Half of Myself: A Surviving Sibling's Story of Losing Andy

The Broken Pack: Stories of Sibling Loss

Chapters
0:00
Intro
0:56
About Andy
3:26
A chapter abruptly closed
4:30
The life they were planning
6:09
Walking at graduation
8:51
The call
11:37
When the doctor spoke
15:01
Letting him go
16:10
Leaving him there
22:07
Back at the hospital
24:07
Half of Myself
29:02
Do you have any siblings?
31:08
How he lived, not how he died
34:55
Just the three of us
38:16
The grief hierarchy
41:02
What she wishes you knew
46:03
Staying close
48:49
Am I making him up?
50:50
Favorite memories of Andy
54:56
Outro
The Broken Pack: Stories of Sibling Loss
Half of Myself: A Surviving Sibling's Story of Losing Andy
Apr 17, 2026 Episode 45
Dr. Angela Dean / The Broken Pack, LLC

In this episode of The Broken Pack: Stories of Sibling Loss, Dr. Dean talks with Dr. Valerie Lentine, a surviving sibling and physical therapist. Valerie's only sibling, her younger brother, Andy, died suddenly in 2022 at 22 years old. Three years in, Valerie opens up about what it has meant to walk through sudden loss, the identity shift she captures in her own words when she describes feeling like "half of myself," and what it takes to keep Andy close. 

In this episode you will:

  • Hear Valerie describe who Andy was, the ordinary morning that changed everything, and what a surviving sibling carries out of a hospital. 
  • Learn why a surviving sibling who is also an only sibling faces a specific kind of grief, and why sibling grief so often ends up at the bottom of the grief hierarchy. 
  • Be inspired by how a surviving sibling carries her brother forward, and hear her name a long-term fear many surviving siblings know but rarely say out loud.

Content Warning: This episode discusses sudden traumatic loss, traumatic brain injury, and the withdrawal of life support.

Connect with Valerie Lentine:

Instagram: @val_lentine (https://www.instagram.com/val_lentine) 

TikTok: @valerielentine22 (https://www.tiktok.com/@valerielentine22)

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