When Your Kid Leaves You Hanging: A Mother's Day Special

Charlie shares a heartfelt and unfiltered Mother's Day episode after her son's brief attempt to take over leaves her scrambling to create content. She opens up about her 25 years of motherhood, the joys and challenges of raising children, and why she wouldn't trade the experience for anything in the world.

• Original plan for son to host the Mother's Day episode fell through when he only recorded a few minutes
• Being a mother for 25 years with a significant age gap between her children
• Balancing life as a single mother with no co-parenting support
• Days that start at 5am and end at 8pm with work, swim practice, and other responsibilities
• Teaching old-school values like ironing clothes and changing out of school clothes
• Importance of self-care and taking time to recharge as a mother
• Mother's Day isn't about gifts but giving moms time to rest and be themselves

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Chapters

• 1:09 LJ's Mother's Day Takeover
• 4:12 Charlie Takes Over the Episode
• 8:25 The 25-Year Journey of Motherhood
• 16:10 Parenting Style and Sacrifices
• 20:10 Taking Time for Self-Care
• 22:14 Mother's Day Song Tributes

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:35

Welcome to the Gag Is Pod. I'm your host, lj. Today's a special episode, so I'll be taking over so Mom can enjoy her Mother's Day weekend. Please make sure you like and subscribe so that you can catch every new episode when it's released. And make sure to follow us on Instagram, at thegagispod, and also subscribe to our YouTube channel. Enjoy the special episode.

Speaker 1: 0:56

So Mother's Day is around the corner and that means that plenty of lovely ladies around the world will be getting gifts. Some get flowers, others get gift cards, and my mom gets a simple letter of my admiration. I kid, I kid, but Mother's Day is a very special time of year. It's when we get to enjoy those who brought us into this world. So, in honor of that day, I'm going to say some very embarrassing things about my mom. Like, she always likes to judge me for spending my money on video games, but yet every other day she gets caught with the hypocr, I know, or what else. Oh, she also sleeps like a bear. She's a light and heavy sleeper at the same time, and her snores put me to shame. It might seem like I don't like my mom, but I do, and here's the story on how I've shown that I love her.

Speaker 1: 1:56

So on Sunday the club that I swam for was having an award ceremony and it was being sponsored by this local cake company and when I went up to get my food I grabbed one of their little cakes Because I thought it was vanilla, because they ran out of chocolate. And when I got back to my seat and I ate it, I was like, wow, that that's lemon, and my mom is not very good with lemon. So I went out to where she was to tell her and she was this close to eating hers and I was like, hey, can I try a piece? I can see if it's lemon or not. And it was women. So I kind of saved her and got 25 dollars in exchange. So not bad, not bad.

Speaker 1: 2:46

Another thing she did really nicely was back in october. I had dropped my phone and it was really messed up and I'd had this phone for going on two years. And since she already needed a new phone, we traded ours in and I got a iPhone 16 and it's awesome, fits my hand, it's great. What else? Oh, another thing she did that just shows how much she truly loves me is we went on a little vacay for spring break. As my birthday gift. We got to ride a jet ski. That was really cool. We also just got to walk around the Bahamas and brought back some souvenirs. To walk around the Bahamas and brought back some souvenirs. But those were just some things that mom has done that shows that she loves me. And to mom, I love you too. And shout out to all moms Y'all rock, it's your host, lj Out.

Speaker 2: 3:58

Hey guys, welcome back to the Gag Is pie. I am your girl, charlie Shantae. Thank you for joining me on another episode, and I know you're probably wondering like, wait a minute, we just heard another introduction, so why are we hearing her? Well, well, well, let me tell you why you're hearing me. You're hearing me because the person that was supposed to be filling in for me was not prepared. And when I say not prepared, actually, before we get there, make sure you are following me on IG, at the gag is pot and YouTube as well, and wherever you listening to this episode at whatever streaming or podcast service, make sure you are in that right hand corner. You're hitting that notification so that every time a new episode is released, you get it. Now that we got all of that business out of the way, you're like ma'am, we just heard another introduction, so why are we hearing another one? You know why? Because the person that was supposed to be doing it left me hanging. New face left me hanging. So he's like no, mom, he was like I got it, I'm gonna do the episode for you and you know I want you to have this episode this week off. Y'all know I pre-record, so I'm like, okay, cool, he only recorded about a few minutes. And he was like and I was like, oh, my episodes are like between 20 and 30 minutes. Like what do you mean? You are done. He's like, yeah, I'm done. And I was like okay, there you have it. So here it is the week of Mother's Day and I'm recording episode because it's Mother's Day. Why wouldn't I put out an episode for Mother's Day? Like, why would I not do that? You know? I'm like cause I asked him. I was like I can write you a script, I can write you something to help you stay on task. You know all this kind of stuff. And he's like no, I got it. I got it. And I was like okay, yeah, so y'all got me this Mother's Day weekend, but it's okay, I don't have no script today, because I didn't have anything planned, because I didn't think that I was going to be doing an episode this week and I have a flight that leaves in a few hours. So, yeah, yeah and yeah. So this one's going to be off the top of the head, off the top of the dome, but nonetheless it's still going to be a good episode. So, grab your drink, grab your snacks and whatever it is you do when you listen to this. If you're in a car, make sure the car is turned up so that you know you can get this fullness, and I hope, the kids in the car too, because I want to hear, I want them to hear, the foolishness that occurs with my child and my children. You, I want them to hear the foolishness that occurs with my child and my children. You know what I'm saying Because you know, without these kids, there'd be no me.

Speaker 2: 7:07

I wouldn't have this amazing title, this thing we call mom. You know, mother, mom made out of money Her she problem solver, problem fixer, disciplinary, whatever title you put on it. Now, I've had this gracious title for 25 years, right, 25 years, but I'm still young, right? So sorry, I got to put this pillow on my back because you know my back be hurting, you know I'd be in pain. I've had this title for 25 years and I would not trade it for the world. And in addition to having the title of mom, I also get the title of Mimi, um, which is like so super amazing. You know I wouldn't trade any of that for the world. Um, but yeah, this title of mom, I take it very, very, very, very seriously.

Speaker 2: 8:23

You know there's a big age gap between my kids. So here go y'all's episode. I take it very, very seriously and you know, like the older they get it's just like wow, like like my baby is 15, like baby, like I. When I say baby, people like oh, how does your baby? Like six, seven. I'm like no, he's 15 and he's six foot tall and they're like man, that's not a baby. Guess what? He a baby to me, he a baby to me. So I mean whatever.

Speaker 2: 9:02

But I think this thing called mom like oh my god, and it is stress out, it take you to the edge, right there to the edge, to just just one little toenail hanging off the edge and you'd be like I risk it all. But then your child comes and tells you thank you, or you know they show gratitude and appreciation and then you're like oh, okay, and then you walk back off the ledge and you know I just I ain't had a good night's sleep in 25 years, but again I wouldn't, I wouldn't trade it for the world. Um, I think I know my kids are spoiled and people like oh my God, your kids are super spoiled. So New Face has allergies, food allergies. So so he, I make his food, I meal prep his food. He get like real, real food, like real, real meals, and everybody's like, oh my God, like, why can't he eat a lunchable? Why can't he eat a sandwich? Well, who said he couldn't? He can eat those things, but does it fill him up? No, because my baby's a competitive swimmer and he needs like 5,000 calories. Because boy can put down some food. I seen the boy put down a 30-piece grilled nugget from Chick-fil-A. Okay, and one sitting Okay.

Speaker 2: 10:49

I think one thing is mothers, we have our own style. You know whether that be a learned style or whether that be a style that you know we picked up from being around other people. But one thing I know is people always say I'm never like dang, like you're such a good mom, and I'm like, really, you think so. They're like yes, they're like. You know, you're like dress, right, dress, you have it together and I'm like who got it together? They'd be like you and I'm like who got it together? They be like you and I'll be like I ain't got nothing together. Okay, because on any given day I can wake up and go to work and my ankles will be ashy. Okay, I have woken. I've woken up and gone to work and forgot to put deodorant on. Okay, I do not have it together.

Speaker 2: 11:41

I just parent my kids in the way that I see fit. Whether you know, call it what you want, because I feel like in today's world it is so cruel out here in the world and I never. I mean, I want my kids to experience being in the world, but I just, I just don't. My kids are too good for the world. I'm just going to say that they're too kind-hearted. I just want to protect my kids at all times, shield whatever may come their way. You know, regardless of you know, if they upset me or you know we see an eye to eye or something. I just always want to, um, protect them Like. I just want to be their 1000% protector. I want to be there, um, you know, for guidance and, you know, just a listening ear, you know. But I also want them to be responsible people as well. But this mom thing whoo, whoo-wee, whoo-wee.

Speaker 2: 13:08

Like, had I known I was going to be doing this episode, I could have put a poll up about funny stories. It's a lot more I could have did. So now y'all got to get like a short freestyle episode and I'm probably going to be rambling and it's probably going to be a lot going on, because what Like? The boy left me hanging, he left me hanging, he left me hanging. So I mean I should be boasting about myself on this episode, like how good of a mother I am and different stuff like that.

Speaker 2: 13:43

But here I am boasting about these damn kids, you know, but they, that's who what make me, me. You know I'm saying, and then you know, my kids have an amazing, awesome, awesome grandma. You know who's always there for them, who's always making sure that they good. You know she don't give a damn about their mama, but she makes sure. She makes sure they good. But it's okay, it's okay. You know, I tried to take the things that you know I seen my mom do in a structure that I had with her and I try to roll that over into my kids. So you know, I seen my mom do in a structure that I had with her and I try to roll that over into my kids. So you know, shout out, mommy, even though I don't think she listens to my episodes. Um, but I just tried to take the things that you know she taught me and the things that my grandmother taught me and encompass them into my um, into my parenting.

Speaker 2: 14:34

Today, like one of the things like I still have, make my kids iron their clothes. Like I know a lot of people, they just get up and they just throw clothes on and it irritates, it burns me to my soul, to my soul. To see um, to see kids who are wrinkled. That's just like the old lady in me and I always hear like, oh my God, like you still. I still use starch. I go to the store and I buy starch because you're not finna, go nowhere outside with me and your clothes is bunched up Like you just got them out the bottom of the basket, like we're not finna. Do that Like when you go outside, because you never know who is outside or anything like that. You need to make sure that you look decent, you look presentable and stuff like that. You don't want to go out there looking sloppy. Let me see what's something else I do. Before you go in my kitchen you need to wash your face, you need to brush your teeth, new face when you come home, you need to change about them. School clothes Don't be all up in the house with your school clothes on, laying around on stuff. Nope, you need to go change clothes, put on something Different, stuff like that. Like, yeah, what else is a mother?

Speaker 2: 15:55

Um, we make a lot of sacrifices, whether that be sleep, whether that be time, different stuff, like my like, at least four days a week. My day starts at um, my day starts at five and it doesn't end until 8 at the latest. So I'm at the house from 5am to 8pm because I'm at work, and then after work I go get new face. He either got physical therapy or he got swim, and so by the time I get home, ain't no time for me. It's time to take a shower, eat and lay down and get ready to do it all over. And so by the time Friday come, I'll be exhausted. I ain't got time to go outside, like I used to go to my little hole in the wall. I don't even do that, no more. I come home, I take me a shower, I eat me some food and I am on the couch or in the bed because your girl is tired, depending on what Saturday is. We might have swim. I mean.

Speaker 2: 17:01

So as moms, we make there's a lot of sacrifices that we make, and you know I don't say this to complain, I just say it to say that. You know, sometimes we don't get enough praise. I'm a single mom, I, you know I don't, I don't have help from, from, you know, I don't have co-parenting. So you know, I'm just a single mom doing it all on my own. But I wouldn't trade it for the world, I wouldn't trade it for the world. And I think, once new face uh starts driving and stuff like that, like I think, even though I'm going to have some time back, I think it's going to bother me because I'm like, oh my God, I feel like I should be doing something. You know, um, but you know, but you know I wouldn't, I wouldn't trade it for the world. And I'm one of those moms that you know.

Speaker 2: 18:01

I don't need breakfast in bed, I don't need flowers, I don't need the balloons. Let me sleep. I don't want to cook, I don't want to clean up, I don't want to do nothing. That's the best gift you could give me Send me to the spa, fine, well and cool, but let me be so. This weekend I am treating, I am, I am hopping me a quick flight so that I can get a couple of days of myself and then so I can come back rejuvenated and refreshed just rejuvenated and refreshed, because if I don't recharge, I can't be a good mother.

Speaker 2: 18:41

You know, I gotta, I gotta, stay fresh. I gotta, you know, keep, I gotta keep myself together, because if I'm not together, how can I, how can I run the household if I'm not together? You know, I gotta stay together. I gotta, I gotta, take a mental health walk in the morning. You know, mental health walk down, down, down the run, what's the thing called, the thing at the airport. I gotta, I gotta, I gotta take me a mental health walk, you know, just to make sure I'm good.

Speaker 2: 19:20

But but you know, moms, let's remember, even though we are there for our kids, we still have to take time for ourselves, because if we do not take time for ourselves, our body going to shut down and it's going to make us take time and it's going to be. It ain't going to be pretty, it ain't going to be pretty at all. So, as moms, we got to make sure that we are taking time for ourselves, we are appreciating ourselves, we are encouraging ourselves and, you know, we're just keeping ourselves together as a whole, even if somebody else doesn't tell you, even if you know nobody else shows you, you know you're a good mom. Keep doing what it is that you're doing, cause I know I'm gonna keep doing what it is I'm doing, you know, and taking time for myself so that I can continue to be the best mom that I can be for these people, you know, making sure that they good and um and different stuff like that. So, before we go, I know that you're like dang, this is like. This is a short episode. It'll be longer episode next week, don't worry, um.

Speaker 2: 20:36

Before we go, you know we got our song lyric of the week and since it is mother's day, I got you know there's a lot of songs. So I'm going to give you not one, not two, but three song lyrics of the week for this week. So, of course, the OG song, first song lyric of the week is going to be Tupac. Dear Mama, you Are Appreciated. That's going to be song one for song lyric of the week. My second choice is going to be Boyz II Men, mama. And for my third one, it's going to be I forgot the name is Queen Naija, mama's Hands, I think that's what it's called. I think that's what it's called. But yeah, those are my three song lyrics of the week.

Speaker 2: 21:40

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