Raising Private Money with Jay Conner
Are you a real estate investor who’s tired of missing out on deals because you don’t have the money to fund them? Maybe you’re just starting in real estate, overwhelmed by all the conflicting advice, and wondering how to break through.
Or you’ve done a few deals, but your business feels more like a hobby than a reliable source of income. If you’re struggling to take your real estate business to the next level, this show is for you.
Welcome to The Private Money Show with Jay Conner, where we cut through the noise to give you the truth about real estate investing—and the tools you need to succeed. Most investors lose out on 87% of real estate deals simply because they don’t have access to the money to fund them. But what if you could change that? What if you could fund every deal you wanted, eliminate your competition, and grow your business faster than you ever thought possible?
Each week, Jay Conner—the Private Money Authority—shares exactly how to raise private money to fund your deals, close more opportunities, and build a thriving, consistent real estate business. Jay has been in the trenches of real estate investing full-time since 2003, and he’s still doing it every day. He knows what works, what doesn’t, and how to help you stop chasing bad advice from so-called “gurus” who haven’t done a deal in years.
In every episode, you’ll learn:
- How to find and raise private money to fund your real estate deals on YOUR terms (no banks, no hard money lenders).
- Strategies for creating consistent deal flow and turning your investing business into a reliable source of income.
- How to structure deals with private lenders and create win-win relationships that benefit everyone involved.
- Real-world, step-by-step advice from investors who’ve been where you are and completely changed their game using private money.
This isn’t theory or fluff. It’s the real deal. Jay and his guests break down real-world deals, showing you the numbers, the challenges, and the solutions, so you can see how to apply these lessons to your own business. Whether you’re brand new to real estate, struggling to find consistency, or a seasoned investor looking to scale, this show is your blueprint for success.
Why Listen to This Show?
Because it’s not just about making money—it’s about building something bigger than yourself. Jay believes real estate is a tool not only to create wealth but also to make an impact. This show is for real estate investors who want to leave a legacy, help others, and give back to their communities. It’s for people who know that success isn’t just about the bottom line—it’s about what you do with it.
If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels, stop missing out on deals, and start building a business that gives you freedom and fulfillment, you’ve found your tribe. Imagine what your life could look like with unlimited access to private money. Imagine the deals you could close, the income you could create, and the impact you could make—not just for yourself, but for others.
This is your moment. This is the Private Money Show.
Tune in now, and let’s get started.
Raising Private Money with Jay Conner
The Mindset Shift Every Real Estate Investor Needs for Raising Private Money
***Guest Appearance
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“The Blueprint to Attracting Private Money for Real Estate | Jay Conner Interview (2025)"
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One of the biggest challenges for real estate investors—new and seasoned alike—is securing funding for their deals. Many hopeful investors are turned away by banks, discouraged by strict credit requirements, or simply overwhelmed by the idea that hefty amounts of capital are needed to get started. But what if you could bypass the hoops, skip the hard money lenders, and line up the funds you need from regular people in your own community?
That’s exactly what Jay Conner, known as the “Private Money Authority,” has been doing since 2009. In his conversation with Wesley Paul on the Respect My Blueprint podcast, Jay laid out a practical and proven roadmap for leveraging private money—and why mindset is the key to unlocking this powerful strategy.
Flip the Script on Funding
Jay’s journey began in a small town in North Carolina, with a target market of only about 40,000 people. Despite this “small pond,” Jay has managed to dominate his market, buying and flipping over 500 houses and building an average profit per deal of $86,000.
He attributes much of his success to a simple but profound shift: instead of chasing after loans or groveling at the feet of the banks, he decided he would “offer a mortgage rather than ask for one.” In other words, Jay stopped asking for money and started offering people the opportunity to invest in his deals. By repositioning himself as a teacher, not a beggar, the dynamic shifted—and so did his results.
Teaching, Not Pitching
One of Jay’s golden rules is never to ask for money or pitch a deal directly. Instead, he leads with education. He explains to people in his network—church members, acquaintances, friends—what private lending is, how it works, and what protections and returns they can expect.
The trust inherent in these relationships is vital. “There’s a five-letter word that’s crucial in this business—trust,” Jay says. People are much more willing to move forward if they understand what they’re getting into and if they trust you to guide them.
Setting the Terms
Rather than letting lenders set the conditions, Jay established his own terms:
- Interest rate: He’s consistently offered 8% since 2009, a rate that outpaces what most people can get in a savings account or CD.
- Loan-to-value: Jay only borrows up to 75% of the after-repair value (ARV) of a property, mitigating risk for the lender.
- Security: Each lender receives a promissory note secured by a deed of trust (or mortgage), and they’re named as the mortgagee on the insurance policy.
- No desperation: Jay separates conversations about his program from discussions about individual deals. By educating first and only bringing deals to lenders after they’re comfortable and interested, he avoids the “desperation” that turns so many people off.
This approach works: Jay now has 47 private lenders—and more capital available than deals to put it into.
Who Can Be a Private Money Lender?
Jay’s experience has proven that just about anyone can be a private lender. From retired teachers and law enforcement officers to minor children who inherited money, private lending isn’t limited to the wealthy elite. If someone has either liquid capital or unused retirement funds, they can become a lender.
The Takeaway: Get the Money First
One of the most important lessons from Jay’s interview is this: line up your funding before chasing deals. Too often, investors scramble for money after they find a property, which can create stress and lead to poo