The Mother Wound

Jelena dives into a part of her life she’s had the most shame around: her relationship with her mother. She deep dives into her mother-daughter story, the mother wound, and why it’s important to explore the relationship between early childhood experiences and adult decision patterns. Jelena guides you into her world - filled with insights and information - as she’s dedicated the past two years to studying this. This episodes serves as an introduction to intergenerational trauma and how the impact of having an insecure relationship with a caregiver has deep, long-lasting effects into adulthood. Jelena’s here to show you there’s hope in getting curious and how the pursuit of excavating wounds is the path to healing. 

Chapter Markers: 

• 6:38 - My Mother-Daughter Story
• 15:16 - My Mother’s Life Story 
• 21:18 - The Mother Wound
• 22:00 - Insecure Attachment 
• 24:20 - Why It’s Important 
• 30:08 - My Personality as a Trauma Response
• 37:04 - A New Understanding 
• 39:56 - Narcissism 
• 46:32 - Deconstructing a Cycle of Sabotage 
• 52:05 - Why I’m Not Crazy 
• 54:37 - Hope in a PTSD Trigger
• 56:44 - Coming Back to the Myself 
• 58:52 - Why I’m Doing This 

Self-Reflection Questions:

• What kind of relationship do you have with your family? How has it influenced your life?
• If you had created a timeline of your mother-daughter story, what would it look like?
• Who is your Mom? What do you know about her life before you? 
• What’s your attachment style with your Mom? Parents? Caregiver(s)? 
• What gifts has your mother passed on to you? 
• What is your relationship with expressing your needs?
• What is your relationship to shame and what are ways you sabotage yourself? 

Resource Links:

• The Emotionally Absent Mother 
• It Didn’t Start With You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle
• Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers 
• What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing
• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents
• Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self & Live With Confidence
• Are You the Daughter of a Narcissist? With Stephanie Kriesberg 
• Healing the Mother Wound Guided Meditation with Lisa Romano 

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