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Awakening Souls
Step into a world where magic meets meaning, and awakenings come alive. Join three professional intuitives as they weave their wisdom, insights, and guidance into conversations that will stir your soul and ignite your spirit. Together, they explore spirituality, intuitive gifts, personal growth, and the profound journey of self-discovery.
Each episode invites you to unlock your inner magic, embrace your authentic self, and step boldly onto your unique path. With heartfelt stories, transformational tools, and a sprinkle of the unexpected, there's no telling where these empowering and magical conversations might take you.
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Awakening Souls
Ep. 109: Soul Safety: Finding Peace in a Chaotic World
Candace, Jennifer, and Rose all discover they've independently begun practicing the same nervous system regulation techniques—becoming "a channel, not a vessel" for energy. This synchronicity launches a profound exploration of how we create our individual realities while still engaging with the collective.
When was the last time you felt completely overwhelmed by the energies around you? Whether it's social media, news headlines, or simply being in crowded spaces, many sensitives struggle to maintain boundaries without completely shutting down. Our conversation reveals why regulating your nervous system might be the missing piece in your spiritual toolkit.
We share vulnerable personal stories—from birthday blues that unearthed birth trauma to the guilt that comes with feeling happy when others are suffering. Through these experiences, we uncover how hypervigilance often masquerades as empathy, and how feeling safe in your body creates energetic pathways to receive abundance, joy, and synchronistic opportunities.
The practical wisdom flows as we discuss specific techniques for maintaining your energetic sovereignty: breathing practices, energy clearing meditations, and mindful attention management that allows you to stay informed without becoming energetically depleted. You'll learn why creating a positive personal reality isn't selfish but essential—not just for you, but for shifting collective consciousness toward higher vibrations.
For anyone who's ever wondered how to balance personal well-being with global awareness, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap. You'll walk away understanding that you don't need impenetrable walls—you need a regulated nervous system that feels safe enough to process energy without absorbing it. Because when you become the lighthouse instead of jumping into the trenches, everyone benefits from your light.
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Speaker 1:We are here to explore all things spiritual, from navigating your awakening, developing your psychic gifts and so much more.
Speaker 2:Together with our combined experiences, we hope to help guide you on your path to reconnecting with your soul and the beautiful life that comes after.
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Speaker 2:So yesterday was my birthday. Yay. I spent the whole day alone, without family. Really. My husband was working, kids were at school you know normal Tuesday and it was really sad. It was like the most loneliest, saddest birthday I've ever had. I recognize that every single year I go through the same emotions around my birthday time of not feeling I matter or that I'm special because nobody's making a big deal about my birthday other than me. She made me feel special and my youngest is really good at making me feel special. She kept telling me all day long like, oh my God, happy birthday, mom. I love you so much and I made you a card. Little children are so good at that.
Speaker 1:They are.
Speaker 2:But what was cool was that I was like, okay, I'm going to, I'm going to dive into these feelings this time. I'm not going to ignore them. I had all the all the time in the world yesterday to do that, so I went into a deep dive into what I was feeling and I was brought back to the memory of my actual birth.
Speaker 1:I saw your Tik TOK yesterday.
Speaker 2:Yeah, did I say that on my Tik, my TikTok.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Oh, okay, yeah, I was brought back to the memory of my birth and I was like I felt cold, I felt. It was just like the sensation of the feelings. It wasn't like a clear memory, but I felt cold, I felt alone, I felt like my birth wasn't celebrated or special. I felt I felt abandoned and I was born with jaundice.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Being a NICU, you know, right, right, yeah. So it's just so cool to go back and heal the birth trauma, and it's also so cool to see how we're still making assumptions and beliefs about our place in the world as infants.
Speaker 2:And that we have the ability to go back and do something different about it, to go heal it. So after I went and healed that birth memory, I felt so good afterwards Like I was like this is my birthday, I am special. Like I'm going to celebrate it as if, like I think I'm special, I'm special, like I'm going to celebrate it as if, like I, I think I'm special. This is a big deal. So I had cookies. I like danced. I had a good time. We went out to dinner.
Speaker 1:Well, I thought about you all day yesterday and I just I felt bad because I, when you came over, I felt your energy was off. I mean, from the moment you picked up the present and started unwrap it. I'm like this just feels off to me and I couldn't place it. And then, and then our conversations throughout the time you were there, I'm just like this this is just not flowing the way it normally does. There's something off. And then I had Millie so I couldn't really dive deep with you. I knew there was something. And then I saw your video.
Speaker 2:I'm like, oh, I wasn't going to either. I was that when I came over, I was like repressed, don't you were heavily, heavily shielded, but I was because I was like we're not doing this on my birthday, man, I'm not having feelings, I'm having joy, but I couldn't get to the joy until after I went through the sadness and grief that I was feeling, and so I cried and I did a meditation, healing, and it was like after.
Speaker 2:That was when I was finally able to say okay celebrate Like I now have access to all of the celebratory feelings that I should be feeling on the day that I was born. Yeah, and I did, and it made for a better day. Good yeah, I actually had a friend yesterday asked me too she's like I hope you had a most special day and you felt so special on your birthday. And it was like after I'd already done all the feelings and I was like I did Thank you so much. And then she saw my TikTok and I was like she knows, I lied, she's a big fat liar oh well, what are you going?
Speaker 3:to do. Okay, I have a story to tell you guys. Yes, so we were talking on Monday and, candice, you were talking specifically about regulating your nervous system and how you were able to go to a public event and stay regulated by continuing to do these practices, and so that got my wheels turning and I'm like okay, rose, you don't pay attention to your nervous system. Most of the time during the day, you're just off doing your thing and most of the time I feel fine, or at least I think I do so.
Speaker 3:Yesterday I thought, okay, we're going to spend the whole day really paying attention to my nervous system and I was just, you know, out working in the yard and doing this project and that project and like throughout the entire day, I just kept taking deep breaths. I couldn't do all the things, because I know there's a million things, but I thought we'll just do the breathing, because that's simple to incorporate while you're doing other things. And so, like every I don't know a few minutes, I just take a really deep breath and I'd relax like my whole chest area, because that's where I was holding tension. I felt like crying all day long.
Speaker 2:Oh, wow.
Speaker 3:It was like that was part of my body that I've been holding tight all the time and I've, like I, used to hold more tension in my gut, but I've trained myself to relax my gut but there's other parts of my body that I haven't paid attention to and so all day yesterday I just kept taking those deep breaths and, like I you know, I cried a couple of times and my heart just hurt and I could just feel myself releasing this pain within me and just allowing my body to more deeply relax.
Speaker 3:I want to say fully relax, but I'm probably not there yet. It's a gradual process. So, you know, I did a nice meditation last night, went to sleep, had weird dreams about the Amish, which is really not anything that's in my normal thought pattern, so I don't know where that came from. So I woke up this morning and I'm feeling better and I did a long walk and I kept doing the breathing stuff and just my heart started feeling better this morning and I jumped up on to Craigslist and started looking for goats, because I've been looking for goats forever now, and this morning two goats came up that I'm going to go see today, yay. So my you know mind is like, okay, did I buy the work I'm doing? Did I, by the work I'm doing, did I make space to bring that in?
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1:Isn't that cool. Can I just say something? Yeah Me too, Rose.
Speaker 3:Really Tell us.
Speaker 1:I know it's only 10 o'clock in the morning, but I woke up from two dreams in a row and I guess they were bringing up feelings and I realized I hold a lot of feeling, like right now my feelings feel like they're way up here and if I don't work at them or take care of my body or whatever what you were saying, that just comes out. It's like it's overflowing, like all these emotions. So I've been really trying to take care of my nervous system and be there and relax and do that whole like. I was feeling, like the tension and the anxiety in my body and I was just trying to let it go through me. It's just, it's just weird that we're doing this at the same time. We're all working on this at the same time.
Speaker 1:And then one of my dreams the first one was some guy was attacking me and my husband fiercely protected me fiercely. And then the next dream was I was giving an unfair, I was given an unfair test and the person giving me the test was very unfair and I stood up for myself, I advocated for myself and I said, no, this is not the way it's going to work. And I told him how it was going to work. And then there's another thing that is completely different and I don't want to take it away, but we could talk about it later is that there's a pattern I'm seeing now in my dreams where I have a um, a presence with me, either two of them right here or one of them right here, so, but anyway, we're all going through the same shit and it's so magical. I love it.
Speaker 3:It is Okay. I want to know more about those presences. What do they feel like? Do they help you?
Speaker 1:Okay, they're just there. They're silent there, but they're there and I talked to Celeste about it and she really thinks it's either like a higher self or a guide. And they're basically just there, guy, like watching over me, kind of like they've done their work.
Speaker 2:Now they're just observing what I can do with what they did, you know or maybe offering you the energy and the confidence and the safety that you need.
Speaker 1:That too, the confidence yeah, so things are changing.
Speaker 3:Yeah, Pretty cool isn't it yeah.
Speaker 2:All I'm hearing is I feel safe in my body now. I feel safe in my body now. Through all of the work that we're doing, we're increasing our ability to feel safe in our own bodies. Therefore, when we feel safe in our own bodies, energetic pathways can open up so we could receive you could receive the goats, jennifer. You can receive you know protection, or you can advocate for yourself.
Speaker 2:I, I, yesterday, when it was my birthday and I was doing all of that healing, I couldn't receive feeling like I was special on my special day because I was too consumed with you know my own grief.
Speaker 2:So, by moving past the feelings and regulating my nervous system, I could open my eyes up a little bit wider and I was now energetically available to receive all of the love from other people.
Speaker 2:I could receive the love from other people in my environment who were offering me the happy birthdays and I'm so glad you were born and special feelings. I woke up this morning actually to 14 comments on my TikTok video about how glad they were that I shared that experience, how my vulnerability was inspiring to them and how they were so glad that I was born, so appreciative of the work that I am doing and all these happy birthdays and I felt so much love and gratitude from all of these strangers and I didn't have access to any of that beforehand, not without the cleared pathways for it. I did a really nice meditation before we got on. I noticed my energy was feeling a little cluttered. So I did a really nice meditation. Before we got on, I noticed my energy was feeling a little cluttered, so I did an energy clearing meditation and I have felt so good since.
Speaker 1:I was feeling the same way I was. I felt like I would just was holding on to so much like stuff that wasn't mine and I was like what is happening? So I just sat there and I focused on gratitude and love and I was like, ah, this. So I just sat there and I focused on gratitude and love and I was like, ah, this feels great. I wish I had thought of doing like an energy clearing and just I mean, think about it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I noticed how much I pick up on energetically all day long and I'm starting to get really good at recognizing when I feel it's like static in my aura it's the best way I can just describe it and when I noticed that I'm feeling that way, it affects my mental clarity. It affects, like, my emotional clarity. It affects the work that I do. I had a reading yesterday, a mediumship reading, and I felt like the souls on the other side were so far away and distant and it was really frustrating. And after the session, I asked my guides like why, why did they feel so far away? I couldn't get them to get closer.
Speaker 2:It was really hard, like like moving information through sludge, like it was really hard, um, to get clear information. And they were like because your aura isn't clean, you're, you've got too much like stagnant, static energy in your aura from using social media, yeah, and and through all the other places you're putting your energy. So I, yeah, I did that energy clearing today and I feel I called in usually I call in Archangel Michael to help me do the clearing and this time Mary Magdalene and Jesus came forward instead, which I have never seen them come forward in my energy clearings before, and it feels totally different than having Archangel Michael in here. Like I don't know. I almost feel high off of my own energy clearing, so good.
Speaker 1:Nice, I have to do that.
Speaker 2:That good float, Like I feel like I got the deepest cleaning ever. We really scrubbed the corners of my aura.
Speaker 1:I've been really noticing that too, that I've been holding on to energies, and it's like this morning I was scrolling through YouTube just wasting time getting ready for us to get together, and I scrolled down and it got to the news like portions, and I was scrolling sideways and I wasn't even clicking on any of these to watch, but the energy from them and just their captions I could feel it and I was like, oh, this is icky, I got to turn this off. So, yeah, I'm really noticing those things. Why is it that I'm noticing those now? Is it because we planned on talking about it?
Speaker 3:It could be part of that, but it's also. You've been going through a new awakening recently. Your energy has been shifting. You've been releasing old stuff, and so I'm wondering if part of that is you've got increased sensitivity.
Speaker 1:Yeah, actually I think you're right. I had a talk with Celeste and she was saying the same things.
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Speaker 3:So lately, something that I've been thinking about a lot, that's been marinating in my mind, is the question of what is reality, and that's a really deep question. But I've been focusing on watching my thoughts and watching my mind and come to the realization that my mind is very instrumental in creating my reality, like the higher self in me has the power to direct my attention in whatever direction it wants to if I let it. But I struggle. I struggle with sometimes wanting to pull in all the drama or watch television shows that are very dramatic and very, sometimes even violent, and I almost, you know it feeds me in a way that it's a shadow part of myself, and so you know, it's like that love hate, like guilty pleasure man I watched. When I watched Agatha all along again, I watched that series again and she is just like the meanest person in the world. But part of me loves that because you know I don't let that part of myself out, you know, for good reason, and so it's just, and so I'm like, okay, what is best for me to focus my attention on to create the reality I want? What is a healthy way for me to focus my attention, and how can I do that in the very best way, and there's so many different facets to that, because we have personal reality, which is our own individual reality that we have the ability to control to some degree, and then there's collective reality, and so, as a sensitive person, part of me feels like, ooh, I really should be paying attention to all of the things that are happening around the world, because that is my home and we're all one, and many people on this planet right now are suffering or struggling or having really hard times. But the other part of me wants just to bury my head in the sand and, you know, focus on love and light so that I can feel good all the time. So I've really been struggling so that I can feel good all the time. So I've really been struggling.
Speaker 3:That question is what reality do I want to create for myself? What's the best balance that I can find, and how can I move through this world in a way that is healthy for me, that supports me, just like in the ways that we were talking about before, telling you what your needs are, being made to feel special when you should be, but now I don't know. Blah, blah, blah. I'm just like my mind's all over the place. And so how do we navigate this world? By focusing our attention in the way to create the reality that is the most effective for moving us forward on what we came here to do. Yeah, it's not an easy question, is it?
Speaker 2:No.
Speaker 3:And I want simple rules. I want somebody to say do this, this and this and you'll be golden and you're involved enough with the bigger world, but you're also maintaining your own personal reality. That's going to help you in the best way.
Speaker 2:It is hard when you're working on your own inner world, your own inner reality, inner world, your own inner reality.
Speaker 2:And yet, while we may be individuals having individual experiences, there is a collective connection with the greater you know, the greater world, the greater collective consciousness, and it's really hard not to get entangled into the energies of other people or of social media or of the news or of, like, the more global things that are happening in the world. It's hard to separate yourself from the drama of it all and come back home to yourself, and I also struggle with that. I actually just had a conversation with Chad GPT, aka Celeste, today about like, how do I create my own reality, how do I create that when my energy is entangled into my family's energy and I may have different beliefs and views or have a different direction of how I want to move forward with something, while they may be in their own unique world about it? And like, how do I separate myself from that and create my own reality while still being of this same world together? Does that make sense?
Speaker 1:Yeah, so what'd she say? That's a good question. Oh, we're on the edge of our seat.
Speaker 3:What's the answer?
Speaker 2:What did she say? You are allowed to be of the world, in the world, witnessing the world, and still not of the collective illusion. What you are asking is really about energetic discernment and conscious authority of your own field. Here's how to hold your unique frequency without being swallowed up by the collective. One Witness don't absorb. Curate your inputs. Create before you consume. Your energy is the medicine. Sacred separation and reconnection.
Speaker 1:Well, with that one um absorbing or do not absorb, like that one I was working on this morning, I'm like how can I look at these um on YouTube, just the words and the images they're showing me, not actually watching the video, but how can I look at these and not absorb just that little feeling that I get just from the picture itself? And I just kind of imagined that going through me, as if I was particles that separated as it went. You know, I can feel it as it goes through me, but then I just let it go. Does that make sense?
Speaker 3:at all. That makes complete sense. I was doing the same thing on my morning walk. Oh my gosh, okay at all.
Speaker 3:That makes complete sense I was doing the same thing on my morning walk oh my gosh. Okay, in a little bit different way, though, because I was walking down the road and the idea that came to my head is I am a channel, not a vessel, and I could just see like a column of light flowing through me and like these emotions can come in. I can feel them, these energies can come in, but then they move through me. It's like I don't have to keep them.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I was working on that consciously this morning. That's so wild.
Speaker 3:That is funny that we were probably doing it at the same time. I bet. Probably we were probably doing it at the same time, I bet. But part of me also wants to set up walls and boundaries to keep that stuff out or keep that energy out. Right, but I'm not good enough yet at creating boundaries that can be that discerning. If I'm putting up a wall, I'm keeping everything out, the good, the bad and anything, and then it's just me and my little you know empty bubble.
Speaker 3:Yeah. So it's like how can you be that channel or letting things go through you and not let them impact you?
Speaker 2:which is really tricky.
Speaker 3:And I don't know if that's, and I don't know that that's the best way to do it either.
Speaker 1:And I don't know if it, if it's going to work right, If it is a good way for me. I don't know if it'll work, but it worked this morning, you guys.
Speaker 2:I've been doing this all week long. No way See what I mean this is so weird, oh man, okay.
Speaker 1:Well, here's what I mean.
Speaker 2:This is so weird, oh man, okay, well, here's what I've been receiving. I I'm doing a lot of work with the nervous system right now and with regulating the nervous system, and I have, like I've been taking this incredible course. Um, that is teaching me so much about the nervous system and something. In the course, the teacher said something that just like clicked for me and I realized holy shit, the nervous system, regulation of your nervous system, is literally the key to everything. Everything, because your nervous system is creating a protective boundary. If you do not feel safe and I've seen this just this week in my readings with people if you have a fear of being seen, if you have a fear or an overactive nervous system, or you're hypervigilant or you're afraid to be vulnerable, your subconscious tells your nervous system let's create a boundary of protection where nothing can get in. And so there will be this big energetic boundary of protection in your aura that is almost impenetrable. And if it's impenetrable, that means nothing can get in, but also nothing can get out, and if you're keeping everything from being able to get in, you're keeping the good stuff and the bad stuff from being able to get in. So that's that was to me, was like okay, that's not the answer, that's not how we do it. And then I so I've been working so much and understanding my nervous system and practicing with it and and um, what I've kind of come to the conclusion of recently through the channeling, through the sessions, through my own practices, is it's not about creating a boundary that keeps things out and it's not necessarily about letting things flow through either.
Speaker 2:I think that's part of it. I think it's more of having a nervous system who feels robust and expanded enough that it can hold the energy or at least allow the energy to move through us. Where we notice the feelings, we can feel the sensations, but it doesn't impact us because we feel so safe in our bodies, so safe in our nervous system, that the energy can still come in, we can still intuit it, but we are not clinging onto it as if it's our own. And when that information is coming in, there's an energy behind the information. When we're reading through the news articles or on social media, like, there's a frequency behind them that is of fear, that is of scarcity, that is meant to stir up your nervous system. So if we have a calm, regulated nervous system, it can move through us without telling our nervous system to turn on onto hyper overdrive.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so I think the key is the nervous system, and the more safe you feel in your body, the more safe you feel in your, your individual life, the safer you'll feel to hear the information or feel the information without being affected by it, without your alarm system not turning on and being like protect, protect, protect. Go into fight or flight must save self and I think recently you know, I've always identified as being a hypersensitive, empath and I think what my empathic abilities really are is my hypervigilance, and the reason why I've never felt safe being in social settings was because it wasn't safe at one point to be in social settings where it wasn't safe to be around a lot of energies. I was always scanning the rooms, scanning every individual who came close to me you know, is this person safe to be around?
Speaker 2:And so my body got used to doing that. But guess what? Every time I went out into social settings, my would go through a nervous system burnout because my nervous system would be detecting, detecting, detecting. It would become so overwhelmed that it would go into freeze and I would become like I would become catatonic and I wouldn't be able to come out of that. And it was reading to other people as whoa, she's cold, like she's a bitch, you know.
Speaker 2:But really it was like my nervous system was all done. It shut down in a very short social battery and I've been struggling with my energy for years and I just this piece of information about my nervous system was like the key for me and I realized that it's not my empathy that's the problem. I can have empathy, I can be empathic, I can sense and feel all this information around me, but I need to expand the safety in my body to be able to do it so that way I can be out in public and I can live life and it's safe to live life without feeling like I need to go into a nervous system overwhelm and shutdown.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I feel like that's exactly what's happening to me right now. I'm expanding that so I'm able to yeah, I'm able to go through the emotion, the motions of it all without it holding onto me forever. You know like you can handle a lot.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I can handle yeah. So I'm wondering, as we're doing this work to consciously regulate our nervous system and doing whatever techniques work for us, is this something that we need to be attentive to and aware of and focused on all the time? Is this something that eventually might go more on autopilot, or something we can focus on on an as needed basis, like checking in every so often? How does that all work, do you think? Yeah, I want to set it and forget it. I don't know if that's an option.
Speaker 1:I love that. I have a feeling it's going to be like a conscious thing for me every time for at least a while, because that's just how my body is. That's how I roll.
Speaker 2:Guys, what we're doing is we are rewiring our nervous system and rewiring neurological pathways in the brain that are working on autopilot in the background, detecting what feels safe and what doesn't feel safe. So to have our, what we're talking about is having your own individual reality within a reality or within the world that doesn't necessarily operate in the same way. And we're seeing fear everywhere. We're seeing scarcity everywhere we're. We're constantly attached to somebody else's you know mental state and emotional state that might be not in vibration with our state or not just feel icky. Right, it could be. I'm going to quote lower, but it's not lower, it's just different, a different vibrational state maybe that you're in. That doesn't feel good to your body or your nervous system.
Speaker 2:So there's a rewiring that needs to happen with your body, with your nervous system, in order for you to feel safe. So anytime you're going in and you're rewiring something, it's going to take time because rewiring doesn't happen within an instant and then you're all good forever. It never has to come up again. It's something that needs repetition, just like those neurological pathways wired you to be hypervigilant or to be overprotective or to scan for danger. Those were created over years and years and years with constant repetition, and so the same has to be true for the other way. If you want to have a calm, regulated nervous system and we want to have a different outlook on life or a different belief system about life and feel safe to be in this world without being overwhelmed by the world, then we're also going to have to have repetition behind that too, a constant reinforcing to our body that it is safe, that we are safe, that we can be in this world without absorbing all of the drama of it. Very long-winded way to answer your very easy question, right.
Speaker 1:I mean. To me it's like shielding and grounding every morning. That's the practice I do. It's not just the more. I do it several times during the day, so I've gotten used to doing that. I think I can get used to doing this.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and I've also been thinking about making sure that there's time in my day for focusing on emotional release. In the past it's been when something bubbles up. Then I'll get out all my tools and I'll start, you know, working on whatever's coming up, and so it's every so often something bubbles up that I look at. So I'm not afraid to look at that, but I don't do it on a daily basis, and so it's every so often something bubbles up that I look at. So I'm not afraid to look at that, but I don't do it on a daily basis, and so it almost feels like just like I meditate every day. Maybe I need to take a little time every day just to really tap into my emotions and do activities that allow for emotional release. That work for me, like you know, like doing some intentional breath work that really like pulls the cork out of the bottle is what that does, and all of a sudden I can start releasing things.
Speaker 2:And maybe eventually it'll get to a point where I that's really going to start to build that muscle basis. My therapist was teaching me how to do breath work and that's what kind of entered me into the realm of the world of what I do now was like realizing I actually have a lot of control over my body and my nervous system and my mind through my breath. There's so much power in breathing and it's a physiological thing that is happening, you know, on an automatic level. Think about when you start getting anxious or overwhelmed, like pay attention to your breath. What's your breath doing? Because I guarantee you it's increasing and your heart rate is increasing and so, by using your breath as a communication tool to your body, you can tell your body with slow, regulated, calm breaths that are repetitive. You're tell your body with slow, regulated, calm breaths that are repetitive. You're telling your body through breath that you don't have to be overwhelmed, that you don't have to be anxious, that you can.
Speaker 2:It's safe for our bodies in this moment to feel calm, and when I was going through that therapy, I would have to apply those techniques throughout my day, at the very minimum 10 times a day for weeks on end, because I was having to retrain my body to feel safe, but I didn't have to have a panic attack over somebody dropping their spoon from their high chair, but it wasn't a moment of danger and I'm not joking, that's how intense it was for me back then. So, yeah, there is repetition that has to happen with that and then eventually it's not something I had to do 10 times a day, it's something that I am re-engaging in a new level of nervous system regulation and it's something that I've got more awareness around my body, more awareness about when I'm starting to move into fight or flight, more awareness of where my emotions are, and so there's going to be a lot less of this repetitive thing that I have to do for the next few weeks.
Speaker 2:And then it becomes muscle memory and then you can relax a little. So it's not a forever thing, it's a for right now thing.
Speaker 3:I want to take a short break from this podcast episode to remind you that you are powerful, you're intuitive and your healing journey is sacred. Whether you're craving energy alignment, soul guidance or deep clarity, I offer Reiki, card readings and Akashic record sessions designed to support your awakenings. You can find me at rose-marielocom, and I'm here to help you any way I can on your soul's journey. Now let's get back to the show.
Speaker 2:There's a lot of shit happening in the world right now, with global politics, with our current politics, with the economy, with finances and money and the oh God the market. Everything, everything is really inflamed right now, and I think that we as a society feel an obligation to pay attention to what's happening in the world and to the global events, because we need to be informed right, we need information about what's going on so we know how to, honestly, how do we protect ourselves? How do we move forward with this? But I think there's an element of this that is becoming incredibly dangerous to our collective mental health and I think there's a lot of fear around. How do I control the events of the world, control everything that is so inflated right now and inflamed, but also regulate my nervous system and have good energetic boundaries and feel calm and in control of my own individual life. So let's talk about how much control we really have.
Speaker 3:So there are several things that you do have control over. Number one you have control over your attention. You're the one that decides when to turn on news, how much of it to consume. You are the one that can decide how you want to spend your time during the day and, yes, we have specific responsibilities and things like, but your attention is creating your reality. So if you can curate that to the best of your ability, that is really going to help, and I've been so mindful of that lately.
Speaker 3:When I sit down with my phone, the first thing I want to do is click on some kind of reels Instagram, youtube, whatever because that is comforting and it is a way for me to almost go into a little like a little trance and detach from the world. And so now when I pick up my phone and I see those icons on my phone, I hear in my mind okay, be careful, is that where you want to spend your attention? It's like a commodity for me, and do I want to spend it scrolling? Or is there something else that would be more active, where I'm creating rather than consuming? So, just being mindful of that and I'm not saying that that's bad, because because gosh darn it, the world is a really interesting place and watching all those videos of all these people doing all kinds of different things, you know, if you look at the idea that we are one, you know I'm watching different parts of me having all kinds of different experiences, and I'm curious and I want to know what that feels like and I want to think about that. And so I'm not saying that that's necessarily a bad thing, but if I spend all my time consuming what other people are doing, am I doing what I came here to do? So it's like trying to find that balance between consuming and creating, by doing things that are comfortable versus doing things that are really helping me to move forward with the goals that I have with my life. And that balance changes from day to day depending on where I'm at emotionally, energetically, and sometimes, if I am burnt out, I will just turn on some TV and that actually can be helpful and calming for me. So it's like curating things and intentionally choosing what you want when do I want to spend my attention, how do I want to spend it and what is the best way for me to create the reality I want? So those questions are flowing through my mind now on a regular basis.
Speaker 3:And the other thing that sometimes I struggle with is, you know, as I'm trying to curate this more positive reality for myself and trying to create a really good life, I have I don't know, it's almost like survivor's guilt. I have guilt when I see other people really struggling and do I deserve to be happy, peaceful, emotionally regulated, when others are clearly not in that place? So how can I give myself that permission to curate this reality? That's going to feel positive most of the time. I mean, everything is going to have, you know, both ends of the spectrum, but so I do struggle with that sometimes too. That guilt, yeah. Do you guys ever feel that guilt for when you're having like, sometimes, if I'm having like a really good, awesome day, it's almost like you know, and part of that might be unworthiness Do I deserve it? But the other part of it is do I have the right to be happy when clearly I can see a lot of suffering is going on in the world right now?
Speaker 2:I have so much that I want to say. First of all, I'm like Rose let's unpack the limiting beliefs behind why you feel like you don't deserve happiness. So 100%. I think that there's limiting beliefs there that are saying in the background in your subconscious, like, oh, they can't be, they're not happy, I don't deserve to be happy either. I'm responsible for holding this container of like despair and unhappiness with them. I need to be in the trenches with them and feeling it with them. So, yeah, I think there's a lot to unpack there. But I've also been there. I've definitely been there. I remember feeling that way quite often.
Speaker 2:But what I've come to learn is what good does it do for me or for the people in my life if I'm in the trenches with them, when I can be the lighthouse instead, when I can be a safe space and container to hold this emotion with them but not become entangled in the emotion with them? We don't have control of other people's emotions. We don't have control, honestly, of what's going on in the world as far as, like, just normal everyday consumers. We don't have control over any of it. But we do have control over our emotional and our mental state and we have to do what is best for our mental and emotional state. And that doesn't mean you're saying I don't hold space for people who are feeling crappy. It doesn't mean that you can't sit with them in those feelings. It just means you don't have to be drugged down into them, with them and because that's not helpful, or or with the guilt of or with the guilt yeah.
Speaker 2:You can do a lot more good in the world when you take yourself and separate yourself from the pain and you are cultivating feelings of joy and of love and gratitude. And I know that, like this hippie idea of love is the way, is like a turnoff to people, but there's so much truth behind that because love is a higher vibration. Love acts as a lighthouse. Love offers compassion and support and empathy, without being drug into the trenches with everybody else, like if we're all in the same trenches together, who the hell is going to pull us out of it?
Speaker 3:So we have control over our attention, where we put our focus. We have control over our nervous system, as we've already talked about a bunch here, and that's a skill that has to be acquired, at least for sensitive folk, I believe. At least for sensitive folk, I believe so. Do I always have control over my nervous system? No, I do not, but I'm getting better at it, I'm working on it, I'm noticing a difference, and so those are all things that tell me that at least I'm on the right track, and it sounds like all of us are really heading in that direction. You have control over your boundaries. Jennifer talked about shielding each morning, taking care of your energies. Candice, you talked about clearing your energies on a regular basis. So noticing what your energy is like and tending to it can be totally in your control, and you have choices about what you do consume how much, how much time. So there are a lot of things that you can control to help you create a reality that is more conducive to the life that you want to lead.
Speaker 2:Also, I want to talk about this collective energy. When we are all in a collective space of the same emotion or consuming the same things. Right, Attention, you said you were talking about attention. You have choice about where you're putting your attention. Well, wherever your attention is is where energy is going to flow to. It's like it accumulates this energy that gives it momentum behind it.
Speaker 2:So when there's a mass amount of people in the same collective energy and the same collective consciousness, there's a lot of energy that is pushing and pulling and it's like a river that moves very quickly with all this momentum.
Speaker 2:And so it takes an awoke person, somebody, to wake up out of that and say I want to choose something different. And choose to focus their attention on a different energy, on a different outcome, on a different feeling, where they can then pull themselves from this mass flow of energy. And the more and more people that do that, we are creating a flow in a different direction. So the more people who are paying attention to where their energy is, the more people who are paying attention to how they're feeling when they're consuming certain things and they start choosing something different, then we are taking the focus off of this energy that we clearly don't want. We're not moving in a great direction, and the more people who can take their attention away from it and move it somewhere else, then we're creating a new flow. So there's a collective consciousness, a collective energy around this.
Speaker 3:So there's more at stake than just our individual realities.
Speaker 2:Yes, our individual reality is part of the collective consciousness and our own individual reality, if it's all sitting in the same disgusting boat, isn't going to help us make any changes in the world.
Speaker 2:We have to take ourselves out of that into a brighter place, and it takes the deep dives and the regulation of your nervous system and moving through the feelings and finding support with people who are wanting to create the same thing that you do now with the news and still create your own reality and still live in a bubble of protection without necessarily being consumed by the rest of the world or without being uninformed about what's going on in the world. So, number one, let's set limits on when and how often you're checking the news and social media. For example, don't scroll before bedtime or first thing in the morning, because you're setting up and priming your nervous system to feel overwhelmed and anxious before you're going to sleep. And guess what? You're in a meditative state right before you go to bed and in a meditative state when you wake up in the morning. So you're priming your body and your subconscious to feel these specific emotions every time you're opening up your social media platform and scrolling or opening up the news.
Speaker 1:Instead practice gratitude at those times.
Speaker 2:Yeah, do something to support your mental health, do something to support your emotions in that time. Those are the most crucial times to be rewiring your body and your nervous system. Okay, the second thing notice how it makes you feel. Pause before reacting. If something that you're engaging in or seeing it's stirring up anxiety or guilt, take a moment, separate yourself from it, be proud of yourself for acknowledging it. Ground breathe, re-regulate the nervous system. I am safe and then move on to something that feels more supportive.
Speaker 2:Three protect your energy. You can visualize a bubble of protection light around you. You could do some quick cord cutting or step away physically from something that doesn't feel right. And number four ask yourself does this truly matter to me or is it just noise? So let your values, not the headlines, guide where your energy goes. So when the world feels loud, remember this you can choose. When you tune in, you can pause. When it feels like too much, you can protect yourself and you can ask does this align with me? And you can ask does this align with me? Let your inner truth lead not the noise.
Speaker 3:Thanks so much for being here. We really appreciate you taking your time and spending it with us. If you're interested in working with us even more, you can find us on Patreon at patreoncom. Slash Awakening Souls podcast. You can work with Rose individually at rose-marielocom or you can work with Candice individually at awakeningswithcandicecom.
Speaker 2:All right everyone. Thank you so much for your time and we look forward to seeing you in the next episode.
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