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Really"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":544.8,"endTime":547.98,"body":"encourage you to click that"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":547.98,"endTime":552.12,"body":"link, grab that book and dig"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":547.98,"endTime":552.12,"body":"into that chapter on boundaries."},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":552.3,"endTime":555.3,"body":"This book is not you don't have"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":552.3,"endTime":555.3,"body":"to read it chapter by chapter by"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":555.3,"endTime":557.82,"body":"chapter. You can look at the"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":555.3,"endTime":557.82,"body":"table of contents, pick what"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":557.82,"endTime":561.38,"body":"speaks to you and start there."},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":557.82,"endTime":561.38,"body":"You don't have to read it, cover"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":561.38,"endTime":565.64,"body":"to cover. You can go through it"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":561.38,"endTime":565.64,"body":"or however you want to. So grab"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":565.64,"endTime":568.4,"body":"the book, go to the chapter on"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":565.64,"endTime":568.4,"body":"boundaries and start setting"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":568.4,"endTime":570.8,"body":"your boundaries and maintaining"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":568.4,"endTime":570.8,"body":"your boundaries. You are worth"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":570.8,"endTime":574.34,"body":"it. Your journal prompt today is"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":570.8,"endTime":574.34,"body":"writing that list. What are your"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":574.34,"endTime":576.92,"body":"top 10 non negotiable items in"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":574.34,"endTime":576.92,"body":"your life? What are you willing"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":576.92,"endTime":581.62,"body":"to accept and what are you not"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":576.92,"endTime":581.62,"body":"willing to accept? I love you. I"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":581.62,"endTime":585.28,"body":"mean it. I can't wait to talk"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":581.62,"endTime":585.28,"body":"again and Carrie V your biggest"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":585.28,"endTime":588.28,"body":"fan, and until next time,"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":585.28,"endTime":588.28,"body":"sending you a hug. Bye, bye."}]}