the blue. She was well one day, and then the next day she was septic in the ICU. And, it was a dark, a very, very, very dark period in my life. I am the only physician in my family, so, and I'm her daughter obviously, so I am navigating, her care, setting up appointments for her. After she got out the hospital and she was basically in and out of the hospital for a year and a half after she initially got sick. So my life fell apart. Now I'm dealing with a sick mom who is probably not gonna make it, and I'm behind on everything. So things really, really went from bad to worse. in 2017, in the summer she passed away. And so after she passed away and after the funeral, I remember just being completely devastated. Obviously this is my mom. She was my best friend. She was a single mom. And, it was just, it was a rough, rough year and a half. I was devastated. I was also really thankful that she was no longer suffering. so both of those things were existing at the same time. And so, essentially I was responsible for, getting her affairs in order, just like figuring out what we're gonna keep, what we're gonna throw away. And so one day I was at her house and I was trying to figure out what are we gonna keep? What are we gonna throw away? And I look over and I see a manila envelope. And when I used to tell this story, I used to say it was a big envelope. It wasn't, I found it recently. It's not big. It's not big at all. it's actually pretty small. I think what caught my eye was probably the, handwriting. So I saw her handwriting on it. So I remember picking up this envelope and being like, what is this? So I open it and I see my mom's handwriting on multiple lined pieces of paper. So I start reading to try to figure out what this document is. Do I need to keep this? Do I need to file this somewhere? And as I'm reading the realization of what my mother had created, knocked my breath away, like it, it knocked the wind out of me. I felt like the room was sort of closing in on me. I felt like I could not focus. I was struggling to breathe. I wanted to scream. I wanted to scream because I was holding a book. My mother had written a book by hand. She never told me, she never told her siblings, she never told my brother. But she had written a book by hand and never told it a soul and never published it. And so I remember sitting in my mother's, living room with her hopes and dreams and. Her desires like in my hands. And I remember crying out to God, and I don't know where these words came from, but I remember saying to myself and saying to God, I cannot live like this anymore. I have to change my life and begin living a life of purpose. And that started a journey that ultimately, ultimately led to me being diagnosed with a DHD. But like, again, we're talking, this was years ago. I had no clue whatsoever, initially. but I made the decision that day that something needed to change. I was serious about that. I was not gonna keep living this life anymore. I couldn't, I couldn't, I couldn't do it anymore. And so I did what. Every high achieving black woman does when she wants to change her life, I turn to affirmations. Duh. Like, isn't that what you do? Right? You see the affirmation girlies on Instagram. Now they're on TikTok. Okay, now they're on TikTok. And you do what they say. They say, you know, you gotta speak positivity over your life and all these things. And to me, it made sense, right? Because I'm looking at bible verses that talk about, as a man thinks, so, is he like, oh, it made sense. So I was like, okay, bet that's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna transform my life by speaking positively into myself and change my thoughts in that way. So one of the things I did was I got sticky notes and I put them everywhere. I put them all around my office. I just, I put them everywhere. And I basically was like, I'm gonna drill this into my brain until I get it. Now here's the problem. Here's, here's the problem with that. The problem with that was that I was not familiar with the research, and the research shows that if you struggle with the opposite of the thing, that the affirmation is supposed to be, speaking to you, telling yourself that affirmation is actually going to make you feel worse. What do I mean by that? So like if I don't have self discipline, but I start telling myself in affirmation that I am a disciplined person. My brain is looking for evidence of that. My brain is looking for evidence, and my brain is looking for the truth, right? Oh, we're saying we're a disciplined person. Let's look for evidence of that. But then every single morning I would snooze my alarm. Every single morning I would snooze my alarm. So I'm telling myself these things. I'm telling myself what I want to hear. And at the same time, at the same time. I'm doing the opposite of the thing that I'm saying. Your brain is gonna go with the truth, the actual verifiable truth, not what you tell it. Or else we would all have the life that we want. Like we have to think about that, right? Like if it were just about changing our thoughts and thinking new thoughts, we would all have the life that we want immediately, right? But that's, that's not what goes on typically. Like it takes some time and the time is really like, are you actually presenting that evidence to your brain? And I wasn't doing that, So I'm snoozing my alarms six times a day, but then telling myself, oh no, I can do hard things. I'm incredible. I am disciplined. I'm a high achiever. I'm like, I'm whatever the affirmations were, I don't remember all of them, but I didn't believe them. They were not believable to my brain because my brain saw. The actual truth. And so really things kind of got worse honestly.'cause now I'm feeling terrible. I'm feeling really, really bad. And at the same time, nothing has actually fundamentally shifted or changed in my life, even though I desire for it to, nothing has changed. and it wasn't until I did this one thing, this one thing that shifted everything. And that was, I made a commitment to myself that I was going to stop snoozing. I didn't just pull this out of the blue right at all. really what it was, was I heard a Ted talk and the person speaking it was Mel Robbins. She was talking about her five second rule, counting down 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, and then waking up. And how that really transformed so many things in her life. But then she talked about doing the five second rule throughout the day. and so I was like, I wanna see if this five second rule actually works. So I remember setting my alarm, this was in the top of 2018, setting my alarm for like maybe 6:00 AM or so, and saying to myself before I went to bed, when my goal, when my alarm goes off tomorrow morning, I'm committing to saying 5, 4, 3 to one, and then I'm gonna get up. Now you have to understand I have snoozed for as long as I was responsible for waking myself up, essentially my entire adult life. So me not snoozing was gonna be a huge, huge shift for me. It was going to be a massive shift. I honestly didn't believe that it could be done. I really, really didn't. So imagine my surprise when the next morning my alarm goes, goes off. I said, I can do hard things. And I actually got out of bed, y'all, I was flabbergasted. I was flummoxed. I was like, what just happened? This is like voodoo. This is witchcraft. What's going on? I'm kidding. But not by much. I, I was really confused. I was like, I don't even understand how this works. And so it was incredible. But here's the thing. Here's the thing, and now I understand why it didn't necessarily work for me in all the areas of my life. Number one, I have a DH, D Now I know that, right? So like I didn't remember to say 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. At the end of the day when I was trying to work on an email or do my billing, I didn't remember to say 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. I didn't like, I just, I couldn't remember. Also, also. I would've been saying if I had four, three to one pretty much nonstop because I couldn't do anything. Still at that point I could get out of bed, but really everything else was washed. Like I just still wasn't able to get much done. and so on a whim, I honestly can't say where this even came from. I can't say where this even came from. cause I really don't know. I'm not exactly sure. I think I just had the thought, like, I'm trying these affirmations, they aren't working. This five second rule works. I wonder if I combine the two, what will happen. Now I understand the science of what I did back then, but back then it was just like, I really, really want my life to change. I really, really want to stop. Procrastinating and not being able to get things done and not show up fully for my life. And so I remember saying, instead of saying 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, tomorrow, what I'm gonna say is, I can do hard things, which if you count it, it's still five, right? It's still five seconds. So 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. I can do hard things, right? So same amount of time, but it's like the affirmation that I was trying to believe, which affirmations are trash. They don't work. But I was like, if I pair this statement with the action, like I just wonder what's what's gonna happen. Next morning I set my alarm, woke up, I said, I can do hard things. I got outta bed. Here's the thing. Oh, here's the shift, here's the shift. Throughout the day, I'm telling myself I can do hard things as I'm trying to work and for the first time, I'm actually doing hard things like I'm. Actually catching up on my billing. I'm actually catching up on my notes. Very small. At first, it wasn't a massive shift. It wasn't like I just like woke up and just did all my three months worth of billing. No, but I did my billing for that day, so I didn't add to the pile, I was able to check my email. So it's like I just started being able to get stuff done, and now I understand why. But back then I did not understand why. I was like, I feel so much different than even when I was just saying 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. So that became a routine. I stopped snoozing, but I started telling myself I can do hard things. And here's the thing, because my action was paired with the belief that I wanted to build previously in the affirmation. Now it's a belief that I'm building intentionally because. It was paired, that belief was paired with an action. Now I am actually believing it. Now I'm presenting evidence to my brain. my brain is scanning for the truth, and my brain is seeing the truth because I actually do hard things because I got up in the morning. I got up in the morning, so I'm someone that does hard things. Okay? My brain's like, oh, we can start believing this belief. Now. This is true. This is true. And the more I built that belief is the more my brain believed it, So the more I woke up without snoozing, the more billing I got done, the more I caught upon those back emails and got those notes signed, like the more I did those things is the more my brain. Believed even more like, oh, we're someone that does hard things. So I started building a new identity for myself. I started building new beliefs for myself. I started believing that I was someone who was disciplined, that I was someone who was able to do hard things, and my brain now had the evidence for how that is the truth. everything changed in my life. Everything changed in my life just from that one principle, which became my signature framework, the action belief process of pairing actions with the belief that I want to build in order to get a new and desired result. Right. And we build out our evidence bank, and I've done episodes on this. I did one last summer, so you can actually check out that episode. and I think episode one of this podcast is probably about the action, belief process, but I, I actually started believing these things and my life completely changed. So now I am, you know, being promoted to associate professor and being recruited by other institutions and writing textbook chapters and traveling for keynote events and, you know, being tapped for leadership positions in my institution. Like, I'm doing all these things with undiagnosed A DHD. Here's something else I'm doing. I am actually now someone who believes that I am disciplined, who believes And like, not fully right? Not fully.'cause your girls still got the, the A-D-H-D-I still have it. But I am showing up for myself in a different way. I am creating self-trust in a way that I have never done before. Like everything, everything really transformed in my life. And I said, you know what? I wanna teach other women how to do this. Oh, before I get there, I developed the action belief process. I also developed, the belief flow, Which was just me understanding what was happening in my brain. I also developed the pot methods. With the pot method was my method for like, I'm in the moment not wanting to do the thing that I said I was gonna do. How do I move through that? It's like in the moment, self-coaching to get the stuff done, So I developed the pop method. So I, I had developed these, these frameworks and they actually started working. Like again, I'm doing the things that I said I wanted to do. And again, not perfectly, not perfectly, but making much, much more progress than I had really ever. Made before in my life and I wanted to help other women do that as well. And so when I launched Productive On Purpose, which is my LLC, and also the name of my first, coaching offer, actually that's not true. My first coaching offer was called Procrastination to Purpose. So my company was productive on purpose my, my Instagram handle and all of that. my, program name was Procrastination to Purpose. I wanted to help high achieving black women overcome procrastination so that they could walk in their purpose. and so that's what I did. And you guys know this story. for those of you who have been listening to the podcast for a bit, you know this story more from the, the sales side, the sales and marketing side, because 2020 was when I started my business. I didn't know how to sell all of that. All of that is true, but I also just wanna say from the, like a, d, h, D side, from the, I want to transform my life side and I wanna build this company and get stuff done. Your girl was getting stuff done. I didn't know what I was doing. Okay. I didn't know what I was doing, but I was doing, which is so much different than just four years before, three years before, even two years before, because of these frameworks. So because of the tools I created, because of the pop method, because of the action belief process, because of the belief flow, there's other tools that, those are the big three. the big three as it relates to me showing up and getting my work done and being willing to iterate, being willing to try new things, being willing to fail at those things. I failed so much in 2020. You know, it, it was really all due. To those frameworks. And again, I had no clue, no earthly clue that I had a DHD at all. I just thought I was a little bit of a hot mess. And now I figured out a way to not be a hot mess. That's really honestly what, like, that's the assumption I was operating from, when really I had this disability the whole time. And there is something to say for that. Now, again, the masking has come at a huge cost. the overwhelm, the shame, like I don't wanna make it like there's a whole, time. I was just like thriving and everything was incredible. No, your girl was still struggling. Okay. I was struggling and I didn't even know why I was struggling. I had no language for it. I just knew it was true, et cetera. But, I will say that I would not have made over seven figures in my business if I did not have those frameworks. if I had not done that, that work starting in 2018 with building new beliefs, beliefs about myself. I, began teaching this to my clients. I'm teaching it to, the ladies in DCS once I launched that. And their lives are transforming in so many ways. and then of course, as we know, like I said, I fell off a cliff once perimenopause started, it got harder and harder to mask. but I do wanna say like a lot of the principles, I still do not smooch. It is a rare, rare day that I intentionally are turning off my alarm I'm going back to sleep because I'm, I need to snooze. Now, I do feel blessed that I am largely able to control my schedule. So sometimes I just make the conscious decision, I don't wanna wake up right now anymore, but that's different than snoozing. That's different than what I was doing before. the thing about snoozing, if you have a DHD or if you're a woman that struggles with like procrastination or issues with productivity, et cetera, if you snooze, you are quite literally ruining your life in two ways. I know that sounds dramatic, but I feel very, very strongly about this. You are ruining your life. And so in two ways, number one, we'll just talk about the fact that those of us with a DHD. Lack dopamine. We lack dopamine. And some of you, you might not have a DHD, but you kind of suspect it. This applies to you as well. Okay? Um, or you, like I said, you struggle with procrastination in some way. If you have a DHD, you chronically lack dopamine. So when your alarm goes off, you get this little like, hit of dopamine just from the alarm. Again, I didn't know any of this. Okay? It's retrospectively. I'm looking back I'm like, oh, that's why this works. That's why this makes sense. So, um, you get a little hit, like your brain gets a little hit of dopamine when your alarm goes off and then you hit snooze and your brain's like, oh, false alarm. We're actually not waking up now. So it suppresses that dopamine. And then the more you do that right now, you already are dysregulated in terms of your dopamine. you already don't have, dopamine at. Normal levels or your body, your brain has issues with regulating it. And then on top of that, you suppress the dopamine that you would naturally get from waking up in the morning. So you wake up feeling groggy. You wake up, you basically beat up your brain for the whole morning. Okay? So that's the first way that you are ruining your life because you are exacerbating the problem that you already have. Secondly, you lose self-trust every single time you snooze, right? Because think about the fact that you are making a promise to yourself essentially every night of like, this is when I wanna get up in the morning. You break that promise to yourself, right? Like you literally break that promise to yourself. And so your brain is, remember I said your brain is always gonna know the truth. Your brain is clocking that oh, we don't keep our promises. We say we're gonna do things that we don't do it. We actually don't show up for what we say we desire. That's the truth that your brain weeds. So then later you come around and you're like, I wanna do this hard thing. I wanna create this new thing. Your brain's like, yeah, we don't do that though. That's not what we do. We don't keep promises. We say we're gonna do things we don't do them. That's who we are, That's the identity that your brain is now operating off of that's how your brain's gonna move through the world. So like later on in the day, you're trying to get stuff done and your brain's like, no, we don't do those things. That's not who we are. There's no evidence that we can even do this. Right? So you're self-trust roads over time. That's why when I shifted and started saying I can do hard things, and then my brain was like, oh, she really got that. she said she could do hard things and then she did it. That's why I was able to start doing my billing, doing my notes, doing all the things But if you have no self-trust because you've eroded it through snoozing over the years, then it's gonna be really hard for you to have those like breakthrough moments later in your day. You gotta start by keeping your promise to yourself, right? So that is something that really changed the trajectory of my career, of my life, of my business. Like everything changed when I changed that one thing. So fast forward to December of 2025, I get the diagnosis of A DHD and, while it was. Somewhat devastating. It was also very affirming. I had so much relief behind the fact that I had finally, you know, achieved that, uh, diagnosis, achieved that diagnosis is crazy. Like, I don't know why I just said that. Like, I felt relief that I now had language for what I was experiencing. and then I, I had so much grief and still have grief over the last years, over the way I beat myself up, like all of the things right. At the same time, I eventually was able to evaluate and kind of look back over my life, especially over the past six years, seven years. How many years? Eight years at this point since I stopped snoozing and since I started developing these practices and I was like, yo, I really treated my A DHD without treating my A DHD. Like I treated it, but I didn't know I was treating it and I didn't use medication. I used these tools and processes, which that combined with the medication gangbusters. I know that now. I didn't know that then. Right? And so I realized that what I've been able to achieve is no small feat. It is a freaking miracle that I've been able to achieve what I've been able to achieve over the past few years despite, or with my A DHD because of the tools I've developed and I've implemented for myself and that I've taught my clients. And so I thought to myself, I really wanna help. Other women to move through their procrastination and their A DHD. So like, think about like I, this is a full circle moment that I was not expecting at all. I thought I was going to be a marketing and sales coach for the foreseeable future. Now I did know that there is something, there is some special sauce in that action belief process, y'all. That action belief process is so powerful. I did know that eventually I want that to be my legacy. I want that to be the thing I'm known for. I want that to be my contribution to the world. I did know that, but I thought that was a 10 year down the line, 10 years down the line kind of thing. I did not realize that this is something I would want to help women with right now. This feels crazy because I started off as a procrastination coach and I now want to help women with A DHD or women who struggle, struggle with procrastination, learn the tools, the systems and the the self coaching strategies to move through their A DHD, to have the A DHD, have the procrastination and hotness tendencies and not let it, let them define them their lives, not allow that disability to completely hijack their life. Like I want to help women in that way. And so I got to thinking like, how can I do that? what is the way I can do that? And I could launch a coaching offer. I could. Call it procrastination to purpose again, right? Like that's available to me. That's something I could do, but I recognize that like I want to really get these frameworks into the hands of as many women as possible, So, so me doing one-on-one or even group coaching is limiting my reach. I like the diagnosis, lit a fire under me. I'm like, oh my gosh, I can really help so many people who are struggling. There is a unique struggle of a high achieving hot mess. Like that is a unique struggle that a lot of people don't get because you look good on paper. You're doing the things, you have the accolades, you have the titles, you have the stuff, you got the goods, at the same time there's a part of you that's like, I'm failing every day. How do you speak to that? how do you really, how do you move through that? How do you work with your brain when that is the story, when that's the reality that you, that you face? And I know how to do that. Like I know how to help women. I know how to help them when they're feeling like a hot mess. I know how to help them change their identity. I know how to help them create new beliefs. I know how to help them get stuff done. And so it just felt like it lit this fire under me and created this passion. Like, I don't wanna sit on this. I wanna help as many women as possible right now. and so I wanna share with you all, I'm very, very pleased to announce and to share that I am building something. I am building a solution for women with A DHD and women who struggle with procrastination and hot mess tendencies. I am building a pocket coach, a pocket companion for you. So this will be AI-based and, and this is going to be your coach in your pocket that is going to help you to move through not only getting things done in your life, but also coaching you through that 2:00 PM shame spiral that we tend to have, where we had this list of all the things we wanted to get done and we only got like half of one of them done, and then we went to Instagram and started scrolling. Or maybe that's just my story. Maybe that's just what I used to do, right? And sometimes still do, which is why I have to use these tools, right? So it's going to help you using that, utilizing my proprietary tools and frameworks, like the action belief process, the belief flow, even the safety formula, the resistance funnel, like using these frameworks, it's gonna be built in and it's going to coach you and help you not only with planning and strategizing. This is not a productivity app. This is a life transformation app. This is the app that is going to help you, not just the site affirmations, Because affirmations are just like, they're empty. They're empty, and it's not just about motivation and getting stuff done, Because motivation in and of itself. Is empty as well. It's really just you kind of like pushing through trying to do stuff and fighting your brain. But when you pair your actions with your belief, now that's gangbusters. Now you're transforming your life, right? And so what I am building, like I said, is an AI powered, pocket companion and coach for women with a DHD and procrastination. That helps you to break through those procrastination habits and also feel better while you're doing it. Like you're gonna feel good in your body as well, like, you're not constantly beating yourself up shaming yourself trying to shame yourself into doing work that never works, right? So, That is what I'm building. It is called attendee. So I remember, because don't believe the hype that folks with a DHD can't focus child. We will hyper focus when we get excited about something. If there's something that's given us that hit of dopamine, we will hyper focus on that. So I remember there was one night when I had this idea and I was like, oh my gosh, I can't go to bed until I like secure the domain name. What am I gonna call my company? this new app and this new movement that I'm building. I brainstormed. I used she GBT to brainstorm. Was it she GBT or Claude? I can't remember.'cause I started transitioning to Claude, which by the way. We should all be transitioning to Claude. We should not be supporting Chad GBT anymore and open AI because they capitulated to the government, in terms of autonomous weapons and mass surveillance of citizens. So that's just an aside switch to Claude. It's a superior product and way more ethically sound. So anyway, I use one of them tools though, just to kind of brainstorm and ideate, and I don't know where this name came from, but the name attendee popped into my head and I was like, that's it. Attendee, attendee a play on the word attention, but like, make it cute, make it demure. It's cutesy attendee. It's giving millennial woman who. Desires, aesthetics, who wants her life to be aesthetically pleasing? And she wants to be that girl. She wants to be that chick, but also she's a hot mess. And she is kind of that chick. She is that chick. But she's also a hot mess. Like she gets stuff done, barely she gets it done because there's a deadline imposed on her, right? She still gets it done. But she wants to learn how to thrive. She wants to learn how to stop beating herself up, stop the overwhelm and all of that. So attendee, thus attendee was born and I am now a tech I entrepreneur, which is the craziest thing ever. I never thought I'd be ordering those words, but I am building an app. I am building a more than just an app. I'm building a solution, to the problems that women with A DHD have. I am so excited for these steps. I'm in the very, very, very, very early stages of things. most people don't even know about what I'm doing. Like it's all, it's super, super new. and so yeah, I am working through the process of, securing funding and capital, through venture capital, through so through, investments it's just, it's, it's crazy. It's so exciting. It is scariest thing I've ever done, way scarier than building a coaching business because with a coaching business I was like, I know how to coach. I don't know how to build tech. I don't know how to build a tech company. So, I am learning something new every single. I wanna invite you along for the journey of that, and I wanna invite you if, again, if you're a woman with a DHD or Hot Miss Tendencies you snooze, I want to invite you to start transforming your life by starting to build a new belief about yourself. And we are gonna be doing that in my upcoming no snooze challenge. So we start on March 16th. If you're listening to this in real time, we start on March 16th. It is a free, it's a free five day challenge where the whole goal is by the end of the week, at the end of those five days, you don't snooze. You are not a snoozer anymore, and so much more of your life is gonna transform and change. It's not just that you're gonna be no longer a snoozer, you are also well on your way to building new beliefs about yourself. You are going to be. Presenting evidence to your brain, building new neural connections and synapses in your BA brain for the transformation that you want to embark on. And so the Nomans Challenge really takes that framework of the action, belief process and implement it. really what it is, is when you sign up, you're gonna get reminders every night to set your alarm for a realistic time. I walk you through my protocol, my, my Noses protocol of, I mean, you guys heard it it's saying I could do hard things getting up, but the power of doing this together is doing it as a community because what we're also gonna be doing. Is every morning for those five days, we are gonna mi meet for 15 minutes on Zoom, just 15 minutes to share wins, to, motivate and inspire each other. for me to give you a little bit of coaching on something to shift. If they are, if you're struggling at all, if you're finding some issues or waking up or things are not quite going right or you want practical tools for how to translate your new belief of, I can do hard things into practicing your life. we're gonna be meeting for really high level targeted sessions every morning for those five days, just for 15 minutes. I wanna invite you to join me. I know this is very, very different than any other challenge that I have promoted on this podcast, but I have run the notes and challenge. Multiple times. I did it in 2020, multiple times. I actually have helped hundreds of women transform their lives through the most of this challenge. This feels like a blast in the past. It really does. This feels like I am going backwards in the best way possible. and so, I, I just wanna say, I mean, I am still running the doctor coach school. As I mentioned in my comeback episode. I am not selling the doctor coach school right now. I am not launching anything for it. But, we still meet every single Monday. My clients are still getting results. and again, we talk about a lot of these principles also. during our coaching calls, but obviously in DCS we're focused on, sales and marketing, et cetera, et cetera. my clients are still winning inside of DCSI have a client who is hosting a coaching retreat she actually started, selling her retreat. she has closed every single, every single, sales call that she has had. She's closed, So we're still doing incredible things in DCS helping doctors launch their businesses is something that I'm still passionate about. But I am taking this period to really build out what has now become a passion project for me. A purpose project, that's what we'll call it.'cause it's more than just passion. It's also, this feels like my purpose. I, I just, I, I almost can't believe it because it's just so crazy. I am doing the no new challenge again, which I haven't done in six years. my company is called Productive on Purpose. I feel like we're going back to our roots, we are going back to our roots. I, uh, I'm excited, I'm nervous, I'm scared out of my mind.'cause what do you mean? I have to talk to investors ask them to gimme money to launch a tech company?'cause let's be real, this is more than just an app. I want to build a tech company that helps women with a DHD and procrastination transform their lives. And so it's like, wait, I gotta do what now that I talk to people and I'm doing it'cause I feel so, so strongly about this. I feel like this is my life's work. I feel like this is my life's work, which is so. Incredible to say. So vulnerable, so scary, all the things. I wanna invite y'all along for the journey. I don't know exactly what the journey will look like. I don't know exactly where I'm gonna be documenting it. I do know it will be on TikTok. That is for sure. TikTok is the place where I just feel like, I don't know, for some reason, I, I feel like I'm my most authentic self on TikTok. So follow me on TikTok and Dr. Kimmi. if you search Dr. Kimmi, you will find me. I actually think it's, so today is March 3rd, when I'm recording this and, last I checked, we were at 4,999 followers on TikTok, which your first milestone on TikTok that you, that they say you wanna hit is 5K and one person away from hitting that and one person away, which is so exciting. I might actually hit that tonight. We'll see. I don't know. but what I'm really doing on there is I'm being really intentional about building a community for high achieving women with a DHD. So what I love about this is the women who, or the people who are following me there are really seeing my journey and my evolution, and I'm sharing my story and I'm just like showing up and being real and raw and vulnerable and authentic. And I'm, I'm crying and I'm talking about how my meds didn't work today and just all the things. And it feels incredible. I love it. I love it. I love it. I love what I'm building. I'm so excited. It's been a while since I. This excited. Now, I do know that my A DHD brain does have me sometimes chasing squirrels, shiny object syndrome. but this isn't that. This isn't that. I mean, it is a shiny object. It's mad shiny. A tinty is shiny. However, however, this is purpose work. This feels like what part of what I was created to do, why I was placed on this earth. And so I'm just, I'm just overjoyed. I'm thinking already about the hundreds and then the thousands, and then maybe even, maybe even the millions of women that I'll be able to impact with my work through attendee. And so if you want to join us for the most news challenge again, we start on March 16th. We go through March 20th, 15 minutes a day. That's it. 15 minutes a day. That's it, that's the challenge. You can go to, you can click the link in my show notes, or you can go to www.attendee.com. So that's A-T-T-E-N-T-I-I. You can go to attendee.com/challenge. So that's attendee.com/challenge. Completely free. Join us for the no News Challenge. at the end of the challenge, I am also gonna be offering those of you who are interested, like founders access to attendees. So when the program launches, when the app launches, you get early access, you get early access to. to testing. You get, incredible, incredible bonuses. Like we are gonna be doing monthly coaching calls and check-ins just to help you along your journey of transforming your life, even with A DHD. just so many like tools and templates and all the things, because again, I wanna help women with a DHD really thrive in their lives. And so, yeah. Attendee is, I mean, I'm still building it, so I don't really know all the details just yet. but I'll probably. Have a free tier, like most AI apps, a free tier, a pro tier, and then like a max tier or something like that. and I know that the pro tier, I'm probably gonna price like around$20 or so'cause that's pretty comparable with other apps. and if you join us for the challenge and you wanna be a founder, you are actually gonna be able to get in on attendee at$5 a month for the life of the app. so$5 a month forever. You never have to pay more than$5 a month, which is really, really fun and exciting. what else do I wanna say about attendee? What else do I wanna say about attendee right now? I mean, I feel like there's a lot to say, but I also in some ways, have no idea what I'm getting myself into, which sometimes when you are starting a business is the best thing. Believe it or not, because if you knew what you were getting yourself into, you would probably not do it. So I have like no clue what I'm setting myself up for. but I'm so excited. I feel so, like I just, I just think about the women who are, whose lives are gonna be transformed. Oh, this is what I wanted to say about attendee. Attendee is a companion. So like, this is gonna be like your person in your pocket. So you're gonna be able to talk to her or him. really share any struggles or challenges that you have. And this is gonna be like your coach. Again, not to just help you push through things oh, we gotta just get things done. Not just that. It's also going to be a tool that is going to help you to. Not feel that shame spiral, not feel that overwhelmed, et cetera, et cetera. I'm just gonna coach you through use, utilizing evidence-based tools and methodologies such as the actual belief process. So that's all I wanted to say. You can cook on the show notes. If you wanna join, join us for the Notes News Challenge. or you can go to attendee.com, that's again, A-T-T-E-N-T-I i.com/challenge and sign up there and I will see you on March 16th for the Notes News Challenge. It's gonna be incredible. I'm so excited And let's do this thing y'all. I'll be back next week with another episode of the DCS podcast. Peace and love y'all.