Raising Private Money with Jay Conner
Are you a real estate investor who’s tired of missing out on deals because you don’t have the money to fund them? Maybe you’re just starting in real estate, overwhelmed by all the conflicting advice, and wondering how to break through.
Or you’ve done a few deals, but your business feels more like a hobby than a reliable source of income. If you’re struggling to take your real estate business to the next level, this show is for you.
Welcome to The Private Money Show with Jay Conner, where we cut through the noise to give you the truth about real estate investing—and the tools you need to succeed. Most investors lose out on 87% of real estate deals simply because they don’t have access to the money to fund them. But what if you could change that? What if you could fund every deal you wanted, eliminate your competition, and grow your business faster than you ever thought possible?
Each week, Jay Conner—the Private Money Authority—shares exactly how to raise private money to fund your deals, close more opportunities, and build a thriving, consistent real estate business. Jay has been in the trenches of real estate investing full-time since 2003, and he’s still doing it every day. He knows what works, what doesn’t, and how to help you stop chasing bad advice from so-called “gurus” who haven’t done a deal in years.
In every episode, you’ll learn:
- How to find and raise private money to fund your real estate deals on YOUR terms (no banks, no hard money lenders).
- Strategies for creating consistent deal flow and turning your investing business into a reliable source of income.
- How to structure deals with private lenders and create win-win relationships that benefit everyone involved.
- Real-world, step-by-step advice from investors who’ve been where you are and completely changed their game using private money.
This isn’t theory or fluff. It’s the real deal. Jay and his guests break down real-world deals, showing you the numbers, the challenges, and the solutions, so you can see how to apply these lessons to your own business. Whether you’re brand new to real estate, struggling to find consistency, or a seasoned investor looking to scale, this show is your blueprint for success.
Why Listen to This Show?
Because it’s not just about making money—it’s about building something bigger than yourself. Jay believes real estate is a tool not only to create wealth but also to make an impact. This show is for real estate investors who want to leave a legacy, help others, and give back to their communities. It’s for people who know that success isn’t just about the bottom line—it’s about what you do with it.
If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels, stop missing out on deals, and start building a business that gives you freedom and fulfillment, you’ve found your tribe. Imagine what your life could look like with unlimited access to private money. Imagine the deals you could close, the income you could create, and the impact you could make—not just for yourself, but for others.
This is your moment. This is the Private Money Show.
Tune in now, and let’s get started.
Raising Private Money with Jay Conner
Architect Your Wealth: Million-Dollar Private Money Strategies with Emilio DiSpirito IV
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For real estate investors striving to build substantial wealth, there’s often a belief that the secret lies solely in finding the right deals or accessing more capital. But as shared in the episode "Become The Architect Of Your Own Wealth With Emilio DiSpirito IV" on Raising Private Money, true success often comes down to mindset, relationships, and the willingness to think—and act—differently.
Jay Conner, the Private Money Authority, introduced Emilio DiSpirito IV as someone who doesn’t just think outside the box—he reconstructs the box entirely. Emilio’s track record speaks volumes: over $750 million in real estate closed, nearly 50 homes flipped, major development projects, and one of Rhode Island’s top luxury real estate brands. His unique perspective as not only an agent but also an investor, advisor, and developer distinguishes his approach in empowering others to create wealth.
Thinking Like a Wealth Architect
What sets Emilio apart, as discussed with Jay, is his commitment to acting as a true advisor. Many in real estate are purely transactional, focused on closing deals rather than fostering long-term relationships. Emilio advocates for a different model: be the expert who helps clients sidestep pitfalls and seize the right opportunities. He recounts instances of talking clients out of deals that didn’t serve their long-term interests, highlighting the value of wisdom over mere knowledge. Investors are willing to pay for experience that saves them time, money, and stress.
This advisor-first mentality also leads to deeper relationships. Emilio’s ideal clients are those who value expertise and are ready for a partnership based on trust, mutual respect, and shared vision. Such relationships yield more than transactions—they generate referrals, repeat business, and lasting impact.
From Zero Experience to Raising Capital
A common question among new investors centers on raising private money. Emilio and Jay both emphasize that success here is not about chasing after people with wealth, but about cultivating relationships and proving reliability. For those starting without connections, Emilio recommends aligning with experienced partners, even offering to help established developers or investors for free initially. This builds credibility and opens doors to private money conversations rooted in trust, not desperation.
Jay’s philosophy complements this approach: focus on serving, not selling. His experience with 47 private lenders—many of whom have stayed with him for decades—demonstrates the power of prioritizing relationships. Investors should see themselves as educators; very few private lenders even know such opportunities exist until someone trustworthy introduces them to the concept.
Busting Myths and Leveraging ‘Lazy Money’
A persistent myth in real estate investing is the idea that debt—especially private money—is something to be feared. Emilio counters that leveraging private money, even at the risk of break-even or slim profits early on, is an investment in expertise and future earnings. The experience and confidence gained far outweigh temporary profits.
Additionally, many believe private lenders must be ultra-wealthy. Jay challenges this notion by focusing on “lazy money": funds sitting idly in savings or retirement accounts. With a little education, everyday people become empowered to participate in private funding, creating a win-win dynamic.
Resilience and Mindset: The Foundation of Success
Throughout their conversation, both Emilio and Jay stress that setbacks and failures are inevitable, but they are crucial for growth. Resilience isn’t just an admirable trait—it’s a requirement. Emilio’s ability to sell previously unsellable properties by repositioning strategies and targeting new buyer personas underscores the importance of creativity and adaptability.
Moreover, faith, discipline, and self-improvement round out the foundation. Emilio’s openness about his faith journey and commitment to personal growth remind listeners that success isn’t just about financial achievement--it’s about becoming the best version of oneself in all aspects of life.
Your Journey as a Wealth Architect
To step into the wealth architect role, Emilio advises listeners to believe in themselves and avoid being limited by the doubts of others. Align with inspiring mentors, surround yourself with positive influences, and never underestimate the power of starting—imperfectly, perhaps, but with determination.
At its core, the message is clear: when you focus on building real relationships, embrace a learning mindset, and boldly take strategic risks, you move from merely seeking wealth to actively designing it. For anyone wanting to construct a future on their own terms, the conversation with Jay Conner and Emilio DiSpirito IV offers a practical, inspiring blueprint.
10 Discussion Questions from this Episode:
- Jay Conner highlights mindset as the foundational step to successfully raising private money, emphasizing service over selling. In what ways has your mindset either helped or hindered your ability to attract investment or close deals?
- Emilio DiSpirito IV draws a strong distinction between being an advisor and being an agent, focusing on expertise and long-term relationships. How would adopting an advisor’s mentality change the way you interact with clients or partners?
- Emilio DiSpirito IV credits much of his success to building a network of “power players.” What practical steps have you taken—or could you take—to build a high-value network in your career?
- For those new to private money, Emilio DiSpirito IV recommends seeking mentorship, even working for free, to build credibility. Would you consider working for experience over immediate compensation? Why or why not?
- Both Jay Conner and Emilio DiSpirito IV assert the importance of investing in relationships before deals. What are some concrete ways you nurture professional relationships so they lead to meaningful, long-term results?
- Jay Conner introduces the concept of “lazy money” and stresses the value of educating potential lenders about private lending. How do you (or could you) approach educating others who have never heard of private money opportunities?
- Emilio DiSpirito IV disputes the belief that “debt is bad,” arguing that leveraging debt can provide valuable learning and growth. How do you differentiate between good debt and bad debt in your investment strategy?
- Emilio DiSpirito IV shared his process for repositioning and marketing difficult-to-sell properties, including using buyer personas and AI tools. Have you repositioned a stagnating asset for sale? What strategies worked for you?
- Both Jay Conner and Emilio DiSpirito IV talk about faith, discipline, and mindset as essential to success. How do your personal values or routines align with your professional ambitions and outcomes?
- Emilio DiSpirito IV advises listeners to develop self-belief and ignore doubts from others, referencing “The Pursuit of Happyness.” Can you share a time when you had to overcome skepticism—either internal or external—to pursue your business goals?
Fun facts that were revealed in the episode:
- Deal-Making Powerhouse: Emilio DiSpirito IV has personally closed over $750 million in real estate transactions and flipped nearly 50 homes, contributing to the creation of one of Rhode Island’s top luxury real estate brands.
- Reverse Psychology in Real Estate: When tasked with selling homes that had sat on the market for over 200 days, Emilio DiSpirito IV shifted the strategy by identifying a new buyer persona, staging properties, and even increasing prices—leading one home to sell in just one day!
- "Lazy Money" Insight: Jay Connor and Emilio DiSpirito IV agree that raising private money isn't just about targeting the wealthy. Often, it's about educating “regular” people who have “lazy money”—funds sitting stagnant in savings or retirement accounts—about private lending opportunities.
Timestamps:
00:00 Meeting Emilio DiSpirito
04:21 Creating real estate inventory
09:38 Exploring alternative lending options
10:49 Focusing on relationship-building
15:44 Using private money for investments
19:16 Slow housing market in Rhode Island
21:24 Adjusting marketing strategy
24:25 Using AI for real estate listings
28:20 Personal growth and helping others
32:07 Inspiration from personal struggles
36:00 Connect with Emilio DiSpirito IV
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36:46 The Curiosity Opener script giveaway
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37:37 Sharing investment insights from Emilio
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