Ever found yourself stretched thinner than your favorite pair of pre-shrunk jeans? That's the tightrope walk of setting boundaries for me, Charlie Shanta, and it's something we all wrestle with from time to time. Inside this heart-to-heart, I'm stripping back the layers on why it's crucial to establish limits that keep us humming along happily. From personal anecdotes about learning to say "no" without causing a scene to the challenges of maintaining privacy in a world addicted to oversharing, I'm laying it all out there for a conversation that's as real as it gets.
Now, let's chew on the tough stuff – like those manipulative moves that can sneak into our relationships, and the juggling act of being both caring and self-preserving. I'm digging into the meat of what it means to stay true to ourselves, without ending up on an express train to Burnout City. Plus, I'm mixing in some lighter fare with tales of my kids redefining personal space and the love-hate relationship we have with self-checkouts. Trust me, it's a rollercoaster of laughs and face-palms that'll leave you nodding along.
To tie a bow on our chat, I take a cue from Coleman Lane's "Keep My Cool" and reflect on the harmony found in holding our ground with a dose of cool composure. So, thanks for letting me be the voice in your earbuds, sharing tales and tips on finding that sweet spot between personal freedom and being there for others. Remember to leave that review, hit share, and I can't wait to hear from you after you've had a listen. Keep those boundaries in check, but most of all, keep your cool, my friends.
Ever found yourself stretched thinner than your favorite pair of pre-shrunk jeans? That's the tightrope walk of setting boundaries for me, Charlie Shanta, and it's something we all wrestle with from time to time. Inside this heart-to-heart, I'm stripping back the layers on why it's crucial to establish limits that keep us humming along happily. From personal anecdotes about learning to say "no" without causing a scene to the challenges of maintaining privacy in a world addicted to oversharing, I'm laying it all out there for a conversation that's as real as it gets.
Now, let's chew on the tough stuff – like those manipulative moves that can sneak into our relationships, and the juggling act of being both caring and self-preserving. I'm digging into the meat of what it means to stay true to ourselves, without ending up on an express train to Burnout City. Plus, I'm mixing in some lighter fare with tales of my kids redefining personal space and the love-hate relationship we have with self-checkouts. Trust me, it's a rollercoaster of laughs and face-palms that'll leave you nodding along.
To tie a bow on our chat, I take a cue from Coleman Lane's "Keep My Cool" and reflect on the harmony found in holding our ground with a dose of cool composure. So, thanks for letting me be the voice in your earbuds, sharing tales and tips on finding that sweet spot between personal freedom and being there for others. Remember to leave that review, hit share, and I can't wait to hear from you after you've had a listen. Keep those boundaries in check, but most of all, keep your cool, my friends.
Welcome back to the gag is podcast. I am your girl, charlie shantay. Thank you for joining me. Thank you for coming back for another week. I greatly appreciate it.
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Oh man, I got on special today because I know why because it's chilly in Florida, florida's trying to participate in winter and I'm really. I was okay, like the first few times, but now it's getting a little extreme. But I'm not going to complain because, like we suffered tremendously last summer and I did some, I want, I want to smoke this summer. Okay, florida, I don't want to smoke this summer. But thank you all for coming back. Like how you're doing? Yeah, good, I'm good, things are going good. Yeah, see, I'm back in my chair. I didn't go to the bed, I'm feeling better, but I think I like this chair, though like this chair is like chairing, like it's comfy, I can stretch my legs out, like the chair is chairing. So, yeah, the chair is chairing. And then you probably noticed something else too. I'm recording in a day, because I was going to record last night but I wasn't feeling too good, like had a little tummy, tummy troubles, but it's all right, we good now.
Speaker 1:
And, to be honest with you, so y'all may start getting some quote unquote daytime episodes instead of nighttime episodes, or I'll switch it up. Yeah, I know it's whatever, but let's go ahead and jump into today. So I'm gonna start off on a read, a review. Yeah, I know y'all gotta leave these reviews. You can leave it on YouTube or you can leave it on your wherever you listen to your podcast at Apple. If you don't want to leave it out in the public, you can always leave it on my Instagram or the shows Instagram and I can read it. Like that, you can remain anonymous and remember, when you are leaving a review on a podcasting platform, please make sure that you rate it and it'll give you a girl five stars. Okay, let me know that you liked it and then also share it with somebody because, yeah, why would you not? Don't be gatekeeping. So this review is from the last episode about New Year's New Year revamps not so much New Year's resolution, but New Year's revamp. And I told y'all, leave me what y'all doing for the new year. Like, are you fixing something different? Like, are you changing some things? Like, tell me what you're doing. So this review says happy New Year.
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My resolutions are an opportunity to reset and reevaluate. My main one this year is to reconnect with family near and far. I like that and that's that's something I talked about on the last episode as well. Reconnecting and just strengthening bonds my family. My goal is at least four audio books, listen and read at the same time. I want to get back into reading again this year, like I have a whole bookcase full of books that I started to read or I want to read. So I need to do that too.
Speaker 1:
Keep in mind this is a leap year. What am I going to do with it? What am I going to do with my extra day? Probably, hmm, I don't know. I'll let y'all know when, when that leap day episode drop, I figure out what I'm going to do, like, are you supposed to do something special or what are you supposed to do? I don't know, it's another day. I don't even know what day it fought. What day do we even follow? Because that might be a good indication of what I'm going to do. I'm going to see. Maybe if they have like leap year activities. It falls on a Thursday. Hmm, I don't know. I forgot what I'm going to do, but any who let's go ahead and jump into today's episode.
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Today's episode is about boundaries. We got to talk about these boundaries, got to and I'm probably going to say some things. That's going to ruffle a few feathers, but that's OK, because I was always told a hit dog will holler. Take that how you want to. So boundaries like what is a boundary and why do we need them a boundary is like a stop sign. It's like a pause, hold up, wait a minute. You ain't going to do that. We need them because, if not, people will take advantage of you like little medium people will take advantage of you and you need boundaries.
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In my opinion, I feel like you need boundaries for comfort, because if you just let people do anything, treat you any kind of way is going to lead to upset, heartache and long term anger, things that we already don't need know in our lives. So that's kind of what to me. That's kind of like what a boundary is Me? I ain't going to lie to you.
Speaker 1:
I recently when I say recently, I'll say over the last few years have really stood fast on my boundaries. I would set boundaries, but the type of person I'm a sad so the type of person that I am, I would be like, ok, I have this boundary, but you know my heart, my heart is so big that I would just let it. I let stuff slide. And then, you know, once I let it slide, once I start letting it slide again and again, and again, and then they got to the point where I had built up anger and I just exploded. I just exploded. I feel like I didn't have the tools to deal with it. I didn't have the correct.
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What is a boundary? How do you deal with boundaries? How do you set boundaries? And I think a lot of people don't have that knowledge, or either they're afraid to set boundaries because of what may happen. Yes, I'm afraid to say I was afraid to set some boundaries because I was like I don't want to lose this person or I don't want people to think differently of me. But I had to realize if I'm not going to set these boundaries and I'm not going to respect me, how can I expect somebody else to respect me in my comfort, in my surroundings? Right, so it can be used for anybody in these type of relationship parents, kids, co-workers, friends definitely friends, and I feel like I need to.
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I feel like I think I'm probably going to dedicate an entire episode to boundaries with friends, because what I've been seeing online over the last few years. I need to set some boundaries with y'all friends, like real talk, because y'all friends is out of line and y'all friends are been putting y'all in positions and situations that shouldn't you shouldn't even be in, should not be in, and then y'all keep these people around. Why, why, like? We're going to get to that in another episode. But there's two different types of boundaries, of course healthy and unhealthy. We all know that unhealthy boundaries are greater than healthy boundaries and that's just the way it is. Like I said, you don't want to upset people. You don't want to. You know, you don't want nobody to feel a different kind of way about you, so you don't really set the boundaries and then the boundaries become unhealthy.
Speaker 1:
So some examples of healthy boundaries are being able to say no in accepting a no from somebody. Omg, this is. I didn't know that that was a healthy boundary because I did not know how to say no and I definitely, as a sadge, don't accept a word. No, I'm working, I'm working on that. I'm working on that. Don't judge me, I'm working on that. But being able to say no if you don't have a capacity say no, or when someone else doesn't have the capacity be accepting of their no, not no. Why no is a response, no is an explanation. Okay, if somebody tells you no, except no for what it is, no needs no explanation. No needs no explanation, but no needs no explanation. Being able to speak your needs in one. This is another one that I suffer big with, as being a widow and also being a mom and a friend, but more so being a mom and being a widow.
Speaker 1:
So let me say this this episode is very broad with the boundaries. I, when I was putting this episode together, I was researching and putting out my template and everything, and I discovered that the, the, the topic of boundaries is very general, and so once I started breaking it down, I was like man, I'm gonna need a few episodes to get this point across, because if I were to take boundaries healthy, unhealthy, break all of this stuff down with the different groups, it would probably be like a two to three hour episode. So I figure I'll break this down into a couple episodes so that I don't me personally, I don't want to feel rushed when I'm providing information or I'm speaking on something. So you will see a couple of episodes about boundaries with parents, friends, the kids and these are all from my perspective, so they may. They may apply to you. They may not apply to you. However, it's always good to listen and if you feel like any of this information can help someone in your circle, feel free to share it with them. Send them to the YouTube page, tell them to follow me on Instagram, tell them to listen on their favorite podcasting app, because everybody's on a go so you can listen. You don't necessarily got to watch, so I haven't decided how many episodes I'm gonna dedicate to it, but be on a lookout for it. It'll probably come after this episode for a few, or may mix it up from time to time. I don't want to overwhelm y'all, you know.
Speaker 1:
And then also, another healthy boundary is being flexible without compromising you. We oftentimes bend and we do things for other people. However, we do them out of. You know our compassion for another person, but sometimes we end up doing things and that's not really. You're not happy. You did it because somebody asked you, but deep down inside, you know that that does not align with who you are as a person and what you do and what you believe. And so we got a. We got to put a halt, a break, a boundary on it so that you're not feeling out of place and you're not feeling uncomfortable, unhealthy boundaries.
Speaker 1:
Now, this list could have been a hundred things, but I summed it up to the ones that I feel should be honed in on the most. The number one one that I feel like is number one is oversharing a personal information. Now, social media has allowed us to connect with people near and far. Sometimes people put too much information on social media and they put the information on social media and I often look and go why would you put something like that on social media? I seen a conversation on a page the other day and they were talking about how somebody gave somebody a STI. Why do you feel the need to put out somebody else's personal information and why why would you do that? So like, not only so, like you're showing that you're not a trusted friend, but you're putting somebody else's personal information out there. We, as a worldwide, we could have done, we could have gone without knowing that that person had a STI and who they got it from. Like that's way over sharing. We don't need to share every moment of our lives. You can share fun moments. You can share happy moments about your kids. You can share stuff like that. But like putting somebody's personal, business and information out there, like, why would you do that? Like that's just way too over sharing.
Speaker 1:
Another unhealthy thing is being manipulative, and the new word that we got out there is narcissists. It's not really a new word, but people are just throwing it around like it's a basketball being manipulative. Why? Why would you want to manipulate somebody? Like, if you like, if, why are you going in with bad intentions? Already I cannot stand manipulative people. I cannot.
Speaker 1:
I'm gonna be straightforward with you, straight up and down with you, so that you can understand where I'm coming from. If I have to think of something to tell you in order for you to do something, I probably shouldn't be asking you to do it and I probably shouldn't be doing it. You know, if I tell you to ride to the bank with me, but can you. Or actually, if I tell you I need to go to the bank but can you drive, but I know I'm going to rob the bank, why would I do that? And then now I don't put you in something, now you an accomplice to a bank robbery and you'd get it. You, in essence, the getaway driver. You know, instead of, hey, I need to go to the bank, can you take me to the bank? I need to take care of some business, but you know my foot is broke and I can't really, you know, I can't really handle it. Be upfront with your intentions. Now. Y'all might got some friends that be like. You know, if you ride the bank I'd be the getaway driver. You know, that's, that's how friends you got.
Speaker 1:
Didn't mess you. Do you, boo, do you? But don't why be manipulative to people. That's, that's sad, because if somebody was to do it to you, you wouldn't like it. So don't do stuff. Don't manipulate people. Don't do stuff to people that you don't want people to do to you and then be. This is a big one that I've seen. Don't let unhealthy boundaries become abusive, either verbally or physically. Don't let them become harmful to where you want to harm someone or you want to harm yourself.
Speaker 1:
So make sure you know when. Sometimes you got to know when to say when you know. I think a lot of times we just keep going and we just we don't know when to say when. You know, we got to learn when to say when and I've had to learn when to say when I, man, I had to set a boundary last year. That was so hard. I talked about it on one of my previous episodes I think I have to see what episode it was but I had to create a boundary to boundaries actually, and that was that. Those boundaries was the hardest things that I think I've ever had to do, because it didn't only affect me, it affected someone else and then it affected the people involved. But I had to. What they say now I had to stand on business and I'm still standing on business, but that it was hard, it was real hard, but I'm here and I'm still standing, standing on business. And so let's talk about why you should set boundaries To avoid burnout, because if you're always a yes person or a yes woman, you're going to get tired and then you don't have energy and time for yourself.
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And if you don't have energy and time for yourself, how can you be there for someone else? Just doesn't. It doesn't work like that. And then you got to set boundaries because you got to have balance. You can't always give, give, give, give, give. You know, because if you're constantly given, you're taken away. It's like if you start with $1,000 in the bank, but you constantly give, give, give, give, give. Eventually you're not going to have none because guess what You're not putting nothing back in. You got to know when to be able to help somebody and you also got to be able to know when to help yourself. You got to have the balance. I'm still learning balance. Luckily, I got people around me that understand and they know me and they love me for me, and they understand that I ain't perfect and they understand that I'm learning. I am learning and if you listen to the last episode, I still ain't started therapy yet. I'm going to get there. I'm going to get there.
Speaker 1:
So there's different types of boundaries that you can you know you can partake in. So we got physical boundaries, and so an example of this would be letting someone know that you're uncomfortable with them touching you, whether it's a hug or anything like that. Me, I don't like to be touched. I don't like to be touched, especially by a stranger. People are like, oh, hey, how you doing? Hey, I don't like shake hands, I barely like fist bump, don't touch me, do not touch me. I hate when I go somewhere and they try to throw their arm around you. I'm like, hey, do not touch me or don't just hey, don't, don't touch me, do not touch me. That is the ultimate pet peeve. I have PTSD. You touch me, I may swing on you. Just as simple as that. So you've been warned.
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Emotionally emotional boundaries, and I think this is a big, big one, that everybody emotional boundaries. So an example of this would be telling your partner not to discuss the intimate details of your relationship, whether that be you know sexually, which I do in the bedroom, or if you have had an argument or something like that. You got to set that boundary because when boundaries are put down and boundaries are crossed, it can make for some troubled waters. You know, nobody want to trouble the water. Okay, sound like a slave, nobody want to trouble the waters. So asking your partner not to share like intimate details about what y'all be doing in the bedroom or if y'all have had any arguments or anything like that.
Speaker 1:
Another boundary a time or behavioral boundary. This flows with, like new years, time management and behavioral. So an example of this would be not answering emails outside of work. I do not have work stuff on my phone. I did for a minute but then I found myself like oh, I got email, let me reply no, I took it off my phone like zoom messages from work. I'm like, no, I ain't going to do this. And so I had to make it a habit. It'll wait, because if it was not me, like what would you do if you couldn't contact me? That's the way I look at it. In your emergency, not her emergency, okay, sure, I ain't. I had to set that boundary for work and then also time.
Speaker 1:
Respect somebody else's time, because if you're supposed to meet somebody there at a certain place say y'all going to brunch or something, and you're late, you're not respecting their time boundary. And if you're constantly late, you really ain't respecting my time better. And you can't hit me with a okay, you know I am, you know I'll be like okay, well, I'm just gonna stop asking you to come to breakfast or brunch because I don't got time to be waiting on you. If you, if we set a time, like if you five or 10 minutes late, that's fine. But when you start getting to the 30, 45 minutes, that means when, like you knew we were supposed to be there and you just took your sweet time or at least have the the respect to say, hey, I'm running a little bit late. You know, can we push it back a little bit? That's better than showing up late. That's way better than than than showing up late because that's rude and disrespectful. Some of the boundaries oh goodness, mm-hmm, y'all might start fighting me. Oh, I might get some nasty comments for this, but I hit the hollow.
Speaker 1:
Partners a way to set the tone which are partners, and again these this is just a brief overview. They're going to be more in depth conversations about these topics. So you know, like I said, there's just a general overview with your partner, set the tone for the conversations. One thing don't come at me and be loud, because if you come at me and be loud, one or two things are going to happen I'm going to get loud back with you or I'm just going to shut down altogether. So go in with a nice mellow tone. Don't go in there being aggressive, just nice slight welcoming tone.
Speaker 1:
Now, I'm from the country, from Little Old Town in Oklahoma. Sometimes I talk loud. I've had to work on that as an adult because I'm from the country and we talk loud. We talk loud and I can't help it, like when I record these episodes and then I go back and I listen to them. I'm like man, I am so loud so I have to do an audio adjust. That's just how it is. It's just how it is. I'm just country and loud.
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Avoid you statements, we, I'm guilty of this, guilty of this. You have a conversation with your partner and y'all are trying to work through some of this, and then it's like well, you did, you said so, now we victim, we victim, shame you, automatically victim Because you, you, you, we, because ain't we in this argument together, like, ain't both of us disagreeing? So it's we, it's not just you, because nine times out of 10, you said something, or I said something and the other person reacted. That's what disagreement is. And so how do we healthily, healthily, healthily, how do we healthily have a discussion to come to a happy medium, because nobody's going to be right? Where's the happy medium in that? And then pay attention to your partner in a moment.
Speaker 1:
One thing I do when I go on dates or I'm hanging out with somebody, I try not to be on my phone Like I'm. I'm trying not to search social media, I'm trying not to answer text messages and things like that. If I know I'm going to be hanging out with somebody, I'm going to be like, hey, I'm about to do this, blah, blah, blah, so I might not text right back if you text me or whatever, but give that person the time and the respect, like pay attention to them. And when? Just pay attention to them, because nothing feels better to a person than when you pay attention to them. Because if I'm out with somebody but I'm like, oh, I'm okay, and I'm scrolling and I'm looking at the $511 billion means that Nikki doesn't send me on on social media. I'm not paying attention to you. I'm more tuned into what Nikki doesn't send me compared to me giving you my undivided attention.
Speaker 1:
Like that is a big pet peeve of mine, which your friends. Treat your friends the way you want to be treated. I'm just going to leave it at that. Treat people the way you want to be treated and if you okay with being mistreated, you don't need no friends, because I nobody got time for that. We're going to get into that in different episode.
Speaker 1:
Don't, don't be out here treating people like that and then talking about some. The Lord going to bless me. No, he, you and the Lord know how you treating people and no, that's not how you treat people. And then you wonder why? Shit don't go your way. Look, I treat people. You try to you nasty to people in public and private, but then be trying to snicker and grin in public. Don't do that. Keep that same energy, private and public. Don't go speak on. If you want to be cool with somebody, let them know. Like, how do we let them know a? You know we cool. We cool from a distance ain't no hate, ain't no love loss, you know. But you, I just don't think you fit to where I'm going or the person that I am, you know, and I don't want to surround myself myself with someone who doesn't, whose beliefs are not very similar to mine. That just as simple as that.
Speaker 1:
Communicating with people can, can help 9096% of problems and issues that people have in friendships. Me and my friends, we have a very good understanding. Me, tiffany, me, tiffany, tarvis and Nikki we have a very good understanding. None of them operate the same, but we know how each other operates within our relationship. Again, I'm gonna get into that net friends episode because I'm thinking I think I want to have, I think I want to have all of them on an episode, because that would be a really good episode because each one of them have known me for a different period of time, with Tarvis knowing me the longest. Yeah, tarvis has known me almost almost 20 years. So, and then Nikki has known me for almost 10 years. So the the close friends that I've had, I'm known between 10 and 20 years, you know. So we're gonna get into that.
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Parents I have boundaries with my parents. I have respectable boundaries with my parents, love my mom and daddy to death. They don't joke us so hard headed. Oh, my goodness, I love you, my me and daddy, but my parents are hard headed. Jesus, I guess that's where I get it from. Yeah, that's probably where I get that from Kids. This gonna be a whole episode cuz these kids test my gangster especially. New face, new face, new face. I love that boy to death. But that boy right there, that boy's birth control, that boys birth control, because that's all I can say for him. Marco Polo I Got boundaries for Marco Polo too, but his boundaries are very different Because in essence, we kind of grew up together. So I, we both learning boundaries, like we both learning boundaries, like remember I had him when I was 14. So we both learning boundaries, and it's a little difficult, a little hard, but we both learning boundaries. So that's good.
Speaker 1:
But, like I said, with with children and friends, that's gonna be a episode, a totally different episode, because I feel like there's so much more Within those realms that we can discuss, and All of it's my opinion. I do do the research just to see you know what other avenues are out there when it comes to boundaries and Stuff like this. Because everybody got boundary issues with their parents. Can't nobody sit here and say that they tried to use the bathroom and they child coming up in there or standing by the door. We can all 1000, a million percent agree on that. Mommy, mommy, I just want to. I just want a shit in peace. That's it. That's it. It has gotten bad to the point. Sometimes like like new face was little, he would scribble notes and slide them under the door.
Speaker 1:
For another episode, be a boy mom. They said, yeah, it's ghetto and it ain't for the faint of heart. Okay, y'all girl that y'all probably got a bad too with boy mom. Boy mom is. So let's come back in. Maybe we gonna bring it back in, but yeah. So in a nutshell, that's boundaries, that's boundaries, so let's go ahead and get into. Are you can't make this up? So this is one I find is so very funny.
Speaker 1:
Right, because we've all used a self-checkout and Me and my dad were having a conversation and we both agree that self-checkouts are good and bad. You know, if you got a couple, if you got less than 10 items, it's pretty good. You know you can come, be, be, be and you can go. However, we, when they started coming about after you know real heavy during covid, we were like this is gonna be a problem because one is gonna eliminate jobs and two, theft gonna go up. Well, would you know that's doubled. And actually some stores are getting ready to get rid of self-checkout because they losing too much money which in turn causes prices to be higher. Well, you know a correlation. So some grocery stores are moving away from self-checkout. They were introduced as a way to reduce labor costs and stores.
Speaker 1:
Like I said, if somebody got one or two items, somebody coming to pick up something real quick, some toilet paper, something like that after work, I'm all in a greenest for it. But y'all trying to bring up 65 inch TVs for the same prices of banana, y'all know y'all cannot do that. This TV cost $1,800, but you ringing it up for $1.89, you don't think nobody gonna say, hmm, how heavily discounted, like $1.89, don't even cover the tax on that TV, especially in in Florida taxes, I think in in Hillsborough County is like 8.25%, 18, 1899. That's what, almost $20 in taxes. But you about to get this TV for $1.89. What kind of super drug sale is this? See, when I start getting funny, my accent comes out so bad, excuse me, excuse me.
Speaker 1:
Okay, and at one point it was thought that it would take over the store industry Because they thought it was gonna get rid of humans. You wouldn't get rid of no humans. 40% of individuals prefer that. They, they prefer self-checkout. And, yeah, like the self-checkout lines be longer than the actual regular lines. So I don't start dipping back into the regular lines because it give me a chance to talk to the people. Hey, how you doing, how you day going, and you know if you have an issue or something they can correct it right there.
Speaker 1:
Versus self-checkout. You got to wait for somebody, the little Help thing. You got to wait for somebody to come and help you out and they may be helping somebody else so you may have to wait. So you know, is that that really takes up time to. Self-checkout is creating, creating that cause in the millions. That's why what are y'all stealing? What are y'all stealing Like? Y'all are not stealing. What are y'all stealing? What are y'all stealing? I need to know what are y'all stealing. I need to know what are y'all stealing. 15? This is crazy. This is crazy right here.
Speaker 1:
15% of Americans have admitted to stealing in the average of $60 worth of items at the self-checkout. What? What are y'all stealing? Are y'all stealing food? Are y'all stealing clothes Like? What are y'all stealing Like did you?
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And then people can easily say oh, I just forgot it was in the basket. It was on the bottom, I didn't see it. There's prompts that ask you have you scanned everything in your basket? Make sure you check under the basket so you can't sit here and tell me that you forgot the stuff in your basket. No, it don't work like that. The rate of loss has doubled due to self-checkout.
Speaker 1:
I feel like I see people steal. I'll be like they stealing. I don't work here, though, so I just pray, because what would you steal in food If you ain't got it? You ain't got it, but to the point where you gotta steal and then make everything else go up. People don't understand that when people steal, it makes the cost of stuff go up because companies have to recoup that money. But y'all don't know that some y'all act like y'all don't know that. So more stories are going back to traditional cash use to reduce the amount of that. Now y'all gotta go stand back in line because y'all don't know how to not steal. So now y'all gotta go back in line and let Miss Judy, bless her heart, bring y'all up just as slow as she want to. Y'all did that. Nobody told y'all do that. Nobody told y'all.
Speaker 1:
Go in there and steal. I stole. I was a little. Yeah, they used to have these little paper horoscopes at the self-checkout not to self-check out any house. So check out the 90s like that child, that is, like these little horoscopes rolled up and they had them in this like little thing above the candy, and I was like, oh, okay. And I was like, oh, I'm a Sagittarius, I want to get one of these. So I got it, I enrolled it and then to walk out of the store where I know I was doing the thing we're probably about 39 cent. I know I was stealing, so that's my steal story.
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I got another one, but I ain't gonna tell y'all about it. Or do I want to tell y'all about it, mmm. Nah, I'll tell y'all about it in private. So pay attention, cuz I don't. I haven't decided what platform I'm gonna do, like behind the scenes stories on. Probably gonna be on patreon, we'll see. I had to. I had to do that because sometimes when I do episodes I do have stories that correlate with it, but it ain't for everybody. But uh, yeah, so stop selling from the story, all cuz y'all making everything. Go up and just stop, please. I'm begging you, please, please, please. Earrings, stab me. All right, so let's go ahead and wrap this up.
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Y'all know I like to do my lyric of the week. So this week, since we talk about boundaries, my lyric of the week is coming from a gentleman named Coleman Lane and the song is called keep my cool, because when we trying to establish these boundaries, we gotta learn how to keep our cool. Can't get upset, gotta stand on business. All right, come to the end of the show. Thank y'all for rocking with me for another week and remember, if you have not already, go ahead and leave a review, five stars. Go ahead and share. It don't cost nothing to share. Sharing is free. 99. Make sure you listen to this when you listen to it, make sure you download it. Also, make sure you go and check out the video on YouTube all right till next week, la ya.