The Happya Life with Clare Deacon

What if thriving isn’t about having it all together but finally feeling at home in your own skin?

Welcome to The Happya Life with Clare Deacon, the podcast for women ready to move from survival mode to self-worth, nervous system healing, and emotional freedom.

If you feel stuck in people-pleasing, overwhelmed by self-doubt, or burned out from always doing more, you’re not alone. And you’re in the right place.

💬 We talk boundaries, burnout, emotional regulation, trauma recovery, nervous system work, and creating a life that actually feels good (not just looks good).

I’m Clare Deacon, trauma-informed therapist, positive psychology coach, and Amazon #1 bestselling author of Blooming Happya. I combine science, soul, and strategy to help women stop performing and start becoming.

In each episode, you’ll get:

Practical tools and nervous system insights
Real talk on trauma, boundaries, and rebuilding your self-worth
Coaching grounded in neuroscience, embodiment, and positive psychology

This is where self-help meets self-connection.

🎧 Ready to heal the patterns holding you back and start living from your truth?

Press play. This is where your transformation begins.

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The Happya Life with Clare Deacon

Who's Opinion Matters?

November 03, 2022 • Season 1 • Episode 7

🪷If something in this spoke to you, I’d love to hear, message me.

Sometimes we invite people to offer their opinion on a decision we are making, other times people offer their unsolicited opinions either indirectly or directly.

You are a free and independent person who is capable of determining how you want to live, of living a life that is best for you. Sometimes you will find people who will try and tell you how you should live, what you should do and we may not want to disappoint them but we need to stand strong. This is not their life. They have a different set of values, a different set of goals, a different view of the world.

So this week instead of taking onboard the opinions and values of others I want you to think about how you feel about your life, how you want to live, what your instinct is telling you about what you want to do. Do you feel calm? Do you feel energised by what you are doing? Are you being kind? If you can answer yes to these questions, you can be assured that even if others have a different view, it doesn’t matter, as long as you are enjoying your life and being kind, you are on the right path.

You may have spent a lifetime trying to please others, to live up to their standard but it never works, it doesn’t make you or them happy. It doesn’t allow you or them to grow. So, make a decision to live a life that makes you feel good. Even though others may have opinions – let them go.

Love. Accept. Respect. Trust yourself in the decisions you are making and if at any point you make a wrong decision you learn from it and you forgive yourself.

If you are looking for some support with your own wellbeing reach out, email me clare@happyacoach.com or dm me @happyacoach.

For those of you who want to explore further your own values and beliefs, if you are feeling detached from your life and want to build greater clarity and assurance of who you are then take a look at my recently published workbook and journal on Amazon Reconnect to a Happya Life. If you check out www.happyacoach.com/reconnectworkbook you will find all the information. I will leave the links in the description for this episode.

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