Når barnet roper Satan

Du hører barnet ditt på 3 år rope: satan! Hvor tror du barnet ditt har hørt og lært dette ordet? Barna våre ser oss, hører oss og gjør det samme oss. Hele tiden! Er du som forelder bevist på hvordan du hele tiden er rollemodell for barnet ditt? 

I ukens episode snakker vi om viktigheten av hvordan vi snakker om andre. Gjennom oss vises holdninger og verdier, og disse smittes over til barna våre.

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Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

You know what Tarlak said here? Tell me. He missed the girl. And then he came all of a sudden. There's a mom. Who do you think he got that from? Well, it's the one sitting here, right, it's not me. It's me, mom, brunch, marie and Lincoln.

Speaker 1: 0:25

A podcast from Barnardinett. Welcome to the weekly episode of Moundrunch. Today we're going to talk about how we talk to children, because they are I can't say anything else. They are swampers and suck up absolutely everything we say. And it's not an example you start with now, it's a practical example. Dear friends, we have to go in and do it ourselves. Sometimes, when we hear the children talk, are you happy? And it's both what's positive but also all the negative things that we have, because we have them too.

Speaker 1: 1:09

When the children start to talk a little, I have a tendency to say the ironic part when did I get it from? I didn't have a clue. It was nice, the cruise ship. Actually, it's so nice I thought it's not. I had to laugh, but then it started. There was a reflection out there when my daughter, now just four years old, says to me that I'm getting a little bit of an amperage. Mom, take the calm cruise ship. And I did that because I had to, but that's what we also found out. We think it's a bit funny that you start to laugh and then you start to think about it afterwards and then you think, yes, we think, is it like when you're 14? No, not like that, but I think it's a bit funny Because my son on the 10th says that Mom, you're talking just as well, as best for you.

Speaker 1: 2:11

Yes, that's it. Never thought that I would. No, you say home, I was here. Home, I never say home. And then he started to harass me. Now, mom, what do you say now? Yes, that's what I said. So they're not just a generation of harassers, it's also been with us and that generation of Absolutely, and that's a positive thing if it's something that's that we're going home, that we're going home, yes, so it's not that kind of. It's not that kind of it's relatively quiet and it's something that's but to draw a little child's heart, and not really that much.

Speaker 1: 2:59

I don't want to look at it in detail today, but how do we talk about others? And that is, what do we learn from our children and what do they suck up from what we talk about, and how do we form our own? I think they are also able to form their own and this attitude without a word. I think they understand a lot more than we think about every day, and it's both the same as parents and all the other adults that we are used to thinking about how we talk to our children, and not to mention how we talk to each other when the child is in place, because the one I am actually talking to you about and you know that. So there you see and experience the child a lot, and then you take it with you and we have to, and I'm doing a lot of mistakes. So that's not what this is about, but it's about our awareness.

Speaker 1: 4:13

How do we actually meet or say something? When one of the young people comes and says that this has been shot or that this has been shot or that this has been shot? How do we meet? How do we meet and how is the political correct? It's not easy. It's not easy. When the young person comes home and says that this young person has been shot, are you trying to find out what has happened? Why did you beat the child? What is the child's real purpose?

Speaker 1: 4:51

When he was the oldest, I was at a kindergarten in the Russia, I don't remember who, but it wasn't important, and he talked a lot about this, about how we talk about others for the child, and he took an example that has burned a bit in my head. When you're at home with your family this was both when Tesla was so hip you see the blind man and you see the neighbor come home and drive a Tesla. How did you respond In this way? That's why Tesla was driving. Who has stolen it? How did he get the money? He didn't throw it away. The other couple said where is the million? How do you talk about the events? How do you say look so cool. When the neighbor finally bought the Tesla, look at the color. It was cool. Oh, what the hell is that?

Speaker 1: 5:51

How do we put it forward? It can be that it's about the child's health. It can be about a lot of things, but we always need to say it to the child. We really need to say it. What is money? What? Where do we want it? Have we promised that and what do we teach our children? Not least, we know the two different things. Should we do something good, or should we trust what they have, or should we leave ugly comments about what they get from new things.

Speaker 1: 6:30

I'm sorry that the episode or what he said. I thought a lot about it and just I could have quickly been on the one side, but I didn't want to be there. I wanted to be on the other side. So that's why I've taken a lot of reflection on how you talk. But then there's something you don't always mean when you're with it and you mean to be unfilmated, but it's just dead-out. We've loaded a car and it's something that's so disqualified in front of you. You drive 50 km in the 80s. It's a bit irritating. A smile, and then it can come A smile or two. For example, are you completely glassy? And then you choose, choose, my, my delta, and then I had two dark-haired girls in the back seat and a very white-haired girl who probably stills thousands of questions about the day.

Speaker 1: 7:41

What's glassmanism, mom? Why is glassmanism in your brain? You get it, I'm not kidding. No problem, it's fine, you know. No, you understand, he's a bit slower, you know, yes, but how do you know that glassmanism is in your brain? It's fine, I also often have to. It's not allowed to park here. It's not like it's really fine when we're here. There's someone in my family who never forgets the song I had from a long time ago and I said to them I'm going to park here, mom, I thought it was a bit. It's a bit like the underground glassman. It's fine. You also have some elderly children, so you get that glassman, the underground glassman, after you were in it. It's in the ground and that's a real mirror, you know. And as we started the episode with Young people are swamps. Yes, yes, yes. And they show you. And it's not just what we say to them, it's all in the environment, all of this stuff.

Speaker 1: 8:56

A colleague told me about his son. I have to tell you the story was fantastic. A child who lived on. He loved milk and he could drink more ice to his mom and he always had to hear don't drink it with milk, don't drink it with milk. That was his. He actually brought milk with milk and he also learned how to drink milk. So he had a glass of cola and he took a glass of cola with both hands and a big smile. Today, mom, today I can drink milk. It's a new video, totally the same, because you shouldn't drink milk with milk. It's not like you drink it with cola, it's just that. But they learn. This child was three years old and I think that just to be able to drink for three years works like that. You get completely fascinated, fantastic.

Speaker 1: 10:03

And I would like to tell you something about what we as parents, or what influence we as parents, have, what we do and say and how we say it. I think I have a lot to say. I want to assume that there are so many families I can use myself as an example. My daily life is quite free at home with us. Everyone at home should eat and sit around the table and we should talk together, and when we have a call, we can talk about things. And how do we talk about others?

Speaker 1: 10:37

We have examples of how you started talking about the child who is beating you. This is when I came home and said that it is a child who is beating the child and I said, yes, but mom, the child didn't learn to play with him. The child wanted to play with me and wanted to do that, and then he thought that he was going to beat me up to get in touch with me, and then he felt that I was getting a little bit touched. I think it was a very nice saying of me on 5. Because she has been catching a lot At the same time. They can catch everything, of course, but there are not all the people who beat you up to make you bad.

Speaker 1: 11:15

No, and how are the people, as parents, like you? It is not allowed. But is that the child that we beat all the time? Or is it one that looks young and mine, and tries to find out what the next year is and that is very quickly done and thrown away at the beginning, yes, yes, when you come home and say, yes, he is a child, yes, he is a child. But what is the young thing? Yes, it is not. But what happened? I am a little younger now. No, you are older. Yes, I think you are younger.

Speaker 1: 11:53

Yes, but I think you are talking about each other, Look at each other and who cannot have one in their own way. Or look at TV yes, you can sit like this. You can sit like this when you are tired. You have to be comfortable. It is just the small comments that you do not think about, which are so easy to say Without doing it yourself. Yes, you do it yourself and work with it a lot.

Speaker 1: 12:23

I think it is important that you are aware. I think it is important that you look at me. Yes, but it's so difficult and it's it's so embarrassing to be at home on the other side of the house. It's important to talk about it. I'm just kidding, this is a bit of a joke. He's never driven, no, no.

Speaker 1: 12:51

Or we talked about the parents never seeing each other. They're never involved in anything. And then they hear the young ones your parents never saw each other. It's not the same, but it's been a bit of a shock. It's not completely healthy. It can be a year-long thing because they haven't driven two-way, two-way training and it's always felt like that. But it's only two, for example, and it's very nice that they're stigmatizing the other kids Because they're young, they're very sensitive and it's very unhealthy.

Speaker 1: 13:28

And then it's like we also talked about what I say and the way I say. It is very annoying. And one thing is, when they're three or four or five years old, they remember and they take it to themselves and they get older and they use it more actively because that's what they've learned and heard. And when they're ten, fifteen years old, it's not as easy to change that. It's not that. So this goes a bit on the value of the values, because how do we think about those around us? Absolutely, and we wish that our children will have good values and values, good people, and that's the reason we want to have that episode. Be very aware of what you say, how you say it and the attitude you use when you talk to others. Not least, be brave and be brave and the children hear it themselves. When you think that it's not much of a deal, mavrish do you hear it on podcast, youtube and Spotify.