You CHOOSE your energy - and your life responds!

In this transformative episode, I invite you to explore the power of defining your own core energies. Drawing inspiration from Daniela Porte’s Fire Starters, I reveal how the energy you choose to embody can shape your life.

 Rather than following a preset formula, I encourages you to discover and select the unique qualities—be it magnetism, impact, joy, or any other energy—that resonate with your authentic self. 

Listen in for personal stories, actionable insights, and a fresh perspective on how aligning with your chosen energies can attract the right opportunities and elevate your everyday experience.

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[00:00:00] Hello, my loves. Welcome back to my podcast. I hope you are having a fantastic day. So today we are going to talk about something that I am learning at the moment. So I know we talk about this a lot, but my human design is a one slash four, which is essentially called the omniscient teacher. And what that means in very simplistic terms is that I learn things.

I filter through what I feel is important. And then I get to share them with people and that's my actual human design. So that's often why you'll hear me kind of go, Hey, um, I'm learning this and I want to share it with you. So at the moment I'm listening to an incredible audio book. It's called fire starters by Daniela Porte and the chapter that I'm up to.

I think it's like chapter 28 has really, really, the whole thing has resonated with me. It's essentially a book that has stopped me in my tracks quite a few times. And I've actually had to stop walking when I'm out walking and be like, Whoa. It's just been so powerful. And chapter 28, I think it is [00:01:00] that I'm in now is about the energy that we choose to embody.

So a lot of Danielle's work is around, I've got to bring her on the podcast one day, actually. She's been so life changing for me, but. One of like a lot of her work is around the emotions that we choose to feel and the energy that that brings to our body and the energy we start to embody from that and then the actions and the realities that we attract.

So it's, you know, it's not a nonsensical, whimsical, like, Oh, be happy and attract happy experiences. But it's kind of like when we choose a certain energy or emotion, we do call more of that in our life. One, because of the way that we behave and show up to, because of the energy that we put out there, three, because of who we kind of surround ourself with, and four, because of the magical properties around that as well, you know, the law of attraction.

So in this episode, um, or in this chapter, she talks about choosing three primary energies that you wish to embody. Okay. And that sounds really [00:02:00] fucking simple, but it's actually harder than I thought it might be. And one of the reasons why I found it. Harder than I thought it might be was because I wanted to really make sure that I chose the right energies to embody.

It's really important to me that I'm making clever choices and choices that I can stick to because how we show up is everything. The energy that we choose to embody is literally everything. So when I sat with it last night, the two words that came to me straight away were powerful and magnetic. And one of the reasons that magnetic came through was because when I think of magnetism, I think of showing up fully as me.

I think of ease. So you know, the things that are right for us, they come through for us much more easily than the things that are wrong for us. So it's kind of alignment. Magnetic means that I'm Instantly and effortlessly, I guess, attracting the right people into my world, whether that be coaches that I want to work with, whether that be health [00:03:00] professionals that, you know, for our family, whether that be my own clients, that magnetic woman is in alignment, right?

And I guess if I could say I'm attracting aligned energy, what that does to my mind is makes me go like, am I in alignment? Am I not in alignment? Blah, blah, blah. But when I'm like magnetic, it's like, Oh yeah, like I'm a magnet and things just come to me. They just magnetize towards me. Effortlessly, right?

And when I sit in the energy of magnetism, I go, okay, yeah, I back myself. I'm confident. I am drawing in, attracting towards me, pulling towards me the right experiences. And what that does is just helps me kind of sit in this energy of exuding confidence and just trusting and knowing that the right opportunities are going to move towards me.

So that was a pretty simple one. Like that word was like, just, just, you know, locked in straight away. [00:04:00] And the other thing that Danielle pushes people to do is have a look at the definition of the word, if you're struggling to work out what your words are and you know, a lot of words, we think it might be one thing.

And then as we lean into that, we're like, that's not actually right. Okay. So let me tell you the definition of magnetic. And I'm like, fuck you up. Yep. That's what I want to be possessing an irresistible charm or a lure, naturally drawing people opportunities and energy towards oneself. Yes. Thank you. That makes me feel really excited.

Yeah. And it makes me, you know, and if I feel magnetic, then I'm going to get up and I'm going to put an outfit on and do my hair. I'm going to feel better, which means I'm going to show up better, which changes everything. The other word that came up for me was powerful. And I sat with, and I was like, Oh yeah, I want to feel powerful.

I want to feel in control. I want to feel. And then I was like, the next day I was kind of like, And normally, you know me, I rush into things. Yep. My words. I sat with it. Like I lent into this last night and then I sat with it and I went to the beach this morning with the dogs [00:05:00] and I was like, Hmm, what are my words?

What are my words? And joyous was another word that came through. And I was like, yeah, definitely. Because I found joy in just running through the water with my dogs this morning. And I know that my joy adds to my magnetism and how I show up in life and how I feel and all the things. Um, and I went back to powerful and I Power feels a bit controlling and I certainly don't want to be in that energy anymore.

That's why then I thought impactful. I'm like, yes! Love. And then I said, chat GPT, because I love chat GPT. That's my, my God, where's my voice gone? Hang on.

I've got some stories to tell you about the throat chakra and the being seen. And I feel like maybe that's coming through a little bit here. Um, so I said to chat GPT, so I'm an Aquarius moon, I love technology. And I was like, you know, voice noting, chat GPT, hands free. And I said, can you [00:06:00] please bring up the meanings of these words for me?

Powerful, impactful, joyous, and magnetic. And so the definition of power is having great strength, influence, or control capable of producing a strong effect or commanding attention. And I thought, Oh, that feels really. What's the word? It feels really, uh, dry to me, masculine, um, controlling, right? So then I felt impactful, having a significant or profound effect, making a deep impression or influence on people, situations, or the world.

And I was like, fucking, yeah, why is my throat dropping out now? I do not know. Anyway. And it feels energetic. It doesn't feel like a healthy and strange. So for me, that word a hundred percent impactful, it's not a [00:07:00] sexy word. The word impactful feels kind of like, whereas power field feels like, Ooh, yeah. But when I look into the meaning of impactful, it's like, When I look into, I guess the energetics behind powerful, we know that power can be misconstrued.

And I don't think that anyone is more powerful than another. And I certainly don't want to have power over people, but do I want to impact people 100 fucking percent? I want to have deep impact in this world. So I crossed out powerful and I wrote. Impactful, right? Impactful. And then I was like, okay, joyous.

Is this a good word for me? Is this a good anchor energy for me? And there's literal science between why we choose three, right? We need to make it simple. We need to keep it. Potent and simple if we have five or six, you know, and, and having three, it really helps us to really solidify and redefine what it means to us.

Joyous feeling, feeling or expressing great happiness, delight, or a [00:08:00] sense of celebration or fulfillment. And I sat with that and I was like, but I'm so here for all parts of life. And I'm so here for the depth and all the things as well. Um, So I didn't know whether I guess joyous was too shallow or bypassy, right?

And I sat with that and I was like, then I thought maybe it could be fulfilled or vibrant or peaceful. And we know joyous, right? Because we can find joy in such little fucking moments and having a core energy of joy. Doesn't mean that I'm like, Oh yeah. Hi, today's a great day. Like all day, every day, the opposite babes, the opposite of that.

Um, joy is the energy that I want to lead with knowing that it coexists with my depth and complexity. There is so much depth in my chart. Like my whole chart in Chinese astrology is like [00:09:00] water. It's like the depths of the ocean, you know, and. That's a lot. It's a lot to hold sometimes. So the energy that I want to lead with, the energies that I want to lead with are joy.

Being magnetic and having impact. And I look at that and I go, fuck yeah. Cause you know, we talk a lot about values and we talk a lot about, you know, pillars and what's important to us. And then it's like, okay, what energy are you choosing to embody from this day forward? Because the energy we choose to embody is the energy that we become.

And can you feel the shift in like. Powerful. It's like a bit ego. It's a bit egotistical. It's a bit controlling. It's a bit me over you, right? Impactful. It's like, you know, when I think of powerful, I think, Oh, I need to grow my audience. Oh, I need to reach more people. I need to, when I think impactful, I go, fuck.

If one person [00:10:00] listens to this podcast today. I am being impactful if I can show up for my nieces and nephews and like give them beautiful experiences or different ways of thinking and I'm being impactful. If I can be there for a friend, I'm being impactful. But yes, there's other ways that I want to, you know, scale my impact to this bigger scale and the same with magnetic and joyous.

It's like, I know. So authenticity, you know, really wanted to weave its way into my three core energy pillars. Right. But to me, To be magnetic means you must be authentic, like authenticity and magnetism fucking straight in the same, the same way. But for me to lead with authenticity, what comes with that is that some people won't like me and that's okay, right?

It's great, cool. But for me, magnetism is like, Fuck, fuck those people that don't like me. I'm calling in the right ones. I'm calling in the right opportunities. I'm [00:11:00] calling in the right clients instead of just, I'm just going to be me and some will like me and some will hate me. That really leaves a lot of room for like, Oh, but what about the ones that hate me?

What if, what about if too many people don't like me? And what about if my friends decide they don't like me and all of that kind of. You know, we all have my cats just snuggled on a blanket next to the computer and my God to be a cat right to be a cat and joyous doesn't, you know. I feel like once upon a time, the word joyous would have just given me the absolute ick.

But now I'm like, no, fuck it. Like how good is it to celebrate the small fun things? You know, the, the running along the beach with my dogs and having a giggle, the noticing my cat snuggled in the blanket and just turning upside down and they do that little donut kind of thing. You know, like my magpies that come and eat some ham out the front of my house or the flowers that are blooming when I walk in my front door.

That doesn't mean that I walk in my front door and go, Oh, everything's so perfect. And there's nothing in my yard that needs to be maintained. And [00:12:00] my kids are not fighting and everything is so great. No, it just means I'm like, fuck me. We've got to do all this stuff out here. And Oh, look at the pretty flower.

That's made me happy. Right? It's not bypassing. It's like, Hey, notice the good shit too, babe. Right? Because we're always going to notice the other stuff. So they are my three energy pillars, I guess to go deeper on this exercise. You know, um, there is an element of this is like, okay, what are 10 things to achieve or accomplish that really solidified those core energy pillars for me.

Right. And that was a really fucking actual hard message for me to create. Right. But one of those is a retreat. Boom, bam, impactful, joyous, magnetic, call the right people in. It's gotta, it's gotta go out. It's gotta happen. Gotta make it fuckin happen. Done them before, don't know what's holding me back now.

I mean, I do know what's holding me back now. It was a chaotic year last year, but. Rejection sensitivity, blalalala. The more I step into my authentic [00:13:00] self and my, um My sensitivities. I feel like this last 12 months, I've really, really ramped up my sensitivities as my superpowers. And what that means is that they are more present.

And so my sensitivities are my superpowers. My emotions are my superpowers because that is my primary way of spirit communicating with me. And it's the way that I'm so present here in life, but it also means that some of the negative ish. I don't really like calling, you know, emotions negative or not, but some things like sensitivity and stuff is kind of back with a vengeance.

Like I learned how to, how to curb my rejection sensitivity by being really ballsy and being like, fuck it. And now I'm like on that other side of like, I want to feel everything. It's like it holding me back a little bit. Anyway, anyway, I'm going to grow my podcast audience, right? Because I fucking know that listening to people like people listening to this kind of stuff [00:14:00] plants a seed that might not make a change today, but it continues to make a change.

Um, there's a few other little things on here. I want to host a live like masterclass. audience type thing. There's so many things I want to do, but I've created a list. And then it's like, right, what are three things that I can do today to help me feel magnetic, impactful, and joyous? Right? So speaking my truth, here we are, here we are, the motherfuckers we're here, you know, posting on my Instagram, sending an email, like speaking my truth, right?

Moving my body in a way that feels central or powerful, like dancing, stretching. I went to heels class last night. First dance class in 20 years. So much fun. So fucking stretchy as in uncomfortable for a while, but then just lent into it and had an amazing time engaging deeply in something that lights me up, whether it's a project, a deep conversation, something that makes me feel alive.

Those three things are hitting all three pillars, right? And I know that living in my joy and having impactful conversations makes me magnetic. I [00:15:00] know that living in my joy and, you know, finding that magnetism. Is impactful for other people. These three kind of go around in circles, which I really love as well.

And then you can go deeper and you can be like, right, how can I cultivate more of this in my life? What kind of rituals can I bring forward that ignite more of this within me? Because this is how we become the woman we want to become. We go, Oh, what is the energy I want to embody? Not I'll feel magnetic when I'm skinny or when my hair does what it's told, or when I've done my makeup or I've got a nice outfit or, you know, we, we can choose to film.

I'm sitting here, my babes. I wish you could see me. I'm sitting here with wet hair. In my dressing gown, talking to you. With eyebrows that really need a wax, which we'll be taking care of, but I know that I could be magnetic despite that, but because I'm choosing to embody some more magnetic energy, I actually feel really motivated to go and do my hair [00:16:00] shortly and get dressed and wear something cute because it, it evokes that energy within me.

Same as joy. Like I woke up this morning, I was worried about a few things. And then I went and I went for a swim and I played with my doggos and I found ways to. You know, bring that joy forward and impact. It's like, right, I've got to, I've got to make an impact today. I wake up with that fire in my belly every single fucking day, but I just wanted to really deeply share this with you because I thought, how often do we hold off being or embodying a certain type of energy because we believe we're not worthy of it or our circumstances will not allow it bullshit.

You can find it anywhere. I would love to hear what your three. Energy components are that you settle on. And I say settle with settles a yucky word, decide on confirm dial in. I want to know, let me know. Let's chat. Have a beautiful day. My [00:17:00] loves.