This week on the The Conscious Salon Podcast, our 'Hot Girl Hotline' turns heartfelt when a listener reaches out, feeling unmoored in their quest for self-discovery. Like a gentle embrace, we share the commonality of this struggle, offering a compass of perspective and empathy for those moments when life feels like uncharted territory. We invite you on a reflective journey, emphasizing the importance of finding steadiness within ourselves during the tides of life. Delving into the practice of journaling, we explore how the written word can be a lantern in the fog, illuminating the path to self-trust and authenticity.
As the conversation meanders into the art of living consciously, we peel back the curtain on life's simple pleasures. We unravel the misconception that life's tapestry must be woven with grand, sweeping strokes by a certain age, instead cherishing the intricate patterns of daily contentment. Entwined with personal anecdotes and the wisdom of embracing the present, we weave a narrative of fulfillment that defies societal pressures, advocating for a life sculpted by joy in the mundane and the courage to follow one's unique rhythm. Join us, and let's celebrate the rich, complex journey of life together. This is a great episode for anyone who is feeling stuck and unmotivated currently.
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This podcast has been produced and edited by Snappystreet Creative
This week on the The Conscious Salon Podcast, our 'Hot Girl Hotline' turns heartfelt when a listener reaches out, feeling unmoored in their quest for self-discovery. Like a gentle embrace, we share the commonality of this struggle, offering a compass of perspective and empathy for those moments when life feels like uncharted territory. We invite you on a reflective journey, emphasizing the importance of finding steadiness within ourselves during the tides of life. Delving into the practice of journaling, we explore how the written word can be a lantern in the fog, illuminating the path to self-trust and authenticity.
As the conversation meanders into the art of living consciously, we peel back the curtain on life's simple pleasures. We unravel the misconception that life's tapestry must be woven with grand, sweeping strokes by a certain age, instead cherishing the intricate patterns of daily contentment. Entwined with personal anecdotes and the wisdom of embracing the present, we weave a narrative of fulfillment that defies societal pressures, advocating for a life sculpted by joy in the mundane and the courage to follow one's unique rhythm. Join us, and let's celebrate the rich, complex journey of life together. This is a great episode for anyone who is feeling stuck and unmotivated currently.
To follow our journey:
Instagram @aheadhair_
@the_conscious_salon
This podcast has been produced and edited by Snappystreet Creative
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Speaker 2:Welcome to the Conscious Salon. Third time lucky eh, welcome back to the Conscious Sal contest on podcast. Third time's a charm.
Speaker 1:We've tried the first one was a good start. I'll just interrupt again which I know she's loving today. The first one was good, but then the dogs burst in the dogs burst in.
Speaker 2:And then we were like, oh, this is like it was just too scattered and we didn't want to pull produce layer through that. The second one um, just got a little scattered herself.
Speaker 1:Nikki mentioned. Someone mentioned something about imax was it me? And then I fell down the imax like rabbit hole I got into the note now showing I mean, if there was any any question of where my spicy brain was, I don't think that that literally was just coming from a passing comment. And then I latched on and started Googling the now showing. I forced it.
Speaker 2:I was like, oh Tess, I'm going to talk through the IMAX program that's currently showing and like coming soon, of the IMAX. People are wondering what IMAX is now. Now, tess, without googling or looking to go down the rabbit hole, imax is a great big whopper theater screen in Melbourne. I don't know if it's like a global thing, but it's. It boasts like the biggest movie theater screen in the world and it was like iconic when we were kids don't you dare say anything.
Speaker 1:I'm literally saying nothing because I've learned so much, but also nothing because it will be. I don't want this episode to be the IMAX episode.
Speaker 2:Jess went on a like three-minute IMAX rant an IMAX monologue, if you will and I just had to call it and say we're going to start the podcast again. Third time's a charm, but anyway, now we've already gone too far into IMAX.
Speaker 1:The week that was Jess without. No, I think we'll start with you, mate, because god knows where I'm gonna end up at this minute.
Speaker 2:So let's start with your week very gracious of you, just the first time in 18 months of doing this podcast that I've been able to start with the first segment.
Speaker 1:I'm just trying to make up for the imax rant and I'm gonna I might just have to drag this out, like you do no, I won't. We have had a big week. We've had a big week it's been a big week.
Speaker 2:We've had a big week. It's been a big week. I am getting prepared. We're 13 days out. When this goes out into the world, we'll be like thick in, we'll be wearing high-vis. Darl will have the soot in the hair. Wait, soot, no, not soot like dust in the hair.
Speaker 1:We're up in the chimneys. Don't even have a chimney in the summer.
Speaker 2:We are chimneys, we are doing a uh santa claus appearance. So we will have, we will be. We'll be like knuckles deep in renovations and yeah you know doing all that in our salon. So if anyone doesn't know we have a hair salon, it's called ahead. We're about.
Speaker 1:Sorry if anyone doesn't know. I reckon you would by now.
Speaker 2:We talk about it. We probably would. You guys have probably heard of it. We smell it, we've got a salon Turn your volume up if you haven't. We talk about it constantly. But if yeah, so we do have a massive reno coming. We're not just giving our salon a facelift, we're like, basically I don't know. We're giving it like a facelift, like a neck reconstruction.
Speaker 1:I don't know, mate, I'm literally in the dark on it, like you're looking at me like I'm going to help. I don't know. I don't know if I've chosen to stay out of this or I've been kept out. Either way, I'm oblivious to what's happening, tess?
Speaker 2:you literally don't Whenever I'm like. What do you think about this?
Speaker 1:You're like yeah, I'm like, I'm pretty, that's your contribution.
Speaker 2:I'm like say more, say less and do more theory on it, but no, yours is say less and do nothing. You literally cut the ribbon the acceptance speech.
Speaker 1:Thank you everyone for putting the vision together. Oh yeah, I was saying that to test um.
Speaker 2:Recently I was saying to hannah when we were planning all this out. I said I'll test. You know, she doesn't know what's going on. I said oh don't.
Speaker 1:She'll be there to cut the ribbon on the day and thank everyone, but yeah, no best that we keep you out of it.
Speaker 2:Well, we are Well.
Speaker 1:I do. I learn about it through the clients where they say like, oh, I heard you're moving this here. And I was like yeah, I've got no idea like I'm excited.
Speaker 2:I don't know just probably draw the floor plan, but it's better than test good at this point. But look it's. You're on a need-to-know basis and you've so far needed to know nothing, except for the dates that we're closing the fact that I'm not pushing today, I think, really says it all.
Speaker 1:Trust is given both ways. You trust that I'll stay out of the way and I trust that you're gonna like create this magnificently. I will say I would like to borrow some high viz, because whenever we go I've got a pink high viz. It's really cute. Yeah, maybe I'll just go and buy one.
Speaker 2:Yeah why not actually, rachel? I mean, yours will be pristine and still in the plastic by the end of it 100, because I will look historically.
Speaker 1:It does go without saying that I do. I have a bit of a tricky time. I know about the time. I'm not in my week it was, so don't worry, I'm going to keep it super brief. I've just given up.
Speaker 2:I think I'm just going to donate my week. That was to you every week.
Speaker 1:No, it's been a cruise week this week, so, like I promise you, I'll be short. Who, uh, the? Historically, though, I have had a tricky time when we renovate and change things around. Tess gets really frustrated with the mess.
Speaker 2:She's like the mess, guys, the mess. I'm like it's a construction site, like, yeah, literally get a mop at the end that day 15. You get the mop, you don't get the mop on day one, yeah yeah, that's a test, just except hounding us like it's too messy. It's too messy, but if you can't handle it, out of the zone yeah, well.
Speaker 1:Well, hopefully I wasn't medicated though the last time, so maybe it'll be different now that she's a medicated girly. Maybe, maybe I'll be more chilled, I don't know. I am sitting next to a big pile of washing at the minute, which is like you don't see washing like this in this household very often, do you totally? So you know evolution growth. No, it will be done the second that this microphone goes down. It's going to be done, so not a problem.
Speaker 2:Anyway, week that was, yeah, so we're about to do a big reno. Um, and it's by the time this goes out we will be in the middle of the reno. So, um, you know, quiet prayer for us. But it's been a lot to pull together together and we're just about to start in what 13 days' time. So, good Thursday, what's like the Thursday before Good Friday we finish at 8 o'clock and then we are going to smash through the walls at about 8.30.
Speaker 1:Can't wait to get the complaints from the neighbours. They're going to love it. They'll be fine.
Speaker 2:But it's yeah, look, it's going to be big. We've got two and a half weeks. We're closing the salon, our team are all having a break, um, and we're gonna be. It's gonna be pretty hectic. It's a lot to do in a short amount of time. We've got a lot of people like we've pulled in all the favors and pulled in all the different trades and we've got a lot of things happening and it's going to be absolutely beautiful, um. But yeah, it's a lot of pressure, it's gonna be a lot, but I'm definitely ready. I can't wait. I can't wait to give our community and our team a salon that they deserve. It's gonna be beautiful, um, and then, when we reopen, we'll come in on the tuesday and say good day everyone, a strong coffee, yes, bless this space. It's gonna be amazing all right off. I pop to go and have a big holiday because it's gonna be a lot that's inspiring.
Speaker 1:I've um, I have had some input. I've just realized I've chosen a tile. You asked me yesterday for a tile and I got to choose it. Oh, we didn't go with that one.
Speaker 2:I'm joking oh, you're kidding you did choose it, I did there we go she's had a little bit of input.
Speaker 1:Um, I didn't really hear much of the week that was. That sounds like the week that's coming in a few weeks, the week that was.
Speaker 2:I've just been preparing for that. I've been like meeting with trades. I've been picking stuff, I've been like budgeting, I've been doing like measurements, been doing a billion things and just trying to make sure everything comes together and um balancing our stock and and being able to coordinate all of the people coming in, coming in and going out, like I've been um in the salon two days this week and I feel like I've seen no one because I've just been like meeting with different trades doing things.
Speaker 1:I'm feeling a bit scattered, not not as grounded as I'd like to be great glad that we're recording um anything we can do to help before we move on. No thanks.
Speaker 2:I'll ask you for some favors off air. No, it's good, it's good, it's exciting. I just I feel like we're just like on the brink of evolution and I think this is going to be really beautiful. I'm so glad that we've decided to pull the trigger and do this, because at the moment, we've got we've actually got a really large space, got 130 square meters in our salon. Um, we've got a really large space, but we don't use like half the salon no, and the salon was also built for me, just me and nikki.
Speaker 1:That's why I keep remembering that the salon has been built for just Nikki and I 11 years ago, so the basin's like built for my like height, which not many people are in our salon or like, and how we were moving at the time. So it'll be really cool to like now have it as a community space rather than just us.
Speaker 2:I also just think the evolution of um, you know what we want our experience to be and our offering to be for our community. We're about to level that up so much so that their uh experience in their appointment with us is so much more sacred than what it is currently. So I'm really excited about that but you know when you like start a reno, everything's in pieces, there's just shit everywhere and you just think, why did we do this? But it all makes sense at the end always comes together how was your week?
Speaker 1:I'm saying yes, but I really don't know but, yeah, I'm with you, yeah, and I feel like you prefer me not being in there, so I think we've got everything we want you are coming in this time and you get your hands dirty this time, hang on, I'm always there when we're in there, when we're in the practical part the the plan out, I'm not you're gonna no, no, yeah, you'll be in there, you'll get your.
Speaker 1:You get your hands dirty, it'll be great uh, do you want to give everyone a chicken update? I just realized the other day. Do you ever update the fact that you actually hear what happened with the roosters and the chickens?
Speaker 2:yeah, we get eggs. Now we get like four eggs a day so you had the chicken change over yeah, but I don't want to.
Speaker 2:I don't want to give pete young too much praise, because he actually nailed it this time. The chicken man came back, swapped out the roosters for the chooks, for the hens and, um, we get eggs. We get four eggs a day and everyone's happy. And these guys are great. They don't take too long to get up into the. We've got a maraca. You shake the maraca, they follow you to the cage or the pen sorry, um marty can like coexist with them.
Speaker 2:It's pretty beautiful, they all just great. They can all just walk around the backyard together and they don't kill each other, which is iconic my staffy um, I'm sure every like staffy handbook would say don't get pet chickens.
Speaker 1:But here, we haven't put missy in the mix, we've kept her kind of a bit oblivious to it. Oh yeah, yeah, we won't be putting her in. No, I just you know she's not.
Speaker 2:She's not a violent dog, but I think she would be with the chickens. But yeah, you just, you just don't know.
Speaker 1:But anyway, that's great to hear. Uh, the names are uh, soli kind of got a bit lax. The first time around he had a really got quite creative. We had bobby bob, grassy pop, poppy hop sorry, not grassy pop bobby bob, grassy hop, poppy and chloe, whereas this time around he's gone with uh, two grassy hops, and then there's two poppies. Yeah, yeah so two for two and I said have you paired them up?
Speaker 2:and he said yep, I was like which one's which, and he didn't he also told me recently that one of them was called ted I think that's a baby's name at school. So I was like, okay, cool cute.
Speaker 1:There is some interesting names in this daycare, but anyway that's your week, mate.
Speaker 2:How's it been good, that's good that's it.
Speaker 1:That's the end for today. So hot, I'm not touching that test.
Speaker 2:We run a little segment around here. What's it called? Hot girl hotline? So, for anyone new, we run a segment each week. It's called hot girl hotline, and we put up a questions box on instagram. We ask you for your troubles, your woes, your business blues, what's keeping you up at night, and then we offer our advice around it. Tess, what's today's listener question?
Speaker 1:uh, this one I actually thought would be really appropriate because I feel like this is playing out a lot at the moment. Um, so I've handpicked this one. Hey girls, I'm not sure if this is a hottie cue hot as well for that little abbreviation. Thank you, babe. Uh, but I'm feeling super lost and I don't even know where to start finding myself again. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Speaker 2:Love.
Speaker 1:Nikki.
Speaker 2:Okay, Okay, this is beautiful. Is this from a team member or owner, or we don't? It's just not even relevant is it Not relevant?
Speaker 1:Not relevant, not an industry person.
Speaker 2:Okay, not an industry person, oh okay.
Speaker 1:Thanks, okay, thanks, mom for sending any questions, okay?
Speaker 2:um, this is not from happening everywhere. I understand why you I'm gonna.
Speaker 1:Are you wanting to go first? You want me to?
Speaker 2:I feel like this is gonna be a great episode, because I feel like this is happening everywhere we look at the moment. It's happening with our friends, our family, our clients, like it's happening everywhere and this is a great topic. You go first.
Speaker 1:I agree with Nikki, and even when I was, we were sort of discussing this, you know, in the two edits before this, although we didn't get this far, but just when Nikki and I were chatting. We always like to have a bit of an outlay of the episode, which might come as a shock to a few of you people like these are pre-planned, I mean, look, we don't have like a list or a running sheet, as we did briefly, but they, they didn't kind of work with my brand I never printed one off a test, I just have one for me.
Speaker 1:And I was like, yeah, I'm ready um, so yeah, I think, with this, it is a thing that we are seeing play out a lot and everywhere, and I think there's a couple of reasons for it. I think, you know, we're in March now mid-March don't? Yeah, we're mid-March, and I think this sort of thing does start popping up each year. You know, when we get to like you know, december, we're kind of like, oh, thank god, that's finished, can't wait to see what the next year brings. January and February, we're still kind of like high vibes, like yes, I'm going to. You know, we're quite optimistic, like what we're going to do, what we're setting out to achieve, where we're going, all the things that we want to call in and like all of that. You know hot energy's there.
Speaker 1:And then we kind of hit like late feb to march and it's like no, not enough sort of happening for me right now, and I feel like this is usually where things start playing out, where people can start losing motivation a bit, start feeling a bit lost, start feeling a bit wobbly, unsure of themselves, all of the things that, like, so many of us experience and I'm finding this happening a lot in conversation, so not just like when we're having conversations with our clients. I'm talking about this in salon, I'm talking about this in my friendships. I'm talking about this constantly with people and a lot of the time when we feel lost, we kind of look to someone else to give us direction, and that's the thing that I'm seeing happening a lot. It's kind of this thing like I'm feeling like this what do you think I should do? That sort of a thing and what? Even with this question coming through, which I really appreciate this person sending it through and this is absolutely a hot girl hotline question, because it's not just you know, if you are not industry-based or anything like that, ask us, us your questions. It's not strictly to only business topics, but I know that everyone listening to this will get something out of this, because the biggest thing that I think we do when we feel lost is we actually sit with how we're feeling and go into what's actually happening for us.
Speaker 1:So my number one thing whenever I feel lost and usually the thing that I avoid the hardest is actually asking myself what do I want, what am I feeling, what's going on? I don't do that. I kind of avoid myself and get really, you know, chaotic and, um, you know, busy myself and everyone else's stuff and just super avoid, avoid, avoid, avoid, avoid. So I think when you actually are feeling lost, rather than doing that classic like oh, I'll just go and do this and then I'll feel better, or I'll just you know, I'll be happy when sort of mentality, take a second and sit with yourself and see what actually starts coming up for you, ask yourself what you want, where you're wanting to be, what you're envisioning, something like that and actually sit with that discomfort, even if you don't know, that's okay. Just sit a little longer and see what happens.
Speaker 1:I definitely think journaling is super helpful and writing out a prompt like that, like what do I want? And even if you start being like I don't really know what I want, but I just know that I don't want to feel like this, or you know I'm ad-libbing here, but if you start writing eventually, even if you're not connected to it in that moment at the beginning, you will connect soon enough and probably midway down is where you're going to start actually getting clear on what you're actually wanting. Yeah, so I think journaling is a really great one to do.
Speaker 2:What do you think? I think, running alongside the journaling thing, the best advice that we could ever give another human being is stop pretending you don't know the answer. Literally the like epitome of self-trust is knowing how to close yourself down and look within and find the answer of whatever question you're asking and you're so spot on with that. People naturally look at, look to other people of like I don't know what direction I should go in. They're almost like waiting for the answer but there's no one who can tell you the answer except for yourself. Truly, because if you listen to other people and you follow that, you're just going to end up unhappy somewhere else.
Speaker 2:I'm gonna also like that's one of the biggest things that I've gotten out of self-development is self-trust and actually knowing.
Speaker 2:And when I get, when my self-trust gets wobbly, I get bad mental health.
Speaker 2:Like that's when things start playing out for me. I start to get a bit insecure, I start to get anxious, I start to feel really wobbly and the biggest gift that I think we could ever give anybody is reaffirming that every question or every thought that you have that you need answered literally is within you already, and I know that that doesn't seem helpful at the time. But even just knowing that self-trust, if you really nurture that and flex that muscle constantly and work at that, self-trust becomes second nature and you don't have to start to have these plummets where you're like, oh, am I at a personal crisis? Yeah, I also want to like talk and this might be a really unpopular opinion and I'm going to say it anyway because I'm sure there'll be so many people that disagree and maybe think that it's insensitive of me. But I also think it's really important to talk about normalizing the fact that there is ups and downs in your life, in your career, in relationships, in every aspect of your life.
Speaker 2:There are ups and downs and I think, because of the world that we live in today, people can look at other people and their careers, their relationships, their environments, where they live, what type of house they have, whatever it is. People can look at other people online and have massive comparison, and I think this is where so many people fall into this trap, because people go. You know, oh well, I'm going to work and I'm doing you know what I'm meant to be doing, and I've got my partner and my kids at home and we're living in this house and we're paying off this mortgage and blah, blah, blah. Whatever life they're living and people go, but it's not fulfilling and it's not this like incredible life and is this exactly where I wanted to be, or whatever.
Speaker 2:And I used to be like that and I would constantly be like, oh, I'll just be really happy when I've got more team and I'll be really happy when I've got more money and I'll be really happy when I've paid off my house and I'll be happy when I can have more holidays, and blah, blah, blah. Whatever it was, and the day that I turned my life around to start living in a more conscious way, and I've still got such a long way to go. I still live so much of my life unconsciously, but I am constantly working on becoming more conscious and being more conscious in my life. But the day that I started to actually truly embody gratitude and actually live a conscious life, I started to appreciate the mundane little things in life.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I started to appreciate the mundane little things in life. Yeah, the things like you know paying off mortgages.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:The things like those small little micro moments where, like I looked over at Pete and Sully last night, all three of us were sitting in bed together and we were just talking and debriefing or whatever. And I could see Pete was a little bit off Like I can just tell when he's like mental health is a little bit wobbly and I looked at him and was talking to him and I said you seem a bit off or whatever. And he said, yeah, I've had a bit of a funny day. I don't know what's going on for me and we just had this little chat and I put my hand on his hand and I thought, like this is a beautiful moment in my life. I don, I need to reconnect to myself and maybe I'm not on the right path. Maybe I need to change careers, maybe I need to move to another state, maybe I need to go overseas, maybe I need to you know, delete my partner partner and get on tinder or whatever it is.
Speaker 2:So many people think that it's like the environment or the external things. I think it truly comes back to not living a present life and also not just appreciating the mundane things. I think people want this life, they expect that this life's going to be like highlight, highlight, highlight, amazing. Every single day that I go to work, I should be lit up and I'm doing like purposeful, amazing work and I you know I'm, I'm, every single day is flashbang, amazing. Well, that's not reality in any industry. Yeah, so if you're chasing that thought, you will continue to move industries and you'll keep blaming the industry, or you'll keep blaming that workplace or you'll blame that team.
Speaker 2:You'll blame whatever the situation is. Where you need to look is from within, and you need to find peace and be present. And when you find peace and you be present, you're not constantly looking for that thing that will fulfill you.
Speaker 1:That will actually never come I agree, is it too harsh?
Speaker 2:no, I think it's true, though, like it's the, I really do think it's the truth.
Speaker 1:I think yeah, and I definitely agree because I think I relate, I relate, I relate exactly to what you're saying with especially, you know, so much of our life has been like oh, and my life as well.
Speaker 1:I'll be happy when, when I get this, when I get that when I'm doing this, when I'm having that, when I'm you know all of these things, and now it is non, none of those things. And I actually spoiler alert guys. I don't really have much of a plan. I don't sit. I don't think I'm shocking anyone with that, with how chaotic I can be, but I don't. I don't really have a five, ten year plan, and that's okay. It's okay that I don't.
Speaker 2:Some people will not always have to be working towards the big thing.
Speaker 1:No, but I think exactly what you're saying, nick. We started asking ourselves, rather than thinking like we have to do this and we have to be here, and this is what success looks like, we started going with what feels good. We've got things where we just kind of check in with each other. Now, hey, I'm thinking here, what do you think? Yep, cool, we're on the same path. Great, we're happy to work towards that. Great, we have like more mini goals and like big, super, super duper goals. Not so much, we have really micro goals because that, for us, keeps it more sustainable, keeps us at living at a point of gratitude.
Speaker 1:I don't have a big vision of, you know, like I want to have 15 salons and you know, I want to be working with 150 clients and all of these things. I don't have goals and targets like that, and that's cool that I don't. I don't have goals and targets like that and that's cool that I don't. I don't need to have that at this moment. But what I do want to make sure that I'm doing is the work that I'm doing is purposeful, feels good and intentional, and I've got, you know, a crew with me that are on the same vision. With that, yeah, I do agree with you.
Speaker 1:I think that comparison is a really big thing, that we think that we need to have everything in our life organized by the time we're 30, which is such a fucking lie. It is not. You don't know. You're so young, at 30, and I've had this conversation so many times frequently, and I think this is something that's so important because so many of the people that you look up to or that you see as successes majority of them did not have their shit together at 30. Majority of them started making the right moves and decisions and like starting to create success, whatever that looks like for themselves, at 35, plus a large amount of people, and I think that's really important to remember, because so many people put the pressure on themselves.
Speaker 1:To have like life organized and done by 30 is a big thing, especially for women. It's a really big age and I think that's so stupid because we don't need to sit in and fall into that bracket. What we need to do is be sitting with, authentically, what we really love and what we really want out of this life and what we think that we should have, and do the things that like success looks like go against the grain. If that grain's not where you want to be, go against that. Don't feel like you need to go along for the sake of going along. If it's not aligning with you, cool, then don't.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I think this really comes back to being clear on your values.
Speaker 2:Like, tess and I were having a conversation the other day about one of our girlfriends you know, a couple of years ago we're having this conversation. She was packing up to move into state and she was having, you know, as most people do when they're having a brand new start to life. It was very much like I want to move away from where I am now and I want to start this new life, whatever. And I remember saying to her you know, girlfriend, you need to constantly work on your mindset, because any issues that you have now you're going to pack up all your stuff and they're going to follow you up in your car, yeah, to wherever you're, you know, to your new life, and then, if you don't deal with them, they're going to pack them up and you're going to follow them to the next place. You'll constantly be looking for the next thing and the next thing. Yeah, because it's really easy to look externally and go. It's everyone, it's you know, my environment, it's my situation, it's my workplace, it's my whatever, as opposed to going.
Speaker 2:Okay, perhaps it's, it's me and perhaps it's me not living in the present moment and perhaps it's me not finding gratitude in the mundane. I totally agree, but it's really like this literally plays out everywhere, and often we'll see salon owners who are like, okay, I want my salon to get to a certain point. Then it gets in, like, oh, I don't think I'm passionate about this anymore. Maybe I should just sell and go and you know, work online, and then I'll do this and I'll, you know, go and do this, or whatever. So, yeah, it's really easy to try and think I'll just jump from one thing to the next thing to the next thing to the next thing.
Speaker 1:And you're really on the search of fulfillment and happiness.
Speaker 2:But my life changed for me when I realized that I could find fulfillment and happiness in mundane everyday life and I didn't constantly need this like flash bang thing, because I really do think that we're in like an epidemic, like a crisis, um, with our age group of people just being like, oh, I'm not lit up by this anymore, whatever, and it's potentially because they're not living a life that is present and peaceful.
Speaker 1:I totally agree, nikki. We love a prakiti. Let's do how many you want to do. Let's give this person some tangible and anyone else that's feeling a little lost. So if you're feeling a little lost, how many prakitis should we give? Three, five, three, three. If you're feeling lost in this moment, one really strong thing that you'll start with and then we'll come with one together.
Speaker 2:For me, comparison plays a huge part. In when I'm feeling like lost and unfulfilled, it's usually because I'm looking at other people's lives and thinking, oh, maybe my life could be better, because I'm seeing other people living this glorious life and I think my life is all of a sudden not good. So for me, when I get like that, the first thing that goes out the window for me that I ban myself from, I'm really conscious of the media that I consume social media, tv, all of that sort of stuff. So my Prackey tea, if this was for myself and I was giving love to myself, it sounded like I was just talking about masturbating.
Speaker 2:I'm definitely not I didn't even go there but, now everyone's thinking that it is so yeah if I was, um wanted to care for myself in that moment, it would be removing all social media, um and going literally back to reading books and removing technology, because that's a big trigger for me. So this person, I would advise them to remove technology.
Speaker 1:I feel like you follow a lot of really motivating people. Um, I don't, I follow like trashy sites and so, if anything, I feel better about myself. That's, uh, unconscious living at its best. But I think that would actually be super helpful, especially if you are someone that you find yourself watching these reels and it's people. So many of the reels now, I think, are like people and like, if this is you and you're doing these things, keep doing them. If this is what, like, you find inspiring, keep going. This is not a um, I'm not adding it at anyone, I'm not having a go. If this works for you, perfect. But so many of those reels now are things of like, you know, by 18, I did this by 23, I did this by 25, I did this by 30, I did this. Now I'm doing this and it's like fuck, I'm not doing that, like I'm still living at home, totally but even like seeing people's holidays.
Speaker 2:It's like mom and dad are in india at the moment. I'm like you know they're showing this beautiful stuff online and gorge looks like an amazing holiday. I'm like, yeah, but dad nearly shat himself on the bus yesterday because he's had too much curry.
Speaker 1:Are we going to show that? Yeah, he was stuck in traffic for seven hours.
Speaker 2:Seven hours in traffic. Oh totally, I was like oh my God Also the least patient man in the world.
Speaker 1:Exactly this must be pushing you beyond.
Speaker 2:But even that, so like you know it's very different what we see.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a really good point, but the reality is I know dad would have been fuming on that bus making no apologies. He's not. He doesn't suffer in silence. Greg Pollock, he really does ransom rages with them all um, my apricot tea.
Speaker 1:So, yeah, I think that's actually a really fantastic one to have. Um, my apricot tea is definitely spending some time with yourself and don't like just actually sit with what's going on. Be okay with the fact if you're not feeling super inspired or feeling like, feel your feelings and allow them to come out and then ask yourself what do I want? What is it is? Is it me? Is it my situation? Is it? Sometimes it is, sometimes it is the external things. But really asking yourself, what do I want in this, like, what do I want next, what is it that I'm wanting? And actually start working out what you want, because so many times people don't ask themselves what they want. They just know that they don't want to feel the way that they do, or they know what they don't want, but they don't know what they're working towards. So get super fucking clear on that.
Speaker 2:That's it, mate I think the joint one, I reckon I know what it is. Do you say, do you want to do one, two, three? And we'll say at the same time I guarantee it won't be the same, because mine's not.
Speaker 1:Yours is going to be really mindful and mine's going to be like I just want people to feel hot. So okay, cool one, two, three, put on some hot music okay, great.
Speaker 2:So mine would be practice gratitude, because I feel like if people truly are living a present, grateful life, they're not always looking for what's the thing that will make me feel better. It's like, okay, how beautiful was this little part of my day.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we'll go with Nikki's. That's a really hot answer, yeah, but I mean I'd put on some beautiful music, but hot music as well. Yeah, hot music. While you're doing it Like, put that on as you write. Yeah, there we go.
Speaker 2:The Sex for Breakfast playlist is an absolute bell tower that we love.
Speaker 1:It's not a bell tower but it's Like we can send you plenty of like great playlists and things that will make you feel really good. I actually really love when I'm like feeling a bit wobbly, I put on like some inspiring, like woman. You know, of course, femal. Nah, I'll put up. Who was I listening to this morning? Barker Fuck, she's great, do you? You don't? I don't really. Are you familiar with her, is that?
Speaker 2:a singer or a speaker.
Speaker 1:She great, do you? You don't, I don't. Really. Do you familiar with it? Is that a singer or a speaker? She's amazing. She's first nation, first nations, like rapper, I don't know, very cool. Her lyrics are amazing. She spits a mean game, I don't, but like her. This morning I was just like so lit up from listening to like her music because I'm like well, she just and pretty much all it is is just being like empowered, like fuck yeah, like let's, let's go um, or you know who else. Is really good. Any of those like fema, the barbie soundtrack, great, iconic.
Speaker 2:Yeah, uh, lizzo, I know there's a few, you know, dark marks against her name, but let's just go with a global like put on things that make you feel good, something, anything like that, something that makes you feel really good.
Speaker 1:Dance your little heart out, get in the groove of things. I guarantee, if you're feeling shit, put on some music that makes you want to dance and have a boogie three minutes that goes back to being present like that is literally because you're doing nothing else in that moment, but you're jumping around.
Speaker 2:If that's the way you felt, I truly believe that's because you're living in a present moment. Yeah, so it takes you away from the what ifs and what could be and what. How would my life be happier and how is my life not fulfilled? At the moment it actually goes. I feel really fulfilled right now yeah, that's, true, so let's practice gratitude and being present.
Speaker 2:Put your so, put your phone down, put on some fat beats, be present and grateful. Do some journaling. Do some journaling and ask yourself that question. Stop pretending you don't fucking know the answer. It's the best advice I ever got given and I give it to everyone. Don't pretend that you don't know the answer. The answer is literally within you, and if you weren't confused right now, what would the answer be?
Speaker 1:yeah, agreed, hot, we'll leave it right there. Good luck everyone. Enjoy your journeys. Let us know how it goes um love you guys.
Speaker 2:Stay conch thanks so much for listening to this episode and hanging out with us today to hear more about our journey. Follow us on instagram at b underscore conscious underscore salon if you're a shit speller, check the spelling of conscious or at a head hair underscore. Thank you so much for joining us today and we'll see you in the next episode.