Ep. 173 - You’re Not Tired - You’re Uninspired

If you’ve been feeling drained even when you’re getting enough rest - this episode will hit home. Rhiannon explores the real reason behind your exhaustion: not lack of sleep, but lack of inspiration. She shares how understanding what truly fuels your energy - connection, purpose, and authenticity - can completely change how you show up at work and in life. You’ll learn how to identify what energises you, what quietly depletes you, and how to rebuild your spark by living and leading with honesty and courage.

This episode dives into the quiet burnout that comes from constantly giving to everyone else while wondering if you’re doing enough and feeling unseen despite it all. It’s not another “work harder” pep talk - it’s a powerful exploration of energy awareness and alignment, helping you reconnect with what truly fuels you so you can feel motivated and fulfilled again, without forcing it.

Reminders:

• You’re not tired - you’re uninspired.
• Energy follows authenticity.
• Journal, audit, and reconnect to what lights you up.

A must-listen before you plan your next chapter.

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Transcript

YOU’RE NOT TIRED - YOU’RE UNINSPIRED

EP #173

“Do I need a life coach?” You’re listening to Episode 173, with Rhiannon Bush

Do I need a life coach? You're listening to episode 173 with Rhiannon Bush welcome to the do I need a life coach podcast. The podcast for professionals who are smart capable and tired of holding back here we dive into the real conversations real struggles and real coaching that helps you find your voice and own your space and now here's your host Rhiannon Bush

well hello my beautiful friends welcome back to another week. I hope you are smashing it and I hope from the last episode that I did which is all about planning to really close out this year with a lot of clarity and a lot of gusto but also in a way that lets you and gives you the space to rejuvenate your energy and really our plan and get innovative for the next year that you had real fun doing that that exercise I know I love that I love stepping into that space where I get to dream and plan and do so I hope you really got a lot out of that if you didn't go back and listen to episode 172 and you will get everything you need from that episode to really established the next couple of weeks and months in the lead up to the end of year to plan get clarity on how you want to close this year out and way that you're really really proud and then you can from there enter 2026 with that kind of in a video of gusto that happens when you're feeling inspired or when you're at least resting so your brain can operate at a difference at the frequency and then you can be more open to more ideas and things that you want in your life and to live a really fulfilled life. I know most of my listeners that I get an honour to talk to talk about the fact that they want a big life they want a life that exceeds expectations where they blow their own minds around what's possible for them how they go about living their lives and they're not here to just coast so if you're like that episode 172 will set you up really really well for the next few months and into 2026 while we're on that topic and I know I've mentioned there's a lot in the podcast but I've recently had the lesson again around the importance of understanding things that you do that make you feel great and inspire you and that you love versus things that drain you of energy and there are so many layers to this and this is I think the lesson that I've had recently it's really easy to do on paper. You do a survey and you get your profile report and whatever I do these for clients all the time clients love them. I love them. It's fantastic. It adds so much value to someone's life to go based on the balance of probabilities is the type of person that you are and this is what we really give you a lot of energy and this is what we really drain your energy and teaching somebody how they want to navigate that in their day-to-day lives to feel great to feel vibrant since becoming a mum I've had very split priorities in my life again. I've talked a lot about it and one of the most difficult things about that was not only that motherhood was a choice for me but that it took me by surprise I don't know what I was thinking but I don't think I really thought a lot about motherhood and the impact that that would have on me and how connected I wanted to be to my children and the enrichment that they give me in my life and the love I have for them but also the challenges that come with something requiring so much of you so an example pre-kids I love social media. I was really happy to be on social media and that's not only in the way of posting my own stuff but that's in the way of communicating with other people of adding value of sharing of liking of commenting of laughing you know I didn't have a problem sitting there and spending however long I spent down the Rabbit hole of Facebook or Instagram I actually really enjoyed it and I found a lot of inspiration from it out the other side of motherhood and we've competing priorities in life. It's not where I wanna be at all so that has been a really interesting challenge that I am now trying to overcome around well when do I fit that in? If I want to and does it drain my now? Does it give me energy now? So for instance? I've got some girlfriends that send me some Memes about all different things sometimes I work related sometimes their motherhood related sometimes a life related and I'm just in stitches and that really fuels me and it makes me feel good and I laugh and sometimes I really need that light in my day on the flipside of that there are times when I just feel so demanded from in terms of my attention my energy my time my at work whether is at home and it just drains me and I want nothing to do with the social life that lives on social media for me so really really interesting kind of dilemma so there's one thing to know whether you're more tasks and outcomes focused versus people and feelings focused or whether you're more introverted or extroverted. It's really great to know all of that but what's even more beneficial is when you can go even deeper levels to what really inspires you to what makes you really energised? I had a really interesting day today. I had to take time off work to look after my sick child and because I don't have a whole lot on at work at the moment I was able to just take the time to be present with my child as well as doing a little bit of work in between and he's old enough now that I can explain to him look mummy has to work today so I could flip between him need my help and almost to homeschooling him versus doing what I needed to do for work. I had a really really great balance of that today and the energy that that's given me to have that mental space and that capacity and that connection that I had with my child today has just given me so much in the way of energy and inspiration and now I'm happy to keep working hence doing the podcast tonight and I also you know the other day coached a girlfriend of mine. She let me coach her as a coach. I'm usually pretty careful around I coach friends and family do I do? I not and I've got quite yeah good boundaries around that I will if you're open to it and you're willing but a lot of the time family aren't of her friends go hey could you help me with this? Like yep let's go there like 10 minutes in and it does tend to get pretty deep pretty quickly then there's things that they're telling me you're sharing with me that they may not want me to know and then barriers come up and it just it becomes this whole thing so yes, just very very careful around that but this friend that I coach this week really let me really really opened up and it was an incredible experience for her and me not only for her because she really had a moment a big moment for her, but also for me because I went well it was 15 minutes that was all so good and it just gave me that reminder why I do what I do and why I love what I do so you know in terms of being up this week what what are the common themes between what I've experienced in my week that have given me energy? Well there's been a lot of connection whether it's been to my son to my friend. There's been a lot of of that personable connection so that's the extrovert in me getting that extra love and getting that attention and being able to bounce off that energy. The second common denominator is that I've been able to help. I've been in a position where I have been valued based on my contribution so I was doing worksheets with my son. He's got sort of this basic Mac book and then he's got another one for English and a few other things and I played a game with him where I said you do three pages of the workbook and I'll owe you a game so where we're in like the middle of mental maths and then I'm doing in a proposals and then I'm playing taco cat goat cheese pizza it is very very very funny but there are common themes amongst those those activities that I've done this week that have given me energy that have enabled me to be up and fired up and then I'm like right let's go what's next and then you end up in this upward spiral where you can go from first 2nd to 3rd and really feel energised. I have also experience the complete opposite where I'm getting a lot of sleep but I'm still exhausted and when that happens often I've learnt because I've done the work around it. It's not that I'm tired. It's that I'm uninspired. I'm going through life and I'm doing ABC as I'm supposed to there's no variety. It is just same same same and when my life is like that but when I don't have those key things like connection like diversity like significance when I don't have the coordinates again I've spoken about corns a lot on the podcast go back and have a look at the episodes but it just when I meet those needs it's fuelled and I feel up and I feel energised and I feel like I could go and go and go when I'm sleeping a lot when I'm on the hamster will when I'm not having those needs me all of a sudden I'm tired. I'm uninspired. I'm heavy. I'm angry. I'm stressed. So the importance of you understanding the things in your life around your car needs and how to get those mat to the level you need them met at will give you such a different quality of life to if you don't know it and it is absolutely your responsibility to know what you want in your life and just know how you are energised in your life. Another thing I read recently girl I went to high school with. I don't have anything to do with her any more but she's writing a lot at the moment about female friendships and female empowerment and she seems to be in a really really great spot whether I know that to be true or not I don't but I know her well enough from our past to know she's not the kind of person that would go posting things like that if there wasn't a colonel of truth dare or if she was not working towards that herself and through working towards that she's really uplifting others to do the same and it was interesting because I met somebody recently who juxtaposed her with the complete opposite this other person that I met again I didn't know them to a great depth but I knew enough people around them and knew them long enough to get the gist that they're very fake and disingenuous and it's this kind of relationship where she'll say something and then months later say something completely different. You go hang on or she'll say something because to save facing a group and in public that's what's expected and it's always really really irked me and I've spent a lot of time wondering like you know through the time that I need this person going what is that about for me? Because it's a main problem it's not a problem. It's a problem so what is that about for me and when I look at this other person's post and the way that she's posting about being in the moment and appreciating the moments that you've got because they could be gone and she's obviously been through something fairly significant recently to be doing these posts the way that she is but when I read that compared to this other person I know who says one thing and then says another and it's so surface level and and doesn't kinda let you in. I'm like there's just it made it very clear the kind of people I want to be spending my time with and the people you spend your time with will absolutely contribute to your energy levels as well so these women that I like to spend my time with Jess at the gym and this girl that I knew in high school who's posting like this a lot of the things that those women about and my friend that I got to coach this week and I've got a beautiful friend in Hobart that's the same. Is that they have an honesty about them in an openness and vulnerability about them that makes you feel connected because you feel like you know you feel like you know them because they share and they share in a way that is honest and what that does is enable everybody around them to do exactly the same you don't feel around somebody like that that you have to hide. It's female friendship at its finest. It's women empowering women. It's enabling women to see every side of you the good the bad the ugly because we've got all of the shades right we've all been caddy. We've all been nasty. We've all been soft. We've all been vulnerable. We've all we've had all of it if we're old enough usually but when you can show that and you can bear that to people and you're brave enough to be able to take the scrutiny from other people that might come when you behave like that what you do for other people in that process is profound and I would say the same not only in life but in work when you're at work and you've got a boss that is themselves and not in a way that this is real Proto right? Like no you need to be a professional and you need to watch what you say and how you behave and yes like I've said there is absolutely a time in a place for that way you need to be the leader and food but you lead people you need to look like you have it together and that you're not more scared than the rest of us. There's absolutely the place for that but there is also a place for being a human being and trusting that people are not gonna take advantage of that and people are not going to ridicule or scrutinise that in a way that puts you back in your box or that hurts you and that takes such strength of character and it takes such bravery not to hide from that and what you do for other people around you when you behave like that I don't think. Till you've been the kind of person that hides and then you see somebody doing that thing and then you decide to step in and be brave as well or you've been so scrutinise because you have been that open vulnerable person that you have shrunk into your shell because of all the feedback that you've received and then to have somebody else come in and be brave for you just for a little while just long enough for you to step back in and be brave too to go back into the world with that level of vulnerability and that level of openness and that level of willingness for people to think whatever they'll think and for whatever they think to be their truth about your truth there is something incredibly profound about that and watching and having these recent experiences with these different people makes me realise the kind of world I wanna live in in the kind of world. I wanna live in is where people resonate and connect with me based on the fact that I am open and I am human and I am making mistakes and I'm owning those mistakes as I'm going and that enables you to do the same to be brave and go. No I'm really afraid of doing this or no this has made me really really sad or no this has made me feel like I'm less than or I'm whatever and own it and be open to suggestions and feedback that may help that may inspire and that might heal might just heal. I pulled out my Louise Hayes book recently to look up some some things of symptoms that the kids are having and I'm having so I just was curious about it again and I also was speaking to a colleague and they were having. They had a thing done years ago. It was quite a profound experience for them. It was very spiritual but it was also about generational trauma and so if we're all walking around in a world that affects this which guess what we are and we are carrying with us generations of trauma and generations of lived experiences and wisdom. Call your intuition then there is so much healing. We all have to do already while we're born perfect we are also born with all of that that comes with us and our genetics and we carry and I'm not gonna pretend to know much about this because this is going down a rabbit hole I certainly am not overly familiar with but I do believe it and I do think that we all have a lot of healing to do and by being open and showing up in the world in a really authentic way is not only good for us but for those around us as well and as long as we've got the strength of character the support we need to charge head on towards any scrutiny that we might receive then there can't be anything bad about that and what's more is of the impact we have on other people but also on our own energy levels because instead of hiding or questioning ourselves we are being ourselves in a way that really enables us to show up in the way that we want to which is in no way small or in no way having a mediocre experience of our lives we are being ourselves we are showing up and we are exhibiting the way that we want the world around us to be reflected so a few ideas if this is a bit baffling or if you'd like to take what you already understand fuels your energy to another level. The first is journaling. When you journal you'll be able overtime. It's a long-term sort of exercise. You'll be able to go back and identify things that are common threads for you and things that happen where you stop and go hell that was a problem for me back then and that was too and that was too and you'll be able to start threading through that data to go yeah okay so this strange my energy or this gives me joy. It's a really interesting question. When you journal your journal about good stuff. Do journal about negative stuff for me. I journal a lot of negative stuff. I just wanna get out of my head and then I wanna make sense of it and then I wanna spin it to the positive but a lot of the time the reason I journal and I'm not a frequent journalist but the reason I do is because I've got a lot of negativity going on and I just need to get it out of my body I know a lot of other people adjourn a lot of gratitude and journal. A lot of really great stuff and maybe I should give that a go now I've said that so you can journal. You can also do an audit. Go through everything that you did that day and then give yourself a bit of a score so if it gave you energy give it a +5 if it sucked your energy give it a -5. Get rid of as many things that suck your energy as possible keep in mind. This is not always going to be possible. You will not always be able to offload all of the things that suck your energy but at least if you have an awareness of it you can try to delegator you can try to get rid of it you can try to remove it because the more things you do each day they give you energy the more you're going to have energy to do more things and when you do more things and you're more inspired you're just going to live a better quality life. The other things that you can do is consider what you love to do with a kid like what could you've just done for hours as a kid who gave you pure joy as a child that is a huge huge insight you can go and do behavioural profiling that will give you an incredible level of detail if you want to get some insights on what that might look like for you. Feel free to give me a message via the website so happy to help with that because behavioural profile absolutely changed my life. I run a corporate. It's just an incredible tool to really grow yourself awareness in a very very quick way but a very very long-term sustainable way where you can keep referring to it leaning back on it you can also if you really want to book in a 15 minute meeting with me I'm totally available to do that and in 15 minutes if you can come to me with a really clear problem I've like this is something I'm struggling with right now then I can absolutely help you in 15 minutes. It's a little take so those are free. Go to the website. Have a look so happy to help you with that. It actually fuels a lot of my energy. It's why I coach that's why I do what I do so you would also be helping me if you wanna look at it that way and if you don't know what to expect that's completely okay too. Just give it a go gotta be brave remember be brave and try so your energy so determines your quality of life and I've had those lessons again recently and I'm getting those lessons again for a reason. It's trying to point me direction that I need to go and I'm open and I'm willing and I'm ready to go so I hope you are too. Have an amazing week and I will see you next week. 

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