Ever felt like you're on a carousel, spinning with the daily grind but craving a touch of real connection and a splash of personal growth? That's precisely where we took our private clients, Lauren and Jasmine, on a whirlwind journey at the Conscious Business Retreat, and let me tell you, it was nothing short of a transformative ride. Our latest podcast episode peeks behind the curtain, revealing how these dynamic entrepreneurs from New South Wales and Victoria salons respectively, stepped into their vulnerabilities, shared laughs about love in the age of Tinder, and emerged with powerful insights on nurturing their inner best friends.
As the laughter settled and the deep conversations began, we found ourselves in the midst of stark realizations and raw emotions. Lauren and Jasmine, alongside our other guests, braved the deep waters of self-reflection, where standing still is indeed a choice and where confronting inner critics can lead to empowering one's self. Our retreat wasn't just about business growth; it was a sanctuary for personal development, a space where we embraced the discomfort of vulnerability to foster genuine connections and a sense of being understood by fellow travelers on the entrepreneurial path.
Wrapping up this episode, we explore the importance of community support for personal and emotional growth, and how essential it is to face one's emotions head-on. I share a slice of my own journey, including the transformative power of journaling and the liberating sensation of being seen and heard. Lauren and Jasmine's stories are a testament to the idea that through authenticity and vulnerability, we can feel lighter and more at peace. So, tune in and allow yourself to be inspired by the beauty and bravery of embracing your full self, both in life and in business.
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This podcast has been produced and edited by Snappystreet Creative
Ever felt like you're on a carousel, spinning with the daily grind but craving a touch of real connection and a splash of personal growth? That's precisely where we took our private clients, Lauren and Jasmine, on a whirlwind journey at the Conscious Business Retreat, and let me tell you, it was nothing short of a transformative ride. Our latest podcast episode peeks behind the curtain, revealing how these dynamic entrepreneurs from New South Wales and Victoria salons respectively, stepped into their vulnerabilities, shared laughs about love in the age of Tinder, and emerged with powerful insights on nurturing their inner best friends.
As the laughter settled and the deep conversations began, we found ourselves in the midst of stark realizations and raw emotions. Lauren and Jasmine, alongside our other guests, braved the deep waters of self-reflection, where standing still is indeed a choice and where confronting inner critics can lead to empowering one's self. Our retreat wasn't just about business growth; it was a sanctuary for personal development, a space where we embraced the discomfort of vulnerability to foster genuine connections and a sense of being understood by fellow travelers on the entrepreneurial path.
Wrapping up this episode, we explore the importance of community support for personal and emotional growth, and how essential it is to face one's emotions head-on. I share a slice of my own journey, including the transformative power of journaling and the liberating sensation of being seen and heard. Lauren and Jasmine's stories are a testament to the idea that through authenticity and vulnerability, we can feel lighter and more at peace. So, tune in and allow yourself to be inspired by the beauty and bravery of embracing your full self, both in life and in business.
To follow our journey:
Instagram @aheadhair_
@the_conscious_salon
This podcast has been produced and edited by Snappystreet Creative
Here at the Consha Salon, we acknowledge the traditional owners of the land in which we stand today, the Boon Rung people of the Kula Nation. We pay our respects to the elders, past and present, and extend their respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people.
Speaker 2:Welcome to the Consha Salon. This week on the Consha Salon podcast, we have the privilege of having two of our attendees who recently attended the Consha Retreat our first ever in person retreat for our private clients. It's a really beautiful episode. We've split it into two parts, but we hope that you enjoy. Welcome back to the Consha Salon. Tess has got the giggles. Welcome back to the Consha Salon podcast. Tess just dropped her mic before we started.
Speaker 1:So if that's the moment before we even forget.
Speaker 2:But today is a very special episode, tess it is. We've got two of our favourite people sitting in front of us and we're here. We've just wrapped the Consha Business Retreat. We took our private clients, we roped them into coming and spending a few nights with us down at a regional property in Victoria To do some pretty intensive personal development work and a little bit of business planning. And it's been a pretty hectic couple of days. But I want our guests to introduce themselves.
Speaker 1:Who wants to go first? Lauren's instantly pushed the mic over to Jazzy. I've introduced you Brace, I've got Lauren and Jazzy. Jasmine. Hi Hi, jasmine, tell us a little bit about yourself. Let's do a Tinder bio. What?
Speaker 2:was your Tinder bio, if you were putting yourself on Tinder. No, I know You're very much easy, for We'll say this now you might get on surrender. That's like the threesome Tinder You've been with your husband since you were a baby.
Speaker 1:Yeah, since I was 15.
Speaker 2:So time to spice things up with Rida.
Speaker 1:So hi, my name is Jasmine and I am Tell us some little insights to you.
Speaker 4:What's the last line I use? I'm Jasmine Aries. I'm a mum of three beautiful kitties first important foremost, and I own a salon in regional central west New South Wales. So Orange is the little town I'm not that little, but yeah. So I've owned that clinic for almost a year now, so coming up to the first birthday.
Speaker 2:Jazzy's very humble so I'm going to have to give her a reply. Jazzy's clinic is Arla aesthetics and her care factor for client experience and team journey as well is so beautiful. But also the way that you care about skin and care about your clients results is just absolutely beautiful. There's so much heart and soul to you. It's my favorite thing about you. Oh, my goodness, you're going to make me cry already, but it's been a pleasure to have you here. You traveled you got on a couple of planes to come here, so hopefully it was worth it. It's definitely worth it.
Speaker 2:But it's been such a privilege to have you here. You've been with us for four months, yeah four months Since, like November, yeah, it's been four magical months. A lot of big shifts and big changes in that time and a lot of big shifts and big changes to come. But are we going to pass the mic over to Lauren?
Speaker 3:Do you want to introduce Lossy? Sorry, hi guys.
Speaker 1:Well, you also, we've got to do the Tinder bio for you, but you've also been with your husband for six million years as well, I've been on Tinder, so I might have to go through Tinder too. I feel like I'm the only one in our little crew that's just had the short term relationships everywhere except for now, which is great, but I'm the only one that's experienced the Tinder world, because everyone has been with their partners so long term, yes.
Speaker 3:Oh yeah you are. I wouldn't even know whether to swipe left or right. To be honest, I can't remember.
Speaker 2:You just go right, just keep your options open right, right, right, right, right, right, right, and then wait to see how it turns out. That's my philosophy. Yeah, Lossy, tell us about yourself.
Speaker 3:Okay, so I've been married for maybe six years. Actually come out six years next week to my husband and we've been together for a long time, A long time.
Speaker 1:Lossy and her husband have known each other since they were. How old were you? Seven, seven, seven.
Speaker 3:Seven. Yep, so we've been. We have been on and off, definitely, but we have two beautiful little kids. One is five and one is nine months, and I have a salon in Barrick.
Speaker 2:Yeah, so Lossy's a hair salon in Barrick and she does incredible colour work and really your incredible extensions.
Speaker 1:You make me want extensions.
Speaker 2:You guys are amazing at extensions, but Lossy's been with us.
Speaker 1:Lossy nearly got me back on the extension bandwagon just before I dyed my hair dark.
Speaker 3:I still think she should, she's very high, she's got extensions.
Speaker 1:Look, I've I the only time I've ever had long hair has been through a lot of extensions and if I was to do it, I would do it with you 100%. But I remember I kept saying that I was. I never had extensions because no one could get a red. And then you showed me a red that you did and I was like oh yeah, oh, it was pretty magical. And I think you asked about if you get one in the gray.
Speaker 2:I still want the extensions. Can you colour match me?
Speaker 3:Definitely I could colour match you, but I just don't think you need them. You're already long.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you've got the perfect hair. I obviously need to have a bit of work and you just look like the flyer.
Speaker 3:I feel like you and I would be the worst extension people ever Like. Imagine our hair Well, we would never do it.
Speaker 1:This is the thing. As you said, I actually came to the retreat with it, like with a beautiful blow wave. Shout out to Jazzy and our salon who took care of me. Thanks, Dahls. Great, great, great experience. But I'm just terrible at doing my hair Like. That's where you know, I think it happens a lot with hairdressers. But yeah, I wanted to get it pretty much like wet and curly, so then I didn't have to worry, because then I just as you've seen, there's not a lot of thought into the hair.
Speaker 3:I totally agree on the exact same, but you're like.
Speaker 1:Rapunzel, you've got a lot of hair and incredible. I want to wash my hair once a fortnight person.
Speaker 3:Yeah, I was looking for you two days.
Speaker 2:How long did you leave me with that wash? You don't have to. Let me say that on here.
Speaker 3:I am Go on say it. I went a whole month without washing my hair.
Speaker 1:That is like but like I feel like you could, because your hair still looks perfect, and it's like we've, we've, and we've put you through the ringer a bit with different things this weekend we have and we're going to talk about that in this episode so it might just be on our hair routines.
Speaker 2:We'll keep it surface. But one of the reasons that we wanted to get you guys on is to highlight your experience but also to normalize the work that we do, because for Tess and I and the work that we've done with self development, a lot of the time we feel quite, we have felt quite isolated with that work and unless you're actually in a container or in a retreat with people experiencing the same things, you sort of go home and and there's not a lot of people that show the realness and rawness of personal development and going through the journey, as opposed to just like the highlights real afterwards when you're like I did these amazing things because the last three days have been pretty intense.
Speaker 2:We should shout out as well.
Speaker 1:We've got two occupants, two participants that had to do the have left. They fled at 5am.
Speaker 2:No, they are in the podcast. There were a couple of whispers.
Speaker 3:Someone saw a microphone bolted.
Speaker 1:Yes, we've got Carla and Lou as well. Who Lou? We have a couple of people who are doing the podcast, lou as well, who Lou, we've, we've, we've, chatted with on the potty before and Wayne. Gerrata, Luca Hare and then also Carla in Gippsland with Bronn.
Speaker 2:Bronn Bronn, both incredible hairdressers.
Speaker 1:Unbelievable.
Speaker 2:But yeah, we we did have four of our girls here, our clients.
Speaker 1:Did ask if mum wanted to come on. She said no, thank you.
Speaker 2:Mum's do as well. Yes, mum, mum's a lightly declined Number one supporter in there.
Speaker 1:No, I won't be doing your podcast. Thanks very much.
Speaker 2:But we want to share a little bit about what we've done for the past couple of days. So, loz, I would love you to start and talk us through the journey. Talk us through how you felt coming in on like day zero.
Speaker 3:Um, yeah, day zero. I was so excited actually to get here, like it's been a I think it's been three weeks, and for me it's something that I've it's like kind of a perfect timing for me. So I was super excited about about driving up this driveway.
Speaker 1:Actually Loz. He got here a little bit earlier and she texted saying um, I'm going to be here early, but if it's not okay, I'll just hang out in town. And town doesn't have a lot to offer towns and IGA.
Speaker 2:It's a good pub. Really, did you go in?
Speaker 3:Actually I'm from here, that pub near and far from here. Bullshit.
Speaker 1:Are you actually? We're not from here, but oh, hang on. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3:No, just remember, my sister-in-law used to live in near and near, I mean she worked at the near and far. It's a top pub.
Speaker 2:Really, did you have a couple of monkeys on the way in? No, I didn't, didn't. I saved it for here, yeah absolutely.
Speaker 1:We got straight in, so straight in, um, but yeah, we were straight. And then you, we were here nice and early, which is beautiful. How did you feel when you were coming in?
Speaker 3:Yeah, it was beautiful, tranquil, straight away, were you nervous. No, which is strange for me. I thought I would be nervous, but I actually wasn't nervous.
Speaker 1:Because this is the.
Speaker 3:I think, just because I know I'm so aligned with you guys, and it was just like, yeah, I wasn't nervous at all, so good, and I was excited to meet all the girls, so, yeah, a big bunch of legends.
Speaker 2:See who else have been playing with the past couple of months.
Speaker 1:Yes, this is your first experience with like a retreat, like in, like more intensive personal development, or have you done something before?
Speaker 3:I've done a little bit some pieces, but this was definitely the most intensive, for sure. Yeah, and yeah, yesterday, especially yesterday, it was just like fully life changing for me, like it was probably one of the fucking hardest things I've ever done, for sure, but, um, yeah, it was awesome, it was so cool and yeah, I can honestly say that it's like literally like waking up today after yesterday. I'm like, yeah, literally getting that ice bath and like getting out of it and I'm like, yeah, totally different. So, it's pretty cool. Wow, it was amazing.
Speaker 2:I think the shift that we've seen in you, loz, for from the last three days. Like everyone was a little bit nervy on day one. We sat outside, had had a cocktail, had some dinner together and it was all just about connecting and getting to know each other, because it can be really intimidating, taking time out of your lives, away from your kids, away from your businesses, to sit and circle with strangers. It's like it's such a huge thing. So the first night we really just wanted to connect and go on a deeper level. Jazzy, I'd love to hear from you what your experience was of day one of the retreat.
Speaker 4:Again, like like Loz, I was really ready for this. It was again came at such a perfect time and I was so excited to connect with other humans that you guys have worked with. I knew that that would be epic, so I was just really excited to you know, grow friendships really. So I was really ready and I was really excited especially when Loz first got here and when she walked down the driveway she looked like a bombshell.
Speaker 1:Oh my god, we should have a moment for that, because Lauren literally looked like she was ready to go to like music. You looked hot as fuck.
Speaker 2:You looked at your music festival but I was like, oh, we've just got the trackies and like we can get the memo.
Speaker 1:I also love. Like the comparison now because you're sitting in the avocado pajamas and the dune cover. So you know she's got the balance of both. She can be the glamorous one and then also the grounded girl.
Speaker 2:She's got to stay relatable.
Speaker 4:So I was just so ready and excited for what was coming, I was ready to dive in.
Speaker 2:So how did you find? Obviously, the following morning we sat in circle and started on our journey. How did you find that day?
Speaker 4:It was really heavy really really heavy and so much self-relection. But you know, and you guys know, that German links been saying that doesn't come naturally to me. So yeah, just to write my feelings down. And all those prompts it was pretty, you know, humbling, I think, for me.
Speaker 2:It's a pretty beautiful exercise. So Tess took the girls through. I take them through the heavy day. Day one for us.
Speaker 1:I bring all the tears, the breakdowns, that's my realm.
Speaker 2:Day one for us is all about meeting ourselves where we're at and really unpacking and understanding ourselves, because so much of this work, you know, coming and taking yourself out of your life to reflect on what's actually been happening for you and how you actually feel, is such a huge thing.
Speaker 2:To not have the distraction of the clinic, the salon, the kids, the partners, the all the everyday life and all of the stuff that comes with that, and to actually have a look at, okay, where am I at in my life, what's making me feel fulfilled, where am I feeling stuck? And there was a really big theme around this weekend that was anything we're not changing, we're choosing, because so much of the time we feel as women, that we don't have choice in things and what we really wanted to give these women was a reminder that everything is a choice and that actually makes up those little micro choices, make up our, our life and and living in purpose and the things that we actually do every single day. So I think day one was just so heavy. How did you feel afterwards, jazzy?
Speaker 4:Really safe. I couldn't believe how incredibly safe and sacred it felt immediately and how open I was to share some really quite intense experiences from when I was a kid that I didn't think I would ever share with strangers yeah 100% with strangers, definitely, but just so, how open everyone wants to holding that space. I think that was so special.
Speaker 2:Pretty empowering to you know, sometimes you you'll have people in your life who you've known for so long, who don't know these things about you, and sometimes it can take sitting with strangers and really bearing yourself to get that level of connection and depth.
Speaker 4:Yeah, it's beautiful and I think it was probably for me the first time that I ever really like I've always said you know it's part of my journey but really accepted that that's a part of why I am who I am, so I think that that's pretty. That was cool.
Speaker 2:Yeah, beautiful.
Speaker 2:So, some of the one of my favorite exercises that Tess did on day one was in a critic and in a best friend work, which is something that Tess and I have worked on for a very long time, very, very long time, and we work on it with our team because a lot of us, a lot of people in the hair and beauty industry, we are people who feel so much.
Speaker 2:A lot of us at Empaths, we take on other people's emotions and we feel on a really, really deep level, and one of the things that comes with being a deep thinker is that you have a level of self criticism or self analysis. We can be really hard on ourselves, and one of the things that we really feel that a lot of women in our industry are lacking is self trust and having that gut instinct that tells you that you've got your own back. Essentially and that's really comes back to the work of inner critic and inner best friend. Lois, I would love to hear from you a little bit about how you found the inner critic and inner best friend work.
Speaker 3:Yeah, that was. That was awesome, I think, for me. I'm pretty much an avoid-up with my emotions until this weekend. I think I come in this to this weekend and I was like, no, I really wanted to dive into it and actually really unpack that for me because, yeah, it's just something that I really struggle with. So, yeah, that exercise for me was just I think I really discovered who I was, I guess, and yeah, it was, it was. I didn't even know the word. It was the right word for that, I don't know.
Speaker 2:I'd say reinvention would probably be one of your word of the year.
Speaker 3:Yeah, it was really. It was really special because, yeah, I actually do bury my emotions quite a bit and anything with myself I didn't put. I'm a people, please wrap with everyone else first. And yeah, putting myself first in that moment was like, I think, the start of this weekend. It just really set set the pace for it.
Speaker 1:So yeah, it's cool. Yeah, god for a great answer, lois, how did you feel after day one? Was there a lot of like journaling, unpacking?
Speaker 3:Yeah, day one, I think it was. It was as jazz said, it was quite heavy. I was ready for day two, I think. I left that session and I had a bit of a headache. But I was excited for the next day because and I had a headache because I think I'd open the gate to realizing who I am. And it was just, it was just a lot.
Speaker 1:Yeah, how did you feel, as someone that naturally avoids and this is going to resonate with a lot of people, because there are plenty of voiders out here and a former reformed avoidant, I mean, I think this can be really helpful for a lot of people how did you feel in that moment, like what was going on? Or when you have those avoidant things, when you have to, like, start sitting in, you know, when you start feeling things come up, is it that you can push them back down, or you're just like I'm going to distract myself or something else?
Speaker 3:or push them down and just go do something else Like yeah, was that playing here? Because in these things yeah, here was like the first time ever that I had, like you guys just created such a safe space and, I think, with the girls, like just even even all the girls, like we are also aligned, and it was just so perfect, like to actually unpack it with not just you guys but them as well. It was amazing, so beautiful.
Speaker 1:Yes, Jasmine, you can speak, pop it. Grab that microphone.
Speaker 4:I just I just have a question for laws Like I'm actually going to go and have a break. I just want to know, like what, what was the point where you were like I'm going to let my guard down, Like I'm going to go?
Speaker 2:for this.
Speaker 4:I mean, he came into the weekend you're like I'm ready. But you know, you would have had those moments where you're like what was the paternity point that you were like? I'm just going to say it. I'm going to say how I feel.
Speaker 1:Beautiful question.
Speaker 3:Well, my word this year is reinvent, and I've spent the last like three years, I reckon, like having goals, making plans and sort of not getting there at all. So like yeah, at least she. I just was like nah, whatever I say, I'm going to do, I'm going to like leaning and just do it. If I'm uncomfortable, I'm just going to do it. And then, getting here and feeling so comfortable with all you guys, it was like probably one of the most easiest things that I've like lent into, even though it was hard.
Speaker 3:Like obviously we got pushed heaps as we get to day two and stuff. But like, yeah, it was just, I think I was just so comfortable with you guys. It was just like the first time I don't like have a whole group of friends that I feel very comfortable with and you guys just naturally were just, yeah, just fit that. So.
Speaker 2:Well, there was a common theme that came up for everyone that they're missing community right now. So it's hard because we're in this kind of unique position where we all own clinics and salons, we've all got families and it can be really hard to find your community, people who are in the arena, who understand what you're going through, and everyone was saying that they were lacking community. And it was really quite beautiful because I was like look around to these other three women, here's your community.
Speaker 3:And I think the thing was like as we went through and like unpacking ourselves, and obviously we were so open and shared like everything with each other. I think, like for me, I know, I resonated with every one of the girls and like with something they said, I was like oh shit, like I totally understand that, because that's something that I've dealt with to all dealing with. And yeah, I think that was pretty cool because it like really made you connect like that as well.
Speaker 1:I agree. I remember Lou saying something like that, I think at the end of day one or day two, day one I think, and she was like I'm like realizing that what I'm going through, what's going through, and I think this world can be such a lonely world and it can be so hard. As you know, we speak about and I'm sure we've spoken on this, about that. You know often if you, if you're going to catch up with a friend and they're, you know, working for someone else or something, they're not going to understand the same worlds that we're in the business owner world and the entrepreneur world can be a really lonely one. And I think when you start meeting people who have similar experiences or struggles or problems, the way that we do it can really create that sense of community and that sense of understanding and Support.
Speaker 3:I think, overall, I think, even though we are like in our own cell phones, we are like introverts.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 3:Like being outside the salon. I think I know I guess we all keep in our own lane. I know I do like with my salon. I don't really know all the cell phones around me or the anyone with like hairdressing cell phones around my area. I don't really connect with them at all and I think I'm Like having a community like this and actually knowing that you can.
Speaker 3:Hmm with aligned people, yeah, and like be comfortable talking, like with what's going on, especially with, like me, with the last three weeks. I've had an insane three weeks and I think like if I didn't have you guys, I'd probably be sitting in the corner rocking right now, but at the same time, I'm so at peace with it, I guess, which is so bizarre for me to say because, yes, being fucking shit.
Speaker 1:You've had a lot of.
Speaker 2:Weeks, everything. You declared at the start of the year that you were going to reinvent yourself and the universe has presented as as always, when when we make a declaration, we get presented with all sorts of obstacles to see how much we actually want that and how dedicated we are to that and you have been this has been no exception. What you're going through right now things you know you've got a bit of turbulence happening within your life and obviously we're not going to go into detail on here, but everything came to a head while you actually at the retreat and so much came up.
Speaker 3:Yeah, definitely, and leading into it it was just yeah, it was epic, and I think it's crazy that I'm sitting here and just Okay with it. Yeah like for me to say that's like insane. Like if you told me that, like even December, I would have been Fucking literally in the corner of rockin. Like you guys would have been like go and make, you need to get a slug or something, because but this is it, though.
Speaker 1:I think that that I truly think the difference for you now is this is what you've put out to the universe. You know that how this is all playing out and it is. It's turbulent, it's not easy. I know we've had that conversation so many times. Nothing good comes easy. You have to go through. It's almost like the universe is like great, you want this, let's see. Let's really like test you with it.
Speaker 3:And I think, like actually believing it as well, 100%, I can actually just saying it.
Speaker 1:You keep saying every time and we're talking through, whatever you're struggling with, you will Go into what you're struggling with and you'll say I know that this is good, I'm okay with it, but it's also like this thing of like I trust I know this is gonna get easier, so you know it, it's not. We don't need to convince you, like don't give up. You fully know you're like Europe, but you're also acknowledging this is really hard.
Speaker 3:But I know it's gonna get better and change for me, like I think I've I've had to sell in 10 years and I can honestly say like it's always been stagnant and it's a good stagnant, like it's done what it's needed to do for me and I've been, I've sort of captured it that, I guess, for the past 10 years and like sitting there with that and, yeah, I think watching it like totally just Changed and transform what, what I want it to be. I just couldn't do that.
Speaker 3:And I think this is the only way that it's gonna happen. So yeah, and just accepting it, and just Well, I mean the boat even with it.
Speaker 1:I think you really can see now this change in this uncertainty and this like breaking through the cap, and which is hard and Confronting and scary because there's no guarantee, because you have and the way you've been it, it's created a lot for you've got a beautiful life out of what you've had but, now we're entering the next zone, it's like, oh, hang on, this is all new and and uncharted waters. But I think you're really understanding. This is happening for you, not to you.
Speaker 3:Yeah, definitely. And that changes the game and just having like faith in whatever that journey is. It's like something you need to. You need to go on, whether it's like yeah, what's the what I say? The other day and I wrote it down in one of the how it made me feel and it was. I know I just come up with it on spot and it was awesome.
Speaker 2:We'll make it into some t-shirts a merch.
Speaker 3:Yeah.
Speaker 1:I can't move. What was it was? It was very appointed, uh-huh.
Speaker 3:I need always to get my diary. I'm like people need to hear that that line it was good.
Speaker 1:Go get it.
Speaker 3:Go, get the diary past, the mind to.
Speaker 2:Jazzy, jazzy. On day one we did a really beautiful exercise we talked a lot at the Contra salon about. So we talk a lot about. We actually refer to ourself in for third person all the time test and I and we talk about next level, nikki and next.
Speaker 1:Oh, yes, I thought, do we? Oh, I thought you mean like is in, like test is hungry?
Speaker 2:No, I just need food we talk about next level, nikki, next level test, but one of the things that we that's really helped us because we can be quite logical people and I think it's all well and good to declare you know, this is the person that I want to be, but actually bridging that gap in a practical sense of how do I get there.
Speaker 2:We have a really beautiful exercise around ideal self versus actual self and Jazzy. This was really beautiful for you and I really. This is a real standout for me for your journey in the past couple of days. Can you talk us through a little bit and, if you're comfortable to share even a couple of points of what your actual self is now and who your ideal self is, if you feel comfortable?
Speaker 4:Yeah, so I think for me it was a big realization, like authenticity is something that's like very important to me. But then, like Tess you mentioned that, when we were talking about how we show up in friendships and whatnot, how I felt that sometimes it's not too sad that I will, you know, divert the conversation back to the other person just to avoid, you know, having to talk about me or Just making sure that they felt hurt. So a bit of people pleasing but also me not being authentic because I wasn't being vulnerable.
Speaker 4:So I think that was a really big moment for me because I was like, wow, like you know, before that I would have been like, no, no, like, and even I declared earlier in the morning how important I also want to encourage people to be their authentic self, but then maybe I wasn't harnessing that, and that's probably you know. Again, capping myself, yeah. So, and my word for the year was growth.
Speaker 4:So, I thought that that was predominantly my business. Yeah, and growing my business to be next level. But in order to grow my business to be next level, I need to be next level. So like that growth is yeah heavily surrounded me.
Speaker 1:So you are also very much living out your word in every sense. Yeah, like it's, it's all being present and with that, again, there's not easy road to set. There's lots of tears, there's lots of healing, there's lots of unpacking, there's lots of feelings, emotions, yeah.
Speaker 1:It's One of the biggest changes for me this week, because you have gone from being like you know when we've spoken before. Like you, you're doing any journaling, jazz and I don't do journaling. Okay, cool, that's fine, no worries. And then this weekend you're like sorry guys, even this morning, yeah, I'm just gonna pop myself out to do some journaling, oh okay.
Speaker 4:And I think Journaling.
Speaker 1:Jesse, you can create like a journal I reckon we need to do a product journaling with Jazzy.
Speaker 4:Yeah, maybe. Oh, there's so many the double.
Speaker 1:J, that's anyway, I'll stop because I'm really going with that tangent.
Speaker 4:Now, yeah, I think I've journaled a little bit in the past and it was like profound for me too, because I was, you know, doing a lot of manifesting Journaling and pulling a lot of stuff in. I don't know why I stopped like I almost. It frightened me a little bit, maybe because it was you are a very powerful manifesto.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and you've been able to bring to life the things that you put out, that you wanted Definitely, and I felt that scared you a bit before, like I've definitely been.
Speaker 4:Like I know I can call this in, but then it's like in my brain, like that lack of discipline to be like Just do it and put yourself first and calling this amazing life. Oh, I would be like no no no, no, I'm not ready. Oh, maybe it's not big enough, or maybe it's not, you know, like it's not Impactful or it's. I would think about it way too much.
Speaker 4:Which is why I need to journal, because then I would get that out on the page. So that's pretty cool. But I think the vulnerability, going back to that, I Loved the way we it was facilitated like just being able to. I've never been in a space before, like you know, yes, you've had prompts and you write down all your feelings and what not, but then to share them and I loved that. I love the whole way that we you would, we would ask questions, we would think about it, we write it down and then we'd all share our individual and you guys would like then push the boundaries and ask more questions and Just really get to the root of what was going on.
Speaker 3:It was really heartfelt Mmm.
Speaker 4:I just loved it and I think that's where that you know we have those massive like she is. The trust because it just feel like and I knew like after the first round I was like, wow, we're gonna do this the whole day. I could have been shallow if I wanted to, but you weren't, and that's it. We just didn't, we just.
Speaker 1:I really want to acknowledge you for that as well, jazzy, because I know that that's been a big and you know I've had the privilege of being your friend for a couple of years as well and I know that we work together now. But I think, seeing and like hearing the things that you've shared and the things that you shared this weekend, that I feel that I learned about you Only through our friendship level. To hear you saying that, with you know, these new friends that you have, and that safety, and like Vonder, it was fucking beautiful and truly last night or was it last night? The night before, when you were sharing and talking, I Was a site that is authentically herself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, unapologetic and it was so. It was a moment and I'll never forget that moment with what you were like sharing with everyone and everyone just, and we've all had those different points that I truly feel everyone's had a beautiful share. Yeah, definitely, and you know, including Nikki and myself and even even mum. You know we will never know, she won't come into the room, but she had some. Really, you know she sat, she's super uncomfortable with being emotional and she's shared a few things that are super emotional and I think that sort of stuff, when we start allowing ourselves and being unapologetically who we are or authentically ourselves, it can be a bit scary and daunting, but when it happens that, how do you feel? I?
Speaker 4:Feel really light, I feel like I'm brief, hmm, which is really magical, and I I feel like that's where the impact is like, where you can really be vulnerable, be authentic and share your stories and then have these beautiful, like new friends that have come into your world to share that and then Just to see the impact from that you know and just like the respect and like even you know, like with Doing some work with a stretch recently, like just you know, seeing people for who they are the good and the bad and it not meaning anything.
Speaker 1:Yes, that's right. No judge, I mean it's so cool, Absolutely again life-changing, and a big shout out to ace as well.
Speaker 4:She's really great.
Speaker 1:Yeah, she's literally a healer amongst us. We're so grateful she wasn't here this weekend. That was potentially something that will need to change me.
Speaker 2:She's beautiful, thank you, jesse, that was beautiful.
Speaker 1:Yeah, thank you, my understanding.
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