The Sex Reimagined Podcast

LxW: Naughty Surprises in 2024; Break Out of a Rut and Rekindle Passion

December 26, 2023 Leah Piper & Dr. Willow Brown Season 2 Episode 67
The Sex Reimagined Podcast
LxW: Naughty Surprises in 2024; Break Out of a Rut and Rekindle Passion
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Hosts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown share seven fun tips to bring more passion into relationships in the new year. This lighthearted episode focuses on ways to rekindle intimacy through practices like scheduled make-out sessions, reminiscing about falling in love, exploring desires, and breaking out of sexual routines.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

  • Make-Out Night - Increase sexual tension by planning an evening of just tantric kissing and making out; no sex is allowed. 
  • Reconnect by sharing stories and looking at photos from when you first fell in love. Activate brain chemistry from that magical time.
  • Schedule an intentional 2-hour tantra session focusing solely on your partner's pleasure and body worship.
  • Take turns sharing desires without judgment, using active listening techniques. Build intimacy through vulnerability.
  • 30-Day Love Challenges - Leave little love notes for your partner around the house as a playful way to appreciate them daily.
  • Get creative by listening instead of watching visual porn during lovemaking. Let imagination run wild.
  • Break Sexual Routines and reignite passion by planning surprises like shower blowjobs, sex in the car, or Naked Shabbat.

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Leah:

The new year's right around the corner and this is Leah Piper with Sex Reimagined.

Willow:

And Dr. Willow Brown, your Taoist expert here at Sex Reimagined, we have such an incredible, fun seven tips and practices for you to make 2024 way more juicy, way more intimate, and way more connected

Leah:

That's right, so tune in, turn on, and fall in love with your with us

Announcer:

Welcome to the Sex Reimagined Podcast, where sex is shame free and pleasure forward. Let's get into the show.

Leah:

Okay, so... You know, Willow, the new year is just right here. We are headed into a fabulous, um, 365 days around the sun. And I don't know about you. I mean, I'm sure I can guess, but I want more passion. I want more sex. I want more creativity. I want all the things that make life juicy.

Willow:

You know, I don't think there's anyone out there who doesn't want more of that connection, that intimacy, that rapture, that feeling of being so in love with life that everything flows to them with ease and with grace.

Leah:

Yeah, so it's like, it's so easy to get in a rut, especially if you've been in long term relationships or even just like, maybe if you just even have a fuck buddy who you get into a rut with, you know. I remember having a buddy like that, God, decades ago, and it was like every Sunday we would watch the game and then we would have our typical sex and, you know, sweet, it was nice, it was something I counted on every Sunday. But, you know, even those relationships need a little bit of spark, some shift in the routine.

Willow:

Yes, absolutely. That's why we have put together for all of you lovely listeners out there, seven fabulous ideas and tips and practices that you can get into with your fuck buddy or your long term partner or anyone in between.

Leah:

That's right, and so we've got seven tips for you, and uh, we're gonna just start randomly. We don't really have these, um, organized from like the best to the almost best. We're just gonna float around. So, first one we're gonna share is Makeout Night. Now, Willow, why is Makeout Night so hot?

Willow:

Makeout night because it's like, there's, this is just making out. There's no sex. There's no penetration allowed. So it's a little bit of a teaser for both of you. Cause all you can do is make out. You know, I had one, um, make out partner once he called it tongue fucking. He's like, it's like, we're fucking with our mouths. I'm like, yes. Let's break that down a little bit, you know? And so we started talking about it and then we would do it more. And then we would and then we'd start to give voice to it. And it just rose the whole sexual energy, like the tension grew. And then the next time we did get together and have sex, it was so much more, um, heightened. So much more energy was behind it.

Leah:

yeah, I think you nailed it. It increases sexual tension. And I think when we've got sexual tension in a relationship, we have more attraction, we have more Eros. We have more, um, It's like, orgasming is so much more intense and more delicious and more yummy when there's sexual tension. And I think one of the ways to activate that is like the make out night. You have rules. You have to pretend like you're in middle school. Do y'all remember when you were in middle school and you weren't allowed to have sex? Or even high school? Or I don't know what age you started. But like, sex was off the table and you could kiss for hours. Oh my god, do you remember how hot it was to get felt up? You know, someone's like, feels you up over your shirt and then they kind of make their way slowly underneath your shirt. And there's just this way of like... remember the first time you got a handjob? There are these ways with which we can make out that help us connect to our erotic innocence and supercharge the sexual tension. And I love this idea that you mentioned about like, kissing the way you imagine fucking that person right now. Like, the way that you would go in and out with your tongue. You know, there's all these ways with which you can really take kissing to the next level.

Willow:

Yeah, kissing, I mean, there's probably, like, we came up with, I think, 21 different styles of tantric kissing, my last lover and I, and it was so powerful. I mean, I wrote them down. I was gonna, we were gonna write a book on it. Maybe I still will one of these days. But, like, you can do so much with kissing that you don't even think about. So... Start to reimagine what's possible. Bring some fruit into the equation. Bring a little bit of blueberries or strawberries into the equation, you know, and, and also do like energetic kissing versus like full on down their throat kissing.

Leah:

Yeah.

Willow:

Like play, play with the different levels of, um, of, of pressure and speed and see what happens. And see if you can bring kissing into a heightened state in your body. See if you can feel the kissing that you're doing with your mouth, in your heart. See if you can feel it in your yoni or your lingam. See if you can feel it all the way down to your toes. Can you move the energy of kissing to different places?

Leah:

I love that and we'll, we'll be doing a whole course on kissing, but I'm going to give you a few little Tantric tips from my class on kissing, There is tonguing, there is nibbling, there is the inhalation breath and the blowing breath. So think about the, that the mouth has four quandrants. You want to nibble, kiss, tongue, suck. That inhalation breath is the sucking. And so if you just do one corner of the mouth and then maybe get to another corner and then another corner. There's so many creative ways and so there's different modalities and you want to play with that. You know that, that. Exhalation breath. That's a cool breath. So if you lick the side of a neck and then do a little blowing breath, you're going to cool and create goosebumps. All of that is yummy shivers. So moving on to number two, we have, oh, a date night where you talk about your falling in love story.

Willow:

Mmm, so sweet. I mean, those moments of falling in love, you, they're so magical and once they're there, they're there, but if you re ignite them by talking about them regularly and remembering the moments, um, it really brings the magic into your current, uh, relationship as it is today.

Leah:

when you reminisce and you savor the reminiscing of a wonderful experience, you activate the brain chemistry from that experience. So it's like your brain gets to experience it all over again. And you'll notice right away, like your heart opening. I believe it was Stephanie who we've had on the show. Go check out her episode. She is a professor at the University of Michigan, and she teaches educators and therapists about, you know, how to counsel people in sexuality. And she's the one that gave us this great idea. And I love it. She was talking about a client who they, um, they fell in love in Paris, like something like totally romantic and they sat and had dinner and they just talked about that beautiful experience. And when I think about this date night. I mean, there's so many experiences that Matt and I can share about our first year together. And then there's getting out the phone and flipping through those pictures. Like there's a handful of pictures of those first few months with me and Matt where we are on full display with our falling in love experience. And the other day we were in the hot tub and it just kind of happened by accident, but we were sitting close to each other and we were kind of kissing and then we moved our cheeks together. And then when you move the other way, your cheeks brush, I mean, your lips brush against each other again, and then you go and your other cheeks shmush. And there's this picture of us doing this kiss. I'm probably giving a lot of weird sound to the microphone right now as I'm moving my head to side to side. But it was, it's like one of these kisses that is so scrumptious to me. And I can't help but like smile and melt. And we haven't done that kiss in so long. And I have, I have like this, it's on Instagram, y'all, if you want to go stalk my Instagram account, um,@leahpiper_moreloveworks, you can find this picture. And if I can remember to do so, I'll post it somewhere again, but it's yummy.

Willow:

Oh my God, I love that. I love that story. And I love that it spontaneously happened for you guys in the hot tub the other day after just the seed was planted. You know, and that's what we're doing right now with all of you is we're planting some seeds. You don't have to take every single one of these ideas and do them, but just let them marinate inside of you and then let them come through organically and happen on their own. Or plan them out. Date night to talk about when you were falling in love. You kind of want to plan that one out

Leah:

Yeah, you want to think about it. Yeah. Yeah. And I mean, like, even whether it's like the first time you met, and maybe the first time you met, it wasn't sparks, you know, maybe you didn't even like each other. I've got friends who like, did not like each other at all when they first met. And like, for the first number of weeks, they were in the same sort of sexuality, positive sexuality club. And they were both presenters. And they just rubbed each other wrong. And then about a month later, they, I think she was having a party and had everyone over and it was like something changed. And then the shine turned on. It was like the sun came out and they saw each other differently and they eventually got married. And, and, uh, they have a great love affair. They're my friends who taught me the idea that you could wake up every morning and say, today I marry you. You know, it's like today I do, because every day in marriage is sort of like a choice. You can, I do, or you can go fuck off.

Willow:

Yeah, there you go.

Leah:

Yeah. And there have also been times where they woke up and go, today I don't marry you. Today, I need a sovereignty day. It doesn't mean I don't love ya, but I don't want to be married today. I'm going to the beach.

Willow:

Aww, that's sweet. I love that. So for those of you who are married out there and needing to bring some more fire and some more chi, some more spark into your marriage, wake up every day and try that.

Leah:

Okay, so number three is Sacred spot massage doing a tantric ritual making a special night or afternoon to really spend intentional time being present and being vulnerable, being real. Touching each other with a lot of intention, separating the roles of giver and receiver, where you really show up. In a worshipful, um, in a worshipful attitude in the way that you wanna love your partner.

Willow:

This one you're going to want to get on the calendar and plan out as well. You're going to want to make sure that you both have about two to three, two and a half, maybe three hours of time where you can just really drop into deep presence with each other. And you know, have a playlist ready and have your, your scents, and your candles, and whatever it is you want to have ready to really awaken your senses with your partner. And then go into this ritual with intention. Go into this practice with, um, you know, maybe your intention is to just bring more, more energy to your relationship. To bring more, um, Intimacy to the everyday experience that you have together. And with that intention, then bringing your sexual energy to that. And you know, sometimes there's a lot of pressure to bring, um, a lot of heat and arousal and sexual energy to a session like this. But if you can take the pressure off of yourself around that and actually just be present with what is, it's really just about being together. Um, and as you do go in... to the vajayjay and explore the sacred spot. You're going to want to bring all that presence and all that intention into your lover's beautiful sacred temple.

Leah:

Yeah, and I think that there's a way with which you can stroke a cock with a really worshipful sense of presence that really can move somebody. Most men have never had anybody really worship. They're beautiful cock, that Vajra, which translates to Thunderbolt, and that Lingam, which translates to Wand of God. I mean, there's a really cool way that language can come into play with all of this. So I recommend you check out our episode on Dirty Talk, Pillow Talk, and Love Languages. You'll get a lot of great ideas in terms of how you use language in your body to express yourself. Express and communicate. Also if you want, we've got a number of courses on different Tantric practices. We've got one on how to give a man a Tantric evening and experience. We've got another course on root chakra work. Uh, prostate massage, sacred spot massage for men. We've got the same types of products for women. We've got a g spot and a cervical orgasm course, including a course that's all about worshiping the goddess and that is giving a woman a tantric evening where it's all about her. So, um, check those out because they're yummy and they're really affordable.

Willow:

Yeah, so all of those, courses that we've created for you are available on demand. And the people that we've had go through those courses have chimed in, have emailed us, and have let us know, like, so much more connection, so much more power. is being built inside of their intimate experiences and they have a new relationship to their sexuality because of these practices, which is true for Leah and I as well. I mean, that's why we, that's why we do this work because it creates a new relationship with the most potent creative life force energy that you have access to over and over and over again.

Leah:

Yes, it really, really does. Um, number four is your desires are safe with me. And I first learned this practice with Ian and Jayia of the Erotic Blueprints. And it's a practice that probably is around 40 minutes. You go back and forth with your partner and you ask your partner this question. Tell me a desire that you have. Now, the person then goes, you know, I've always wanted to try anal or I long for more intimacy or I love it when someone sucks my toes. I don't know what other desires, examples would you have, Willow?

Willow:

Um, nibbling behind the ears or, um, You know, doing it in a different position or a different place in the house than I've ever done it before.

Leah:

Yeah, like, I love having sex on the lunch hour. Um, I love taking a shower together. or a hot tub together. I desire, um, free time, alone time. So, your desires are never wrong, and after your partner tells you a desire, you want to use four different responses. So, one would be, well, thank you. And when you say thank you, it's like, okay, I understand your desire. And then another response would be could you clarify that, meaning you don't quite understand. they've tried to communicate their desire and sometimes we need practice, I mean even just now just being off the cuff with Willow here, there's a part of me that's like oh I want to say that differently and so having a chance to go. Okay, would you clarify that for me? Another one is simply say it again because I didn't quite get it all, right? Like sometimes we can space out and we weren't really there for all of it. And then the other response, the last response choice is summarize that, which means, hey, bottom line it. You're going on and on and on for 20 minutes. Can you, like, bottom line this for me? Summarize that. And, uh, and then you want... Want to close, you know, once it feels like you're all done, you want to say something like your desires are safe with me.

Willow:

It's so beautiful to have your desires witnessed, you know, without them being judged, without them being, um, you know, questioned or, or looked at sideways. It's, there's something so healing about just having your desires witnessed. And if that person is, if your partner is willing to meet your desire it could be something that you've never had met before in your life. It opens up a whole new connection, not just between you and your partner, but a whole new set of neuropathways within your own brain and your own body, so it really shows you what you're capable of, and that builds confidence.

Leah:

Yeah, you know, the reason why I really love this practice is because, and I really recommend you open the practice and really refer to it as your desires are safe with me. Because we need to know that from our partners. It's a way to get to know each other more. It's a way to have a conversation about sexuality and desire at large, and desire can be sexual or non sexual. What desire is really about is being in touch with your senses, and feeling like your senses are alive, and they're a part of what makes life alive. And when we can be honest with our desires, we become more free, even if those desires are never ever fulfilled. Sometimes the thing that makes desire the most beautiful thing is the anticipation for it. It's the wanting of it. Many times someone will actually have a desire fulfilled and it was actually the longing, the wanting, the exploration of what it would be like to have it that is higher and more heightened than the actual fulfillment of someone licking your toes. It's the wanting someone to lick the toes. It's the, it's the imagination that arises about what that. Wet tongue or supple kiss with the lips is going to feel like and it also takes the pressure off your partner. Well, one, it informs them of the desires they didn't know you had. Two, you want to make sure that neither one of you are feeling pressured that you have to fulfill them. It's really about building intimacy, honesty, communication, and understanding. And it could be years before you decide to really move forward on fulfilling a type of, of desire. For instance, anal can be a, a journey that one partner might really want and another partner has to take a lot of time before they're open to exploring that. It could be years even. But to have that kind of closeness, to know that your desires, no matter what they are, is being held safe and sacred in someone else's hands really brings together a sense of closeness. And I think that's what really strong relationships are made of.

Willow:

And, um, you know, it's, I think, also, like, for, with that example for anal sex, um, I think there's, uh, there is also a way in which you can let your partner know that you are becoming more open to the idea as that is happening for you. Just by taking your judgments off it and being in the pure witness state of it, you are already de layering and deconstructing, um, the, the fears that are holding you back from that particular adventure in sexuality. And, um, I, I know that, uh, you know, from my own experience, like that would have gone a long way with some past partners. If they had, if they had been hearing from me that their desire was safe with me and that I didn't have judgments against it. And I wasn't recoiling against it, that I was, you know, just being in the witness of it. And that alone was, was, allowing me to open up to the possibility of it.

Leah:

Yeah, cool. I think too, what's really important about this exercise is you're not commenting on what your partner just shared in terms of the desire. You're listening to their desire. If you have a response, it's either Thank You. Clarify That. Say It Again or Summarize That. It's still allowing them to complete their communication around their desire and you're not saying, Oh, you know, I have a desire that's similar to that or Oh, wow, that brings up a lot of stuff for me. You're not doing any of that. It's just you're deeply, deeply listening. Now, at the end of the exercise, you're reiterating your desire is safe with me. and you would both answer this question. Say something that's true for you right now. So your partner's just shared all these desires. You've just shared all of these desires. And now what's a moment where you each have a chance to say what's true for me right now is? And it could look like something like what's true for me right now is I feel closer to you. I feel humbled by you sharing your desires. I also feel a little scared by some of your desires because I want to play those out with you, and yet some of them I'm not sure that I'm ready to. Um, what's true for me right now is... that I trust myself more now that I've had a chance to say all this out loud, which allows me to trust you more. Um, what is something that might be true for you right now, Willow?

Willow:

What's true for me is that this is such a beautiful... a thing to do with really anyone in your life. You don't have to have an intimate partner to do this practice. You could do it with a close friend. You could do it with somebody that, um, you know, is working towards similar goals as you, whether they are, you know, goals in abundance or goals in love or goals in, in anything in life. So I think what's true for me is that this practice is available to everyone.

Leah:

Yeah. And then after that's complete, give each other a hug and just reiterate your desires are safe with me. And, uh, thank each other for... getting closer. So that was number four. Number five is a fun one, and that is love notes, a 30 day challenge. So we challenge you to every day, Put a post it note with a sweet message somewhere where someone important to you can find it. And I love post it notes because I already have the sticky and you don't get to write a poem that's a hundred pages long. You just are basically writing a few words, maybe a sentence.

Willow:

This is actually a practice that's really sweet to do, um, for yourself more than them, actually. So what, what you can do, you can share the love note with them. You can put the post it, like, hide it in their shoe or put it in their, you know, their medicine cabinet or whatever it is. But all the little notes that you're writing to them, you want to, at the end of that 30 days, you want to actually give all those notes to yourself. Those are the notes that you want to really take into your own heart and love yourself

Leah:

I love that. Yeah, in fact, maybe you don't have a partner so you write yourself these love notes and you put it somewhere where oh my gosh I forgot I put that on the mirror. Or oh my gosh I forgot I put that on my steering wheel or oh my gosh I forgot that I put that on the car door window or oh my gosh I forgot I put that in the mug cabinet, you know...

Willow:

It's really, for any relationship that you want to see, um, heightened. So it could be a partnership, could be an intimate partnership, or it could be a relationship with yourself, could be a relationship with, with your, um, with your ex. You know, someone that you share kids with or a dog with. You know, it could housemate. So, anyone that you want to, um, really see the relationship build and grow and get stronger and better, you write a little love note or like note for those 30 days and you don't even have to give it to them. You can just... Just, um, be in the appreciation for who they are and what they are to you in your life for 30 days and if, if you would like to give it to them, then go for it. And, um, definitely give it to yourself at the end.

Leah:

Some of the ones that I really love doing are like, your butt is so cute. Or I love your ass. Or, you know, like, you can be pretty explicit. It doesn't always have to be very polite. I think that can be really hot between lovers. So get creative with this. Sky is the limit. And get creative in terms of where you put them. So they're kind of a surprise. Now this is a suggestion from Lala Jones, or Lala Loves. Uh, she was a fabulous guest we had. She's an erotica author. You can go ahead and check out her episode. We'll have it in the show notes. And she gave me, gave us, and you, this suggestion, which I have really enjoyed. Which is, turn on porn. But don't watch it, listen to it as you're making love or having sex. And there's something really unique about what happens from a sensory experience when you're hearing the sounds of sex, um, versus having the visual stimulation that's kind of taking you out of your body. When you're listening to it, you're Imagination gets activated, your skin sort of responds to the sounds that you're listening to, and I think that especially for estrogen filled brains, um, this is going to awaken, um, arousal and, um, turn on in a way that's very different from watching.

Willow:

Yeah, there's actually an app called Dipsea and um, on that app you can, it's all audio, it's all audio porn. And it's, it's pretty fun. It's like fun little clips, fun little stories. And you know, they've got a subscription plan. I think you can check it out for the first month for free, so make sure that when you do your free trial you've got plenty of time to play with yourself or your partner. Um, definitely there is something that gets really activated in the brain when we're hearing those sexual sounds that then gives us ideas around, ooh, I wonder, it starts to open up the synapses and the reimagining of your own brain, like, God, I wonder what they're doing. Gosh, I wonder how I could like, you know, bring my own body into a scenario or a situation. A situation or a friction or a dance or a movement that would bring that sound to life for me.

Leah:

Love it. Number seven is getting out of the routine. What are some ideas? What are some things that you can do to break up- I don't want to call it boring routine- but let's face it, sometimes it's boring.

Willow:

As couples, especially living together, we really get into, like, just, you know, the similar, like, every day we eat at the same time, we always sleep on the same side of the bed. You shower first and then I get in the shower, you know, it's like, we get into these routines and these, um, these ruts that do become just, you know, They're so predictable that there's nothing exciting about them. So how can you start to shift things within your partnership, within your relationship. Whether you live together or not, you know, it's like do something surprising, do something out of the box, do something wild and crazy that your partner would never expect you to do.

Leah:

You know, what this reminds me of is be again, like a kid, like a younger person. Like I remember I had so much, like more adventurous sex when I was in my 20s, you know. Like there's so many other things that I had the libido for. That I don't know if it was because I was dating more people or what it is that comes with being young, but this is an invitation to imagine you're young again. And filled with adventure and life hasn't gotten so serious and so bogged down with like raising a family, and going to work and you're in the routine and it's like the only conversation you ever have anymore is who's picking up the dry cleaning and what do you want for dinner? And you know, who's taking the kids to school? It's like we don't even have interesting conversations anymore sometimes in marriages. It's like we're just getting through the day and We're connecting over the things we have to connect versus really being yummy together Yes, and so

Willow:

Connected. Yeah, yeah. So definitely some ideas that you could, you can do. You know, it's like what... start sexting your partner in the middle of the day. If you're not doing that, like, that'll be a fun surprise for them. Start flirting with them, sending them little sexting emojis and just like start getting some juices flowing in that department. Um, definitely like get in bed on their side of the bed. Say, sorry you're sleeping on the other side tonight. And just like force a little bit of shift, a little bit of change for them. Um, Matt and Leah have a cute little ritual where, uh, you know, Matt puts the toothpaste on Leah's toothbrush for her. So try that if you haven't done that before, you know, or if there's like, so and so always makes the coffee, like, why don't you switch it up? you get up and make the coffee instead. Or if you always have date night and maybe you're not living together, but you always have date night on Friday and Saturday night. So it's, you know, but the rest of the week you don't really see each other just shift that. You know, go out to dinner or have an intimacy date on a Monday night, do something different.

Leah:

yeah, one of you take the time to go research a new babysitter. If you haven't had a reliable babysitter in a while, there are websites that vet people out who have references, who've been to babysitting courses, who you can really trust to watch your kids, so that you can have some time together. And then start to remember the fun things to do because most of us, I think, find our have We find a favorite position where nobody's back hurts and you know, everyone's going to come. So you just stick to that, but that needs to be shaken up. And so here's some ideas. Um, blowjobs in the shower. You know. There's something about having the warm water splash down on you. You've washed everything, you know everything's going

Willow:

It's

Leah:

good and smell good. Yeah, whether that's cunnilingus or fellatio, there are creative ways with which you can get into water and have really beautiful, epic oral sex. Now, if you're going to have sex in the shower, I recommend making sure there's a lube. In the shower with you. In fact, there's lots of people who the only place they feel comfortable doing a little bit of, uh, anal play is in the shower. And you could go down on your partner and, you know, with a finger, tickle the prostate gland a little bit. And that could be maybe one of the best blowjobs they've ever had.

Willow:

absolutely. There is something powerful about getting into the prostate while giving a blow job that just heightens the whole experience for pretty much every penis owner I've ever met. Just

Leah:

yeah, and, uh, and there's a way with which you kind of match your rhythm with the stroke to the prostate, kind of want to match whatever you're doing to his cock, to their cock, um, with whether that's with a hand or with a mouth. Now, this is one that's very reminiscent to me of being sort of a teenager or younger person, which is sex in the car. Remember when you would have sex in a car? And I think this is really fun to like pull off the side of the road, right? You may not know where kids make out anymore in their cars and that doesn't matter, just find something kind of private where you can. You know, put the car in park, maybe turn it off or just like the ignition is turned the other direction so that you can have music and steam up those windows people. Again, a great place to have oral sex, a great place to have sex. Now granted, you may not have the flexibility you used to have when it comes to small spaces. So nobody throw your back out.

Willow:

Yeah, something so fun and, like, kind of naughty about sex in the car, because you could get caught, you know, you could get seen, and, um. Most of us are driving bigger cars, though, you know, so. Put, put the back seat down. flatten the whole bed if you can.

Leah:

yeah, yeah, yeah, totally.

Willow:

make it comfortable. If you can plan it out, like, put a mattress pad back there. Why not?

Leah:

So have fun, have, have an adventure in the car, and do something sexual, even if that's not full on sex, find other ways to bring some sensuality into the road trip.

Willow:

Absolutely. So, all of these are fair game, and you can get really creative with them. And I imagine that you have some fun ones to share with us that we have not put on our list. So please do send us an email or chime in on social media and let us know what are some other fun ways to shake things up, to shift things within your intimate relationships and to get a little bit more chi, more juice flowing between you.

Leah:

Now, Willow, I know you've got friends who do Naked Shabbat, which I think is... Awesome. Will you say more about that?

Willow:

Yeah. So Shabbat, I think it happens once a month, every Saturday or something like that. I'm not sure. I'm not Jewish, I'm not sure, but um, it could be anything, like every one, one Sunday out of a month, maybe you spend the whole day naked together, you know, and you just crank the heat if it's the winter or if it's the summer, enjoy the sun and, and you spend the day naked together. You just. Do the whole day that way. You eat breakfast naked, you eat lunch naked, you lounge around and read your books together naked, you, uh, maybe do a little yoga together naked, and hopefully do some making love together naked, so.

Leah:

I love that. I was thinking you could meditate together naked, Um, I love this, uh, Naked Shabbat where, like, it's a ritual. You know, you're saying prayers before dinner, you're lighting candles, and you're in your birthday suit. and you just bring sort of this sacred ritual thing, and I just, I love the idea of a, that you can spiritualize anything with sexuality, including church. Now, get this, uh, Willow just touched on it. I have friends who every Sunday, they let everyone know they're going to church. And what that means to them is they're not available until three o'clock in the afternoon, and church for them is basically, back in the bedroom, where they make love all morning long. And that is inclusive. That doesn't mean they're having penetrative sex until three o'clock on Sunday. They are in the act of making love to each other. They're bringing breakfast to each other in bed. They're taking long baths together. They're visiting and talking and massaging each other and loving each other and making out with each other and having, sure, of course, intercourse, but this is their day to worship one another and to celebrate the week together by having a long, glorious Sunday morning. You don't have to go to a temple to experience church. You can go right back to your bedroom and have church as long as you want it. So I highly, highly recommend that. You know, I, uh, I had a friend, okay, this was Tantra school. Years and you're probably 20 plus years ago and it was our advanced level three and they were doing sacred spot And she said I'm doing a headstand. I'm gonna go ahead and have sacred spot Upside down and I thought that was On my head. and I just thought that was so fun So imagine that you could kind of curl over your bed, right? You're maybe your knees are still on the bed, but your head is upside down Why not try some really creative outrageous positions? So, there you go. We've got those seven ways to bring more passion into your life for the new year, and really, we gave you a lot more ideas than just those seven topics, but have a conversation with your sweetie, or start to plan some surprise dates where you bring these ideas to the table, and then, Tell us how they go. You know, we love hearing also, um, mishaps, disaster stories that are especially funny and also all your success stories and we will be right along with you exploring these because we want more passion in the new year as well.

Willow:

Absolutely. Have an amazing New Year's everyone And an incredible 2024 ahead. We're so excited to see what unfolds for Sex Reimagined and for you this coming year.

Leah:

And one thing you can do to make our year especially wonderful, special, and successful is to give us, um, a comment, give us a five star review, subscribe to the channel, because this is how we get the word out. So if you love our content, um, please, please, please share it with your friends and family.

Willow:

much love all.

Leah:

love, love.

Announcer:

Thanks for tuning in. This episode was hosted by Tantric Sex Master Coach and Positive Psychology Facilitator, Leah Piper, as well as by Chinese and Functional Medicine Doctor and Taoist Sexology Teacher, Dr. Willow Brown. Don't forget, your comments, likes, subscribes, and suggestions matter. Let's realize this new world together.

Start of the Episode
Practice #1 | Make-Out Nigh
Practice #2 | Plan to Reminisce on Falling in Love
Practice #3 | Tantra Rituals like Sacred Spot Massage
Practice # 4 | Your Desire is Safe with Me
Practice #5 | Love Notes for 30 Days
Practice #6 | Listen to Porn Instead of Watching It
Practice #7 | Ideas to Break the Boring Sex Routine
Seven Practices to Rekindle Passion in the New Year Wrap-Up