Episode #1: The Bystander Effect on Teen Influences & Sexual Violence
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Triggers & Spiritual Medicine
Episode #1: The Bystander Effect on Teen Influences & Sexual Violence
Nov 16, 2022 Season 1 Episode 1
Laura Bonetzky-Joseph

A must listen episode regarding a local incident w/ guest, Ukumbwa Sauti.  This conversation is to open a conversation about a topic that is typically silenced & how we, as a society, as a culture, have normalized certain unhealthy behaviors that can have detrimental consequences.

Let's change this narrative, shall we???

In this episode, we talk about the

  • community backlash
  • subtleties of mixed message signaling
  • bystander impact
  • systemic issues create blind spots that can appear funny
  • “NOT intentional sexualization of teenage boys” (as someone in the local community put it) – & the gateway to unintentional grooming practices by predators & rapists that blur healthy boundaries & potential put our children in harm's way.

Important stats per (NSVRC)

  • 1:3 female & 1:4 male victims experienced rape for the 1st time between 11 & 17yo
  • 1:4 undergraduate women experienced sexual assault at 33 major universities

In this episode we offer 5 things we can do NOW to begin that shift & BE a part of the solution.

More Information & Additional Resources can be found HERE.


Ukumbwa Sauti, M.Ed. is an educator, facilitator, speaker & consultant. His areas of work include his Men’s Work Initiative, Conscious Consent, anti-patriarchy, anti-racism, environmental issues, Indigenous spirituality & media studies.

He's taught cultural media studies engaging issues of race, sex & gender oppression, class, colonialism, modernity & technology. He has presented in academic, spiritual/cultural & community venues & taught classes on consent, sexual & intimate safety in sex-positive conferences & organizations for more than 15 yrs.

Ukumbwa currently runs an initiative called Men’s Work, engaging men & others in the process of interrogating & dismantling patriarchal privilege & power, toxic masculinity, misogyny & homophobia.

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Real talk. Let's address the elephant in the room to the growing "sickness" in our society, address root issues and provide sustainable solutions.

We hope by addressing the intersectionality and connect the dots like a web of many of society’s challenges, we can help others understand the trauma infection that impacts all areas of life – addiction, domestic violence, racism, homelessness, sexual abuse, chronic health issues, cancer, environmental issues, climate change and more.

In this NEW collaborative program, we hope by highlighting these infected areas and what they share in common, a new perspective of solutions, healing, and resolutions can be birthed.

Each episode addresses a certain trigger while offering the spiritual medicine with at least 3 tips or actionable steps our listeners can take and implement.

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