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Being Stuck

• Tommy Heitz II • Episode 71

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Ever felt like you're just spinning your wheels without making any real progress? I, Tommy Heitz, totally get it. On this episode of the Observation Station, we tackle the all-too-familiar feeling of being stuck and how to break free from it. You'll laugh along with my childhood tales of outlandish class presidential promises while we unpack the absurdity and challenges life throws our way. With the pandemic offering a rare window into self-reflection, we’ll also talk about reevaluating the company you keep, spotting unproductive habits, and why solid advice from trusted sources is worth its weight in gold. By the end of this journey, you’ll be ready to ditch the pity party and gear up for some real, actionable self-improvement.

Think of your personal growth like a plant that craves sunlight, water, and nutrients. Just as plants thrive under the right conditions, this segment emphasizes the essentials of physical health, proper nutrition, and the pitfalls of poor dietary choices. It's not just about food, though—we dive deep into the mindset shift needed to turn minor inconveniences into laughable moments and the importance of self-accountability. And let's not forget genuine mentorship; we'll discuss making decisions based on your own convictions rather than blindly following others. Get ready for a refreshing outlook on how to nurture your growth, hold yourself accountable, and live a more fulfilling life.

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Speaker 1:

Do you ever lift your head up from your phone, look around and think to yourself my God, everything is weird. Well, we do A lot. This is the Observation Station, a unique, entertaining and hilarious podcast. If we observe it, we talk about it. Anything and everything, anything and everything, anything and everything. Let's get weird and let's have some fun. This is the Observation Station, and now your host Tommy Heights.

Speaker 2:

Hey, hey, hey. What's going on everybody? It's been a little bit of a minute since I've been on the observation station here, got a lot of explaining to do here on the fun trip that I took Very extended, but I wanted to get into this episode. So this one's going to be like the premise is feeling like you're stuck in a rut. The whole point of this whole podcast is going to be how a lot of people feel. And then there's going to be a lot of the people that say, oh, you don't know how I am or what I've been through and this nonsense. Okay, look, everybody has a different path. So I wanted to start this off by having it where I just tell you a little bit about my life and the observations that I've made about being stuck in a rut.

Speaker 2:

So now, with the pandemic, after we've lived through that has given myself and a lot of other people time to reflect. When it is like, ok, you say what are you going to do with your life? Or someone goes hey, you know, when you're a young kid, what do you feel like doing when you grow up? These people say the president of the United States of America, back when we were kids that was funny. We were like, yeah, I'll be the president of the United States of America, you know. And people would be like, okay, well, what about class president? Okay, class president. So, man, I wish that those were. They probably were filmed. But just like the class presidential races, the absurd things that you would hear, like we will give free double pizzas on every other Friday or something, I'm like yo, who in the hell is going to enact this stuff? And I remember at third grade that that was just bogus. Somebody even ran there and said, like we're just going to have recess forever. Yeah, like this guy. If there's a cheer, this guy should win. Okay, first off. Never heard anything like it. It was almost hitting a grand slam walk-off home run to win the World Series. That was like recess forever. The teacher's like no, no, kids, sit down, sit down. So that was a good time.

Speaker 2:

Back when you really didn't know how crazy the world was as a kid, before social media, media, everything seemed cool. Because now if you look on there, you're seeing some 14 year old going how to make 10 million dollars in 30 seconds. Okay, that's bullshit. First off, half of these people are just like sign up for my course first, and everything is a funnel to the course. God bless capitalism and making money selling courses. There's nothing wrong with that, though it's just like you haven't even added any value on your videos to buy your course. You're just like here.

Speaker 2:

Let me show you a little bit like what's going to be on my course. Nobody cares If you give out free content. People will buy your course just in support, and they may not even use the course, just like now. You know, at least I got it. I can get gifted to somebody or something like that. So here it is. That just wanted to say. When you're feeling like things aren't working out for you, a big thing to ask is who are you hanging out with really? Are these people saying oh yeah, man, you're going to do it? Don't listen to these other people.

Speaker 2:

Or is it somebody that you trust, that's given you at least some other sound advice in your past, and you just say, okay, let me absorb what this person's telling me because I trust their advice? From there you have to deduct is this something that is going to be implemented or are you just going to sulk there and just want to have it? Where people pity you come up oh my, I'm so sorry You're going to find something. You're such a good person. Nobody cares about that At the end of the day. Here's how it goes. It's only you yourself and God pretty much, and even if you don't have faith, you can deduce God for you then, and then just say you and yourself. And then just say, have you and yourself. So look, the whole point of finding out why you're in a rut. Did you bring this onto yourself? Maybe that's some self-reflection. What is it that you've been doing before and say, okay, let's see what's going on there. That is a recurring habit that is being done in my daily routine. To say, okay, I need to take that out, because if I do that over and, over and over again, it's going to result in this manner of whatever's coming to you. So stop playing the pity game. This is not for the faint of heart here here, some people like it, some people. When you have it, you the, the solutions are right there in front of you as a good friend. There's a time where it's like, okay, you have to figure it out here. Are you just here to give good advice and somebody's not going to take it, wasting your breath, or do you need to have it where this is an audit, to say am I getting something out of this friendship or is it just a, a drinking buddy that I can just bs around with and waste time with? That's the apex of your life. What are you surrounding yourself with? The whole thing is it's great to be told.

Speaker 2:

At 20 years old, 21 years old, hey, you know, surround yourself with good people, and there's sometimes that you get lucky to get a couple of good friends that stick around from. You know high school, middle school, things that you know. They know stuff about you that nobody else has lived through. That's a good thing to have. A blessing, though, when you go really through life and travel around, which is highly encouraged, when, even if you live in new york city, it's best to go and travel around to different places so that the whole world is in perspective to you of like, what is the difference from what is accustomed to you? That is the biggest part about what people don't understand. They think their own 50 mile radius of the place they were born at is what the whole world surrounds themselves with uh, their ideology. So the whole thing now is self-reflection. That is the biggest thing.

Speaker 2:

Accountability is not going to be there with the vast majority of people. Look, if somebody is fat, they don't have accountability. You can just say I'm fat, okay, so what? I mean you could ride down a hill, crash into a wall and say I crashed, great, good job. Now let's help you out, get you some medical attention. But the announcement of you being crashed and the bikes folded up and you're all scorpioned up on the wall when you smacked up against it and somebody saw it, is not going to add much value to your medical needs. So here's the thing Accountability is the biggest problem.

Speaker 2:

Where is it that you're messing up? Where is it that the world is messing up? So that it can be cleared in your mind about how that's you. Again, that reverts to accountability. It's not the best thing to hear. If you're eating wrong, you're not going to feel good. That's another thing. That'll be in a rut. And if you don't feel good, get fat and you feel bad and then people don't want to be associating with. You know somebody that's obese and having it where they're going out and you know if they respect their self-image a lot of times, unless you're some kind of famous something if that makes any sense that you have any credentials behind you already. So it's like, okay, well, da, da, da, da da. But for the most part, even nowadays, just bringing up directly what is the issue to people, they find offense to it. Look here, this is the observation station. I'm here to tell you an observance. This is one observance out of billions of people. It is added with a little bit of extra nuances and characteristics and semantics that I add onto it and sprinkle and pepper here and there, but these are the things that I see.

Speaker 2:

First off times can be said right now in the economy. That are you go in the grocery store. Things are expensive. I understand that. Everybody understands that. It's something that is a fact of life right now. So what are you going to do about it? You got to get it where you make more money and then that's the whole point right now. So what are you going to do about it? You got to get it where you make more money and then that's the whole point right now.

Speaker 2:

People need to take accountability. It's not. Oh, I need to save more. No, geez, inflation, that inflation. If you save more, you're losing more. Figure out how to start investing, and quick.

Speaker 2:

And if you don't know how to start investing and you have an internet connection and say, hey, at least I need to start figuring out here and don't start investing for yourself unless you're specialized in doing that, people might have said, oh yeah, you know, I got lucky putting it in this stock. I read up hours and hours and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. That's like talking about if you've read slot machine algorithms and said, yeah, I know that it's after the 746 pool, it's going to be like a. No, this is somebody that has no idea about why the house always wins. Look at these casinos, ladies and gentlemen. These places don't become skyscrapers for letting all these people win. Come on now. How do you think they spend billions of dollars? Keep putting up buildings right by giving everybody jackpots. You know, these are the realities.

Speaker 2:

Okay, so the whole point of life is to advance, grow, keep going, be a plant that adds that little bit of water, nutrient and sunlight to grow. And if you don't, you don't get any of that water, which is knowledge, or you don't have any of that sunlight which is socialization or whatever brings light to your day. It could be a cup of coffee, whatever it is, and you don't have proper nutrients, which is eating correctly. Then everything goes down the toilet. That's something that a lot of people now have noticed. The older people are not even dying of older age. And we have all this great technology.

Speaker 2:

It's the 40, 50 years of eating just straight trash, for you know two, three, four, five, six times a day of garbage food. They're obese, and right when you see them at the bitter end, you're like, oh my god, you look great. Yeah, that's because I have cancer. It's like, oh my god, that's terrible. So it's like every time you see these morbidly obese people after you haven't seen them, for it couldn't even be years, it could be one year, it could be be, you know, eight months, something like that these people lose all this weight and it's like, oh, you look great. And the next thing, you know they're, they're, they're passed away. So you know, things really have to come down to the health, which is how I stress all the time figure out what you're eating.

Speaker 2:

Look, the cheap meals are fine. Everybody has the milkshakes and quintuple cheeseburger deluxes. You know, with the supersized whatever and people can be smart asses and go. Well, supersized does does not exist. Oh, there's places that it does exist with the same amount of ounces, somewhere out there, probably in Texas. So look Look at yourself. Why are you feeling down? Okay, it's because this, this, this, this and this.

Speaker 2:

Some people might say oh, it's because this person makes me feel like this at work. Or my parents make me feel like this, my dog makes me feel this way. Okay, again, it has to come back to the self-accountability. Where is it the blame game? Everything's going to go around in circles, not coming back to you in a certain sense of accomplishment, just having it where it's like I'm casting the understanding that it is not my fault, which is somehow subconsciously comforting, saying, well, it's not going to be my fault, but let me pawn this on some external third party so that I feel like you know, this is the proper thing to do.

Speaker 2:

That is weak. It's something that you can't be doing. This kind of stuff it's weak. You know that. That stuff that, when it comes down to it, makes it seem like you're not a grown person. At the end of the day, you might pay bills, have children and you're like I'm grown, and on paper you are grown, but again comes back to the way that I was talking about, like the flower to be growing. That's the growing. If you're dying, it's just a wilting. Just like in front of a bank, just some dusty-ass bush that's half dead, not well-kept. Notice that the extremely high-end neighborhoods don't have unkept, even at your Chase Bank, bank, whatever it is, things that you know should be normally manicured. Trust me, that's what I'm trying to say is don't you always need to be flourishing? You have to be given the right nutrients, and that's something that many people being stuck in this rut feeling, saying okay, well, it's going to be like this forever, just like a tide the tide comes in and it goes out. Sometimes things are great and sometimes things aren't so great.

Speaker 2:

What I figured is having more great days than bad days, and sometimes even when you have some bad things happen. Just figure, did it cost me anything? Yeah, maybe an inconvenience or something like that. But the time that you start actually laughing is when it's something that 99.9% of the time would piss you off. Saying like, hey, you dropped some ketchup on your shirt or something like Stubbing your toe is pretty hard, that one is just kind of a natural reaction, I think. But just small things, like maybe having it where you get cut off in traffic instead of going all crazy. You're just like this guy. He must be really important, he's got a rush to be at, so just let me lay low here. This guy's adding so much to our tax system here, paying into our corporate america, so please go ahead and it. It's funny Obviously that's not the truth, but it's a hilarious outlook on saying, ok, well, this is going to be happening anyways.

Speaker 2:

These people don't care who I am, didn't even matter if I was a high profile person in a nice car. They're going to cut you off. They have their own prerogative. When you're in the car, it's your own bubble. So sometimes you want to go out there and get it where you say, let me see if I can talk to a trusted person. And that trusted person even in that instance may have had 10 years of great advice and they say, well, you know, I don't know, I don't know, this isn't going to be maybe your best idea or business venture. Something like don't go to this school, it's not where you want to go. Those people, they never get good jobs. So that's another way of being stuck in a rut, not wanting to displease others, keeping a certain facade and are you really going to have it where you're going to live your life, based 110% off of somebody else's advice that they give you? You can't.

Speaker 2:

The biggest thing is to understand, to find good guidance and mentors. Everyone says they have mentors. Look, meeting your local drunk at the bar that has it where he talks about deep poems and stuff, can be your mentor. Uh, maybe. Uh, just comedically, it's like, yeah, this guy, he's my hero. He tells me uh, the light, good life advice, or something like that.

Speaker 2:

No, you need to find some actual people that care about you, not something that's like, yeah, you know, lay it on me, man, tell me what you got going. I've been through so much more than that and you're a couple drinks in. You're thinking this guy's got it in, he gets it. Now, that is not who you're talking to to get life-sound advice. This is something that has to be where you can be both 100% on the same level and it's an energy matching to say this guy gets it and it's something like you can't even explain it.

Speaker 2:

It's so natural, talking to this other person, feeling comfortable divulging sensitive information, that you wouldn't be telling other people because you feel comfortable that they have some sense of confidentiality. I mean with that, having you know a couple mentors is going to be something good. The mentors are not only going to have it where you could have a couple of them. That'd be good, because if you have it where, say, I'd like a second or a third opinion, that's a lot of different, altering opinions that I can have it where it's like oh, maybe these guys are trying to say the same thing about me. I should take that advice Instead of having just one almighty hey, I'm going to do this because he told me or she told me and that's it. I can't do anything else. It's the life of the individual.

Speaker 2:

Sometimes it comes down to that Nobody's here to tell you in this country you need to do this or that based on what somebody tells you to do. You know, within parameters of reasoning, there are situations where I mean if you're in legal trouble, that's understanding. But I'm saying we're walking like a thin line here saying you have a clean slate right. I know I'm repeating myself around here because it's a very deep conversation. I'm trying to explain out here to people to say these are things that happen to most people. You know it's like a breakup. People go oh, it's never gonna be the same without you. Know, xyz, you're stuck in a rut. I'm never gonna talk to another person. That's because I'm now heartbroken. I have nobody else in the whole world.

Speaker 2:

It's like, bro, have you gone to a sports game? There are a lot of people out there and that's not even a portion of the population out there. So big thing is get your ass out there, figure it out. Why are you complaining any more than you have to? A lot of people just make it worse than it really is. Get out there. Get on the internet, youtube it, figure it out. No one's going to be coming here to help. That's the biggest thing Everybody's like. Well, the government and I paid my Social Security and my 401k and my retirement. No, that's for years down the line.

Speaker 2:

You got to help yourself out now, many times a lot of people are thinking about. Maybe they're saying, well, I'm just going to give up because at some point somebody's going to come and rescue me, some fairy person. And then they realize when it's too old to be mobile and moving around and being how would I say able to pivot on new ventures, not having a family or obligations, that's when life is going to bog you down and so many things are going to be tied into the responsibilities. Energy is going to be put into that when, at the end of the day, the choices are made. Do you want to be with your family or significant other or your business? Is there a right or wrong answer? It's up to you. But so I'm glad to be back here.

Speaker 2:

You know I took a trip down from Alaska having it, where we drove all the way back down here to South Florida, going through all the states. So it was a long trip, met a lot of people. It gives you a perspective of how just different states are living. North Dakota was kind of boring. I can't even apologize. Even North Dakota people have to tell me that place is boring. So it does give you perspective when you travel, even if it's within your own country, just ways different people are living and saying well, you know, my situation is not that bad. I need to be way more grateful of my daily things that are given to me just by default that these people obviously don't have. Whatever that is in your life, you can make that assumption. So usually I want to have it where I give a teaser for the next episode. Right now. It's going to be a content calendar that I need to be coming up with so that there are more just, creative angles to these episodes. Artificial intelligence is helping me out a lot with finding different angles I can add on to the observation station, though, with that I just want to leave you there and thanks, guys, for coming back here. I know it's been a little bit of a time since I've been on here and I just want to have it where, if it's ever something that I can at least leave you with here on the podcast.

Speaker 2:

Self-reflection is a huge, huge, huge thing. One of the best places, I think, to ever self-reflect is if you're in a sauna just by yourself, or if you're with just a place at a sauna, a quiet one, not somebody coming in there. If you're in a gym and these people are blasting music and whatnot. Go in there, get that heat going, because all you're starting to think about is like, wow, it's so hot. But that's the self-reflection going there. It's like, okay, how can I make this? Where it's not so hot, I'm breathing, maybe drinking my water, doing whatever needs to be. That is the best place to say where am I at with my life? In a flaming hot sauna? Just try it out and uh, see what happens to you. There's a lot of great benefits with that.

Speaker 2:

With that being said, there guys, thank you for coming back there. I love having it where I get to check these stats of different countries. Especially, I got that guy that's out there in Frankfurt, germany. He's a loyal guy. Hopefully he's listening to this episode too. Everybody else have a good one. I just want to have it where you know. A rut is something where you just need to grow that tree out of that rut. Keep going, it's not too bad here. Let's get over this whole political crazy stuff on TV so that I don't have to hear for another four years any more political advertisements. Take it easy, everybody, bye-bye.

Speaker 1:

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