Tantra Sex Expert Mare Simone returns to the show to discuss how sexual breathwork goes beyond the physical release of trauma; delving into the emotional and spiritual realms and addressing the roots of shame and guilt. Through breathwork, bodywork and tantra she assists individuals in reconnecting with their authentic selves, fostering self-love, and reclaiming their personal power. Her approach helps people find a pathway to healing, ultimately leading to a profound sense of freedom, wholeness, orgasms, and joy. Her authenticity and warmth lights up this conversation.
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Tantra Sex Expert Mare Simone returns to the show to discuss how sexual breathwork goes beyond the physical release of trauma; delving into the emotional and spiritual realms and addressing the roots of shame and guilt. Through breathwork, bodywork and tantra she assists individuals in reconnecting with their authentic selves, fostering self-love, and reclaiming their personal power. Her approach helps people find a pathway to healing, ultimately leading to a profound sense of freedom, wholeness, orgasms, and joy. Her authenticity and warmth lights up this conversation.
IN THIS EPISODE, YOU’LL HEAR:
EPISODE LINKS
Leah & Willow's King & Queen of Hearts Intimacy Toolkit is on sale. Use Coupon Code KINGANDQUEEN10 for 10% off. https://www.sexreimagined.com/the-king-and-queen-of-hearts
Awaken Arousal Oil Lubricant "I had a 3-minute orgasm and then a 5-minute orgasm." - Beth https://exploreforia.com/awaken-so?irclickid=wyXW6byI5xyNWouwIoQAUS1GUkAx4m1JsS6bSc0&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_source=Impact&utm_campaign=Sex%20Reimagined&utm_c
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Mare's journey began in the mid eighties out of her desperate quest to heal from sexual trauma. She was terrified to trust and frustrated with numbness and pain, struggling to let go of the past, she carried it unconsciously into her relationships with men, causing them to fail due to the lack of Authentic intimacy.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Hmm.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:A heartbreaking divorce, Mare began to seek healing from western sexology to the mysteries of the east. the great and wonderful Mare simone's trained to be a sex surrogate, and in the process was able to deeply explore and discover the healing powers of touch.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Powerhouse Mare Simone, you've probably listened to Episode 15 where she talked about cervical orgasms. And today she dives deep into not just the release of trauma through breath, but the calling in of pleasure the ecstasy and the undulations that can roll through the body, and the intimacy that can be cultivated with a lover. So you know what to do, baby. Tune in, turn on, and fall in love with Mare Simone.
Announcer:Welcome to the Sex Reimagined Podcast, where sex is shame free and pleasure forward. Let's get into the show.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:we have Mare Simone
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:in the house.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:one of the OG favorites of Tantra yeah, we're going to dig in. We're going to talk about breathing and the transformational power of breathing and in all the different ways it can support our healing process, our intimacy process, our ability to thrive and have greater capacity to deal with life. And then there's the sexy stuff, how it can transcend our states into blissful Nirvana. So Mare, where like to start?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:right here and now we just got pretty buzzed breathing. That's a really good warmup for this whole expression. I, I want to start by describing a little bit about what breath work is, because there's a lot of different kinds of breath work and there's probably a lot of ways that we can develop and create our own breath expression. But the breath, breath work as a therapeutic process is a really valuable way to clear your centers, to examine what's in each and every chakra in, in terms of debris. I sometimes think of it as the What's that thing? The, the leaf blower. The leaf blower of your chakra system. It opens everything up. It clears the debris. It allows us to really feel and sink into what's clear on the other side of that debris. And so the breath work that I started with many years ago when I was really sexually blocked and really didn't feel a lot of pleasure and sensation and all the vibrators in the world were numbing me more than scintillating or activating me. And, and I felt like I was just completely out of touch with my body. And I went to a workshop with a woman who was leading this group, and she was offering something called the fire breath orgasm. And I well, that sounds really interesting. What's that going to be like? Okay.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yes, please sign me up.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:And, and she described it as something that came from Quodoushka tradition, which is American Indian. And something that actually was developed, and I don't know how true this story is cause I haven't seen it in writing, but I'll tell you her tale, that it was developed for wounded soldiers that when they would go into war and they would get wounded, they needed a way to raise the vibration so they weren't feeling the pain so they could continue to do the battle. I wonder how it transitioned from that to becoming an orgasmic experience that was then taught in, in as a way of sexual healing and clearing. But how it works is breathing in and out through each chakra, starting with the base. And connecting.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:For people who don't know about chakras would you maybe give a, your, your description or your definition of them? Sure, sure.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:They're the energy centers in our body that both give and receive energy in a very strong, powerful way. The heart Chakras the center of all Chakras, the queen of Chakras. And when all the Chakras are connected, like from the base would be the bottom first Chakras down there where you're seated. If you're sitting right now, you're sitting right on your base chakra and you can actually sometimes activate it by just sort of relaxing those butt muscles and maybe even doing a little movement. And you'll notice when you're tight assed or not, because when you're relaxed, your, your energy is flowing more. And when you're not, you tend to come in, in conflict with life. It creates these rigid,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Right. Uptight has a home, it's your butt.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah
Mare Simone | sxr guest:so say that again please.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Uptight has a home and it's your base chakra. So when when someone calls you a tight ass, this is an opportunity for you to relax your base chakra.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah. Don't get upset about it. Just take it in and let it out.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:And sometimes squeezing will let you realize how tight you are and then you can hyper relax, just push it out and really fully relax. Which is a valuable thing to do during sex. And it's also a part of the Fire Breath Orgasm practice. We would use the movement of contracting and relaxing along with undulating our spine in a way that kind of simulated orgasm. It activated the orgasmic experience, and often it's done lying down, especially when you want to release trauma or release blocks or really pound it out. And you go through each of the centers. So connecting the sex chakra with the bass chakra they're next to each other, and then bringing in the solar plexus, the belly chakra, and connecting all three Chakras. And when you're doing this, you're aware that each chakra is kinda like a neighbor to the others. So this is a longer explanation than a quickie, but I just want to dive in because they, they all support each other. The base chakra gives you such security and a feeling of being supported. And when you're not feeling secure and safe and supported, it's really hard for your sexual feelings to open and be free and expansive. And so when we're doing this breath work, we're also paying attention to what's there, which doesn't make sense if you're thinking about it intellectually. But when you're doing the breath work and you're feeling it and you're, you're getting in touch, it's, it's very resonant. You can notice when there's a block sometimes, oftentimes when you're doing it, there's somebody who's witnessing you and holding space so that you can really go into it and they can guide you if you get stuck because it's easy to get lost in these little dark corners. But it's also easy to move the energy right through those dark corners if you don't stop. So when people do breath work initially, sometimes they start to feel maybe a little tired, it's like, this is taking a long time. What's going on? And that's often a sign of resistance, because usually on the other side of that is what they're needing to let go of whatever that tension or trauma is. And I had a lot of trauma in my life, a lot of sexual trauma in my early and teens and 20 so. You know, I make it sound so horrible when I say a lot. Now looking back at it, it wasn't a lot. But in those instances, my life was radically affected. Hmm.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:impact was big.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:The lingering effects that went on for years is really what I'm referring to. Because it took, you know, 20 years to release something that happened to me when I was in my teens or twenties. A date rape and, and just feeling like my, my pleasure was, it had been locked inside my body. And doing the breath work allowed me to release it and started to feel energy moving into the areas where I was feeling blocked and dark and shadowed. And pretty soon I started feeling this lightness moving through my body and tingling through my body. And, and sometimes it would be like emotional and I would want to move through, you know? All the anger and all the frustration and, and we were encouraged to speak it out, to shout it out, to pound it out, to do whatever we needed to do to get it out. And so it was very, very liberating at first it might seem intimidating, but when everybody, you're doing it in a group of people and they're all doing it too.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:on each other's, you
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Totally.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:and the breath, the frequency. yeah,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:yeah
Mare Simone | sxr guest:so intimately bonding for the group,
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Right.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:right. You can feel each other and support each other. And on the other side of the room, I'm hearing my sister Shama screaming and I'm like, you go girl.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:yeah
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Cause we're feeling the teamwork. We're like on it together.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:And when you, when you start to have that bond, you start to get to know each other in a group experience, it's like you start to cheer for when you hear so and so really let it rip, and you know, they've been hanging onto it for so long and your heart just bursts open for them, that's such a joyful experience.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:And if you could see the energy, I'm sure the room would be filled with colors, you know, maybe some dark debris on the corner
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:community, you know, even a room full of strangers and like no time at all. Like everyone's bonded.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Instantly. Exactly.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:the, resistance because often when I think about, yeah, I should do more breath work, you know, my next reaction is, ugh, so much work You know, like like it's really that much work to sit or lay down and do some breathing or even stand for crying out loud. It's a poor excuse.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:It, it is actually, it does move so much stagnant energy that it takes requires energy to do and can cause headaches and it can cause weird symptoms in your body cause deep fatigue
Mare Simone | sxr guest:That's why it's helpful to have a facilitator holding the space or a group or, you know, to do it on your, on your own by yourself. I wouldn't recommend it unless
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:This particular breathing technique, you, you suggest doing
Mare Simone | sxr guest:it in a group. You know, and if somebody's having trauma, for example, you know, if they want to break through some trauma, I would really recommend that they do the work with somebody who can support them and help them move through it. Because when you get into those dark places, it's like you need to be coached through it. You just do. Because sometimes
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:They're there to comfort you catch you and to bring you back out of the spiral of grief and, discomfort and shame because you're really in those moments of letting go, finishing metabolizing something. You're finishing the digestion of something that you've been holding onto in the past that you didn't have enough resources to process in the moment that it was happening. And thank God your body is so smart, it knows what you can handle, so one thing about venturing into the release of past trauma is it's on its way out. And the space you'll feel as a result of moving that and isn't, what a miracle breath is, that it can facilitate so much lightening of the spirit and the soul. So much, you know, purifying of these tragic things that just are going to happen to us as human beings.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:right, right.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:we're meant to face them. I don't know why,
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Makes us stronger. It helps us learn how to have empathy and compassion for one another.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:be grateful for all the blessings that do happen in between the obstacles.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:We don't know the light if we don't know the dark. Okay, back to this fire
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Well, in the fire breath orgasm, the culmination of it is you're moving the energy through every chakra and connecting them all with each other. So the sex is connected to the power center. And then when you feel that power center is full and sexual energy is growing and expanding, you bring it up into the heart, and then you let that heart energy soften and soothe, you know, the power and the sex, and, and you're just integrating all these Chakras as you're doing this breath. And it's like this movement, this movement. And then you bring it up into the throat. And at, at that point, if you're not very vocal, you're encouraged to open up the throat center and let it all out. And that's when the, you know, the roof falls up and flies off the, the, the building because everybody's just like,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Ecstasy and agony are, are you know, having a, in the cathedral together, I'm sure.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Exactly well put. Because laughter comes up and tears come up, and then more laughter. It's, it's, it's like, you know, any kind of very powerful healing that we do, we want to clear and empower and invite every emotion and every feeling to be felt fully and to be embraced fully and and to be allowed and to be spoken or screamed out loud. Because some of those traumatizing experiences you might not even have names or words or memories for, but your body remembers everything. The cells of our body have a memory of all of our past experiences.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:way to get it out of the soma. Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah. And, and it's so common for it to get stuck right in the throat.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:At the throat out.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:our voice. We, we lose our courage to the truth. We you know, and it literally, you can start to cough or, or even choke or it's or you want to throw up. It's so interesting. Those
Mare Simone | sxr guest:blocks in the And a lot of people hold a tension up there. You know, most people that I work with massaged, and for me too, this is where we hold most of the, the tension because we're sometimes blocking that energy flow.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:And so often when, you know, when I'm working with clients around, where do you feel, where do you feel the block, where do you feel the tension? Where do you feel that lack of trust? Where do you feel that betrayal? Where do you feel that emotion or whatever it is? It's right at throat. It's what we call the avenue of expression between the heart and the throat. In Chinese Medicine, the tongue roots into the heart. Each one of like, the kidneys open to the ears and the heart opens to the tongue. Each one of our organ systems opens to a sense organ. So it's very interesting that the tongue flowers from the heart. So if there's a block right here, you know, avenue of expression, what's in the heart cannot come out. And that causes so much... I mean, and then you fold the body in half of the belly button and the, you know, the throat and the voice, this whole mouth and the yoni are mirror image of each other, right? So when open that chakra, when we open that throat and voice, we are opening up the yoni. Okay. So I want to get this breath work right? Cause I want to try tonight, I want to do it tonight. So the fire, fire, orgasm breath. So you're inhaling bringing it up to each chakra.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Right. And you're
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:back and forth
Mare Simone | sxr guest:a pattern. You connect the first two and then the first three, and then two and three, and two and three. So ultimately, you know, so it would be.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:So you're climbing up a ladder, basically.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:That, yeah, perfect. And then when you bring it up through the throat and into the third eye, I like to use music for this. And the music that I tend to choose at that time is something very etheric and spiritual and expansive. And you might start to feel or see visions, you know, if everything else is clearer. And then the intent is to bring all of the Chakras in one big circle of breath and expansion. Once you brought it all the way up the ladder, then you connect all the centers together. And oftentimes that will bring up spontaneous laughter, spontaneous movements and dance, or you know, orgasms, whatever.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Sometimes probably also stillness, I imagine, you might get into these pauses, right?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Right. For sure. Especially when you bring it up into the third eye and the crown and you're just in it.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:I keep getting like visual of Mare on the floor riding waves, like a serpent up her body.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:She's kind of doing that right now her chair, right?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I know.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:No wonder you're having that vision. Do you have vibrator in right now, Mare?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:It's a Crystal Wand, I'll tell you the truth, and it's Just positioned just right.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Just right.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:For those of you who not heard, our First Episode with Mare, we talked about the cervical orgasm, it's absolutely brilliant. It's really one of my favorite episodes of the whole show so far, and I'm looking up the it is 15, episode 15. So anyways, back to breathing and undulations.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Mm. Well, the benefit of it is that once you're clear, there's so much more sensation and subtlety becomes vivid. We don't need intense stimulation. Although sometimes it's fun to get a spanking to intensify the energy, but we don't need that kind of continuous intensity. It's almost going in the opposite direction now. It's learning how to feel more sensual, to feel more in tune, to feel more subtle, exactly.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Right.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:We talked a lot about that with cervical. Talk
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:about like, the subtlety of sensuality, it's something that I think is overlooked in most bodies. Like if you haven't sort of thought to explore yet subtle sensation, and the only you can really capture subtle sensation is to be present enough and tuned into the senses that can start to feel the delicate movement of air across your nipple or you know, through the opening of your labia when the flower just starts, to gently open and expand, or the way someone brings their touch so close to your skin, but they don't actually touch down, but you can feel the heat. It's like, I think because the word subtle sounds like little, maybe there isn't enough importance placed on it, but my like, doors upon, doors upon doors of, of pleasure and curiosity, I think are available to us when we can... and, and breath seems like the huge connector of experiencing Yeah, those subtle sensual sensations that, to me, blow the roof off the house.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Totally. Let me tell you what I feel when I speak the word subtle, because I'm actually tuning into it right now. When I feel inside my yoni, whether it's with a, wand or just my, my awareness and my attention. When I'm really tuning into it and I don't have any blocks because I didn't always feel this way. But when I don't have any blocks that I'm just feeling there's like this, it's, I can't describe it with words. It's almost like this current that just kind of waves and wafts through the body with these pleasurable sensations that are gentle and like warm. Like warm, you know, like lying.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:And what's theelement? Is it like water or
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:water and air mixed
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:The, yeah. What that like to you?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:To me
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:It looks like that doesn't it? Maybe it's because of her blue shirt, but it feels like a mixture of air water
Mare Simone | sxr guest:right? It's, it's the breath connected to that expansion of fluidity, the movement of our body. When we're not stiff, our bodies just naturally have this fluidity that when you're listening to music, you might find yourself moving in that fluid flow if let yourself do it. A lot of people do, even if you're not a great dancer, and it feels good, and it allows you to engage more in the energy of the music and with the band or whoever is singing. You can just feel their music flowing through your own body when you move. Yeah.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah, Ithink one of the really cool things about breath work, because I'm just sitting here noticing the three of us are energetics on the blueprint, right? For sure, we all have a strong energetic, okay, but not everyone has some people well, they just want to fuck, right? They're just sexual. Or they just have a very strong kink or whatever they want more stimulation, more sensation. But I think no matter where you land on the spectrum, no matter what your sort of predominant sexual style is, when you bring breath into it, you're going to augment that experience regardless. And I think it does get you into those more like nuanced and subtle, those little corner pockets, those little hidden gems inside of your being, inside your body that don't otherwise get a chance to feel or to be expressed. And I think that experience breeds wholeness. Like to become even more of yourself and fill into yourself more when you get into those little corner pockets that the breath only the breath can get into. I have a lot of clients too, who are in wheelchairs or they just feel like they're prisoners and their bodies and you know, they're like, I can't. I'm like, how about little chair chi gong? Or, you know, how about a little this or that? And it's like, even the movement of the arms in a certain way hurts their body. So that's what's so powerful about breath work, I think is like, at least you can breathe, like you can shift the consciousness around your breath and you can shift the, the rate and the rhythm and the strength of your breath. And that is going to get into those tiny little corner pockets and move some Chi.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:know what else I I, that dawned on me when you were saying that Willow was the yin essence that is so connected to subtle energy. And that's the thing I think that allows for the feeling of wholeness to occur because we've been separate from the yin. There's something about our culture, our society, our conditioning, that has minimized the value of yin. In fact, most people don't even know what yin is.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Hmm
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:You know, here I am using a term that's, I wouldn't be surprised if most of our listeners don't know what we're saying when we're saying yin. And so that would be this, the quality of life, of energy, of movement is slower in nature. It is lighter in nature. It is magnetic in nature and it typically feminine in nature, although you don't have to genderfy it. But it's soft. it's more still than it is active. And so it is sort of that, that subtle glance, it's come hither turn of the chin. It is the breath that you savor or that you drink, that you draw in. It's, it's this movement. I also think it's very much connected to the senses, right? And when we are paying attention to what we're tasting, like the, a sip of a beautiful beverage, that you actually really want to pick up all the notes. You know, you really want to know what you're tasting, what a yin experience of looking purposely for the subtle flavor. And so breath I think has these both subtle and not so subtle attributes because it's an amazing tool to change your state.. I think from a mental health perspective is a really all natural, homeopathic, holistic approach to feeling better.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:can't do any harm.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah I mean, shit, if he can, if he can take you into the world of orgasm. Safe to say it's going to help you feel better. My God. I mean, there are people who can breathe their way into orgastic bliss. Now Mare, I'm pretty sure you are one of those people. H How does someone learn how to do that? Especially when they've been identifying as someone who has a hard time with climaxes.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah, I think that once the, once the traumas are clear and doing this kind of breath work can help facilitate that and giving a voice to whatever scares you about what you're holding back, because that's usually the bridge to the next level of consciousness. I think starting with a safe connection to the heart, whether it's by yourself or with somebody that's supportive to you, to really create that safe environment that whatever needs to come out so that I can be filled with love and pleasure. Let it come through as a blessing and let it be released. Maybe just start it with that kind of a prayer to may it be released and removed so that there's more room for the love and pleasure that wants to fill my body, so that you make it as a conscious intention that you're not just getting into the, the darkness and the shadows, but you come through with that purpose of finding your way onto the other side.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah, like letting go if our, because letting go is really powerful and also really connected breath. when we let go of our pain, when we let go of our attachment to the orgasm. And there's a certain amount of letting go that has to, that is required to even relax into pleasure.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:The breath is even more connected to letting go because it's tied to the large intestine in Chinese medicine.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Well, and then look at all the breathing you have to do to give a baby, get to birth a baby I mean a serious situation.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Exactly.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:So how, how, how do you bring this breath work into sexual practice with yourself, with a partner?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I was just remembering a time when I was doing breath work and a partner of mine was still sleeping and it got a little loud and he woke up and he was watching me. And I didn't know at first he was watching me, but it was great a turn on for him because he was seeing me in that place of just letting go and feeling the freedom, and it was, it was a great bonding. I don't necessarily recommend that as a foreplay, but it, it worked on that occasion very, very well. You know, and if there's anything blocking you and your partner that you need to clear, doing breath work is a great way to do it. Like when you're, when you're doing breath work and you feel like, There's something that's stuck in my body and I just can't get it outta my system. This is how I would process it, it was like, I, I want to get it out. I want it out. I don't know what it is, but I want it out, out, out. And I just kind of like move the energy like that. And if you're with a partner and you're doing it together and you're not blaming him, it's kind of like having a great fight. Without... without fighting without blaming pointing fingers. Exactly.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:You get to express the energy but you're not throwing it at the other person.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Totally. And then you have great makeup sex.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah
Mare Simone | sxr guest:because the energy
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:a great preventative practice to having a fight right just do this once a week and then you won't even fight.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Totally. Okay. What are we going to get out of our systems? Let's lay it out, let's get rid of it, and then come together and make love. Yeah. I mean, I can think of so many amazing orgasms that I've had after doing breath work where my body was so sensitive and so alert and awake, and like every movement was just like radiating through my whole body, just like, wow. When there's no blocks, it's awesome. It's just, it's so worth it.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:I've been playing with breath work lately with my partner and we've been, we'll, have sex for a while, then we'll stop and we'll do breath work and
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:What does that Willow, what are you doing on your break?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Were doing Wim Hof
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Oh god.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah. And we'll do
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Some heavy, heavy breathing.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:two or three rounds of Wim Hof in between sets of sex.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Have you done the ice baths yet?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Oh, yes, we have, Totally.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:That's nuts, wow. I used to do cold showers. I can relate to that, but you know, you can jump up and down in a cold shower in a cold bath. You're just like, ah,
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:You're just sitting there. Yeah. He can sit in there for a minutes, I can only sit in there for seconds, but
Mare Simone | sxr guest:yeah. Well, I can relate. Having gone to hot Springs and, you know, the hot and the cold contrast, it's like, wow, your, your whole body comes, you know, right to the surface.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:It's all biohacking, breath work, the cold plunges, it's keeping you young and healthy and vital, I mean, at Mare, look at Mare's skin, look at the energy that comes out of her eyes. Look at her glow look at her beauty. How long have you been doing breath work, Mare?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:It was one of the first things I learned in my Tantra journey, and I'd say that was over 33 years ago. So it really sparked a transformation for me. I use and I teach and I lead clients thru it, especially when I see them feeling a little stuck. It's okay, let's do some breath work and amazing stuff comes up. It's, you know, it's very, very valuable.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:You know, I tend to like I like breathing exercises that are simplified. When they start to get kind of complex with a lot of steps, Hmm. it loses me a little bit. I'm wondering if the two of you love the variations various breathing exercises, or if you're like me, you kind of have your top three favorite go-tos. hmm mm.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:go ahead Mare. You answer first love.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Well, I've kind of created my own style eventually because I've learned various styles and I, I melt them kind of together because, you know, the fire bath orgasm in itself doesn't really lend itself to, you know, more deep emotional release work. And sometimes combining that with body work you know, amplifies it. And then, you know, having done holotropic breath work, sometimes after the breath work, it's beautiful to do some artwork to paint, you know, to just let your free creative spirit flow, which is something I learned from the holotropic breathwork systems of Stan Grof. And so, you know, yeah, I guess essentially like everything, I guess we make it our own once we feel like we embody it and we got it. Yeah.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:I just talking?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:No,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Okay. Sorry that was Matt. Hey, everybody. The husband walked in
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Oh,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:uh Needed my immediate attention, so never know in these moments, it's close the door. Okay What do you need Sorry to interrupt you
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Didn't hear a thing.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Okay
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:you know, One of my favorite breath work practices, especially in intimacy because I tend to be with energetic people as well, so there's just so much energy between us and there's so much to pay attention to in every breath and every kiss and every touch is like a portal to another universe. So I like to keep it simple in those situations we're really engaged and like in it together. And so I'll just focus on the shashumna channel, which is the central column of light, or the Tai Chi pole, or it's basically crown chakra down to the root chakra. It's this central column of light in your body. And I just think of it as like a hollow bamboo reed, and so just bringing the breath up the reed and then down the reed and up the reed and down then reed. And then sometimes naturally, you know, kegals will start to happen, but I don't look for them. I just let them happen, if they happen, Kriyas will happen a lot of the times. Emotions can come through very easily in that practice. And then, you know, sometimes like if I'm not feeling, if I'm like, mm, this is just not, I don't feel that much arousal. You know, I'm not feeling that much sexual energy in this particular situation, then I'll do some of the stuff that, you know, the source has taught where it's like, okay, let me draw the energy up, hold the breath at the top, squeeze, swallow, really engage, engage, hold, hold, hold, connect to whatever sensation I am feeling, even if it's like I don't feel anything. And then sounding that, that out and within, you know, four or five breaths and four or five sounds I can get to a state of arousal, then pretty soon I'm having tetany because I'm doing breath work. Cause I just keep going, I've had tetany so many times with sex
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:describe tetany for people who may not know
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:is When?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Well, if you have like a strong tetany, then you can, you get these crab claw hands and they kind of curl in on each other. It's a huge release for your tendons and your ligaments. Um, But if it doesn't go all all the way to that state, like this curling in of your toes and your fingers and your mouth feels numb eyes feel weird, you know then you might just get tingling. You get tingling in the extremities, tingling around the mouth. It feels like the mouth is kind of puckering in. It's a really trippy sensation. Tetany is so healing.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:What's happening? Is it you're breathing in too much or getting too much carbon dioxide and that's what causes tetany, do you know what the, what's, what's happening there?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:In my experience, it's just that rapid breath in and out. It's like that, that big inhales, big exhales. I've also had it with just acupuncture. Not even doing work, but just opening up like small intestine, I mean San Jiao five if there's a lot of stagnation in the meridians and the tendons and the ligaments, then it's a lot easier for it to happen. Because it's a release.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Never thought of it as cleansing.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Is it beneficial for the tendons to actually go through that. There's, it's is it like a purification, I'm curious what
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:release
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:I didn't know that.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah, it's a release of that, because your meridians are like pathways of energy in your body just like a river. Right. We talked on an interview. And so if there's a block in a river, then the energy's not going to flow, the water's not going to flow. So the Chi won't flow through that meridian. so it's a release of blockages and and stagnation in the meridians.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:it's like Kriya amplified. Mm.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah I was going to say it kind of sounds like Kriyas in, the purification process of moving, you know, just whatever it is. Pollution, who knows? Doesn't matter. You don't have
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:matter.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:don't have to look through the trash to throw out the garbage. You just gotta let it happen.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:But I also had heard that it is an act the more oxygen in the body will be part of what helps to create that experience. So that intense breathing raises the oxygen. I've also heard by putting a, and I would never have done this, but, but putting a paper bag over your head so that you get more of the carbon dioxide or maybe putting covers over to do it so that you can balance the oxygen. But I wouldn't do that now, especially knowing that it's a cleansing thing, just to let it happen. And what would you recommend for people when their hands get really cramped though? Do you
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah. And they're
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:You let let go in.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:You just go in with it?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:be with it.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Mm.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:You have to be with the sensation and the discomfort and then and then let it unwind. There's this desire to be like, okay, when is it going to unwind?
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Why is happening?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Time that it takes to unwind and it can take hours. It can take hours sometimes, but if you really let it do its own
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:it's unwinding
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:release, oh my God, you're going to feel so amazing afterwards.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:But you know, those moments are kind of scary when you don't have
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:control scary
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:your body and your body is like please unclaw, and it's like Nope I am going to contract this is going to stay like this, I'm doing something important. It's hard to, until you've, until it's happened a couple of times to go, I can trust my body. I don't have to have control in this moment. And like what a beautiful life lesson, right? Is to be given opportunities where control is taken away from us. And if you can embrace that is such a huge gift, you know, many of us being out of control more. I was thinking you know, the breath that I really love that I was like on auto repeat for me, when I start to do anything intimate, whether that's self pleasuring or or with a partner, is the classic, just slow down the length of the inhale. Slow down the length of the exhale, and then pausing a little bit at the top of the breath and just contemplating being full.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Hmm.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:You know, and just enjoying the fullness of breath and life in my system, and then allowing that to just sort of deflate slowly on the exhale and then holding the breath out and just being with empty. How wonderful is, is empty for a few moments until the next breath. And, and I just, I love the place it takes me when each breath becomes a little bit longer, a little bit longer. I start to feel it as taffy, like it is stretching me out. I also know that it's calming me down because sometimes when you go to be intimate, it's hard to get out of your head. Like, I'm usually still thinking about the list. I'm, I'm, I'm kind of enjoying the things I've already gotten done, but I'm worried about the things that I haven't gotten done. I'm waiting to feel hungry. I might be looking for a headache. I mean, there's all sorts of thoughts that start to clamor for my attention. But when I give my mind a job to just savor breathing in and breathing out, noticing fullness, enjoying emptiness everything settles down. And there's a, you can really let yourself come into your body. I mean, that's what it does for me anyway. I feel like it just shifts any adrenaline that's running. And and then that's when I start to bring my attention to my Chakras Mare. then I, I feel like then my breath takes the next step and it's, I imagine that it can turn on faucets. So if I'm like chakra faucets, so if I'm laying on my belly, I turn each Chakras faucet on, and then I imagine that I can drain out the front of my body with the exhale, man. anything that's a burden, you know anything that's been stressful, known or unknown, I'm like, just head on out. And then on the inhale, I imagine I can open up the faucet and breathe in, love light goodness. Pleasure, focus, presence, whatever is alive in that moment. And then I like to feel the, the shift of the inhale and the exhale going from, you know, the back of the body, out the front of the body. It's just a different circuit. That's really my go-to, OG favorite. It's the one I teach the most, and the one I just drop into. I have to say, I'm not a huge fan of the fire breath. I mean, I know I'm, it's probably because it's working my abs and it's good for me, but it's same thing with like Chi gong willow, you know, a lot of the shaking movements.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:You don't like that?
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Oh man, I just, it crawls underneath my skin. I'm like let's, wave.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:You like the flowy flows Yeah
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I like the shaking. I think that that sort of, it stirs up a lot of oxygen really quickly in the body. It, you know?
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:It's gotta be important.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:It's good.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Gotta be really good for you.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:it's about, it's about moving the stagnant Chi, you think yeah.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Maybe it's because of boobs. I don't know
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:why. I I was going to say that actually, I'm like, maybe it's the scar tissue, Leah, that it
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:I feel like it jangles me like it's disturbing, but I mean, it's gotta be so good for your fascia. I'm curious, do either one of you know about the chemicals that get released through breath work? Do you know what
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:endorphins, dopamine, oxytocin.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:For sure. Yeah, and it also connects the vagus nerve. Again, when you're expressing and using your breath, it really allows your activations of higher consciousness. I find sometimes after doing breath work and a really good orgasm that I just feel so creative. I feel so like cleared of all the clutter and just ideas come storming through and it's just like a wonderful time. I feel like I'm me again.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Mm-hmm.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Reclaiming myself.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:We had a lovely interview with Mr. Lee Holden talked a little bit about breath and really just having a practice. And one of the things that I thought really landed in me was this idea of waking up with the day, rising with the day. ever since he started to talk about that, I, I'm getting up earlier, I'm still not getting outside and actually doing the practice, but I'm working on it. Sometimes I gotta chew on something before I actually do it. But it's been on my mind so much of, like, I want to breathe as the day rises to greet us. I want my body to be in sync with that kind of nature. And it has just been, it's turning a dial. I'm wondering, do either of you have a morning practice that you, you know, engage to wake up the day?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:I sure do. Yeah.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Mine is kind of simple, but I just start the day with acknowledging my body. Waking up and thanking my body for waking up and giving myself some love and time to cuddle with myself if I'm alone. And I just feel, you know, gratitude for the day, gratitude and, and to start to set the steps ahead of the day that the things I want to manage and accomplish. And yeah, I'm sure I could do a lot more. Sometimes being in the garden is my great meditation. I just love being with the earth and talking to the plants. I've got lots of kale and lettuces and garlic and onions and starting to do some tomatoes and what other things, squashes. What's really sexy about gardening is, I mean, you know, it is the birds and the bees and it's like this whole rhythm of nature and life. And sometimes the plants need hand colonizing colonization. So you take that stamen that's full of pollen and you insert it into the flower in this little center, which looks a lot like a cervix, And there's sex happening right there, just so alive.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Sex is everywhere out there, isn't it?
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Hand pollinating in your garden. I mean, hello. Re-imagining sexuality here people.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah my, everything is blooming now The hydrangeas are coming out and the lavenders coming out. I've Mm, figs that are blowing up. The pomegranate flowers are all blooming it's like it plants that haven't looked like they, since we moved here, that haven't been, they, I've been wondering, like, I don't know, are these going to stay around? They're like, they're blooming so beautifully right now. He home and was like, I thought yard might be dead. And everything was lush.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:oh good.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:So Mare, talk to us a little bit more about like the breathing each other's breath and like breathing into your lover's
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:With a lover. and
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:The moaning and the toning.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Mm-hmm
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah, something we talked about earlier. It's actually an amazing practice that, I am really into sound and toning and toning on the body has always been kind of a turn on for me. And hot breath on the body, just up and down the spine is luscious. Combining that with toning and then one day I discovered that when you bring your mouth together with your partner's mouth and seal the space between your lips and you keep your tongue in, it's not about French kissing, but it's about making this hollow space between your mouths. And when you do that, and then you start to hum and then you harmonize your sounds. There's this reverberation, I don't know the the musical term for it, but it vibrates something in the brain and two or three of those, and I feel like I have left my body and I'm on another, like I'm in space. I am just totally expanded. When you do it during or just prior to an orgasm, it's Wow, it really takes you like right out there.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Oh I'm going to try that as soon as this interview is over I think it'd be a great thing to just also giggle over.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:like, because it's so playful and, sweet and to share breath
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah, I've had them the experience where it's like our lips are locked together in that way. Like no space between, it's a full seal and we're just inhaling and exhaling the same air with each other. It feels like we're like, we're sharing shen, right? This she is Jing is one form of Chi and then shen is another. And sharing that essence of spirit because breath is spirit, you know it's really powerful
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:what a beautiful...
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Try it now with humming.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:going to try it with humming. I can't wait. So this and it, you know what it makes me think of too is the yoni nadi. We did that the other day, the yoni nadi. So I imagine that there's some level of that kind of sensation, like reverberating throughout the brain and the new synaptic pathways forming in the brain with that kind of practice.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I'm sure. And I'm pretty sure it stimulates the third eye too, the pineal gland, because that's where I feel it the most. It's, yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Is there a breathing exercise that you use to facilitate someone who you might be helping through a healing process and they kind of go into hysterics, you know, that well of grief that kind of gets lost in time and space and you don't, you notice this is good for them to, to visit, good for them to live in.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:To stay there too long,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:How do use the breath draw them back into into presence?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I have them express on the exhale what's coming out, and then to remember that in the next breath in, they can take in love to consciously keep a balance between the release and like, there may be a need to release a lot, but at some point, like you said, it's like, okay. This is enough. It's time to let love into this space where you've emptied so much. because it's easy to get addicted to the tensions releasing because it, it's actually a pleasurable experience, but it's not nearly, yeah, yeah, yeah. It does.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:But that, that it's like, it's like an elixir. Take this present time, love into where you're hanging out now, and it's almost like a lifeline that love, you know? It's like, okay, I've gotten, I'm sort of stuck in the in the pit of the pain, that, okay, open your
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Right. Open your eyes and breathe in love.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:where you are, you know, coming back to the here and now.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Mm. Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:do you use a particular breathing type when you're working with someone who, you know, kind of goes into emotional,
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah, I'll use the similar one where we hold the breath in, connect to the emotion or the sensation of that emotion, and then make the sound of that start move the energy out. And it's so funny, they'll be like, it feels like a sharp stabbing knife in my left ribcage. And I'll be like, okay, breathe in, hold the breath and connect to the sensation of that. And depending on who they are and sort of how well practiced they are and how uninhibited they are, sometimes I'm like, okay, make the sound of that sharp knife in your right rib, you know? And they'll be like, Or they'll be like, ha
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:You're like, come on you can do than that
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah, totally depends. But either way, it's, not up to me to judge or to say that's not enough or that's too much. You know it's whatever they are really, truly feeling and able to authentically express. And, and I'll also say, you know, sometimes it's a little bit uncomfortable to do this with somebody else in the room, but remember this practice in your body and when you go home and you're by yourself, do it again really, really connect and make the sound. Cuz you might be inhibited because I'm here. It was
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:I, yeah. It's so natural and normal to go, oh, my, I gotta make a loud or a sound that
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:right sound. yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:sounds like pain.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I think what frightens people about doing that is that they think they're going to get stuck in the expression. But if they embody that feeling for even a, second that, that it'll take over. That, it will be stronger than them. And what we need
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:afraid they're going to look stupid or they won't do it. Right. Or there's something vulnerable, right, about tapping into that? And, and it's nice to have somebody there who can reassure you, come on, you got this, let's go in. We're going to go in together and make the sound with you. know? And to have someone else not overpower your expression but to match expression so that they're helping you open up more and more and more up to it because there's something so beautiful like on their third or fourth try when they fucking nail it know? And they just like, it's a letting go
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:feel them feeling it actually
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:they decide okay I'm
Mare Simone | sxr guest:into the room.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah. yeah
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Here we go, we're going to let it rip. And it's so satisfying. To be the person witnessing that and participating in it, but definitely to be the person letting go of whatever is there.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:it's so funny. Don't a sense of like visceral memory of your own experiences just talking about this? Like,
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Hmm
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:my body feels. I'm like,
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:the
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:the, how good it feels to do that cleanse you know and right.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Well, time doesn't really exist to our body in the sense that we're in the moment feeling the memories of the feelings that we had, and they come alive again. They just come back to the present time, which is what happens with trauma too. But it's good to know that it goes both ways that, you know, we
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Do, you, do you remember a moment of releasing on your own journey? know, just a really heavy release, like, do you have a memory that really sticks out where it just, it was really massive, impactful, the cathartic expression in your body? Could you describe that?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:mm Yeah. I have one recently, actually.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Mm.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Which surprised me because I didn't know that there was anything in me. I was actually a demo partner, excuse me, for, I was a demo partner for Rahi Wan, who's doing a beautiful massage video for his, his classes. And he was touching areas of my body and I've had him work on me before and I'm very vocal about what I'm feeling and what it feels good and what doesn't feel good. And he wanted to encourage me to just be that because, you know, I'm a good example, so he says. So as I was touching, I felt a little sensation that was really, really, it wasn't very major, but it was a little bit of a, a burning feeling. And as we tuned into it, it was the presence of his very gentle, loving consciousness tuning into that feeling that allowed me to feel it. And it wasn't about sexual trauma, it was about the world and about the weight of the world that I'd been feeling in my body. And as he was working on me, I just started to feel it and feel the support of him comforting me. And all of a sudden it was like all the emotional tension and trauma about, you know, covid and wars and this, finance, everything. It just like came to the surface and I was not expecting that at all, but I gave myself permission to, because most of the time I'm keeping my shit together and I hold the smile and my head up and I don't go into those places too much on, you know, out there in the world. But here was a moment when I had an opportunity even, you know, while it was being filmed. I didn't care. I just knew that.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:the psychic outhouse, so to speak.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:It was beautiful because I found myself weeping so, so deep that I became silent in my weep. It was just like,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Wow
Mare Simone | sxr guest:like down to the deepest part of my being and it felt so good to let it out. And afterwards I was just floating. I didn't even know how I was going to drive home, but I, I was grateful that, you know, spirit guided me because I was just
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:And the world is a better place because of it. Oh my god So powerful.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:We all need that.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:That's one of the things that really can happen, especially for women's bodies, is after we clear our own trauma and our own shame and our own guilt and that, and we start to become these more open vessels for Shakti, for Jing Chi, for life force energy to flow through, then the healing is exactly what you just described, this collective like, like out all the, all the junk that the whole world has been holding and going through. And, and I mean, I, I felt that, I felt that orgasm you had, I felt that release you had Mare. like, oh, something just shifted in the world. You know the little butterfly kiss came through.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I so. I think every time we emit pleasurable sounds and feelings, we put waves of light and color and beauty into the world. It,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Something about demo energy too when, whether you're being filmed or you're in a classroom and you're demonstrating something vulnerable, like there's magic in those experiences. The, the awareness that other people are Witnessing your embodiment and your authentic choice to be with what is, you know, that draws something forth that it's like I don't know how else to describe it, but it's a powerful opportunity and gift that kind of comes to the one who's willing to be, I'm here for science so everyone else can learn. You know, like it's it's a part of the gifts that you give for the generosity Hmm us all being here to learn and to bear witness to someone's truth. Someone's rawness. Someone's nakedness. It's
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Something they've been hiding and fearful of letting be seen to suddenly let it out. To feel that deep trauma. It, it's very healing. Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:have a memory of Mare, she was the demo, I one of the level fours, the teacher trainings, one of the really advanced groups. And I was looking for pictures of you, Mare, because I was putting together the, the promo stuff for the episodes. And I, there's this awesome picture of you right after a demo and it was right when like, new filters were all coming
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I know,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:these really ethereal light rays that I put
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I know which one you mean.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:light bubbles and it, it just, it totally matched the, the bliss state.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:The
Mare Simone | sxr guest:In the afterglow, it was amazing.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:had, you had these giant full bloomed flower roses that were like peak opened and were on all your Chakras. It's just, I'll text'em
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Oh, I want to see that. I have two of them that you showed me. But you don't, you don't go past my neck. I think so. I, I love those pictures because they remind me of that feeling and that memory and the way that you embellished it was exactly what I was feeling. So it really worked.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:It was a real match Yeah, yeah. Yeah, Well, maybe this very ethereal image of the Great Mare Simone might surface somewhere out there on social media. So visit at Sex Reimagined on Instagram. And Mare, what is your Instagram handle? Is that, do you hang out on Instagram or are you more of Facebook?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:yeah I'm still more on Facebook and actually on LinkedIn a lot because I like to help professionals who are looking for this kind of information, and there's a lot less censorship on LinkedIn,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Mm,
Mare Simone | sxr guest:you know, in terms of sexual healing
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:to like, let's go check out LinkedIn, everyone voted me out. They're like, we don't need it, we don't need another channel.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:So how can people find you if they want to work with you, and do you have a, a gift giving to our audience?
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah. All right. Well, you can Google my name. I'm all over the internet and my website is my name. www.MareSimone.com. My gift this time, I thought I would give something that's a key to the breath, it's, it's kind of geared towards men having longer, stronger orgasms. How to use what I call the four foundations, which is the, the thoughts, the breath, the movements, and the sounds all brought together. And it's how to help a man to lasts longer, but it also helps for women too. And I, it helps women who want to help their men last longer, right. So that they know how to do this work together and practice together and.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Is it a meditation, a breathing meditation of,
Mare Simone | sxr guest:It's a, it's a little ebook. It's an ebook that gives you the guidance and some images and yeah, it's called the Four Foundations to Last Longer and Stronger. Hey,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:last longer feeling stronger.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yes
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Well, what a treat. What pleasure. I mean, we could just sit with you for hours.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Oh, me too with You.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:like sitting with the goddess
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:It is It's like goddess talk, goddess hour What your last, what were you, was it yin gam? Was it yin tied? There was some yin phrase and I
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yintimacy. Thank
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:you for some yintimacy time with you mare. We had our own little yin intimacy hour. We really put on a youtube
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:show. A intimacy hour. I know.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:oh my gosh. Just think of the things we could come up with to gab about. Holy smokes. I know y'all want in on that.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:I love you two ladies, it's been such an honor to be a part of this show and to do it a second time around and, and to feel like I'm so glad that we are choosing, even though it's not as fun a topic. We made it fun to talk about trauma and how to work with trauma and how to help others break through trauma because it's so important. And even like I said, you know, sometimes trauma isn't about sex and things that happened in the past. It, it could be the emotions of the heaviness that's happening in our world these days. And we all need having some kind of an emotional release, a sanctuary inside of our bodies where we can just get away and, you know, if we can't afford a time to get away to Hawaii, we can do it in our own bodies and create that little sacred oasis inside. Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:and what a gift that our breath can relieve us something painful like trauma. And it can bless us with the present moment and then it can bathe us in amazing orgastic sensation. I mean, we are so lucky. and grateful to breathe.
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:everybody take a deep breath
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Ah
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Love Love, love
Mare Simone | sxr guest:Yeah.
Announcer:Now, our favorite part, the dish.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Mare
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:love Mare. She's so amazing.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:She's so amazing. I mean, so much, so many good memories with that
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:I know, I love how she's been such a huge influence in your career and, like, guided you from the very get go. And it's just, for me, it's so exciting to meet her and to spend time with her because you're kind of that for me, you know? And so it's like, the baton just keeps getting passed
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah, and, and, and she's just one of those people that's so inclusive. You know, she just takes you right in and, um, she's just good, good people. Just really, really a loving, Um, mystical, uh, we used to call her the, um, chocolate truffle,
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:The Chocolate Truffle.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:because she
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:The Orgasma
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yes, yes, and she's so in her body.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:so embodied. I mean, and, and I don't know all her story of sexual trauma, it doesn't matter, but you can, I can feel how much she's transcended, how much she's overcome, and how much she walks her talk, you know.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:And she's someone that has been through the journey of being sexually and emotionally shut down, um. Orgasms were numbed out, elusive, far away. I mean, to be so unorgasmic for the amount of time that she was, that is not an uncommon experience for so many women. And it's, it's not openly talked about. And I think it's so important that there are, um, women who have lived that and have overcome it and have done the work and the training and the healing to, to uncover, uh, what has been blocked and, you know, I mean, she really is one of those people who can in seconds bring herself to an ecstatic state simply by coming into her body, feeling energy and letting it roll through the breath and, you know, sound it out. And doesn't she have a sexy voice? Like, I've always thought she should be on the radio with that voice. She should, people pay good money to listen to Mare Simone.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:She's our radio.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah, yeah, yeah, you heard her here first. I wish I had her
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:her first, I know. Yeah, she does. She just has a, a sexy vibe, you know? She just like, she
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:she's radiant.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah. And she's, what is, how old is she again? She's like,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:I think she's in her 60s. Yeah, I can't remember. Mm
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:What a testament to the work, what a testament to the Chi. To being in your body, to being in Shakti, to being in flow with life force energy. And, you know, I think the last time we interviewed her, she was like, I've had a little bit of back pain, so I'm doing this, you know, and it was like, I'm rolling pleasure through my back where I feel the pain. So she's, um, you know, it's not like things don't happen for her and she doesn't have any moments of, of stagnation and pain in her own body and life like we all do, but she just moves it. She doesn't question it. She just moves it along.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah, and she's, she's like one of those friends where you can talk about all the mystical stuff and she'll go right there with you. She'll even take you to places you've never been. And, but she'll also like throw down on being an entrepreneur and business, and marketing, and all the, you know, she can geek out on all of it. And, um,
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:She's a true sister.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Priestess in the temple.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah. Well, that was fun. It was fun to have, like, a girl hour and, you know, just ask each other questions.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Mm hmm.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:you know, just delight in something as simple as breathing together, you know? It's just, amen for breath.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:I am in for breath. It's one of those things that you have access to any given moment of any given day, and it will transform your thoughts and your sensations in your body in an instant if you bring your consciousness to it. And then if you are in a practice of breath work, so I was doing Wim Hof breath work for I did it daily for I think probably like a year and a half, a little over a year and a half, something like that. And I am a chronically cold person. I think my thyroid is a little sub par and my fingers and toes are always cold and I'm always cold. You know, I always want to rock the heat. Lita will come to my house, she, it's fucking hot in here. I'm like, it feels so comfortable to me.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:only one who says that
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Uh
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:house. But, so, so, what I found when I did that much Wim Hof breathwork, because it's a very yang, rapid breathwork, was that I felt like it cleansed my adrenals, which adrenals are the support for the thyroid, and so I felt like my th Thyroid improved and I was all of a sudden I would be out at night in Santa Cruz where it's cold because it's it's got the wet cold and I would be like, oh my god, it's so hot And I would just be taking off my jacket people be like, who are you? People who know me well be like what the hell is going on and I swear it was the Wim Hof. So I got to bring that practice I can feel it. I can feel it calling to me to bring it back in on a regular basis. But I have so many practices that I do all the time.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Yeah, I have to, I need to start challenging my comfort zone
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Mm hmm.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:You know, I'm just, I can't ignore the signs. Like I, unfortunately I'm so informed to know that like, I need to start breaking up my, um, love of just sitting still
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:and focusing.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:It's amazing. It's an
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:amazing that I can, I
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:I don't know how
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:long as I do but it's, it, I really do know that it's dangerous and um, I wish I wasn't so damn comfortable. But more than that I wish for my for an authentic desire to start to awaken inside of me that draws me towards more active things in my body, you know, like that I, if I do something on a regular basis, like anything, you do start to crave it, you start to like it, you know, you get into it.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Yeah, well, you like going to the gym. You like weightlifting and that kind
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:I do, but I've been blowing it off. I need to, I need to hire my trainer again.
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:I just started doing weightlifting again. I haven't done it in years, but as I'm heading toward perimenopause, I'm like, Oh shit, got to start doing this. A, it builds mitochondria, which are the, the organelles inside of your cells that produce energy and ATP for your muscle strength. Which holds your tendons and your ligaments together. So mitochondria, very important. It builds that. And then it also builds bone density, you know, and we start to get moved toward osteoporosis. So if you're in your 40s, it's time to start weightlifting, ladies. And it does get addicting,
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:And it does, and it, the feeling of being
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:feels so strong.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:such a beautiful feeling to feel because you feel more competent, you feel capable, you're less worried or scared. Like, you know, one of the things my trainer would take me through is like, this is why people break their hips. This is why people trip. Like, you know, these are the movements that you have to do neurologically. in order to keep the left side of your body as toned as the right side of your body. Like, even just lifting weights, if we don't remember to work on our balance and doing separate parts of the body, because we'll always lean in to the stronger side of the body. So I just, I love that. I'm gonna go work out. I'm gonna, I'm gonna hang up and I am gonna go
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:to the gym, girlfriend. You know, it's so funny, I was doing weights earlier today and I was like, I want to go to the gym with Leah. I bet she has a really good weightlifting routine.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:We do, and we've got a nice gym, and you get to come for free because we pay a little extra, so guests can always come
Dr. Willow | sxr co-host:Alright, I'm coming next time I'm in town.
Leah Piper | sxr co-host:Cool. Well, everybody, we love you. Please, um, please, please, be a pal, be a friend, be a lover and write a
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Announcer:Thanks for tuning in. This episode was hosted by Tantric Sex Master Coach and Positive Psychology Facilitator, Leah Piper, as well as by Chinese and Functional Medicine Doctor and Taoist Sexology Teacher, Dr. Willow Brown. Don't forget, your comments, likes, subscribes, and suggestions matter. Let's realize this new world together.