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Leah & Dr. Willow: 5 Secrets - What Really Happens When Women Gather For Tantric Healing | #137

• Leah Piper & Dr. Willow Brown • Season 3 • Episode 137

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Let's get real—many of us are walking around with invisible wounds that keep us disconnected from our bodies & each other. What if your healing journey wasn't about fixing yourself, but returning to wholeness through ritual, sisterhood, & reconnecting with your divine feminine energy? In this LxW episode of the Sex Reimagined Podcast, hosts Dr. Willow Brown & Leah Piper explore the transformative potential of women's healing circles & ancient tantric & Taoist practices. They share insights from their years of experience facilitating women's groups & how these sacred spaces help participants heal deep feminine wounds.

EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS

  • Understanding the Feminine Wound: Discover why many women struggle with trusting other women, healing mother-daughter relationships, & feeling disconnected from their bodies
  • Sacred Embodiment Practices: Learn how breast massage, vulva witnessing, & sacred spot work create profound reconnection with your body's wisdom
  • The Healing Power of Sound: Understand why vocalization is the "cornerstone" of feminine healing—how making sounds releases blocked energy & amplifies pleasure
  • Pelvic Floor Release: Explore how Taoist techniques identify & release trapped emotions and trauma from the pelvic bowl
  • Creating Safe Sisterhood: Experience how women gathering in intentional circles provides permission for authentic expression & healing

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Willow:

What if your healing was never about fixing yourself, but about returning to your wholeness through ritual, sisterhood, and erotic devotion? I'm Dr. Willow Brown, and I'm here with Leah Piper. We are the hosts of the Sex Reimagined podcast. Thank you so much for all your likes, shares, and subscribes. We are truly grateful for your attention and devotion.

Leah:

Yes. And this episode is really devoted to the ladies out there today, though I wanna encourage the men to stay tuned in because you're gonna hear some secrets of what happens behind the veil at a Goddess retreat. of the things Willow, and I have been really, uh, exploring is the power of women working together through Taoist and tantric practices. And it's super fun. So it's time for you. to tune in. It's time to turn on and to fall in love with your girls, me and Willow.

Announcer:

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Leah:

I don't know, maybe 20 Maybe 22, 24 years ago, I had started going to weekend seminars. I. And, uh, tantra weekend seminars and those classes were filled with couples and individuals. Uh, they kept it gender balance, so most of these groups were heterosexual. And I started to hear about this class with Caroline Muir called The Divine Feminine Weekends. And they were taking a lot of the practices that they were teaching in a normal like beginner's weekend and creating an environment for women to explore that together. And I think that resulted from meeting so many students who had a lot of trauma, sexual trauma from former relationships, childhood stuff, you name it, most of us have seen it. And what they were discovering is that it was really hard for some women who'd had a lot of trust broken with men. For various reasons, not all of it's sexual trauma. Um, and their entry into the work was to work with a sister who she could feel safe with, before she was ready to work with a male counterpart. And I found that really interesting and I was really curious about what that would look like. You know, all the normal fears that I think people have when they go into a workshop and they don't know what's about to happen. But then you add a sexuality component and, and there's a lot that gets unfurled in the exploration of, of what does this mean for me to do sacred practices within a sisterhood?

Willow:

Yeah. You know, there's something so powerful that happens whenever women come together. Whenever women come together, it just, women alone. It's like some part of, of self gets to come out and be alive and be playful, and be seen and be witnessed. And then when you're doing a, a specific dialed in retreat for women, whether it's around sexuality or not, something even more powerful and magical begins to transform within each and every one of those participants. It's just so, um, incredible to witness. And, um, and then when you add in the sexuality component,'cause because I do retreats where, where there's um, plant medicine journey, just women's retreats with plant medicine journey and doing women's retreats with sexuality. Um. Awakening and enlivening and coming home to your Shakti energy and the, the divine feminine within.

Leah:

Yeah, so you're talking about two different things. You're talking about retreats that are working with plant medicine that women do altogether. They have a very bonding experience. Um, it has its own set of rituals. And then you're also talking about like tantra experiences where women gather, and that has a different set of rituals, but the outcomes can be very similar, very the same. One's a little more sensuality focused. The other one is more, I think, interpersonal focused. Why are women compelled to gather and, and doing these types of deep dives? In my work especially with Source Tantra, when I was leading a lot of these Goddess retreats, I noticed that there were three or four themes that kept on bringing women into the classes. One was, I don't trust women.

Willow:

Mm.

Leah:

A desire to heal the mother daughter feminine dynamic. This place where a lot of a woman's journey can be from a place where women have been the, the, the wounding force in her story, in her narrative, and a deep desire to have a shift in that, to attract a different kind of relationship to to have a chance of having really deep, meaningful, trustworthy relationships with women and something inside of them recognizes there's something that needs to be, um, corrected on the inside to create a new perspective so that she can align herself with healthy women and, and a real hunger to feel like there's a belonging. That there's a place for me with other women out there who are good, who are gonna be good friends, who are gonna be good for us. and good to us. And, um. There's a lot of loneliness for a lot of women

Willow:

yeah.

Leah:

with that particular wound.

Willow:

I have witnessed women actually like, make massive changes in their lives through gaining trust of other women through these types of immersive experiences.

Leah:

I think a lot of this stems from having an, uh, unhealthy mother role models, you know, that feminine caregiver, whether that was a grandmother, an aunt, a mom, a stepparent, an adoptive parent. There is a lot of wounding between those. It's, maybe it's because alcoholic mom or, um, emotionally unstable mom or a smother mother, someone who didn't respect boundaries

Willow:

Sisters, I have, you know, clients whose sisters lock them in the closet. You know, just like abusive situations. Uh, verbal abuse, sometimes physical, emotional abuse. Um, there's so

Leah:

A lot of like stepmom's and moms were like

Willow:

Ooh,

Leah:

of the, um, relationship between dad and daughter. Um, feeling

Willow:

Mm-hmm.

Leah:

like having friends cheat with your husband or your

Willow:

Yeah, that betrayal of friends, oh,

Leah:

Yeah. Yek.

Willow:

all that stuff is hard. It's hard to heal from, and, and, you know, those wounds and those deep breaches trust are super valid. So if you're, if you're sitting there with one, you have every right to sit there with one, but how long do you wanna sit around with it? That's, that's the question. Like, do you want to heal? Do you want to forgive? Forgiveness is for you. Do you want to let go? Do you want to move on? And do you wanna trust women again?

Leah:

Yeah. it's a real privilege to cultivate community so that, um, a new experience can be integrated between the one who's been really harmed by the feminine, who's reconciling what the future might hold. How can you trust your inner guidance to know who is a woman that you can trust? Like what are the qualities that you wanna look for that's a match for you so that you can begin to attract an amazing group of friends into your life and that, you know how to recognize it. And, and there's lots of things that go into that, knowing what your limits are, having boundaries, having, um, taking risks and conversations. Um, and then also doing the emotional soma work like the embodiment work where you go into the parts of your body that are storing the wounds. You're given sacred space to help you metabolize the past. So that you can finish resolving it and you can make more space for love and trust to be developed. Um, it's such a relief to unburden your actual bodies and your tissues and that cellular memory to go, that was the past. It doesn't define who I am or my relationships with people in the future. These are some unfortunate burdens I've had to experience, and that's just something that happened to me. But it's not who I am. And, and that's a real common theme in a lot of this type of work. I'll give my, um, my experience of sort of like the sexual abuse story, you know, for years I carried that around as this is who I was, I was the girl that this happened to. And it was so woven into identity that it took a minute to unwrap that, and it really helped to have other women support my system as I un untangled all of that, because on the other side from victim to just a happy whole person was being able to go, yeah, that's just something that happened to me, but it's not me. It's no longer a, I mean, shit, I don't even like telling the story anymore. I just like mention it.'cause I know it helps other people to, to be able to model, yeah, there's a, there's a other side. Um, so.

Willow:

it's so common. This is such an important, important, you know, aside from the, the feminine wound and the mother wound, but there's so many of us who are identified with our wounding and you know, even some of us who, who, it happened when we were infants and we don't even remember it. We just have a story about it. We heard a story about it and maybe we have a, a cellular imprint. Okay, sure. Maybe we have some stuff stuck in the soma, but you can clear that stuff out with the sacred spot massage that we're gonna be teaching on our women's retreat, you know, that stuff can get cleared out really quickly and then you can let go of all that wounding from the past and stop recreating the same blocking scenarios in your life when it comes to love and intimacy.

Leah:

You know, another, uh, group of people that often came that were attracted to doing this deeper work were women who, um, just felt used, abused and misused by men. And as much as they wanna have he happy, healthy relationships with men, they could recognize that there was a big block, a big wall of mistrust, of doubt, of all sorts of things in the way, um, that was preventing them from feeling really sexually free and liberated and, you know, uh. Uh, a way forward to go, okay, I can be naked, I can be wild, I can be free, I can be all of me, and I can trust men to hold that for me. I can either trust my, my current husband or I can trust who I'm gonna attract is I'm dating going forward. All these scenarios. And so there's so many stories, right, that fall in that category. Everything from childhood abuse to just having a couple ex-husbands.

Willow:

Not so childhood abuse.

Leah:

yeah, like feeling like you long for the beloved, but you're just not finding them.

Willow:

Yeah.

Leah:

And then there'd be like another sector of women that were, they would find each other so interesting, like, all the women who were going through a divorce would somehow find each other in the same ritual. All the women who were having a hard time getting pregnant. So then you have all like the issues having to do with like hormones and pregnancy and miscarriages and abortions, just like. Yeah, the wounding of being a woman and having a vulva and a vagina

Willow:

and a womb.

Leah:

and all the health complications, that's another sector of women that are coming through the portal to resolve these, these patterns of burdens that happen to us. And then you have another group of women who are oftentimes feeling the call that they should be working with other women. That they've got something,

Willow:

Mm-hmm.

Leah:

deep inside that is being called forward and they're looking for modalities so that they can craft, something to serve others. And so lots of women coming in from that angle, where they've resolved a lot of issues. They're there because they wanna tap into their Shakti, they wanna manifest their dreams. They may have a new business model that they want new tools for. Um, they wanna share their gifts and they wanna be touched and blessed by other women.

Willow:

Yeah. And then there's a group of women who may not know what category they, they live in, but they just need a pattern interrupt. Like they know that something's gotta give something needs to change, can't keep going on this day-to-day, daily grind, and just need to go immerse themselves

Leah:

in community.

Willow:

and so that they can come out renewed and transformed and awakened in a, in a really powerful way. Um, I think even like, you know, loss as well, like devastation of, of heartbreak or death in the family

Leah:

your life

Willow:

in your life. I mean, these are all great reasons to seek out a, a supportive women's community, you know, and especially in the form of an intentional retreat, you know, and especially in a far away land like Crete. Where, uh, where there's, I mean, I was just on Crete last, uh, last year and it was like I couldn't, I've, I've walked the world over, okay. I've done millions of pilgrimages on my own all over the world, just like seeking out the goddess and seeking out the sacred site sites and the standing stones and the holy wells and all the, the places where the goddess became a saint. You know, like Bridget was, was a goddess, and then she was Saint Bridget and just going all over the world, just seeking these places. And when I was in Greece, I was blown away by the, the energy of the goddess and how alive she was there. And this divine feminine energy could feel it in the wind. You could feel it in, um, in the waters. Like you could really feel it on the, the land. And it was just so palpable and fun to do. Um, Taoist sexual practices with, we were in the caves doing sexual practices. We were at the temples doing sexual practices. And when I say sexual practices, we're not like having sex at these

Leah:

like, that could create a lot of different pictures in people's heads.

Willow:

I'm talking about like white tantric practices where you're actually cultivating your own sensual and awakened alive energy.

Leah:

You're not massaging your genitals to, uh, have an orgasm. You're working with breath and movement and awareness to elevate your awareness of your energy. And so there's a whole lots of different methods that will get you there. Um. I would say also that what attracts a lot of women to these types of things is actually learning about their sensuality and their sexuality and the the physiological, thank you, thank you, um, experience of how their body works and that their pleasure is for them. It's not something that they're obligated to give anybody. It's not a. Yeah, it's, you're not, it's probably one of the first times many of the students arrive to have an experience of their sexuality and their sensuality, where it's not an obligation to somebody else. It is totally for their own investigation and that the women that are supporting their journey don't want anything from her other than her awakening for herself. There's no ego, there's no agenda for

Willow:

takes all the pressure off and it takes all the performance out of the

Leah:

equation. Out of the equation.

Willow:

What a relief ladies, what a relief.

Leah:

All that, like performative things of like needing to be liked or wanting someone to be attracted to you or having to compete for the attention of like a man or something. Like all that shit goes out the window and it opens up a whole nother door to who you are as self with a capital S.

Willow:

Yeah, absolutely. I mean, I'll, I'll never forget like how many women in my, when I was teaching the Taoist sexology, doing weekend immersions with women, um, we would do the deer exercise, which involves massaging your breasts. And so, we would do that together in a group. Some women under their shirts, some women over their tops, you know, whatever they were comfortable with. And, um, and, and then we would go around and we would kind of reflect and pretty much like 90% of them would be like, wow, I've never, ever, ever thought of my breasts as for my own pleasure like they've always been. Because our society, you know, breasts, everybody loves a good boob, you know, and, and it's like they're either for our children or they're for attracting a mate, or they're for looking a certain way or fitting a certain shirt size. You know? And so, um, that was such a, a profound thing to, to witness so many, like 90% of those women just finally come home to their, you know, their heart pillows as we call them in the tantric class. These, these places that are connected to their chest, connected to their centers, and um, are so full of sensual, alive energy for, for the rest for all of life. Like when you're, when you've got that open heart, you've got that open chest, and your breasts have been, you know, well, massaged and stimulated it's like your whole nervous system is super relaxed, super open, and ready to receive in a way that is magnetic.

Leah:

Yeah. I love that you brought up that because it's so powerful to create a distinction of like, okay, this is for me and here's the type of massage my breast actually really likes. Here's a distinction where someone's not taking their desire, but they're actually helping me understand what feels really good. So to have a conscious breast massage where someone is, um, you have the experience of being able to touch your own breasts in a whole new way so that you can understand like what's the map to your heart opening through your breasts, and then you have an opportunity to allow someone else the privilege of giving to your heart, of giving to you touch that is not for them. It is for you to feel you. And to be able to have a meditation where someone is massaging your breast therapeutically that allows whatever wants to come up to the surface. To come up to the surface, whether that's a primal scream,'cause maybe there's a scream stuck in your heart that's blocking you from being open. Or it is a, oh my gosh, I never felt this like open and soft and supple and I really love a circular touch versus, you know, pressure point release work. You know, you start to identify,

Willow:

Or my nipples like a. Yeah, my nipples like a softer approach. They like a, a palm rather than fingertips, you know? Yeah. They don't like to be gr generally, they don't like to be grabbed at until you're at a certain level of arousal. So, you know, in, in all of my, I'm curious, uh, Leah, in all of the, the women's workshops and retreats and trainings and immersions that I've led and been a part of leading, um. We, we've actually never collectively as a group gone into like self pleasuring, like self masturbation as a group. But I know that there are retreats out there that do. I'm just curious if your retreats have ever gone in that

Leah:

direction. I've, I've never, um, put that into my curriculum, but I've done women's programs where that was a part of the curriculum. And it was really cool. We were all like in a circle

Willow:

Was that Mama Gina?

Leah:

with. Nope. That, yeah, I think we did that in Mama Gina. But what I remember most is doing it in the priestess training with Lauren and Om, uh, two people we've interviewed. I'll put'em in the show notes. Uh, and all of our heads were laying down. We had a little nests. All of our heads were pointing towards the center, so your legs were like on the outside of the circle, so you still felt like you had some privacy, but you were also being able to be connected to the energy of the room and feed off of varying experiences. Which I would see all the time in doing the in-class practicums in my classes too. One woman's sounds and experiences would open another woman's experience, and that's always kind of fascinating. Um,

Willow:

That's the same idea as as network chiropractic. You know, it is very interesting. You go into a room, you lay on the table, there's like five other people on the table laying down, and one person. Starts sounding and releasing, even talking about it, then the other person next to him. So it's like our nervous systems are a collective web. You know, just like trees have a collective web and their nervous systems are talking to each other. Ours do the same thing. And there's these mirror neurons. So like what Leah's going into explaining is, you know, if, if the group, you know, if the triad who's working together around, um, you know, infertility starts to have these, these releasings of sound and, and, um, sensation and grief and, and, you know, movement through their body, then, then the group who's right next to them who might be working with heartbreak, you know, or loss or, um, healing traumas from the past starts to have similar, uh, releases. It's

Leah:

Yeah. And some woman who's like really connected to her sounding helps another woman across the room who, who up until that point, has struggled making sound, but she's hearing the, the bravery of a woman across the room and is going, okay. She's doing it. Maybe I can open up my throat a little bit more and do it too. Maybe I can also set myself free because someone is templating for me that it's okay that I have permission and it can unlock something that's been, um, unaccessible. You know? So I really love that dynamic between women like that there's, we are permission is for each other. Um, we kind of pass on this, this, um, this place of going, it's okay.

Willow:

Permission

Leah:

be judged here.

Willow:

Yeah, sometimes it's all people need. I was just talking to a woman in Colorado last weekend who, um, just lost her beloved husband to an avalanche. Really, really sad.

Leah:

Oh my God.

Willow:

Yeah. And like amazing relationship, love of her life, the whole thing. And you know, and she was like, man, but I, I have an oral fixation. I mean, he was such a lucky husband. He got blowjobs like four times a week, you know, but like, where am I gonna do that now? I'm like, well, I think you need a tantra buddy. She's like, uh, tantra buddy. What's that? You know, it just, the permission was all she needed. Now she's off and running. She's gonna find a tantra community. She's

Leah:

Boy, what a lucky

Willow:

community. Get her needs met.

Leah:

What a beautiful thing to give.

Willow:

And now speaking of that, speaking of oral fixations in the throat and the mouth and below jobs and all of that, you know this, um, one of the most important things in really opening up the divine feminine energy is yes, of course, working out the stuck energy in the womb and the yoni and the sacred center of your body, but also in the throat because the throat is such a mirror image. It's such a reflection of your, um, sacred center of your genitalia. And so when we really start to sound and, um, make vibration through the throat, it releases and opens up all the stuck tissue, stuck old traumas, stuck, limiting beliefs that are inside of the yoni. Um, so that's one thing that I really am bringing into my work more and more is sounding and singing. Singing, um, singing songs that have meaning, singing songs about, like releasing, you know, the past and, and then stepping into the future. Songs that are really like fun to sing and easy to sing. And you know, there's so many women in the world who are like, oh, I can't sing. I have a terrible voice. I can't do it. And. Can't hold a tune. You know, I'm tone deaf and I'm, the more I go down the singing path, the more I'm learning that, like that's all hogwash. Everyone who has a voice can sing. All you have to do is open your throat and let sound come out. And so it's been really, really cool to witness the, um, expansion that happens inside of people just from singing. Even some of the events that I'm doing are just song, they're not even connected to sexuality. And still there's this incredible, um, wave of Shakti that starts to flow through the central column of your body through that Sushumna channel. Sushumna is a, um, a meridian like, uh, energy channel in your body that runs from your pelvic floor all the way up through your throat to the crown of your head.

Leah:

Yeah, I think, um, sounding is like the cornerstone of everything we do. And the reason for that is your, your voice a is key to being expressive. I. And the world needs you to express yourself. And there is, uh, in most somatic therapies, which is the type of therapy that is going to the body. With the understanding that it's your body that's holding these blocks, not just your brain and the story of your blocks, but the actual physical body is also holding the blocks. And what's powerful about sound is that it has pitch and frequency, and it's the pitch and frequency. When you can make a sound that matches a block in your body, that sound begins to break up the block. And because sound, can't happen without breath, the breath carries the sound. So when you have the courage to make the sound, let's say, of a block, you know, an ancient story, the big wound that you've been dragging along in your life, that is so hooked to so many patterns that don't serve you. When you begin to carry that block out of the body, it actually moves out of the body. Through that sound and breath because it has pitch and and vibration, and it can actually be measured. So this isn't a woo woo thing, even though it might sound like it to some people. This is actually a measurable fact. And so it's one of the keys if you wanna liberate your body from the blocks and the crystallization of stuck emotions, and you wanna prevent yourself from that getting so crystallized, it'll create disease and it's, and it's gonna start affecting your body. This is one of the key elements is you gotta connect to your sound. That's just what it can do for healing and getting rid of blocks. But the added benefit is when you can make the sound of pleasure, when you can make the sound of joy. You know what it's like to have a yummy bite? Mm-hmm. This can only so good. Mm-hmm. More of that creme bru light please. Um, that perfect bite like motivates you to go yummy. And that Hmm. Makes that bite even better.

Willow:

Mm. So much better.

Leah:

when you can make this sound, that's why laughing is so

Willow:

So good.

Leah:

it's as good an

Willow:

orgasm. It's, uh, you can laugh-gasms, and we are gonna be having a lot of laughlaugh-gasmshis, uh, retreat in Greece in October. You all, by the way, um, if you are hearing this whole episode and you're like, boy, this sounds really good. I do need to pattern interrupt. I do need to heal my traumas of the past. I do need to heal my feminine wounds and my masculine wounds. Then come with a to Greece. We'll be there October 5th through the 12th, 2025. And it's gorgeous. The retreat center we're gonna be at, the food is phenomenal. I mean, everything about it is so picturesque and just, it's gonna be a huge life changing experience for all of our participants, and we are filling up fast. So do check that out. We'll have a link. We have a link on all of our websites. www.Dr.WillowBrown.com, www.MoreLoveWorks.com, and www.SexReimagined.com. So check'em out. So, yeah, we're gonna be having so much laughter at this grease retreat and the, you know, one of the things about sound and laughter that Leah's really explaining beautifully with all the vibration and the frequency and the breakthroughs of the crystallization of, of all those emotions stuck in the body, is the heart actually is the only organ in the body that actually makes a sound. And that's why it opens up your heart so much when you are in.

Leah:

expressing yourself.

Willow:

Yeah. When you're in harmony with making sounds, whether they're icky sounds or pleasurable sounds, or you know, barely a sound, any sound works to start to help to open up places in your body that have been conditioned to shut down.

Leah:

Yeah, so there's lots of really cool things having to do a sound that will really unpack. One of the things we deepen into is understanding the vagus nerve and how the vagus nerve opens up the power of sound, and one of the key reasons why sounding is so healing. I. And and why? It is like the key. It's the number one key. There's no way around it. If you want more pleasure in your body, if you want your orgasms to go through the roof, if you wanna make your orgasms actually get turned on, if you want better orgasms than everybody you know, it's the key is sounding because it's what increases the intensity. And um, and we are so damn shy and uncomfortable with it. We don't want people to know that we're having an experience that exposes our vulnerability, whether that's pleasure or pain. It's like this weird thing that we've made so private, like, oh my God, what if the children heard our happiness? What if they actually heard mom and dad love each other in the bedroom and they're making the sounds of it? Sure, they'll be a little grossed out, but when they grow up. They're gonna be really glad to know my parents loved each other.

Willow:

Mm-hmm.

Leah:

And, um, and so there's these lines, right, that we create, that create boxes around how we express ourselves and in, and in many ways, it's to our detriment. And when we can kind of free that up, then what happens is you get to have the conversations that are difficult, that you might need to have, like setting limits and setting boundaries. And you have the courage to do so because this throat isn't so stuck. Um, so

Willow:

opening the throat, opens the rest. And so, and, and also like if that chakra isn't open, there's no access to the chakras above that one, right? So you can't really access your intuition and your connection to higher consciousness if the throat is blocked. And so many women, but really, all people, but every woman I've worked with ever somatically, um, some has some kind of block in between the heart and the throat. And so there's desires in the heart. There's desires inside of you that don't get to come to life because of this, there's no expression. There's a block to being able to expression. And in Chinese medicine, the tongue is the flower of the heart. You know, each one of the organs in the body has a. A sense organ. And so the, for the heart, the sense organ is that sense of the tongue, the taste buds. And so there's a really deep, I always think about, and when I teach the Taoist practices, I often will teach, like, think about your tongue like a rose, and the stem of that rose is going down the throat and rooting into the heart. So you've got this beautiful like rose bud blooming

Leah:

from the tongue Love that.

Willow:

And there's so much fun you can do with the tongue, you know, connecting to the roof of the mouth, running microcosmic orbit, which is a whole nother topic, but we will talk about that at our retreat. Let's talk a little bit about what we will be doing at this Greece retreat.

Leah:

Yeah, so I was headed in the same direction. Um, one of the things that a lot of women don't explore, again, back to shame, embarrassment, discomfort, is actually looking at their vulva. And like really witnessing like, this is what I look like We have this thing between our legs that is so magnetic, everybody wants in, and most of the time we don't understand why. It feels like an alien. It feels like a foreign object. I can't tell you how many people I teach the practice of Yoni witnessing to, and their first reaction is a little bit of an aversion. I feel weird down there. I don't like the way down there looks. I feel broken. There is a real disconnect about seeing their beauty. And their magnetism and how gorgeous and how good they feel they may be able to like connect to. Yeah, that feels good at times, like when they're having sex with their partners. But there's this really, it's like we don't look at each other's vulvas. We don't know what vulvas look like. We can either assume they all look like ours, or we're the ones that look so different. And there's a sense of embarrassment, and I think it's really powerful when we can just take a moment to try to understand our anatomy. And not only go, this is what I look like, but when I touch this part of my body, this is how my body functions. I'll never forget the transformation I experienced when I started to look about the anatomy of my arousal, and I made a brain bridge by this is how my vulva changes, this is how my erectile tissue functions when it is touched. And suddenly I knew that, okay, if I can look at my vulva, like this is my unaroused vulva, this is what it looks like 98% of the day. When I'm just moving around in the world, it's like, it's like a flower in the morning before the sun rises. It's protected. It's kind of closed. You touch it for five minutes and then it changes its shape. It opens a little bit more. You massage it for another five minutes. It changes shape every five minutes, you're continuing to bring blood flow, and then you wanna, you wanna know what is opening, what feels good. Who am I in this trajectory of my vulva changing from closed and protected to open and wanting. And when you can understand what you're seeing, because let's face it, most of the times we are sexual we don't not know what we look like. We don't know the changes that our body's experiencing other than what we can sense and feel.

Willow:

Other people say it looks good, but do we really know what it looks

Leah:

like? Right. So to, for me to be able to go, now I know because I've looked in the mirror. This is what my vulva looks like at different stages of arousal. It has accentuated my arousal because I have a mind-body connection. I have a visualization now, so it heightens my arousal when I'm with a partner when I can't see it because I understand how the map works, and I think that that is such a pivotal journey. And to do that journey with other women going through the journey we are all relating to it. We are relating to what's difficult about it. We are relating to what's marvelous and miraculous about it, and we can then influence each other's perspective in a much more positive, interesting, curiosity filled way that, that we can't do by ourselves.

Willow:

Absolutely. And it's so nice to be in the, in the bosom of other women who are going through it as well because, you know, you just don't feel so alone in your feelings around it. In your shame around it and your guilt around it and your, is this okay? Uh, you know, of one of the things that just keeps happening for me over and over and over again on this journey is like is this amount of pleasure okay? Like that breakthrough. It just, it, I don't think there's a ceiling for it. You know? It just keeps breaking through and breaking through. Is this okay that I'm having this much fun? Is this okay that I'm in this much joy? Is it okay that I'm having this much pleasure like, am I okay? Like, you know,'cause we just are not taught to revel in the pleasures and the abundance and the joy and the gratitude of life. We really aren't. We're taught to protect ourselves and to shut down and to stay safe. And to open from your root chakra up so from your, from your first and your second chakra all the way up

Leah:

To even discover what your chakras are and what they mean and how they work

Willow:

Yeah,

Leah:

another wisdom path.

Willow:

game changing. Another thing we're gonna be doing, um, is Sacred Spot Massage at this, at this event, and so.

Leah:

It's probably one of the bigger initiations. Yeah. Continue.

Willow:

Yeah, doing sacred spots. So inside of every woman's yoni there, or every yoni owner's yoni, there is, um, a point along the G spot. It's about three quarters of the way back, and it's a really, it's kind of feels like an acupuncture point. It's really kind of a little indentation, a little divot. And so, um, Charles Muir discovered this point in all of the, um work that he was doing with women. And, and with yoga. And he discovered that, wow, this sacred spot here, right here inside of a woman's yoni really, um, opens up lifetimes of, of release and letting go and becoming. So, I mean, the sacred spot can hold everything from deep, deep pain to, um, deep, deep traumas to incredible, vast, uh, kaleidoscopes of pleasure. You know, it can be such a journey to discover your own sacred spot and find out who you are.

Leah:

Totally. It's really like, it's a direct access point to the center of the chakra itself. And there aren't many chakras you can go to the center of and touch inside. But the second chakra of a woman, you can, and it's a profound sacred experience. And so to have a ritual that is treated as a sacred experience that you get to spiritualize a part of your anatomy that for most of us, has been shrouded in shame, guilt and fear completely changes forevermore, transforms how you experience yourself and this body. It's so life changing. And like Willow said, there's layers of of access you have to what this journey's been like for you as a woman and maybe even some other journeys from the past and other lifetimes. It's really also a web that connects every person who has a yoni, a vagina, it like it connects us. And there's a deep, deep ris wisdom and ancient wisdom that you then get to tap into that acts as a central focal point for your inner guidance. And there's something very, very powerful around self-trust that begins to be cultivated when you realize that you source your wisdom from this place. And I have to say, probably the most profound thing that happens at these retreats is we've had a life where our genitals have either been sexualized only, or have been treated clinically. But very rarely do women have an experience of our yonis having a therapeutic approach. And we need to have that sacred therapeutic experience that is separate from sexualization, that is separate from being clinical. So that we can know where to resource ourselves. Like you have this incredible portal of wisdom that you've got access to that no one told you about. And there's a lot of anger that arises when you discover how much of yourself you can access when that is never been taught or modeled for you. And I think that is like a ginormous takeaway that comes from this experience. The other thing that I think is so critical awe inspiring is you get to see other vulvas and if you are ready, and this is totally optional, you get to touch other vulvas and to actually touch someone else's sacred spot. And that changes forever how you see your own body, you finally get the hit. Oh, I get it. Like all these women are so beautiful and if I am gobsmacked by the beauty that is in this room and the courage of these other women here, my God, how can I deny my own? And you realize I can never deny myself ever again. I'm just as beautiful as every woman here. I must feel this soft, silky, gentle, supple, powerful, strong, amazing. If, if I'm touching this in her, it must exist in me too, and it does. But to get that on a visceral level, to feel that at your fingertips, to be trusted by someone else, to be touched in such a vulnerable, private way, it, there's words are, sorry, excuse for explaining

Willow:

yeah. It's so true. You cannot put it words to it. It's an experience like no other. So another thing we're gonna be doing at this Grease retreat, I mean, I know this sounds like a lot, but it's gonna be all woven in beautifully. Yeah, we got a whole week and we're gonna be doing yoga every morning and we're gonna be doing Qigong at all these sacred sites and we're gonna be eating so well. And swimming in the Ian Ocean. But we're also gonna be doing, um, we're gonna be doing some jade egg work and also pelvic floor sweep, which is my sort of signature technique for clearing and healing any old traumas in the pelvic floor. And I actually have a book that's halfway written, um, on all the, the stories that come out of women's Yonis because whenever I do pelvic floor sweep work on women pelvic floor release, um, there are these unraveling in these stories and women are like, oh my God, I didn't know that was in there, that that's been in there since I was three years old. Oh my god, I didn't know. You know,

Leah:

Right. Again, the Soma, like you get messages and visuals of like, holy shit, that hot spot, oh!

Willow:

Yeah,

Leah:

is where that's from. I.

Willow:

it's really incredible and there's places inside of the pelvic bowl, like let's say if somebody has a really, um, tender point on the right side, right around their hip, that is related to their relationship to boundaries with the masculine. So then I might ask them that question, well what does that mean to you? Having boundaries with the masculine? And they're like, oh my God, I've never had good boundaries with the masculine in my whole life and I really need to, and.

Leah:

A big breakthrough happens.

Willow:

Yeah, and so it's like these openings get to really just show themselves in ways that they never have, and they could not any other way. The yoni has some wisdom that no other part of your body really has, and it's super important to do the pelvic floor release work before doing tonification work. So jade egg is more tonifying. And so if you can see what I'm doing, if you're not watching, go to go to YouTube and fast forward to this part so you can see what I'm doing with my hands. You want your pelvic bowl to be moving like a butterfly, both sides, right side and left side, zip bone to pubic bone, hip bone to hip bone. You really want it to be even and steady. And a lot of times what happens is it's like this one side is like kind of glitchy opening and the other side isn't moving at all, you know? And so what we ha we don't wanna go in and start tonifying that imbalance, right? So we don't wanna strengthen that. We have to go in and clear first so that both sides are, the tone of the tissues is really soft and supple and um, even. And then we can start to do jade egg work and we're gonna be doing some advanced jade egg work. We'll do some beginner stuff, and then we'll do some advanced jade egg work to really strengthen the pelvic floor in a harmonious and toned way. So for those of you who have dabbled with jade egg, um, in the past. You know, you, you may not have gotten this really important, crucial part of clearing the pelvic floor first before going in and squeezing away and kegeling away. And I'm also getting some new information right now, downloading into my own body through a really powerful practice that I've taken up recently about Kegeling in general. So that is continuing to develop and I will be sharing about that at the Grace Retreat.

Leah:

I love this. This jade egg practice is thousands of years old and has, uh, such a rich history to it. You're gonna love that. A lot of, you've probably heard of it, but haven't had a chance to dive in.

Willow:

And I gotta tell you, there's, if you do sign up for this retreat, we've got the first seven people who sign up for this retreat. They're gonna get the jade egg remedy as a bonus. So all that we're gonna be, yeah, all that we're gonna be teaching at the retreat is also in a recorded version that you can keep forevermore and do on your own, at your own pace.

Leah:

So you're probably like ready to take a look at the website and get more information on this. If you go to www.SexReimagined.com the top banner is right there. You can click on it or you can go to www.SexReimagined.com/Crete-Retreat. That is the direct link to get to the website and check out all the Show

Willow:

notes, of course.

Leah:

Of course. And it's a great price.

Willow:

It is. It's so worth it. It's gonna be worth every

Leah:

And I love Crete. Matt And I to Crete in 2018 and it was my favorite, one of my favorite stops in Greece.

Willow:

It is so powerful and for those of you who want to travel afterwards around Greece, we are gonna be carrying on and traveling and you're more than welcome to come with us. We will be doing privates post retreat to really support people into deeper healing or just come out and hang out and have a cocktail with us on the beach. That's cool too.

Leah:

yeah, we'll be, we'll be checking out some other, um, sacred, holy sites, some temples that we don't have time to fit into the retreat itself because we wanna continue to, um, experience all that Greece has to offer. So we'll probably do some things in Athens. We're still figuring out the itinerary for that, so we'll, we'll release that information when we've got it mapped out. But our plan is to spend a couple extra weeks in Greece. So, um, join us. Let's do a little bit of some deep dives. And Willow and I will be available to do private sessions.

Willow:

Absolutely.

Leah:

it's really wonderful to have someone work with your system, help you shift your system, who has years of experience touching female bodies in a sacred, safe, trusting, um, and ritualistic way so that you can take the next step on your journey. Uh, you know what's really interesting, Willow? Like, one of the, one of the craziest things, uh, that has happened many times in my work doing these retreats are mother daughters to come.

Willow:

I know and we already have one signed up. I'm super excited.

Leah:

Now this is not for underage daughters. These are for adult

Willow:

daughters. Adult daughters, of couse.

Leah:

Um, but it's a really special bonding trip to do with a daughter if, uh, if she's ready for this type of work on herself.

Willow:

Yeah, and I wanna encourage all the ladies out there listening. If you've been listening to this episode and you're like, oh my God, I need that. But I don't know if I could do that. I'm a little bit scared. I'm not sure. What are you

Leah:

Am I ready?

Willow:

you gonna be masturbating together? I'm not sure. You know, whatever questions you have. Please just reach out to us support@sexreimagined.com. Send us a little message via email and we will be happy to hop on a call with you and just answer any and all questions and, and help you feel like more, more safe and more ready for, for the transformation ahead.

Leah:

We can take inventory together and find out where you're at, what you're comfortable with, what you're not comfortable with. And we'll be really honest about whether this retreat is for you. Um, I can't wait for all the rituals and all the meditations and all the ways we're gonna weave and bond as a group of women who really like lifting up the sisterhood.

Willow:

Yeah, it's gonna be a powerful one, and we can only take, um, 16. So please do register soon because we are filling up fast.

Leah:

And I wanna mention that, you know, Willow was talking about medicine journeys using, um, sacred plant medicine like Ayahuasca and other medicines. She, um, co-facilitate and supports a number of these different events all throughout the year. Um, so reach out to her if you're feeling the call of going, okay, I think plant medicine has an answer for me, and I'll tell you, I've been to these retreats with her. And they are so profound. They are so deep. I love doing this in a group of all women versus in a mixed gender group. There's something different that happens when it's all women. If maybe you have experience with plant medicine. But maybe you've never been to an all women's retreat with plant medicine. Get yourself to one there. You'll feel how different it feels. There is a freedom that happens. There's something that you have access to in my experience, that is less accessible in a mixed gender group. And the mixed gender groups are great too. It's just

Willow:

right. Yeah. We've got one coming up in ju uh, June and one in August. So, um, just send me an email, Connect@Dr.WillowBrown.com if you're interested in that, and I'll point you in the right direction.

Leah:

All right. Well, I hope y'all have a beautiful morning, day or evening and we send you so much love.

Willow:

So much love.

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