The self-help genre is flooded with a deluge of advice relating to Acceptance. Usually the advisory sentence begins with the words ‘just’ or ‘simply’. These diminish what is the most difficult thing that anyone can do which is to confront their internal reality when it is what is causing them to suffer. In this context, there is no such thing as ‘Just!’. In this episode, Robert teaches, in a 30 minute session, how to actually accept your internal suffering, as a personal experience and in a way that will allow you to make progress. Acceptance, as Explained in Episode 18 published on December 26, 2018, is 'allowing yourself to feel however you feel in the present moment'. This definition is from Eckhart Tolle and must be the most useful for anyone engaged in inner work. The question then becomes. How do we make this bearable? The answer is the neutral spot meditation which Robert teaches in this session.
It is important that you apply the Four Rules of Meditation!
Emotionally, *never* go digging. There is no need to as all suffering will arise in our experience in time if we provide a space for it in our practices. If you aren’t in contact yet with whatever emotion is in the background of your day just continue with the meditations and in time you will be able to do that.
The Neutral Spot Meditation
We first calm our minds with a basic mindfulness meditation. We need to be in a good place to do any emotional work.
When our minds are as calm as they can be, we focus our attention on a part of our body that has neutral sensations. Somewhere where we can’t feel an emotional response
Examples might be: big toe, knees, elbows, etc.
Move the focus of your attention to the place in our body that is the location of your uncomfortable physical or emo tional sensations.
Leave the focus of your attention there for as long as it remains comfortable to do so. You are looking for the equivalent of a pin-prick in terms of discomfort at the most.
Return the focus of your attention to the neutral place and leave your attention there until you have tuned in on the neutral spot and are aware of it fully
Repeat only if this works for you.
You are looking for the discomfort to diminish.
This exercise is the equivalent of dipping our finger or toe into the water to see how hot or cold it is. It is *not* like diving in.
If this works for you, you will feel better! Not worse. It is not an endurance process.