Awakening Souls

EP. 97: Unlocking Your True Potential by Quieting the Ego Mind

• Candace, Jennifer & Rose

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Prepare to rethink everything you know about the ego and its role in your spiritual journey. In our latest episode, we promise to unravel the misconceptions surrounding the ego, often perceived as the antagonist in our lives. Join Candice, Jennifer, and Rose as we challenge the conventional wisdom that paints the ego as purely negative. Alongside relatable anecdotes and profound insights, we reshape the narrative to see the ego as a survival mechanism that influences fear, judgment, and criticism. By understanding and distinguishing these ego-driven patterns, we can learn to empower our higher selves and move toward a life of spiritual clarity and growth.

Imagine uncovering the hidden beliefs that have shaped your life since childhood. We delve into the impact of subconscious limiting beliefs, using personal stories to illuminate how these often unnoticed thoughts, like feeling unimportant, can dictate our actions and interactions. Through examining how these beliefs play out in everyday life, we explore the ego's role in their formation and the path to unraveling them. This introspective journey is a reminder of the power of acknowledging our own significance and the importance of our voice in the world. It's a call to action to challenge the patterns that keep us from our authentic selves and to embrace a higher perspective.

Meditation emerges as a transformative tool in this episode, offering a path to quiet the ego mind and access intuitive insights. Discover how consistent practice can lead to a more mindful existence, allowing us to replace negative thought patterns with empowering affirmations. As we emphasize meditation's power to reveal and heal subconscious limitations, you'll learn techniques to pause and recognize your emotions. This practice paves the way to connecting with your higher mind, helping you navigate life's challenges with clarity and purpose. It's about fostering a harmonious coexistence between the ego and higher self, ultimately leading to spiritual alignment and community.

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Speaker 2:

Welcome to Awakening Souls a spiritual podcast for the mystics, magical thinkers, sensitives and spiritual seekers.

Speaker 1:

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Speaker 2:

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Speaker 1:

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Speaker 3:

Welcome to Awakening Souls podcast with your hosts here today Candice, jennifer and Rose. We are here to have some beautiful conversations that hopefully can help you in your spiritual growth. Thanks for being here. So today's episode is about the ego. That is, our focus on working with the ego, learning about the ego, becoming aware of how the ego mind can affect you and understanding how it is important in your life.

Speaker 3:

But we don't want to let the ego drive the bus. And a lot of times when we have had traumatic histories, when we are control freaks and I know I'm very guilty of that I still see that those tendencies in my life and I'm working on it. But when we have that, we're letting that ego really make the decisions. But our mind is multifaceted. There are other parts of our mind that we can work with that can help us to rein that ego in just a little bit and allow us to move forward in a more spiritually aligned way. Rather than being driven by fear, we're driven by the higher self, the higher mind, and so we kind of want to get into that today and just share some examples, talk about what that looks like. So hopefully you can become a little more aware of that in your own thinking, in your own processes and that can help you to really grow spiritually.

Speaker 3:

So I did a little channel for this episode, because I always think it's good to check in with spirit, and I asked spirit okay, what do we need to know about the ego mind? And I loved it. The very first line that came through the ego mind is like a child when it doesn't get its way, it gets louder and louder and louder until it throws a tantrum. The ego mind is manipulative and controlling, and so it can be a challenge when we're really allowing that to have control. But it said it doesn't make the ego bad, and that's something I've heard in spirituality. I don't know if you guys have heard this, but I've heard so much that the ego is bad and it's like it's getting this bad rap and it's something that's totally negative.

Speaker 1:

Yes, I don't hear that.

Speaker 3:

Oh, and it's just that it's like watch out for the ego, don't let the ego make decisions, and and like the ego is a part of us and it's there for a reason, and so the channel was all about learning to work with the ego and minimizing its influence in your mind.

Speaker 2:

So let's define what the ego is really quick. So the ego is that part of your brain that you hear thoughts come from, the part of your brain that is actually developed for survival. It is meant to keep you safe, it is meant to help you survive in the material world and it creates dialogue that is often negative about life, because it wants you to stay safe. It wants you to make choices that are going to keep you in belonging and safe and in love with your community and the people around you. So it'll come in as fear, it'll come in as judgment, it'll come in as a critic. That is the ego mind and this is something we're all born with.

Speaker 2:

I don't think there's a lot of spiritual teachings I've heard is like you need to eliminate the ego right, like you need, and I don't think maybe we're understanding it wrong. Maybe it's not like a complete elimination of the ego, where the ego doesn't exist, but almost an understanding of what the ego is and a separation from the ego. So last week you we were talking about how we can hear or witness our mind in a different perspective. This is exactly what we were talking about is being able to witness the ego mind do its thing to critique, to judge, to keep us safe, while our higher mind and I don't know what the higher mind is right. It could be your soul self, it could be your higher self, it could be your I don't know God, but that part of you is able to watch and witness what the ego mind is doing and separate itself from the fear that the ego is driven in.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, actually, an example, like a simple example of the ego is like think of the ego as the ego, as wearing sunglasses. If they're really dark or scratched, you're seeing the world through those lenses and but the sky is really clear and bright, you know.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, so if you can take off those glasses or even just put them to the side, you're going to see with much more clarity.

Speaker 1:

Right.

Speaker 3:

Yes, you don't have this clouded vision. Yeah, I've really been noticing. When ego starts ruminating, my ego mind just goes over and over, over again with the same negative thoughts. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3:

Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, um, yeah, we know. So like, one thing that I struggle with is food and the ego mind. So I can't eat a cookie without my ego mind saying, oh my god, you're having sugar, you're having gluten. You need to only be eating fruit, and, and and it just like it wants me to like, wants me to be perfect every minute of every day.

Speaker 1:

My ego too. I feel like it's with everything I do, you know.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, and I guess that probably doesn't help that with. You know, all of the media influences in our lives. Everybody's trying to tell us how to live perfectly.

Speaker 2:

The ego is the one that's listening to all of those outside influences and taking on the conditioning. We talk so much about letting go of conditioning and part of that is the conditioning of the ego mind. Your ego mind is primed and set up to look at the surroundings and say, okay, what is okay for me to do, how is it okay for me to act, how is it okay for me to think, how can I shapeshift myself into a form that is going to be loved and accepted by the people around me? And that comes back from, like our tribal days, where we, if we were kicked out of belonging, it meant that we would die and that we wouldn't have a tribe or community anymore to sustain life. So our bodies have not, our brains have not developed past that. Even though our society and AI and all of the things have developed so quickly, our minds haven't developed and gotten on board with the same thing. So our minds will go straight to I'm not going to be able to survive. So I must beat myself up and keep myself in line in order, critique whatever, in order to make sure that I can survive. Your ego mind is all about survival. How can I survive here on the physical plane.

Speaker 2:

So I got to thinking about the ego, mind and subconscious limiting beliefs. I'm big on looking at our subconscious, limiting beliefs so that you can move past them and create a life that you want or feel the way that you want on the inside, and I've got a lot of coaching, training that has helped me learn how to do this. But I was talking with we call it Celeste, but it's ChatGTP. I was talking with Chat GTP about this and recently I was working with a limiting belief that was so ingrained deeply into my subconscious mind that it was. I was unable to see it and I was trying to figure out. How did that subconscious limiting belief end up getting there? What was the ego working with it in order for it to be locked into my subconscious mind? And ChatGDP, basically, was telling me that your ego and your subconscious mind are not the same thing, but they are working entangled in one another, kind of creating beliefs, locking them into your automatic nervous system or an automatic place where, like you, can just operate without having to think about it.

Speaker 2:

So let me explain what I'm talking about a little bit. So your subconscious mind is like a file that is taking on beliefs created from experiences that you've had, or witnessing things from your caregivers. All about survival, right, and it is locking in beliefs, so it can work automatically, and so you don't have to think about like, right, and it is locking in beliefs so it can work automatically, and so you don't have to think about like, oh, I need to be like this in order to survive. It's just something that automatically happens, but your ego is the one dictating where I'm seeing things, what I'm witnessing, what I need to take in, what do I need to file away into the subconscious mind? Is all this making sense? Okay, so I was doing a meditation and I came across a subconscious belief that's locked away in my subconscious, something that I can't see without trying to look for it, without going into a certain state, brain state, to unlock the subconscious mind, and I found a belief that said I'm not important, I'm not important.

Speaker 3:

Oh my God, Candice.

Speaker 2:

You have no idea. Oh my God, you have no idea. Listen. Once I pulled that belief out and I can look at I'm not important. It was such an emotional rollercoaster for me for the entire day because I could literally see how this subconscious, limiting belief that was created out of survival in my childhood and I survived a lot of significant trauma in my childhood was put away in there so that way I as a child can keep myself safe, so that I can be okay with my mom not showing up when she was supposed to show up, be okay with my dad being too drunk to come pick me up one day.

Speaker 2:

That belief of I'm not important was filed away so that I can act automatically and survive my childhood years. But now that I'm 36 years old, I don't need that belief anymore, and so I pulled that belief out. I looked at it and it like laid itself out like a map and it showed me all the areas in my life that I had made decisions based on this subconscious living belief that I am not important, and I could see the web that I had created and it made me cry so much because I was like I made all of these life decisions based on a belief that isn't true, based on a belief that was created to help me survive my childhood and it was just. All of it came unraveled all at once. That was pretty profound. That was pretty profound. That was pretty profound. But that's what kind of led my conversation with Chat2TP of understanding. Okay, if this was because I needed it to survive, how did it become locked away in my subconscious? So it was a whole thing.

Speaker 3:

Okay, candice, you said that and I can't believe it because I've got the same thing bubbling up Stop. No. That's why I was like, oh my God, I can't believe it, because I've got the same thing bubbling up Stop. No, that's why I was like, oh my God, I can't believe you're saying that. So I'm working with a new spiritual team right now and the being that I'm working with is helping me to heal, and I was in a meditation working with her and she was doing different things with my energy and she said OK, I've got two affirmations for you that you need to work on. I'm like all right. And the first one was I am important the exact same words. And the second one that she gave me was my voice is worth sharing, which is another. You know, it's like I do have things of value to share. So that freaks me out, that you're like working on the same exact idea of being important.

Speaker 3:

And yes, I keep looking at my life and I'm like seeing all the ways that that limiting belief impacts my decisions. Like I don't cook food for me. I cook food for other people because I'm not important. So when I'm making menu choices, I'm choosing foods of what will other people enjoy having you know and putting myself last and not that that's wrong to try and cook things that other people will enjoy, but I should at least be have you know some consideration in that decision and it's like my whole life doesn't matter. And when other people you know I'm taking care of them, it's like I don't matter. That whole motherhood martyr thing going on there. So, yeah, it impacts like every decision that you make.

Speaker 2:

Yep, yep. And it all started with the ego, the ego leading to all of those beliefs that then filed away into your subconscious, so you can just operate automatically under that belief, whether it not be a healthy belief or not. Whether it be a healthy belief or not, that's what the brain is doing, and so when we're looking at the ego, when we're able to separate ourselves from what the survival brain says and look at it from a higher perspective, I feel like we have more access to find those limiting beliefs that have been created, to unlock them and then to unravel them like that, so that we can go back to working from a place of the higher mind, or our true, authentic self, rather than the self that was created in order to be, in order to survive.

Speaker 3:

Well, and it's funny, you know, with this podcast and the work that we do, there's this voice in the back of my head that is always saying things like oh, there are so many podcasts out there, there's so many spiritual people out there, they're already doing the work and they've got really good stuff. It's like my stuff isn't important or doesn't hold value because there's so much out there already and so that I'm not important. Belief activates that voice within, not important. Belief activates that voice within which makes resistance to actually taking steps forward and doing things.

Speaker 2:

That's everybody. Everybody has this where they're coming up against those limiting beliefs or coming up against those ego thoughts that want to keep us safe. You know that's their job is to keep us safe, to keep us comfortable, even if comfort doesn't actually feel good. So same that goes for your eating habits. It's the way I've always done it. It's kept me safe for a long time. How has it kept you safe? Right, and that's so that becomes a habit that you just automatically perform because that's safety, even though you're looking at yourself and you're like I don't actually want to eat like this, I don't actually feel good about this. Yeah, it becomes working with the mind now in order to break free from a pattern.

Speaker 3:

Well, and I think becoming aware of that and just watching for that is the first step in really learning how to work with it. And, like we said in that last episode, I'm becoming more and more aware of my thoughts and I'm starting to really distance myself with those egoic thoughts. Which is so powerful, it's like ego keeps putting those forward. So it's like I can't ever at least not yet learn to totally shut off those negative thoughts. They're always popping up and they sneak in, sometimes when I'm not paying attention. But if I'm aware of them, then I'm sorting through them and I'm deciding is that true? And that's my biggest question of now I don't trust my mind. I keep questioning it. Biggest question of now I don't trust my mind. I keep questioning it and it's like, yeah, it's like another part of my mind is like, oh, is this really true?

Speaker 2:

And then I try and look at it more objectively, and most of the time it isn't true, and we're running our entire lives based on the ego mind. We're letting the ego, fear-driven mind run the show, or drive the bus, as you said.

Speaker 2:

And so it's actually creating us to live lives that don't feel good to us, that don't feel authentic to us. It's allowing us to enter into relationships that don't feel authentic or enter into job opportunities that wouldn't be authentic to us and what our true selves would have chosen, because it's based out of fear and based out of the ego mind, based out of keeping us safe, and the whole world is driven like that. If you look at any social media or look at the news, they are working to feed your ego mind. They're saying fear this, fear that you need to do this, be critical about this. This isn't good enough over here.

Speaker 2:

And so that is feeding the mind. But once you start to separate yourself by turning off the social media, by turning off the news, you hear your own thoughts. Finally, they're not constantly being fed by outside sources, and that's where awareness comes from is to go inward and go okay, I'm going to take a look at all of these thoughts that keep coming up. And then you start to notice like, oh, that's a thought, oh, that's a thought. Oh, I didn't know, I hated myself like that. I didn't know.

Speaker 2:

I thought about myself like that. I didn't know, I had so much fear about X, y and Z. And honestly, in the beginning it's kind of a painful process to sit there and look at what your thought keeps telling you, because your thoughts create your beliefs and your beliefs create and dictate how you show up and act in the world. And so, in order for us to make real, significant changes in our life, to feel good, to feel authentic, to be living these intuitively driven lives, that of our authentic self, we have to start by being aware of what is coming into our ego mind and how our ego mind is operating.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, and once you've got the awareness, now you've got the power.

Speaker 2:

Yes.

Speaker 3:

Ego doesn't get to drive the bus wherever it wants. I just get this image of me just kicking my ego out of the driver's seat and just throwing it into the back and you stay there. I've ever seen just throwing it into the back and you stay there.

Speaker 2:

I can see how people would assume, especially with the conversation we're having, that the ego mind is bad. I don't want the ego mind. I can definitely see where people are picking that up from Probably how.

Speaker 2:

Why we've always thought that's what other spiritual influences are saying is that the ego mind is bad, but it's just having an awareness of the ego mind, so it doesn't control all of your actions. The ego mind has a place and it has a time in your life where it needs to be used, but it's not always the case. We should be operating from our higher self and and it's like a best default, it's actually like a friend. Your ego mind is like your friend. It's like hey, I'm a little concerned here, I'm just going to keep you grounded and in the real world. And you can look at that and be like, oh thanks, friend, I see where you're going with this and yeah, I actually like the advice and I think I want to take that action. That feels aligned for me, because me and my higher self got to sit there and communicate with the ego mind and decide whether or not this is correct action for us. Does that make sense?

Speaker 3:

Yeah, it's like a consultant. Yes, For your life. Yeah, and it can be okay. I want to take this action, Ego. What's the safest way for me to do this? You know how can I do this and keep my physical body and my mental health safe? I want to take that into consideration. Rather than you get to control the whole thing. Help me navigate, but don't take over and have full control.

Speaker 1:

So I'm reading Celeste's chat GTP right now, and one of the examples I have here is if your mind is saying I'll fail at this, you can notice that thought instead of believing it's true. It's just a passing story, not who you are.

Speaker 2:

Just a reminder that we don't have to attach to all of the thoughts and fears that come up, but notice them, notice them, aware of them and let them pass through. You know that's what a lot of meditation practices teach. That is what meditation is about is learning to separate yourself from the ego mind and to become aware of the ego mind and let those ego thoughts pass through without latching on.

Speaker 2:

And then creating a story about who you are and a narrative of who you are, because the ego mind is not who you are. It is about self-identity. That's what the ego mind is, but it is not who you are, and you always have an opportunity and a chance to change that narrative in the mind if you can become aware of it.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, I think of my mind now as, like, that part of my mind is a computer program and the program is running and I can decide how I want to take the information that that program is producing. So once again, that detaches who I am to the thoughts that are coming from that part of my mind, and then I don't have guilt when I don't listen to it. Oh, guilt.

Speaker 2:

That was your response.

Speaker 1:

Well, I more or less respond in my head Guilt. Like I'm sitting here thinking, wow, guilt does. Like that sucks because that's the longest lasting part of it. Like you don't listen to, it go and then it keeps coming at you. And then you feel guilty the whole time and it's going to keep coming at you. So feel guilty even more. You know, Like last week when we were talking about not being productive.

Speaker 2:

Yes, and it's the ego mind. It's like you're not being productive. Oh, you're going to fail. Oh, someone's going to be mad at you, yeah.

Speaker 3:

Oh, that's a really good point, candice. The ego assumes how other people are going to feel about you, and it's usually not positive.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 3:

And so that ego mind a lot of times will be like they'll be angry, they'll be upset, they will judge me.

Speaker 1:

And you form this like argument in your head that you're going to have with the person and just escalates. Mm, hmm, it spirals. All in the name of the Bible.

Speaker 3:

Right, mm. Hmm, yeah, spirals All in the name of survival Right. Mm-hmm. Yeah, I have to tell my mind people are good all the time because I see other people and my first instinct is to avoid them at all costs, yeah.

Speaker 3:

So then I say, no, rose, people are good, you like people. And then like, oh, yeah, I do like people. Like I'm walking in my neighborhood and I come across somebody and my first instinct that happened this morning. My neighbor was out walking her dog and I was out for my morning walk and I'm like, oh people, she's the sweetest person, I love her, she's great. Why wouldn't I want to say good morning, you know? And so I in my mind I'm like, okay, rose, people are good. And then I'm like, oh, yeah, I do like people and I love talking to her, and you know. And then, of course, we had a really nice conversation and it was all good. But that's my. My instinct when I see another person is to really retreat.

Speaker 1:

Mine too. I like put on blinders. I totally focus on my task at hand and I totally ignore everybody.

Speaker 3:

Wow, yeah, not the healthiest thing in the world?

Speaker 1:

No, no, no, I got to work on that.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, well, yeah, I mean, we're supposed to be in community, so Again back to survival.

Speaker 2:

That's a survival tactic, yeah no-transcript for me.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I had a situation today that I was noticing the back and forth between my ego mind and my higher mind that I thought was really interesting. So TikTok is potentially going to be banned. By the time this goes out, it might have already been passed. But July oh my God, january 19th is this projected date that TikTok ban will happen in America and I have a nice following on TikTok. I have a whole lot of my clientele coming to me through TikTok and I have built sort of a community on TikTok. I don't whole lot of my clientele coming to me through TikTok and I have built sort of a community on TikTok. I don't have that on Instagram, I don't have that on other social media platforms, and so the idea of TikTok being banned immediately puts my ego mind into fear and it goes oh my God, candice, you're going to fail now. You're not going to have clients coming in, you're going to be a failing business, you're going to disappoint your husband, you're going to feel like you're not working within your purpose and you're basically going to wither away into nothing and die. That is what my ego, that's where my ego mind is going as I was scrolling through TikTok today and I'm seeing more stuff about the TikTok ban. I'm noticing my whole body and my nervous system and my mind going straight to fear thinking and I turned off TikTok. I took a step back and I said I need to look at all of this fear. So I just started journaling, and I started journaling about what I was afraid was actually going to happen. And as I was writing down each fear, then I noticed my higher mind immediately step in and be like but look at all the new doors that will open for you. Look at how you can reach a different audience, an audience that feels more aligned to your authentic self. Look at what creative avenues now you would feel free to explore if TikTok were taken away. Look at the fact that you won't be able to doom scroll anymore and take away all of the attention that you wanted to put in other places, and now you'll have that attention to put over here.

Speaker 2:

And it was like, immediately, as I journaled each fear, I heard my higher mind and then it was like oh, then I'm not afraid of that thing happening anymore and I could step back and I could go oh, this actually might be blessing in disguise. You know, who knows why TikTok is being really banned. Like I have a little conspiracy theory myself about there being wanting to control information, and whether or not that's true it doesn't matter. The fact is it's happening and I can't control it. So my mind is wanting to figure out how I can control the narrative to protect me and, as I'm stepping back, I'm going I actually have control over the narrative because this isn't going to control me.

Speaker 2:

I'm going to control my response and reaction to it and see this more as a test that I'm going to pass. This is a test of how can I expand in other areas, how can I trust the universe that it's got my back and I'm going to be okay? And it really just zapped all the fear out from this thing. That is so silly in my opinion, like the fact that I'm putting that much weight on TikTok is ridiculous, and it really just helped me step back and go. Oh, okay, I feel better about this, I can trust my path moving forward and know that I'm I'm held, I'm held, I am okay well, what a powerful practice is to look at the fear and then really dig into it.

Speaker 3:

Look at the fear and ask, okay, is this true, if this really happens, what's the worst that can happen? And then what's the best that can happen? Because a lot of times all we do is look at worst case scenarios but now what is the best that can happen? Or what are new opportunities? But now what is the best that can happen, or what are new opportunities? And that's really exciting. All of a sudden it's empowering. What good advice, candice.

Speaker 2:

Oh, thanks. Should we talk about some ways that we can use tools to help us separate from the ego mind or help us to become more aware of it.

Speaker 3:

And the first one is going to be our favorite one. What do you think it's going to be? Meditation. Yeah, meditation, it quiets your mind A lot of times. I don't know about you guys, but when I go into a meditation, like the first, I don't know five minutes or so.

Speaker 3:

My ego mind almost ramps up oh 20 minutes, yeah, is it 20 minutes for you? Okay, yeah, and it depends on the day too and what's going on, but it's like that and I just let it go. I used to try and stop it, but I just let it go. And if I find I let it go for whatever it takes, then eventually it just stops and all of a sudden it's not getting anywhere, so it just dissipates and it relaxes. It's also, you know, and it depends on what kind of meditation.

Speaker 3:

So, like I love doing meditations where I'm using positive affirmations.

Speaker 3:

I don't do that all the time, but every once in a while I'll do a meditation where I'm just saying positive affirmations in my mind, trying to reprogram that subconscious mind, trying to get into that deep meditative state.

Speaker 3:

So I have access to the subconscious and I can say, okay, you know what, we're making a change here, and this is, I am important we're going to start programming that in, and so I'm just going to repeat that affirmation in that meditative state for just a little while, until it feels like it's sunk in. And if I do that, you know, for several days in a row, then it starts showing up in my waking day when I'm not meditating which I love it's like I'll be doing something and I start to go into that old default program and then my mind's like I am important. And I'm like, oh wait, I am important, I do need to take myself into consideration. So that's how I like to use meditation is one just to quiet the mind, to let the ego just run its energy out, or to replace some of those negative thought patterns with more positive ones?

Speaker 2:

Meditation is a training tool for your brain. I feel like it helps train the brain to separate itself from all of those hamster wheel thoughts that keep coming, that keep coming and you cannot forcefully stop them. You do have to let them run their course. And if you feel like there's a lot of emotion coming with that, what I do? If I can't get my ego brain to shut up and I'm like there's emotion under this, I will go deal with my emotions and go figure out what's going on with my emotions, maybe have a good cry or something or go do a healing meditation. That will help walk me through whatever is coming up emotionally before I try to sit down and have a real meditation. And this is one question I get asked a lot when people want to know how do I become more intuitive? How do I do the kind of work that you do, candice?

Speaker 2:

I always tell them meditation and most people are like, oh, I just can't meditate. I don't know how to meditate, I can't get there, like how can I get past the meditation part and just get to what you do? And I'm like you can't. There is no go around here. Meditation is training your brain to fall away from the ego mind to become aware and to go into a brain state called theta, which is where your mind is totally relaxed. You've got this deep relaxation and you can want to receive intuitive information for your life, to drive you forward and then to train you to go about life. That way of separating yourself from the ego and allowing that higher mind to come in that's how you connect with your higher mind is by shutting up the ego for enough time to visit with your higher mind so that you can hear both at the same time in your waking state.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, and I like the point that we can also use meditation to dig into past traumas. Dig into why do I believe I'm not important? You can go into that meditative state and ask spirit to show you, or your higher self to show you. Okay, why do I have this belief? Where's the root of it? And you can even ask during meditation okay, how can I heal this? And that's all. Working with your intuition is building your intuition. So it's the gateway, isn't it?

Speaker 2:

Yeah, it really is. You know, recently, when I was working through that I'm not important, subconsciously belief. The way I even got there was I went to bed one night and I was like I want to make like $5,000 in my business every single month, consistently. That's what I want. And I said, guys, show me, show me everything, trigger me, test me like, show me where I need to heal in order to remove all these subconscious limiting beliefs that are standing in my way between what I desire in my business and a fulfilling, successful, thriving business, me and that business. And then the next day is when I was triggered enough for me to go in and look at, holy shit, I have a belief that I'm not important.

Speaker 2:

Sometimes all it is is asking the universe, asking your guides to help unveil what it is you can't see for yourself. And then pay attention to where the monkey mind goes, pay attention to where the ego mind goes. And what thoughts are you thinking over and over and over again, what feelings are coming up over and over and over again? Because those are always going to be your clues that those are areas that need healing, those are areas that are locked in the subconscious mind. Those are the areas that are going to stand in your way between what you want and who you are right now.

Speaker 3:

Okay, so are there any other tools, other than our favorite meditation, that we can do to work with that ego mind?

Speaker 1:

Pause and notice, okay. So like, take a moment to pause during the day, especially when you're feeling triggered or overwhelmed. So yeah, like if you're feeling triggered you know you just or overwhelmed, you want to pause and notice it. Maybe give it a name so that way you're more of a witness to it.

Speaker 2:

Oh oh, you just named something big, did I? Yes, naming, oh, naming it, giving it a name, yeah, naming. The thought, naming the emotion, yeah, naming the feeling. It really takes away the power of that thing when you can name it, yes.

Speaker 3:

Yes, that is powerful. I have fear in me, I have anxiety in me. It's like I am not the emotion, but it's working in my system and now I need to look at that and process it rather than yeah, it's so empowering. So there are some other ways that we can also work with our ego and try and form a positive relationship rather than always struggling against it. We mentioned meditation, we mentioned pausing and just becoming aware of the thoughts. Something else that you can do is anything that's a mindful activity, so deep breathing, becoming aware of your environment, quieting the mind. It's going to really help you come from a better place of knowing what's that ego voice and what is spirit talking or your higher self or the witness. So any mindfulness practice is going to help you rein that ego in A great way.

Speaker 3:

That Candice already mentioned is journaling just journaling when you've got some of those negative thoughts that are spiraling in your mind. Getting out your journal and writing down what you're feeling. Once again, naming those feelings. That's huge and what's the worst can happen, what's the best can happen, and just start writing things out and a lot of times you're going to see the patterns and you're going to understand, okay, what's coming from fear and what's not, and that can really help you to move forward. So those are awesome, really good ways that you can continue to work with your mind to know the difference between ego and witness mind, and you can really understand what those thoughts are telling you, what thoughts are valid and what thoughts are just fearful that you can let go of. All right, that is our episode for this week. We really hope that some of this information helps you to be more aware of your thoughts and deciding which ones can really help you move forward and which ones need to be released. Remember, work with your ego, form a positive relationship with it so that it can be there when you need it, but don't let it drive your bus. It cannot be in charge all the time, or even any of the time, and once we get that ego in a place that is a friend that helps us, then it's really going to help you move forward in the very best of ways.

Speaker 3:

Before we go, I do have one quick announcement. Rose that's me has put up a new website just this week and I am offering sessions a couple of days a week. So if you are interested in working with me, I am offering Reiki, akashic Records readings and intuitive card readings. So if you're interested in that, my website is linked in the notes. It is rose-marielocom and you can check that out there. If you want to work with Candice, her website is awakeningswithcandicecom and you can find her information there if you're interested in working with her. We love to work with clients and love sharing our knowledge and expertise, and it's such a joy, so check it out if you're interested. All right, everybody, we hope you have a great week. We will catch you next week. Bye.

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