Pleasure Visualising

In this episode, I talk about how to use pleasure to create POWERFUL visioning so that you have clarity and direction for your life and business!

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Hello and welcome to the Big O podcast with me, your host, Emma Marini. I am the business dating coach, speaker and photographer, also known as the Joyous Miss Fit. I use sensual semantics to help you to be seen, to be heard, and to be unapologetically you so that you can embody your deeply sensual feminine presence and become wildly magnetic in your life and business. The Big O explores ways that you can use your pleasure to elevate yourself and your business, where you learn how to relate and express yourself unashamedly, embracing your femme fatale energy. So it's time for you to get turned on by your life and business and to experience the Big O. Hello and welcome back to the Big O podcast. Today we are talking about the power of visioning and using pleasure to really help us and guide us with that. Now, often when we feel stuck, we can we just basically can't imagine uh a future. We can't imagine things getting better, we can't imagine things being different. And often what this stems from is feeling like we're not allowed, because actually our imagination is is endless. We can go as far with it as possible. And the more we can hold visions, the more we're likely then to take the little microactions towards them. But when you're feeling stuck, it's really hard to kind of believe that that's possible, to believe that we can get there. So, what I'm here to talk to you about today is how we can begin to unstick ourselves and how we can begin to start calling in the things that we actually want and believing that we are allowed to and that we deserve to. So vision in. What is a really good activity is to to begin to have a think about what you actually want, okay? So we kind of get to put everything down, and I want you to almost visualize that you have this magic wand, okay. What are the things that in your life you feel currently are missing? So that's that's often a good place to start, okay. Now, whether that is job, friends, home, relationship, if you start there, just start with one thing because what you don't want to do is overwhelm yourself. And then I would like you, if you've got a notepad or notepad or journal, just write shopping lists, okay? And this is almost like the dream shopping list. Now, often the first couple of things are the hardest things to think about. So it's just a case of really beginning to visualize what is it that I want to call into my life? Is it more confidence for myself? Is it a partner that's confident? Is it passion? Is it that that feeling of drive? Like, is it is it something very, very specific? Is it a particular home, a place? Is it a particular job? Is it a particular person? Start there with whatever comes to mind first, okay? And then I want you to continue to write this shopping list. So again, what we're doing here is we're just trying to expand and allow ourselves to imagine, to visualize. We're allowing this, these kind of images of what we want to come to come to us, okay? So start to write that shopping list and get very, very specific. And as you're doing it, I want you to literally visualize and imagine, imagine all of those things. Allow yourself to imagine. Now, imagination is free, we are allowed to do it, and yet so many of us we we stop ourselves from doing this. We believe that we don't deserve it, that we're not allowed to imagine because oh, this can't possibly happen, and all of this, that, and the other. And what I know to be so true is that when we begin to expand our imagination and we allow ourselves to start thinking of the things that we actually want, we allow ourselves to start visualizing these things, picturing things. Then what it does is it starts to rewire our mind, to rewire our mindset, and we become more open. We're no longer in that gripping, closed energy field, we're beginning to open up our energy. And then when we're in that open space, that open vibration, we start to attract things to us, to magnetize things to us. Okay. Now, if you think this happens, if you can think about it from a very logical perspective, if we believe believe that we deserve something better, and then we start to visualize that and we hold that in our mind and we believe it, we really believe it, then those things that we want to call into our lives, we then start to actually live a life based on those. So for example, if traveling is on your kind of wish list, but right now you're stuck and you're like, oh, how could that possibly happen? And you're thinking about all the ins and outs and the house. Well, if you just say, I want to live the life where I am traveling, then what you'll notice if you get to the more you hold that, the more you visualize that, the more you then start to actually live that life now. So it might start with little day trips to places, it might start with just taking, you know, a couple of hours out of your day and going for a walk somewhere. And then that leads to you perhaps staying away for the weekend, then that perhaps leads to you going and and going on like a mini break somewhere, then that might actually lead to you finding some kind of job potential or something abroad. Do you see what I mean? It's like a domino effect, but what it starts with is you imagining, is you allowing that vision in, is you saying, Yes, I have permission for me to imagine things that even right now may not seem possible. You are giving yourself permission, you are telling yourself that you are allowed, you are allowed to want those things. And often that's the thing that holds us back. We don't allow ourselves to imagine, we don't allow ourselves to visualize because we're scared that they won't happen. But they won't happen. This is this is the conundrum. They won't happen unless you allow yourself to actually visualize them. If you allow yourself to imagine them, if you allow yourself to really sink into that moment, into that feeling. If you allow yourself to visualize yourself doing it now, then you start rewiring, reworking. Things start piecing themselves together in a different way. And then you start to actually live the life you want. And that is how you make changes, okay? So it all starts with that visualization, with that that wanting, that allowing yourself to want something more, okay? Giving yourself permission, even if you think you don't know how you're gonna get there, even if you believe that's not possible right now, okay. And this is the key. This is the key. If you're having trouble with this, then it's just adding on the right now, okay? It doesn't mean that it's always not going to be possible. So write yourself a beautiful shopping list for your life or a specific area of your life. Like I said, whether that's job, friends, relationship, write yourself your shopping list, okay? And I want you to get as much detail as possible. Really live this, really love this. And as you're doing it, I want you to actually visualize this. If it's a relationship, if you're trying to call someone to you, then really visualize who is this person. Because what you're doing is you're also then setting a standard for yourself. You are saying these are the values that I am aligned with. This, this is what I need, this is what I want, this is the person that is going to match me. And what you're doing then is you are saying, I'm not going to settle for anything less. I, unless this person really contributes to my life, unless this job really adds to my life, unless these friends, these home really adds to my life, then there's no point me having it. So this is what we're doing here is we are setting the standard. We, and there's a couple of things that happen here. Not only are you allowing yourself to believe that it's possible, okay, and you're beginning to rewire your brain, you're also telling yourself that you deserve it. You deserve to have this version of person or job or home or whatever it is that you are visualizing. You are telling yourself and you are rewiring your mind here to believe that it is possible that you are deserving of it, that you have enough value and worth and love for yourself that you deserve to call this into your life. So, can you see how much, how much this does for you? Okay, you are giving yourself permission, you are telling yourself that you are worth it, you are adding the value, you are believing, you are believing that you have so much value in your life that unless something comes into it and adds to that, then it's not worth you having. So you are doing so much for yourself here. It is so incredibly, incredibly powerful. So start with that shopping list. Now, once you've done that shopping list, then start thinking about that in real life. Okay. So if it's a relationship and you want this relationship with someone that's very intimate, very touchy, feely, very expressive, very confident, excited, that has passion, that's that's kind, and all of these things that are on your shopping list, okay? And even down to I'm talking specifics here. What do they look like? Because they got to turn you on, right? They have got to turn you on. So those specifics, then think about well, what would a day look like with this person and start going into that vision a little bit deeper? What is your day-to-day? What do you do on a day-to-day basis? What excites you? What lights you up? How does every day look for you? Okay. And then you can go a bit deeper. What does the week look like? Then what does the month look like? Then what does a year in the life look like? And really allow yourself to go into the vision. And the more you can go into it and the more you can hold it in the mind, then the more you believe that you deserve that, the more you believe that it's possible, the more you are basically opening up your energy, you're taking off those blinkers, those day-to-day blinkers that you're currently living in, where you're thinking that this is my life and nothing's more, and you haven't got that vision, that purpose, that imagination, that's fun. You're removing those blinkers and you are opening up your energy. You are opening up your energy to possibility. And then what happens is your current day-to-day, you are going to see all of the opportunities around you. You are going to begin to magnetize things into your life. If you think about when you go to a party and there's that person that is, it's just the life of the party. They're so magnetic, they're charismatic, they're they're joyful. You want to be around them, you want to be near them, you want to be speaking to them, you want to be dancing with them. That's the person you begin to become because you are shifting your energy, you are shifting your mindset, and you are beginning to to actually live this life that you are visualizing for yourself, for yourself. And then the things that are supposed to be there with you, they they become magnetized. And because you have set this standard for yourself, you are not going to accept anything less. So there's so much you can do with this. And then what I really invite you to do is to really feel into the energy of what this life that you want to create is going to give to you. Is it peace? Is it contentment? Is it calmness? Is it happiness? Is it that grounded feeling, like that anger? And then the more you begin to actually live that life, as I gave the example with the traveling, and perhaps you know, the the there's so many layers that could be for this, but as you begin to live this life, call that feeling to you. What you're doing here is you're releasing a timeline. Often we get panicky, we get worried because we feel like we have to do something by a certain time, and then that's where the grip comes in, the frustration, that that kind of fear, that that panic, we're running out of time. We're releasing that because you're you're understanding that this is coming back, this is for you, this is part of you already. You are actually you're social this is coming, you're already beginning to live this life. You're you're visualizing it, you're holding your mind, and then you're beginning to do small little microactions that are leading towards that life that that really fucking turns you on. Okay. And feel into that energy, that feeling that comes with that life. That's the energy you're calling to you on a day-to-day basis. And then, of course, as you can see, domino effect, the more you live it, the more you believe it, the more you're surrounded, saturated by it, everything begins to shift in your current life. Okay. So a great place to start with this is what is going well for you now. And using that to celebrate, you can ground this into the vision. So sometimes people are scared to actually visualize because there's some things in their life that they actually really like. So bring them into it, celebrate it, and understand that everything you have created, everything you're going to create comes from you. So celebrate yourself. Celebrate and say, This, I have this amazing thing in my life because I created it, I made it. I've got, I've got to this point, to this job with these friends, whatever it is that actually you're you are happy with, that you do love, bring that into this energy, into this feeling. Celebrate it and celebrate yourself because we forget that we have created this. If you have something in your life that you absolutely love, you created it, you are the creator of that. So celebrate yourself for that. And if you are at a point where actually you are really not happy, and believe me, we have all been there, and that is how my journey started with a massive mental breakdown. So you are not alone, okay? And I am telling you now, but by holding this vision, by coming back to your pleasure, your joy, what sparks you, what lights you up, when you come back to that, that is your guiding light. That is what can change everything because it shifts your energy. Now, I would absolutely love to hear from you, to connect with you, and basically come into my world if you want to communicate this with me, share this with me. And if you want to go further with this with me, come and look on to a pleasure prescription call where we can really take the thing that you want to fix, to call into your life, and I am there to support you and guide you and help you through that. So I really look forward to connecting with you. You know, you can find me at Joyous Misfit on all the platforms, or joyousmisfit.com is the website where you can have a look and find different ways of working with me. So I look forward to connecting with you. Come and join my beautiful pleasure code community, and I look forward to hearing how you are beginning to shift your day to day and your energy. Take care, my loves. Bye.