The Real Reason Manifesting Feels Easy for Some Women and Not You

Ever notice how manifesting seems to just WORK for some women, like money and good things fall in their lap, while you're doing all the affirmations and vision boards and still waiting? 

It's not luck, and they're not special. In this episode, I'm breaking down the actual psychology behind it, and it comes down to one thing your brain is already doing every single day: confirmation bias.

We're talking about what confirmation bias actually is, the three ways it quietly runs your reality, and why it's secretly the BEST news for your manifesting, not the worst. Because once you understand it, you realize the ease everyone's chasing was available to you the whole time. 

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Welcome Back And Big Life Updates

SPEAKER_00 0:00

Welcome back to the Manifest She podcast. It has been a minute for me, for those who have followed for a while. You know, I have been enjoying my kids graduating from college with masters and BSNs, another one becoming a Blackhawk pilot. Plus, we had a wedding thrown in there. And so I took time to be present, ever present with my children. For those who are new, I am your host, Shannon. And here I teach things all manifesting in mindset. As somebody with a psychology degree who has been coaching women for over eight years, this podcast was made to take all that vague vibration talk out of manifesting and just give you the information on how to use your mind to transform your life. And today we're doing exactly that because I'm going to take one of the woo-iest, most just trust the universe ideas out there and show you it's exactly the thing that your brain is already doing every single day. And it has a name. Once you see it, you're not going to be able to unsee it. So I want to get right on into it.

The Real Mechanism Behind Manifesting

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Because the truth is in the manifesting space, nobody says this out loud. And that's that manifesting isn't magic. Manifesting is working with your confirmation bias. That's the word, guys, confirmation bias. That is what it is. So let's back up just a little bit. Because what even is your reality? And I think we really need to understand that. What is your reality? Because it's not the whole world. It is what you're experiencing in your day-to-day life. That is your reality. Everybody is living in their own reality. That's why one person can think one thing and you're like, are they completely out of touch with reality? Don't they know the facts? Their confirmation bias is running things, guys. That's what we're talking about. Confirmation bias, and we're talking about reality. We're talking about your reality. And your reality is what happens to you. It's what you have, it's what you notice. It's what keeps showing up in your life. That's your reality. And do I believe that every possibility for your life is already available to you? The money, the ease, the relationships, all of that. Yes, I 100% believe any and every single possibility is already available to you. So then the real question, the one that everybody is actually asking, is how do I get that one? How do I reach out and grab the good possibility instead of the things that are in my life right now that I don't want? How do I manifest that? And the answer is confirmation bias. It is the mechanism that's deciding which version of reality you are experiencing right now. So confirmation bias just means that your brain believes the stuff that matches what you already think. It ignores or doubts the stuff that it doesn't. That's it. So it's like wearing glasses that only let you see the things that your brain agrees with and it filters out anything else. Kind of like the blinders on horses, right? They can only see what's ahead of them. And it's running in

Reality Is What You Notice

SPEAKER_00 3:22

the background of your brain right now while you're listening to me. And you've already felt this. You just didn't have a name for it. You know how when you decide that you want a certain car, suddenly that car is on every corner. It was always there. You just weren't seeing it. I was visiting my sister recently, and she got a new car while I was visiting her. And now I see that car everywhere, and I never noticed it before. That's it. That's the filter. And so that's the exact same way that I manifested front row parking by just believing it was possible for me to always have front row parking. The spots were probably already there. My brain finally just started to let me see them in a way that I wanted to see them. The possibility was there. I just had to believe in it. How is this the key to understanding manifestation? Well, in your brain, confirmation bias is what you look for. So subconsciously, you're going to hunt for evidence that backs up what you already believe. So if somewhere deep down you're believing, oh, well, money is hard, then your brain's just going to hand you a hundred different proofs a day that money is hard. So it feels like facts to you. It's looking for it. And the second is how you read what happens. So this is the second thing that's kind of happening within this mechanism. You're going to take the exact same event, right? So let's take the exact same event and give it to two different women. And they're going to walk away with completely different meanings. Y'all, that is why you can say, how can she think that? Or why does she act that way? Or what are these people talking about? Aren't they living in reality? They're so detached from reality. No, they're not. Their brain is making a read based on their beliefs. So it's reality to them, but not to you. Same thing, but different belief reading it. Now the third thing is what you remember because you're gonna hold on to moments that confirm what you believe. And you're gonna forget the ones that don't. So that's why a woman will swear up and down that manifesting never works for her. While she has literally forgotten every single time it did. This happened to me when I first began to really hone in on my journey. I was like, okay, I gotta, I gotta try really hard so I can make this work for me because no, it hasn't worked my whole life. And then I started looking back in my whole life, and it was because everything always works out for me, and everything has always worked out for me, but because I didn't believe that it did. At first, I didn't remember that it did, because that confirmation bias is going to hold on to remembering whatever lines up with your belief.

Look Read Remember The Three Filters

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So let's look at all three of these things that your brain is doing subconsciously. You're not putting conscious effort towards this, it's just all happening. It's what you look for, it's how you read it, and it's what you keep. And every single one of those is built on belief. Your confirmation bias revolves around what you believe. So belief is the engine under the whole thing. So if your reality is being filtered by your confirmation bias, and your confirmation bias is built on your beliefs, then the possibility you actually want isn't far away. It's right here, right now. You just can't see it because your confirmation bias won't let you look at it. It's not going to let you read it as possible. It's not going to let you remember the proof because it's filtering all of that out before you ever get to feel it or experience it. And I want you to hear this from me because you're probably thinking, well, damn, confirmation bias sucks. Because that's it's getting in the way of me having the life I want. And it truly is framed as a bad thing a lot of the times, but it is not a flaw that you need to be fighting against. I see it completely differently. I see confirmation bias as the most beautiful thing in manifesting because it comes from ease. The ease that everybody's chasing, right? I want you to think about that. I want you to think about the ease of like, oh, money just comes to my lap. And things that are good in my life are just passive. And it just happens to me. When we're in the manifesting and mindset world, everybody's talking about that ease. And you know what? The ease of your life right now that you're not even thinking about and it's just happening to you, how you feel, like, oh, it's just happening to me. That's just your confirmation bias in the background. Right? But it's built on beliefs. And your brain is doing this effortlessly and passively right now. It's just that it's doing it in a way that's showing you what you don't want. So when you hear a woman say, Oh my gosh, money comes so easy to me, she's not lying. She's not special. That's just her confirmation bias is passively confirming a reality she likes. That's all. And you can have the exact same thing. And that's why confirmation bias is not bad. It doesn't mean, oh, well, there's something wrong with you. It just means there's a belief there. But guess what you can do is change a belief. Beliefs are not permanent. And now that you understand, okay, well, if I have a confirmation bias, it is going to be, you know, looking for what I already believe and reading my experiences based on what I already believe and keeping the memories of what I already believe. Well, now you understand exactly how manifesting works. There's the big secret. You know, that ever-elusive secret that everybody tries to make so vague and so, you know, nuanced. It's really not that nuanced. Your brain is doing this in the background and it's based on belief. And that's what triggers what you're experiencing. So now you know. And now you just have to look at, okay, what belief do I want my confirmation bias to be focusing on instead? So that it's easy and it comes passively. That's the whole thing. You can change it. That's the whole game, okay?

The Belief Flip Takes Work

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You can change what you believe. Now, changing what you believe does not mean grinding yourself into the ground forever. And it's not passive like you're being told, right? It's not this passive, just think happy thoughts, and everything changes. There's this like in-between of work you have to do to build the new belief. Once you build the new belief, now your bias is gonna run passively for that reality, for the reality you want. There is work in the middle, there's that moment of understanding your confirmation bias, and then flipping it. And then it goes back to being passive. Then it goes back to being effortless. There is zero effort in the fact that I am now seeing the car that my sister just bought. There, there's no, it's just there. I you know what I mean? I'm not even thinking, I'm like, oh, look at that. There's that car my sister just bought that's really cool. And when you flip it, when you do the work in the middle, then you're gonna passively be running the reality that you do want. The ease was always there. Now you're just gonna be pointing it to something else that you would prefer. So when somebody says, well, manifesting is easy, they're half right. The living it is easy. The flip in the middle is the work, and the flip in the middle is that belief. Just flipping a belief to one that serves what you want now so that the confirmation bias can kick in and work in your favor and make that the passive part. Now, there is a reason why when you go into this work that the flip can feel harder than just deciding to think or believe differently.

Finding Hidden Beliefs And Getting Help

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And that's because your confirmation bias doesn't feel like bias to you. Go back to that conversation where people are talking about the same thing, but you're like, wait, they're not living in reality. Because, see, that bias does feel like reality. It feels like your truth. It just feels like, you know, that's how things are. And that can trap you. Sometimes you can't easily spot the belief that is running your reality. You may really think it's one thing, but it could be a completely different thing. I tell the story all the time when I was working on manifesting more income. I really thought I had some kind of limiting belief around scarcity, and it really wasn't that at all. The belief that was really running the entire show for me was I felt like because I was the youngest sibling and I have a different father than my other two siblings, and their father was more wealthy and mine was not. And I had this unconscious belief that they should have good things because they came from the wealthier family, and I had to struggle, and they should always do better than me. This whole thing I've talked about it on previous podcasts. So it's catching that belief, and it took me a long time to even be able to catch that belief. But when you do catch it, you can work on it. Once again, work because when you catch it and you start to work through it, then your old bias is still gonna fight to stay alive, y'all. It's gonna try to drag up that old evidence and talk you right back out of that new belief before it can take hold. And so that is the work. And that's why sometimes it's very hard to do this alone. And why I work with women one-on-one, because I will help you find the belief that your bias is being built on, the one you can't see because you're standing inside of it and you're saying, girl, that's crazy. That's not real. Why are they talking about that's reality? That's not reality. They're so out of touch. We say these things to ourselves because we're standing inside it. So I help you see what you're standing inside, and then we build the new belief that is gonna support the reality you want to experience every day, the one that is gonna get your brain to passively confirm the life you actually want so it can start to feel easy and normal and natural and just part of your reality. And that's why I'm gonna be opening up my targeted one-on-one coaching again soon. It's been closed down for quite some time, but y'all, it's coming back. And we're gonna find the beliefs that are running your current reality, and we're gonna build the ones that bring the reality you want so that your confirmation bias is gonna start working for you instead of just showing you

Waitlist Details And Closing

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the same old, same old. So there is a wait list. I want you to get on it today. I'm gonna put the link in the show notes. Get on the wait list so the second it opens, you are made aware because there are limited spots. Y'all, this is one-on-one. I'm one person. So there are limited spots in each of my manifest your next big vision rounds. If you felt something click while you were listening to this, if you were like, damn, now it makes sense, that's your answer to come work with me. Because I'm not gonna hide behind the word vibration and frequency and raising your stuff. No, we're just gonna do the real work of how our minds work to experience the realities that we want to experience. So make sure you get on that wait list today, and I will chat with you next week.