When Prayers Replace Panic: A Mother's Journey

What does it take to raise boys who respect women, contribute equally at home, and make wise choices? The answer may surprise you.

In this heart-stirring conversation, Mariana welcomes Iranda Chavez, mother of three grown sons, who bravely shares her journey through the challenges of boy-mom life. Kicking off the "She's Bold" series following Mariana's successful women's conference, this episode dives deep into the cultural expectations, faith foundations, and boundary-setting strategies that shaped Iranda's parenting approach.

"Boys will not be boys in my household," Iranda declares, recounting how she refused to accept the double standard many Hispanic families apply to sons versus daughters. Instead, she insisted her boys learn household skills, respect women, and understand accountability for their choices. Through personal stories—including her son's encounter with law enforcement after being in the wrong place with the wrong people—Iranda reveals the delicate balance between protection and allowing natural consequences to teach essential life lessons.

The conversation takes a powerful turn when Iranda discusses how faith transformed her family dynamics. After witnessing domestic abuse, she was determined her sons would learn to treat women with dignity and respect. This commitment, coupled with intentional prayer and consistent boundaries, eventually bore fruit as her sons matured and recognized the wisdom in her approach. "Now that they're older, they'll tell me 'Mom, I'm so glad you were on me about these certain things because you're right, not everyone's my friend.'"

Today, Iranda has transformed her parenting experiences into a podcast called "Boy Moms Overcoming Obstacles" and contributed to an upcoming book, "Hearts of a Mother." Her message for listeners facing parenting challenges: "If you're going through chaos right now, just hold on to that faith. Things will come to pass in the Lord's timing. Remain faithful and be still."

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Chapters

• 0:00 She's Bold Series Introduction
• 3:02 Meet Iranda: Raising Three Boys
• 8:20 Boy Moms Overcoming Obstacles
• 12:15 Bad Associations and Setting Boundaries
• 17:43 Learning Hard Lessons in Parenting
• 28:57 Finding Faith and Family Balance
• 36:03 Iranda's New Book and Podcast
• 43:13 Prayer and Final Thoughts

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:01

OMG, amiga, can you believe May flew by that fast. It came and went in the blink of an eye. But wow, what a powerful month it was. The very first she's Bold Women's Conference was beyond anything I could have imagined. The energy, the breakthroughs, the boldness in that room, I mean like it was a moment that, quite honestly, is completely unforgettable for me. We had so many women that participated that attended my daughters were there, aunt cousins, friends. I mean there was so many women there that I was just blown out of my mind. I mean I couldn't even believe that it was a sold out event. And guess what? So many of you shared how much it meant to you, and y'all weren't shy about saying you don't want to wait until next May to gather again. I mean it was like completely blew my mind. So we're going to do it again. Yes, you heard that right. So mark your calendars because on the second, our second annual she's Bold Women's Conference is going to happen May 2nd 2026. And this time we're going to switch it up with a fabulous brunch edition. Yes, so we're gonna have cafecito, we're gonna have some breakfast snacks. It's gonna be amazing. And to celebrate all that God did at the first conference. For the next four Saturdays, we're diving into our she's Bold series real stories from real women walking boldly in their purpose, faith and transformation. So grab your cafecito, get cozy and let's kick off this series with some heart, some joy and a whole lot of boldness. Let's go, girlfriend.

Speaker 1: 1:57

Welcome to the Mommy on a Mission podcast. I'm Mariana, your host and the number one best-selling author of Mommy on a Mission, a guide towards healing self-discovery and walking in confidence. As a dedicated life coach, wife, mom yaya and, most importantly, daughter of the king, I am passionate about empowering multifaceted women just like you. In each episode, we dive deep into transformative topics that help you reignite your passion and purpose. My unique approach is designed to help you overcome the fear of external expectations and create the space and time you need for both increased job satisfaction and personal growth. Join me on this journey of self-discovery and empowerment as we explore practical strategies, inspiring stories and actionable insights. Together, we'll navigate the complexities of life and emerge stronger, more confident and truly aligned with our deepest desires. Welcome to the Mommy on a Mission podcast, your go-to resource for living a more purposeful and fulfilling life. So grab your Tazza of Café y vamos a platicar. Well hello, good morning, amigas, and I am so glad that you are joining me this morning on the Mommy on a Mission podcast.

Speaker 1: 3:19

I know, ladies, it's been a while, but so many excited things have happened in the last four or five weeks now and since the launch of the first annual she's Bold Women's Conference, and I'm just happy to say that it was a success. It surpassed any expectation that I ever had, and so, as I mentioned earlier, this is why we're going to hold the she's bold series, where I'm going to have women come in and share their stories, women who have stepped out in by faith in boldness to be able to go and start achieving whatever goal it is that they have, whatever passion, projects that they put on the back burner, whatever is inspiring them, that that they felt like I can't do this right now you know I'm in the middle of raising families or whatever the case may be but we're going to talk to a few women Some you'll recognize, others you won't, but I do hope that out of this series, a lot of you will hear yourself in their stories, to know that you are not alone and that you too can achieve and accomplish whatever it is on your heart. So this morning I have a wonderful guest. Her name is Iranda Chavez and she comes from Corpus Christi. She is a mom with three grown sons. We were just talking about how we still call them our babies, right, because when we have children, we're always going to see them as our babies, no matter how old they get. Right, we stay young, they get older, but they are still our babies.

Speaker 1: 5:00

She is a working mom, right, you work full time, is that correct? And, like I said, she's from Purpose Christy, and so we're going to get to know a little bit more about Iranda and some of the things that, in just the past few months, she has been able to achieve some lifelong goals and is now starting her path in having her own podcast. But before we get started, iranda, thank you so much for joining me today. I'm so glad that you had accepted the invitation to be on the podcast. I think the things that you're starting to do or are doing, I mean it takes a lot of faith and it takes a lot of courage to just go out there and do something, because it can be scary, right? And so tell me a little bit about who you are. Who's Iranda?

Speaker 3: 5:54

Where are you from yes, tell me a little bit about who you are Well welcome for inviting me and having me on your podcast. Again, I am from Corpus Christi. I come from a large family of five siblings, so I have, we're very close knit, we're a big family and I have, you know, my three boys, which are grown. Yes, they are the, they're my everything. So it's pretty much, you know, just to talk about, you know, my obstacles is the podcast about and um, I again it's, it's um comes back to like this has been something that I wanted to start a long time ago and I feel like, um, keeping silent or not sharing some of my, my experiences that I have gone through doesn't help, and I want to help other people, other moms that are raising boys, especially in this lifetime.

Speaker 3: 6:57

You know there's been a lot of difficult situations that we faced and I don't again I talk about in my podcast. It's like I don't want to talk about the problems, I want to talk about solutions and overcoming things and, and my podcast is boys, moms overcoming obstacles. So what do we want to do? Is we want, we don't want to sit in them, we want to overcome them, right? So, but yeah, I am, you know, close, my boys are close, you know to this day and they're excited that I started this, because they know that it really does work. And what works is following God and having Him in our life, because without Him, I always tell everybody, we can be more of a mess than what we are right, because we always try to do things ourselves Absolutely, but, yeah, but, thank you so much for having me today.

Speaker 1: 7:53

No, absolutely so. Talk to me a little bit more about your podcast. You know what? What brought on? How did you get into wanting to start your own podcast? What are some of the messages that a listener can start hearing when they listen to your podcast? I mean, what's the full message about? And, yeah, talk to me. How did that all come about?

Speaker 3: 8:18

Yeah. So I guess it's really again goes back to my boys the things that they really or we all went through while I was raising them. So I do talk a lot about past and then present and then future as well. So to this day again, I don't think I would be here without God, because he's the one that helped me through the whole thing I'm talking about, from my son going through his experience. You know my boys going through an experience where they thought they were adults and they were not. They were teenagers and they didn't want. They didn't understand why I had boundaries, why I was that mom that you know. I need to know who your friends, your family, you know your friends are.

Speaker 3: 9:02

So those are things that I want to, you know. Just help moms realize too that you know what I want to elaborate, because when my mom, when I was younger, my mom used to tell me, just wait until they get older wait until they got older.

Speaker 3: 9:18

I said, no, mom, I'm going to raise them and that's it. No, it doesn't end. Parenting continues, oh gosh, yes. So that's why I'm like you know what I was. I've always wanted to write. I've always wanted to, you know, share.

Speaker 3: 9:34

I'm like an open book. Basically, if something was happening that day, you know I call my. You know, of course, my mom and you know my family, my support, and that's another thing. It's really important who you share this information with, because not everybody's going to be there to really support. I'm not talking about, like, financially support, I'm talking about mentally support. And those are the things that I learned was you can't share everything, even though I'm an open book. But the thing is is that you know you do need your support system, you need that guidance, you know that help, and the older people, you know, or the people that have already gone through things. That's really important, because before I'd be like, no, they don't know any better, or or I didn't want to take, you know, everybody's advice. But I learned really quick that I do need a support system, which I'm glad, that my family is very supportive.

Speaker 3: 10:31

But then there's some where it was like, oh, just let them their boys Like. I'm like no, that's one of the main thing is is like boys will not be boys in my household. You, I had to remind them you're my kids when you step out of this door. There's a lot of things out there that you are being exposed to that you need to learn that not everybody's your friend, not everybody's going to be there for you. Learned that not everybody's your friend, not everybody's going to be there for you. And so those are the things that my boys are. You know, now that they're older, they'll tell me like man, mom, I'm so glad that you, you know you were on me about these certain things because, you're right, not everyone's my friend.

Speaker 3: 11:18

I really found out who my true friends were because they were. You know there were people that were being raised by their grandparents. You know they didn't have like, you know that the father. Thankfully, I'm glad I have my husband. He's been with me. But also we had to learn how to you know, pray about everything and agree to be on the same, because when we were like, no, you don't do this, you don't do that, that's a lot of disrespect and you know, me and my husband learned that very quickly as well, too, like we have to be covering them in prayer.

Speaker 3: 11:53

Oh, absolutely, yeah. So those are the things that you know I want to share to everybody else, because it matters, like how you and your spouse are, you know, coming together, and you have to continue having that. You know setting those boundaries. Oh, yeah, absolutely. So, yeah, those are. I mean, those are a few of the things, and there's some other things that you know that I want to talk about. You know, of course, like you know making decisions. You know I tell my boys, you know, like, think about the things that are bringing you, you know, bringing you down or bringing you positive things in your life, because you know, sometimes the boys, they don't think about these things.

Speaker 2: 12:43

You know, they're just like fearless.

Speaker 3: 12:43

You know, sometimes the boys, they don't think about these things, you know, they're just like fearless. You know, boys going out there trying to prove themselves, you know, and you know just my husband, you know, in the beginning, would always tell me like hi, it's okay, leave them, let them be. I'm like, no, it's. Prayer is very important, because I believe that prayer. No-transcript. And what are the ages of your boys? Well, right now, ok, so my oldest is 30. And my middle child is 29. And then I have a 24 year old.

Speaker 1: 13:31

Okay, oh, so your kids are around the ages of mine, because mine is 32. The other one is 26. And then, of course, the youngest one, he's 12, but the older siblings helped me a lot. But I was listening to you and what I was, what I was reminded of, is my boys. Because, you're right, it's very, very difficult and challenging, right, because that mentality, especially in Hispanic households, the mentality is son hombres de jalos, you know they're going to do what they're going to want to do. You know, that's it's okay.

Speaker 1: 14:08

And there was, there's always that double standard between the boys and the girls. And I can and I'm going to be very honest with you because I at times can be that way, because I have two girls. So, aside from having three boys, I have two girls, and so I would notice that double standard, now, two of them. So the two middle kids are 17 months apart, so they were always together, and so that was what was a little bit more helpful for me to kind of like identify that double standard, right, and I do know that, of course, with all my children, you know, I've prayed for all my kids. I've always prayed for them, took them to church, you know, made sure that they were involved in things.

Speaker 1: 14:54

And then I realized that some didn't want to be involved, some didn't, you know, in extracurricular activities. They just wanted to go out and be with friends and stuff. And I was reminded of this scripture that I remember my mom used to share with me, and this is malas asociaciones corruptan. You know buenos caracteres and características, and I was like, yes, it's so true. You know bad association can corrupt good company. You know good character and I would always have to tell my children that you know like you know, and it's always that other saying to the medical can understand it and it's like but just because I hang around certain people doesn't mean that that's who I am. It doesn't matter. What is what it's trying to say? Is that if you're running around these folks, no one's going to know that you're not that person or that you're not like them. Right, they're going to identify you by the friends that you keep.

Speaker 1: 15:51

And so I know that there were times where they thought In their teenage years, especially because they're in that, in that crazy phase Right, where they are young adult. You know they're teenagers becoming young adults, but they're not an adult, but yet they want to make adult decisions. But they really don't know how to handle those adult decisions. And I would tell them I'm like I'm giving you the opportunity to think about it, but let's lay out some options for you, because it can be challenging or you can make a decision that you thought was the right decision and it can give you into a heap of trouble.

Speaker 1: 16:36

And I remember going through that now, not with my oldest son, but with my second son. I remember you know he had to experience going to jail because of who he was with, wrong place at the wrong time, you know, um, and fortunately it was nothing that he couldn't get out of, but it's the fact that you still ended up going to jail, yeah, you know. And it's like, son, I don't want you to have to experience those things, but sometimes we have to realize, as moms, as much as we want to protect them, sometimes we have to let them learn those hard lessons. So what was that like for you, like when you did have to let them learn hard lessons in life?

Speaker 3: 17:26

Well, yeah, so I have a lot of. So my middle child is my. That's the one that has brought me through a lot of different things, my oldest, you know he he's very cautious, but also he's made some, you know, bad decisions. They're all different, right, all the kids are different so you have to learn how to which one to be kind of a little more stern with. And which is definitely my second child.

Speaker 3: 17:51

But I now remember an incident where, yeah, he talking about you know getting locked up. He got locked up and and he was just like, you know, mom, it wasn't me and I said no, you got locked up, you got to start holding, being accountable for your actions. You know, mom, it wasn't me and I said no, you got locked up, you got to start holding, being accountable for your actions. You know, and if you continue doing that, then you know that's the road you're going to go, because it's so easy for the police or anybody they're not going to make excuses or make, you know, say, oh, no, you know, like, this kid is not doing it, but he's standing there right, no, they're going to take everyone. And that's exactly what happened.

Speaker 3: 18:32

It was a group of individuals that were doing things that they shouldn't have. And he was there, an innocent bystander, and I told him. I said, son, I'm just glad that, yeah, we can work this out, you can work this out, but you need to learn from this and don't do it again. Well, that one didn't, that didn't work. So he was no mom, he was like it doesn't matter, mommy, like he had this, like he felt sorry for the kids, and he was just like no, they're good people and I and they're good, you know they're not doing anything wrong. And I was like no, son, you have to understand. Until he finally understood, like, oh, you know, I need to break this off because, even though they're good to me, they're not doing good decisions and that's what I told my son.

Speaker 3: 19:15

I was like you're gonna learn, son, and he had to learn that way. Where he was like you know what, mom, you're right. So he had to break it off and and he goes. Now I understand, you know. Thankfully, he learned you know before I understand you know. Thankfully he learned. You know before it got different.

Speaker 3: 19:29

You know now that he's older, but he had to learn the hard way. But we have to let them learn, we'll get. That's where all my prayers were. You know, I cannot fix this for him. He has to make this decision on his self, and that's where I'm just kind of, you know, with this podcast. That I want to do is it's like you know what mom, sometimes you have to let go and let God, because you know they're going to make these decisions on themselves. You know, yes, you're going to be that mom. So we did have this kind of this thing where I told my boys I said, look, if you're ever in trouble and you know that you just feel that you can't get out you need to call me and I will pick you up and I will not ask you anything. Now, if you want to talk about it, we'll talk about it and, you know, leave it for another day. And so we had this agreement and my middle child was the one that would. He would call me mom, I need for you to pick me up.

Speaker 3: 20:31

And then he, you know he would. Thankfully we talked about it because if he felt like the way, I told him, I said we cannot continue this. You know, this behavior that you're going to think you can do, go over there and live this it's kind of like a double life, right. You're developing this bad habit. And so I told him, I said, son, you're gonna have to be up front and confront those things that you're dealing with, because if you're getting yourself into trouble almost trouble, right, that's gonna get you into more trouble. So, you know, just being there, having that open communication with them, really helped a lot and them knowing that they can come home and be, you know, have a safe place, really helped. Yeah, I don't think like again, if me and my husband were not on the same page, you know, of disagreeing all the time, then it wouldn't, it wouldn't work at all you know, with that, because then they would think they can do whatever they want, you know.

Speaker 1: 21:32

Yeah, and, and you know, I see that it's a struggle, even when it's a two parent household, you know, even though, like I, for a season I was a single mom, just for a short season, but still, nonetheless I was a single mom. And then I met, you know, my, my husband, who I've been married to now going on 17 years, and he's the one that helped me raise from the second son up to the well, the children I have right now, the ones that we have together. And so we were, you know, he and I had to really come together, because when our two middle kids became teenagers, we had to really talk about what we're going to do, because it was almost like they were playing a tag team, you know, one was going to get in trouble, the other one was not. Then, one week, the other one was going to get in trouble, the other one was not. Then one one week, the other one was going to get in trouble and the other one wasn't. And it was like, oh my gosh, you know, and it was a lot of times, of a lot of nights of frustration, of, of crying, of, you know, just not knowing, because at the same, you want to be stern and you want to be fair, but you don't want to raise them the way that.

Speaker 1: 22:55

Well, I would just speak for myself. You know. You know, instead of okay, what's going on? Like, what's causing you what? Why are you doing these things? You know, like what's happening, are you? Is there something that we're not giving you? Are you lacking something? And I know that a lot of times, some family members would kind of like smirk and frown upon how I would do things with my kids and they were like no, you need to do what they did to us.

Speaker 1: 23:35

You know you need to beat them with the belt or you need to do this and you need to do that. And I'm like, okay, and where did that get us? There's a lot of resentment, there's a lot of pain there. There was a lot of uh, anger, unforgiveness, um, and stuff because of that, because no one understood what we were going through. Like you know, many family members didn't know what I was going through, right, and I was. I wasn't rebelling to rebel. I was rebelling because that was my cry for help. So I needed to put myself in a in a situation where, because I did, I was rebelling because that was my cry for help.

Speaker 1: 24:07

So I needed to put myself in a position, in a situation where, because I did, I started off just like any household, because number one, I never raised boys. I was a household where we were all girls, all of it, we were. There was nine granddaughters. The grandson was the last one that came, until years later when the last two granddaughters came, but there were for a long time it was nine granddaughters and one grand. I mean, there was five granddaughters, six granddaughters, one grandson, until the last two came, and so, but still it was nine granddaughters all together and it was like so there was none of the girls.

Speaker 1: 24:49

And then here we are, then I come along and I two boys, back to back, and then I had a cousin who had a son, another cousin who had two sons. So now we're all trying to raise boys and we're like, what in the world are we doing? And so it's almost like that we had to unite forces and like, okay, we are raising boys, now what do we do with them? You know, like we know girls, we know we can talk girl, but boys, like, what do I do? And so when it came to that time of, you know, talking about sex, of talking about who you're hanging around with. You know what challenges are you facing, because even they are facing those challenges as well. If you're not athletic, you're getting bullied. If you're not of a certain color, you're getting bullied.

Speaker 1: 25:41

I mean, it was just like all of these things going on and it was almost like I had one son who could care less what other people thought, and then I had one that cared too much what people thought, you know and it, and there was a second one and it was like why does it matter? Why does it matter what other people think? Like what, what is it, you know? And he wanted to fit in. He wanted to fit in with who they were right, and but the to fit in with who they were right, but the trouble would come.

Speaker 1: 26:08

And so most people assume that drugs and all of that stuff is just from poor, low home family life. No, my kids went to a school district that was a lot of rich kids that went there and they were in it too. The only difference is is that they had vehicles. They had parents that you know were very laid back. You know that would let them in, you know, and they could get out of things Right, and that was a challenge even for him. You know my other son, no, he was very much laid back and he still, for the most part, is. But this child here, he was always my talker and still is, he's always my talker, but he was always the one that would find himself in the middle of things Right. And so I remember a lot of prayer happening. I remember a lot of nights of tears, so much so that I remember I got so frustrated that I had a panic attack, yeah, and it was like, oh my gosh, you know, like how am I going to get through this kid? And so we have to be strategic when it comes to them.

Speaker 1: 27:23

So how was that like for you now? Did you have brothers growing up? Was it See? And I didn't. Now I do have a brother, but he's 17 years younger than I am, and so I didn't, you know, grow up with him. But in my household it was four girls, you know, we were four sisters. And then my brother came later. But I didn't know, I didn't have a clue. I didn't know what it was to have a brother. I had uncles, but it wasn't the same. So how was it, how was that whole like because I know there has to be a difference.

Speaker 3: 27:58

At least you had brothers right, yeah, I did, yeah, so definitely I came from a strict home, you know it was. I have two older brothers and then it was me, my sister, then my three, well, I have two sisters and then my younger brother. So my parents had that like strict with us, more of the girls, and then the boys. Well, they could do whatever they want whenever they wanted to. So you know those things I learned, you know, like I'm not going to have this. And then to my, my upbringing was, even though it was strict, like all the pachangas, all the gatherings were always at my house, so it was like barbecue all the time, you know, at my house.

Speaker 3: 28:40

So I wanted something different, you know, growing up, so I mean, with my, my family. So when I got married, my husband was pretty much the drinker and wanting to do like be married and and basically do what he wanted to do. So we had to learn that. Well, at that time I already knew what I wanted. You know, women are more, girls are more mature. I mean, you know that's what I've always felt like, because I do have my two older brothers, but I felt like I was the one that was the second mother there, you know, so I'd be telling them they'll be doing that. So I didn't raise my brothers thankfully, you know, they were my older brothers, so and then I have my younger sister.

Speaker 3: 29:24

But going into my marriage and raising my boys, I just wanted something different. And those are the things that we talked about and I wish you know that I talked to them. You know, talk to my husband before we got married, but unfortunately we didn't have that, you know, chance, because it was like, you know, like, hey, we're creating this family and now that they're, you know, we have our boys. See, my husband it does come from he's the youngest son, the only son, and then he has three older sisters.

Speaker 3: 30:03

So he knew like, that upbringing so in his mindset was well, he got to do what he wanted to do whenever he wanted to do, and so it was with his. So we had to learn. That's why I talk really I talk about it a lot. It's like we definitely have to be on the same page when it comes to because if not, it's going to create a lot of arguments, which it did, you know, in the beginning, and you know, and then finally, we, I just say what are we doing? What are we doing, we're having a're having a family and and we're just arguing about. You know, it was from like going to church to going to the store, to whatever it case it was.

Speaker 3: 30:40

Always it was just like just trying to see what was best, you know, for our boys you know, because, again, I'm glad we have a supportive family, but at the same time they did have that, you know different mindset of like oh, they're boys, leave them alone, they'll learn. You know, like, no, I was like. I'm sorry, but that's not the way I want. I don't want my boys think that they can, you know, grow up and make these poor decisions.

Speaker 2: 31:11

Just because they're boys, they can do whatever they want.

Speaker 3: 31:12

You know, that's not a good example for them. So it took a while. My husband finally, like said you know what you're right. You know you're right. Let's go ahead and just start praying for them. Let's pray about everything. Let's start praying for our decisions and our covering because, um, we started noticing the difference. You know. You know, when we try to do it, it's like, oh, it's a mess.

Speaker 3: 31:34

But whenever we asked, you know, we put everything in a prayer and um, that really helped because my sons were you, you know when they got it. Well, you know, when I first married my husband, when we got married, we were not church goers, okay. So it wasn't until later, a couple of years later, when we gave our life to Christ. My husband was actually a born again Christian, so he had backslid. So when, when he introduced me to the church, that's when I was like, wow, this is different the way I want my kids to be raised, because I feel like we have some kind of direction and protection and and, um, you know just that, knowing that we're going to be okay, right, because it's like again, it's like from all these different things, and then now it's like, okay, now we're serving God and have building that relationship with, with the Lord, and um, that's when we introduced our kids to go into church and everything. So then it kind of and that's where, that's where we started finding balance on things.

Speaker 3: 32:47

Of course it wasn't easy, you know, it was more challenging, because that's when you start figuring out, like, you know, hey, the enemy really doesn't want us to know this. You know, yeah, there was bickering or whatever the case is throughout the whole thing, but we, we had, we at least we knew like, hey, you know what we knew, there was a solution there. So that's where we put our faith in and that's where our faith was building up. And now time has gone through, it's like I can now tell it. You know, tell another mom, you know when we try to do it, when we try to figure these things out or try to fix these things. Um, you know, tell another mom, you know, when we try to do it, when we try to figure these things out or try to fix these things, you know it's more difficult.

Speaker 3: 33:32

We try so much. And this is where I feel, like you know, self-care matters. You know, like you know, God rested on this, Jesus rested on the seventh day. There's a reason for that, there is a reason. So you know, we have to have those boundaries and those, you know, that balance, because if not, then we don't have that peace when, when, there's so much chaos going on.

Speaker 1: 33:59

Absolutely so. Now you went from, so you ended up hiring a podcast coach. Y'all started going through the whole process. So shout out to Micaela Alva, who is the founder of Dear Fearless Mujer, or Fearless Mujeres, actually, and she is also the author of Dear Fearless Mujer as well as the podcaster of Fearless Mujer, and she also is a podcast coach. She was my coach and it was so good to know that she was your coach as well, and she's just awesome. I just love her and you know she does help you. Try to find your voice to get you to share your story. Find your voice to get you to share your story. But not only did you start your own podcast, but you also were a contributing author to a book. Is that correct?

Speaker 3: 35:03

Yes, it is, because, oh my gosh, I'm so excited about that. It's still in the works right now I think they're finishing on the edits, so it's a chapter in the book, so it's to encourage other moms.

Speaker 1: 35:11

Yes, and so I was so excited for you about that. So now you're also a co-author, you're an author as well, and so you're going to be a soon to be published author because you have collaborated and contributed to this book, and so we're so excited for that next journey for you. So what's the name of the book? Do you know yet?

Speaker 3: 35:31

Yeah. So let me pull it up real quick before. Let's see it is called the Hearts of a Mother. It's about 13 moms that came together and then each one of us have a chapter in the book that is amazing.

Speaker 1: 35:48

That is awesome. Oh, I can't wait to grab a hold of it, yes, and so I was approached for that and I was like, oh gosh, I can't right now, you know, but I'm so glad that you were able to collaborate with them and to be a part of that. Now I can't wait to read it because I know it's going to be amazing and I think it's something that we all need right. We need to be encouraged by other moms, by other women, and just like this. You know this podcast too. You know this podcast is all about empowering women.

Speaker 1: 36:19

You know, no matter in what walk of life you are in, we all have our own challenges. We all have things that we face. We all have adversities, you know, because it's not easy being a mom to boys, it's not easy raising boys and not to say that it's easy raising girls either. But when you're a mom trying to raise a boy, you're trying to pour into them all of those godlike qualities that we can right. But we know that we need the fathers. The fathers also need to be involved, and one of the things that I was listening to you and you said, no, not in my house, and that was, you know, I even told my kid, you know, my, even my boys they had to sweep, they had to do laundry, they had to wash dishes. I mean, just because you were a boy doesn't mean that you weren't going to do these things. You were going to do them too, because I don't want you to feel like you're going to have to depend, or that you can't do it, or that you're going to get in a relationship and expect the woman to do those things. You know, no, you're going to be her helper. I want you to be. Whenever you get into a relationship or whenever you get married. I want you to be her helper. I want you to be whenever you get into a relationship or whenever you get married. I want you to be your wife's helper as well, like I want you to stand by her and say, hey, honey, what is it that you need me to do? I'll do it, you know, and vice versa, right, and that there should be that ground where they're both walking it together and not, you know, oh, because I'm the man I'm going to tell you what to do, type of thing.

Speaker 1: 37:52

And the thing about it is is that, you know, my boys witnessed the domestic abuse. You know, even though I thought they didn't, but at some point they had. And I did not want my boys to grow up thinking that that's the way you treated women, because it's not. You know that's not the way you treat women. You have to treat them with love, with honor and respect. You know that because that's what the Bible says. You know we are to honor and be submissive to our husbands, but our husbands also have to treat us just like Christ treats the church with care. That's just like Christ treats the church with care. You are the head, so you're going to have to lead. God is going to lead the man, the man is going to lead. And it's so funny or it's crazy actually, because it was statistically I was reading somewhere and it says that when the man, or the husband, the father, goes to church, all will follow.

Speaker 1: 38:46

It's not about mom, you know mom's going to mom will follow. It's not about mom. Mom does it and usually it's the women who take the lead. But it's something when the man puts himself in the position where he goes to church and wife is there to support that the children will then follow. And I say that to say because even now in our household I was the one that was always just going to church. Now my husband went, but it wasn't. He wasn't really into it at the time. And then, just in the last six, eight months now going on a year really I started going to this one church and it was just like God was putting all the people in place and stuff, and so then my husband ended up going to this church. He really loved it, enjoyed it so much so that now we go, you know, every Sunday, and if we don't go on a Sunday then it's on a Thursday, whatever it is. But my husband always wants to be at the church and because of that our daughter gets baptized. Then our youngest son and my husband got baptized together and then now my oldest daughter is like coming back to church, you know, and now the boys are like wait a minute, what's happening, you know, and they've even gone to support. So it's it's just like when they take that leadership role and it's really instructing them to take that leadership role or to step into that call that God has for them, then they're going to. When they follow it, others will follow too. Your family's going to follow, right, because they're going to have that respect and love for you, because that's how, that's what we have for God and that's really what it's it's all about and then so sometimes, when we don't have that support from our spouses or that's not happening, then it can be very, very hard for us moms. Yeah, it can be really, really, really hard for us.

Speaker 1: 40:35

Well, iranda, thank you so much for joining me today on the podcast. It was so great to get to know you, to meet you. I can't wait to read the book. I've been listening to your podcast. I got to hear the. I think you have two episodes right now, or is it three? Three, okay, because I've heard the first two already and I think it's just wonderful. You know, continue to do that, because you really don't know who you're going to inspire or who needs to hear that Right. So I mean, guys, if you are listening today, I do hope that you share this episode. I do, you know, like share. You know, leave us a review, let us know what you think and what you want to hear, and if anything in today's episode resonated with you, you know, let us know that I'm sure Iranda would love to hear what has resonated with you, hear what has resonated with you, and then I do encourage you to listen to her podcast, which is called Boy Moms Overcoming Obstacles.

Speaker 1: 41:33

Boy Moms Overcoming Obstacles, and then also the book that's going to be coming out. Do you have a date yet when that book's going to be coming out or no, not yet?

Speaker 3: 41:44

It's going to be around June.

Speaker 1: 41:46

Around June.

Speaker 3: 41:46

Middle June or the end of June, oh so very soon.

Speaker 1: 41:50

So it's coming out very soon, okay, wonderful. So I can't wait to get a hold of that, and then we'll also have it in the show notes so that others can be on the lookout for it as well, and I'll also put a link to your podcast in there. Is there any last things that you would like to share with our amiga listening today?

Speaker 3: 42:10

The last thing I would like to share is just basically, again just a reminder of like, if you're going through the chaos right now or you're going through something really like a hardship, it's just hold on to that faith. Things will come to pass and it's always in the Lord's timing. But remain faithful and be still. That I think being still at some moments is the perfect timing to just be still in the Lord and those things will come to pass. Still in the Lord, and those things will come to pass. So I hope you, you know, just remained still and just be in prayer and look out for your community, be with your community as well, because that's going to be the biggest support right there.

Speaker 1: 43:04

Amen, amen. Well, with that, as on our show, what we do is we like to end in prayer, so I'm going to go ahead and end us in prayer. So, father God, we just thank you for the amiga that has joined us today. We thank you for Riranda and for allowing her to share with us a little bit about who she is, her life, father God, and what you have currently called her, what role you've called her into, father God, what you have currently called her, what role you've called her into, father God. We know that you have created the purpose of her to be a mother of three sons, father God, and to raise up her sons, lord, to be strong men of faith, father God, and so we're just going to pray that, father God, that you lead them in those directions.

Speaker 1: 43:43

Father God and Father, I lift up the Amiga that's listening today, father God, that if she's going through some difficult challenges right now, father God and Father, I lift up, you know, the Amiga that's listening today, father God, that if she's going through some difficult challenges right now, father God, maybe she's a boy mom, or maybe she has a brother, a young brother, or maybe she has a family member that has a son that's going through some hardships, father God, then we lift them up to you, father God, we pray for our sons. We pray for them, father God, to be strong, godly men. Father God, for our sons. We pray for them, father God, to be strong, godly men. Father God, to be the one to lead their household, father God. And when they grow up and become husbands, father God, we pray that they love on their wife and children, just as you, father God, love the church.

Speaker 1: 44:20

Father, and we're just so amazed by all that you're doing in the life of Iranda and her family, father God, and we just pray blessings over her podcast, father God, and we just pray blessings over her podcast, father God, and we just can't wait for her book to come out. Father God, we just thank you for all those wonderful blessings. And to our amiga that's listening, father God, I pray for her as well. We lift her up to you, father God. Whatever challenges or adversity she may be facing, father God, may you be in the forefront of her prayers. Father God, coming to you. Father God, may you be in the forefront of her prayers, father God, coming to you, father God, seeking your guidance, and it's in Jesus name that we pray Amen. Well, thank you so much, iranda, for coming on and, like I said, I cannot wait to continue to listen to your podcast and read your book.

Speaker 2: 45:07

Thank you for tuning in to the Mommy on a Mission podcast. If you found today's episode inspiring, don't forget to subscribe, leave a review and share it with your amigos. And, before you go, if you're looking to dive deeper into healing, self-discovery and walking in confidence, be sure to grab a copy of my book Mommy on a Mission a guide towards healing, self-discovery and walking in confidence, available now on Amazon. Stay connected with me on social media. Follow us on Instagram at Mommy on a Mission Podcast, and on Facebook at Mommy on a Mission. If you're considering working with a coach but aren't sure if you're ready, send me a DM and I will send you a free gift to help you get started on your journey. Until next Saturday, keep shining and remember the power is within you. Adios, amigas.