Raising Private Money with Jay Conner
Are you a real estate investor who’s tired of missing out on deals because you don’t have the money to fund them? Maybe you’re just starting in real estate, overwhelmed by all the conflicting advice, and wondering how to break through.
Or you’ve done a few deals, but your business feels more like a hobby than a reliable source of income. If you’re struggling to take your real estate business to the next level, this show is for you.
Welcome to The Private Money Show with Jay Conner, where we cut through the noise to give you the truth about real estate investing—and the tools you need to succeed. Most investors lose out on 87% of real estate deals simply because they don’t have access to the money to fund them. But what if you could change that? What if you could fund every deal you wanted, eliminate your competition, and grow your business faster than you ever thought possible?
Each week, Jay Conner—the Private Money Authority—shares exactly how to raise private money to fund your deals, close more opportunities, and build a thriving, consistent real estate business. Jay has been in the trenches of real estate investing full-time since 2003, and he’s still doing it every day. He knows what works, what doesn’t, and how to help you stop chasing bad advice from so-called “gurus” who haven’t done a deal in years.
In every episode, you’ll learn:
- How to find and raise private money to fund your real estate deals on YOUR terms (no banks, no hard money lenders).
- Strategies for creating consistent deal flow and turning your investing business into a reliable source of income.
- How to structure deals with private lenders and create win-win relationships that benefit everyone involved.
- Real-world, step-by-step advice from investors who’ve been where you are and completely changed their game using private money.
This isn’t theory or fluff. It’s the real deal. Jay and his guests break down real-world deals, showing you the numbers, the challenges, and the solutions, so you can see how to apply these lessons to your own business. Whether you’re brand new to real estate, struggling to find consistency, or a seasoned investor looking to scale, this show is your blueprint for success.
Why Listen to This Show?
Because it’s not just about making money—it’s about building something bigger than yourself. Jay believes real estate is a tool not only to create wealth but also to make an impact. This show is for real estate investors who want to leave a legacy, help others, and give back to their communities. It’s for people who know that success isn’t just about the bottom line—it’s about what you do with it.
If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels, stop missing out on deals, and start building a business that gives you freedom and fulfillment, you’ve found your tribe. Imagine what your life could look like with unlimited access to private money. Imagine the deals you could close, the income you could create, and the impact you could make—not just for yourself, but for others.
This is your moment. This is the Private Money Show.
Tune in now, and let’s get started.
Raising Private Money with Jay Conner
Mitigating Risk and Maximizing Opportunity in Real Estate with Private Financing
***Guest Appearance
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"It's All About the Private Real Estate MONEY - Jay Conner shares on the GetOnCode show"
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What do you do when your bank unexpectedly closes the door on your real estate deals? For Jay Conner, it was the catalyst for not only building a multi-million dollar business, but also a movement in financial empowerment.
In a recent conversation with Seko Varner for the Get On Code podcast—an empowerment platform centered on Black empowerment and wealth—Jay delivered a masterclass on raising private money and the mindset needed to succeed in real estate investing.
From Bank Roadblocks to Opportunity
Jay’s journey began in 2003 with a humble start in eastern North Carolina. For six years, he and his wife Carol Joy relied on traditional banks to fund their house flips. Then, in January 2009, disaster struck: “We’re not loaning money to real estate investors anymore,” Jay’s banker, Steve, told him amid the global financial crisis.
Staring down the loss of his funding, Jay asked the pivotal question that changed everything: “Who do you know that can help you with your problem?” This led him to Jeff Blankenship, who introduced him to the world of private money, where individuals, not banks, finance deals. This lesson underscores Jay’s core advice: when you’re stuck, ask better questions and seek connections—your network is everything.
Private Money: It’s About Mindset
Jay is adamant that getting private money is first about owning “the real estate between your ears.” That is, changing your mindset from asking for money to teaching and serving others. Instead of desperately chasing investors, Jay suggests putting on your “teacher’s hat”—educating your connections about how they can get high returns through safe, secured investments in real estate.
Most of Jay’s 47 private lenders had never heard of private money or self-directed IRAs—tools that enable individuals to use retirement funds to invest in real estate deals, earning returns tax-deferred or even tax-free. By sharing knowledge and structure—not just asking for cash—he transformed relationships and built trust.
The Magic Script and Secret Sauce
One of the most actionable parts of Jay's conversation with Seko was his script for approaching potential private lenders:
“I have great news for you. I can now put your money to work. I’ve got a house under contract; the funding matches what you have available, and closing is next week. You’ll need to wire funds to my attorney’s trust account, and I’ll send over the details.”
Notice what’s missing? There’s no pressure, no desperate pitch. Lenders are brought in before a deal exists, educated on the process, and their comfort and trust are prioritized. “Desperation stinks,” Jay quips, emphasizing that deals go smoother—and faster—when you lead with value.
Growing Your Network for Capital
Jay identifies three sources for private money: your warm market (people you know), your expanded warm market (business networking, such as BNI), and existing private lenders. But he encourages starting with those you know, especially retirees who may have unused funds and are tired of volatile, low-yield investments. He even shared his favorite openers—sometimes just “I need your help”—to spark curiosity and find partners, not just financiers.
It’s a Win-Win
Jay’s approach goes beyond transactions—it’s about changing lives. He shared heartfelt testimonials from investors whose retirements were transformed by safe, solid returns. His message is clear: real estate investing with private money isn’t just about personal gain. It’s a ripple effect, empowe