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Searching for new perspective on an ancient faith. I’m originally from the west coast (all the states, California, Washington, Hawaii) and have made my home in Kansas City since 2003. For most of my adult life, I have earned a living M-F while leading a congregation on nights and weekends. I managed subcontractors and church volunteers, facilitated Bible studies and business meetings. I play guitar and piano and sing with a big passionate voice. My last pastoral assignment ended in 2018. Since then, I have discovered that I love to write, create and think deep thoughts. My emerging theme is encouragement. How can I empower others to be the best version of themselves? This question pushes me to rethink, relearn and continue to grow.

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Can’t Say No: Understanding Sexual Violence and Lessons Learned About Consent

April 12, 2023 • Sharon Beck-Doran • Episode 31

This week I am talking about consent and digging into our understanding of sexual violence. Often we imagine a struggle that leaves the victim bruised and beaten. But more often sexual trauma is caused by a partner that assumes "Yes" until he or she hears "No." And that word is more difficult to voice that one might think.

I'll give a real life illustration of our tolerance for sexual violence. Hint: it's political and I questioned if I should cut it out because I am going to tell you how I really feel.

I'll wrap up with a retelling of my own journey toward healing and talk about the power of story telling.

Here are a few resources that are relevant to this episode:

You can read Mel Carney's story and find his book here: https://www.commandatdawn.com/
The CDC has a web site dedicated to information on sexual violence: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/sexualviolence/fastfact.html
Transcript of Donald Trump’s Access Hollywood recording with Billy Bush. https://www.bbc.com/news/election-us-2016-37595321
This article outlines the list of Trump’s accusers https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/us-politics/trump-sexual-assault-allegations-all-list-misconduct-karen-johnson-how-many-a9149216.html