I used to try and control Jake and decided to change before it was too late...here is how I did it (w/ Jake Stammer)

In this episode, our host Kyia Mochitani invites her future husband Jake Stammer to the podcast to welcome listeners into an honest conversation about the struggle between wanting the best for your partner and learning to love them exactly as they are. This episode explores how the human tendency to “fix” the people we love often stems from fear and unmet expectations — and how true, Christ-like love creates space for transformation through acceptance, not control.

Drawing from personal stories of tension, growth, and breakthrough moments in their own relationship, Kyia and Jake reflect on the power of letting go and trusting God to do the work only He can. With biblical wisdom, real-life vulnerability, and practical advice, they share how releasing the need to change one another deepened their connection and fostered authentic growth on both sides.

Whether you're in a dating relationship, marriage, or friendship, this episode will challenge and encourage you to embrace the freeing gift of unconditional love — the same love Christ so perfectly models.