Could My Partner Be on the Spectrum?

You love your partner. They're loyal, kind, steady. You’ve built a life together.
 So why do you still feel so alone?

That question is more common than you think. And it’s exactly where this episode begins.

Kathleen sits down with her friend and former client, Heather Hammell, to talk about the moments that made her start wondering, Could my partner be neurodivergent? What followed wasn’t a diagnosis or a label, but a journey into understanding herself, her marriage, and how two good people can still miss each other.

Some relationships feel confusing, not because something is broken, but because the lens you’ve been using doesn’t explain what’s actually happening. When you start to see those dynamics through the possibility of neurodivergence, things that once felt personal start to make more sense.

Inside this episode:

• The signs that made Heather start asking hard questions
• What “being on the spectrum” can look like in an adult relationship
• The emotional cost of being the default, the planner, the one holding it all
• How naming a pattern can shift the entire dynamic
• What it means to stop trying to fix your partner and focus on your own healing
• Why the problem isn't always communication. It’s often understanding

This is a warm, funny, and vulnerable conversation between two women who care deeply about truth, growth, and making relationships work without losing yourself in the process.

Connect with Kathleen:

Website: https://drkathleenyoungcoaching.com/