M.I. - Don't wait for someone to tell you your good enough

Waiting for someone else to approve your life can quietly turn into a lifelong delay. Today we get blunt about confidence, self-worth, and the mindset shift that happens when you stop asking for permission and start taking action. If you’ve ever felt stuck because you’re hoping a boss, partner, friend, or the internet will finally say you’re “ready,” this is your reminder that readiness is built, not granted.

We talk through why chasing validation never really satisfies, especially when your biggest critic is already inside your own head. There will always be someone willing to critique, move the goalposts, or tell you “maybe next time,” and living by those voices makes your growth dependent on people who don’t have to carry your consequences. Instead, we focus on finding your own value and protecting it. That means listening to advice when it truly helps, adjusting when it makes sense, and refusing to let anyone dictate your identity, your timeline, or your next move.

We also dig into the real-life side of learning and leadership: nobody has a perfect remedy for being a parent, a partner, or a fully formed adult. You learn by living. And sometimes the only way to see your potential is to break away from the crowd, stop performing for the masses, and discover what you can do when you’re not trying to fit in. If you’ve been feeling chained down while wanting to fly higher, consider this your push to choose bravery and protect your worth.

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Transcript

Welcome And Today’s Message

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Good morning and welcome to Coolin's Morning Inspirations. I'm your host, Michael Tarrell. And this morning, I wanted to talk to you guys about don't ever wait for someone

Stop Waiting For Approval

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to tell you you're good enough. Don't live your life waiting for somebody to approve anything that you do. You don't need somebody to tell you that you're good enough to do something. If it's something that you want to do, try it. You never know that you are good at it until you try it. Or if you're not good enough to be a husband, you're not good enough to be a wife, you're not good enough for this position. I don't think that you're ready for it. Uh maybe next time. Don't wait for next time. Especially if it's something that you feel like you feel very strongly about, that you feel like you're good enough to do it, or just being good enough to be you. A lot of times people try to always, you know, put how they feel about their self on everybody else. They might think that something is, oh man, that that sounds too hard. That sounds like I don't I don't know. You might not be able to do that one. Like, don't wait for nobody to tell you that you're good enough.

The Trap Of Chasing Validation

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A lot of times we'll sit here and and hope for valid validation from other people when the people that's just searching for validation doesn't even have their own shit together. Most of the time, your biggest critic is you, and then you're already hard on yourself, and then you go out there and and make it even harder by hoping that somebody else in the streets or somebody else somewhere else is gonna tell you you're good enough. I'm I'm here to tell you that if you live your life hoping for that, you'll never be good enough. Because there's always gonna be someone to critique you, criticize you, anything under the blue moon to try to make you feel like you know you're not there yet.

Find Your Value And Protect It

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God made all of us with different skills, different gifts. And just because another person don't have your gift doesn't mean that he ain't give it to you. Also, when it comes down to normal things, as much as being a mother, being a father, nobody has the perfect remedy of how to do these things. Everybody's learning as they go. Yeah, you could read a thousand books, but nothing prepares you for real life other than real life. You look at yourself in the mirror and you you you feel like you need to be somewhere that you you you're not there yet. Then let you tell it. Don't let nobody else tell you it. Find your own value and protect it. And what I mean by protect it is don't let nobody discourage you from how you feel. Now always take advice and and and if it makes sense, adjust. Sometimes we have to adjust, but don't let nobody dictate your life and don't be

Break From The Crowd To Grow

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easily influenced. It's already bad enough. We got influencers that don't influence. You have people that think that they're inspiring and they don't inspire anything. You have a lot of people that just follow, you know, whatever the masses do, I'm gonna do. So I could feel like I'm a part. Sometimes spreading your wings, you'll find out that your wings are larger and you can fly higher. And sometimes the only way that you'll be able to see your own self-worth is breaking away from the crowd. Because as long as you walk with the masses, you do what the masses do. But the minute that you break away from the crowd and you start to see who you are as an individual, you'll be surprised. Don't ever let nobody tell you what your worth is. Don't ever let nobody tell you when and when you're not good enough. And if they don't value you, find somewhere else that will.

Know Your Worth And Be Brave

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Because you're letting other people put chains on you and bound you to the ground when you want to fly above the ceiling. Know your own worth. And then once you know your worth, value it and protect it with all cost and flourish with it. See how far you can go with whatever you're trying to do. Like I said, this is this is this has this goes way beyond one subject matter. It could be in your day to day life and anything that you do. But the thing is, you will have to be brave in order to do it. You will have to be a rebel to the normal. I hope this helped you. Have a good day. I'm out.