Stop The Things That Stop You

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What if fear wasn’t the enemy—but the compass? In this episode of Legal Biz Cafe, Attorney Shaune B. Arnold flips fear on its head. Discover how resistance masks your readiness and how to reframe fear as fuel. It’s time to stop freezing—and start flying. You were built for this. 

Transcript

Hello, everyone! …And welcome to this week’s episode of legal biz cafe. I am your host, attorney, Shaune B Arnold. I am here this week, and every week, to talk to you about your mindset as an entrepreneur. I want to talk to you about those things that hurt you and secretly scare you. I want to talk to you about the things that stop you, so that we can stop them from stopping you …from building the business of your dreams.

Tonight, folks, we're talking about how to deal with the fear that you will run into when you’re operating various aspects of your business. Is it cold calling? Is it proposal writing? Where’s your nemesis?

Is it going on appointments where you're supposed to close the account and get the business? Is it getting your business up and running and doing the things that you want it to do? What is it that has you feeling afraid?

You’ll undoubtedly tell me, Shoot! I ain't skurred. I ain't skurred of nothing or nobody. Well, ...maybe just a little. We’ve all heard that you have nothing to fear but fear itself. We're supposed to take on fear head-on.

But we all have lapses now and again where we get stuck in that fear. Well, some people will tell you that fear is false evidence appearing real. That's from the spiritual crowd that teaches us that if we feel fear, then we are not aligned with the creative force. That creative force being ...God, ...Allah, ...Spirit, ...Source, ...the Universe …whatever you want to call it.

So, what is your fear really about? What is stopping you?

You know, when I first started my business, I started doing some cold calling and had to stop so I could post to my Facebook page an affirmation of my stepping into my destiny and receiving the full abundant measure of it. I went through all of these gyrations, because when I went to go pick up that phone, I felt pure fear in the pit of my stomach. So, …what is that about? …What is that fear sensation?

Some will say it is trepidation of the unknown. …Better the devil you know than the devil you don't. Right? …And you know this is true in some cases, but it's not true in every case. I like to consider myself to be the adventuresome type, meaning I tend to leap and grow my wings on the way down. But I don't leap over pits.

Importantly, I like to leap over a green, grass-filled valley with a creek at the bottom, and the creek bed leads all the way to the highway where I can find my way out of trouble. So yes, I love spontaneous adventures …as long as it’s always carefully planned.

So, how do we deal with the fear now that we understand that, …basically ...fear is it's any kind of resistance that comes up for us when we're trying to do something new?

We're trying to do something out of the ordinary that we know we're supposed to be doing for our business …to build our business. Cold calling is a perfect example.

So now that we have identified the resistance that we're experiencing, how do we handle it? How do we deal with it?

Now, I'm not talking about clinical levels of fear, because if you're if you're that afraid, see a doctor. See a doctor if you are in a deep, dark, depressive hole that you cannot seem to climb out of. If the natural buoyancy of your personality and your spirit are not taking over by all means, seek help.

I'm not talking about that kind of fear. I'm talking about light resistance. And when I say light, I mean it stops you in your tracks, but it doesn't prevent you from getting out of bed in the morning.

I'm talking about limiting beliefs that you have about yourself, …thoughts like, you're not good enough, or smart enough because you don't have the right education. …You didn't go to the right school. …You don't have the right friends, or the right connections. …You don't dress right, you don't have the right style sense. …You're not tall enough. …You're not short enough. …You're too skinny. …You're too fat.

You know, these are the types of ridiculous limiting beliefs that I'm talking about. But I'm also talking about when you are stuck with a limited vision your prospects in business.

…What is your dharma? …Your purpose for being here? Do you believe that you contracted to come this way to embody flesh and blood? …If you do believe that, why? …In your opinion, why are you here?

If you clue into that "why" you may feel a lot less fear. If you spend some time really seeking the answer to that "why" I suspect the fear will start to diminish. Spend some time meditating.

You can do that either solo, or you can do it guided. I do a lot of meditating, and I like to go to YouTube and look up transcendental meditation and chakra cleansing, relaxation music, meditation music. There are a lot of different things that I will type in, and it gives me a lot of different types of guided meditation music, …some of which are chants, …some of which is music, …some of which sounds like gongs or bells and chimes ringing. …There are different types of auditory stimuli to help focus your mind, to help open your chakras, and help you deal with the stress that is stopping you in your world.

If you're not used to meditating, start with a guided meditation. It's really, really helpful for connecting you to the field of all possibilities. Now, what is the field of all possibilities? God. ...I'm not afraid to say it out loud. ...ALLAH. ...Spirit. ...Source. ...The Universe.

However you worship, honestly, it's all good. It doesn't really matter. You know, I think that secretly, the God force, that purposeful intention, is probably having a real good, metaphoric chuckle at all of us over the way that we fight among ourselves to define what that source energy is.

I don't think that it really matters how we define it. …I think it only matters that we hook ourselves up to it. So, meditate, …pray, …ask, …scream, …or cry. Do whatever is necessary to hook yourself up to that field of infinite possibilities …and the fear will start to diminish.

It's been said that if you are feeling fearful, then you are where God is not. I invite you to realign yourself so the fear starts to diminish. I would also encourage you to prepare yourself. Do your homework.

Fear diminishes as competence increases. That's why you hear me tell you each and every week, to Maximize your COMPETENCE …to get the CONFIDENCE YOU NEED to succeed. You see, …if you stay ready, you don't have to ever GET ready.

I have a client that has an opportunity to teach internationally. And this client has products that are ready to sell to those students. This client has teaching modules that are ready. This client is ready to go.

This client has absolutely no time for fear, because she's ready to go. So, are you ready to go? ...Have you prepared yourself? ...Have you learned all the things that you need to learn in your niche industry so that you can be the chosen professional to satisfy your marketplace?

When you really know your stuff, that's when you have no time for fear. That's when everything flows to you the way it should.

If you can't get things to flow, I encourage you to ask for help. When you need help, ask for it, and don't stop asking for it until you get it. Now, this could mean, in a life or death situation, get yourself out of danger, but we're here talking about entrepreneurship.

So, what does it mean to ask for help? It means form a mastermind team. It means find yourself a mentor. You've heard me say it time and again. Every world-class performer has a coach, a mentor. It’s necessary for you, who is seeking to be that world-class performer, to reach out to find somebody who is in the space where you want to be, …who knows something that you don't already know. Swallow your pride and your ego and reach out to that individual and have them mentor you.

You know, to that end, I want to invite you, if you are a struggling entrepreneur, or you are struggling to become an entrepreneur, then I invite you to listen to my other podcast, ...Your Business, Accelerated! That show gives you the perspectives on business from an attorney that has practiced in California for 30 years. You can get this information for free! It's an extraordinary show and it's just for you, the entrepreneur. When you listen to Your Business, Accelerated! AND LegalBiz Cafe, you get two sides of the entrepreneurial coin. You get REAL resources to help you build your business. You can also follow me on Facebook, LinkedIn or Twitter. You can find me in all of those places, at Sean dot Arnold.

I would love to leave you this evening, folks, with a brand-new approach to dealing with fear. We've all heard fear is false, evident, appearing real. But I want to give you an entirely different perspective from which to deal with fear, and this perspective is going to allow you to use it as a fire in the pit of your belly. You will turn the thing that makes you freeze up into something that makes you shoot into motion.

See fear as that sense of being out of your comfort zone and growing in your life, and attaining your goals. ...From now on, to you, ...fear means you're feeling aligned. Everything's resolved. 

You feel it in your gut. ...That means you're feeling aligned with attaining your goals. Everything is already resolved. ...You're ready to move into the future. ...You're ready to move into your destiny. ...You are ready to start, build or fix the business of your dreams.

Thank you everyone for joining me on this week's episode of legal biz cafe. I appreciate you, and I invite you to come back again next week. Until then, I am attorney Shaune B Arnold, reminding you, as always, to MAXIMIZE your COMPETENCE, to get the CONFIDENCE YOU NEED to succeed. 

Remember, …there's nothing to fear, …not even fear itself. I will see you next week, friends. Bye-bye.