Hey what's going on everybody it's your boy it's your host MDEE The veteran of the real ones reserved podcast I hope you all are doing wonderful on this Friday I hope y'all feeling great that you're off from work or about to go to work then get off but hey TGIF it is here thank God it's Friday before we get into today's show man please do me a favor like share subscribe to the show make sure you follow us on Facebook at the real ones reserve limited liability company and make sure you follow me on all social media all platforms Malcolm MDEE the veteran Turner and make sure you look in the show notes to follow the links to everything that I just mentioned so with all that being said I hear somebody pondering MDEE what does it mean when you question yourself or ask the question am I toxic I think it's all our individual responsibility to ask such a question to yourself such a real question everybody's quick to finger point at times and you know place the blame elsewhere when you know we at times need to take the moment and then reevaluate ourselves before we even put any blame anywhere else you know but just to give this subject a little more context and a little more understanding is uh I'm going to read this definition by WebMD and it's just basic question what is a toxic person if you know someone who's difficult it causes a lot of conflict in your life you may be dealing with a toxic person these people can create lots of stress and unpleasantness for you and others not to mention emotional or even physical pain a toxic person is anyone who's behavior as negativity and upset to your life oh man after reading that definition by web MD oh man that's a lot of people that huh I'm going to read you guys one other article by psych central published by Kimberly Drake and it says does someone in your life continually leave you feeling guilty I'm sorry leave you feeling confused frustrated or guilty if so you might be dealing with a toxic person and she goes to provide some information how to cope and says the word toxic is used to describe a myriad of health social and environmental issues from toxic waste to toxic workplaces this buzzword is used so often that in 2018 it was named Oxford Dictionaries word of the year Oh my goodness this article also goes on to read a toxic person is someone who is suddenly or outwardly manipulative self-centered needy or controlling that's funny because just to think about it a lot of people are needy so the does that make everyone toxic because they're needy I'm not saying that agree or disagree but I'm just you know proposing another question to just definition like I know you know back in the day when I was doing PT before I became like a you know an NCO or whatever I didn't always have the best attitude at PT and you know I would get called out on it and you know I was being toxic I wasn't Indiana good sport I wasn't being a good you know truth at the time because I was out there trying to you know excuse me just get everybody else to be toxic with me you know and don't act like y'all aren’t for me with the expression misery loves company toxicity loves company also it's the same thing so if you got toxic friends they don't want to bring you on a toxic adventure like let's be real you know if they life aren’t going to best some people will sabotage your life the same way so if you're not careful you know that toxicity of slide on you slip on you know now I am not going to lie y'all after you know reading these two articles and you know just doing some reflective of my own life I didn't been toxic a whole lot whole lot and you know am I going to be toxic sometimes moving forward yeah but I hope to be way less than you know I have been previously and some things I've done unknowingly you know so that's why it's important for all of us to you know educate ourselves and to try to make ourselves better each day because that's our individual responsibility not only to ourselves but to our loved ones to get better each day and to improve ourselves improve the way we see things improve our perspective and just become a better person from those things wrapping up today's show man I hope y'all really enjoyed it I hope I gave you guys a little bit of something you didn't know previously and I hope you all have a great Friday afternoon and I hope you all have a great weekend and as always it's your boy the veteran so who you think you're better than